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Wake Up and Get After It: Positive Thinking Starts Now · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: It's so easy to get lost in the fog of life.
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  Speaker 1: Tragedy hunts us all, and any event that causes suffering
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  Speaker 1: will linger longer than it.
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  Speaker 2: Should if you let it.
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  Speaker 1: Because our sad stories enable us to grade ourselves on
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  Speaker 1: a forgiving curve.
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  Speaker 2: They give us latitude and justification to.
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  Speaker 1: Stay lazy, weak minded mother, and the longer it takes
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  Speaker 1: for us to process that pain, the harder it is
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  Speaker 1: to reclaim our lives.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes weakness and laziness.
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  Speaker 1: Are rooted in hate and anger, and until we receive
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  Speaker 1: the confession, apology, or compensation we believe we are owed,
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  Speaker 1: we stay stuck in as a form of self righteous
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  Speaker 1: rebellion against our tormentors or even against life itself.
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  Speaker 2: Some of us become entitled.
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  Speaker 1: We think our pain entitles us to feel sorry for ourselves,
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  Speaker 1: or that we are entitled to good fortune because we've
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  Speaker 1: survived hell.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, feeling and title doesn't make it so.
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  Speaker 1: Understand the clock is always ticking, and at some point
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  Speaker 1: your golden hour will expire unless you take action. People
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  Speaker 1: who get lost in their past, the ones who bore
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  Speaker 1: their friends and family with the same tragic story over
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  Speaker 1: and over without showing a hint of progress remind me
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  Speaker 1: of a skydiver who becomes too fixated on their tangled parachute.
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  Speaker 1: They know they have a backup ready to go, but
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  Speaker 1: burn so much time trying to fix the primary chew
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  Speaker 1: that they forget to track their altimeter, and by the
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  Speaker 1: time they cut the first chewed away and pull the
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  Speaker 1: second rip chord, it's too late. Part of the problem
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  Speaker 1: is that they have become terrified of pulling that second cord,
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  Speaker 1: because if it's also fed up, then they truly will
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  Speaker 1: be helpless.
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  Speaker 2: That is a mental trap set by fear.
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  Speaker 1: We cannot afford to remain afraid of cutting away dead
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  Speaker 1: weight to save ourselves. I was that skydiver for far
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  Speaker 1: too long. My father was violent, my mom was broken.
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  Speaker 1: I was bullied, laughed at, and misunderstood.
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  Speaker 2: Check check and checkmate.
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  Speaker 1: And yet I was breathing free and I was not
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  Speaker 1: bleeding physically. I was alive and well and perfectly capable
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  Speaker 1: of cutting all of that bullshit away.
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  Speaker 2: I'd wasted way too much of my life telling myself
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  Speaker 2: the same sad story. I needed to move forward.
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  Speaker 1: It was time to write something new. If an act
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  Speaker 1: of God or nature tore your life apart, the good
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  Speaker 1: news is that you really have nobody to blame, Yet
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  Speaker 1: the randomness of it all can feel so personal, as
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  Speaker 1: if you've been marked for doom by the fates. If
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  Speaker 1: you feel wrong by somebody else, you may be waiting
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  Speaker 1: on a confession or an.
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  Speaker 2: Apology in order to move forward.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm sorry to say the apology that tearful confession
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  Speaker 1: you've been dreaming of.
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  Speaker 2: Will never come.
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  Speaker 1: The good news is you don't need anybody else to
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  Speaker 1: free you from your trauma.
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  Speaker 2: You can do it on your own.
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  Speaker 1: My father never apologized to me. Nobody ever said sorry
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  Speaker 1: for anything I went through. I had to come to
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  Speaker 1: the conclusion that while I didn't deserve any of it,
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  Speaker 1: I was my main problem and primary obstacle. I'd given
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  Speaker 1: Trunnis Goggins all of my power. I had to take
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  Speaker 1: it back. I had to diffuse my demon. I had
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  Speaker 1: to shrink him down to the lowly pathetic figure he
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  Speaker 1: was by humanizing him. Just as there was no other
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  Speaker 1: way to come out of the gauntlet that was my
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  Speaker 1: childhood except stup I had to say see that he
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  Speaker 1: was a mortally fed up piece of shit because of
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  Speaker 1: what he went through. Once I understood that it was
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  Speaker 1: up to me to either do the hard work to
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  Speaker 1: break that cycle or stay cursed. Like medics on the
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  Speaker 1: scene of a car accident. We all must act with
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  Speaker 1: a sense of urgency and tune into that ticking clock
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  Speaker 1: in the back of our minds, because there is a
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  Speaker 1: drop dead time on everything we do in life. All
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  Speaker 1: our dreams and visions come with expiration dates etched an
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  Speaker 1: invisible ink. Windows of opportunity can and do close, so
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  Speaker 1: it is imperative that.
