Latest / Legacy Living with Dr. Gloria Burgess / You Are the One | Episode #500

Transcript

You Are the One | Episode #500 · Legacy Living with Dr. Gloria Burgess

0:21
Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to today's show, Legacy Living, Make Your
0:27
Speaker 1: Life Count. I'm your host, Doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess, international
0:34
Speaker 1: leadership expert and trusted advisor. Welcome to Legacy Living, Make
0:42
Speaker 1: Your Life Count. I'm so delighted that you joined me today.
0:48
Speaker 1: I have a very special guest on our show. Her
0:51
Speaker 1: name is Stacy Johnston. I know you will enjoy meeting her,
0:57
Speaker 1: and I just know you'll be inspired our conversation today.
1:03
Speaker 1: Stacy Johnston is the owner and operator of enlighten Up.
1:08
Speaker 1: I just love the name of her business, don't you.
1:12
Speaker 1: Enlighten Up is a personal consulting firm based in Texas.
1:18
Speaker 1: Her focus is to illuminate the magic of you. Stacy
1:25
Speaker 1: is joining us today from Texas, where she lives with
1:28
Speaker 1: her husband of thirty seven years. She is a mom
1:32
Speaker 1: to three beautiful children and grandmother to six. Stacy is
1:38
Speaker 1: an internationally certified personal development coach, consultant, speaker, and trainer.
1:46
Speaker 1: She works with individuals, families, companies, and communities to recognize
1:52
Speaker 1: the power of their influence and the importance of the
1:57
Speaker 1: legacy they create in their lives now. Stacy grew up
2:03
Speaker 1: in a dance studio family and In her own words,
2:07
Speaker 1: she says, I was blessed to enjoy the beautiful world
2:11
Speaker 1: of the arts all my life. In fact, Stacy owned
2:17
Speaker 1: and operated Applause School of Dance for thirty years. Then
2:22
Speaker 1: she took a pivot and served in the adolescent and
2:25
Speaker 1: adult substance abuse and mental health profession as a family
2:30
Speaker 1: services specialist. She served there for eleven years. Her new
2:35
Speaker 1: joy is co hosting two podcasts, Uncaped Heroes and Midweek
2:43
Speaker 1: Mind Candy. Today's topic is Enlightened Up, a topic that
2:51
Speaker 1: is near and dear to my heart, and I can't
2:54
Speaker 1: think of a better person, a better leader, a better
2:58
Speaker 1: human being to address this topic than Stacy. I met
3:03
Speaker 1: Stacy several years ago when I was attending an International
3:07
Speaker 1: Maxwell Certification conference in Orlando, Florida. When I met her,
3:13
Speaker 1: I just knew there was something extra special about Stacy,
3:18
Speaker 1: And whenever I had an opportunity to have a simple
3:20
Speaker 1: conversation with her, she spoke so passionately about the people
3:26
Speaker 1: she worked with as a family services specialist. Stacy rarely
3:31
Speaker 1: said anything about herself, but I could tell she was
3:35
Speaker 1: serving from her core. In fact, she was standing in
3:39
Speaker 1: the fire of her purpose. So I can't wait to
3:43
Speaker 1: host this very special, amazing and lovely human being, my friend,
3:49
Speaker 1: colleague and mentor, Stacy Johnston. Now, before I bring her on,
3:55
Speaker 1: I just want to take a minute, just a moment,
3:58
Speaker 1: to connect the dots between today's topic on Enlighten Up
4:02
Speaker 1: and legacy Living. There are many ways that Enlighten Up
4:08
Speaker 1: connects to legacy living, which you will hear more about later,
4:13
Speaker 1: But for now, let me just say that legacy living
4:16
Speaker 1: is a way of being. It's a way of living
4:19
Speaker 1: and moving through the world so that we make the
4:23
Speaker 1: conscious choice to be the difference we want to see
4:27
Speaker 1: in the world. And we make that conscious choice right
4:31
Speaker 1: here and right now, not way off in some distant future.
4:36
Speaker 1: We make that conscious choice day in and day out,
4:40
Speaker 1: three sixty five, twenty four to seven. Okay, all right,
4:45
Speaker 1: more about that later. Now let me introduce you to
4:49
Speaker 1: my friend and colleague and mentor, Stacy.
4:56
Speaker 2: Hello, Stacy. I want to welcome you as a guest
4:59
Speaker 2: to my podcast. This is just such a blessing to
5:02
Speaker 2: have you on and I would love to introduce you
5:06
Speaker 2: to my listeners.
5:08
Speaker 3: Well, welcome. Hello. I am Stacy Johnson, and I am
5:11
Speaker 3: so very glad to be here sharing this space with
5:14
Speaker 3: you today.
5:15
Speaker 4: Thank you, Thank you, Stacy. So I know that you.
5:19
Speaker 2: Have done so much in your life and in your work,
5:23
Speaker 2: and I would really like to talk with you today
5:26
Speaker 2: about your I'm gonna call it a ministry about enlighten Up.
5:31
Speaker 2: So can you talk to us a little bit, Stacy
5:33
Speaker 2: about is what is.
5:35
Speaker 3: That I would love to talk to you about? Enlighten Up.
