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Happy Hour #137: Birthday Reflections · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha.
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Speaker 2: Welcome to Steff. I never told you production, but iHeart radio.
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Speaker 1: And we are back with some happy hours, which we're
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Speaker 1: coming up on soon doing the Sex and the City seasons,
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Speaker 1: I promise, but we're just, you know, still travel holiday mode.
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Speaker 1: So it's kind of chaotic still because you're about to
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Speaker 1: go to Vegas even we just found that out literally before,
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Speaker 1: so so many things and I'm still not invited. It's fine.
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Speaker 1: Heard they had bed bugs anyway, I'm just kidding. Oh sorry, sorry,
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
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Speaker 2: Sorry. I should be prepared.
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Speaker 1: You do need to be prepared for real. Find some
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Speaker 1: infrared lighting somewhere or something. Anyway, we are back with
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Speaker 1: a Happy Hour, and I guess it's going to be
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Speaker 1: like good wine, except I'm not thinking so much. Maybe
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Speaker 1: I am. I don't know. But before we start, if
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Speaker 1: we talk about something specific, like companies were not necessarily
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Speaker 1: being sponsored by that Jessic caveat, we might be later,
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Speaker 1: who knows, but right now not currently a sponsor. You
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Speaker 1: sipin on.
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Speaker 3: Something, am it's my red wine? So fine.
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Speaker 2: I have this horrible habit.
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Speaker 3: Last night I played Dungeons and Dragons even though I
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Speaker 3: was exhausted, and I'm very tired from my trip to Disney,
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Speaker 3: which I will be talking about in the next week.
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Speaker 2: But if if the.
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Speaker 3: Moon's a line, you have to play Dungeons and Dragons.
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Speaker 3: Because this scheduling is so difficult, I've taken my COVID test.
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Speaker 2: I don't have it. I guess I told everybody though,
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Speaker 2: so they knew.
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Speaker 3: But anyway, anyway, I always do this thing where after
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Speaker 3: I hang out with people, I want like a final
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Speaker 3: before I go to bed drink.
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Speaker 2: And I poured this wine and then I just went
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Speaker 2: to sleep. I drank it. So it's like, oh.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, sitting out all night because it is late afternoon
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Speaker 1: at this point.
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Speaker 2: Nice. That's about where I am right now. It's our feel,
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Speaker 2: so yeah, that's.
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Speaker 1: Like, that's the celebration. I am doing a sparkling alcoholic
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Speaker 1: beverage and it is grapefruit because I decided I don't
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Speaker 1: flick the black cherry, which is odd because I love
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Speaker 1: black cherry, but I don't like it. And that's the
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Speaker 1: only other flavor that was cold. Okay, there you go.
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Speaker 1: We haven't done cocktails. Oh I did buy a cocktail,
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Speaker 1: non alcoholic liquor that you and I have to split
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Speaker 1: so we can feature it. I forgot about that, but yes,
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Speaker 1: So if you are also partaking something adult ish, be
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Speaker 1: responsible point blinks. Take care of yourself and those around you.
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Speaker 1: Be responsible. But today I just kind of wanted to
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Speaker 1: reflect the fact that I have officially turned I guess
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Speaker 1: I'm in my mid forties if you put it. No,
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Speaker 1: not yet, I'm still in my early forties. Joey, our
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Speaker 1: research and wonderful person. We actually met. I actually went
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Speaker 1: and met with them for a drink, and I was
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Speaker 1: pretty sure that I was close to their parents' age
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Speaker 1: and I'm not, but I'm closer to their age I
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Speaker 1: think than their parents' age that I am to Joey.
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Speaker 1: But it hasn't made like oh, because in my mind,
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm old enough to be your mother to
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Speaker 1: have you. And I find that fascinating because I've been
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Speaker 1: having conversations with more people about the fact that as
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Speaker 1: I get older, my coworkers keep getting younger, like the
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Speaker 1: younger and younger and younger, and in the field that
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Speaker 1: we are, of course they are. Because I had a
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Speaker 1: fun conversation with my partner's cousin. She is a data journalist,
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Speaker 1: which is brand new to me, I was like, what
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Speaker 1: is that? Because we know that print is gone, so
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Speaker 1: that kind of journalism is kind of out the window.
