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My wife turned down EVERY job offer… because she thinks she's too good for them! -r/amiwrong | Reddit Stories | EP3117 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 4: My wife turned down every job offer because she thinks
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  Speaker 4: she's too good for them.
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  Speaker 2: I just don't like that one.
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  Speaker 4: My wife was a stay-at-home mom for one year, and
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  Speaker 4: long story short, she didn't enjoy it. So we just
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  Speaker 4: put our toddler in daycare six months ago under the
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  Speaker 4: condition she would look for a job. I don't want
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  Speaker 4: her at home doing nothing again. For context, she was
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  Speaker 4: a housewife without children for two years, and she was
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  Speaker 4: just hanging out at home watching movies, going to the gym,
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  Speaker 4: and playing with our dogs all day. Ugh. What a
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  Speaker 4: terrible life.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I think OP's saying, well, I want to do that.
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  Speaker 4: That sounds fun.
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  Speaker 1: I want to do that.
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  Speaker 4: Just pretty much enjoying her life while I was paying
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  Speaker 4: for us.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you didn't agree to that, then not cool.
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  Speaker 4: She stopped taking her birth control on purpose so she
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  Speaker 4: can have another excuse to stay home longer. And yes,
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  Speaker 4: she admitted to doing this.
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  Speaker 2: Like, fully immediately, I'd be talking about divorce.
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  Speaker 4: I'd have question marks all over my face going, huh?
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  Speaker 2: I'd be like, oh, so you baby trapped me? Oh,
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  Speaker 2: so you lied to me? That's not okay.
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  Speaker 4: And she got what she wanted. She got to stay
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  Speaker 4: at home longer. She was doing the stay at home
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  Speaker 4: mom thing for a little over a year until it
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  Speaker 4: got too much or too hard because when they are
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  Speaker 4: closer to two years old, they start having tantrums and
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  Speaker 4: being clingy. Fast forward now, since our toddler has been
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  Speaker 4: in daycare for several months, my wife has been applying
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  Speaker 4: for jobs nonstop. Oh, I looked at her Indeed and LinkedIn.
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  Speaker 4: She had a lot of interviews. She turned down a
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  Speaker 4: hotel job that they gave her because she said it
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  Speaker 4: was embarrassing and she must have applied for it when
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  Speaker 4: she was drinking wine. By the way, this comes from
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  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily. Look at us.
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  Speaker 4: Look at Sophia. I thought you were going to do
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  Speaker 4: like the little ducky face. Can you do it?
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  Speaker 1: No, I can't.
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  Speaker 2: I can't.
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  Speaker 4: We'll only show you what we know. Let us know
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  Speaker 4: what you do in the comments down below, pretty please. So,
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  Speaker 4: Obi says, She didn't want to wear a uniform or
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  Speaker 4: work at a job that wasn't respectful, meaning she refuses
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  Speaker 4: to do a job that's like a cashier, janitor, waiter,
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  Speaker 4: or anything wearing a logo uniform, like McDonald's, for example.
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  Speaker 4: She just thinks these types of jobs are low class, embarrassing,
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  Speaker 4: and disrespectful to work at, or... Just not age appropriate
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  Speaker 4: since these jobs are typically high school education or teenagers
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  Speaker 4: or working at these jobs part-time. And she's a 27-year-old
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  Speaker 4: and wants a more respectable job with a respectable environment,
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  Speaker 4: for example. Like a hospital setting.
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  Speaker 2: She wants to be a doctor? Does she have a degree?
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  Speaker 4: She wants to be a lawyer.
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  Speaker 2: She's like, I want something respectable. Like the president. I
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  Speaker 2: want to be the president.
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  Speaker 4: I want to be the.
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  Speaker 1: I know. If you're going to handle.
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  Speaker 5: Taking care of your kid, I don't think you could
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  Speaker 5: handle being a lawyer.
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  Speaker 2: Or doctor.
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  Speaker 1: Or doctor.
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  Speaker 4: Don't sound like adult things. I don't want to be
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  Speaker 4: an adult. I just want to have a good time.
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  Speaker 2: I want a job where I work in a respectful
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  Speaker 2: environment and also I don't have to do any work.
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  Speaker 4: Money please. She's trying to land a job as an
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  Speaker 4: office coordinator and admin assistant. She got a job offer
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  Speaker 4: for the admin assistant job and she said she's going
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  Speaker 4: to think about it until she hears back from the
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  Speaker 4: office coordination job. I'm scared if she blows it because
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  Speaker 4: she finally got a job offer with a job she wants.
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  Speaker 4: But she's holding that off until the other office coordination
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  Speaker 4: people call her back. If they decide to call her back.
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  Speaker 4: Both of these jobs are in healthcare. My wife does
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  Speaker 4: have an education. She has a BA in theater. Yes,
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  Speaker 4: she knows her degree is useless.
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  Speaker 2: Hey!
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  Speaker 4: Hey! Those are probably her words, not OP's. Let's be real.
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  Speaker 2: Well, if she's saying that, she just doesn't know what
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  Speaker 2: she's got.
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  Speaker 4: She just got her degree because she liked to learn
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  Speaker 4: about this back when she was in college, but doesn't
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  Speaker 4: have interest in it anymore.
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  Speaker 2: No, it sounds like she just doesn't know what she's
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  Speaker 2: interested in.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just really sick of my wife's attitude. She's just
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  Speaker 4: so lazy and entitled. Or am I wrong? She just
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  Speaker 4: doesn't like to work. She wants to do whatever she
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  Speaker 4: wants all day. Like, don't we all? But we're living
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  Speaker 4: on a tight fund right now that I'm paying for
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  Speaker 4: daycare while she's just sitting at home chilling. Am I wrong?
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  Speaker 2: Can we have an update? No, you're not wrong. That
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  Speaker 2: is super frustrating. You're paying for everything and she's just
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  Speaker 2: kind of getting to chill.
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  Speaker 4: I want to know how your wife was raised. I
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  Speaker 4: want to know, was she wealthy? Or was she in
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  Speaker 4: a good place where she really didn't have to do
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  Speaker 4: a job? Because it shows.
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  Speaker 2: Like her parents let her go to theater school and
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  Speaker 2: she wasn't seemingly interested in it enough to the point
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  Speaker 2: where she was going to pursue that as a career.
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  Speaker 2: And you definitely have to have parents who are pretty
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  Speaker 2: supportive of you and just following whatever whims or, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you have to let you go to theater.
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  Speaker 4: School supportive of that or supportive in their pockets where
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  Speaker 4: they go or they go.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: That sounds, as long as it makes you happy, honey.
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  Speaker 4: We have an update. So, the update is that my
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  Speaker 4: wife doesn't want to contribute financially. My wife just accepted
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  Speaker 4: a job as an admin assistant in the hospital, and
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  Speaker 4: she starts in January. They told her that her pay
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  Speaker 4: will be $ 16. 40 an hour, and I currently make $ 32
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  Speaker 4: an hour.
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  Speaker 2: She's going to make $ 16. 40 an hour? I mean, she
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  Speaker 2: could make more as a barista.
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  Speaker 4: It's called minimum wage. Or no, probably a little bit more.
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  Speaker 4: Depends where you live. Depends what year and where you live.
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  Speaker 2: That's probably fully just minimum wage.
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  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 4: Because they probably looked at her credentials and like.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's got a BA in theater and they're like, well.
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  Speaker 1: What.
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  Speaker 4: Do you know about nursing? I have a baby.
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  Speaker 2: Well, she's just like an administration.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. I've always paid for us since she was a
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  Speaker 4: housewife pretty much most of our marriage. In the beginning,
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  Speaker 4: I was okay with it because I made more than
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  Speaker 4: I did at my old job.
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  Speaker 2: How much does OP make?
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  Speaker 4: It was $ 32 an hour now. But again, before, probably
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  Speaker 4: a lot more. But now, we've been hitting a financial rut.
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  Speaker 4: My wife is annoyed with me when I talk to
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  Speaker 4: her about just paying the utilities with her check so
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  Speaker 4: i can save more money she said no she didn't
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  Speaker 4: sign up for a roommate she signed up for a
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  Speaker 4: husband oh she said if she had to pay her
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  Speaker 4: own bills she might as well be single and what
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  Speaker 4: does she need me for.
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  Speaker 2: Oh and then you go oh okay enjoy.
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  Speaker 4: That be single i wasn't a real man she said
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  Speaker 4: a lot of hurtful things over this when all i
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  Speaker 4: said was i want her to pay just the utilities
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  Speaker 4: and I'll still pay literally everything else. She said she
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  Speaker 4: makes nothing with her salary, and I'm just trying to
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  Speaker 4: mooch off a woman, and that's disgusting.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, do we not know any of this? Do we
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  Speaker 2: not know any of this?
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  Speaker 4: Look, her true colors are showing, OP.
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  Speaker 1: Yikes.
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  Speaker 4: She has this view because she is Hispanic and grew
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  Speaker 4: up in a traditional family. I'm also Hispanic, but I
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  Speaker 4: grew up in a broken family. I also stated I
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  Speaker 4: was okay with paying for everything in the beginning, but
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  Speaker 4: I don't make as much as I used to anymore.
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  Speaker 4: She just wants to save her paychecks and put it
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  Speaker 4: in a Capital One savings every month so it increases
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  Speaker 4: with interest. And she said she'd rather do that for
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  Speaker 4: savings in emergency funds and fun money. But I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not threatened by her having her own money in
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  Speaker 4: her account. I don't care. I'm not worried about her
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  Speaker 4: running off. I mean, only stating that because I know
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  Speaker 4: that will be an assumption. It's all martial assets by law, anyway.
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  Speaker 4: So it's not that I'm worried about it. Should I
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  Speaker 4: just let her put all the money in her Capital
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  Speaker 4: One savings if it'll accumulate more money over time? I
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  Speaker 4: just don't like how petty she's being. She just thinks
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  Speaker 4: because she's a woman, she shouldn't have to pay for anything.
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  Speaker 4: And she's always talking down about how Americanized friends have
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  Speaker 4: to pay 50-50 of the bills. And then she's taking
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  Speaker 4: care of the kids and then the house. And then
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  Speaker 4: they're all suckers, basically. We also have one child together
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  Speaker 4: that matters. OP, I don't think she's going to get it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I worry. Based off of the fact that you've
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  Speaker 2: already tried to have her be a stay-at-home mom, and
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  Speaker 2: then you already had the conversation where she promised she
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  Speaker 2: would get a job, and now she's kind of going
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  Speaker 2: back on her word on.