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  Speaker 2: We do not waste time on bullshit.
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  Speaker 1: None of us have any clue what's coming for us
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  Speaker 1: or when our time might run out, which is why
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  Speaker 1: I do my best.
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  Speaker 2: To ignore anything that is counterproductive.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not suggesting we act like robots, but we need
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  Speaker 1: to understand that forward motion gives our lives momentum. We
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  Speaker 1: need to remember that sometimes chaos will descend in a
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  Speaker 1: clear highway, can be wiped out by a flash flood
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  Speaker 1: in the blink of an eye. When that happens, a
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  Speaker 1: lot of mothers look for a cozy place to hunker
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  Speaker 1: down and hide out until the storm passes. I'm only human,
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  Speaker 1: they say. When Holy Hell rains down upon them and
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  Speaker 1: they feel drained and powerless, they cannot conceive of a
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  Speaker 1: way to keep going. I understand that impulse, but if
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  Speaker 1: I had succumbed to thee I'm only human mentality, I
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  Speaker 1: never would have dug myself out of the deep hole
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  Speaker 1: I was in at twenty four years old, because the
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  Speaker 1: second you utter those words, the white towel is fluttering
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  Speaker 1: in the air, and your mind stops looking for more fuel.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know for sure if I'd ever find my
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  Speaker 1: way out of the darkness. I just knew that I
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  Speaker 1: could not throw in the towel, and neither can you,
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  Speaker 1: because there is no towel in our corner. There is
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  Speaker 1: only water and a cut man. And if those are
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  Speaker 1: your only options, I have no choice but to keep
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  Speaker 1: fighting until you overcome every last thing that once held
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  Speaker 1: you the back. You have been preoccupied by bullshit for
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  Speaker 1: way too long. It's time to switch your focus to
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  Speaker 1: the things that will slingshot you forward. Mediocrity is everywhere
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  Speaker 1: right now, and we're all trying to find an easy
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  Speaker 1: way out, and we're judging ourselves. Let's say there's ten
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  Speaker 1: people in this room and we're all mediocre.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm the.
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  Speaker 1: Best of the mediocre people. I now think I'm great.
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  Speaker 1: I'm great. We surround ourselves around people that make us
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  Speaker 1: feel great. They tell us what we want to hear.
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  Speaker 1: The second we put ourselves amongst the uncommon people. We
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  Speaker 1: don't like that feeling, that challenge.
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  Speaker 2: And feeling of that person's making at three thirty the
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  Speaker 2: morning and say.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, push yourself, we're going for a run. We don't
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  Speaker 1: like that challenge. We like that person who says, hey,
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  Speaker 1: you know, man, I don't feel good today.
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  Speaker 2: Man, and they.
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  Speaker 1: Say, oh, it's okay, brother, let's take a day off.
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  Speaker 2: May we get a pizza and watch the game? We
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  Speaker 2: like that. We love that feeling. Why because you understand
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  Speaker 2: that we're good. Bro.
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  Speaker 1: We don't want that like this, Hey man, no bro,
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  Speaker 1: get your fish on. Man, stop being a punk. We
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  Speaker 1: don't want in our lives. We don't want that person
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  Speaker 1: who's constantly challenging our weaknesses. We want that person's constantly,
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  Speaker 1: you know, making us feel nice and good and securing
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  Speaker 1: ours that's.
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  Speaker 2: The mediocrity of life.
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  Speaker 1: We want to be the best amongst the average people.
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  Speaker 1: People wonder how do you stay hungry all the time?