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Speaker 1: So seeing that major and they work for Politico and
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Speaker 1: have this really fascinating job and it's literally putting together
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Speaker 1: information and publishing data and all these things to their reports,
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Speaker 1: and I was like, wow, what is that? And she
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Speaker 1: is very young as well, like I get all those
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Speaker 1: also first to you. This is getting fun. There are
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Speaker 1: moments where I'm having the like, yeah, these jobs are
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Speaker 1: so new. This medium, this media medium that's fairly new
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Speaker 1: is ten years, ten fifteen years. I know it's been
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Speaker 1: around longer than that, but like catching on in the
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Speaker 1: last ten years, we're bringing in younger and younger people.
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Speaker 1: We have younger and younger producers. Joey is one of
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Speaker 1: those younger and younger writers and researchers and hosts and such.
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Speaker 1: So it's kind of like, Okay, the gap between us
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Speaker 1: is getting bigger and bigger, and I kind of forgot
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Speaker 1: that you were You and I have a pretty significant
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Speaker 1: gap in actuality. But it's kind of one of those
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Speaker 1: things they're like, Okay, is that a good thing or
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Speaker 1: a bad thing. I've hung out with people significantly older
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Speaker 1: than me, and we always like love that because we
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Speaker 1: love the different stories and different perspectives, and they were
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Speaker 1: all seen as cool. I was like, oh, yeah, you're
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Speaker 1: really cool. I'm like, oh no, I've I've become that
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Speaker 1: She's significantly older than me, but she's so cool she
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Speaker 1: can hang and I'm like, oh wow, that is me
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Speaker 1: Like hanging out with Joey. I've become that person. I'm
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Speaker 1: double double their age essentially, not completely like, but it
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Speaker 1: feels like it close to that, but like the hang
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Speaker 1: was still really fun and like I felt like there
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Speaker 1: was no awkwardness. Maybe Joey's going to go on to
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Speaker 1: their friends and be like, yeah, it was super awkward,
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Speaker 1: but like trying to be uh, you know, considerate in
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Speaker 1: the conversation, making sure that I'm not just talking about work,
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Speaker 1: which we talked about work all those things, and you know,
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Speaker 1: not trying to be old and giving advice for things,
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Speaker 1: because I was like, there's only one advice I'd given them,
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Speaker 1: and I told them pretty much the first time we
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Speaker 1: would record it. I was like, this is the only
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Speaker 1: thing I tell you. Don't do this. Because they talked
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Speaker 1: about their future plans, we were like, yeah, this is neat,
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Speaker 1: let's do this, and then getting in in podcasting and
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Speaker 1: how to how like everybody's sorry about podcasting is typically
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Speaker 1: like didn't mean to, just got here right, So, you know,
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Speaker 1: having that conversation with someone new were uh, that's freshly graduated.
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Speaker 1: They graduated a couple of years ago and into this
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Speaker 1: field and jumped in. I'm like, wow, okay, and knowing
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Speaker 1: that now knowing this and really loving it and finding
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Speaker 1: their own niche I'm like, okay, cool. But it also
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Speaker 1: had me thinking about, yeah, I am not in their
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Speaker 1: peer group, like I don't think I could hang in
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Speaker 1: that peer group. And then I thought about it as
6:47
Speaker 1: we went to Dragon Con myself and another producer friend
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Speaker 1: of ours, Ramsey, we talked about they were talking, somebody
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Speaker 1: was saying something about age and being old, and Ramsey
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Speaker 1: and I are like, you know, we're here, right, we were,
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Speaker 1: and we are eight years older than you. I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: need you to stop having that moment, but understanding yeah,
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Speaker 1: I still I'm sure people who I've hung out with
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Speaker 1: that are over the mirror, like you need to stop
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Speaker 1: with that kind of conversation. But it's really odd to
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Speaker 1: be more likely on the end of like oh, they
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Speaker 1: forgot that we are older than way older than than you.
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Speaker 1: And having that mixed moment of like, all right, my
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Speaker 1: partner's brother's there who is ten to thirteen years younger
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Speaker 1: than me, and then your friend's boyfriend also that younger,
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Speaker 1: that significantly younger, and I'm just sitting here going, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I'm the mama of this group. And of course I'm
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Speaker 1: also the first one that tapped out. I was like,
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Speaker 1: I'm done. It's ten thirty by y'all. And I never returned, y'all.
