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We’re All Tired… and It’s Not Just Sleep · Stay Outta My Fridge

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  Speaker 1: I think we talk enough about this kind of tired.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 1: It's not the tired where you need sleep, not the
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  Speaker 1: tired where you just worked a long day. I mean
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  Speaker 1: the tired where you sleep and for whatever reason, you
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  Speaker 1: still wake up tired. The tired where you're doing things
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  Speaker 1: you love, things you chose, and things you're proud of,
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  Speaker 1: and your body and your brain are still like, hey man,
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  Speaker 1: we're running on fumes over here. But that's kind of
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  Speaker 1: where I'm at right now. I mean, from basketball practice
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  Speaker 1: and games and stuff six days a week.
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  Speaker 3: And then you.
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  Speaker 1: Sprinkle on a little bit of the work stress, some deadlines,
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  Speaker 1: responsibility that sometimes just doesn't clock out. Then you had
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  Speaker 1: being a dad, being a husband. Trying to show up
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  Speaker 1: is both and not just trying to show up, but
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  Speaker 1: trying to show up as both well fully, and then
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  Speaker 1: sprinkle on all the shows, all the podcasts, all the
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  Speaker 1: beard lost stuff. And let me say this clearly, I'm exhausted,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm also incredibly thankful at the same time. In
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  Speaker 1: that combination, it can mess with your head a little bit, right,
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  Speaker 1: because when you're feeling thankful, you don't need to feel
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  Speaker 1: like you're allowed to be tired, like exhaustion means you're ungrateful.
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  Speaker 1: Like if you say this is a lot, someone's going
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  Speaker 1: to respond to you with, yeah, but look how blessed
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  Speaker 1: you are, and you're like, I know that's the problem,
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  Speaker 1: because gratitude doesn't refill your energy tank, right, it makes
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  Speaker 1: you feel almost guilty for noticing that it's empty. And
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  Speaker 1: that's when I realize something that we're all tired right now,
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  Speaker 1: deep tired, mental tired, background tired, and nobody knows how
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  Speaker 1: to talk about it without sounding like they're complaining. Welcome back,
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  Speaker 1: this is stay out of my fridge, and I'm mad.
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  Speaker 1: I also go by beard laws, And let's be honest,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not out here complaining. I'm not out here looking
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  Speaker 1: for praise. I'm not out here looking for I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how you do it all the time, because I
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  Speaker 1: do get that a lot. I'm just simply wanting to
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  Speaker 1: be relatable, to talk about some stuff that I feel
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  Speaker 1: like is relatable. I'm not the only one in the
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  Speaker 1: world that's tired, and honestly, I'm a lot less tired.
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  Speaker 1: Once I've swatched over the Squatch Juice more Mental, more focused,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, like I said, there's a lot of us
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  Speaker 1: that we're just grinding. We're out here. It's it's been
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  Speaker 1: a long winter. It's hasn't been an easy winter, and
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  Speaker 1: everybody in my area is feeling it.
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  Speaker 2: But we have.
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  Speaker 1: That, we have that, like, hey, we're almost out of this.
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  Speaker 1: It's February. February usually really cold. It still kind of sucks,
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  Speaker 1: but it's still February. It's a shorter month of the year.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we have things to look forward to. We have,
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  Speaker 1: you know, basketball playoffs. A lot of people love Valentine's Day,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of birthdays, President's Day, if you're into that
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  Speaker 1: kind of stuff. And where we are in the Northeast,
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  Speaker 1: we're almost out of it. Where we enter mud season,
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  Speaker 1: flood season, but it's not winter season, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: you go from the wrap up of the winter sports
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  Speaker 1: over to the spring sports. And I love my baseball,
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  Speaker 1: I love my softball. I'm looking forward to more sunlight.
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  Speaker 1: Just being able to walk out and touch the ground
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  Speaker 1: in your barefoot. I mean you can do that now
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  Speaker 1: in the snow and the ice, yes, but boy, doesn't
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  Speaker 1: I feel great. I just want to get down and
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  Speaker 1: touch some grass and I feel like there's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people out there that are just there. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: proud of everybody in my life, and I'm proud of anybody.