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  Speaker 5: All of these.
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  Speaker 4: Opie, I feel like you're really close at your wit's
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  Speaker 4: end here.
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  Speaker 2: And also, let us not forget that she baby-trapped him.
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  Speaker 2: I would have been out just from that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I don't trust a liar.
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  Speaker 4: OP, I don't think this is going in the direction
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  Speaker 4: you want it to go. There's an ad. I guess
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  Speaker 4: thanks for the advice. But nothing that was said was
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  Speaker 4: remotely useful. No one here even bothered to read the post.
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  Speaker 5: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: The problem isn't a joint account. We already have a
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  Speaker 4: joint account. The problem is she doesn't want to pay
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  Speaker 4: for not even one bill. She can pay that one
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  Speaker 4: bill in her separate account for all I care. I
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  Speaker 4: don't care what account it comes out of. I just
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  Speaker 4: want her to pay for it with her paycheck, which
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  Speaker 4: she won't do. Stop recommending a joint account. We have
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  Speaker 4: one already, and she doesn't want to pool our money
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  Speaker 4: together because for the last time, she doesn't want her
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  Speaker 4: paycheck going towards any household essentials like groceries, mortgage, car payment, bills, etc.
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  Speaker 4: She just wants it for fun money.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I think we gave you good advice, OP, so
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  Speaker 2: come over here and listen to our story.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Or our advice.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Kim finds this. How old is the kid? I think
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  Speaker 2: around two.
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  Speaker 4: Around two now.
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  Speaker 2: Babies in daycare cost a lot more.
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  Speaker 4: She started complaining about it, about the kid, now that
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  Speaker 4: it's cognizant.
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  Speaker 2: They just said toddler.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. She can't handle a two-year-old who wants their mother's affection.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no. It's too much. Unacceptable!
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  Speaker 3: Unacceptable!
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  Speaker 4: Schmed says, Opie, just divorce already. She's so lazy.
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  Speaker 2: For real. Too lazy, too lazy.
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  Speaker 4: I like how you were like, honey, you need a
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  Speaker 4: job to help pay for things. And she went, okay,
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  Speaker 4: I'll get a job. But I want a job that's
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  Speaker 4: at least not embarrassing for me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then she got that job and she's like, well.
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  Speaker 4: I don't really want to pay for anything. I want
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  Speaker 4: to pay for fun stuff.
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  Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story. We got another
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  Speaker 2: one coming right up.
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  Speaker 4: My wife wished another man cooked for her. So I
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  Speaker 4: never cooked for her again.
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  Speaker 2: Careful what you wish for.
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  Speaker 4: My wife and I have been married for seven years
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  Speaker 4: and together for 10. A couple years ago, my wife
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  Speaker 4: had a male co-worker who used to cook for the
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  Speaker 4: office often. My wife used to always rave about his food,
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  Speaker 4: and it admittedly made me insecure. Also because he looked
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  Speaker 4: like a Greek model. I also started cooking for my
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  Speaker 4: wife around that time. I was never a serious cook,
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  Speaker 4: but I decided to give it a shot. Prior to then,
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  Speaker 4: I only used to cook basic food. But I decided
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  Speaker 4: to try cooking complex meals. However, a lot of times,
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  Speaker 4: it didn't come out great. Aww. Aww. My wife used
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  Speaker 4: to help me, but I was just never serious about it.
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  Speaker 4: One night, my wife was wasted and we just had
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  Speaker 4: beef wellington that I had cooked. It was sort of
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  Speaker 4: a disaster. And my wife and I were just both
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  Speaker 4: laughing about it. However, my wife then druggily admitted she
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  Speaker 4: wished her male co-worker could cook for her every day.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't fully grasp what she was saying as I
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  Speaker 4: was really wasted, but my wife realized what she said
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  Speaker 4: and she apologized.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's fair.
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  Speaker 4: I told her it was all right and that it
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  Speaker 4: was probably some attempt at a joke. And by the way,
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  Speaker 4: this comes from user AcceptableWeight4341. And if you want to
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  Speaker 4: submit your own stories, go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Kion.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia. And I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice gloopily. We don't
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  Speaker 4: know everything, guys. We only know what we do. Let
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  Speaker 4: us know what you do in the comments down below,
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  Speaker 4: pretty please, as OP says. However, the next day, I
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  Speaker 4: grasped what she was saying, and I really felt deflated.
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  Speaker 4: My wife sensed it, and she apologized again, and after
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  Speaker 4: taking a day to think about it, I told my wife,
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  Speaker 4: let's not make a big deal about it, but also,
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  Speaker 4: I was never going to cook for her ever again.
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  Speaker 4: My wife again apologized and almost started crying, but I
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  Speaker 4: told her, it was all in the past, and let's
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  Speaker 4: move on.
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  Speaker 2: It's clearly not!
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  Speaker 1: It's clearly not!
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  Speaker 4: That's crazy! You're like, alright, let's move past this, so
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  Speaker 4: I'm never cooking for you ever again for our future. See?
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  Speaker 2: Heon, are you on my side now?
• 11:52
  Speaker 4: I'm on your side of OP now bad.
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  Speaker 2: Overreacting that's what i'm saying i was basing it on his.
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  Speaker 4: Feelings being hurt yeah of course i think very.
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  Speaker 2: Fair i think i was just basing it off the
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  Speaker 2: title yes it's.
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  Speaker 4: Been two years since then and my wife and mine's
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  Speaker 4: relationship is stronger than.
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  Speaker 2: Ever okay have you ever cooked for her again.
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  Speaker 4: Over the past couple of years, I have also spent
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  Speaker 4: a lot of time taking cooking lessons from my sister.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: Who is a really good cook. I learned that cooking
• 12:21
  Speaker 4: just takes a lot of consistent practice and you can't
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  Speaker 4: just learn it over the internet and you need to
• 12:25
  Speaker 4: acquire the skill. And I can now confidently say I
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  Speaker 4: am a much better cook than I was a couple
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  Speaker 4: of years ago.
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  Speaker 2: Great job.
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  Speaker 4: I cook for friends and for my family or my
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  Speaker 4: wife's family when they come over. The food I'm the
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  Speaker 4: most proud of, and which I get a lot of compliments,
• 12:38
  Speaker 4: is on the Valencian paella.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, sounds yummy. I've actually never had paella.
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  Speaker 5: Yes.
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  Speaker 4: Opie goes on to say that I make a very
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  Speaker 4: good paella. However, in spite of the progress I've made,
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  Speaker 4: I can't find it in me to cook for my
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  Speaker 4: wife alone.
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  Speaker 1: You're a baby.
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  Speaker 4: I still remember the hurt and insecurity I felt a
• 12:55
  Speaker 4: couple years ago. My wife even stopped speaking to and
• 12:59
  Speaker 4: taking food from the co-worker after that incident.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, come on.
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  Speaker 4: And the co-worker has even left the company since. You
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  Speaker 4: caused this.
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  Speaker 2: This is your fault.
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  Speaker 4: You did this.
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  Speaker 2: That poor man.
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  Speaker 1: That poor Greek man.
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  Speaker 4: But I still can't find it in me to cook
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  Speaker 4: a romantic dinner for my wife. My wife has asked
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  Speaker 4: me a few times, and she says she's willing to
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  Speaker 4: do anything to repent or take accountability. But... I told
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  Speaker 4: my wife I've already forgiven her a couple of years ago.
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  Speaker 4: It's just that I can't mentally bring myself to ever
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  Speaker 4: cook for her. Am I wrong?
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  Speaker 2: Yes. You haven't forgiven her.
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  Speaker 4: You obviously haven't forgiven her. Or gotten over it.
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  Speaker 2: I don't understand how OP can have this weird paradoxical
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  Speaker 2: mindset of I've forgiven her. I'm over it. But also
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  Speaker 2: I could never cook for her again.
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  Speaker 4: I think this is definitely a trauma for OP.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, yeah. He said, she hates my beef wellington.
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  Speaker 2: She's in love with a Greek man.
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  Speaker 4: She's going to leave him for the Greek man.
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  Speaker 2: This is the seafood one.
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  Speaker 4: It looked so good.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my God, I devour it. She's clearly eaten his stuff,
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: you know, with family.
• 14:02
  Speaker 4: And other friends. You can cook for her in a
• 14:04
  Speaker 4: group setting, but cannot cook for her one-on-one.
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: That's ridiculous.
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: She didn't even say, I wish you never cooked for me.
• 14:10
  Speaker 2: She was just like, oh, I wish I could eat
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: that guy's food all the time.
• 14:12
  Speaker 4: It's so good.
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: She was drunk.
• 14:15
  Speaker 1: She apologized.
• 14:16
  Speaker 4: You were drunk.
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: You were drunk. She was drunk.
• 14:18
  Speaker 2: She apologized. You said you'd taken the apology and you haven't.
• 14:21
  Speaker 2: It's been two years.
• 14:22
  Speaker 1: Get over it. Cook her food.
• 14:24
  Speaker 2: I'm sick of you. I think.
• 14:25
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 14:28
  Speaker 2: Your relationship is not as strong as ever.
• 14:30
  Speaker 4: He's very traumatized. But the thing is, he's like, I
• 14:34
  Speaker 4: am now an excellent chef. And I think he wants
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: to make his wife the grandest meal ever.
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 14:41
  Speaker 4: And he's probably just like, I can't do it.
• 14:43
  Speaker 3: Update!
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: Update!
• 14:44
  Speaker 4: So pretty much all the comments told me I was
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: very wrong. And what I was doing was cruel to
• 14:50
  Speaker 4: my wife. It was never my intention to be cruel
• 14:53
  Speaker 4: to my wife. It was all about my mental health.
• 14:56
  Speaker 4: But I understand now how it can be perceived as
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: being cruel. I didn't want to make a big deal
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: of it. So I told my wife this morning I
• 15:03
  Speaker 4: would start cooking for her tonight and make her a
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: special dinner. My wife was very excited and hugged and
• 15:10
  Speaker 4: thanked me. And I'm nervous and excited and looking forward
• 15:14
  Speaker 4: to opening this new chapter in our lives. Finally! I, however,
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: reminded my wife again how she had almost destroyed my
• 15:21
  Speaker 4: love for cooking a couple of years ago.