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Speaker 1: I never came back. But like having those moments of okay, okay,
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Speaker 1: I see I see a difference. I see a difference
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Speaker 1: in myself in y'all, in that level of like I'm
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Speaker 1: tired this way and it could just be my personality type,
8:03
Speaker 1: but like I feel like I look like I'm worn.
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Speaker 1: I feel like like I definitely I'm not necessarily I'll say,
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Speaker 1: I don't think I look completely my age, but I
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Speaker 1: don't look like i'm y'all's age either, Like I don't
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Speaker 1: look the thirties early thirties. I really wish and I'm contemplating,
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Speaker 1: like maybe I should do these things to my face.
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Speaker 1: I should maybe get these types of products, and because
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Speaker 1: I'm like, it's kind of scary. It feels also alien
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Speaker 1: in that I don't feel like my age, as we've
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Speaker 1: talked about previously, but at the same time, I do
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Speaker 1: feel like my age. I feel like there are moments
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Speaker 1: when I wake up in the morning I'm like, well, ugh,
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Speaker 1: oh yeah, I need some cream like something something like that,
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Speaker 1: and then like wondering, like, okay, I can see where
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Speaker 1: women my age or people my age start looking at
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Speaker 1: fillers and it's botox or looking at different products because
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't love this feeling of looking at
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Speaker 1: this point of these things I don't like. And again,
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Speaker 1: this has a lot to do with I know, my
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Speaker 1: own self esteem. I finally I'm more confident now, don't
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Speaker 1: get me wrong, Like there are scenes that I'm like,
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Speaker 1: I'm really glad. I really wish I had this attitude
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Speaker 1: when I was younger about myself and feeling like less
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Speaker 1: caring about what other people think about me. I have
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Speaker 1: a partner who is very gracious and seems to love
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Speaker 1: everything about me, so that I'm like, oh, that feels
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Speaker 1: nice too, but and knowing these are the flaws that
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Speaker 1: I have and I hate them and I've always had
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Speaker 1: and then at feeling a little older, getting older every year,
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Speaker 1: which is I know, as many says, but blessing, and
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Speaker 1: I get that. I don't want to discredit that because
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Speaker 1: I don't. Also, I also don't deny my age. I
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Speaker 1: don't deny that I am in that point. And I
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Speaker 1: also know that I can. I am active, and I
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Speaker 1: am able to do so much more. I am freer
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Speaker 1: than my mom was my age because she had four
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Speaker 1: kids at this point, I have zero. I have a dog,
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Speaker 1: who you know, I love very much. But I can
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Speaker 1: have dog sitters to hang out think you any and
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Speaker 1: friends who want to hang out with her, and I
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Speaker 1: can do my own thing. Travel. There's so many things,
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Speaker 1: but all of like every birthday hits me with okay,
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Speaker 1: but what about these things? Is this the place that
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Speaker 1: I wanted to be? Is it good that I am
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Speaker 1: hanging out with twenty year olds at forty something years old?
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Speaker 1: Like is that something that I should be?
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Speaker 3: Like?
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Speaker 1: You should really take a re examination of your life again.
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Speaker 1: I love Joey and I want to hang out with
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Speaker 1: them all the time, but there are moments I'm like,
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Speaker 1: where I'm hanging out, I'm like, yeah, do I belong here?
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Speaker 1: Or should I be in a book club with middle
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Speaker 1: like middle aged women with wine complaining about my partner.
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Speaker 1: That's such a stereotype. I'm sorry, y'all.
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Speaker 3: Oh no, hm, well, well okay, I feel that way too,
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Speaker 3: I because I talked about that before. When I'm like
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Speaker 3: in my dorky cosplay at Dragon Con, I'm like, am
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Speaker 3: I too old for this? And that ultimately what I
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Speaker 3: come arrive at is no, But I understand the feeling.
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Speaker 2: Also.
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Speaker 3: I did recently go to Disney World and Universal and said,
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Speaker 3: friend's boyfriend, who was younger than us, looks way younger
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Speaker 3: than us, but isn't it that he is younger? Went
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Speaker 3: with us and I never got carted, and he got
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Speaker 3: carted every time even though we were together. And it
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Speaker 3: was a weird feeling where I was like, I mean,
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Speaker 3: I get it, yeah, because I was like, you know,
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Speaker 3: I'm happy to not have to get out my I
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Speaker 3: d I'm also kind of like pass the stage of
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Speaker 3: being like, oh, but I should look younger. But it
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Speaker 3: was still just weird that like no one asked and
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Speaker 3: then asked him.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be one thing if no one was guarded.
