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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: The Necessity of Emotional Response to Unholiness 12.17.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  A7 The overall theme and it's a powerful theme.
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  Again, it brings out maybe the strong side of ourselves and
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  that is we should not accept something that's inappropriate.
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  They should be bothered or something comes out.
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  There's nothing against Kabocha Mine.
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  We should bother us from saying it's all obviously we had this
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  spot and this literally is a fun cause story, but people will
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  bother by lack of Kabocha Mine and it should bother us.
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  Literally it should. You should feel bad when you see
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  something that's wrong and you should feel good when you see
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  things that are broke up with your mind.
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  That should be your approach to things.
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  So you said let me play out there.
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  Read from the words on 398. He says there's that question.
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  If you love someone and they get hurt, they get insulted, you're
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  going to jump up and defend them.
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  Or is that for shoot Camini show?
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  I have the capital E Charlo. Imagine you have a Sibima that
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  scene that you know the crew guys said to you and some guys
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  are just going out there. Your friend or maybe someone is
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  not being nice to your wife or something with your kids to have
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  a bad day with. Someone's talking to you guys
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  their own way and you want to pounce in the gun.
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  You're not an angry person. You'll not ever talk that way
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  and they would never do it beyond defense.
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  You would never say that beyond defense, but your child making a
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  rail on your child, they're going to talk about the other
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  way, about your kid or about your wife or about your friend
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  in front of you and you're sitting there.
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  It's making you burn. That's feeling that emotion.
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  We talk about emotion. That emotion is something that
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  we are supposed to sense when it comes to them.
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  Talking about your best friend, that best friend being God,
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  which means someone goes out there and says something about
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  Judaism should bother you. If it's a negative thing about
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  you, it should bother you. If someone does something that
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  is a fool of a shame, whether it's your people of your own
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  nook or people of the other issue, say something that's anti
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  Hashem, it shouldn't bother you. It should actually we should
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  feel an emotion. Someone passes a law and the
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  government passes a law that's anti tura.
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  You should feel an emotion. When people walk around the
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  streets and they do things that are so against morality and they
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  really make you, you feel funny. You should feel funny and you
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  should be happy. OK, you feeling funny because
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  what you are sensing is I am revealing the facts and I have
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  this emotion that I really love God.
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  If I didn't love God I wouldn't care.
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  And if I don't care it's an indication that my love is not
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  so strong. My love is in full display when
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  I really treat a sham like another person that comes to
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  love and the same way to get into the first second, them
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  being attacked would bother me. When it comes to God and His way
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  and his foot up and His way of life and his people, all that
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  then being attacked bothersome. So you say you feel the most in
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  that emotion allowed to be angry like we went that all the all
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  the emotions that you're supposed to have a balance of
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  land you can't have sometimes sometimes you said it when it
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  comes to anger, they should never have anger.
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  Could you say this? It is that.
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  Sense so that be a mystical great question.
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  Everyone else is the words I hate.
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  I hate those who hate car and the real.
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  That was not a first thing who had hate on his lips.
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  I don't know if he said cost, but he did say hate.
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  Now, I don't think that becomes a reactionary emotion, but it
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  does become a disparaging emotion, which means you should
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  put them down, take them down, don't give them the light of
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  day, don't give them a chance to talk, don't allow them to have
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  them at the table. All those arguments which we
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  often say, come on, give them a chance, Let them say that point.
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  They have a point. They're 20% right, 80% right.
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  All those logics go out the window when you display this
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  emotion, Joe. So the answer is, I don't know
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  if it's called Cos. I'm not barking to say Cos, but
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  I do have backed him to say sin. Ah, there was a concept called
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  hating those who hate God as the villa metals approach, hating
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  Hashem for hating those we hate our shame.
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  And it's a wild concept. And this is some point.
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  And by the way, I think of that topic when I think of this
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  discussion, I always think about that topic.
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  The reason this is so important, it could be those for people, or
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  it can be people who are pumping these crazy ideologies, people
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  on the college campuses from pumping all these liberal ideas
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  and then making you feel guilty to not accept their ideas.