• 15:23
  Speaker 5: Oh my god, you are such a mama.
• 15:25
  Speaker 4: Let it go.
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: You're the most sensitive person I've ever met.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: Let it go.
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: Be Elsa.
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let it go.
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: I also gave my wife an analogy. My sister told
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: me this morning to tell this analogy to make my
• 15:35
  Speaker 4: wife understand the impact of what she said a couple
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: of years ago. I asked my wife, how would she
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: feel if I drunkenly admitted to preferring hugs from Vanessa?
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: Vanessa is my close childhood friend, because Vanessa has a
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: softer and more feminine feel to her.
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: Shut the F up. That is not the same at all.
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: That's not the same at all, and you're pissing me off.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: I don't like you.
• 15:57
  Speaker 4: I think a better.
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: I have a better one.
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: I have a better one. It's a little bit like
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: if OP said... I prefer when, let's say they had
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: a masseuse friend. I prefer when that masseuse friend gives
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: me massages.
• 16:14
  Speaker 4: Over you.
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: Over yours.
• 16:16
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: But they both know she gave bad massages or something
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: like that. I think that's a better, because it's like, ow,
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: that kind of hurts, because I like giving massages. It's
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: a way for us to be close to each other.
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: That is a better analogy. Yes. Your analogy sucks.
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: I asked my wife if she would get over that comment,
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: even if I apologized the rest of our lives. And
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: my wife admitted... she wouldn't be able to get over
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: that comment. And she again apologized for what she said
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: a couple of years ago. But having said all of that,
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: I am really excited about tonight. I plan on making
• 16:45
  Speaker 4: my wife lemon butter lobster risotto and serve it with
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: a glass of white wine.
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: That sounds nice, Opie. I hope you have fun.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: I hope to make it as romantic as possible. And
• 16:55
  Speaker 4: I hope it comes out well. That's probably my final update.
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: Thank you all for the advice. You need to go
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: to a therapist and talk about this trauma.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: For real. For real. Like what? What can his wife do?
• 17:10
  Speaker 4: Go back in time and never say that comment ever?
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because she can't.
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: You know what she should do? Never eat food again.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: She clearly can't apologize.
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: Never eat food again. Honestly, if I were.
• 17:23
  Speaker 5: Hunger strike.
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: If I were OP's wife, I'd be like, your food's bland.
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: I'd be like Gordon Ramsay. Like, it's not good enough.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: Your food... An idiot sandwich. That's the end of that story, though.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: My husband's classmate is obsessed with him. Bad mouthing me
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: to everyone.
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: Hey, why are you doing that?
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: I honestly don't even know where to start. I apologize
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: if the timeline is difficult to follow.
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: Uh-oh.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: My 30 female husband, 30 male, is currently a nurse.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: Two years ago, my husband, let's call him Wayne, enrolled
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: in a one-year accelerated nursing program at a university in
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: our city. This was a super intense program that basically
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: shoved four years of nursing school into one year.
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: That.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: Sounds like maybe not the best way to teach nursing.
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: Kind of sounds illegal. Yeah, it does. Here's your certification
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: for showing up this week.
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it doesn't sound effective whatsoever.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: No.
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: I also don't want these people to be my nurses.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: Wayne quit his job so he could focus all of
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: his energy on the program and pass the NCLEX.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: Is it NCLEX?
• 18:25
  Speaker 5: NCLEX.
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: I was fully supportive of this and basically told him
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: whatever he needed to do to study and feel prepared.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: I was game. It is important to mention that Wayne
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: and I have been together for 15 years now. We
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: are high school sweethearts.
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: Cute.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: During the first week of his program, Wayne met two
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: other students and became friends with them. I will call
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: them Bonnie, 27 female... Gail, 28 female. The three of
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: them became fast friends and quickly made a habit of
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: studying together every single day for almost a year. They
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: would take turns going to each other's houses, but the
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: majority of the time they were at our house because
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: it was somewhat in the middle. Since I worked during
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: the day, they could study all day if they wanted.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Mrs. Sands, 94, and
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: if you want to submit your own story, go to
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: the r slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: And I'm Savannah. And we're here to give good advice goofily,
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers. We only know
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: what we do. So let us know what you would
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: do in the comments. And Opie says, I also really
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: liked Bonnie and Gail. Eventually, we all became friends and
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: Bonnie's boyfriend, Dan, 27 male, and Gail's girlfriend, Tannis, 28 female,
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: would come over for dinner. Before anyone asks, I had
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: absolutely no issue with Wayne befriending women or spending time
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: with them. Wayne and I are best friends and have
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: a very secure relationship. I trust him completely. Not to mention,
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: Bonnie and Gail were also in relationships. And Gail is
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: seemingly J with G. Eventually, Wayne and bonnie even helped
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: gail work through some relationship drama and break up with
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: tennis oh oh no The get-togethers became smaller after that,
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: because Tanis was gone and Dan was working more. Fast
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: forward to graduation. Both Wayne and Bonnie got a job
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: at the same ER working similar shifts. That particular ER
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: is in a tough part of town, so it's great
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: that Wayne and Bonnie can debrief after shifts and vent
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: to each other. Gail was forced to go on night shift,
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: the opposite schedule of Wayne and Bonnie.
• 20:18
  Speaker 5: Tough.
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: Over the past year, Wayne and Gail haven't really spoken.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: Wayne rationalized that they both got busy and just lost touch.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: Bonnie still spoke regularly with Gail. Around this time, Dan
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: proposed to Bonnie. Wow. We were all very happy for them.
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: And the couple eventually told us the wedding would take
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: place in a state far away. Easily 12 to 13
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: hour drive or a flight away. While that would be
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: a lot of money for us, we said we would
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: do our best to come. Bonnie asked Gail to be
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: a bridesmaid and we were super pumped because it would
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: be like a small reunion. At this time, I found
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: out I was pregnant.
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: Wow, double wow.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: Oh, wow, wow, wow.
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: There's a lot of things going on at this time.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: We had been trying for a while and were so happy.
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: It would work out great because our baby boy would
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: be approximately nine months old at the time of the wedding.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: Old enough that we could leave him for a day
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: or two with my parents. Fast forward to last week.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: On Tuesday, Bonnie hand-delivered our invitation. On Friday, Bonnie pulled
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: Wayne aside after their shift and said that she and
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Dan had a really bad fight because Bonnie invited Wayne
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: and I to the wedding. Why? Wayne was very confused.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: Why would Dan be upset that we were invited? Bonnie
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: then explained. Since Wayne, Bonnie, and Gail met in nursing school,
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Gail has been under the delusion that Wayne was in
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: love with her. She's been around you guys for this
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: whole time and has seen your relationship with Wayne.
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: I have baby now.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: I have baby with my hubby.
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: My husband's love is inside of me.
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: I've been with him for 15 years. You don't say
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: it like that. I don't like that either. Bonnie and
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: Dan would talk with Gail almost every day and tell
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: her there was nothing between her and Wayne. Gail would
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: insist Wayne was a lover.
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: Gail, why are we doing that?
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: Why are you trying to cause drama? As time went on,
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: Gale started to badmouth me to Bonnie and Dan, saying
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: I was manipulative and mean to Wayne.
• 22:10
  Speaker 4: How? I need examples.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like, from what? From what are we getting this?
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: Gail said she needed a breakup with Tannis because she
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: and Wayne were going to be together. Eventually, Gail thought
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: Wayne was going to leave me for her. When Wayne
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: told them we were trying for a baby, Gail started
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: a whole other delusion that she and Wayne were going
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: to have kids.
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: What is going on?
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: Gail, I think, needs sleep. I think Gail has been
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: doing the night.
• 22:33
  Speaker 4: Shift too long. Yeah, the night shift has been affecting her.
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: That's what happens to me when I don't sleep. Yeah,
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: you start dreaming about having kids. According to Body, during
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: one of our dinners, when it was just the four
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: of us, I said something that Gail then twisted and
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: passed on to Dan. It was about a heated news
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: topic the two of us disagreed on. Gail told Dan
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: I had said something extreme and hurtful, essentially putting cruel
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: words in my mouth that I never spoke. I can
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: say with 100% certainty that I never said what she claimed.
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: It was completely fabricated to make me look like an
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: awful person. Regardless, Gail told Dan, I allegedly said this.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: According to Bonnie, Gail talked to Dan without Bonnie present.
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: Dan was very angry and hurt and chose to internalize
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: his anger towards me. Why is no one just talking
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: to OP and said, hey, did you say this?
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: Why are we not going to the source?
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Wayne and or OP and going, hey, we heard this
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: from Gail.
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: Why is this coming up just now? This hasn't been like.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: Well, Gale is going to be Bonnie's bridesmaid.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: B with a, or sorry, bridesmaid with a B.
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: B with a Bonnie.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: Gale is going to be one of the bridesmaids, so
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: it does make sense that maybe they would believe her
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: words more. He decided he no longer wanted to see
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: Wayne and I and lied about his work schedule so
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: as to not attend dinners with us.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, wow. Yikes.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: It wasn't until a couple months later that Bonnie invited
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: Dan to dinner at her house and he said, why
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: would I spend time with these people after what they said?
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: Bonnie was confused and then Dan told her what Gail said.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Bonnie told Dan those words were never spoken and Gail
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: was lying. By this point, Dan had convinced himself I
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: had said those things and didn't believe Gail would lie. Oh,
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: so now you believe that you're a fiancé?
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: So now Dan's in love with Gail.
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I think.
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: Because Dan will only take Gail's word?
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, over his fiancé' s word. You're going to believe Gail
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: over your fiancé.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: Who was also there.
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: This is like a love... What is it? What's the star?
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: Is it a Pentecost?
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: What is it?
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: Pentagon? Pentagram? Pentagram. There we go. My brain hurts. Pentecostal.
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: Pentecostal. This is love Pentecostal.
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: It's a love Pentecostal. It's a love Pentagram.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: Pentecostal love. My favorite. When they started working, they stopped
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: hanging out as much because of their schedules. Gail took
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: this as Wayne ghosting her and breaking up with her.
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: Dude, what is going on?
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: So Gail is just full delusional.
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: She's cuckoo for Cocoa Puff.
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: She's fully delusional.
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: Remember that mascot?
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I liked him.
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that shows. That definitely ticks. That makes sense.