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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, And I mean I looked rough. I didn't
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Speaker 3: even try listeners. I was like, I'm so tired.
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Speaker 1: Right, just give up. Yeah, I'm done.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: And it was interesting in terms of I used to.
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Speaker 3: I literally ran a marathon and then did all of
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Speaker 3: the parks and was fine.
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Speaker 2: And then now I'm like, okay, my.
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Speaker 3: Feet I like to right now, my feet are swollen,
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Speaker 3: I got shafing.
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Speaker 2: My body is not like it used to be a
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Speaker 2: good frame. Marissa was like, we've all getted a little weights.
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Speaker 1: That's not necessary.
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Speaker 3: She was right, but I was like, so it was
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Speaker 3: like a It was something where it's like, Okay, this
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Speaker 3: is different than when I did it when I was younger.
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Speaker 3: I still loved it, right, But also it reminds me
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Speaker 3: of something somebody said when I was on when we
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Speaker 3: first started and we did our trauma series and I
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Speaker 3: went on that we Hike to Heal hike. Somebody said,
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Speaker 3: I'm trying to learn to not compare myself to my
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Speaker 3: younger self. And I think about that a lot, because
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Speaker 3: it's true, you do change. And it's funny when you
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Speaker 3: try to give advice to like younger folks and you're like,
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Speaker 3: I remember being your age, right, And it's so frustrating
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Speaker 3: to hear this advice and I get it, but also
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Speaker 3: ultimately the advice was good, and it's like they're not
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Speaker 3: gonna listen, Like.
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Speaker 1: When you start to understanding the phrase youth is wasted
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Speaker 1: on the young, and you're like, damn it. I thought
13:50
Speaker 1: that was such a corny, made no sense phrase, and
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Speaker 1: I don't think that's true. I think people, I don't know,
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Speaker 1: maybe the gen z yours. I've got it figured out
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Speaker 1: and really doing it up. You go, do you watch
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Speaker 1: out for debt? Though that's the other other part was
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Speaker 1: like watch out for debt.
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Speaker 3: But like.
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Speaker 1: I really do wish I could place my confidence, my
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Speaker 1: abilities and just my like less gimission to my late
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Speaker 1: twenties early thirties person. Again, I say mid thirties was
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Speaker 1: my favorite time of my life because I don't think
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Speaker 1: I would change much. I wouldn't change anything, but there
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Speaker 1: are moments of like, yeah, I had so much anxiety
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Speaker 1: and so much self worth issues that I didn't enjoy
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Speaker 1: anything until like late late late twenties, mid twenties, late twenties,
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Speaker 1: and even then it was a struggle that was trying
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Speaker 1: to like corral my my insecurities together to like at
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Speaker 1: least put them in one spot instead of being everywhere.
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Speaker 1: But like and today again, like I don't fill all
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Speaker 1: the time, but I I feel some of the times
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Speaker 1: of being the forties. Again. I think if I talked
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Speaker 1: to other people from like when in my twenties who
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Speaker 1: were forties, had a significantly different lifestyle. I don't think
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Speaker 1: hung out with many forties people. I had people who
15:15
Speaker 1: were like fifties and sixties because they were either like
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Speaker 1: divorced and able to like live their life without children.
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Speaker 1: So those are the people we hung out with, and
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Speaker 1: they were like able to kind of reclaim with some
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Speaker 1: of that and hung out with the others that were
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Speaker 1: in that. Again, we are all in different places, I have,
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Speaker 1: so the fact that we have there's so many more
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Speaker 1: forty something people that are childless, that are not married,
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Speaker 1: and that are enjoying their income as is that is
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Speaker 1: very significantly different than when I was in my twenties.
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry it's so.
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Speaker 4: The stative, but it's true.
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Speaker 1: I wasn't as sad this year, because every birthday is
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Speaker 1: usually sad, but I was still kind of like, eh,
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Speaker 1: birthday whatever, still grateful that I did have again another
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Speaker 1: year and feeling as healthy as I am feeling like
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Speaker 1: I'm in a stable place, although we're like politically watching
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Speaker 1: everything be unstable, but personally I'm in a stable place.