5:39
Speaker 3: Enlighten Up is the business that I run. I am
5:42
Speaker 3: a personal development business development coach, speaker, teacher, trainer. Whatever
5:48
Speaker 3: your need might be, I'll see where I can't find
5:50
Speaker 3: a place to feel that shoe for you in anyway.
5:54
Speaker 3: And enlighten Up really comes the concept of all of
5:57
Speaker 3: it comes from my experience as a dancer. It's where
6:01
Speaker 3: a lot of it comes from, and so much that
6:03
Speaker 3: I learned there kind of opened that door. Over the
6:06
Speaker 3: past thirty years, many times the word light has come
6:10
Speaker 3: into what I'm doing and a name of something I have.
6:13
Speaker 3: So it was only natural that that be my path.
6:16
Speaker 3: So and enlighten Up. My job is to illuminate your magic.
6:23
Speaker 3: I think that you were God looked down one day
6:26
Speaker 3: and decided the world needed one of you. And there's
6:28
Speaker 3: an amazing reason why. And when you believe that, and
6:32
Speaker 3: you turn that light on that you have inside girl,
6:35
Speaker 3: the light that shines is beautiful, and then you believe
6:37
Speaker 3: in the magic of you, and then it's unstoppable. The
6:40
Speaker 3: world is your stage, right.
6:41
Speaker 2: Well, I love that, And I did not know that
6:44
Speaker 2: you had a background a dance and I would. I'm
6:47
Speaker 2: just curious about that if you could tell our listeners
6:50
Speaker 2: a little bit more about your foundation.
6:53
Speaker 3: Absolutely, I grew up as a dancer. My mother was
6:57
Speaker 3: a dance teacher. My father was a dance lover, so
7:00
Speaker 3: I grew up in the dance household. We were all
7:02
Speaker 3: about dance recitals and costumes and props and rehearsals and
7:05
Speaker 3: competitions and lots and lots of music, Oh my goodness,
7:09
Speaker 3: And we had a wonderful time. My dad was a
7:11
Speaker 3: relature and so we had great time. And we did
7:13
Speaker 3: it all as a family. And like when the country
7:16
Speaker 3: in western craze hit an Urban Cowboy came out, I
7:18
Speaker 3: bet my mom and dad taught two thousand people how
7:21
Speaker 3: to do the two step.
7:22
Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, that's amazing.
7:24
Speaker 3: And so it was fun. And Urban Cowboy had its
7:27
Speaker 3: own disco crazy ride than we did the disco. So
7:30
Speaker 3: I grew up as a dancer. I danced professionally for
7:32
Speaker 3: several years and then spent about thirty five years as
7:35
Speaker 3: a dance instructor and coach.
7:38
Speaker 4: So what kind of dance did you focus on?
7:40
Speaker 3: Or you know, ballet is the basis of all of it, right,
7:45
Speaker 3: everything comes from ballet. You're poised, your grace, your center
7:49
Speaker 3: of balance. But I my friend and my tap dancer
7:51
Speaker 3: at heart by love of the rhythm. It's a song
7:55
Speaker 3: all by itself with no music. It's right, yes, And
8:00
Speaker 3: life is a rhythm. Write it, and life has a
8:01
Speaker 3: song to sing. And we are life, so we have
8:05
Speaker 3: a rhythm. So I love it. I had one after
8:08
Speaker 3: I retired. I saw a lady one day and she said,
8:11
Speaker 3: at the time, I was working for the State of
8:13
Speaker 3: New Mexico as a family services specialist working with adolescent
8:16
Speaker 3: and adult behavioral health and substance abuse. And she said, oh,
8:20
Speaker 3: are you not sad that your aunt's still dancing? And
8:23
Speaker 3: I said, you know, I am dancing because everybody's life
8:27
Speaker 3: has a song. And so I go over here and
8:29
Speaker 3: I dance to the song over here, and then I
8:31
Speaker 3: come out shake it off. And then I go over
8:32
Speaker 3: here and I get to dance to the song that
8:34
Speaker 3: these people play. So I'm still dancing, I just have
8:36
Speaker 3: a different stage.
8:37
Speaker 4: Yes, absolutely, I love that.
8:41
Speaker 2: So, Stacey, I want to circle back to something you
8:43
Speaker 2: said earlier, and you talked about how each one of
8:45
Speaker 2: us has that magic within us, and can you say
8:49
Speaker 2: a little bit more about that. What does that mean
8:51
Speaker 2: to you?
8:54
Speaker 3: That means, Gloria, that I do believe you have something
8:57
Speaker 3: only you were put here to do, and everything that
9:02
Speaker 3: you learn, everything that you experience, leads you to that place,
9:06
Speaker 3: to that thing that you were supposed to do, and
9:09
Speaker 3: so that whatever that is. And some people find it
9:12
Speaker 3: when they're ten and some people find it when they're
9:14
Speaker 3: seventy five. And it's about the journey, it's not a destination.
9:19
Speaker 3: And right I think everything, everything I know right up
9:22
Speaker 3: to this moment has got me ready for the next
9:25
Speaker 3: moment I'm going to face.
9:26
Speaker 4: Absolutely.
9:27
Speaker 2: Absolutely, So we have a special genius inside of us
9:31
Speaker 2: is one of the ways that I talk about it.
9:33
Speaker 4: And it sounds like you're talking about the same thing
9:35
Speaker 4: I am.