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: And continued to badmouth me and Wayne. When Dan found
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: out Bonnie had given us a wedding invitation, he was livid.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: He felt she went behind his back to invite us,
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: even though we heard him. Dan, your hurt is fake.
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: This is Dan. I don't know what to believe.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: Your hurt is manufactured, Dan. Wake up. Smell the roses.
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: Everyone's full of lies.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: Everyone's against me. And it's just Gale. When Wayne reiterated
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: this to me, I was shocked. We had been completely
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: in the dark about this whole thing for two years.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: Bonnie had been acting like nothing was wrong. After almost
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: every shift, Wayne and Bonnie talk on the phone, and
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: not once has she mentioned any of this. Gail is
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: still in the wedding party despite it all. Dan still
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: hates us. Bonnie wants Wayne and I to be at
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: her wedding and says she can't get married without her
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: best friend Wayne there.
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: Hey, if I'm your best friend, how come you haven't
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: told me any of this?
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: How come you let your fiancé believe these lies for years?
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: And how come Gail, the liar, is still in your wedding?
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: Everyone here sits on the throne of lies other than
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: Wayne and OP.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: Firstly, Bonnie has lied by omission for two years.
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: Frankly, I don't trust her anymore, and I'm skeptical we
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: have all the information. Secondly, I'm offended that Dan would
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: blindly believe Gail, especially after her delusions about Wayne. Thirdly,
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: why would I want to go to a wedding where
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: Gail is a bridesmaid and could start something? Why would
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: I spend thousands of dollars to travel to a wedding
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: where I'm uncomfortable and leave my baby? While Wayne is
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: as confused as I am, he still wants to go.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I don't even think he's welcome. Dan clearly doesn't like
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Wayne either. He has bonded with Bonnie through work and
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: values her as a friend. Bonnie's trying to convince Dan
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: that we are good people and Gail twisted everything. Honestly,
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: after being left in the dark for two years, I
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: don't want to have to convince anyone we're innocent. If anything,
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: we should be getting an apology from all parties. Wayne
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: and I are currently still waiting to hear from Bonnie
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: about her talk with Dan and Gail. As of right now,
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: the 21st, Gail is still a bridesmaid and Dan still
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: doesn't want us at the wedding. Am I wrong for
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: feeling this way? What would you do? And we do
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: have an edit. What would you guys do?
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: I'm very uncomfortable about all of this. Like you said earlier,
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: I don't feel like we are invited anymore. Especially if
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: the groom of the wedding.
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: Doesn't want us there? I mean, if I'm OP, I'm
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: certainly not going. And if I'm Wayne, why would you
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: go if you're not even really invited and your wife
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: is actively being like... Had a smear campaign against her.
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: I go up to Bonnie, who's the bride, and be like... Hey,
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: girly pop, why wasn't this brought.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: Up at all?
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: And why were you, you know, continuing the lie? What
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: is going on?
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: I don't know, man.
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: She's like playing like a fun game of Sims and
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: everyone's evil.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't go. I'd be like, sorry, I just
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: don't really feel comfortable because of everything that's happened. And
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: I feel like that's a good enough excuse. Yeah, sorry.
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: Sorry, my unborn baby is going to be nine months
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: at that point. They said no.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: Also, I can't even, if I'm going and I'm pregnant,
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: I can't even drink. Waste of my time. Well, no,
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: he's going to be nine months post-pregnant.
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: Still.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: You probably still can't drink if she's breastfeeding. True. Waste
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: of my time. I mean, she might not be breastfeeding.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: Waste of my time.
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: More like post-part-yum.
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: Edit to add. Wayne also expressed that he didn't want
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: to go to the wedding if Gail was there. The
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: main reason being that we don't want to risk a
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: scene and potentially ruin Bonnie's wedding. Bonnie has also mentioned
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: she is considering removing Gail from the wedding party, but
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: is afraid to because she doesn't want to cause her
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: to spiral. Gail has been going through some difficulties over
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: the past year, which contributes to Bonnie's hesitation. I am
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: not defending Bonnie or Gail, but I understand it. Update.
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: Wayne and I sent Bonnie a message stating that if
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: Gail was at the wedding, we would not be attending.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: Bonnie said, I totally understand and I would never want
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: you to be uncomfortable ever. I'm so sorry this is
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: happening and I hate that I had to tell you guys.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: I wish I could have kept it to myself so
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: no one else got hurt. Gail and I are up
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: in the air right now. Dan is getting better slightly.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: He's not as angry. Or I should say his anger
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: has shifted to Gail finally. But he's still frustrated. Now
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: we know that she would have never told us. I
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: haven't talked to Wayne yet to see how he feels
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: about this. And we do have a second update.
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: Oh boy.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: Thank you all for the thoughtful and blunt response. I
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: know many of you wanted an update, so here you go.
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Since I left off, Wayne and I spoke and thought
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: it was only fair that we reach out to Gail.
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: Since we had only gotten Bonnie's side, Gail admitted to
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: having a crush on Wayne, but denied everything else.
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: Of course she did.
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: What a little liar.
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: As previously established, Gail is untrustworthy, so I take her
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: response with a large grain of salt. Wayne and I
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: screenshotted the texts and sent them to Bonnie. We made
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: it very clear we are not keeping anything secret. Bonnie
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: was upset that we talked to Gail and... Didn't know
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: what we hoped to gain from that. She went on
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: to say her life is exploding and us wanting more
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: information is valid, but it's not helping her. What made
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: me laugh is that she said she wished she would
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: have had a say in how the interaction was navigated. Like, yeah,
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: same girl. I wish we would have had the option
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: to choose how to respond too. Bonnie decided to call Wayne.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: I was at work, so I couldn't be privy to
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: the conversation. Long story long, Bonnie said that she and
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: Dan are having issues separate from this whole ordeal. So
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: this situation is adding fuel to the fire. Us reaching
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: out to Gail stirred up additional stuff for Bonnie. Wayne
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: told Bonnie that he knows she has a lot going on,
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: but that doesn't negate what she did to us. Bonnie
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: asked Wayne, do you want to step back from our friendship?
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: Wayne said no. When Wayne is relaying this to me,
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to remain composed. This is basically the cliff
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: notes of what I told him. Bonnie knowingly lied to
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: us the entire time we have known her. If she
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: could lie for this long, what else has she lied about?
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: She knew Gail was unstable, yet thought it was okay
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: for us to continue to be friends and invite her
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: into our home. She knew Gail had lied to Dan,
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: yet didn't correct it or bring it to our attention.
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: She was cool with Dan thinking I'm awful and believing
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: a lie. She continued to treat Gail as a friend
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: and made her a bridesmaid and wanted to invite us
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: to her wedding against the groom's wishes, knowing Gail would
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: be there. Why should we drop money to celebrate their
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: marriage when they clearly don't give a crap about ours?
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: I gave Wayne time to process. Wayne ended up saying
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: that he doesn't consider Bonnie a friend and hesitated before
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: because he's so sad and disappointed in her. I think
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: he had trusted her so much. And since all of
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: this goes against her perceived character, it was a lot
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: to process. This whole thing is so immature and childish
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: that you want to rationalize everything into something more complicated
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: in hopes the dots will connect. I told Wayne we
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: should tell Bonnie that things are not okay with us,
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: and she needs to sort her crap out and decide
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: where her priorities lie. Wayne was hesitant because he didn't
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: want to trigger Bonnie. But I pointed out she used
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: that same train of thought for Gail, and look where
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: she is. We are not cutting Bonnie off. We are
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: simply pausing our argument so she can figure out her relationships.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: We're willing to talk at a later date about keeping
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: her as a friend, but keeping her at arm's length
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: until she can prove she's trustworthy. This is all dependent
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: on the decisions she makes about Dan and Gail. We're
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: waiting a couple days before telling Bonnie this is our
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: plan to make sure our emotions are in check.
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: Back to red light. I'm back to, I think we...
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: I don't want to go. Yeah.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: I don't want to go.
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: This is too complicated. It sounds too messy. Let's just
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: go on a vacation.
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's do that instead. Let's use our, because you've
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: got to fly out anyway. Let's fly somewhere nice.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: Hope you haven't gotten your tickets or RSVP'd yet.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: Me too.
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: I'm sure you're wondering, what about Dan? In short, meh.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: If he cares so little, then to just ask me
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: about something so trivial, whatever. In the best possible outcome,
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: we would still have little to no contact with Dan.
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: Wayne and I are in a good place. We talked
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: about how he can't please everyone and his family should
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: come first. While we don't want to be dismissive of
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: our friends, how events impact our family is the first priority.
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: This is where things currently are. Once again, thank you
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: for your responses. It was incredibly validating for me. And
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: that's the end of the story.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: Hey, this is Riley, your favorite Southern Belle. We're going
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: to get back to these stories, but here's three minutes
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: worth of ads from our sponsors. My best friend sold
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: the dress I paid for, then called me a bridezilla?
• 33:40
  Speaker 5: Well....
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: I wasn't ready for that.
• 33:45
  Speaker 5: I'm 27 female getting married to my fiance 26 male
• 33:49
  Speaker 5: come January. It's not ideal with the current global situation
• 33:53
  Speaker 5: since I'm very high risk but we've already postponed once
• 33:57
  Speaker 5: and there's no end to the pandemic in sight. We
• 34:01
  Speaker 5: decided we're going to take the risk and tie the
• 34:03
  Speaker 5: knot in a smaller ceremony with all possible precautions. Now
• 34:08
  Speaker 5: Ever since I got sick, the reason why I'm high risk,
• 34:10
  Speaker 5: I've always wanted a picturesque wedding. I'm stable, but only
• 34:15
  Speaker 5: looking at another 20 years or so if the vid
• 34:18
  Speaker 5: doesn't get me first. The pictures of this wedding are
• 34:20
  Speaker 5: very important to me since they'll last far longer than
• 34:24
  Speaker 5: I will. There'll be a lovely thing for my husband
• 34:26
  Speaker 5: and potential children to look at once I'm gone. It's
• 34:29
  Speaker 5: nothing insane, just people dressed nice and a color scheme.
• 34:33
  Speaker 5: The ceremony isn't lavish, but I do want it to
• 34:36
  Speaker 5: be cohesive. Since I was enforcing a color scheme, I
• 34:39
  Speaker 5: only saw it as fair to pay for my bridesmaids' dresses.