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Speaker 1: Which again I'm one of those who just waiting for
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Speaker 1: the bottom to drop out because stability is not normal
16:25
Speaker 1: for me. And I think a lot of people understand that.
16:27
Speaker 1: I've figured out a lot of millennials and genetic chorly. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: we feel that because you know, living the paycheck to
16:33
Speaker 1: paycheck has been my lifestyle up until about three four
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Speaker 1: years ago. That's so the majority of my life. So
16:39
Speaker 1: coming to hear is great to be in this spot.
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Speaker 1: But like I'm like, I really I had the energy
16:47
Speaker 1: five or six years ago because as I told you,
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Speaker 1: that dragon common Like yeah, six years ago, if think
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Speaker 1: I would have loved this. I now I can't enjoy this.
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Speaker 1: Like I just am so tired and overwhelmed by noise.
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Speaker 1: I can't drink because I'm gonna be too sleepy, Like
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Speaker 1: at least it's not that that helps anything, but those
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Speaker 1: are the things that like got through my head. I'm like,
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Speaker 1: I wish I could have afforded to do this. There's
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Speaker 1: no way in hell I could have afforded one hundred
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Speaker 1: dollars pass, which was more than that point, and then
17:12
Speaker 1: trying to hang out with people and then buying a
17:14
Speaker 1: twenty dollars drink or a forty dollars meal for a hammer,
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Speaker 1: you know, like stuff like that. That was not a thing.
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Speaker 1: And again I realized, this is a very privileged statement
17:22
Speaker 1: that I can. I can today, but in reality that
17:26
Speaker 1: was not something that I could have been afforded. I
17:29
Speaker 1: was literally, you know, had to have roommate made sure
17:32
Speaker 1: my rent was below like four point fifty, and making
17:36
Speaker 1: sure that I could just eat. And I remember days
17:39
Speaker 1: that I was scrounged around me like okay, if I
17:40
Speaker 1: spend two dollars today and I can eat this, then
17:43
Speaker 1: tomorrow I can have five dollars something like I would
17:47
Speaker 1: have to. I would spend that my money that way
17:49
Speaker 1: because that's all I had, And then I'm like okay,
17:50
Speaker 1: and then I get paid Wednesday like I would. I'm
17:54
Speaker 1: so religiously. I'm so religious about checking my bank accounts
17:59
Speaker 1: because that's how I kept up of whether or not
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Speaker 1: I was gonna overdraft and whether or not I can
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Speaker 1: afford some food. And then I wasn't. When I was
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Speaker 1: a nanny, I'd be like Okay, I can eat it
18:07
Speaker 1: their house. They have drinks there. I'll just grab a
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Speaker 1: couple of drinks from them, and when I go home,
18:10
Speaker 1: like knowing that they knew, like these things were very
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Speaker 1: relevant to my mind, so I did not. I don't
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Speaker 1: feel like I enjoyed that part of my life. And
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Speaker 1: because I didn't, I couldn't afford to. So coming into
18:22
Speaker 1: this place is a beautiful thing. And again, like it's
18:25
Speaker 1: such a different place for me because I didn't know
18:28
Speaker 1: that could be a possibility. Because social work, there was
18:31
Speaker 1: no way in hell, like today, there's no way in
18:33
Speaker 1: hell I could have done this job and be where
18:36
Speaker 1: I am right now. But and being able to see
18:39
Speaker 1: all of that, but and so like having this place
18:42
Speaker 1: feels good, finally feels like again the adult thing. But
18:47
Speaker 1: again I feel like it's almost too late, not too late,
18:51
Speaker 1: it's almost so sad because I'm like, yeah, but my
18:53
Speaker 1: time max is out at eight thirty, So it's an
18:59
Speaker 1: odd feeling. And then coming out and hanging out with people,
19:03
Speaker 1: uh like y'all who even though y'all slow down, y'all
19:07
Speaker 1: are not slow down. That is not slowed down. So
19:12
Speaker 1: seeing that perspective is like coming to that perspective is
19:15
Speaker 1: really odd and like grappling with biology, M my economics
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Speaker 1: is interesting.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean it makes me sad too. I
19:33
Speaker 3: anytime someone asked me, like, what would you tell your
19:35
Speaker 3: younger self, I would tell her like and this, It
19:38
Speaker 3: wouldn't fix anything, But like I wish you could have
19:41
Speaker 3: been happier with yourself or like less self insecure, because
19:48
Speaker 3: I feel like when I have those like golden years, well,
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Speaker 3: like I'm still living my life. I don't want to
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Speaker 3: make this sound that way, but like I was when
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Speaker 3: I had the like quote ideal body, I was still
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Speaker 3: I hated it.