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  Speaker 1: Because after I accomplished something, I don't sit back like
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  Speaker 1: a lot of guys who graduate, budds graduate this graduate
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  Speaker 1: that they get comfortable. They wonder why I'm getting weak?
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  Speaker 2: Man, I don't know. I've lost my edge. What's going on?
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  Speaker 1: Because once you hit the top of the mountain, guess
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  Speaker 1: what happened.
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  Speaker 2: I'm good. I'm good.
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  Speaker 1: So you wonder why you're falling down now because once
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  Speaker 1: we top of the mountain, you got built of another one.
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  Speaker 1: That's mediocrity. There's a lot of people in mediocrity who
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  Speaker 1: have a nice resident but they're one timers. Man.
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  Speaker 2: They hit a one time.
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  Speaker 1: Deal, they busted it open, got a lot of money,
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  Speaker 1: but they're good.
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  Speaker 2: You're a mediocre now, man, what.
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  Speaker 1: Are you doing today, tomorrow, the next day. That's why
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  Speaker 1: I'm listening to theorists. I don't listen to all that bulls.
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  Speaker 1: I listened to who's like this man, what's wrong? Man? Tired? Dude?
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  Speaker 1: Why are you tired?
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  Speaker 2: Because tomorrow I gotta do the again. Man.
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  Speaker 1: Whatever it is that made me nauseous and sick to
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  Speaker 1: my stomach, it made me hurt, there's no ending. And
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  Speaker 1: that's the person I listen to. That's the person who's
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  Speaker 1: gained knowledge. You're gain knowledge through suffering, and on the
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  Speaker 1: other end of suffering is a world that very few,
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  Speaker 1: very few have ever seen. It's a beautiful world because
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  Speaker 1: that's where you find yourself. You don't find yourself in
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  Speaker 1: over here, you find yourself on the other end. One
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  Speaker 1: hundred mile race ills On, I ran it for twenty
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  Speaker 1: four hours. I found myself on the other end of
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  Speaker 1: that race.
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  Speaker 2: That nineteen hours I found.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, there's a whole nother world out here that have
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  Speaker 1: never even sought that. The world's in your mind. And
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  Speaker 1: that's what all that mediocrity is about. Mediocrety is contagious.
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  Speaker 1: Knowledge has to be improved, challenged, and increased constantly or
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  Speaker 1: it vanishes. Just like knowledge, you can't take self discipline
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  Speaker 1: for granted. Unfortunately, being a self disciplined person isn't a
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  Speaker 1: one and done kind of thing.
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  Speaker 2: Once you have learned how to.
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  Speaker 1: Live that way, you can still lose it if you
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  Speaker 1: don't consistently strengthen it by setting new challenges and rejecting
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  Speaker 1: instant gratification in favor of bigger future rewards.
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  Speaker 2: Never assume that you're disciplined enough. There's always a new
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  Speaker 2: area in which you.
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  Speaker 1: Can improve your self control and further expand.
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  Speaker 2: Your comfort zone.
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  Speaker 1: For example, regular exercise poses no challenge for myself discipline.
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  Speaker 1: In order to strengthen it, I need to set bigger
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  Speaker 1: and bigger exercise related challenges for myself.
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  Speaker 2: Instead of focusing on fitness, I can also find.
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  Speaker 1: A new area in which my discipline is lacking, such
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  Speaker 1: as developing more patience when dealing with other people, and
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  Speaker 1: focus on improving it until it's no longer a test
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  Speaker 1: for my resolve. Such consistent practice ensures that you're at
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  Speaker 1: least maintaining your level of self control and ideally always
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  Speaker 1: getting better at it. Hold yourself responsible for a higher
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  Speaker 1: standard than anybody else expects of you. Never excuse yourself,
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  Speaker 1: never pity yourself, be a hard master to yourself, and
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  Speaker 1: be lenient to everybody else. The only standards that should
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  Speaker 1: concern you are your own standards. If you act in
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  Speaker 1: a ordance with the standards of the majority of people,
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  Speaker 1: you'll be overweight, unfit, unhealthy, lazy, hating your job, not
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  Speaker 1: having enough time for your family, and in debt.
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  Speaker 2: I sometimes get flack f for my goals. You're already slim.