9:36
Speaker 3: You have this, you have this person inside of you,
9:38
Speaker 3: that's your rhythm, that's that's what makes your song sing. Yes,
9:44
Speaker 3: And if you understand that, then you know how you
9:46
Speaker 3: like your eggs, and what your favorite cartoon is, and
9:48
Speaker 3: how you feel about love and respect and failure and success.
9:53
Speaker 3: And nobody gets to take that from you because those
9:55
Speaker 3: are that's you, that's who you are. And I think
9:58
Speaker 3: the biggest challenge that we face in the world today
10:02
Speaker 3: is deciding who is Gloria. What kind of wife are
10:05
Speaker 3: you going to be? What kind of mother are you,
10:06
Speaker 3: what kind of friend are you? What kind of mentor
10:08
Speaker 3: are you? And then being able to maintain that in
10:11
Speaker 3: spite of what the world would have you be.
10:13
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, because the world wants to tug us in
10:16
Speaker 2: all different directions. And yeah, we're made for We're made
10:20
Speaker 2: for other things.
10:22
Speaker 3: We are. And you know, we as a people, Gloria,
10:25
Speaker 3: we gravitate toward like whatever it is. They're the parties
10:30
Speaker 3: over there, the lots are on over there. Even our
10:32
Speaker 3: advertising is we'll leave the lot on for you, right,
10:35
Speaker 3: And so just as a society we gravitate toward. And
10:39
Speaker 3: as people we do the same thing. And we feel
10:42
Speaker 3: this energy or this lot coming from an individual or
10:45
Speaker 3: a or a teaching or a thought or a platform,
10:47
Speaker 3: and we gravitate toward that energy and we feed on
10:50
Speaker 3: that we're like, yes, I get to love this lot,
10:52
Speaker 3: and then they turn their lot off and we get
10:54
Speaker 3: insulted and we go, no, wait a minute, I was
10:57
Speaker 3: faking on, lie. What do you think you're doing? Right?
11:00
Speaker 3: And so we own that disappointment and then we just
11:02
Speaker 3: seek out another light. And so the magic of you
11:06
Speaker 3: is recognizing that the light that you are searching for
11:10
Speaker 3: is inside you. And when you can turn that light on,
11:13
Speaker 3: then everything you need draws to you like fish to
11:17
Speaker 3: a not globe, loss of the flames, they would say,
11:21
Speaker 3: and then you can attract that, but you have to
11:22
Speaker 3: believe in that light first.
11:25
Speaker 2: Absolutely. Yeah, thank you, Thank you, Stacey. So I want
11:30
Speaker 2: to just pivot a little bit here and talk a
11:33
Speaker 2: little bit about your broadcast ministry. And I know that
11:37
Speaker 2: you have two things going on right now, at least two.
11:42
Speaker 2: Could you talk with us a little bit about your
11:44
Speaker 2: Uncaped Heroes podcast.
11:47
Speaker 3: I would love to talk about that. Un Caped Heroes
11:50
Speaker 3: is right now. It's currently my favorite thing to do
11:54
Speaker 3: in my time. That's what I love doing. It's magic
11:57
Speaker 3: for me. I started the podcast about it year ago
12:00
Speaker 3: with a gentleman named Boyd Hamlin. He came on as
12:03
Speaker 3: my co host Boyd wrote a beautiful program for youth development,
12:06
Speaker 3: character and integrity for children in any way you can
12:10
Speaker 3: possibly use it. And so he called me one day
12:12
Speaker 3: and he said, let's do a podcast and turn this
12:14
Speaker 3: into grown ups because the kids got to see the
12:15
Speaker 3: grown ups live it. And I said, let's do it.
12:18
Speaker 3: So we decided to do this podcast called The Hero Builder.
12:22
Speaker 3: And then he made a pivot in his life and
12:24
Speaker 3: he met some amazing people and the Hero Builder has
12:26
Speaker 3: begun to breathe and live over here. So we separated
12:30
Speaker 3: from the Hero Builder and became the Everyday Heroes so
12:34
Speaker 3: the Hero Builder could have its life, and as it
12:37
Speaker 3: is progressed, it is going to continue to eat up
12:39
Speaker 3: more and more of his lovely time. All his prayers
12:41
Speaker 3: are coming through. It's the funnest thing to watch. And
12:44
Speaker 3: so as he's done that, we're going to rebrand again
12:47
Speaker 3: June one and we're going to become Uncaked he Roes.
12:50
Speaker 3: And my daughter is going to become a new podcast
12:53
Speaker 3: co host. Oh good, and that's such a joy for me. Yes,
12:57
Speaker 3: and Boyd is going to continue on with with Hero
13:00
Speaker 3: Builder and blessed children all around the world. So the
13:05
Speaker 3: premise of Unk Heroes when we decided to do the
13:07
Speaker 3: podcast Glory. We decided there were one hundred and twenty
13:11
Speaker 3: six thousand podcasts the day we looked at it, and
13:15
Speaker 3: we thought, okay, now, what's going to set us apart
13:17
Speaker 3: from one hundred and twenty six thousand other people. So
13:20
Speaker 3: we started listening and what we found is that a
13:22
Speaker 3: lot of them. There's beautiful information out there, lots of
13:25
Speaker 3: people have lots of beautiful wisdom to share, but so
13:28
Speaker 3: many of them have either a specific theme, a tractor
13:31
Speaker 3: on they're a way to assail there's something else, or
13:36
Speaker 3: you don't want to talk about that, And so where
13:39
Speaker 3: was that gap? And what we saw, we said, what's
13:41
Speaker 3: wrappening in the world right now? So we saw the
13:44
Speaker 3: gap being in a clear understanding of character and integrity.
