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Focus on Yourself, NOT OTHERS – The Key to Personal Power and Fulfillment · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: People can take doubt one or two ways. You know,
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  Speaker 1: some people get delivered down from someone else and that
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  Speaker 1: absolutely makes them crumble, cripples them. They stop chasing their dreams,
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  Speaker 1: they start believing the doubt express from someone else. For me,
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  Speaker 1: it works differently, and as soon as I hear that,
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  Speaker 1: it gives me more energy to prove them wrong.
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  Speaker 2: You can sit around and wait for stuff to happen.
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  Speaker 2: I can get out there and make things happen. And
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  Speaker 2: that is massively important in any walk of life. It
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  Speaker 2: don't matter who you are or what you do. You've
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  Speaker 2: got to get after it. You've got to chase it.
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  Speaker 2: You've got to make it up in yourself because now
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  Speaker 2: it's going to get gifted to you, you're gonna have
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  Speaker 2: to work for it. And those people are working, and
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  Speaker 2: those people are are you grinding and they are going
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  Speaker 2: the extra hour, doing the extra mile.
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  Speaker 3: They're the ones that are going to be at the top.
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  Speaker 3: Don't make yourself fall short. You know, it's it's so
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  Speaker 3: easy to accept that nothing is going to happen for you.
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  Speaker 3: You know that you're just going to be another number.
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  Speaker 3: That's the easiest way, you know, get a job nine
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  Speaker 3: till five and that's easy, you know. It's it's accept
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  Speaker 3: that something can happen that you have to put the work,
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  Speaker 3: and it's just don't be scared of hard work. Let
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  Speaker 3: that fire that you've got on your belly, you know,
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  Speaker 3: translate into something good. You know, if you've got that
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  Speaker 3: passion and that drive, don't ever stop. You know, if
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  Speaker 3: you stop, I guarantee you, like, if you stop when
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  Speaker 3: you're twenty, by the time you're forty, you're going to
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  Speaker 3: resent whatever that reason was you stop.
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  Speaker 4: Nobody knows how Clay but me are a lot of
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  Speaker 4: people go, Adam, I couldn't do what you do. Yes,
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  Speaker 4: you can if you want it enough.
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  Speaker 5: And I say how much you want it?
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  Speaker 4: Are you willing to go through discomfort of it?
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  Speaker 3: You know?
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  Speaker 4: Are you willing to face your phase and potentially failure?
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  Speaker 4: All comes back to failure everything, So what's the true fear?
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  Speaker 5: Fire?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, And once you conface filia in the eye, then
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  Speaker 4: you're indestructible.
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  Speaker 5: I think having a purpose is that thing that.
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  Speaker 6: Makes us tick, that gets us up every day and
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  Speaker 6: gets us over the hump of opposition and adversity. And
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  Speaker 6: the reason that I champion adversity in opposition is because
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  Speaker 6: I think for the most part in life, people pretty
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  Speaker 6: much know what to do when things go right, right like,
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  Speaker 6: when things go right, they know how to feel, they
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  Speaker 6: know how to act, how to react. But it's when
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  Speaker 6: that opposition and that adversity comes and it creates a
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  Speaker 6: level of misunderstanding. Right now the vision is blurred. Now
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  Speaker 6: you don't have clarity about what you're supposed to do.
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  Speaker 6: Now you question if your existence matters. And I think
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  Speaker 6: when you have a purpose, it's powerful because in the
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  Speaker 6: midst of the opposition, it makes you realize that you've
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  Speaker 6: been put here for a certain reason. And so me,
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  Speaker 6: once I tap into my purpose of once I thought
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  Speaker 6: it was football, right, but when I started speaking I'll
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  Speaker 6: never forget to day, I got the exact same feeling
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  Speaker 6: backstage that I used to get before I ran out on.
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  Speaker 5: The field to play football.
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  Speaker 6: And that's when I knew, like, this is my purpose,
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  Speaker 6: this is what I've been put here to do. And
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  Speaker 6: so the opposition, adversity to challenge is it's just a
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  Speaker 6: part of the process. It's going to make me a
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  Speaker 6: better person. But my purpose, I can't let anything stop
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  Speaker 6: will detour me.
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  Speaker 3: If you want an easy life, I'm fine, man. It's
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  Speaker 3: not going to be a rewarding you know, doing something
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  Speaker 3: easy you get a lot of reward from it. Doing
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  Speaker 3: something hard and succeeding doing the mat ofthm, climbing Mount Everest,
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  Speaker 3: lefting five hundred kilos, putting two hundred and thirty kilos
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  Speaker 3: above your head, those are extremely hard things to do.
