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EPISODE 5- "Wait...Who TF Am I Now?! (And Do I Even Have Friends?)" · It's Mom O'Clock

• 0:01
  Speaker A: Hello.
• 0:02
  Speaker B: You guys, stop. Is it Mama Clock yet? I'm going crazy.
• 0:07
  Speaker A: Heck yeah. It's Mama Clock Somewhere.
• 0:31
  Speaker B: Welcome back.
• 0:32
  Speaker A: It's Mama Clock somewhere. Okay, seriously, guys. Welcome back to episode four.
• 0:38
  Speaker B: Not four, five.
• 0:41
  Speaker A: I'm Dominique and this is my Emily. We're co hosts. I just learned this today. No, two days ago.
• 0:49
  Speaker B: That. Because I said something about me being the co host, and she was like, wait, are you my co host? I go, no, we're both the co hosts.
• 0:55
  Speaker A: I never knew that was the thing.
• 0:56
  Speaker B: Yeah, it's co host.
• 0:57
  Speaker A: But anyway, welcome back to episode five. We're so excited. I can't believe we're here. I say this every single episode because every single time.
• 1:04
  Speaker B: We're so excited.
• 1:05
  Speaker A: So excited.
• 1:06
  Speaker B: But just to reiterate, anyone new here, thank you for joining. And if you're not new here, thanks for coming back.
• 1:14
  Speaker A: Yeah, but also, don't forget to freaking follow, like, and subscribe. So sick of you if you're not subscribed.
• 1:20
  Speaker B: I don't. Like, I text her when I. When we get more views, and then the subscribe number is not going.
• 1:25
  Speaker A: I think it's going down.
• 1:26
  Speaker B: Yeah, like, make it go up.
• 1:28
  Speaker A: I'm subscribing. I'm just kidding.
• 1:29
  Speaker B: The point. It was, like, right here. Subscribe.
• 1:31
  Speaker A: Just subscribe. Anyway, welcome back.
• 1:34
  Speaker B: Welcome back. Here I am drinking the lg.
• 1:37
  Speaker A: Always drinking.
• 1:38
  Speaker B: No, I'm not. Juicy Tits.
• 1:41
  Speaker A: Juicy Tits. Wait, where is your Juicy Tits?
• 1:44
  Speaker B: Oh, it was. I was making the espresso with.
• 1:46
  Speaker A: We're getting it. But anyway, our girls are here.
• 1:50
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 1:50
  Speaker A: Girl one and girl two.
• 1:51
  Speaker B: Paid actor one. Paid actor two.
• 1:53
  Speaker A: I love it. Oh, my God, your hat's there.
• 1:57
  Speaker B: Oh, no, the hat. My friends were like, oh, the backwards hat. I'm into it.
• 2:02
  Speaker A: I love it. Oh, here she is. Hey, Juice. Welcome back.
• 2:06
  Speaker B: Those titties. I'd like to motorboat those. Son of a.
• 2:09
  Speaker A: Okay. Anyway, we have no idea what we're talking about today, do we?
• 2:11
  Speaker B: We never do. But, like, we really.
• 2:13
  Speaker A: Don't stress me out because I.
• 2:16
  Speaker B: So this is a weird thing. I like to be planned and organized.
• 2:20
  Speaker A: And we just got done talking about this last episode.
• 2:23
  Speaker B: Yeah. Because I. I need.
• 2:23
  Speaker A: Like, we just, like, we just have to talk, like, I think six times in the last hour. Like, what are we talking about? I'm like, I don't know. Is. Did you write on the note cards? We'll be fine. Let's just go off. We don't even look at our note. No, she, like, stopped writing.
• 2:38
  Speaker B: Literally stopped writing.
• 2:39
  Speaker A: There's nothing there anyway. But we do have two topics that we're talking about. Seriously.
• 2:45
  Speaker B: Yes, we do. But first, should we do the stories of the week?
• 2:47
  Speaker A: Oh, yeah. You always. Thank you for bringing me down to it.
• 2:49
  Speaker B: Yeah. Because I like the stories.
• 2:51
  Speaker A: I have a crazy story of the week.
• 2:52
  Speaker B: Oh, I'm excited for this one.
• 2:54
  Speaker A: Should I go first or last?
• 2:55
  Speaker B: Absolutely.
• 2:55
  Speaker A: Go tell your story of the week and then I'll tell mine.
• 2:59
  Speaker B: I don't really have a great story. My husband was away on a bachelor party.
• 3:02
  Speaker A: So you have a good story.
• 3:03
  Speaker B: He did that. Oh, yeah.
• 3:06
  Speaker A: You have a really good story. So tell it.
• 3:08
  Speaker B: So he went on bachelor party with his, like, home.
• 3:10
  Speaker A: Come listen to this home guy.
• 3:12
  Speaker B: School, friends, homeschool friends. Homeschool. Yeah. They're like a close group of guys. Been together for, I don't know, like, 20 years. And. Yeah. Fun. They're all, like, kind of fun. They're kind of boring now, actually. I asked him how the trip was. He said it was kind of boring and it's annoying because they went all the way to St. Louis.
• 3:28
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 3:29
  Speaker B: Like, they flew to St. Louis during this crazy Newark flight situation. Thank God he got a flight home, but. And the reason why they went was for a Mets game, and the Mets game got rained out. They didn't even.
• 3:43
  Speaker A: You didn't tell me that.
• 3:44
  Speaker B: I didn't tell you that. The only reason they went there was for the Mets game. Rained out. They could have done exactly what they did in playing field. Playing field.
• 3:51
  Speaker A: Probably thousands go to a baseball game.
• 3:55
  Speaker B: They didn't go to a baseball game? No.
• 3:57
  Speaker A: Can I just. So they only went for the Mets game?
• 3:59
  Speaker B: Yes.
• 3:59
  Speaker A: That's the only reason why they went to St. Louis?
• 4:01
  Speaker B: Yes. And they didn't.
• 4:02
  Speaker A: Okay. That's a huge part of.
• 4:03
  Speaker B: Isn't that crazy?
• 4:04
  Speaker A: Crazy.
• 4:05
  Speaker B: I know. So whatever. They had an okay time. I was telling her that my husband went to the trip club. I don't know what the other guys did, but he was texting me and he was like. He was. He was like, yeah, I'm at the strip club, whatever. And I was like, oh, how is it? Are you having fun?
• 4:25
  Speaker A: Can't be me, but go ahead.
• 4:27
  Speaker B: You would care if your husband was at a strip club?
• 4:29
  Speaker A: No.
• 4:30
  Speaker B: Oh. But just.
• 4:33
  Speaker A: I don't want to really talk about it.
• 4:34
  Speaker B: Oh, all right. Yeah. I mean, he.
• 4:36
  Speaker A: I'd probably ask him, but, like, not during. I'd probably. I don't know. Would you tell me if you were there in the current moment? Yeah.
• 4:41
  Speaker B: I mean, maybe not. Who's texting at a strip club?
• 4:43
  Speaker A: Yeah, that's What I'm saying, my husband's a weirdo.
• 4:46
  Speaker B: But the funniest thing, he was like, yeah, Bubbles wants to take me into the back room. I'm like, oh, okay. Why aren't you going with Bubbles? He was like, because she wants $500. Oh, okay.
• 4:56
  Speaker A: Like, not the fact that he's going to the back room of Bubbles and we don't care. It's this cheap motherfucker won't pay the $500 to go do whatever he's gotta do with Bubbles.
• 5:07
  Speaker B: Whatever am I doing? Could I also get $500?
• 5:10
  Speaker A: That is so crazy.
• 5:11
  Speaker B: So now I'm gonna be referred to as Bu. Bubbles in the bedroom.
• 5:14
  Speaker A: That is so funny.
• 5:15
  Speaker B: No, but, like, I just. I truthfully, like, I don't. Like, what are they gonna do? It's gonna be like a transaction. Like, whatever happens in the back room happens in the back room.
• 5:24
  Speaker A: Like, to me, it's like my white. My wife. You're just talking about.
• 5:28
  Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
• 5:29
  Speaker A: My husband. Pleased by another woman. Like, I. I think too literal. And I don't like it. I'm not for it. I. But again, we're very two different.
• 5:38
  Speaker B: Feel that way. But my thing is just like, okay, you're in the moment. It's there. Like, it's just. It's strictly for pleasure in the moment right now. It's not like he's having an emotional relationship with Bubbles right now.
• 5:49
  Speaker A: I just. I can't wrap my head around that.
• 5:52
  Speaker B: I feel that way about, like. Like going to a massage parlor. Like, happy endings. Like, I want a fucking happy ending. Like, I want to go to a massage parlor and finish me off. Like, I want a hot 6 foot tall.
• 6:03
  Speaker A: Can't be any different woman. I can't. But you also, like, you've been with your husband so long, you probably have only been with each other, like, maybe a couple more other people.
• 6:13
  Speaker B: Like, yeah.
• 6:14
  Speaker A: God knows what.
• 6:15
  Speaker B: Yeah. I think I would feel different if he was like, a player, like, in his past life.
• 6:19
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 6:20
  Speaker B: Like, I know. I know him and he's just. That's just not him.
• 6:23
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 6:23
  Speaker B: First of all, he has no game. Second of all, he has no games. Third of all.
• 6:29
  Speaker A: I can't see. Like, I just. Like, I know my husband.
• 6:31
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 6:32
  Speaker A: And like, he would never be unfaithful. But I'm saying I know how charming he is. And like.
• 6:38
  Speaker B: But so I'm not even saying, like, I don't think that's being unfaithful.
• 6:41
  Speaker A: If it was like, that's unfaithful to me.
• 6:43
  Speaker B: Right. So that's Great for you. Note to self, do not go get a happy ending.
• 6:50
  Speaker A: He's on a ship.
• 6:51
  Speaker B: No, he's not. I love.
• 6:52
  Speaker A: Thank God.
• 6:53
  Speaker B: Yeah, a lot of guys aren't. I mean, it's gross.
• 6:54
  Speaker A: I just think it's gross.
• 6:55
  Speaker B: Like, it's gross.
• 6:55
  Speaker A: I honestly, I don't know. But most guys are like, you're disgusting.
• 6:58
  Speaker B: Yeah. I mean, Joey didn't do it.
• 6:59
  Speaker A: Well, he didn't do it. He wouldn't pay the money.