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  Speaker 2: Listening to this.
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  Speaker 1: You've made it this far. We're gonna keep grinding right.
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  Speaker 1: And again, I'm not out here saying like I'm the
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  Speaker 1: busiest guy in the world. I don't need an award,
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  Speaker 1: I don't need nothing. I'm not complaining. I'm very thankful
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  Speaker 1: and hopefully you caught that part of it, because I'm
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  Speaker 1: blessed with my life. I'm thankful. And let me tell you,
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  Speaker 1: it's been a crazy one. I mean, just for instance,
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  Speaker 1: the other day, we were in four different gyms. The
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  Speaker 1: youngest played basketball in the tournament. In two different gyms.
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  Speaker 1: We went and watched an alumnus and alumnize and a
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  Speaker 1: female alumni of the high school where I'm coaching playing
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  Speaker 1: a college game, and then we scrambled over to watch
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  Speaker 1: the middle kid play some basketball at another gym. And
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  Speaker 1: it was just a great day spent not only with
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  Speaker 1: my actual family, but with the basketball family, the community.
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  Speaker 1: And it was really cool. Like I noticed something. There
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  Speaker 1: was a lot of people, like you had coaches that
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  Speaker 1: went in support of the modified teams you had, you know,
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  Speaker 1: some varsity players, some other families like it. I just
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  Speaker 1: love to see the support of the athletes, no matter
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  Speaker 1: the age. And you know, we were at a basketball tournament.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people you know, rooting for there and
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people sideline coaching, which that's a whole
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  Speaker 1: different topic, but either way, there was a lot of
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  Speaker 1: a lot of support for a lot of kids, and
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  Speaker 1: that's very important. I'm very thankful to see that in
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  Speaker 1: a lot of a lot of these communities. Right And
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  Speaker 1: as kind of we've evolved this show a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: we stay out of my fridge. So we're gonna go
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  Speaker 1: a couple of different layers from the main shelf to
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  Speaker 1: the crisper drawer, to the freezer, to the fridge. And
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  Speaker 1: I want to open up this fridge right now, and
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  Speaker 1: I want to jump right into the main shelf. You
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  Speaker 1: guys know, the main shelf, the first shelf you see
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  Speaker 1: whether it's got your beer, whether it's got your meat,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's got you know, your condiments. However you do
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  Speaker 1: your fridge. We all have different fridge and organizational skills.
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  Speaker 1: But we open it up and we're gonna jump right
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  Speaker 1: into that main shelf. And this is kind of on
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  Speaker 1: the main shelf for me. It's when busy stopped kind
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  Speaker 1: of being a phase. Right in my life, there was
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  Speaker 1: a time when being busy felt kind of temporary, right,
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  Speaker 1: you say, things are a little crazy right now, and
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  Speaker 1: people kind of knew what you meant. You know, this
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  Speaker 1: was the phase of life pre kids, where yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: were busy, but it was a it was a controlled busy.
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  Speaker 1: It was, Hey, I'm gonna go to the bar and
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  Speaker 1: have a couple of beers after work. Kind of busier.
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  Speaker 1: Hey I got to work some overtime kind of busier.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Hey, I got to go mold alawn and
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  Speaker 1: do this and do this, and but I really want
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  Speaker 1: to I want to jump in and watch a couple
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  Speaker 1: of movies. Kind of busy, right, And you know, we
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  Speaker 1: can all relate to that or have relatable in that
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  Speaker 1: phase of your life. But there was kind of an
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  Speaker 1: implied end to this kind of phase of life right now,
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  Speaker 1: right And obviously now busy feels like kind of let's
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  Speaker 1: go with the default setting of life. Let's be honest.