13:48
Speaker 3: And so that was the premise of let's let's find
13:51
Speaker 3: people from all over the world and let's find out
13:54
Speaker 3: what was their journey, who inspired them, what did they learn,
13:58
Speaker 3: what is their wisdom and how can we share that?
14:01
Speaker 3: And so that's what we do. We have had the
14:02
Speaker 3: privilege of traveling all over the world, from Israel to Egypt,
14:08
Speaker 3: to Australia to the UK to Texas, and we've talked
14:11
Speaker 3: to the most beautiful people. They do the most beautiful
14:14
Speaker 3: things for mankind, and they're giving people permission to get better,
14:20
Speaker 3: to have a space to go. You know, I understand that,
14:23
Speaker 3: and it seems like right now people need permission to
14:26
Speaker 3: do a lot of things. And so there's a lot
14:29
Speaker 3: of people out there open in that space, and so
14:31
Speaker 3: we're sharing that space. We're letting you know who's out
14:34
Speaker 3: there to make your life better and who inspired them,
14:37
Speaker 3: and what's the wisdom from your grandparents.
14:40
Speaker 2: M Well, thank you for doing that work with BOYD
14:44
Speaker 2: and eventually with your daughter. It sounds like very soon
14:46
Speaker 2: she's going to be in the same same seat. You know,
14:50
Speaker 2: so many people are hurting and suffering, not only during
14:54
Speaker 2: this pandemic, but before before we had the pandemic, and
14:58
Speaker 2: so having that place of end inspiration and light is
15:02
Speaker 2: so so necessary right now.
15:04
Speaker 3: Well, hope is universal. Wisdom is universal. It doesn't have
15:09
Speaker 3: a gender or a color, or a location or a community.
15:12
Speaker 3: It is. And we're all just walking each other home.
15:16
Speaker 3: Shouldn't we do it hand in hand?
15:18
Speaker 2: M oh, I love that, Stacy, Thank you hand in
15:21
Speaker 2: hand talking each other home.
15:23
Speaker 3: Agen.
15:24
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I know that you have another podcast and
15:29
Speaker 2: could you tell us about midweek mind candy?
15:33
Speaker 3: Oh? Absolutely, absolutely so. Mind candy is a phrase that
15:37
Speaker 3: we use for something for you to think about for
15:39
Speaker 3: a minute, like a good piece of hard candy or
15:42
Speaker 3: and all day sucker takes a minute to digest that.
15:45
Speaker 3: And so that's what this information is. And we do
15:48
Speaker 3: it on Wednesday, and we take an individual word that
15:52
Speaker 3: is an attribute of character and integrity and legacy and
15:56
Speaker 3: we banter that word. How do you model that word?
16:00
Speaker 3: How do you verb that so that people see that,
16:03
Speaker 3: because that's your legacy, that's the story that you leave behind.
16:07
Speaker 3: And if we don't model And so we've had the
16:10
Speaker 3: most wonderful conversations with people about words, and we're learning
16:14
Speaker 3: how many ways one word can be defined. Yes, right,
16:19
Speaker 3: And it's very important how we use those words and
16:22
Speaker 3: when we're communicating with people because just how you say
16:25
Speaker 3: it has a very different meaning. Sometimes the wisdom is beautiful.
16:29
Speaker 2: And so are you working and talking with people from
16:32
Speaker 2: around the world on this podcast as well?
16:35
Speaker 3: Absolutely absolutely so. Yeah, it's fun there. Every time we
16:39
Speaker 3: talk to somebody about being on the podcast, we go,
16:41
Speaker 3: so do you want to play another way? We have
16:45
Speaker 3: another one. So it's a lot of fun to hear
16:47
Speaker 3: the conversations. And I've really enjoyed the conversations we have
16:53
Speaker 3: between the generations. We bantered the word grace with a
16:58
Speaker 3: young man that was thirty and to hear his concept
17:03
Speaker 3: of grace as one of those people so many people
17:06
Speaker 3: are afraid of, right, thought, Oh my gosh, the awful millennials.
17:09
Speaker 3: And they're so beautiful, right, they have so much information,
17:12
Speaker 3: and I think we're scared of them, is what I think. Right,
17:14
Speaker 3: that's it. They have so much information that we didn't
17:18
Speaker 3: even understand, but they need our wisdom. And so when
17:22
Speaker 3: we bantered the word grace and we heard this beautiful
17:24
Speaker 3: concept of this thirty five year old concept of grace,
17:27
Speaker 3: we came to the conclusion that it's the third step
17:29
Speaker 3: in forgiveness. There's accepting an apology, and then there's forgiveness,
17:35
Speaker 3: and then there's grace. And grace is what we all want, right,
17:40
Speaker 3: And it's hard to offer to other people complete and
17:43
Speaker 3: it's very hard to offer.