• 7:02
  Speaker B: Yeah, he went. He was too cheap. Oh, my gosh. He's not a stripper guy. But, like, he was there. He was there. I mean, he was looking at tits.
• 7:09
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 7:10
  Speaker B: Lap dances. I'm sure. Yeah.
• 7:11
  Speaker A: If I. I would go with my husband.
• 7:14
  Speaker B: Yeah, I've done that before.
• 7:15
  Speaker A: Like, I think that's fun.
• 7:16
  Speaker B: Yeah. Oh, we should do that tonight.
• 7:18
  Speaker A: No.
• 7:18
  Speaker B: Guess what, guys? Tonight I was invited.
• 7:20
  Speaker A: I'm not even gonna tell the story. You literally, I. She was texting me, excited to go out. She's like, want to go? This was, like, earlier in the week. She's like, you want to go out with our husbands and, like, hang out?
• 7:29
  Speaker B: She's like, no, we have plans.
• 7:31
  Speaker A: And then I was on the phone with my mom, so I didn't get to finish my text.
• 7:34
  Speaker B: She never texted me.
• 7:35
  Speaker A: She's like. I could picture her waiting by her phone.
• 7:37
  Speaker B: She goes, sorry, I have plans. And then nothing. I'm like, okay.
• 7:40
  Speaker A: No, I didn't say that. I said the plan that we were doing. And then I didn't answer because I was on the phone with my mom. And then I text. I was like, well, you want to come? Like, probably, like, 25 minutes later. She's like, I thought you'd never ask. I was like, oh, my God. Were you waiting by your phone? Like, the text message was sent back in, like, two seconds. So she's coming with her husband. We're gonna have so much fun. I can't wait.
• 7:58
  Speaker B: Yeah, I'm pregaming right now.
• 8:00
  Speaker A: Yeah. Literally.
• 8:02
  Speaker B: All right, what's your story? Dun, dun, dun.
• 8:06
  Speaker A: I have the tea.
• 8:07
  Speaker B: The tea. Give it to us.
• 8:09
  Speaker A: I'm just gonna make it short and sweet because I. Yeah. Not my story to tell. Also, I don't have time to talk about this any longer. Anyway, so mutual. Mutual of a mutual friend. Okay. Basically threw a surprise party.
• 8:24
  Speaker B: Okay.
• 8:25
  Speaker A: For her husband. They have two children. I think, like, one is, like, two and a half and a couple months. Yeah. Like, okay, so seven months.
• 8:38
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 8:38
  Speaker A: Okay. Eleven months. What do I know? My husband knows. So anyway, she throws a surprise party. I'M sure you've heard this story all.
• 8:44
  Speaker B: Over and heard it on Z100, but I, but I knew it before because we got the juice.
• 8:50
  Speaker A: We got the juice. So roles reversed, he grabbed the mic at the party, mind you, family, friends, aunts, uncles, cousins, everyone was there and was like, I knew about this the whole time. Like, in a joking manner, like, honey, I have something for you. Basically present for her. So she comes up to the front, takes the ring off of her finger.
• 9:10
  Speaker B: Takes her rings off.
• 9:11
  Speaker A: Yeah, that's a good point. Yeah. Pretending like she was getting an upgrade. Correct.
• 9:15
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 9:16
  Speaker A: And basically blows her whole life up saying how she's been cheating and he knows and basically just blew her spot up in the middle of this party. Crazy. There's videos out there.
• 9:30
  Speaker B: The videos, I have to say, are, are cringy. But they're so good.
• 9:35
  Speaker A: They're so good, but they're so cringy. And I don't even know what to say about it all, but basically, I can't.
• 9:42
  Speaker B: I mean, he went full on, full.
• 9:44
  Speaker A: On, like, mother bitch. C U N T. Like, I don't like to say the word.
• 9:47
  Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
• 9:48
  Speaker A: He went, I know what you did. Look what you've done to Doug. No, like, anything.
• 9:53
  Speaker B: He said, the betrayal. He said, how could you do this to our family? I mean, he had text message.
• 9:58
  Speaker A: Yeah. He had receipts, like, everything. And basically, she's been cheating on him with someone that she went to high school with, who also has kids.
• 10:07
  Speaker B: Messy, messy, messy.
• 10:08
  Speaker A: I mean, their life is in a world where I can't even imagine. So.
• 10:11
  Speaker B: But you know how, how he found out? Through the fucking cloud.
• 10:14
  Speaker A: Her daughter's.
• 10:15
  Speaker B: Everybody be careful.
• 10:17
  Speaker A: She's like, I don't get it because my phone's not connected to the iPad. Everything saves to the cloud. Write it down, people. If you're being unfaithful. Everything saves to the cloud.
• 10:25
  Speaker B: No, the cloud. That's a dark spot up there.
• 10:27
  Speaker A: Yeah. Like, no. Even if you don't see it, it's in the cloud.
• 10:30
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 10:30
  Speaker A: Up there.
• 10:31
  Speaker B: Honestly, when he, when I'm watching the video, I thought he was going to play the sex tape in front of everybody. From the cloud onto the big screen.
• 10:38
  Speaker A: I mean, just like, I can't, I don't even understand. I don't. I mean, both parties are like absolute crazy mad house.
• 10:45
  Speaker B: I, I, I understand his hurt. I understand it, but I don't know if I could do that.
• 10:50
  Speaker A: At first it was like, oh, my God, people need to be called out like that. Then I don't think big and Viral. This was going to get. And now I look back and I'm like, he should not have done that. No, she definitely should not have done that. But I'm saying, like, he. He definitely could have kept this.
• 11:04
  Speaker B: It could have been a lot classier the way he did it. Even. Not even showing up to the party at all would have been a huge statement.
• 11:10
  Speaker A: Go fuck yourself.
• 11:10
  Speaker B: Go fuck yourself. Right?
• 11:12
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 11:12
  Speaker B: Or like, giving her, like, a. Someone else delivering it.
• 11:15
  Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 11:15
  Speaker B: Like, not his whole big grand.
• 11:17
  Speaker A: I mean, now everybody's involved. Yeah, we're involved.
• 11:21
  Speaker B: We're talking about.
• 11:22
  Speaker A: That's my story of the week. It's not about me. It's about other people. That's it.
• 11:24
  Speaker B: So she wants to come on the.
• 11:25
  Speaker A: Podcast, and I want her on this podcast. So if you're listening, you can. We need you and we want to pick your brain.
• 11:32
  Speaker B: I just want her side of the story.
• 11:34
  Speaker A: But I don't agree with you. Just let you know.
• 11:35
  Speaker B: No, no, but.
• 11:37
  Speaker A: Or him. I don't agree with anybody.
• 11:39
  Speaker B: Yeah, we're. We're playing Switzerland. But we want to talk to you.
• 11:41
  Speaker A: We do want to talk to you. Anyway, let's move on. Let's go on to our topic 1. I don't even know what we're saying.
• 11:45
  Speaker B: Our topics. Who the f. Are we?
• 11:48
  Speaker A: Yeah, this is a big one now.
• 11:50
  Speaker B: Who are we now after becoming moms? And do we even have friends?
• 11:55
  Speaker A: Do you think I'm, like, too new?
• 11:57
  Speaker B: No.
• 11:58
  Speaker A: No.
• 11:58
  Speaker B: Right. You're in.
• 11:59
  Speaker A: Yeah. You're over a year in.
• 12:00
  Speaker B: Yeah, you're. You're. I mean.
• 12:02
  Speaker A: But I feel like I had so much of myself prior to mom. It is easy.
• 12:06
  Speaker B: Like, it's more time. Right.
• 12:08
  Speaker A: Like, I had a. Not that you weren't anybody before.
• 12:10
  Speaker B: I mean, I was nobody.
• 12:11
  Speaker A: Nobody. No, I. You're definitely becoming somebody now, whereas I was already somebody.
• 12:16
  Speaker B: Yeah. So we're like.
• 12:17
  Speaker A: I'm kind of grieving her.
• 12:18
  Speaker B: Yeah. Grieving who you were before you were Mom. You talk about it a little bit. I'll chime in. I want to talk.
• 12:24
  Speaker A: I. If I'm cutting her off too much, like, right. Right to me and let me know, because I told her to yell at me. Sometimes I just, like, my brain just speaks before my mouth.
• 12:33
  Speaker B: It's totally fine. I'm very.
• 12:35
  Speaker A: Are you mad at me?
• 12:35
  Speaker B: Not mad.
• 12:36
  Speaker A: Okay. I don't give a.
• 12:37
  Speaker B: Anyway, no talk. Go.
• 12:40
  Speaker A: Okay. So anyway, who was I prior to Moms? We'll just talk about that real quick.
• 12:44
  Speaker B: Yeah, sure.
• 12:45
  Speaker A: I mean, I was a boss ass. Like, working mom. Working mom. Am I. Okay. I didn't.
• 12:49
  Speaker B: Have you ever seen that show?
• 12:50
  Speaker A: What?
• 12:51
  Speaker B: Working moms may have to watch it.
• 12:53
  Speaker A: Is it on Netflix?
• 12:54
  Speaker B: Yes. Maybe it's the best show ever. I watched my whole postpartum for four years. Right before you were a mom, you weren't a working mom. You were just a worker.
• 13:05
  Speaker A: I was. I was just a worker. So I was like a career driven woman. I always had a passion, like, my whole life. I just. That that's where I found joy. And not that I like to work, because who the fuck likes to work?
• 13:19
  Speaker B: I feel like you kind of did, though.
• 13:20
  Speaker A: I just like to, like, be getting.
• 13:21
  Speaker B: Dressed and get up and, like, be that badass, Like.
• 13:24
  Speaker A: Yeah, I did.
• 13:24
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 13:25
  Speaker A: But have to remember, like, my whole life stems from just, like, the top of the totem pole. And I. I like him too. Confident. I have to calm down.
• 13:32
  Speaker B: She has to calm down.
• 13:33
  Speaker A: So I was always. I just always thrived off of that. I mean, my dad's the same way. Like, without work, he just hasn't. It's so. Not that he doesn't have a purpose, but, like, that's where I found purpose. I just did and.
• 13:44
  Speaker B: Great.
• 13:45
  Speaker A: Yeah. So as everyone knows, I quit my job and I'm a mom now, and this is my new life, and I'm finding her, and I'm definitely here now. I mean, now with this podcast. Forget it. I definitely feel like I'm finding the.