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  Speaker 3: But the reward is never ending, you know, making that
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  Speaker 3: historic left, the historic whatever is never ending, you know.
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  Speaker 3: So for Tom and I, strongest brothers in history, first
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  Speaker 3: brothers in history to ever meet the world's strongest man final,
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  Speaker 3: that's never the ending.
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  Speaker 1: Everything we do in life is about taking the short
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  Speaker 1: term discomfort, you know, and that whether that's sending an
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  Speaker 1: extra email, staying a bit longer at work, whatever it is.
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  Speaker 1: If you want to achieve goal, let's say you want
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  Speaker 1: to run the London Marathon, you know that every week
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  Speaker 1: you're going to have to do some training to achieve that,
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  Speaker 1: and that is about, Yeah, you're not going to want
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  Speaker 1: to by the time it comes to point your trainings
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  Speaker 1: on going out the door, your mind's going to tell
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  Speaker 1: you and enforce every reason why you shouldn't do it,
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  Speaker 1: and it's devious. It'll tell you to gone and check
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  Speaker 1: your computer, do this, do that, and that's when we
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  Speaker 1: have to switch this off. You have to switch the
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  Speaker 1: mind off and follow the process. And that's something that
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  Speaker 1: I learned from an early age, but something that was
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  Speaker 1: further enforced in the military. You have to follow process,
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  Speaker 1: follow your heart, switch off this which is the program,
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  Speaker 1: and that through that you will achieve your own If
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  Speaker 1: you can take care at the small stuff. You know
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  Speaker 1: about doing everything, whether that's washing the before you go
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  Speaker 1: to bed at night so you don't come down to
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  Speaker 1: a whole mess in the kitchen, whatever it is, making
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  Speaker 1: your bed in the morning, simple things. If you can
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  Speaker 1: do the simple things, the big stuff takes care of itself.
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  Speaker 6: That I felt as if if I do this well,
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  Speaker 6: I can get my family in a better situation. If
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  Speaker 6: I do this well, I can get my mother off
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  Speaker 6: the double shift that windys.
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  Speaker 5: If I do this well, I can get my own bed.
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  Speaker 6: If I do this well, I can get my grandmother
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  Speaker 6: a better living condition. If I do this well, maybe
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  Speaker 6: I can stop my uncle's from selling drugs.
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  Speaker 2: You know what, You've got like a devil and an
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  Speaker 2: angel on your shoulder all the time, and not devil
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  Speaker 2: just needs to knock it off. Because you're always going
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  Speaker 2: to have these doubts, you know what. I come in here.
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  Speaker 2: Some days I'll be training for a fight, and I'll
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  Speaker 2: train three days and on I'll be on fire, and
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  Speaker 2: I'll have one bad day, which is expected when you're
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  Speaker 2: doing like an eight week camp or anything like that.
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  Speaker 2: You have one bad day, and that bad day outweighs
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  Speaker 2: the good three days by a mile, and I'll go
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  Speaker 2: on thinking, what am I doing here? I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: get better in this fight. But then you come back
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  Speaker 2: in the next morning, you have one good session again,
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  Speaker 2: and that doubt's gone again. So it's hard to get
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  Speaker 2: rid of them demons. And I think any athlete who
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  Speaker 2: says that they never have any sort of doubts, he's lying.
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  Speaker 2: I think everyone's got one that creeps in somewhere. But
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  Speaker 2: it's the ones who just managed to just push them
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  Speaker 2: on one side and keep the tunnel vision and keep
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  Speaker 2: the What I do is I visualize after the fight.
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  Speaker 2: I don't visualize what's going to happen in the fight,
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  Speaker 2: because I never know. I just always visualize what it's
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  Speaker 2: like to win after the fight, what I'll be doing
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  Speaker 2: after the fight, how I'll feel after the fight, and
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  Speaker 2: I think doing that that always helps you stand mentally strong.
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  Speaker 7: Oh, I adversually always prepare you. You know, you have
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  Speaker 7: to go through those things in order to see the
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  Speaker 7: light at the dinner of the tunnel. You know, I
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  Speaker 7: don't think anything is going to just be like this
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  Speaker 7: throughout your life. You know, you have to go through
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  Speaker 7: their difficult overcome obscure, you know, because it's a testament
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  Speaker 7: of your character, of who you are and how you
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  Speaker 7: able to deal with certain things. I know, to get
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  Speaker 7: yourself back on it playing field.