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  Speaker 1: Practices they don't end three kids. In sports, in coaching sports,
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  Speaker 1: they don't end. They actually just kind of roll into it, because,
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  Speaker 1: let's be honest, practices. They roll into games. Games, they
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  Speaker 1: roll into film and watching other games, and then films
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  Speaker 1: roll into planning, and planning rolls into emails and emails
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  Speaker 1: they roll into text, and then text eventually roll into calls. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: let's be hon Does that work. It doesn't have an
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  Speaker 1: off switch anymore. It just changes screens, It changes seats
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  Speaker 1: and family time. It doesn't feel like carested. It feels
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  Speaker 1: like another place you need to show up correctly. And
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  Speaker 1: I don't mean that in a negative way, like the
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  Speaker 1: traditional I think where people might have grown up. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: you're my age, maybe a little older or younger. But
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  Speaker 1: family time was let's all sit down at dinner, let's
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  Speaker 1: have a conversation, Let's do the dishes, take the showers,
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  Speaker 1: whatever your routine is, settle down, read a book, through
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  Speaker 1: some homework, go to bed, rents, repeat. Now that kind
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  Speaker 1: of family time is, Hey, what have you been? Where
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  Speaker 1: you got to go? Where you gotta go? Let's do this,
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  Speaker 1: Let's do this ho aria, let's do the homework. Let's
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  Speaker 1: do it.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: It's there, but it's hard to kind of keep that thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost like life and even up here has kind
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  Speaker 1: of sped up. Always kid that when my buddy moved
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  Speaker 1: to New York City, life was just busier because the
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  Speaker 1: atmosphere life was so quick and it's just so chaotic
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  Speaker 1: and there's just no downtime where life up here in
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  Speaker 1: the country, you know, countryside and stuff like that, like
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  Speaker 1: it's a little bit slower, And I personally loved it
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  Speaker 1: well that era, and that thought of thinking is definitely
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  Speaker 1: different now because of family time. Like it's just it's
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  Speaker 1: sped up that slow life into a very thankful, busy life.
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  Speaker 1: And I love the fact that the kids are all
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  Speaker 1: actively into sports doing well academically, like learning life lessons
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  Speaker 1: through sports in school. Like that's that's cool in my opinions.
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  Speaker 1: Now everybody lives their life and that's okay, hey, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm loving that. Here's something that I think like a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people rarely admit that even the good stuff,
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  Speaker 1: it can start to feel a little heavy at times,
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  Speaker 1: right like running a softball organization heavy day, And do
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  Speaker 1: I love it? Social obligations heavy? But they and do
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  Speaker 1: I love getting together with some friends and you know,
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  Speaker 1: celebrating a wedding or doing this, or even just getting
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  Speaker 1: away for a happy hour, but sometimes it feels heavy
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  Speaker 1: because you're out at the happy hour and you're thinking, man,
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  Speaker 1: I feel a little bit guilty because I'm not spending
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  Speaker 1: the time with my kids, even though if I'm at
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  Speaker 1: the stage of my life for going and hanging out
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  Speaker 1: with the kids is very rare because all they want
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  Speaker 1: to do is sit in their room and distress. But
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  Speaker 1: that's a whole different thing. Commitments that you truly do
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  Speaker 1: care about.
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  Speaker 2: They also feel a little bit heavy.
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  Speaker 1: Right even going to watch my daughter play basketball, something
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  Speaker 1: that I have absolutely love it, times it can feel
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  Speaker 1: like a lot, not because I'm just there enjoying it,
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  Speaker 1: but like my brain wants to dissect it. You know,
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  Speaker 1: they're to other people in the community. They want to
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  Speaker 1: have a conversation, they want to get your thoughts. And
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  Speaker 1: then seeing how certain communities, teams and everything handled themselves
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  Speaker 1: in certain situations verbally, physically or something like that is
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  Speaker 1: just something that I can't.
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  Speaker 2: Just turn off.
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  Speaker 1: Like it's something that I observe, something that my brain
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  Speaker 1: goes okay, Like if I was in the situation, I
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  Speaker 1: would have done and it's just something that I can't
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  Speaker 1: turn off. And sometimes it feels like a lot. It's
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  Speaker 1: not just a normal parent sitting down enjoying some popcorn.