17:44
Speaker 4: To ourselves, yes, absolutely right.
17:47
Speaker 3: Until you can offer yourself grace, it's almost impossible to
17:51
Speaker 3: offer to anyone else within a clear understanding, right. And
17:54
Speaker 3: so those are the conversations that we get to have.
17:57
Speaker 3: So if you would like to banter a word with us,
17:58
Speaker 3: with Gloria, we would love to have you.
18:01
Speaker 4: Well, you know I love words, so I would be
18:05
Speaker 4: happy to do that. And I think about how we use.
18:08
Speaker 2: The word mentor, for example, there's another word for you,
18:12
Speaker 2: and oftentimes you think about somebody older than us. But
18:14
Speaker 2: the young people have something to offer everyone as well,
18:19
Speaker 2: and so I like to think of mentors as people
18:21
Speaker 2: of all ages, all generations, all walks of life. We
18:24
Speaker 2: can all learn something from everyone.
18:26
Speaker 3: Right, I agree? Yeah, And you know, just like you
18:29
Speaker 3: and I both have learned for a mentor that we
18:31
Speaker 3: both share. Well, Leadership is influence. It's not who you are,
18:35
Speaker 3: how much money you make, right, it's your ability to
18:37
Speaker 3: influence those around you. That's the five year old or
18:41
Speaker 3: the eighty year old or somebody in between.
18:43
Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely, yeah, all right, Well, I love your ministries
18:48
Speaker 2: and thank you for sharing about your podcasts.
18:51
Speaker 4: Stacy.
18:52
Speaker 2: I know that you have written a part of a book,
18:55
Speaker 2: and I want you to tell our listeners about that.
18:58
Speaker 2: What is Kate No More?
19:01
Speaker 3: Wow? Cage No More is a very new and exciting journey,
19:06
Speaker 3: but I was invited to join. I got an email
19:09
Speaker 3: from a lady one day and she said, please don't
19:12
Speaker 3: take this as creepy, but I've been scoping you out
19:14
Speaker 3: on Facebook. I really love your energy and you and
19:17
Speaker 3: I should have a conversation. And so she called and
19:20
Speaker 3: we had a conversation about this book she wanted to write,
19:23
Speaker 3: and her goal was sixteen to twenty women to co
19:27
Speaker 3: author a book about the moment they recognized the magic
19:33
Speaker 3: in themselves, right the moment they became uncaged from the
19:37
Speaker 3: constraints of society or trauma or fear or whatever it
19:41
Speaker 3: was that was holding them back, that moment they broke free.
19:44
Speaker 3: So in this book will be sixteen stories of coming
19:49
Speaker 3: out right of that uncage. I believe we launched July
19:54
Speaker 3: to thirtieth, and it is sixteen amazing women from all
19:58
Speaker 3: around the world. And so it has been quite an experience, right,
20:03
Speaker 3: so nervously that day when they hit that button had
20:05
Speaker 3: to turn into my chapter. I was like, Oh, there's
20:07
Speaker 3: no going back. Let's it hit the button.
20:09
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, you know, telling your story is so powerful
20:12
Speaker 2: not only for you, but for all the people whose
20:14
Speaker 2: lives you're going to impact.
20:17
Speaker 3: Yeah. Amen, And I think we never know who might
20:20
Speaker 3: hear our story. That needs to hear it that day,
20:23
Speaker 3: or whose life it might touch or treat.
20:25
Speaker 2: That's right. And you know, I always say it's not
20:27
Speaker 2: our business to know. Our business is to show up
20:30
Speaker 2: and to tell our stories and to shine the light.
20:34
Speaker 2: Somebody out there needs that. They need that light, they
20:37
Speaker 2: need those life affirming words.
20:39
Speaker 3: They do, they do, so may they fall upon the
20:42
Speaker 3: ears that need them.
20:43
Speaker 4: Absolutely well, I wish you well with your book.
20:46
Speaker 2: I'm not going to wish you luck because you don't
20:47
Speaker 2: need luck very much.
20:50
Speaker 4: I can't wait to get my hands on a copy
20:52
Speaker 4: of it.
20:52
Speaker 3: Thank you very much. It'll be super fun. And though
20:54
Speaker 3: I think all the proceeds are going to charity, and
20:57
Speaker 3: which makes it even better, it's going to be fun
20:59
Speaker 3: to watch it bless other people all around anyway.
21:02
Speaker 4: Absolutely.
21:03
Speaker 2: Now, you mentioned the word gap a little bit earlier, Stacey,
21:07
Speaker 2: and I I'm going to ask you just fill us
21:09
Speaker 2: in a little bit more about what you're thinking in
21:11
Speaker 2: terms of where our culture is today, society is today.
21:15
Speaker 2: Where do you see the gap and what's what's missing
21:18
Speaker 2: or muted for you?
21:22
Speaker 3: You know, I think I asked this question all the
21:28
Speaker 3: time right on my interviews. It's one of the questions
21:30
Speaker 3: that we ask is where people see the gap? And
21:33
Speaker 3: I love the answers that we get, but I think
21:36
Speaker 3: I think for me it's in. It's in the wisdom
21:40
Speaker 3: of my grandparents. Right, Where did that stop getting moved along? Right?