• 34:42
  Speaker 5: Due to the vid restrictions, it was very difficult to
• 34:45
  Speaker 5: find the right dresses since I didn't want to risk
• 34:47
  Speaker 5: going to.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: A boutique together.
• 34:49
  Speaker 5: But we made it work. Through lots of back and forth,
• 34:53
  Speaker 5: the bridesmaids and I all picked out matching dresses that
• 34:56
  Speaker 5: fits everyone's taste. I made extra sure that everyone was
• 35:01
  Speaker 5: happy when I ordered the maroon dresses, which is very
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: different than burgundy.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: Maroon and burgundy are very different. It is. Maroon pops more.
• 35:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah. I hope there's five of them.
• 35:11
  Speaker 5: Everyone got fitted separately and got alterations put down on
• 35:15
  Speaker 5: my tab. Not a word of complaint, just excitement. By
• 35:18
  Speaker 5: the way, this comes from Random67281001. And if you want
• 35:21
  Speaker 5: to send me your own stories, go to the r
• 35:24
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• 35:26
  Speaker 1: I'm Riley. I'm Dakota. I'm Keon.
• 35:28
  Speaker 5: And we're going to read the story goofily, right, fellas?
• 35:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 35:32
  Speaker 5: And if you have anything you'd like to add, please
• 35:34
  Speaker 5: add it down below, especially if you're married and got
• 35:36
  Speaker 5: married during the vid.
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: Your eyes are looking awfully gray today.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: Thank you. This goes with my shirt.
• 35:41
  Speaker 5: Today, my maid of honor, 27 female, messaged me saying
• 35:45
  Speaker 5: that she got the perfect dress for the wedding. Cue confusion.
• 35:49
  Speaker 5: I asked for an elaboration, and she said that she
• 35:52
  Speaker 5: didn't like the bridesmaid's dress, so she went ahead and
• 35:55
  Speaker 5: bought her own.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: Girl, OP is gonna d * * * soon. What
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: are you doing? I got two decades, bro. You do
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: this to me? I got 20 years you do this
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: to me. Now I got 19. I've got 19 now
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: because you just took one out of me.
• 36:12
  Speaker 5: Keon, what's 20 times 52?
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: You know what to do. I have the answer. It's 1,020.
• 36:19
  Speaker 4: Is it 1,020?
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: 1,040?
• 36:19
  Speaker 4: 1,040?
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: Yes, I have 1,040 weeks left, and you just ruined
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: one of them.
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: You ruined the rest of them.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: That was horrifying to hear that amount of time set
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: in weeks. Doesn't feel like a lot.
• 36:38
  Speaker 5: Keon, what's 20 times 365? Just joking.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 36:42
  Speaker 5: She sent me a picture and it was a tiny
• 36:45
  Speaker 5: white dress that didn't fit her well at all.
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: Nah, you're stupid. You buy a white dress for the wedding?
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: I say, sorry, we have a level of stupid we
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: don't let into the wedding. And you bypass that. You've
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: gone beyond. You've exceeded the stupid quota.
• 37:04
  Speaker 5: Yes, it's all an IQ test. You didn't make it through.
• 37:07
  Speaker 5: You can't go with you and your tiny, stupid white dress.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: Yes, you bought a little white dress for my wedding.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: That's great. You're so dumb. Goodbye.
• 37:16
  Speaker 5: Sarah says, friend is out of the wedding.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: Do we agree? Do we agree?
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think you can probably give her the look. Clearly,
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: you misunderstood. You either wear that dress or you're not
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: in the wedding party.
• 37:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 37:31
  Speaker 5: When I brought up the faux pas, she dyed it
• 37:34
  Speaker 5: flesh-colored with coffee. I told her that she cannot wear
• 37:37
  Speaker 5: that to my wedding since A. Already bought the actual
• 37:41
  Speaker 5: dress at a considerable expense. B. I am not exaggerating
• 37:45
  Speaker 5: when I say it doesn't fit. It's a wardrobe malfunction
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: waiting to happen. And C.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: It looks terrible.
• 37:52
  Speaker 5: She looks unclothed wearing it, and I do not want
• 37:55
  Speaker 5: that in my wedding photos.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: It was ruined when she bought it, sweetheart.
• 37:59
  Speaker 5: Oh, ho, ho, ho.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: That's right. That's right. I was very frustrated.
• 38:06
  Speaker 5: She had not once told me she didn't like the
• 38:08
  Speaker 5: dress and I already spent the non-refundable money. I tried
• 38:12
  Speaker 5: to compromise with her, seeing if she'd wear something else,
• 38:16
  Speaker 5: at least in the same color as all the other bridesmaids.
• 38:19
  Speaker 5: But she brushed it off. I then told her that
• 38:22
  Speaker 5: she could wear the agreed-upon dress or pay me back
• 38:24
  Speaker 5: for it. She blew up at me, calling me a
• 38:27
  Speaker 5: bridezilla for being controlling and unsympathetic to a college student.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: Unsympathetic? I bought you a dress, brokie. What are you
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: talking about? Unsympathetic. I bought your dress. It's my wedding.
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: It's my wedding.
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 38:46
  Speaker 5: Weird. How unsympathetic to a college student. You're not seeing
• 38:52
  Speaker 5: my emotions.
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: I am in school. I have a whole mic.
• 38:58
  Speaker 5: I will say I have more free time as an
• 39:00
  Speaker 5: adult than I ever did as a student.
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: Where were you going to school?
• 39:04
  Speaker 5: I was stuffing two years of my bachelor's.
• 39:09
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: That's what I was doing. Yeah, double school. Yeah. Uh, yeah.
• 39:14
  Speaker 5: She said, if I'm going to be this obsessive, then
• 39:17
  Speaker 5: I'm better off not getting married at all since I'll
• 39:19
  Speaker 5: drive my fiance away. I got so angry, I just
• 39:23
  Speaker 5: had to coldly tell her to not come to the
• 39:26
  Speaker 5: wedding at all and then just hung up.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: Am I the a-hole? Is it just a dress?
• 39:30
  Speaker 5: Relevant comments. Squintin says, not the a-hole. If she had
• 39:33
  Speaker 5: an objection, she had an obligation to bring it up
• 39:36
  Speaker 5: before you paid for a dress. By letting you pay,
• 39:38
  Speaker 5: she agreed to the dress and is unreasonable to object
• 39:41
  Speaker 5: now unless there was some significant issue she was not
• 39:44
  Speaker 5: aware of before. squinting a lawyer holy cow that was
• 39:48
  Speaker 5: well said opie says that and it was the bridesmaids
• 39:51
  Speaker 5: who worked together to pick out the dresses i put
• 39:54
  Speaker 5: down two rules which was one a selection of colors
• 39:58
  Speaker 5: and two floor linked as one of the other bridesmaids
• 40:01
  Speaker 5: has a scar down her leg she wants covered slash
• 40:04
  Speaker 5: winter is very very cold here.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: So she literally picked the dress not only did you
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: get it for her she.
• 40:11
  Speaker 5: Chose it hmm formal fist bump says not the a-hole
• 40:16
  Speaker 5: if she agreed to the dress initially it's crappy of
• 40:19
  Speaker 5: her to change her mind her broke college student argument
• 40:22
  Speaker 5: doesn't hold water given it had already been cheaper for
• 40:25
  Speaker 5: her not to go out and buy a second dress
• 40:28
  Speaker 5: opie says ah the dress she bought was ten dollars
• 40:32
  Speaker 5: so she'd be paying me significantly more than that in
• 40:36
  Speaker 5: order to pay me back that was her argument Formal
• 40:39
  Speaker 5: Flatbump says,' Hold on. You said they were paying you
• 40:42
  Speaker 5: back for the dresses, so why would she need to
• 40:44
  Speaker 5: pay you back? In your original post, it sounds like
• 40:46
  Speaker 5: you were covering the cost of the dresses.' Opie says,' Ah,
• 40:49
  Speaker 5: sorry for the confusion. That is the case, yes. But
• 40:52
  Speaker 5: by the end of the phone call with her and
• 40:53
  Speaker 5: the argument, I initially tried to compromise by having her
• 40:56
  Speaker 5: buy a new dress in at least the right color.
• 41:00
  Speaker 5: And when she said that wasn't an option, I told
• 41:02
  Speaker 5: her she'd either have to pay me back for the
• 41:04
  Speaker 5: dress I bought her or actually wear the proper dress.'
• 41:08
  Speaker 5: Things went steeply downhill from there.
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: Update.
• 41:11
  Speaker 5: So I confronted my maid of honor and you guys
• 41:14
  Speaker 5: were right. There was more to the story.
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: Yum, yum, yum, yum, yum, yum, yum, yum, yum. This
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: is a good one.
• 41:21
  Speaker 5: She sold the dress because she messed up on her
• 41:24
  Speaker 5: student loan application and desperately needed cash. Opie says, I'm
• 41:29
  Speaker 5: not sure how true this is, especially considering I've only
• 41:33
  Speaker 5: seen her posting on social media about a fourth pet
• 41:37
  Speaker 5: she's recently bought. She was very apologetic on the phone,
• 41:40
  Speaker 5: but my trust in her is damaged. I told her
• 41:43
  Speaker 5: as much, and I asked why didn't she ask for help.
• 41:46
  Speaker 5: I'm a little strapped due to the wedding prep. but
• 41:49
  Speaker 5: I could cut corners and would be way more understanding
• 41:53
  Speaker 5: if she had just been up front and not lied
• 41:55
  Speaker 5: and gaslit. Our other friends would have helped where they
• 41:58
  Speaker 5: could as well, as they have helped me in the
• 42:01
  Speaker 5: past when I needed it. Additionally, I told my fiancé
• 42:04
  Speaker 5: what happened, as the maid of honor was a mutual friend,
• 42:06
  Speaker 5: and he outright said that he doesn't want her at
• 42:09
  Speaker 5: the wedding if she is going to be so disrespectful.
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that makes perfect sense.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think the moment that, I guess she didn't
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: wish ill on the relationship, but being like, well, if
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: this is how you are, then it's like your husband's
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: going to leave you.
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: There was no reason for that.
• 42:30
  Speaker 5: Oh my God, I forgot about that comment.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: I don't think you put that genie back in the bottle.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: If it's me, if it's me, I hear that and
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: I'll go, oh, and I'll remember that forever. I'll remember
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: you saying that forever. You can sell your plant. You know,
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: you can sell your pets, right? It's possible.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: It is doable.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: Did you know that Rocky sold his pet? Rocky Balboa?