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  All right, So the reason this is important is twofold. 1, it's a
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  reflection. Literally, you have a
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  thermometer in your brain. The thermometer is asking how
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  much do you love God and the thermometer in oaths.
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  This is if seeing those people, people who are anti Asian who
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  live in an anti Asian life, if hearing about that, if looking
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  at if listening to them give you ideologies and ideas.
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  If it doesn't bother you, it's an indication that my
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  thermometer and serene areas and my love of Hashem, if it doesn't
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  get very hot, any frustration, it's an indication you're not
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  getting very hot and love of God, that's how it works.
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  That's how far the thermometer goes.
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  That's one. Secondly, this is equally as
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  important of my own opinion and the outcome even more important
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  and that is you want the people around you to reflect your
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  opinions. Why?
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  Because you want them to know where you hold up.
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  We don't go out there, we don't protest, we don't yell and
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  scream. You don't Rabba doesn't give a
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  speech anymore about negativity and never hearing they give a
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  speech ever anymore, right. So how do you know what people
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  really hold the answer really is what bothers them shows.
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  I'll give you an example with me and my children all the time.
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  I hope this carries over one more time.
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  I have to walk down the street. This happened this first Friday.
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  I have to walk down the street and you have a gory.
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  You can't avoid it. You have a gory and they drop
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  curses. All right, you're walking by.
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  This happens to me all the time. I don't know why.
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  It's my luck. You let your brother walk with
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  them. All right, Hey, job for this
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  here. So what do I do?
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  I have the same line every time my kids started to It's like my
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  joke last night. I used to originally I used to
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  try to develop a shelter mentality.
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  You can shelter, which means you don't bring it into your house.
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  You don't let them see this is on your friend.
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  Understood. At the same time, you can't
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  avoid it. But I know that those who try to
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  avoid and then the few times the kids hear it, forget about it.
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  So on my approach is escape. Maybe it's a joke, maybe it's
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  silly, but it works. Oh, and I say these words I just
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  said, if we can repeat these words, a goy is a goy is a goy
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  is a goy every time. And what it does is it takes
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  down the whole impression that they have.
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  We are all attracted to the street.
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  We grew up attracted to the street for whatever reason, and
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  now we have to combat that. They have to combat that always.
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  They do the same line. You see a goy is a goy is a
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  good. And then what I do with them is,
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  and this is also very effective. It happens to be.
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  And some people say it's not going to work.
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  It doesn't really work. I thought you see that guy?
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  My son came over to me. He said Dad with when she bought
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  a meal. Dad, who holds Amazon?
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  OK, does the guy own Amazon? Up to disparage him when
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  recording. But does the guy own Amazon?
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  Very old, is he? How old is he?
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  I said, is he his name? Jeff.
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  His name is Jeff. Paul.
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  Jeff. Wow.
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  He must be very, very rich, Dad. I said, yeah, he really is.
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  I said it's one of his kids. I said, by the way, everybody,
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  you would not want his life, OK? He had a simple life and then
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  his life, I'm not saying it's the worst life, but it got kind
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  of weird recently and he's delivered a strange life and he
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  ready to split his money. So you would not want his life,
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  right? And they're just an argument and
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  how you could say you would want his life and you could say, OK,
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  big deals. They got divorce, people get
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  divorce. I understand that.
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  They say, OK, big deal. He was a nice guy.
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  Yeah, but he caught there was no reason.
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  And yeah, he kind of spoiled out of control and staying these
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  kind of true with Bill Gates and saying that you're all these
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  guys and I'm not saying that these people out of the worst
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  life ever, I'm not going to, you know, relax on that point.
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  They easily can replace that challenge by other replacements.
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  I'm aware. But at the same time, there's
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  not much there. That's the reality.
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  You and I both know it. They don't have our families,
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  they don't have our background, they don't have our communities.
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  They don't have our meaning. They don't have our purpose.
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  And you might say, yeah, but they can replace it with the
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  money. I hear you.