• 13:57
  Speaker B: Yeah. I feel like there was a time, obviously you had postpartum for the first. Let's just call it a year.
• 14:02
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 14:03
  Speaker B: And then. Well, now with the podcast, you're definitely finding yourself more because you're feeling like you have a real purpose.
• 14:09
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 14:09
  Speaker B: Which is like.
• 14:10
  Speaker A: Is that sad to say?
• 14:11
  Speaker B: No. I think it just is what it was.
• 14:13
  Speaker A: Yeah. Like, I'm not that, like, being a mom is my purpose. Like, I. My purpose every day is to get my son and raise him the way I want to be him raised and then, like, show him life.
• 14:23
  Speaker B: Right.
• 14:24
  Speaker A: But, like, I separate. A purpose.
• 14:26
  Speaker B: But you feel like you need.
• 14:27
  Speaker A: You need.
• 14:28
  Speaker B: You need something else. Correct. Whereas maybe someone.
• 14:30
  Speaker A: That's why I struggled so much. We're not gonna go back there.
• 14:32
  Speaker B: Please.
• 14:33
  Speaker A: We're done. We're done. We're done. So. Yeah. So who. Who am I beyond. What's the question?
• 14:40
  Speaker B: There's no question. We could talk, whatever we want to say. Discovering your identity. Yeah. So rediscovering yourself.
• 14:46
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 14:46
  Speaker B: Like. Like, do you miss, like, the old hobbies that you used to have?
• 14:50
  Speaker A: Yeah, Like, I. They're just different now. I Just miss. Like. I mean, it's not like I'm not doing the hobbies now. It's just like, I don't get to do hobbies.
• 15:00
  Speaker B: Do you have.
• 15:01
  Speaker A: I go to Pilates.
• 15:02
  Speaker B: I need a hobby. I tried that.
• 15:04
  Speaker A: You did?
• 15:05
  Speaker B: I did.
• 15:05
  Speaker A: Remember, we used to go. That feels like a time ago.
• 15:08
  Speaker B: I'm gonna do that again soon when I figure it out. Yeah.
• 15:11
  Speaker A: Anyway, like, who am I? Beyond, like. Like, who am I? What's my new identity? Like, I just feel I'm still finding her.
• 15:19
  Speaker B: Yeah. That's totally.
• 15:20
  Speaker A: I feel I'll never be able to say I found my new identity. This is it.
• 15:26
  Speaker B: And I feel like. I think I always dry, too.
• 15:28
  Speaker A: And I'm always the chaser.
• 15:30
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 15:30
  Speaker A: Like, I'm always trying to find my new identity. I also think that's okay. Like, I'm still trying to find her. And even though, like, this is my identity right now, I'm still chasing after who I want to be.
• 15:43
  Speaker B: I don't think you're a dreamer, baby.
• 15:44
  Speaker A: Yeah. Like, I'll. I'll never be able to sit and say, this is her.
• 15:51
  Speaker B: That's good. That's like, you're always just looking for.
• 15:54
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 15:55
  Speaker B: To be a better version of yourself.
• 15:56
  Speaker A: Yeah. But times have definitely shifted with my identity. Like, I am not who. Yeah. I used to be for the people, for myself, for my family. My identity is obviously a mother.
• 16:09
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 16:10
  Speaker A: But it's also, like, my whole life is my kid.
• 16:14
  Speaker B: Right.
• 16:15
  Speaker A: Just taking care of him.
• 16:16
  Speaker B: So that's.
• 16:17
  Speaker A: And that's all I know. Like, right now, it's like, this is why I can't work and be a mom at the same time. Because I give a hundred percent. I give 100 to my kid and 100 to. Like, I can't do both. So people can't. I just can't. There's no way.
• 16:30
  Speaker B: The people that do. That's, like, incredible.
• 16:32
  Speaker A: Incredible. You'll give 100 and then give. You do it because you. I know moms do it when they work. And it's just. It is inspiring to see, because knowing me to get up and, like, go bring myself, you know, be the mom to my kid, and then have to, like, go to my job.
• 16:48
  Speaker B: You're still kind of new in it. Like, maybe one day you will go back into the.
• 16:51
  Speaker A: Who's to say I'm not.
• 16:52
  Speaker B: Who knows?
• 16:52
  Speaker A: Yeah. Totally not. I'm not gonna do.
• 16:55
  Speaker B: All right, well, whatever.
• 16:55
  Speaker A: Something else.
• 16:56
  Speaker B: I mean, we're gonna make it big.
• 16:57
  Speaker A: Yeah. We're gonna be huge. And, like, people are going to be on our podcast that are, like, famous and stuff, so it's fine.
• 17:01
  Speaker B: Khloe Kardashian. Oh, my God. Could we talk about it? She commented not once, but twice on Dominique's Tik Tok personal. Tik Tok personal account.
• 17:13
  Speaker A: I tried her new popcorn, and she commented on it. I like, are people not seeing this? Chloe, if you're seeing this, repost my video because people are saying that you commented on my video. I mean, it wasn't even, like, the coolest video ever. Just like me. But popcorn's very good, by the way.
• 17:28
  Speaker B: But she. She commented. It was amazing.
• 17:29
  Speaker A: Amazing. You know who. Wait, I didn't tell you. Who also commented last night on my Tick tock. Remember that story of. We'll talk about it later. The Facebook mom group?
• 17:38
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 17:39
  Speaker A: Jennifer Aiden commented on my Tick Tock.
• 17:41
  Speaker B: Jennifer Aiden.
• 17:43
  Speaker A: Real Housewives of New Jersey.
• 17:44
  Speaker B: Oh, Jennifer Aiden. Yes.
• 17:46
  Speaker A: She commented, too, last night. Like, oh, my God, feel this. Preach. I was like, oh, cool. Thanks. How do they see my watch?
• 17:52
  Speaker B: Mama clock.
• 17:52
  Speaker A: Yeah. Anyway, who are you?
• 17:56
  Speaker B: Who am I?
• 17:58
  Speaker A: Do you even care about this shit?
• 17:59
  Speaker B: No. I mean, I. I am who I am.
• 18:02
  Speaker A: Do you even think to yourself, like, what's my new identity?
• 18:04
  Speaker B: No, I really don't, because I just am whoever I am.
• 18:09
  Speaker A: Like, no joke. I feel like you've never cared about an identity.
• 18:13
  Speaker B: Honestly, I don't think I have, which is why I thought about it. I'm not grieving the person from my past before I was a mom just because, I mean, that person. I was like, I was, like, a party girl in college, and then I became a mom. Like, I. I mean, maybe I'm grieving some blackout days. Do you think that would, like.
• 18:30
  Speaker A: Do you think if you had, like, a career and that was your purpose, like, it would be harder for you?
• 18:35
  Speaker B: I think if I loved it, yes. I think it's hard.
• 18:39
  Speaker A: You went to school for speech pathology, not speech. I always do that.
• 18:42
  Speaker B: Behavioral therapy.
• 18:43
  Speaker A: Behavioral therapy.
• 18:44
  Speaker B: Applied behavior.
• 18:45
  Speaker A: Like, does it upset you that, like, you didn't.
• 18:47
  Speaker B: No, it doesn't.
• 18:48
  Speaker A: Move on with that.
• 18:49
  Speaker B: No. Because I don't think I have, like, huge aspirations. Like, I'm not, like.
• 18:54
  Speaker A: Yeah, like, selling your.
• 18:55
  Speaker B: Like, I'm not always looking for the next goal or the next. You don't give. How you just explain that. Like, I'm content with how I am right now or how I always.
• 19:03
  Speaker A: That's not even it, though. I'm content, too, but I am still, like, it's like sometimes that, you know, I don't have my own career, making my own Money and stuff like that.
• 19:14
  Speaker B: I mean, I'd love my own money.
• 19:15
  Speaker A: Yeah, like, if money was your purpose in some way. Is that even it? I don't even know.
• 19:21
  Speaker B: I don't even know. I mean, who fuck are you?
• 19:23
  Speaker A: I don't even know. Like, you're just content.
• 19:26
  Speaker B: Just a girl, right?
• 19:27
  Speaker A: You're. You're just, like, intent in the bubble. See? Like, what. What is it called?
• 19:32
  Speaker B: Bubble.
• 19:34
  Speaker A: I'm bringing bubbles tonight. Can I?
• 19:36
  Speaker B: Of course.
• 19:37
  Speaker A: I think it's something funny to say.
• 19:39
  Speaker B: Yeah. Side chick. Bubbles.
• 19:44
  Speaker A: Like, if he ever told me, my husband ever told me about bubbles, we'd fight for a week.
• 19:49
  Speaker B: Yeah, that's crazy. No, but I. I just. Right now, starting mom o' clock, like, I have had nothing. Really nothing besides my kids.
• 19:59
  Speaker A: Did that make you sad?
• 20:00
  Speaker B: Now that I'm sad? No. Like, but I was fine with that. But now that I know something else, I'm like, oh, okay, you're dipping your.
• 20:06
  Speaker A: Toes in something now you understand?
• 20:08
  Speaker B: Yeah, but, like, it's so fun. It's so fun to, like, come here and feel like, okay, like, I'm leaving my kids. Like, I have. Like, I. My son, I drop him off from school. I'm like, okay, Mommy's got to go to mom o' clock. He's like, mom, it's mom o' clock somewhere. Like, they. They're into it. Like, they. They're excited about it. My kids are rapping. They do some of the raps with me. Like, they're funny. Like, they. They know. Sorry, Mike. But now I feel like I have a little bit more of a purpose besides just being mom.
• 20:32
  Speaker A: And does it feel good?
• 20:33
  Speaker B: It feels great.
• 20:34
  Speaker A: Yeah. So that's kind of where I'm at.
• 20:35
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 20:36
  Speaker A: You feeling what I'm feeling?
• 20:37
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 20:37
  Speaker A: Because the thing about you is, like, you don't have to feel what someone's feeling to understand. A lot of people have to, but you don't have to.
• 20:44
  Speaker B: No. And I, like. I like this life right now. Like, I think it's so fun. I think it's great for both of us.
• 20:50
  Speaker A: And you're living in the spotlight.
• 20:51
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 20:51
  Speaker A: How does it feel? How does it feel?
• 20:53
  Speaker B: Not the spotlight. I will crawl under this couch right now.
• 20:56
  Speaker A: You should see us trying to make TikToks. It's like I can't even get her. It's like, just, like, ready to be in front of the camera, and you're just not.