21:47
Speaker 3: We all had these people in our lives that had
21:50
Speaker 3: this moral line, this character, this ethic, this right and wrong,
21:56
Speaker 3: this good and bad, this total line earned you to keep.
22:00
Speaker 3: We had that, and we grew up with that, and
22:02
Speaker 3: we honored that, and we believed in that. And when
22:04
Speaker 3: we do these interviews, ninety four percent of the time,
22:07
Speaker 3: that's who these people, that's who their heroes are. It's
22:10
Speaker 3: my grandma, it's my mom, it's my uncle John, it's
22:13
Speaker 3: my third grade Sunday school teacher. Right, these ordinary people
22:16
Speaker 3: that do extraordinary things for them. And so I think
22:20
Speaker 3: that's what's missing in all this information that we got
22:23
Speaker 3: out there. Right, there's so much chatter, and so I
22:29
Speaker 3: think the gap is in. The gap is in I
22:32
Speaker 3: think probably the other thing I've talked about, what's underneath
22:35
Speaker 3: the music. Yes, that's the gap for me. Yes, And
22:42
Speaker 3: where did that wisdom go? As I watched my grandchildren?
22:45
Speaker 3: I got six grand babies now, love God, Yay, congratulations,
22:50
Speaker 3: thank you. They're so beautiful. But they're all under the
22:52
Speaker 3: age of six, and so as I watched them grow up,
22:56
Speaker 3: and they are fascinated by life, sponges of energy. They
23:01
Speaker 3: want to know, they want to learn, how does that work,
23:04
Speaker 3: what does it do? Like that, where that starts come from?
23:06
Speaker 3: Why does that frog squeeze on my finger? Everything fascinates them.
23:10
Speaker 3: And then as I work with junior high kids and
23:13
Speaker 3: I work with high school kids, we're teaching them how
23:16
Speaker 3: to ask questions again. We're teaching to dream again and
23:20
Speaker 3: to believe in that again, and to have an imagination.
23:23
Speaker 3: Where does the wonder go? I want to know. So
23:27
Speaker 3: I'm watching it and I'm like, don't you dare take
23:29
Speaker 3: the wonder from those grand babies. Let them ask the question,
23:32
Speaker 3: because I want to know who takes that away? Because
23:35
Speaker 3: I think that's where the gap starts. We start telling them,
23:38
Speaker 3: sit down, pay attention, conform, memorize the answer, get the grade,
23:43
Speaker 3: go to school, fit in the box, and that creates
23:47
Speaker 3: the gap right there.
23:48
Speaker 5: Yeah.
23:49
Speaker 3: Yeah, because they're not fishing, and they're not hunting and
23:52
Speaker 3: cannon and looking at birds and watching the stars and
23:54
Speaker 3: changing the tire and learning about life.
23:58
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we actually what you're saying, I think is
24:01
Speaker 2: we contribute to that that gap one no or one
24:06
Speaker 2: TV commercial or.
24:10
Speaker 4: One do it this way and not.
24:11
Speaker 3: That way, exactly one one just a minute, don't ask,
24:15
Speaker 3: you'll learn, right, one just a minute. I'm busy. I
24:19
Speaker 3: can't just a minute. I can't talk right now. And
24:21
Speaker 3: then they just quit asking.
24:23
Speaker 4: Yeah, what a blessing.
24:25
Speaker 2: I mean, you have six grand babies under the age
24:28
Speaker 2: of six, and I can only imagine, I imagine you
24:32
Speaker 2: just pouring and pouring and pouring blessing into these young
24:36
Speaker 2: young souls.
24:37
Speaker 4: You know.
24:38
Speaker 3: I think that's what they're doing to me, right, They're
24:41
Speaker 3: they're doing that to me. But I think that's the
24:42
Speaker 3: joy of being a grandparent, because when we're When I
24:45
Speaker 3: was a mom, I was so busy trying to be
24:47
Speaker 3: a good mom. Right, I wanted all my eyes tartted,
24:50
Speaker 3: my te's crossed in the dentist appointment, and a's and
24:52
Speaker 3: science and good science projects and those in their hair. Right,
24:56
Speaker 3: I wanted. I wanted to be a perfect mom. And
24:58
Speaker 3: I think I missed the wonder. And I think that's
25:01
Speaker 3: what grandmothers get. I think we get the wonder. Yes,
25:04
Speaker 3: because I'm not responsible anymore, for none of that is mine.
25:09
Speaker 3: And so I get the wonder. So I get tents
25:11
Speaker 3: and the living room, the cupcakes at breakfast and where
25:13
Speaker 3: does cinnamon come from? And we get to find out
25:16
Speaker 3: I love it.
25:18
Speaker 4: Yeah, And like my mom says, you know, I can
25:19
Speaker 4: always send them.
25:20
Speaker 3: Home absolutely spoiled. Yeah, little sugar maybe, but we're sending
25:26
Speaker 3: them home.
25:28
Speaker 2: Oh my, So, Stacey, is there anything that you would
25:32
Speaker 2: like to comment on further, or anything that you wished
25:35
Speaker 2: i'd asked you that I did not.
25:38
Speaker 3: Oh, you know, I love to have conversations with you,
25:41
Speaker 3: my friend. I could just talk to you all day. Right,
25:44
Speaker 3: So here's how about I lay out a challenge, not
25:47
Speaker 3: necessarily a challenge, but a little mind candy for your audience.