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Speaker 2: I hated my body still, like I didn't do.
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Speaker 3: All I did was feel bad about myself and think
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Speaker 3: I should do better. And so it's really frustrating now.
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Speaker 3: Like I literally went on this trip, I did not
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Speaker 3: wear a bra and two occasions and I wear a
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Speaker 3: hoodie and sweatpants and I was happy about it. Sman, yes,
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Speaker 3: but I wish that I could have like at the
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Speaker 3: time where it mattered to me to like wear nice
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Speaker 3: clothes or like wear.
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Speaker 2: Clothes that made me feel good.
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Speaker 3: I wish I could have done it in public instead
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Speaker 3: of like known that I could have done it and
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Speaker 3: then never did it right.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's kind of those there's not a
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Speaker 1: fixed all and it is. That's the thing is, like
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Speaker 1: I wish I could feel the level of like notes
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Speaker 1: given at that younger age instead of wanting to please
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Speaker 1: everybody and then also wanted to disappear. But at this
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Speaker 1: point I do want to disappear, just to enough that
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Speaker 1: people don't see me so I can just be kind
21:06
Speaker 1: of a sloth. Those no broadays, those are my favorite.
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Speaker 2: I've walked into a Disney resort with no bron.
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Speaker 1: Of you.
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Speaker 2: I thank you. I mean I was, I was like.
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Speaker 1: Are you trying to impress there anyway? No, No, it's
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Speaker 1: not universal.
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Speaker 2: Joe, I can't wait to talk about it.
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Speaker 1: Daddy Joel No, Oh my gosh.
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Speaker 3: My friend she had a shirt that said the Daddy
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Speaker 3: of Us and mixture page of Mescal. And there's a
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Speaker 3: tradition now where you hand out bracelets at Universal Horror Nights,
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Speaker 3: and we were handing out bracelets and a lot really
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Speaker 3: like yeah.
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Speaker 1: Any know those things did this with Swift or has
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Speaker 1: it always been around?
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Speaker 3: Started to Taylor Swift and now it's everywhere. But there
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Speaker 3: would be big dudes who would have carabineers of braces
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Speaker 3: and I got some good one, Samantha.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's something to brag about. Well, y'all, now that
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Speaker 1: I'm done, thanks for listening. Let me know, let me
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Speaker 1: you know, we have a very wide range of listeners.
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Speaker 1: I would love to hear your thoughts. I think, I
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Speaker 1: think overall in general, like, yes, I am enjoying where
22:27
Speaker 1: I am. I kind of forgot it's my birthday because
22:29
Speaker 1: I really just traveled with my partner and that's it.
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Speaker 1: That's all I did. Uh. Anie tried to take me dinner,
22:34
Speaker 1: but they kept telling her happy birthday. Yeah, that was weird.
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Speaker 2: Was my birthday was like a month away.
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Speaker 1: The first person I introduced like I was like, happy birthday.
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Speaker 1: I was like, thank you. And then the rest of
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Speaker 1: the time they kept telling her happy birthday, and I
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Speaker 1: was like, what's going on?
22:54
Speaker 2: I was confused as well.
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Speaker 1: So essentially it was a very low key birthday and
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Speaker 1: that's kind of the way I like it. I'm hoping
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Speaker 1: to play a big trip for next year though.
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Speaker 3: Mm hmmmm, I've already been hearing about it. We shall see,
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Speaker 3: I hope.
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Speaker 2: So but yeah, yeah, I'm glad you got to travel.
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Speaker 2: I'm glad you're back. Thank you, and thank you for
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Speaker 2: your good wine.
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Speaker 1: The only one drinking wine well opened wine.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, hey man, that's again.
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Speaker 2: That kind of fits with what we were talking about.
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Speaker 1: I would do the same problem wells.
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