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Happiness is a string of happy moments and thoughts. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So let me ask you a question. What do you believe happinesses?
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  If I asked you to define happiness, what would you come
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  up with? Have you ever actually sat and
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  thought about it? Have you ever actually said to
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  yourself? Well, how do I personally define
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  happiness? I think this question is
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  critical to our well-being, because if we don't define
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  happiness and we don't put ourselves in a position of
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  regularly examining how we do this, what ends up happening Is
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  we start to focus on as human beings?
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  We all do it anyway, focus on what's wrong.
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  And we say, well, I'm not happy because there's something that
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  makes us unhappy or irritates us and then we end up going to a
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  position of being unhappy in the world and I don't think that's
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  necessary because is anybody ever happy thousand percent of
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  the time? Well, at depends on how you
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  define it and it everybody's got individual ways that they
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  Through this and I think that we're not taught this when we're
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  little I know we're not taught this one more little and I think
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  that telling someone to just be happy is frustrating especially
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  if you are unhappy. The last thing you want is
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  someone to walk up to you and say we'll just be happy because
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  if I knew how to be happy don't you think?
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  I would be happy but I'm not happy.
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  So therefore I am in this state of despair and discussed about
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  myself because I just can't do it but you're saying so I
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  thought it would be an Interesting, you know, jumping
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  off point for us, if you will to look at how you personally
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  defined happiness, and tell you how I look at this in my own
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  world, because I've gone through this multiple times in my life
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  different points in time and read endless numbers of content
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  on this. And I find it really fascinating
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  how certain people tell you to do things and don't understand
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  where you are, where you're beginning and what's going And I
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  don't want to do that to you guys ever.
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  So I'm going to give you some thoughts on how I do it and you
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  can see if this works for you because I personally don't
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  believe that we were meant to be happy all the time.
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  That does not mean we were meant to be miserable as well.
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  I believe emotions are a guidance system and I believe
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  that they are here to give us information and what we do with
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  it pulls us back. So we are supposed to be on a
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  course in our lives. Overall our course is like if
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  you were Thinking of it in terms of taking a trip, you are going
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  to go from Boston to La, let's say and there's an intention to
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  get on that plane and fly but the whole time you're flying of
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  course. Everything has to be redirected
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  because of weather and conditions and all these other
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  things that take place and there's constant Corrections.
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  Well, that's just like our life, right?
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  We're supposed to, you know, work on seeing what makes us
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  Thrive, what gives us passion if you will or gives us You know,
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  that feeling of I'm doing well and as we're on that course,
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  happiness is part of it Dalai Lama says, the purpose of life
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  is to be happy. And I believe that, I believe
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  the purpose that we are here is to find our version of happy and
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  to work into that every single day finding your version of
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  happy. However you know because we're
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  human beings and because things happen and because we develop
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  with resistance, the more things that it show up in our lives
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  that helped shape us, whether they're positive - doesn't
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  matter. We develop with resistance and
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  we resist things naturally as human beings.
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  It's crazy how we do it, but we just do it.
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  And will often say, wow, this started out it was a really
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  crappy situation, but now I can see the benefits of it, but in
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  the beginning, we resisted it, it's just our nature to be more
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  cautious on them. But for me, happiness is
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  something that I work towards Every single day.
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  Am I happy? One thousand percent of the
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  time? No, that would be silly and I
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  would never say that. That's the truth.
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  But what I do look for is stringing happy moments together
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  and remembering those happy moments because when I can
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  string them together throughout a day throughout a week, a month
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  and capture things like that, then I can look back and say,
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  wow, I actually do have Happy things happening.
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  Even if bad things happen, and it doesn't matter who you are,
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  it doesn't matter what, you know, abouty you have in your
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  life, you're going to have things.
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  That happen that aren't fun, that aren't good, and that's
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  okay. It's totally okay.
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  Because that's the Human Condition.
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  That's what we do. And, you know, we all figure out
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  our way through it one way or another, but stringing, these
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  happy events together is a process of Training your brain
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  to look for them in the first place.
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  So you can start to say, okay, these micro happy events, as I
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  like to call them, these tiny things that happen, you know,
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  your dog is out on a walk with you and your dog happens to look
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  up at you while you're walking because your dog is just here to
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  remind you of how much you're loved.
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  I mean, I'm convinced of that. Dogs are here to remind us.
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  How much we are loved. You're walking, your dog looks
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  up at you. That's a happy moment.
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  You know, you're getting Additional love in that moment
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  and you might not get any other unconditional love in the day,
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  but from that dog, in that moment, he gave it to you.
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  Did you even notice? Well, that's a question.
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  Did you notice? I tend to use my camera, those
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  of you who are regulars and listeners, know that I do this,
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  I tend to use my camera to take pictures of little things that I
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  find that are my happy moments. Flowers, butterflies, walking
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  around things that are cool pictures angles of trees
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  architecture. ER, anything during my day and I
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  legitimately have way too many photos in my iPhoto.
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  My husband would be the first one to tell you this, but they
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  are for me the road map of. Did I find anything?
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  You know, visually today that brought me those little moments
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  of joy and I do it every day and that's why you're hearing me out
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  in the chicken coop because they bring me so much joy.
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  You know, I brought them out this morning, bananas and
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  shredded zucchini. And you should have seen how
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  excited they were. They were just going crazy and I
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  know That's a joy for them. So I bring that to them and it
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  brings me joy and happiness and I can string that moment
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  together and at the end of the day, I have all these moments I
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  can refer back to that say wow today I strung a nice thread of
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  happy moments and I don't have to focus on the fact that it has
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  to be 24/7 because that's ridiculous.
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  It's the beginning of the school year.
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  I know I'm going to have resistance and have things that
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  show up with my son. Because o back to school, right?
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  That's going to happen. For those of us that have kids
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  that are back in school, some of them are excited, but the
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  majority of them are like, well, I don't want to do this and it's
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  okay because we're going to work our way through it, and we will
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  find happy things, and I will say to him, tell me, something
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  happy that happened today. Tell me something great that
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  happened today. Give me those little threads so
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  that I can start to weave something that puts people in a
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  better place. I'm putting myself in a better
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  place so your challenge is going to be to go out and start to
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  string together. Some happy thoughts, happy
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  moments, happy recognitions. Just those little tiny droplets
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  and remember, don't fall yourself for not being happy all
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  the time because nobody is and if they're telling you, that
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  they're full of shit because they're not and it's okay.
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  What we want to do is just constantly navigate Elves back
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  to a place where we're neutral and where we can take in and
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  where we can notice. And when we can be at peace and
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  centered and choose happiness throughout it.
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  Now, do I believe the purpose of life is to be happy?
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  Yes, I do. Because I think that, why would
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  anybody want to do anything? But that, but that is a process
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  that you have to work at and work at it and work at it and
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  work at. So go string, some happy
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  thoughts. Us together today.
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  Go find some happy moments and I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Bye.