25:52
Speaker 3: I would like to challenge them to see if they
25:55
Speaker 3: can take a moment and step back and find out
25:59
Speaker 3: what's underneath the music for them. When you learn to
26:05
Speaker 3: tap dance, you learn that you can't dance to the
26:08
Speaker 3: music because the music changes, It goes up, it goes down,
26:12
Speaker 3: it fades, it speeds up. But underneath there's this one
26:16
Speaker 3: sound that never changes and that keeps everything else in rhythm,
26:21
Speaker 3: and that's your dance. Partner. So who's your dance partner
26:26
Speaker 3: underneath all this music that's going on right now? Do
26:30
Speaker 3: you know? Who are you with no hat on? Who
26:33
Speaker 3: are you not in someone else's costume that they'd laid
26:36
Speaker 3: out for you for the day? But who are you
26:41
Speaker 3: underneath the music?
26:43
Speaker 4: Wow? And how do you keep the steps going when
26:47
Speaker 4: the music changes?
26:48
Speaker 5: I love you?
26:49
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you?
26:50
Speaker 3: Well, you have to know the dance right. Okay? Have
26:53
Speaker 3: you ever been driving down the highway listening to your
26:55
Speaker 3: favorite song on the radio? Music's turned up? You're a
26:59
Speaker 3: one man concept, best singer on the planet, right rocking out? Yes,
27:04
Speaker 3: and you hit that moment of white noise and you
27:06
Speaker 3: go oh, and you have a choice to make break in.
27:10
Speaker 3: You either change the station or you keep singing your song.
27:14
Speaker 3: And in a minute, the white noise goes away and
27:16
Speaker 3: you're right on time and that concert continues. Yes, because
27:20
Speaker 3: you know your song. But white noise conflict in your life.
27:25
Speaker 3: It's just white noise in your song. And if you
27:28
Speaker 3: just keep singing, believe it, Just keep singing your song.
27:31
Speaker 3: In a minute, the white noise goes away and that
27:34
Speaker 3: song is right, we're're supposed to be.
27:36
Speaker 2: I love it, Thank you, Thank you, and you know,
27:41
Speaker 2: I obviously didn't get to see you tap dance. I
27:44
Speaker 2: didn't get to see you teach or as a professional dancer.
27:48
Speaker 2: But I feel like I've gotten a little bit of
27:51
Speaker 2: the dancer in you and the musician in you, because
27:54
Speaker 2: to be a tap dancer, you've got to be a
27:56
Speaker 2: really good musician.
27:58
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, thank you, Thank you so much, Stacy.
28:01
Speaker 2: And so for our listeners, I know they're going to
28:04
Speaker 2: want to get in touch with you.
28:06
Speaker 4: What's the best way to do that, Stacy.
28:10
Speaker 3: Well, I'm always on social media, right I'm Stacy Owen
28:14
Speaker 3: Johnston on social media. I'm on LinkedIn as well. But
28:19
Speaker 3: I don't have a website. This whole internet world is
28:22
Speaker 3: a huge pivot for me. I didn't even want a
28:24
Speaker 3: debit card. But so I'm working on it. I got
28:28
Speaker 3: a group phones and I'm making a website right now.
28:30
Speaker 3: I'm working on it. But I do have an email
28:32
Speaker 3: and they can always reach me at enlighten Up dot
28:36
Speaker 3: stacyj no E just s t A c y Jay
28:41
Speaker 3: at gmail dot com and that is my enlighten Up
28:45
Speaker 3: and they if you want to talk on our podcast,
28:48
Speaker 3: if you want to share your journey, if you have
28:49
Speaker 3: a hero that we need to know. If you want
28:51
Speaker 3: to banter a word, reach out to us at hero
28:54
Speaker 3: Builder twenty twenty at gmail dot com and let's chat.
28:59
Speaker 4: Right excellent.
29:00
Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Stacy, and again, thank you for
29:03
Speaker 2: being here with us today and for enlightening us and
29:07
Speaker 2: enlightening up the world.
29:10
Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you, thank you so much.
29:12
Speaker 4: Bless you.
29:15
Speaker 1: So inspiring. I love all of Stacy's pearls of wisdom. Clearly,
29:22
Speaker 1: Stacy Johnston is a leader's leader. She makes a difference
29:26
Speaker 1: in her own life and in the lives of so
29:29
Speaker 1: many others in her family and throughout the world through
29:33
Speaker 1: her podcasts and as an internationally certified personal coach, consultant, speaker,
29:40
Speaker 1: and trainer. To learn more about Stacy's work, you can
29:45
Speaker 1: connect with her on Facebook and that's Facebook dot com
29:50
Speaker 1: forward slash STACYO dot Johnston and Johnston is j O
29:58
Speaker 1: H N st so that's Facebook dot com forward slash
30:05
Speaker 1: Stacy S T A C Y staceyo dot Johnston. You
30:12
Speaker 1: can also send her an email at Enlighten Up dot
30:16
Speaker 1: Stacy J at gmail dot com. Now remember to look
30:22
Speaker 1: for her podcasts Midweekmindcandy and also Uncaped Heroes and you
30:28
Speaker 1: know what. I was a guest on both of those podcasts,
30:32
Speaker 1: So I just love that Stacy's book, Caged No More,
30:36
Speaker 1: will be published very soon, so be sure to look
30:40
Speaker 1: for that as well. And that's Caged No More. All right,
30:46
Speaker 1: good stuff. Now, if you're just joining us, I'm doctor
30:51
Speaker 1: Gloria and this is Legacy Living. Make your Life Count.