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: He did? Yeah.
• 42:54
  Speaker 5: Whenever he was making... They were making a movie about.
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: He had to sell his dog?
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 42:58
  Speaker 5: They were making a movie about how the movie Rocky
• 43:00
  Speaker 5: was made.
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: Are you talking about Sylvester Stallone? Yeah, that guy. Sold
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: his actual dog?
• 43:05
  Speaker 5: Mm-hmm.
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: Dang.
• 43:06
  Speaker 5: And then he got famous. Guess how much he had
• 43:08
  Speaker 5: to buy his dog back for?
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: $ 5, 000? $ 5, 000?
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: Oh, $ 10, 000. $ 10, 000. It's going like this. That's 10. I know,
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: but I just, I saw them as each just five.
• 43:23
  Speaker 5: So I relayed this to the maid of honor. The
• 43:27
  Speaker 5: maid of honor didn't take this well. At first, accusing
• 43:31
  Speaker 5: me of babbling and then turning our friendship against her.
• 43:35
  Speaker 5: I then told her, frankly, that due to the vid,
• 43:37
  Speaker 5: my guest list was going to have to be really small.
• 43:40
  Speaker 5: Just a handful of people I love and trust and
• 43:44
  Speaker 5: that she is no longer one of them.
• 43:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: Fair. Very fair.
• 43:49
  Speaker 5: Type one if you think it was the student loans.
• 43:51
  Speaker 5: Type two if you think it was the pets. Want
• 43:52
  Speaker 5: to get everyone's vibe here.
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: Give me three. All of the above.
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, give me three. Take out. Yeah, that's a good point. Yeah.
• 44:01
  Speaker 5: She started to apologize again and I sincerely wish her
• 44:05
  Speaker 5: a nice life and that she treated her future friends better.
• 44:08
  Speaker 5: Then hung up and blocked her. I don't need whatever
• 44:12
  Speaker 5: that was in my wedding or my life. I'm sorry
• 44:15
  Speaker 5: this didn't end on a super positive note, but.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: It is what it is.
• 44:19
  Speaker 5: I feel really just bad right now, but I'm hoping
• 44:22
  Speaker 5: with time the wound will heal. For now, this sucks
• 44:25
  Speaker 5: and I miss my best friend.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it does. Dang. Dang, bro.
• 44:35
  Speaker 5: Oh, the pets, the pets, the pets, the pets. And
• 44:38
  Speaker 5: that's the end of this story. We're going to read
• 44:39
  Speaker 5: the next one.
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: A friend wanted me to document their wedding, but made
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: me beg for communication.
• 44:45
  Speaker 5: Just put like the loading screen.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: I'm a full-time wedding photographer. The bride is someone I've
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: known since high school. We aren't best friends, but she's
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: always referred to me as a friend. And because of that,
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: I put a lot more trust into this arrangement than
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: I would have with a normal client. I was genuinely
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: excited to photograph their destination wedding in August. Looking back,
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: that trust is exactly what got me into trouble, because
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: the way the groom would later speak to me is
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: something I never saw coming.
• 45:15
  Speaker 5: Uh-oh.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: Oh, no. Communication error.
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: Oh. Back in December, we made a verbal agreement. There
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: was never a written contract.
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: Oh, so are you actually a photographer?
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: If you just made a verbal agreement? You didn't photograph
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: that agreement?
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: My understanding was that they would purchase my airfare and
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: cover my accommodations for the two nights I was actually
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: working the wedding. would be staying with the bride's two
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: friends who were supposed to be my travel companions throughout
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: the trip to ease costs for everyone. We were going
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: to be in Italy for about 10 days, so I
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: planned on paying for the remaining eight days as a vacation,
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: splitting lodging with the bride's friend. I was completely happy
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: with that arrangement. Because I committed to this wedding, I
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: blocked those days off on my calendar months in advance
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: and turned away multiple weddings and sessions worth several thousand dollars.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: Oh, because that's peak time, too. Because they're getting married
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: in Italy?
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 46:09
  Speaker 5: That's peak wedding time.
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: Uh-oh.
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: Oh, no. By the way, this comes from Throwaway for Mom,
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: and if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: to the r slash showcase story time, separate it. I'm Sophia.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: I'm Riley.
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do.
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: So let us know what you would do in the comments.
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: OP says, over the following several months, I repeatedly asked
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: for logistics because I needed to plan an international trip.
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: Most of the answers I received were variations of, we're
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: still figuring it out. Then in June, about two months
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: before the wedding, I specifically asked for an itinerary because
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: I still didn't know exactly what I was committing to.
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: That's when everything changed. I received a detailed itinerary, voice memos,
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: and planning documents showing photo shoots, Almost every day of
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: the trip. Some days including multiple shoots. Boat, beach, Vespa,
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: birthday dinner, boudoir, balcony, spaghetti dinner.
• 47:04
  Speaker 4: Yum.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: Oh, it's his boudoir though.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: This is a little bit excessive.
• 47:10
  Speaker 5: Um, I'm sorry. I'm going to Italy with my dream wife.
• 47:14
  Speaker 5: I would like my spaghetti dinner to be photographed.
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: I want someone at my beck and call with the
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: camera everywhere I go.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: How else are we supposed to recreate that? I want
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: you in the back.
• 47:24
  Speaker 4: I want how the Italians call it paparazzi.
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: Paparazzi. How else am I supposed to recreate that scene
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: from that one movie? What movie? Lady and the Tramp.
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: Oh, it continues. Sunrise. Sunset. It suddenly looked like I
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: would be photographing them for the entirety of the trip
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: instead of photographing a wedding during my vacation.
• 47:45
  Speaker 4: Pre-wedding coitus. Post-wedding coitus.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: I want everything. Well, LP, I feel like you could
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: just say, Hey, I only said I'd do this.
• 47:54
  Speaker 4: Sorry.
• 47:55
  Speaker 5: I was planning for this. Unless you can give me
• 47:57
  Speaker 5: 10 more clients, I'm not doing any of this.
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: Unless you can give me 10 grand. I immediately raised concerns.
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: My concern wasn't that I didn't want to photograph those things.
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: I actually told them multiple times I was happy to.
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: My concern was that the arrangement I had agreed to
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: no longer seemed to exist. And this didn't feel fair.
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: Instead of telling me those shoots were optional, they responded
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: by saying they would cover transportation and entry fees for
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: those activities so I could photograph them.
• 48:24
  Speaker 5: I still feel like you're losing money in that arrangement.
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, if OP's spending her vacation time working,
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: that reinforced my understanding that these shoots were expected enough
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: that they were now discussing paying for the costs associated
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: with photographing them. Because of that, I completely changed how
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: I planned the trip. It was no longer my vacation
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: with a wedding in the middle. It had become an
• 48:48
  Speaker 2: international work trip.
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: I've been there. Been there three times.
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: Aww, he's been to Bali.
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: Been there three times, done that.
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: Since my original lodging plan depended on sharing accommodations with
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: two of the bride's friends, the bride introduced all three
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: of us months earlier, and the understanding was that we'd
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: share accommodations and spend our free time together while I
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: wasn't working. One of the friends decided to make the
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: trip with her husband, so it dropped down to just
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: me and the one other friend. Upon receiving this itinerary,
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: the remaining friend realized she would be alone for the
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: majority of the trip. Well, I was with the couple
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: and was unsure if she felt comfortable with that. I
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: specifically asked the couple to keep me updated about her
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: because my planning depended on whether she was still going.
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: What?
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: I was never updated. I, uh, maybe we got to
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: cancel this and then charge them a fee for, you.
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: Know, making me put up with it.
• 49:43
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: I mean, 10, go on a trip. Honestly, use this
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: time to still go on your vacation.
• 49:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: Because you have the time blocked off. You already canceled
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: your other things. Go on that vacation.
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, dude.
• 50:01
  Speaker 5: I know everyone needs vacation. But as a photographer, can
• 50:05
  Speaker 5: you do it during some slow time?
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: Like get a vacation during that time?
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: That's not wedding season.
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: No, my point is that it's too late probably for
• 50:14
  Speaker 2: her to get any of these jobs back.
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: You could get last minute photography sessions for a price.
• 50:21
  Speaker 4: Maybe.
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: I've seen that before.
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: I also think you could just take your vacation.
• 50:26
  Speaker 4: Just be like that one person. There's a lot of
• 50:28
  Speaker 4: people that do it. They just go up to random
• 50:29
  Speaker 4: people and like, can I take just pictures of you? Yeah.
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: Several days ago, after discovering that my travel companion had
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: actually withdrawn weeks earlier without anyone informing me, despite me
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: specifically asking to be kept updated, I reached back out
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: to that couple. I explained that because my travel plans
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: and costs had now changed so significantly, I could no
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: longer afford to move forward under the circumstances as they
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: currently stood. Before making any final decision, I wanted to
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: understand the complete scope of what I was actually committing
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: to so we could determine whether there was still a
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: way to make the arrangement fair for both sides. This
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: is where the pattern that had run through the entire
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: planning process came to a head.
• 51:10
  Speaker 5: They're about to give you every single detail you ever
• 51:12
  Speaker 5: needed in life.
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like, okay, so you're actually going to be
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: here at this time, and then you're going to come
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: to our spaghetti dinner, and we're actually not going to
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: be paying you any of this, and you also have
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: to pay to fly here. Thank you so much.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that's a good point. Please ask for
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: the money up front.
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: Every time I raised concerns or asked for details, the
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: groom pushed me to get on a phone call instead
• 51:37
  Speaker 2: of answering and writing. During those calls, I often felt
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: like I was just given enough information to end the conversation,
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: but many of my questions remained unanswered. And when I
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: followed up afterward by text, they frequently went unaddressed. Eventually,
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: because I couldn't keep track of what had and hadn't
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: been answered, I created a shared notes document. so we
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: could organize everything in one place. Smart. The groom told
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: me he had completed it to the best of his ability,
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: but much of it still consisted of TBD. When I
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: explained that I needed detailed written answers before I could
• 52:10
  Speaker 2: move forward, he insisted I had already been given all
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: of those details months earlier. I did not remember those
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: conversations the same way, and they certainly hadn't left me
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: with enough information to confidently plan an international assignment. At
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: that point, I explained that because we clearly had different
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: understandings of what had previously been discussed, I was no
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: longer comfortable relying on memory or verbal conversations. I wanted
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: everything documented in writing and wanted to draft a new
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: agreement that reflected the assignment as it actually existed now,
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: not the verbal understanding we had reached back in December.