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  Speaker 2: I watch in a game.
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  Speaker 1: I tried that the popcorn was pretty good. And again,
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  Speaker 1: it's not complaining, and it's not saying that I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to be there, But because everything kind of stacks up,
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  Speaker 1: your brain doesn't really reset between those moments anymore. You
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  Speaker 1: don't finish one thing and feel relief. You finish one
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  Speaker 1: thing and immediately think, Okay, what's next. And it's not weakness,
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  Speaker 1: it's kind of overload. Like even today, going from early
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  Speaker 1: morning practice over to watching the kids couple of basketball games,
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  Speaker 1: jumping right over into off ball practice, jumping right store. Sorry,
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  Speaker 1: we did go to Stewie's and take full advantage of
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  Speaker 1: the two for eight half pint or half gallon, whatever
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  Speaker 1: it is. I'm terrible at ice cream math for the
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  Speaker 1: family later tonight, to the store to cook dinner, to
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  Speaker 1: the studio to record. To go to cook dinner, get
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  Speaker 1: the kids ready, help it to homework, get them to bed.
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  Speaker 1: Back to studio, say hello to the wife, tell her
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  Speaker 1: how much I love her. Record with the wife. Back
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  Speaker 1: to the studio to edit, and then eventually try to
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  Speaker 1: catch some sleep.
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  Speaker 2: To get up and do it all over again.
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  Speaker 1: And I tell you right now, it's a lot, and
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  Speaker 1: sometimes it gets the better of me. But god damn dude,
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  Speaker 1: I love the grind of it all. And here's something
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  Speaker 1: with all of that being said, the weight of being
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  Speaker 1: needed right being needed a lot. Sometimes maybe it feels
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  Speaker 1: like you're you're not going a waited blanket and you know,
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  Speaker 1: but here's here's something I guess, in my opinion, nobody
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  Speaker 1: really prepares you for right being needed. Be honest, It
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  Speaker 1: feels good until you're needed everywhere, until I know my
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  Speaker 1: wife gets allower just mom, mom, mom, Hey, mom, mom, mom, mom,
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  Speaker 1: mom mom. That can be a little bit much. And
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  Speaker 1: let's be honest. Practice, you know, being a coach kids,
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  Speaker 1: they need you focused at home, your family needs presents.
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  Speaker 1: At work, you're expected to perform with your projects. Creativity
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  Speaker 1: wants attention right, And none of these things are wrong,
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  Speaker 1: but they don't take turns right. They simply overlap. You're
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  Speaker 1: You're never fully off, You're just kind of transitioning in
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  Speaker 1: that constant switching it. It can drain you faster than
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  Speaker 1: hard work ever did. And it makes me kind of
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  Speaker 1: think in my brain, like, was it like this for
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  Speaker 1: my parents, was it like this, you know for them,
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  Speaker 1: And I guess you just don't really realize it as
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  Speaker 1: a child. And maybe it's hard for me as an
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  Speaker 1: adult to kind of relate to children maybe seeing this,
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  Speaker 1: being sensitive to this or or whatever, just because maybe
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't present in my life. I mean, yeah, my
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  Speaker 1: parents worked and they drove me around to practices and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: But again, as a kid, maybe you just don't see it.
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  Speaker 1: But I think maybe it's amplified a little bit more
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  Speaker 1: with the technology because when I was growing up, we
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  Speaker 1: didn't have the computers and we didn't have the cell phones.
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  Speaker 1: There was a lot of just kind of living in
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  Speaker 1: the moment. I remember, you know, being thankful enough to
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  Speaker 1: be able to go watch a lot of college games
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  Speaker 1: and semi pro baseball games and playing sports and you know,
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  Speaker 1: getting to tournaments, getting to this, getting to that. Granted,
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  Speaker 1: there wasn't the a AU style stuff where you know,
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  Speaker 1: everybody and their brother has a team, and the AAU
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  Speaker 1: scenes a little bit watered down.
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  Speaker 2: At this point. That's a whole different conversation.