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  Speaker 1: Why do you still watch your diet? Why do you
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  Speaker 1: save so much money?
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  Speaker 2: You should live it up.
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  Speaker 1: Can't you live like a normal person instead of waking
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  Speaker 1: up at five am and going to sleep as early
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  Speaker 1: as eight pm. By the standards of the person criticizing me,
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  Speaker 1: I should have stopped improving myself a long time ago.
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  Speaker 1: According to my standards, the growth should never end. I
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  Speaker 1: always hold myself responsible for a higher standard, and this
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  Speaker 1: allows me to maintain success friendly habits in my life
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  Speaker 1: and achieve even more success. If you allow yourself to
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  Speaker 1: have low standards, how are you supposed.
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  Speaker 2: To ever achieve excellence?
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  Speaker 1: Exhibiting self control is one of the most powerful demonstrations
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  Speaker 1: of having high standards. Letting fleeting emotions and urges control
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  Speaker 1: your life as.
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  Speaker 2: Most people do, is a sure fire path to mediocrity.
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  Speaker 1: The important thing in the Olympic Games is not to win,
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  Speaker 1: but to take part. The important thing in life is
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  Speaker 1: not triumph, but the struggle. The essential thing is not
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  Speaker 1: to have conquered, but to have fought well.
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  Speaker 2: Nobody will ever give you any grades.
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  Speaker 1: For your level of self discipline. There's no finish line
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  Speaker 1: and there's no podium for the winners. The only purpose
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  Speaker 1: of building self discipline is to conquer yourself, your own urges,
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  Speaker 1: your own weaknesses, and your own self sabotaging behaviors. It's
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  Speaker 1: easy to forget this fact and assume that when you
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  Speaker 1: reach your goals you're done. In fact, the moment you
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  Speaker 1: make your dreams come true isn't the most important moment.
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  Speaker 1: It's important, no doubt, but without the process leading to
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  Speaker 1: it in itself, it means little. The most important moments
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  Speaker 1: are the moments of struggle, when you're striving to fight,
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  Speaker 1: even when you can barely stand and.
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  Speaker 2: The whole world is spinning around you.
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  Speaker 1: It's this very act that proves your metal and showers
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  Speaker 1: you with life encompassing benefits, not the act of winning
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  Speaker 1: in itself. Whenever you find yourself frustrated that you're still
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  Speaker 1: a long way from the finish line, remember that it's
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  Speaker 1: right now, at this very moment, that.
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  Speaker 2: You're collecting the biggest rewards.
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  Speaker 1: It's the struggle in itself that improves you and makes
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  Speaker 1: you a more successful person. And that's why I talk
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  Speaker 1: about the warrior mentality, and that's why so many people
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  Speaker 1: are lost when I start talking. You have.
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  Speaker 2: The right. You're lucky that you don't have to think
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  Speaker 2: like warrior think. You're very privileged.
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  Speaker 1: I chose this world to be a warrior, and I
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  Speaker 1: would choose it again if I came back to this world.
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  Speaker 1: But the mentality of a warrior is very different than
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  Speaker 1: normal mentality. You must be that person on that door,
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  Speaker 1: get ready to open it, thinking to yourself, if I die.
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  Speaker 2: So be it.
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  Speaker 1: The only way you can go in that door is
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  Speaker 1: knowing there's a great chance you're gonna die. It's like
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  Speaker 1: being a seal. You trained with live AMMO, you jump
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  Speaker 1: on an airplane, everything you do you could die. So
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  Speaker 1: to be a warrior, why people don't understand me? I'm
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  Speaker 1: glad you don't understand me.
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  Speaker 2: Merry Christmas. Good on you, because being a warrior takes
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  Speaker 2: a whole.
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  Speaker 1: Different mindset, a whole different mindset to know that there's
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  Speaker 1: a great chance I may not being like I was
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  Speaker 1: in for twenty one years.
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  Speaker 2: I'm lucky. I'm very lucky that I'm alive, able to
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  Speaker 2: talk to you, able to still run.
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  Speaker 1: But when you sign up on a dial line to
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  Speaker 1: be a set like a seal, your mentality changes.
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  Speaker 2: I may not live. You accept that, and that's the
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  Speaker 2: mentality you have.