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: They were unwilling to acknowledge that they viewed the scope
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: of the assignment any differently than they had from the beginning.
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: From there, the communication continued to deteriorate. I felt like
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: I was being criticized and honestly insulted for asking the
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: very questions about the itineraries they had sent that I
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: needed answered in order to perform my job. For example,
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: when I asked which shoots were expected on certain days
• 53:08
  Speaker 2: because I needed to plan lodging, transportation, scheduling, and budget,
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: The groom responded by asking if I had big plans
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: those days instead of answering. I repeatedly explained that I
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: wasn't refusing to photograph anything. I simply needed enough information
• 53:23
  Speaker 2: to understand what I was committing to before traveling internationally.
• 53:27
  Speaker 4: I know what I'm just asking this guy. Do you
• 53:29
  Speaker 4: not know? Do you not know? Do you not? I'm
• 53:31
  Speaker 4: literally questioning it. Like, do you not know? Oh, it's
• 53:34
  Speaker 4: to be determined. You don't know.
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: You don't know.
• 53:36
  Speaker 4: You don't know.
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: Are you even getting married? Is your marriage over?
• 53:39
  Speaker 5: Who's your wife?
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: Pointing around, who are you getting married to? I simply
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: needed enough information to understand what I was committing to
• 53:45
  Speaker 2: before traveling internationally. As these conversations continued, I told the
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: groom I was becoming uncomfortable with his tone, and I
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: never felt those concerns were acknowledged. I also felt there
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: were repeated implications that they were somehow doing me a
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: favor by bringing me, despite the fact that I had
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: turned away thousands of dollars in work and had already
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: spent my own money planning around our original agreement. Today,
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: after I took about 24 hours to process another passive-aggressive message,
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: I was told my lack of communication was becoming a
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: serious concern because the wedding was only a month away.
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: From my perspective, I had spent months waiting for answers
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: I needed in order to plan. Even during our final conversations,
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: new information kept appearing. For the first time today, I
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: learned they apparently had a wedding planner coordinating transportation and
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: a private driver. Things that had never been mentioned despite
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: months of me asking logistical questions. Another proposed solution to
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: my lodging concern was that I simply stay with the
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: groom's parents. Weird. I explained that I wasn't comfortable traveling
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: internationally for work and relying on staying with people I'd
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: never met. And he insisted there was zero difference between
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: staying with his parents and a peer my age I
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: had just spent months planning with. At that point, I
• 54:59
  Speaker 2: realized the problem wasn't just the itinerary anymore. I no
• 55:03
  Speaker 2: longer trusted that we were operating under the same understanding.
• 55:07
  Speaker 2: And I no longer felt comfortable traveling internationally where I'd
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: be relying on them for communication purposes. transportation, and logistics.
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: Above anything else, given the way the groom had spoken
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: to me, I no longer felt safe being alone in
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: a different country with this man. I withdrew from photographing
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: the wedding. Since withdrawing, they've asked me to reimburse them
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: for the airfare they purchased and accommodation expenses. Before making
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: this post, I contacted United myself to understand exactly what
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: the options were. United told me the ticket was purchased
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: as a basic economy fare without the additional flexibility that
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: would have allowed them to pursue a refund. They explained
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: that the ticket is non-refundable and that any remaining value
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: after cancellation would only exist as a non-transferable flight credit
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: in my name because the ticket was issued to me.
• 55:54
  Speaker 5: It's nice they still bought the flight.
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: Well, that's the only thing they bought, though.
• 55:58
  Speaker 5: And they haven't paid her for her work yet or put.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: It down in a deposit.
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: No, I mean.
• 56:03
  Speaker 5: I feel like they're trying to do a quick one
• 56:04
  Speaker 5: on her.
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like the real issue is just that
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: they aren't telling OP anything.
• 56:09
  Speaker 4: I wouldn't trust it.
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: That she needs to know.
• 56:10
  Speaker 4: I wouldn't trust any of this. I just like, why
• 56:15
  Speaker 4: is it so shady?
• 56:16
  Speaker 5: Yeah, Holly Fraser says there isn't a contract. They can't
• 56:19
  Speaker 5: ask for anything. They shot themselves in the foot.
• 56:22
  Speaker 2: They cannot ask for anything. And I still think you
• 56:25
  Speaker 2: should go to Italy. We've got a little bit left
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: of the story. I have no interest in keeping or
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: using that credit if the flight is canceled. But according
• 56:33
  Speaker 2: to United, it also cannot simply be transferred back to
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: the purchaser. They're also asking me to reimburse them for
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: the Airbnb accommodations that were originally booked for me and
• 56:43
  Speaker 2: the two other travelers I was supposed to be staying with.
• 56:46
  Speaker 2: To my knowledge, and I've asked, neither of those guests
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: have been asked to reimburse anything after changing their plans,
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: which has left me confused as to why I'm being
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: asked to cover those accommodation costs. I've been doing this
• 56:59
  Speaker 2: for almost 10 years and I have never gotten to
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: a point where I've had to withdraw myself from any
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: photo shoot, let alone a wedding, let alone a month out.
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: And I have never been spoken to or treated the
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: way I was by the groom. Am I the a-hole
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: for backing out and refusing to reimburse them? And that's
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: the end of the story.
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: Our friend claimed she knew my boyfriend better, so I
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: cut her out.
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: Prove it!
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: At the end of the month, to my boyfriend's 30-male birthday, I,
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: female 27, planned a dinner with some friends to celebrate.
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: I am a very artistic person and have decided to
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: sculpt him a realistic heart as his birthday present. For
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: some context, my boyfriend spent most of his 20s in
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: the hospital. He was extremely sick and had to have
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: open heart surgery.
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: Okay, so it's a little on the nose.
• 57:49
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: Kind of like an inside joke.
• 57:51
  Speaker 4: It's like proof that Tony Stank has a heart.
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Thankfully, he's doing much better now, but I understand
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: that was a major part of his life, and that's
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: why I want to incorporate it into his present. A
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: few days ago, I told this to a mutual friend, Claudia.
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: I could tell she wasn't a fan of the idea
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: straight away. After some coaxing, Claudia said that it's insensitive
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: to bring up his heart issues on his birthday. I
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: think it's actually a good thing to do because I'm
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: showing him that no matter what he may face, I
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: love him. The sculpture also has a deeper meaning of
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: me not just giving him a literal sculpture of a heart,
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: but a metaphor for me giving him my heart.
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: Aww, double meaning all the way.
• 58:31
  Speaker 4: Proof that OP has heart.
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, I feel like you could just say, okay, like,
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: you know, I'll bear the brunt of the, I'll deal
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: with him if he's upset by it.
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: It just feels like a step removed from being like, hey,
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: my friend who's an amputee, I got you a leg.
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: I think it's a little weird, but I also think.
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: Well, I guess you could get a leg.
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: I think OP can just tell the friend, yeah, I'll
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: deal with it if he doesn't like it.
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: That is fair. By the way, this comes from a
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: deleted user. If you want to submit your own stories,
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: go to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia.
• 59:09
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: And if you have a heart, you'll stay and listen
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: to us read this story. If you don't, you should
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: go to the hospital.
• 59:16
  Speaker 4: Or are you soulless? Huh? Or do they not have
• 59:19
  Speaker 4: a soul?
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: Hmm.
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: You should go to the church then, I guess.
• 59:24
  Speaker 4: Are they a heartless?
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: Look, all I know is you should comment what you
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: would do.
• 59:27
  Speaker 4: Okay? Okay.
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: Heart op says claudia thinks that because i didn't know
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: my boyfriend while he was going through this and she
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: did that she has a better understanding of what my
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: boyfriend will think of the present obviously i disagree we
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: were going around in circles both of us were getting
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: frustrated and she wasn't budging on her stance so eventually
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: i said it's probably not a good idea for her
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: to attend the dinner i don't want her negative opinion
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: on my gift to ruin the mood of the dinner
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: or upset my boyfriend Claudia was in shock and had
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: some choice words, but left after that. My boyfriend brought
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: it up today that Claudia said she isn't allowed to
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: go to his birthday dinner and that when he asked why,
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: she told him to ask me. Obviously, I didn't tell
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: him because that would spoil the surprise of what his
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: present is, so I tried to downplay it. I know
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: this will all come out eventually and that I will
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: have to face Claudia again at some point, probably in
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: front of our friends. So before that confrontation happens, I
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: want to know, am I wrong?
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  Speaker 2: Like, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You were both wrong, but you were more wrong.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah, if it was your birthday, sure.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you were both in the wrong for
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: having that very silly fight, but I think you don't
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 2: really have the power to uninvite her from her friend's party.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: Were you in charge of the guest list?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. And even if you were in charge
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  Speaker 2: of the guest list, it's not your party. It's your
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: boyfriend's party. Yeah.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: I don't know. There is an update. Okay. I have
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: apologized to Claudia over the phone and re-invited her to
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 1: the dinner. I think I let my own insecurities overshadow
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: the disagreement, and that's why I opted to uninvite her.
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: A bad decision on my behalf. She accepted the invite
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  Speaker 1: and apology. Claudia asked again about the present, and I
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: told her it's not something for her to worry about,
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  Speaker 1: which I think is a fair statement to make.
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  Speaker 2: Perfect. Yes.
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  Speaker 1: As many of you suggested, I also went into more
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: detail and told my boyfriend that Claudia and I argued
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  Speaker 1: over his birthday present. I didn't tell him what it
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: was exactly, but told him Claudia didn't think it was
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: a good present. I disagreed, and about the argument that followed.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: He was very understanding, but wants to know more. Obviously,
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  Speaker 1: I can't tell him too much, because that would ruin
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  Speaker 1: the surprise of what the present is. Also, a few
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: of you thought I was going to give him the
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: heart sculpture during the dinner, which I was never going
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: to do. I'm planning on giving it to him beforehand,
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: but I know it will be brought up during the
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: dinner and I feared that it being a topic of
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: conversation would give Claudia the opportunity to voice her opinion
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  Speaker 1: on it. Afterwards, I asked my boyfriend what he thought
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: of a present that revolved around his health. He's very
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: good humored and asked if I was searching the black
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 1: market for a new heart for him. He is apprehensive
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: about it, but I think that's because he's scared I'm
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: going to sign him up for some fitness regimen or
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: book him a scan for his birthday. I'm going ahead
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  Speaker 1: with my sculpture as I think it will be a
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: nice surprise as well as my original reason. And there's
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: another update. Oh boy, did he like it?