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  Speaker 1: But I just I think, you know, with everything going
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  Speaker 1: on there, there was times that my parents they were drained,
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  Speaker 1: they were tired. But one thing that they've always kind
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  Speaker 1: of told me is exhaustion is temporary. Like there's there's
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  Speaker 1: gonna be these moments that feel exact as that you
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  Speaker 1: don't know how you're gonna do it, how you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: get through it, and you do. I mean, everything works
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  Speaker 1: out in the end, as cliche as that is, but
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  Speaker 1: there's gonna be moments after that where you're gonna want
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  Speaker 1: this all back again. And I know damn well that
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  Speaker 1: when this is all said and done, I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: miss the grind, the sports and everything very very much.
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  Speaker 1: But all right, let's get into the crisper drawer. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna reach down in air. What do you got
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  Speaker 1: in your crisper drawer? Is it full of fruit and
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  Speaker 1: healthy stuff? Or is that where you keep your beer
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  Speaker 1: and your drinks and your stuff. I'm curious what that is.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, let's be honest. We have some We have
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  Speaker 1: one that's full of you know, fruit and veggies, one
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  Speaker 1: that's got a couple of beers in there, and one
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  Speaker 1: maybe we hide some you know cookie dough in there where,
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  Speaker 1: the addible cookie dough where the kids will never think
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  Speaker 1: to look. It's brilliant. I know you can compliment me
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  Speaker 1: how smart it is, but I also want to know
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  Speaker 1: your parent hack where you hide some things where the
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  Speaker 1: kids are kind of but we're in the crisper drawer
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: and let's go with it, like uh, in our crisper
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  Speaker 1: drawer today we're gonna go is Why is everything so complicated?
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  Speaker 3: Now? Right?
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  Speaker 1: Let me give you the clearest example of this right
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  Speaker 1: in my opinion, it's math. I don't understand why it's
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  Speaker 1: so damn complicated. Why is it like this?
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  Speaker 3: Now?
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  Speaker 1: I'm not anti learning, I'm not anti growth book. Why
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  Speaker 1: does helping with homework feel like I need a minor
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  Speaker 1: in education theory? I mean it felt like when we
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  Speaker 1: were doing math, the math was math, and we could
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: just say, what's seventeen plus three? It's twenty. Now it's
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  Speaker 1: you have to take the one and draw down the seven,
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  Speaker 1: draw a circle, have some triangles come down, and then
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  Speaker 1: a four plus three minus this plus this and it.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's all the It makes sense to them,
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  Speaker 1: but that's just how they've learned things. It doesn't make
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  Speaker 1: sense to me, and maybe the things that they did
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  Speaker 1: in me, But it wasn't it simpler when you just
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  Speaker 1: did like seventeen plus four you do this column, there's
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  Speaker 1: any more to carry over over ten you add it
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  Speaker 1: so it's two, and then it's just the one in there.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like that was pretty darn easy, and a
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  Speaker 1: lot of it made it through there. Okay, I don't
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  Speaker 1: understand the complicating. Maybe maybe they're going to realize like, oh, hey,
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: for generations, we were doing it wrong for you. We
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  Speaker 1: should have done it this way because it or they're
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  Speaker 1: gonna quickly realize like that was pretty stupid.
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  Speaker 3: We we should have we should have done things a
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  Speaker 3: lot different, right, And there was a time Math was
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  Speaker 3: like I was just saying like, here's the problem, and
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  Speaker 3: here's the answer.
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  Speaker 1: Now it's well, first we want them to conceptually understand
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  Speaker 1: the number less and I just I just want to
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: know why the answer is wrong. And it's not just Math.