• 21:03
  Speaker B: No.
• 21:04
  Speaker A: It's fine, though. You're like, you. You ride with me.
• 21:07
  Speaker B: I'm ride or die, baby.
• 21:08
  Speaker A: Always.
• 21:08
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 21:09
  Speaker A: I have Nothing else really to say about that. I mean, I'm like, I'm still. I'm still navigating.
• 21:13
  Speaker B: Yeah, that's. I mean, that's good. And you're always. I feel like it's good for me to have a you because you're always pushing us for the next step.
• 21:20
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 21:21
  Speaker B: Like, I'm like, okay, great. Like, we're doing something better. And you're like, okay, like, get out the merch. Get out the. And I'm like, all right.
• 21:26
  Speaker A: Yeah. By the way, we're dropping merch.
• 21:27
  Speaker B: We are dropping merch.
• 21:28
  Speaker A: Hopefully soon.
• 21:29
  Speaker B: Gonna be sick.
• 21:30
  Speaker A: Yeah, I can't wait.
• 21:31
  Speaker B: Really? Cool.
• 21:31
  Speaker A: Gonna be the merch of the summer.
• 21:33
  Speaker B: Yes. Very sick. I love that.
• 21:36
  Speaker A: Anyway.
• 21:36
  Speaker B: Oh, carving out space for your hobbies for you. I have no hobbies.
• 21:41
  Speaker A: You just started.
• 21:43
  Speaker B: I need a hobby. No, My whole life I've been saying that I. I need a hobby. Like, I don't have a hobby.
• 21:50
  Speaker A: I tried arts and crafts with your.
• 21:52
  Speaker B: I tried pottery, like, with my girlfriends. I loved it. Like, the. The doing that with the clay was so fun. But, like, I can't really have that as a hobby. Can you?
• 22:00
  Speaker A: Are you creative?
• 22:02
  Speaker B: I mean. No.
• 22:04
  Speaker A: What's November? What's your sign?
• 22:06
  Speaker B: I'm a Scorpio, but I'm not really a Scorpio.
• 22:09
  Speaker A: What are you?
• 22:10
  Speaker B: I don't know. I don't know signs. I'm a Scorpio. But, like, what do they feel is like, my sister in law is a Scorpio and she's, like, very, like, aggressive.
• 22:19
  Speaker A: What is that?
• 22:20
  Speaker B: She's like a go getter. Like, that's not me.
• 22:23
  Speaker A: No, it's definitely not you. No, I feel like, push you.
• 22:26
  Speaker B: Yeah. Which is great. Push me.
• 22:28
  Speaker A: But you're so. You're so easy to just do everything. So easy.
• 22:32
  Speaker B: So easy, guys.
• 22:33
  Speaker A: In every way possible, anyway. No, no. I mean, get back on that, though.
• 22:39
  Speaker B: I make up songs all the time with my kids.
• 22:42
  Speaker A: I wrap them.
• 22:42
  Speaker B: No, I wrap them. But this one song I've been singing all day. To Vienna. You know the. Have you ever seen Euro Trip? Scotty doesn't know.
• 22:49
  Speaker A: Yes. Know that. Fiona and me.
• 22:52
  Speaker B: So me and V sings this song with me. Daddy doesn't know that Fiona and me go shopping every Sunday.
• 22:58
  Speaker A: Oh, that's so funny.
• 22:59
  Speaker B: We're in church, but he doesn't know that we're spending all his money not in church. But we sing that song. It was on my mind because we were singing this morning. It's so funny.
• 23:08
  Speaker A: That is so funny.
• 23:09
  Speaker B: And. And Daddy.
• 23:10
  Speaker A: Daddy doesn't Know.
• 23:11
  Speaker B: Doesn't know.
• 23:12
  Speaker A: And although he sees it, when he gets the notification, the Apple card, he.
• 23:16
  Speaker B: Gets it straight to his phone.
• 23:17
  Speaker A: Get your own car.
• 23:18
  Speaker B: I should. Right?
• 23:20
  Speaker A: Oh, man. Like, oh, it's for the kid. Yeah, it's for Gio.
• 23:24
  Speaker B: Vetmomy.
• 23:25
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 23:26
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 23:27
  Speaker A: But back to what I was saying.
• 23:28
  Speaker B: What were you saying?
• 23:29
  Speaker A: You, like, didn't realize how much of a bubble you were. Can't say the word bubble without that.
• 23:34
  Speaker B: I know. Oh, my God. You said a lot today.
• 23:36
  Speaker A: I know. Bubbles, you didn't realize how much of a bubble you were in until. Until you were like, oh, my God. Oh, yeah, I popped that out of that bubble.
• 23:45
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 23:45
  Speaker A: And now you're, like, thriving off of success.
• 23:48
  Speaker B: I mean, it's just. It's just so nice.
• 23:51
  Speaker A: You never left your kids.
• 23:52
  Speaker B: I didn't. And I. And I, I really didn't. Like, I didn't even. I mean, just recently I started to, like, leave to get my nails done or like, something like that.
• 24:01
  Speaker A: Yeah, she wouldn't even get her nails done.
• 24:02
  Speaker B: I, I really didn't. And now I feel really good about just leaving. Just.
• 24:07
  Speaker A: I mean, you definitely look better. Is that rude?
• 24:10
  Speaker B: It's funny because it's true.
• 24:12
  Speaker A: Like, you definitely look better. Be my parents. Not. No offense.
• 24:17
  Speaker B: I mean. Yes.
• 24:18
  Speaker A: Like, I feel like roles. Reverse thing. Like, you definitely look.
• 24:22
  Speaker B: I mean, I feel better. I look.
• 24:24
  Speaker A: Once you start feeling better getting your nails done. Like, you never understood. You're like, you're going to get your nails done. Who cares? I'm like, well, you feel better when you do it.
• 24:30
  Speaker B: Yeah, I was.
• 24:32
  Speaker A: She just started wearing makeup yesterday, Literally.
• 24:34
  Speaker B: No, but, like, I had three babies in a row.
• 24:37
  Speaker A: I know.
• 24:37
  Speaker B: Like, I never got out. Like, I was still in the. Before you were in the.
• 24:43
  Speaker A: I know.
• 24:45
  Speaker B: You know what I'm saying?
• 24:45
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 24:46
  Speaker B: Like, I was pregnant right now. With Gio. Gio's age. No, not with Gio. I was always pregnant. Okay.
• 24:54
  Speaker A: You were. So, so technically, like, I know you had three kids, but you weren't pregnant for three years. You were pregnant for more than that.
• 25:00
  Speaker B: Well, I mean, I was. I was pregnant and breastfeeding. Breastfeeding for four solid years. And I.
• 25:07
  Speaker A: That's a lot.
• 25:07
  Speaker B: And like, I, I, I didn't lose the weight. Like, I was just in the postpartum, but not the postpartum where I was feeling emotional. I was just in the postpartum of, like, feeling gross about yourself.
• 25:16
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 25:16
  Speaker B: For that long.
• 25:17
  Speaker A: That could have affected you mentally. You just didn't realize.
• 25:20
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 25:20
  Speaker A: Maybe that's why you didn't leave Your kids?
• 25:22
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 25:22
  Speaker A: House.
• 25:23
  Speaker B: Oh. Reflecting back. Maybe I was so postpartum.
• 25:26
  Speaker A: Maybe you were.
• 25:27
  Speaker B: I'm the problem.
• 25:28
  Speaker A: That was the problem. And then I'm not. No, I just. I mean, you really didn't do much. Like, I know we talk about your house being a zoo and you're doing all these crazy things. Like, you really didn't go to weddings, showers, parties. You didn't do the life.
• 25:42
  Speaker B: No, because I.
• 25:43
  Speaker A: You didn't want to leave your kids. Yeah.
• 25:45
  Speaker B: Yeah. One time. One time. Joe and I went to Atlantic City for one night. I remember it was the first time we ever left our kids. My oldest had to fall out of the bed.
• 25:58
  Speaker A: I don't remember that.
• 25:59
  Speaker B: Yeah, he fell out of the bed. My mom was watching all the babies, and my mom didn't know what hotel we were staying at in Atlantic City. So she calls every hotel.
• 26:07
  Speaker A: That wouldn't be a good thing to call yourself.
• 26:09
  Speaker B: We weren't answering. We didn't answer. So she called the Borgata. She called Harrah's. She called Hard Rock. She was like, is my daughter there?
• 26:19
  Speaker A: No. Did she get a hold of you through the hotels? You're lying. She called every hotel.
• 26:24
  Speaker B: She called every hotel. She couldn't find us.
• 26:26
  Speaker A: What was wrong with Joey?
• 26:27
  Speaker B: Nothing. He was fine. He bumped his head and he was bleeding. Bleed. He had a. He got a nosebleed from the fall, but there was blood everywhere. So she would. It was like 3:00am it was.
• 26:35
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 26:35
  Speaker B: Whole thing. But, yeah. So that was the first time I remember leaving. And I was like, I guess I can't do that again.
• 26:40
  Speaker A: Like, I'm never doing this again. So I wonder if you won't leave because you just don't want that situation.
• 26:44
  Speaker B: No. But now, like, I. I want to leave. Like, can we go somewhere?
• 26:47
  Speaker A: Yeah. Like, now you. You're asking me for plans? Yeah. I'm like, oh, my God, I have enough plants.
• 26:52
  Speaker B: She's going. She went out last night. She's going out tonight. She's going out tomorrow night, and it's Mother's Day.
• 26:57
  Speaker A: I don't want to do this.
• 26:58
  Speaker B: I don't know.
• 26:59
  Speaker A: I'm tired and I, like, literally look at you. And I'm like, I'm so tired. And I'm like, I wonder why. Idiot. It's exhausting. Like, a day to sleep that.
• 27:08
  Speaker B: So would you rather on Mother's Day to just sleep for a full day and just, like, relax and sleep?
• 27:15
  Speaker A: Kind of. But I know once I'm doing it, I'll have you.
• 27:17
  Speaker B: Like, you're like, I want to do something.
• 27:19
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 27:19
  Speaker B: I would love like for my husband to like book me a hotel room and just go there and you would never do that.
• 27:25
  Speaker A: Your kids are like, where's mommy?
• 27:27
  Speaker B: Yeah. No, it would be terrible. Like Mother's Day is supposed to be like, you're with your family.
• 27:30
  Speaker A: Yeah, totally.