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  Speaker 1: It's that mission, that goal that would always focus on,
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  Speaker 1: because if you don't have a focus on a goal
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  Speaker 1: or a mission, and this is generally in life, you
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  Speaker 1: will find that you end up becoming a victim of
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  Speaker 1: your circumstances. You get lost in the journey, something happens,
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  Speaker 1: something major happens, and you become a victim of your
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  Speaker 1: circumstances because you've got nothing bigger pulling you through. So really,
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  Speaker 1: for me, it's all always been about the fact that
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  Speaker 1: I visualize where I want to be. When times are tough,
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  Speaker 1: when times are hard, when things are going really wrong,
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  Speaker 1: I've visualize I've got a vision of where I want
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  Speaker 1: to be and it's that one thing that pulls me
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  Speaker 1: through and I don't get bogged down in the situation.
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  Speaker 4: Pain's got to go away at some point. So what
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  Speaker 4: it means to me is it's a process you have
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  Speaker 4: to go through to make you stronger. Everybody goes through it.
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  Speaker 4: It's going to come into your life as long as
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  Speaker 4: you're ready for it. As long as you're prepared to
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  Speaker 4: go through it, then it'll change and it'll give you
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  Speaker 4: success when you.
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  Speaker 2: Have to rise above the pan out. Everyone feels pain.
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  Speaker 2: There's not like person out there as a terminator or
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  Speaker 2: everyone does. It is just how you deal with the pain.
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  Speaker 2: And that's what the makes the difference.
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  Speaker 6: Either somebody is in the midst of adversity or just
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  Speaker 6: came out of adversity, or won't be long before they
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  Speaker 6: heading two adversity. So you need to be prepared either way,
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  Speaker 6: and so we all go through adversity opposition. I think
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  Speaker 6: that's the thing that makes us all in common as people, right,
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  Speaker 6: no matter if you're from London, Atlanta, Florida, California, New York, like,
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  Speaker 6: we're all going to go through something at some point
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  Speaker 6: a phase in our life, right, And as cliche as
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  Speaker 6: it sounds, when the quote says it's never about what
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  Speaker 6: happens to you, it's about how you respond to it.
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  Speaker 5: That's very true, right. But in the same sense, I
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  Speaker 5: think what's.
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  Speaker 6: Most important is when we go through something, what's the
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  Speaker 6: perspective that we have of it?
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 6: Because for most people, when you go through something, the person's.
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  Speaker 5: Natural perspective is Okay, what did I lose? Right? What
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  Speaker 5: happened to me? Like I took a loss.
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  Speaker 6: Right, people never look at it and say, okay, man,
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  Speaker 6: tell me what did you gain? Right, even though I
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  Speaker 6: know it hurt you didn't want to go through it,
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  Speaker 6: but look at it in a way to where you
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  Speaker 6: can say, what's the lesson in this?
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 5: What would you say? Life is trying to teach you
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  Speaker 5: from dealing with this?
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  Speaker 6: And so when I went through it, my perspective was, Okay,
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  Speaker 6: what can I extract from it to apply to other
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  Speaker 6: areas and aspects of my life that I feel can
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  Speaker 6: help other people?
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  Speaker 5: And I firmly believe the quicker.
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  Speaker 6: You can shift your perspective from yourself to others when
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  Speaker 6: you're in the midst of adversity, the quicker you'll get
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  Speaker 6: through it.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 6: Martin Luther King has a quote that says life's most
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  Speaker 6: persistent and urgent question is what are you doing to
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  Speaker 6: help other people? Now, I'm not telling you to not
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  Speaker 6: acknowledge your pain.
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  Speaker 5: I'm not saying that. I'm not telling you not to say, man,
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  Speaker 5: I'm going through this in this heart. I'm not saying that.
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  Speaker 5: I'm saying when you go.
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  Speaker 6: Through it, look at it, step back from the picture
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  Speaker 6: and say, Okay, I'm dealing with this. Nine out of
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  Speaker 6: ten times is somebody else that's either dealt with it
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  Speaker 6: or are they gonna deal with something similar to this?
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  Speaker 6: And if I deal with it in the right way,
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  Speaker 6: I can use it to add value to lives of
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  Speaker 6: other people.
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  Speaker 3: Hold yourself accountable, you know, don't make these excuses. That's
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  Speaker 3: hold yourself accountable. Don't make excuses, and just have some
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  Speaker 3: pride in what you do. Know that it's possible. Just
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  Speaker 3: believe in yourself. That's it's simple. Believe in yourself and
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  Speaker 3: take pride in what you do doing ever, let anyone
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  Speaker 3: shit that you can't do