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: It's everything from the apps, to the logins, to the passwords,
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  Speaker 1: to the updates to the two factor authentication. Nothing is
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  Speaker 1: simple anymore. I mean, just to for instance, just to
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  Speaker 1: get on you know, you forget your password. Let's say
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: on the Book of Faces you have the proper two
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  Speaker 1: factor authentication, which if you don't, please please get that
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  Speaker 1: on there. Unless you're just into having your Facebook be
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: as people say these days, they just hu, no, did
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: it technically? Maybe get hacked now. But the problem is
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: your password was so simple that a tool went out there,
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: found it and then we were in there. You didn't
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: have two form authentication on, so it was able to
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: just get it. No, you need the code. And is
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: it a little bit alarming when all of a sudden
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: it's three o'clock in the morning. You know you're not
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: asking for it, but you're getting those emails. That's the
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: time to change the password. But anyways, before I go
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: on there like to have that, Like it feels like
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: a lot, but we need it to secure our things.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: Like do you think everybody wants to go in there,
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: use a password and then go in there, get a code,
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: put the code back in and get in there. But
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: it's way easier than trying to have to work with
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: support to get an account back. Just so you can
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: argue about hospital closing or anything else in the comments.
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: But I mean, nothing seems to be simple anymore. And
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: that's just one very small third world kind of problem, right.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: I mean, everything requires a set up, everything requires maintenance.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: It seems like everything requires trout, bull shooting, in your
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: brain never stops solving problems, which I think that's not
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: a bad thing because starting to see how these AI
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: brains are doing everything for people and there's no creativeness
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: is a bit scary, right, Let's be honest, that constant
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: just low level thinking. I feel like that's exhausting rather
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: than just like do a lot of creative, you know,
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: heavy thinking. But you can tell the people that aren't
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: relying on the AI and the technology, there's there's a
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: bigger attention span, there's more fluidity to their life, the
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: quick wits, the fun. I don't know, I see it
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: in my daily life. Maybe I'm just maybe I'm just different,
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: maybe I'm built a little different. Maybe I'm just seeing
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: things a little different. No, okay, let's talk about how
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: passion still costs energy and don't you know what I
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: was gonna say, energy energy alonelectric bill? Is anybody else
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: out there? And I know there's a lot of people
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: probably complaining on the Book of Faces. I don't get
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: into the personal thing, but is there anybody out there
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: that has had as astronomical bills from National cred? Like
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: I don't have a huge house, we don't have a
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: ton of things running in our house. And nothing has
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: changed really over the last fifteen years of me living
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: in this house. I mean, I still have the same fridge. Right,
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: For some reason, my electric bills is four hundred dollars
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: higher than I had a five hundred and twenty dollars
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: electric bill. That electric bill is worth or more expensive
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: than my monthly mortgage payment. Why is it so darn Hi,
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: I don't have electric heat, I don't have an electric
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: water heater. Nothing has changed in my house except the
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: fact that they are charging so much more. It can't
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: just be me. Sorry, side tangent, let's go back. I
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: love creating, I really do. And I'm sorry that you're
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: having to listen to me ramble. But I'm trying to
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: be relatable. I'm trying to this fun.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I have all these different shows. I mean, I have
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: different YouTube channels, Fourth said shows and podcasts, right, I
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: mean we have the Beard Loss Studio, which if you
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: don't subscribe, head on over to there. The Beard Law
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: Studio is all the beard stuff, the Beard Report, the
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: Beard Toy, beards, beards, beards.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: We're over here.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: You know, it's a network. We're building something. We got
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: a little bit as some history, some mystery, some conspiracy theory.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: You know. We have you know, the Stay Out of
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: My Fridge, We have street Science, story Time, the news segment.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited about Best Moments Ever, it's already here.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: It's a lot. I get it.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: And you know, then the other stuff that I do
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: with the Beard Laws, in helping communities, helping you know,
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: other businesses. This stuff it matters to mean, I almost
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: wish there was more hours in a day so I
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: could do more to help up. Here's the truth people
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: don't like to say aloud. Every passion costs energy, especially
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: when it lives on top.
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: Of real life.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: My brain it never shuts off. I don't know if
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: you have one of those brains as well, but when
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: you're in this space, and I've talked to similar people, like,
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: it's not just me, our brains, they never shut off.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: We're always thinking what's next, what can be better? What
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: did I forget?
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: None?