• 27:30
  Speaker B: Oh, your mother.
• 27:31
  Speaker A: Yeah. We're going to breakfast, I think Monday, Monday, Sunday morning.
• 27:34
  Speaker B: Sunday morning.
• 27:35
  Speaker A: Oh yeah. By the way, it's Mother's Day week.
• 27:37
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 27:38
  Speaker A: So we're shout out to all the mamas out there. Yeah. Sometimes because I'm so used to like celebrating my mom or my brother in law.
• 27:45
  Speaker B: You were the mom. Yeah, I know. I was like to my husband. Do we actually have to call our moms? This just be about me.
• 27:51
  Speaker A: Yeah. Right. But yeah, I forget. I'm a mom too. I feel like I'm not supposed to be.
• 27:56
  Speaker B: You're a mom anyway.
• 27:58
  Speaker A: Shout out to all those moms out there. I'm so happy for all of us. We made it to Mother's Day and.
• 28:02
  Speaker B: All the, all the mom, all the people listening that want to be mom will be a mom some way somehow.
• 28:08
  Speaker A: And it's all going to be okay. I just saw a TikTok the other day and it was just this woman talking about how some moms are afraid to be moms because they're afraid of their life changing. Like more people than you think. Afraid of like being responsible for somebody. Afraid of her and the husband. You know, they're life changing. Like don't be afraid because I'm here to tell you it's going to be fine.
• 28:29
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 28:29
  Speaker A: Even if I say one day it's not, I'm. Don't listen to me. It's going to be fine.
• 28:33
  Speaker B: Yeah. Also, like it's okay if it's not fine. Yeah.
• 28:35
  Speaker A: It's okay if it's not every day of my life. Seriously though, it's going to be fine. Just if you, you know, if you're struggling, it's okay.
• 28:42
  Speaker B: You know it is okay.
• 28:43
  Speaker A: Just be just once you get there and you get through it, it's so fun.
• 28:46
  Speaker B: Yeah. Also actually we have a friend who was struggling. I have a lot of friends that work for ivf. You don't know them. Oh, but. Well, you do know them. But I'm not gonna say but they were struggling. Whatever. They, they actually went the surrogate route. So they have a. They have a baby coming in, I think two.
• 29:01
  Speaker A: So someone else is carrying their baby.
• 29:02
  Speaker B: Yeah, someone else is carrying their baby. So they had a really hard time getting pregnant and so she went the surrogate route. So that's happening. And then guess what? She got pregnant and she's having a baby three months after. So she's basically having twins.
• 29:18
  Speaker A: Wait.
• 29:19
  Speaker B: Yes.
• 29:19
  Speaker A: That's crazy.
• 29:20
  Speaker B: Crazy.
• 29:21
  Speaker A: I've never heard of.
• 29:22
  Speaker B: That is so crazy. It does. I mean, obviously it happens, but like, how crazy that. So, like, your. Your surrogate baby is coming and now you're pregnant and you're having the baby very soon. Three months.
• 29:33
  Speaker A: That's crazy.
• 29:34
  Speaker B: So they're having twins. Twins.
• 29:36
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 29:37
  Speaker B: Twiblings twins.
• 29:38
  Speaker A: Bling. So surrogate still your egg and.
• 29:41
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 29:42
  Speaker A: And your husband's sperm, but someone else is carrying. Yeah.
• 29:44
  Speaker B: Our friend is like, I got two baby mamas.
• 29:46
  Speaker A: Yeah. That's crazy. That's a lot. I don't know. I think that's like, worse than having.
• 29:52
  Speaker B: I think so. Because it's not like they're doing. It's not. They're going through the same stages at the exact same time. It's like a little trickle. Yeah. It's like three months. The space.
• 30:01
  Speaker A: Yeah, it's the space.
• 30:02
  Speaker B: It's gonna be hard, but. Yeah, but God bless. Like, they're so happy. They. They're getting blessed with two babies. And.
• 30:07
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 30:07
  Speaker B: Oh, my God.
• 30:08
  Speaker A: Babies are a blessing.
• 30:09
  Speaker B: But it is gonna be a lot harder and you're gonna need a lot of help.
• 30:12
  Speaker A: Don't call me because I need help. So don't call me.
• 30:15
  Speaker B: But isn't that crazy? Yeah.
• 30:16
  Speaker A: I want to know who it is.
• 30:17
  Speaker B: I'll tell you later.
• 30:17
  Speaker A: Okay, let's move on to topic two.
• 30:19
  Speaker B: Yes. Do you have any mom friends?
• 30:22
  Speaker A: No.
• 30:23
  Speaker B: Do you have any friends?
• 30:25
  Speaker A: No. So I come here. Bam. If you want to come here.
• 30:30
  Speaker B: I feel like it's really hard to make new mom friends.
• 30:32
  Speaker A: Especially when your kids aren't in school yet.
• 30:33
  Speaker B: Yeah, especially when your kids aren't in school.
• 30:35
  Speaker A: But I have exchanged numbers with mom, but we've never actually hung out.
• 30:41
  Speaker B: Okay.
• 30:42
  Speaker A: But I also feel like through social media, like, I've definitely met, but I.
• 30:47
  Speaker B: Don'T talk to them or that you're like, texting me. No, I know my family, like, our family is like. Yeah.
• 30:54
  Speaker A: Like three mutual friends. Like my cousin friends. Really good friend. Like, we talk sometimes and my cousin, like, oh, my God. So and so, like, was laughing at this. Tick tock or whatever. Like, like, I've definitely gained more mom friends, but not someone who I would like to dinner with, I don't think. No.
• 31:14
  Speaker B: Yeah. No, I haven't. I mean, I have friends, like, of my son's peers and the Moms, like, we've had play dates and, like, they come over and we'd all hang out.
• 31:27
  Speaker A: More than once.
• 31:28
  Speaker B: Yeah, we did, like, two and actually, like, killed, like, five bottles of champagne. Like, those are the moms I want to hang out with. Like, did you ever.
• 31:35
  Speaker A: Yeah. Did you ever, like, when you met them, were you like, oh, they're not gonna be fine, and then you met them, like, oh, my gosh.
• 31:40
  Speaker B: Yes.
• 31:40
  Speaker A: So shockingly surprised.
• 31:41
  Speaker B: Yes. A lot of moms surprise you.
• 31:44
  Speaker A: Wow.
• 31:44
  Speaker B: Definitely.
• 31:45
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 31:45
  Speaker B: And I feel like it just, like, takes time to, like, figure out what moms, like, you're gonna vibe with.
• 31:49
  Speaker A: Do they spill the tea?
• 31:51
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 31:51
  Speaker A: Oh, yeah, they do.
• 31:52
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 31:53
  Speaker A: Oh, I love that.
• 31:54
  Speaker B: Yeah. And, like, you know me. I, like, like, open up to me. Like, I need.
• 31:56
  Speaker A: I mean.
• 31:57
  Speaker B: I mean, I don't know.
• 31:57
  Speaker A: I don't know.
• 31:58
  Speaker B: I don't know, like, their vaginas yet. But, like, you will get there.
• 32:01
  Speaker A: Yeah. Oh, you feel like you gained new mom friends because of school or, like, without school.
• 32:08
  Speaker B: Trying to think. I think more from school.
• 32:11
  Speaker A: And, like, you talk to them every day?
• 32:13
  Speaker B: No, not every day, but you have a plan. We have, like, a group chat and our kids will want to hang out. So, like. Yeah, we try to do, like, play date. Like, going from one house to the next house.
• 32:23
  Speaker A: Kids do play dates.
• 32:24
  Speaker B: Joey does play dates with the moms coming over. Like, you don't do the play dates where you drop the kid off.
• 32:29
  Speaker A: Yeah, yeah.
• 32:29
  Speaker B: That's like. I think that's at like, 5 or 6.
• 32:31
  Speaker A: Yeah. I was talking to one of our cousins, Tori.
• 32:34
  Speaker B: She.
• 32:34
  Speaker A: I was asking her about this because sometimes, like, I'd rather just not do the play date because I don't want to. Like, what are you. It's so. I'm not an awkward person, but sometimes I get uncomfortable in those situations. Like going to someone's house. Just like me and the mom.
• 32:44
  Speaker B: Yeah. Well, that's how I feel that I.
• 32:46
  Speaker A: Was like, I never left my kids until now. It's like, just because one day one of the moms was like, why, thank you. Yeah. Yeah. And then it becomes like, now I have some time, and then, you know, you switch the roles and they drop the kid at your house.
• 33:01
  Speaker B: I feel like I would. I want to be the house, though, because, like, you know me, like, the neighborhood kids come to my house.
• 33:05
  Speaker A: I mean, I called you the other day, and she had seven kids in her backyard. What were you doing? Making, like, baloney sandwiches. What was it?
• 33:12
  Speaker B: Doing pepperoni. And they both.
• 33:13
  Speaker A: Yeah, her hair fuzzy bunch was like, yeah, Pasta.
• 33:16
  Speaker B: I was making buttered pasta.
• 33:17
  Speaker A: I'm going, who's there? I see, like, kids.
• 33:20
  Speaker B: It's like, if you're making food, like, you got to feed the whole neighborhood. They're over.
• 33:24
  Speaker A: Every kid in the neighborhood was at your house? Yeah. You're alone. You're like, I gotta go. I'm making pasta.
• 33:29
  Speaker B: Honestly, they all come to our house because, I mean, I guess.
• 33:32
  Speaker A: No, I come to your house because you're.
• 33:34
  Speaker B: Was he under me this whole time? He was under me.
• 33:36
  Speaker A: He's so scary. It's okay. No, they come to you because you leave your front door open. Just walk in.
• 33:44
  Speaker B: That's true also, but I would never let my kids just stay at their house. Like, I. I need them.
• 33:51
  Speaker A: My kids.
• 33:51
  Speaker B: I mean, also, I have the youngest kids.
• 33:53
  Speaker A: That's your problem. You would never leave your kids somewhere else.
• 33:56
  Speaker B: I would if they're a little older. But I also have a one year old. Like, I have a one and a half year old.
• 33:59
  Speaker A: You want to do all your kids somewhere?
• 34:01
  Speaker B: No. If Joey wanted to go to. Joey, if he wanted to go to a playdate at a mom that I know, I would let him go.
• 34:08
  Speaker A: Why hasn't he yet?
• 34:09
  Speaker B: Because they're not that age.