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: I need to know. I need to know if it
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: was a fake like. I need to know if he
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 2: was like, oh.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: Nah, he liked it.
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  Speaker 4: He liked it.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: We gotta know.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: If he's making a joke about black market hearts, he
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: liked it.
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  Speaker 4: Here we go. This is a heartless right here.
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  Speaker 2: Let's freaking find out.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 4: That's not it. Never mind. Whoops.
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: Oh wait, yeah. I want to see the stuff Alvin
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: sent in about Uma Thurman.
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  Speaker 4: Excuse me? Um.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Uma Thurman. Update two. A few people wanted me
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: to update after my boyfriend's birthday, so here. As many
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: of you left some nasty, although well-deserved in some cases, admittedly, comments,
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: I was pretty upset in the days leading up to
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: his birthday. My boyfriend saw how upset I was, and
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: so I explained the entire situation to him. I told
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: him about the sculpture, the full extent of my argument
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: with Claudia, and I even showed him my post on here.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: He was quiet while I was showing him your comments,
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: but he was never angry at me or anything like that.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: He was neutral until he knew everything. Afterwards, I gave
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: him the sculpture. He took a lot of time looking
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: at it, and I explained the meaning behind it so
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: he would understand that my intentions were pure. He did
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: joke that I could have shown him that I love
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: him by buying him a PlayStation 5 instead of sculpting
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: a realistic heart. But he was actually very appreciative of
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: the amount of work and effort I put into it.
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 4: That's pretty funny.
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: It is, but also... I.
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 4: Don't think he liked it.
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 2: I don't think he liked it.
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 4: He didn't like it.
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 2: Oh, it's tough when the body is right.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: But it's lame. That's lame. That's lame to be like,
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  Speaker 1: you could have got me a PS5. It's like, ah.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: Come on. She sculpted a heart. She sculpted a heart
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: with her bare hands.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 4: Okay. He probably wanted a heartless, like, you know, from
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 4: Kingdom Hearts.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 4: Especially if he's a PlayStation guy.
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah.
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: Rate that guy, Sophia.
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: Out of what?
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: Out of 10.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: For what?
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: Just rate him out of 10. For what? Just in general.
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 2: What am I rating him on a scale of?
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: Just on a scale of 1 to 10.
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: I don't know, but like why?
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: 10 being the best, 1 being the worst.
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Like attractiveness?
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 4: Just scale. 1 to 10.
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: 1 to 10. 3.
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 4: Thank you. I appreciate that. Neither do I.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: He wasn't exactly thrilled with it. But he was very complimentary,
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: so I'll take that as a win. I should mention
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: that this all happened the day before his birthday. So no,
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: I did not bring the sculpture to his birthday dinner
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 1: and unveil it there like many of you presumed. Just
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: a note, I never said I was going to do that. Also,
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 1: I got him AirPods, too. So the sculpture wasn't the
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 1: only gift he got from me.
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: Thank God. Oh, boy. Yeah, I'm sorry, OP. Of course
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: he was complimentary. Well, Pete cried about it. If he
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 2: said anything else, he's a bad guy. Not cool. She's upset.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: She's scared. She wants you to like him. Of course
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: he's going to say something nice. I'm glad you got AirPods, though.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a good backup. Good backup. Good backup.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: I remember when they had cords. Yeah. The dinner went
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 1: off without a hitch. On our way over to the restaurant,
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 1: my boyfriend asked if I was going to apologize to
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: Claudia in person, which I did immediately upon arriving. She
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: was fine with it and made no issue and said
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 1: she was actually glad that I felt as though I
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: could tell her about the sculpture in the first place.
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: A lot of you accused me of having a problem
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: with Claudia, and after some reflecting, I do think I'm
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: insecure about certain aspects of her friendship with my boyfriend.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 1: This is something I'll work on going forward. We've got
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 1: a little bit more here. I don't hear any wedding bells,
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 1: you know? Yeah.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: Like, you don't think this is going to continue? You
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 2: don't think this is going to last? At some point.
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: You get the giant ceramic heart, and he goes, oh,
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: he got me a PlayStation. I don't think he's, I
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 1: don't think y'all are on the same vibration.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 1: The sculpture was not mentioned at the dinner, nor did
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: I bring it up. In the end, Claudia and my
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 1: boyfriend walked out together to presumably talk about it, and
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 1: then I walked out with some others because I'm not
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: actually a controlling or horrible girlfriend, and I have no
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: problem giving them their space. Before we left, they hugged
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: and he thanked her. Before you start, he thanked everyone
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 1: for attending. So this wasn't out of the ordinary.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 4: So he's just a human being, okay?
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 4: Thank you. Thank you.
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: We both went to the cinema together and it was
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: a happy ending.
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: And just to add, I will be taking on a
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: lot of your feedback in my previous two posts. And
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: I'll be trying to better myself and be more considerate
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 1: in the future.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 2: All right, all right.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: And that The end of that story.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 4: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fake redhead host here.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 2: And we're going to get back to the stories. But
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 2: here's a three minute ad break from our sponsors. I
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 2: bought slippers for my guests to wear, but my friend
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 2: took them home.
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 1: Those are for guests.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 2: So I recently decided to purchase several pairs of slippers
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: to let guests borrow when they visit my home so
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: they don't have to walk around with bare feet or socks.
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 2: Growing up with a Chinese mother, it was super common
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: for friends and family to offer us slippers any time
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: we visited their homes. As in the culture, it's common
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: courtesy to never wear your shoes indoors. I enforce the
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 2: no shoes rule very strongly in my home as I
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: hate the idea of having outside dirt and germs spread
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 2: all over my floors and carpet. I understand you.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 1: She really does.
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 2: So I bought a bunch of slippers to elevate the
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: experience of guests in my home and make them feel
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 2: more welcome and comfortable. I guess I have to start
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 2: doing that. I also did this because my partner's mom
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 2: visited our home recently and she absolutely refused to not
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: wear shoes with the rationale that it causes arthritis or something.
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 2: Hmm. Okay, whatever makes her comfortable. But I was quite
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 2: annoyed every time I saw her wearing her outdoor shoes
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 2: in my kitchen. Hence, guest slippers were purchased. By the way,
• 1:08:26
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• 1:08:28
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• 1:08:30
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• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice, but we don't
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: have all the answers. So put your answers below. And
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: Opie says... Anywho, more recently, we had a friend stop
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: by for a few hours. Upon his arrival, my partner
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: brought out a pair of slippers and offered them to
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: our guest, saying something along the lines of, here, these
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 2: are for you to wear. As he was removing his shoes,
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 2: our guest said, oh, for me? And my partner replied
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 2: something like, yeah, these are for wearing around our home.
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: Our guest thanked him and said he would leave them
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 2: by the door. Okay, so he knew that he was
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 2: supposed to leave them. Because I thought maybe he just
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 2: didn't know, but he knew.
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 1: I'll leave them by the door can only mean one thing.
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 2: Which should have been our first hint. Anyway, our guest
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 2: stayed for a while and then eventually had to leave.
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 2: Upon leaving, he saw the slippers by the door and
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: said to me, Oh, yeah, your partner said I could
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 2: have these, right? To which I replied, well, they're actually
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: meant for guests to wear inside. And our guest said, yeah, yeah,
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 2: I really appreciate this. It's a sweet gift. So I
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 2: tried to re-explain it to him, saying, no, no, these
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 2: are meant to stay here. While pointing at the ground
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 2: in my home, we bought these slippers for guests to
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 2: wear inside here. My guest replied, well, yeah, I'm not
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 2: going to wear them out running or anything like that.
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 2: So thank you. It's a really thoughtful gift. They're quite comfy.
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: Where are my keys? If I had my keys, I'd
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 1: go jingle, jangle, jingle, jangle, listen, jingle, jangle, listen. The
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: shoes stay in my house. The slippers are yours. They
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 1: live here. Jingle, jangle. Pay attention. The shoes stay here.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 4: Slippers.
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it really feels like this person's quite stupid. But
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: we've got a little bit left to this story. I
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 2: truly don't understand. Are they trying to be funny?
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: Like, if you somehow allowed that guy to walk out
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 1: of the house with the slippers, that's your fault.
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 2: That's your fault.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: Fully your fault.
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: And so for the last time, I tried to explain,
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 2: saying something like, no, these are for our guests who
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 2: wear inside. They are meant to stay here. But once again,
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 2: my guests seemed exasperated about how concerned I was about
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 2: him wearing them outdoors and said, yeah, yeah, don't worry.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: I know how to.
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 2: Decide which shoes to wear or something along those lines.
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 2: And he once again thanked me for the thoughtful gift
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 2: and he reached out for a hug to say goodbye.
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 2: At this point, I just gave up and said, You're welcome.
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 2: And let him have the slippers. They were like $ 20 anyway.
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 2: Lesson learned. Not everyone grew up in slipper culture, and
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 2: it's harder to explain than I originally thought it would be. No,
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 2: like genuinely, this person has never heard words before.
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: It's not too hard to explain. You go, hey.
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 2: You leave those here. Those are mine.
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: You're not taking the shoes home. I know you know
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: how to wear shoes. And that's when I would get
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: annoying back when he went, I know how to put
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 1: on the right pair of shoes.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 4: I go, great.
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 1: I was worried you were a complete idiot because you're
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 1: not hearing me. The slippers stay here in my house
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 1: because they're for me.
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 4: They're for the house.
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 1: They're for you when you're here.
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 2: Well, I think that we take all of that out.
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 2: I think we start saying, these are not a gift.
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 2: You were borrowing them. These are my slippers.
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it was time for you to go, no,
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 1: those aren't yours.
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you go, no, those aren't yours.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: You're my husband misspoke. Those aren't yours. Do not take those.
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 2: Those are my slippers.
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 1: Don't take those. They're not yours.
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 2: I let you borrow them. Now you leave and you
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 2: leave the slippers here. And that's how you say.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 3: It.
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 2: But anyway, that's the end of that story, folks.