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: If it's bad, it's just full. Like your life isn't broken,
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: it's just a little bit simply overloaded at times, right,
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: And we've kind of talked about that. And here's something
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: that also kind of really messes with you, is you
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: sit down to rest. It doesn't work. I don't know
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: if I'm the only way. Like somebody was just asking me, like, hey,
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: have you ever seen this series? And I'm like, hey, no,
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: And then I got thinking like when was the last
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: time I just sat down watched a movie? When was
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: the last time that I just sat down watched a series?
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I really don't know.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: Maybe that's sad. Maybe that's you know, not sad that
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: I'm not just sitting around overly consuming content. But I
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: just don't have the ability to just sit down. It
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: just doesn't work for me. I mean, I'm physically still sometimes,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: but I'm always mentally pacing, whether I'm scrolling, whether I'm thinking,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: whether I'm planning. And I've even been guilty of this
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: on vacations because they just don't hit like they used to.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: The weekends they seem to disappear. It's almost like my
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: nervous system never really powers down. I don't rest anymore.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: I don't, you know, I just keep moving. And those
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: don't seem to be the same thing, right. I mean,
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: the last vacation I took it with my family years ago.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: I built the website, I created this, I did this
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: it's just I don't know if I'm broken. I'm definitely
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: built different and hopefully the family, Thankfully, the family, they're
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: cool with it. It's just part of it, and maybe
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: I do too much at times, but again, I just
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: love it and mentally, I just feel happy most of
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: the time. That's what it's all about, right, And whether
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: you have a fancy fridge freezer combo that's like side
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: to side. Mine's still the old school freezer top fridge bottom.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: Let's all reach into the freezer right now. All right,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: you go get some Stewey's ice cream still on sale.
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: I think this week two for eight four bucks.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: Pretty good deal.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Let's let's let's I guess talk about something I guess
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: relatable to me and some of my friends. With the
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: bar scene, it kind of feels like a different planet.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: And you know when it really hits, it's it's when
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: you see people out at the bar on a weekend,
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: all right, whether it's a social media post, maybe you're
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: just passing by. Today, was me pumping gas across from
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: a tavern? Right, they're drinking, they're partying, they're they're living
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: like that's still the move. I'm not judging, trust me.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: I'm not judging at all. I'm just thinking, like, how
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: did I ever do that? Not morally, but like physically mentally,
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: Like where did the energy come from? I mean, it
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: didn't seem like it was that long ago. I'd get
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: done work in a full day and roll into a
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: happy hour that turned into late night. That next thing,
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: you know, I woke up and it was time for
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: work again. I mean, in gosh, I'm gonna hate saying this,
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: but like it doesn't even sound fun to me anymore.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: I feel like I finally hit that age where it
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: almost sounds like a recovery paperwork and a super super
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: rough Sunday, and I kind of realized I didn't just
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: get old overnight. Like I feel like it's all like
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: that because my priority shifted right and my energy kind
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: of followed. I've maybe not matured, because let's be honest,
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: I'm still pretty immature like most dudes. I just have
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: different things that life is taking me down a path.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: And you know, every once in a while, do we
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: get a chance to, you know, maybe hit up a
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: happy hour and go have a couple of beverages with
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: some friends apps solutely is it a wonderful Yeah? Do
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: we overdo it, thankfully, No, but those terrible hangovers that
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: you have in your twenties, they sure do hit different
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: if you get one in your forties. And I'm thankful
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: that I finally learned that lesson, and even I was
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: kind of having a conversation with the middle kid today
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: on how there's one thing that I truly do regret
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: going from like high school athlete into my twenties. I
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: regretted not eating healthy and kind of giving up on
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: the exercise. I really let myself go, drinking too much,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: eating like shit. Just I really really kind of wish
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: that I would have kept that momentum from that eighteen
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: year old right into my twenties. He's just building on
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: some cardio. I'm not saying God out here and be
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: a bodybuilder. I just wish I would have stayed in
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: pretty decent shape instead of gaining a ton of weight
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: being that you know, do that just drank and ate
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: like shit way too much, and then having to spend
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: so much time working extra harder when I.
