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the Purpose of Pain · No Time to Waste Podcast - w Marcus Murray

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  SPEAKER_00: All right, welcome to the No Time to Waste Podcast Studio.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today we are unpacking pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: The question I have for you is what if the pain that you've experienced was actually sent to help you and not hurt you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Stay with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most people spend their entire lives trying to eliminate pain, but pain actually does have a purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: It interrupts the norm, interrupts the laxadaisical, complacent type of everything is well type of thing that people usually experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what it also does, it exposes what comfort hides.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pain makes you take a second look at things and makes you re-evaluate what's going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's really what we're talking about here today.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there are three types of pain that most people will experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two of them are very common, I would say physical pain and emotional pain, we can all relate to those readily.
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  SPEAKER_00: The third is spiritual pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: But let's first talk about the physical pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Physical pain is really, really good because it's an indicator, it's a warning sign.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we're exercising, for example, we experience pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we are walking and we accidentally stub our toe, we experience pain and it lets us know pain communicates.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the bed should be in a different position or the chair should be, you know, slightly out of the way so that we don't kill ourselves in the dark in the room walking.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pain also says that things are going well.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've done 20 repetitions or 30 reps of some exercise, and I'm feeling that pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a good thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or when we're stretching after exercising or before, sometimes you experience pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's healthy, and that's a good pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's also the pain of childbirth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Women experience that pain as they're bringing life to the earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: That pain is good pain and it's a healthy pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: We see it, I mean, I've never had that experience, obviously.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a father of three, but my wife experienced the pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just observed, but it's a healthy, good pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's take a look at pain as a warning sign.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we experience pain and it lets us know that something is wrong and we need to change something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes, if we go back to the exercising, sometimes lifting, you experience pain, and it's because the weight is too heavy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, you also experience pain when you're injured, which lets you know, okay, something's wrong here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went to do that jump shot, came down on my ankle, and now it's throbbing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It may be broken or fractured.
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  SPEAKER_00: So pain in that case is a warning sign.
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  SPEAKER_00: Very much like, let me think here, a car.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you're driving in the car, you have two different types of systems.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have your warning system, which basically alerts you when something is bad or something needs, excuse me, or something needs to be done.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the warning system will kick in, let's say, when you need to change your oil or you need to add washer fluid, or your tire pressure is getting low, you get an indicator or a warning system.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you're actually driving down the road, you get this indicator that maybe you're veering out of the lane, or maybe you should pull over for coffee.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not sure if you've ever had that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But those warning or alert systems are very similar to the pain that you experience in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And likewise, when you experience pain, something's supposed to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's talk about emotional pain because physical pain, we understand that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we realize that when we experience physical pain, something needs to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what do you do when you experience the pain of disappointment?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are we meant to learn from disappointment?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe we're meant to learn that we should lower the temperature of expectation that we have on others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe there's too big a burden that we're placing on people.
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  SPEAKER_00: So therefore, when we experience the pain of disappointment, it means we need to adjust that.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about the pain of heartbreak?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe that pain is sent to us so that we could possibly look at people a different way, maybe treat them better when they're with us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe that heartbreak is sent to help us realize that maybe we've put too great a burden on a mere mortal.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about the pain of loss?
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be loss of a loved one, it could be loss of a job, it could be loss of an opportunity, loss of a promotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: What does that pain teach us?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe we should realign, readjust, maybe we should course correct.
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  SPEAKER_00: What does that mean?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe that pain from loss is sent to us so that we could look at things differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe we put too much value on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about the pain of loneliness?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does that send to teach us?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe that we are relying too much on people, maybe that we don't appreciate people enough when they're in our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe we're supposed to probably behave differently with people so that we reduce the moments of loneliness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Possibly we're being taught that we should more thoroughly enjoy the time we have with others.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, but that pain is not necessarily bad, but it is definitely real.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about the pain of rejection?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is that meant to teach us?
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  SPEAKER_00: Possibly that we have an over-reliance on the acceptance of others?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe there is a burden that we're placing on people that's too great.
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  SPEAKER_00: Could it be that the whole concept of wanting acceptance from man is too much?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are we putting a false weight, a burden on other people to accept us?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then when they don't, we feel rejected?
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  SPEAKER_00: What about the pain of failure?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a good pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Possibly the pain of failure helps us to recreate another go at it, if you will.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna create a better system.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is that pain necessarily bad?
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  SPEAKER_00: No, but it is real.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about the pain of injustice?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe when something's been done to us wrong, or we've been wrongfully judged or wrongfully treated, or we didn't get the opportunity that we should have received, and we feel as though an injustice has been done to us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is that pain bad?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not necessarily.
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  SPEAKER_00: What we should do when we experience these types of pain is we should look at what is the change that I need to make so that I can properly process this pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: The final pain I'll talk about from an emotional standpoint is the pain of regret.
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  SPEAKER_00: That, my friend, is one of the greatest pains, the pain of regret.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we fail to do something, fail to launch out, fail to give it a try, the regret can really be heavy because regret is like this weight of yesterday that we're carrying, something that we should have done that we didn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the third type of pain, which most people totally ignore, is spiritual pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's experienced in the form of emptiness, where you feel like there is no value to life.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a spiritual issue, or the pain of being separated from God, where we feel like we're not worthy and we're not available to Him, or we're not entitled to be near God.
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  SPEAKER_00: That separation, that type of loneliness, that is a very, very real pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then there's the pain of conviction, which is a healthy pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a good pain, it's a real pain of when we've done something that possibly wasn't quite right, and we just have that feeling of conviction.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the final pain that I would talk about is loss of purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we can't figure out exactly why we're here, this is a spiritual matter, a loss of conviction.
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  SPEAKER_00: That pain can also be very positive in helping us go back into the proper direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: With all of that being said, the most important thing for us to get is that pain is not necessarily negative.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is a positive part of life, and it is designed to provoke us to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pain is not always bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes pain is for our good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, before we leave, I want to share a letter with my son, which is the whole purpose for all of this, that we make a difference for future generations.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I took a second to write it out and I want you to hear it, and hopefully it'll be a blessing to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: My son, there will be many things in life that we'll try to avoid because it hurts.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what I want you to know is pain is not always your enemy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Often pain is your teacher.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pain actually has a voice, and when it appears, it's usually trying to tell you something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just like when muscles ache after hard work, it lets you know that your body is growing stronger.
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  SPEAKER_00: When disappointment weighs on your heart, it's because life is pushing you to rise higher than where you've been.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most people spend their lives trying to escape pain, numb it, running from it, distracting themselves from it, trying to drown it in drink.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I want you to ask yourself a different question when you experience pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the question is not how do I get rid of it, but what is this pain trying to teach me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes pain is warning you to stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's pushing you to grow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes pain is revealing something in your life that must change.
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  SPEAKER_00: A wise man never wastes pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: He studies it, he listens to it, and he allows it to refine him rather than harden him.
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  SPEAKER_00: My son, every strong man you will ever admire has been shaped by pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: The difference between men is not who experiences pain, but which man allows it to produce wisdom, strength, and character.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when life brings you difficulty, don't look at it as a bad thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Although pain is not always pleasant, it does have a purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Embrace the lessons and you will become the man who is wiser, stronger, and more prepared for the life God has for you with love and awe of the man that you're becoming, Dad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, with that being said, I'm so proud of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the No Time to Waste podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, let's seize the day.