• 34:11
  Speaker A: Will you leave them yet?
• 34:12
  Speaker B: No.
• 34:12
  Speaker A: Oh, he's four. So you don't leave him?
• 34:14
  Speaker B: No.
• 34:15
  Speaker A: Can I ask why? I would never do it. I don't think I would ever leave Gia. I don't think he's even going to do play dates. I'm kidding.
• 34:22
  Speaker B: I think it's just they have to hit, like. I don't know why, but it's just, like, a thing that I think. Would you hit, like, five or six when you're in, like, kindergarten or first grade?
• 34:30
  Speaker A: Like, he's away.
• 34:31
  Speaker B: You're like, a lot. Yeah. Like, Joey's not even. Joey's in school three days a week. Like, he's still not even.
• 34:35
  Speaker A: All day, though.
• 34:36
  Speaker B: All day. Yeah. Right now he's there and his mom's.
• 34:40
  Speaker A: What are we afraid of the mom's gonna kidnap the kid?
• 34:42
  Speaker B: No, no. Not.
• 34:43
  Speaker A: It's just like. Not.
• 34:43
  Speaker B: Maybe it's like a burden on the mom because they're so little. It's like you still have to, like.
• 34:48
  Speaker A: Take care of them.
• 34:48
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 34:48
  Speaker A: Oh, yeah. Duh. It's like you have to take care of your.
• 34:51
  Speaker B: They're still babies. Yeah.
• 34:52
  Speaker A: Right. And she's not babysit.
• 34:53
  Speaker B: Right. Right.
• 34:54
  Speaker A: When you're at the. When they're at the age where they could play downstairs by themselves.
• 34:57
  Speaker B: Yeah. Which Joey's. Just. Joey and V are Just starting to, like, be able to play. I felt like I made it. So there was two things that happened. I was cooking dinner. Joey, Vienna and Rocco. And the neighbors were actually over. They were in the backyard. But I could see from my window, the kitchen, the place like the. The playground from the kitchen window. And our neighbors are like six and seven. It goes from seven down. And Rocco's the youngest, so, like the seven year old. Obviously, I would never trust her, like, babysitting. But, like, if I'm inside and she's swinging Rocco on the swings, like, I trust that.
• 35:29
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 35:29
  Speaker B: So they're like, swinging Rocco. I'm actually able to cook dinner. And, like, it was like, oh, my God. Like, this could be good.
• 35:35
  Speaker A: Oh, my God, I made it.
• 35:36
  Speaker B: This might be a good summer. Like, I might be able to actually do something. And then another time I thought I made it this week was. I have a big, big truck. Like a expedition. Yeah, whatever. So I have three rows that big.
• 35:49
  Speaker A: Tonka you drive around.
• 35:50
  Speaker B: It's a boat. It's awful. I have Joey in the back backseat, Vienna and Rocco in the middle. And then obviously, I'm driving and I could pass back, like, a water bottle or something to Vienna. And Vienna could pass it back to Joey. She could reach. Her arm could reach. So it's not like I have to pull over. And I was like, I made it. Like, I could pass back a bagel bite from Dunkin Donuts to get to me to get to Joey.
• 36:15
  Speaker A: Or she can even give it to Rocco.
• 36:16
  Speaker B: She could give it to Rocco. Like, she can reach. She could do it. It's so good.
• 36:20
  Speaker A: So it better.
• 36:21
  Speaker B: Gets better.
• 36:21
  Speaker A: I love that.
• 36:23
  Speaker B: Anyway, Friends.
• 36:24
  Speaker A: Yeah, friends. So you feel like school is, like, where you make your friends? I'm so curious.
• 36:28
  Speaker B: Yeah. But, like, I have. I know. I'm sure when he goes to, like, public school, he's like, in school. Like, I wanna. I wanna, like, make those, like, baseball mom friends.
• 36:35
  Speaker A: Yeah, me too.
• 36:36
  Speaker B: You're sitting in the stands and, like, you're just drinking, like, having fun anymore. I think people are my. I have an older mom friend. Shout out, you know who you are. She's a baseball mom and she made those mom friends where, like, they, they. They make, like, baseball mom shirts and they, like, they, like, have a bar cart and they're just, like, so fun. They go to all the games and, like, that's their.
• 36:56
  Speaker A: I don't want to be in charge. Like, I want to find a mom friend that, like, takes charge and I could just come.
• 36:59
  Speaker B: Oh, really?
• 37:00
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 37:00
  Speaker B: Like, I don't you want to be in charge?
• 37:02
  Speaker A: I don't want to make the T shirts and, like, make the lunches.
• 37:05
  Speaker B: Like, let. I don't want to.
• 37:06
  Speaker A: I want to sit on the sidelines for once.
• 37:08
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 37:08
  Speaker A: But I probably will.
• 37:09
  Speaker B: No, I'll do it. I'll say it'll just be you. Like, you'll do it.
• 37:12
  Speaker A: I'll be that mom friend that they meet.
• 37:14
  Speaker B: Then I'll do it. Like, oh, you're. You're that.
• 37:16
  Speaker A: Yeah. So that's fun, though.
• 37:18
  Speaker B: But it's really hard to make mom friends, and it's hard to have a conversation when you're actually on the play date or try. If you're even trying to get to know somebody. It's like, mommy, Mommy, Mommy.
• 37:28
  Speaker A: We've never talked.
• 37:29
  Speaker B: No. When we. If our kids are all around, we don't.
• 37:32
  Speaker A: We're like, we text afterwards. Did we say, hi, talk? Yeah.
• 37:34
  Speaker B: Did we say one word to a kid?
• 37:36
  Speaker A: We didn't. We never do. It's talk to a mom with her kids.
• 37:39
  Speaker B: Mom conversation.
• 37:40
  Speaker A: You're, like, grabbing your kids. You're like, oh, yeah, I'll remember last week's dinner. Yeah, I'm making that again tonight. Bye. Yeah, like, that's it.
• 37:47
  Speaker B: I was at the park with my girlfriend. She has three kids, too. And, like, we were trying to have a real conversation. She. We were talking about mom o' clock, and she was like, I love that. She wanted to tell me how her thoughts on the episode. Meanwhile, our sons are literally crossing swords, peeing on the bush. We're like, no, you're too close. No, don't. Don't touch that. No, not that.
• 38:07
  Speaker A: Don't play with each other.
• 38:08
  Speaker B: No. Oh, my God. Seriously, don't do that.
• 38:11
  Speaker A: I can't. So. Yeah, it's hard.
• 38:13
  Speaker B: It's really hard.
• 38:14
  Speaker A: I do like talking to other moms out in public. It's, like, fun, but, like, I don't want to be your friend yet. I'm not ready for a mom friend like that. That. I don't know.
• 38:20
  Speaker B: I'm just starting to wanting to do that now. Maybe because I'm. I don't know. But, like, I think it would be fun to meet a mom at a park and, like, hit it off. And then I'm more of like, you.
• 38:31
  Speaker A: Tell me you met this mom. Now I'm friends with her.
• 38:35
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 38:35
  Speaker A: And I'll hang out with her without you. Right. Like, that's, like, kind of how I meet friends sometimes.
• 38:39
  Speaker B: Yeah. But like, my mom friends right now or my girlfriends that are just becoming moms and Now I'm so lucky that my two best friends from high school move back to our town and they are here with their two babies.
• 38:50
  Speaker A: You say that often. You love that they can't.
• 38:52
  Speaker B: I love that they came back and they're twins and I love them today.
• 38:55
  Speaker A: Yeah. And you hung out with one yesterday.
• 38:57
  Speaker B: Yes.
• 38:57
  Speaker A: That's so fun for you.
• 38:59
  Speaker B: I'm like, it's just. It really is life changing when you have them and like, they're not working because they're actually on maternity leave right now. And I could just call them up and we can like, go to the.
• 39:08
  Speaker A: Park or do something so nice. And you have like, it's just easier when you have a childhood friend that is there for you.
• 39:13
  Speaker B: Yes. And also I have to say, I have girlfriends that are not moms and they are the best aunts to my kids.
• 39:21
  Speaker A: Yeah. You tell me that all the time.
• 39:22
  Speaker B: And I just, it's just like, it makes such a difference when, like, they want to be there for your kids.
• 39:27
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 39:28
  Speaker B: And like, your kids ask for them. Like, my kid asks for aunt Manny and Hoffy, Aunt Jordy, like, almost every day. They're like, are we? And they all live in the city, so they're living like not a single life in the city. They're married. But like, they're living the not mom life.
• 39:40
  Speaker A: Right.
• 39:41
  Speaker B: In the city, which is different. Yeah, it's different. And. But like, just to have that kind of like, aunt relationship, it's so nice.
• 39:47
  Speaker A: Yeah. And like, so you even feel like from the jump.
• 39:52
  Speaker B: From the jump. They were there. They were there.
• 39:54
  Speaker A: They never. They were consistent. They never.
• 39:56
  Speaker B: Aunt Manny was there when I was giving birth to my babies to help my mom babysit the other kids.
• 40:03
  Speaker A: I was confused. She's childhood friend.
• 40:05
  Speaker B: Aunt Manny is childhood friend since.
• 40:08
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 40:08
  Speaker B: Like four.
• 40:09
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 40:09
  Speaker B: And like, even when Vienna was in the hospital with rsv, my girl, Aunt Jordy came over. Like she watched my kids. Like, they're just there. They're those people for my kids. And I, I love that so much for them that like, they have those aunts because I don't have sisters.
• 40:23
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 40:23
  Speaker B: So, like, I have a sister in laws and they're my sisters, but, like, I don't have like, my son.
• 40:27
  Speaker A: Yeah. It's different when, like, I have you and I have girl cousins like, that I'm very, very close with. And like, they're like my sisters. But it's different when it's your actual sister. Right.
• 40:36
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 40:36
  Speaker A: You know? Yeah.
• 40:37
  Speaker B: And I just, I feel like relationships with your friends change. Yeah. When you become A mom.
• 40:42
  Speaker A: Like. Yeah. This is a huge topic too.
• 40:44
  Speaker B: Yeah. It's.
• 40:45
  Speaker A: I mean, I just feel like I.
• 40:46
  Speaker B: I feel like your friends were kind of shitty about it.
• 40:48
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 40:49
  Speaker B: And they didn't. They didn't see it. And I. Maybe when they become moms, they will understand.