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: Could have just stayed.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: I saw people do it throughout my life, and I
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: always wondered why they did it. And then if he's
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: rolled in and I realized.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: That's why you do it.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: So if anybody's listening, take that damn advice from an
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: old man like me while we're in the freezer. There's
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: something else that I really do wish that we didn't
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: kind of lose real conversation. There's a there's a thread
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: that kind of ties everything together, Like we just don't
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: really talk anymore. We text, we message, we react, but
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: real conversations, I really do feel like they're rare hearing
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: someone's voice, seeing their face, catching that pause before they
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: say what they actually mean. Technology, like I kind of
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: mentioned every earlier, it made everything faster, but it also
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: made everything heavier, like because you're always on, you're always reachable,
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: you're always notified, And I think we've gotten a little
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: too used to it, almost too dependent on it, too
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: comfortable being connected and kind of disconnected at the same time.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: I mean, I know some friends that they just they
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: and I'm was able to do this for a couple
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: of summers as well. There's just kind of go camp
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: and in a location where there's no internet, there's no
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: cell service, it's just disconnected. And I felt so damn
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: good in the minute that it kind of rolled back
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: into the house. I felt so overwhelmed that I had
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: to get back into doing the content. I had to
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: catch back up. And I mean, I'm already planning in
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: my head next week on my recording day, I'm not
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: going to be around. I have things to do in life,
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: and I'm already like, how am I going to find
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: the time to do this? And I will, right, I'll
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: find the time. We always find the time because it
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: always works out. And when I look at my life
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: right now, the practice is the game's, the work, the family,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: the shows. I don't see failure. I see fullness, and
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: fullness without space can become exhaustion. And I feel like
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: that's right there. Why we're tired right Not because we're lazy,
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: not because we're weak, but because everything I guess in
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: life wants a piece of us all the time. So,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: like I said, I don't think we're lazy. I think
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: we're overstimulated. I think we're over committed and under quiet.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: Maybe the answer isn't doing less. Maybe it's just being
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: honest about how heavy normal has become. And that's just
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: kind of where I'm at this week. If you feel
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: it too, you're not broken. And if you don't well,
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: stay out of my fridge again. I'm not trying to
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: be like this mental hell podcast.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: Or something like that.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: Just I'm just living my life. I'm just a dude.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: I truly just want to be more relatable. I want
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: to talk about me. I want to talk about my life.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: I want to talk about things as if it's my fridge,
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: because like, at the end of the day, I'm proud
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: of my life and I don't think that my life
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: is over exciting, but at the end of the day,
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: it's not overboring. And I don't need my personal stories
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: to go so granular in details that you're bored listening.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: But I want to be relatable because I know that
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: my life is a lot like well your life in
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: many aspects but differently, And like I said, I just
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: just want to be relatable and I want to know
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: people that I get it, we get it. We're all
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: the same and different at the same time. So I
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: can't thank you enough for taking some time out of
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: your busy day to give this listen to. Hopefully you
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: enjoy the new direction of the State Out of my
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: Frisch podcast. If you truly don't and you miss me
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: having a conversation with the kids. Let me know. Just
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: turns out I'm home alone again and the kids are
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: super busy, and I'm just kind of trying to find
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: a way to keep this going. This was the first podcast.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: Every time it was the Beard Lost Podcast, I thought
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: it was too generic. I thought it turned a lot
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: of people off from the show thinking it was only
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: about beards, and I wanted to be more relatable.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: And I'm really.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: Cranking it up in twenty twenty six.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: With the relatableness.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: So that's all I got. We'll do it again next week.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: Take care of everybody, man who's there.
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: It's the podcast.
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: You a toy, Stay out of my fresh with that
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: ready to explore, Gotta tell the tale, Gonna make you
• 29:09
  Speaker 4: laugh and make you smile. So buckle up, tie, it's
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: gonna be a lode. You're tiving deep into your fish
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: with secrets. If you like the show, please take a
• 29:22
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• 29:24
  Speaker 1: It really does help the show to grow.
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: Thank you for listening.