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  Ultimately, we can pretty much rest assured they even if those
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  two do, what are the odds that our kids have to get as wealthy
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  as those two men? They can't really gather their
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  family together be able like women do it.
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  Why do I get console? Yeah, play.
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  You have to display a sense that our value system is significant,
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  but that the last purpose, which is to keep these other minds
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  out. So we have two cores as to why
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  we hate. And yes, that's our strong word.
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  Want to be very clear, in America, hate is reflected
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  action. I'm not talking about that at
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  all at all. Not at all.
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  Hate is a mindset And this concept, which means it bothers
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  me. It bothers me their way of life.
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  It bothers me when someone gets on TV and starts to talk about
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  ideologies that you know are wrong, that are off, that are
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  terrible, that are harmful to the kids.
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  It bothers you. Doesn't it bother you?
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  Gets me crazy if you walk and you shouldn't be and you see
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  people eye poos every time. Every time I see a nasty tattoo,
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  I still, I still can't stomach it.
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  And not because I don't think that there's a way in my mind to
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  make them look pretty. I'm sure there's a way I could
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  wire my brain to make them look good.
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  I'm sure there's a way. If I go down that crazy mindset,
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  I can hear it. It's more about the fact I don't
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  want my kids to go up in a world that these things are normal.
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  I remember a world without an advertisement.
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  They would never, ever, ever show a person with a tattoo.
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  Now, today, they still show you the clean person, but they also
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  show you that person, too. They wanted to show you the
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  normal. Then they want to show you the
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  hip key. Lewitt's hip.
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  It's hip. For a guy to make a decision at
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  30 that's going to ruin us. That's going to make ugly at 40
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  or at 50 or at 60. It's hip.
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  They try to commit you on that. So I you driving me crazy
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  because we have to live in this world.
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  These are things that drive me crazy.
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  My pet peeves of life are working on the street and seeing
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  people living their crazy lifestyle or seeing people dress
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  crazy ways or using crazy language for these two reasons.
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  One, because it's defying God and it's defying God's way and
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  they carrying and hand like about your mind and stance and
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  everything that they do. 2 because we don't want that
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  barrier to ever be broken, not even a drop.
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  Because you want our unbelievably sacred and
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  beautiful world to remain this way.
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  The comforting concept is this. The comforting concept is this.
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  Over the last 10 to 15 years, maybe 20 years, you would have
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  thought growing up in this world, greatest people in this
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  world, that we would have fallen.
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  You would have thought somehow they would have made it a rose.
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  Didn't make it a rose. They made some, but not enough.
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  And they're, according to the percentage, not at all what they
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  could have done. So the comforting concept is, is
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  that somehow we had a bounce back and somehow we have a CERN.
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  I wouldn't say we're not, you know, get ahead of myself, but a
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  certain sense of protection community in this community, in
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  that area. Like we never let the Alians
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  into Syria. I know.
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  But it's surprised, Dave. It was very surprising because
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  we had college, which is very strong.
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  We have all these influence which is unbelievably strong.
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  And somehow some way, we have this unique kind of, I think
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  it's an open miracle and it's one of the biggest miracles in
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  the world. And that is we have this unique
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  wiring that although we're as worldly as it gets and as those,
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  we're all over the place and we're out there and we're
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  involved and we're in business and we're with it and we're well
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  off and we're connected. Somehow we ended up liking our
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  style more and rather than say it's all taram, it's what taram,
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  it's what's part of it, it's our style and it's more impressive
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  and reality. As a kid of the choice, should I
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  be an SY kid? I don't even care somebody
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  Shabbat. Should I be an SY kid or should
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  I be a good? Which one is cooler hands down.
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  That's why kid is I think it will last.
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  Then it all comes back together and we have this beauty.
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  So the secondary of our class, which is the need to create this
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  self and this reality is a very significant area our blessed
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  then it exists. So the two points, one, it
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  bothers us because we care about couple Chaman, 2, it bothers us
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  because we care about the influence and on top of that we
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  try to figure the way how to keep our certain barrier up to
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  avoid patent influence asiding stop at this time.