30:57
Speaker 1: We just heard from my very special guest, Stacy Johnston. Now,
31:04
Speaker 1: if you want to make your life count, if you
31:07
Speaker 1: want to be the change you seek, be sure to
31:10
Speaker 1: listen to this episode again and again, and be sure
31:15
Speaker 1: to tell somebody. You can find me right here on iTunes, Audible, Alexa, SoundCloud, iHeart,
31:23
Speaker 1: tune in, Spreaker, dot Com, Talk Network, radio, and so
31:27
Speaker 1: many other places. Be sure to tune in again next time.
31:33
Speaker 1: Before I close today's show, I want to give a
31:36
Speaker 1: shout out to all the women, men and our young
31:39
Speaker 1: people all around the world, because you know what, we
31:43
Speaker 1: are the ones. That's right, we are the ones we
31:48
Speaker 1: have been waiting for. Now what do I mean by that?
31:52
Speaker 1: What I mean is, don't wait. Don't wait for somebody
31:56
Speaker 1: else to step up to make things happen, because guess what,
32:01
Speaker 1: they might not step up. In fact, they might not
32:05
Speaker 1: even know you were there waiting for them to do
32:08
Speaker 1: something for you. But you can be the one. In fact,
32:13
Speaker 1: can I just tell you something? You are You are
32:17
Speaker 1: the one. You are the one who can make a
32:19
Speaker 1: difference in your own life so that you can make
32:23
Speaker 1: a difference in the lives of others. Remember this, how
32:28
Speaker 1: you live is how you lead, It's how you do everything.
32:35
Speaker 1: If you happen to miss any part of this week's show,
32:39
Speaker 1: or if you missed last week's episode, you can simply
32:42
Speaker 1: download the recording and listen to it on the go
32:45
Speaker 1: at your convenience. Check us out at www dot Talk
32:52
Speaker 1: network Radio dot com. Forward Slash Hosts, Forward Slash Legacy Living.
33:01
Speaker 1: That's Talknetwork Radio dot com. Forward Slash Hosts Forward Slash
33:06
Speaker 1: Legacy Living. You can also find me and learn more
33:11
Speaker 1: about my work and Legacy Living. Make your life count
33:15
Speaker 1: by visiting the Gloria Burgess website. And as I've mentioned before,
33:21
Speaker 1: if you love to be inspired, you can actually subscribe
33:24
Speaker 1: to my inspirations right on my website. Just scroll down
33:28
Speaker 1: a little bit look on the right sidebar until you
33:31
Speaker 1: see the place to add your email address to subscribe
33:36
Speaker 1: to my weekly inspirations it's that simple. Each week you
33:40
Speaker 1: get a lovely photograph and a short quotation that inspires you.
33:45
Speaker 1: Or visit me on LinkedIn or Facebook and that's Facebook
33:49
Speaker 1: dot com, forward slash doctor Gloria Burgess, pH D okay,
33:56
Speaker 1: and doctor is dr My name Gloria Burgess, pH D.
34:02
Speaker 1: You can also find me on the TEDx site and
34:05
Speaker 1: listen to one of my ted talks. Just type in
34:07
Speaker 1: my name to find me there. Now again, I want
34:13
Speaker 1: to thank each of you for tuning in to today's podcast,
34:16
Speaker 1: for allowing me to share a bit about my journey
34:19
Speaker 1: with what legacy living is all about, not just living
34:23
Speaker 1: and learning, but living and learning and serving so that
34:28
Speaker 1: you make a difference in your own life and in
34:31
Speaker 1: the lives of others. It's about being on purpose every
34:36
Speaker 1: single day. Three sixty five twenty four seven. Legacy Living
34:42
Speaker 1: is a powerful way to make your life count. Once again,
34:48
Speaker 1: I want to thank you for joining me for today's show.
34:52
Speaker 1: I'm your host, doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess, and this is
34:57
Speaker 1: Legacy Living. Make your Life ca Please join me again
35:02
Speaker 1: next time right here on Talk Network Radio for another
35:06
Speaker 1: show of Legacy Living. Make your life count. Remember, don't
35:15
Speaker 1: just count the days in your life. Make the days
35:19
Speaker 1: in your life count. That's what legacy living is all about.
35:25
Speaker 1: Have a fantastic day and remember, make the days in
35:30
Speaker 1: your life count.
35:33
Speaker 5: God bless you. That's our show today.
35:48
Speaker 1: I'm your host, doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess.
35:53
Speaker 5: I hope you'll join me again next time.
35:56
Speaker 1: Until then, don't just count the days in your life.
36:00
Speaker 1: Make the days in your life count. That's what legacy
36:05
Speaker 1: living is all about.
36:07
Speaker 5: Here's to you.
36:08
Speaker 1: Have a fantastic day and be sure to make it
36:11
Speaker 1: a yes kind of day. Remember to celebrate the music
36:17
Speaker 1: of your life. Make the days in your life count.