• 40:52
  Speaker A: And I hope. I hope so, because I. It's hard not to feel certain ways about each other. And when you become a mom and they don't, and when they don't have kids and I do, and obviously there's going to be resentment in some sort of way. And to everyone's light. Like, I have so many women around me, aunts that aren't aunts, family members, not family members that, like, were there for me. So it's like, I saw it, I cared from a distance, if that makes sense. But now that I'm a mom and you feel it.
• 41:24
  Speaker B: And also I think that it makes such a difference when, like, from the start, my girlfriends were always there. Even the non.
• 41:30
  Speaker A: Now that you tell me that, it makes me really, really sad and envious that I didn't have that from my childhood friends.
• 41:37
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 41:37
  Speaker A: And I'm not saying they weren't there for me. They got him gifts. They came to see him, like, but they.
• 41:43
  Speaker B: It's different. Weren't doing it.
• 41:44
  Speaker A: Consistent with it. And listen, if you're. I'm. I'm not judging you for it. Like, if that's just how you felt, it's how you felt. I am not like that. And so I view it differently.
• 41:54
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 41:54
  Speaker A: But I am sad. I'm very, very sad that.
• 41:57
  Speaker B: And I feel that you're sad. And I. It is sad because they mean a lot to you and they have your whole, entire, Whole entire life. And now, like, your life changed a little bit. And they're not here for it because they don't understand or.
• 42:13
  Speaker A: I don't even know what it was because I feel like there was never conversation. But I. I just feel like. I don't know. I just. I am sad about the fact that looking like, I never thought it was wrong. I was just like, I'm a mom now.
• 42:28
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 42:28
  Speaker A: You know, no one's going to be the person they were to me anymore.
• 42:31
  Speaker B: Right.
• 42:31
  Speaker A: But you were like, no, my friends, they were even more there for me.
• 42:37
  Speaker B: They truly were. And I think. I don't know why. I just think because in their life, it was important for them, for my kids to know them. Like, very important for them.
• 42:45
  Speaker A: Yeah, me too. Like, it makes me sad for my son.
• 42:49
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 42:50
  Speaker A: Not to know there's my best Friend.
• 42:52
  Speaker B: I wish I knew. There's like a quote where it's like, I'm going to. I'm going to stop, like, caring about if you're not going to put in the effort for my kids, like, I'm not going to show it because it's like.
• 43:01
  Speaker A: And I know life changes when you have a kid, and I know relationships change and people are either there for you or they're not once you have a kid. But I never expected this, especially because it's lifelong friends.
• 43:13
  Speaker B: It's lifelong.
• 43:14
  Speaker A: I'm talking, like, pre K. And like you said, I love them to death, so that's why I'm sad. But I don't have that. What you have at all. Like, I don't remember the last time they saw Gio or even came here or, you know, any of that stuff.
• 43:29
  Speaker B: I know. And that's very sad. And it's sad for you, it's sad for Geo, it's sad for them. And maybe it could change when they have babies and they realize, like, oh, shit, this is hard. I wasn't there for her. She wasn't. Like, it was different.
• 43:43
  Speaker A: But also, I just feel like I had no grace. And.
• 43:46
  Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, also you were going through. I feel like, like you said, like, you're always, like, you have everything together, but, like, the first year you really didn't and you weren't feeling great and you, you were struggling mentally and you were still showed up for the baby showers and the weddings and stuff, but, like, you weren't, like, really there. So maybe they felt that in a different way and they thought that you really weren't into it, but, like, you were struggling. So it wasn't like you were doing it on purpose.
• 44:10
  Speaker A: Yeah, and I showed up the best way I knew how to. But at the same time, like, it would have been different if, you know, you felt something. Yeah, Like I was just given some grace. Like, hey, I know, I know you're not doing well.
• 44:24
  Speaker B: You got none of that.
• 44:25
  Speaker A: No, don't worry about it. Like, everything's all good. Or I didn't really get anything. I mean, I got the normal. Like, when you have a baby, like, here's a gift, he's so cute. Like, let's hang out.
• 44:36
  Speaker B: I don't like that shit when, you know, a friend who isn't a mom can also be in your life.
• 44:43
  Speaker A: So it was normal.
• 44:44
  Speaker B: No, it's not normal. Fuck that. Sorry.
• 44:47
  Speaker A: And I just, I just. I don't feel like I don't know who's wrong. Like, I talk to You. And you tell me how it is. But it's like, was I wrong? Like, did I do something that hurt your feelings? And if it.
• 44:58
  Speaker B: If you don't talk about it, like.
• 45:00
  Speaker A: I just feel like in the back of my brain.
• 45:02
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 45:03
  Speaker A: I had a kid.
• 45:04
  Speaker B: Right.
• 45:04
  Speaker A: And everybody has a kid, so I never played that card. I never once did.
• 45:08
  Speaker B: Right. But it is. It's. It's very.
• 45:11
  Speaker A: My life is different, and I didn't get any grace. And, like, I'm not. I'm not even gonna get angry about it. I'm just sad.
• 45:17
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 45:17
  Speaker A: And I just. I. I just look at you and your friends and how, like, you know me. I'm such a friends person. Yeah.
• 45:24
  Speaker B: You're like. You're a girl's girl.
• 45:26
  Speaker A: I'm always a girl's girl. And I just. I'm really upset.
• 45:30
  Speaker B: Yeah. I'm so sad that you feel that way. And I. But then.
• 45:35
  Speaker A: But am I wrong? Like.
• 45:36
  Speaker B: No, you're not wrong. But then again, it's like, then do you really want those people, like, around, like, where I'm at?
• 45:43
  Speaker A: It's like, I'm really, really sorry for myself to say this out loud. It's like, are we. Like, how. How are we not? How. How is this here? How are we here?
• 45:54
  Speaker B: Yeah. And, like, we're not in high school anymore. Like, these are. This is like, real life when your friends.
• 45:59
  Speaker A: You're like, I'm not. I can't come to that. Like, I have three and. And I don't think they've ever got mad for me not showing up. Actually, I feel like they have. But how do you not, like, put things aside for a mom?
• 46:10
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 46:10
  Speaker A: I just. I don't know.
• 46:11
  Speaker B: I don't know. But I do. I just. Playing devil's advocate. I know that it is very hard to put yourself in the position if you don't know what it's like to be a mom.
• 46:21
  Speaker A: Totally. Because I've been there.
• 46:23
  Speaker B: Yeah. Like, even, like, I don't know. Just. Let's just talk about. So my son was your ring bearer, Right?
• 46:28
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 46:29
  Speaker B: And, like, that was hard for me to, like, have him there. But now looking back, like, it would be. Your wedding would have been so much more enjoyable for me if I didn't have to think about it.
• 46:36
  Speaker A: I know. And I should have thought about that.
• 46:38
  Speaker B: But, like. But you wouldn't think about that. I was happy. Like, it was such an honor looking at, like. Yeah. Like, I asked, like, honorable like, yes, you mean?
• 46:45
  Speaker A: But now I'm like, don't ask.
• 46:46
  Speaker B: Right. Don't Ask my kids to be in your wedding. Like, don't you understand? Like my bachelorette. Yeah. I did not come on your bachelorette. And I wanted to, but. Yeah.
• 46:53
  Speaker A: And I. I was never salty about it. Never even looked. Blinked twice. But I was like, right, Just come.
• 46:59
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 46:59
  Speaker A: Like, you know there's another mom coming. Just come.
• 47:01
  Speaker B: But now you understand.
• 47:03
  Speaker A: Oh, completely. Like, totally.
• 47:05
  Speaker B: I wish I did, though, but I know. Was I pregnant? What? Was I. You were pregnant, so I wish I didn't come.
• 47:11
  Speaker A: No, because you weren't pregnant at my wedding.
• 47:13
  Speaker B: Oh, no, I was. Vienna was a couple months old at your wedding. Yeah.
• 47:16
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 47:16
  Speaker B: I was probably like a month.
• 47:18
  Speaker A: Yeah. But I feel like.
• 47:20
  Speaker B: I mean, I was squirting milk at your wedding. No, look, Espresso martinis, titty mouse. I'm just like, oh, I got so drunk at her wedding.
• 47:28
  Speaker A: You did. I think you disappeared.
• 47:30
  Speaker B: I did.
• 47:32
  Speaker A: Anyway.
• 47:33
  Speaker B: Yeah. It's hard to. It is hard to keep friends, but.
• 47:36
  Speaker A: I'll cry the tears. I have nothing.
• 47:37
  Speaker B: I know you did. You. I. I've been here for it. And I just want to say that when the time comes that these moms are moms, I think they'll understand. And either they'll do something different or.
• 47:52
  Speaker A: It is what it is.
• 47:53
  Speaker B: It's over.
• 47:54
  Speaker A: I gotta say, friend breakups are worse than mom breakups. I mean, that made no sense. No breakups are worse than boyfriend breakups.
• 48:03
  Speaker B: Well, I mean, you have a history. You have a real history.
• 48:06
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 48:06
  Speaker B: I mean, a good friend for years and years and years.
• 48:09
  Speaker A: It just makes me feel like I did something wrong.
• 48:12
  Speaker B: Yeah, but you didn't. I. From my view.
• 48:16
  Speaker A: I know. I mean, and if I did, please tell me.
• 48:18
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 48:20
  Speaker A: And I just was being a mom and I didn't ask for sympathy.
• 48:23
  Speaker B: Right.
• 48:24
  Speaker A: I really didn't. And I still don't that.
• 48:26
  Speaker B: But you do have a couple friends that have been here.
• 48:28
  Speaker A: Oh, my God. Let's talk about the friends.
• 48:29
  Speaker B: Like, yeah, My Zia, the auntie for it.
• 48:32
  Speaker A: Auntie Al, Birdie Jay. Like, they're from afar. Z is the only one who lives. RZ is the only one who lives close. So she comes.
• 48:42
  Speaker B: It's hard when they live far, but like. But you still the. The effort is there if you. If you wanted to be there.
• 48:46
  Speaker A: I was driving up to.
• 48:48
  Speaker B: For them.
• 48:49
  Speaker A: Yeah. Like, no one was. And I didn't expect anybody to come here, but like. And I'm the one with the kid.
• 48:54
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 48:55
  Speaker A: I. There's so many things, and I feel like maybe you can say more things, but I don't even have the brain.
• 48:59
  Speaker B: Cells to even let me see if I have anything on here. Oh, I did have to mention, like, if I am meeting you at a park or I am meeting you, like, vulnerability is sexy. Like, tell me that your kid just, like, shit on the floor. Like, I want to. I don't want you to, like, put on a front. Like, I'm not trying to be that mom. Like, I want to know, like, your life is not perfect.
• 49:18
  Speaker A: Other moms, you're saying?
• 49:19
  Speaker B: Yeah, like, other moms. Like, I want to know that, like, you're not this perfect mom living in this organic world.
• 49:24
  Speaker A: I feel like I've been more open putting a spray.
• 49:28
  Speaker B: And also you being a mom and me being a mom, like, we become closer.
• 49:32
  Speaker A: Yeah. I mean, when you're both moms, you. I mean, we were always close. We were always close, but we were never this close. We definitely become very close. You're disgusting. No, we're not. She'll probably be telling you that she'd never, never. I hate women, so. But we've definitely become so close. Like, we are, like, you know, more than most people do.
• 49:52
  Speaker B: Mike, we're about to play a game.
• 49:57
  Speaker A: Can we. Can we wrap up the thought?
• 49:58
  Speaker B: Yeah, I guess. What's your thought?
• 50:00
  Speaker A: I just feel like. I always thought, like, when you become mom and you don't have moms that aren't friends, and when they are moms, like, it's just better. You're just. Yeah, but I have friends that don't have kids that are very close to my son and myself, so I know it's possible. And. And it's okay. Like, friendships move on. And, like, people say, like, that part of your life's over, so it is what it is. And.
• 50:24
  Speaker B: Yeah. I mean, it's sad, but also think.
• 50:26
  Speaker A: You'Re more sad for me.
• 50:27
  Speaker B: How many. How much effort can you make for. And also, you're like. Like I always say, like, you're. Now that my kids know my. The aunts that. That don't have kids, like, I'm gonna protect their heart. Like, they. They ask for them. I'm like, so they're gonna come for them. Yeah.
• 50:41
  Speaker A: I don't even want them around. Don't. I don't want.
• 50:43
  Speaker B: Right. Like, if you don't know them, like, that's fine.
• 50:45
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 50:45
  Speaker B: Or like, if you're gonna develop a relationship and you're gonna actually be there, then welcome.
• 50:49
  Speaker A: Yeah. Oh, my God. I would welcome with open arms. Like, I want. I want nothing more. I want nothing more than my friend's kids and I. Them to grow up together.
• 50:56
  Speaker B: Yeah. You know, when I have my girlfriends who have kids, we are already planning marriages like Vienna Passarelli. If Vienna doesn't marry, that's another thing. Yeah, yeah.
• 51:07
  Speaker A: Like, I.
• 51:07
  Speaker B: They need to get married and live happily ever after. I will love the mother in law. Everything will be good.
• 51:12
  Speaker A: Perfect. I feel like that with one of my friends now. Like, we were childhood best friends growing up. Like, I mean, you know me, you know her. Like, yeah. We were attached to the hip. We grew and went our separate ways. And now that we're both moms, our kids are a day apart.
• 51:26
  Speaker B: Yeah. That's crazy.
• 51:28
  Speaker A: We are close now.
• 51:29
  Speaker B: I have to say, that's actually really funny that you. You can, like, reconnect with people. Like, even since we've done mama clock. Like, there's this group of girls that I wasn't necessarily close with in high school. They were a little older than me, but I always, like, thought they were cool. And now they're, like, reaching out and, like, they want to talk about mom stuff because they're all moms now. Like, I would totally hang out with them if they lived closer. Like, we'd probably be best friends, but, like, I just think it's awesome that, like, we can connect on.
• 51:53
  Speaker A: Yeah. And that's how I feel. And we go to lunch with our kids, and we hang out, we talk. We probably, like, every day, if not every other day. And we, you know, it's just, like, it's so fun to build that relationship back up. But anywho, we have a game, and.
• 52:07
  Speaker B: We have a game instead of mom confessions. Today we're doing a little different thing.
• 52:11
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 52:12
  Speaker B: Called Would you rather. Would you rather mom edition? Yeah, but I know I need a phone. All right, this game is called would you'd rather mom edition hinged.
• 52:22
  Speaker A: Let's do it.
• 52:22
  Speaker B: I'm gonna ask you the questions, you're gonna tell me, and I'll maybe put my two cents in.
• 52:26
  Speaker A: Okay, go.
• 52:27
  Speaker B: Would you rather accidentally send a screenshot of your husband's weird sexual request to the preschool group chat or accidentally post a screenshot of your poop on your story asking if this is normal? I feel like you almost did that.
• 52:46
  Speaker A: I feel like I would do the poop.
• 52:47
  Speaker B: You would? You'd rather do the poop?
• 52:49
  Speaker A: Yeah, because everybody poops.
• 52:51
  Speaker B: Okay. Everyone does poop. Do you have that book for your kid yet?
• 52:54
  Speaker A: No.
• 52:54
  Speaker B: Everybody poops. Gotta get it.
• 52:56
  Speaker A: Yeah, I would definitely do the poop. Next.
• 52:58
  Speaker B: Would you rather have a blowout diaper explode in your designer purse or let your Toddler cut your hair for those horrible bangs.
• 53:09
  Speaker A: Oh, my God. This is really hard. Pooping in the bag.
• 53:13
  Speaker B: Really?
• 53:13
  Speaker A: Yeah. I can always get it cleaned.
• 53:15
  Speaker B: Okay.
• 53:16
  Speaker A: My hair might not grow back.
• 53:17
  Speaker B: Those bangs are gonna.
• 53:18
  Speaker A: I can't walk around like that.
• 53:19
  Speaker B: I agree.
• 53:20
  Speaker A: I could just, I guess get another bag.
• 53:25
  Speaker B: All right. Would you rather have to explain the vibrator that was in your diaper bag at the TSA check or let your mother in law move in with you for three weeks?
• 53:38
  Speaker A: Mother in law move. I'd rather my mother in law move in with me for three weeks.
• 53:42
  Speaker B: Oh, okay. Would you hope you have a great mother in law?
• 53:45
  Speaker A: I do. You would love to have the vibrator.
• 53:47
  Speaker B: In the bag at tv. I wouldn't care either way. My mother in law is great and like vibrator in the diaper bag. That's fine too.
• 53:53
  Speaker A: Probably do have that now.
• 53:54
  Speaker B: Would you rather send a nude to the PTA group chat by accident or have your toddler scream my mom poops all over target? Like screaming up and down the aisles my mom poops target thing. Okay.
• 54:14
  Speaker A: Yeah. I don't want. I don't want PTA mom seeing my naked body.
• 54:17
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 54:17
  Speaker A: Then they have to look at me and see that the rest of their lives.
• 54:21
  Speaker B: Would you rather never drink caffeine again ever? Do you care about caffeine?
• 54:26
  Speaker A: I feel like that's the next question.
• 54:28
  Speaker B: Or let your mother in law name your next baby?
• 54:31
  Speaker A: I rather eliminate caffeine.
• 54:33
  Speaker B: Okay.
• 54:34
  Speaker A: Health.
• 54:35
  Speaker B: Would you rather have your husband get a lap dance at a strip club or go on a week long golf trip?
• 54:44
  Speaker A: Week long golf trip.
• 54:45
  Speaker B: Second lap dance.
• 54:46
  Speaker A: Week long golf trip. That's so long. No woman is touching my sexy husband. He's too good looking for all that stuff.
• 54:54
  Speaker B: He's hot. He winked at me like that. Did you see that? That's what he does on golf trips. Would you rather screenshot a convo talking shit with another mom but by accident send it to the mom that you're talking shit about?
• 55:09
  Speaker A: No, I rather not.
• 55:11
  Speaker B: Or have your kid repeat that daddy has a small penis at school?
• 55:17
  Speaker A: Small penis.
• 55:18
  Speaker B: Okay. Would you rather have your babysitter walk in on you having sex with your husband or have your toddler yell, my mom calls my dad a little bitch at school.
• 55:32
  Speaker A: Little bitch at school.
• 55:33
  Speaker B: You'd rather him say that?
• 55:34
  Speaker A: Yeah. What if Sandra walked in on you and she would have to see that for the rest of her life. You might want her to walk in on you, sicko.
• 55:41
  Speaker B: Remember I texted you about confession? I'm having an affair with you. Were like, are you?
• 55:46
  Speaker A: Yeah, actually. Because I don't know what you. I can't. There you go.
• 55:52
  Speaker B: That's it. That's all I got.
• 55:53
  Speaker A: Oh, we're done.
• 55:54
  Speaker B: We're done.
• 55:56
  Speaker A: This is such a good episode.
• 55:57
  Speaker B: I liked it. It was fun.
• 55:59
  Speaker A: All right, anywho, you know the drill. Follow us.
• 56:02
  Speaker B: That was a very bad. You know the drill. Wait. We're gonna have such a fun night tonight.
• 56:06
  Speaker A: We're gonna have such a. So we're. We. I told you this, but we're going out to dinner with my cousin and his boyfriend, my sister in law, my brother, my husband and us, Emily and her husband. We're so excited. We're going to Espos in Raritan. If you have never been. It's delicious. I'm so excited. Shout out to Espos.
• 56:23
  Speaker B: I'm gonna have dirty martinis. I'm gonna get drunk.
• 56:25
  Speaker A: And now that I had. I had solid, solid poops and bowel movements.
• 56:29
  Speaker B: All right, let's go.
• 56:30
  Speaker A: I've had stomach problems. Anyway, you know the drill. Follow us on the socials.
• 56:36
  Speaker B: It was by my head Instagram TikTok tube.
• 56:41
  Speaker A: But if you're going to YouTube, not.
• 56:42
  Speaker B: Oh, I didn't talk about peanut. Do you know that there's an app, it's called Peanut? It's Peanut. It's like Tinder for moms, where you swipe right if you want to be mom friends or swipe left if you don't. I need the craziest thing. Everyone, check it out. Peanut.
• 56:54
  Speaker A: Peanut. Anyway, follow us on socials. It's mom o' clock somewhere. Like follow, subscribe, don't forget, please. You love us. You know us. You want to be us.
• 57:06
  Speaker B: Do they?
• 57:07
  Speaker A: I hope.
• 57:07
  Speaker B: I hope. Okay, we love you.
• 57:10
  Speaker A: Bye.
• 57:11
  Speaker B: Bye.
• 57:11
  Speaker A: Bye. I gotta go.