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LOSING YOU is the Narcissist's Karma · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about a narcissist karma.
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  How losing you could be the narcissist karma.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  the Narcissist Code. Welcome back, welcome back,
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  welcome back. Y'all be dancing behind the
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  scenes when the music be playing, but just jam.
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  But yes, y'all. So before we hop into today's
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  episode, get deep into today's episode.
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  to the channel and help reach more people.
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  Thank you so much. But yes, the narcissist karma I
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  got a lot of people ask me do narcissist ever get their karma?
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  Like I want to see him Lee. Sorry Lee.
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  I'm a good person. I consider myself an empath.
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  But damn it, I want to see him hurt.
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  I want to see some pain. I want to see them get that
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  karma back. But they, they hurt me.
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  I need to see them get hurt. I want to see them get hurt.
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  That's the mindset of a lot of people.
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  Y'all, That's a lot of people say I talked to a lot of people.
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  I talked to thousands of people over the last 3 1/2 years and
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  that's one of the common things like do they ever get that
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  karma? That's a question.
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  I get on TikTok all the time, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube.
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  Do narcissists ever get that karma?
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  What if losing you, you, you, the beautiful soul that you are
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  that you might be? What if losing you is their
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  karma? What if you all the best thing
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  that has and will ever happen to this person?
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  But for that to happen, for that to happen, you have to believe
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  it because a lot of time they'd be real.
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  Y'all you narcissists do get their karma later on in life,
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  but you might not, might not be around to see it.
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  But you know what you can see? You know what you can feel you.
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  You can feel you. You can understand that you are
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  the best version of yourself. You can understand that you
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  going to keep working on yourself and become better over
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  time. You're going to keep giving to
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  yourself and feeding yourself and nourishing yourself and
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  become a better version of yourself.
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  Why can't that be enough for you?
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  Because working on you is their karma.
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  You working on you. You denied access if they try to
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  come back even even if they don't try to come back, You
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  working on you is their karma. Believe they moved on and they
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  seem like they're doing so much better.
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  You working on you is their karma.
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  They will never find a different version, a better version of
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  you. There's only one you.
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  There's only one you. I don't care what they said to
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  you on the way out the door. I don't care what they say to
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  you because they, they're a lot of times they're going to try to
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  make you feel like crap on your way out the door on their way
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  out the door because that's how they empower themselves, right?
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  That's how they empower themselves to keep moving
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  forward. It's like I need to leave the
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  narcissist in the narcissist mind.
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  They say I need to leave you broken so that I can feel better
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  by myself later on. I need to leave you broken so
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  that I can feel better about myself.
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  That's the mindset of a lot of narcissist.
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  I need to leave you broken to make sure that I am making the
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  right decision to me. That's how the narcissist mind
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  works a lot of time, John, and that's going to keep happening.
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  This is the mindset of a lot of toxic narcissistic people.
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  I need to leave you broken so I can move forward and they leave
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  you broken. Look, they they leave you broken
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  but not destroyed, right? They break you, but they don't
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  destroy you. Still look, you can still be you
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  can be built back better built back better.
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  That's some good little alliteration right there.
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  I'm surprised I made it through. You can be built back better.
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  But seriously, you growing you working on you, you empowering
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  you is going to be the worst karma that they can.
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  They, they, they, they could ever feel the universe.
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  The universe is going to allow you to grow.
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  The universe is going to allow you to move on with your life.
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  The universe is going to allow you to be better than you ever
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  been before. The universe is going to allow
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  you to keep prospering and growing and doing things that
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  the narcissist or toxic person was holding you back from doing.
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  You're going to get to go out and do the things that they say
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  you cannot do. Do you want to get to go out and
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  be the things they said you cannot be you?
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  You're going to go get the education that they said you
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  couldn't get, that you didn't need.
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  Why? You need to get the education.
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  You're going to go get the job that they said you didn't need.
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  You're going to go back and get the friends that it might have
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  made you cut off. You're going to go rebuild the
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  relationship with your family that might have been strained
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  while you were with this toxic narcissistic bastard.
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  You're going to go do every single thing that they said you
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  cannot do. You're not allowed to do.
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  That's their karma. Their karma is setting you free
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  and allowing the world to experience you like they were.
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  They were hiding you from the world.
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  That's why they try to. Yeah, that's why they try to
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  isolate you. Think about it right there.
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  That's why a lot of narcissists try to isolate you, right?
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  Because they want to hide you from the world.
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  They don't want the world to get the experience you.
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  They want you. They want you all to themselves.
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  They try to isolate you away from your friends and your
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  family, your work, your kids, sometimes their friends, their
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  family, their work, their like they try to isolate you away
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  from everybody because they want to hide this treasure that you
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  are from the world world. They want to keep this treasure
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  to themselves. But you have to believe it.
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  I can say it all I want to y'all.
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  I can say, I can sit here and spit all this language out to
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  you. And if the fire that I am, I
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  know I'm I'm spitting fire. I am I'm I'm spitting, I'm quite
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  I'm spitting quite fiery right now.
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  But at the end of the day, you still have to believe it.
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  This has to be stuff that's coming from you.
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  You still have to believe it. Like, no matter what I say, you
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  have to believe it. You're a beautiful person inside
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  and out. You got to believe it.
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  You're a beautiful, beautiful, you're a beautiful person inside
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  out. You still have to believe it.
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  I want y'all to win. So why can't losing you be their
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  karma? They, they, they, they seem so
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  happy. Anybody can seem happy y'all.
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  Y'all, you seem happy with them at first, didn't you?
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  I bet a lot of times that people would have looked at you on
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  social media when you were with your toxic narcissistic person.
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  I bet a lot of times that people were to see you on social media.
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  They thought y'all would have y'all.
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  They thought you were happy, didn't they?
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  They thought you were doing good.
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  I thought you were doing fantastic, didn't they?
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  But in all actuality, was that really what was going on behind
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  the scenes? Was that was that really what
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  was happening? You see how that works?
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  You only like the, the social media stuff only tells half the
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  story. Sometimes it sometimes not even
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  that much. You know social media stuff only
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  tells half the story and sometimes not even that much.
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  Don't watch people's social media feed.
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  They want to say you, if you are done with the narcissist or they
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  break it with you, whatever, however it ends, it's on you to
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  heal. The abuse is on them.
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  That's clear. The abuse is on them.
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  The abusive behavior, the toxics, the toxicity, that's on
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  them. The healing, it's on you.
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  You got to heal. The healing is going to fall in
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  on you. Like, like, Dang, why I got to,
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  you know why I got to be the one healing?
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  You know what I mean? Why I got to be the one healing
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  from them? Like, damn, this ain't, this
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  don't seem fair. Yeah, yeah, it ain't.
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  It ain't going to seem fair. But the healing is on you.
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  So when the healing is on you, that means you can do what you
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  want to do. The same thing that works for
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  somebody else to heal might not work for you, but the universe
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  is going to make them feel it. You have to believe y'all and I
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  say the universe is going to make them feel it.
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  You don't. It doesn't require you to wish
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  bad on them. Because that's what I think a
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  lot of people get twisted, get tied up and twisted up in these
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  situations. A lot of people think that you
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  want in their karma means you're wishing bad on them.
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  No, you just want to get their comeuppance.
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  You want to get you want them to get what they deserve.
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  You know that's why like you say this to a say this to a
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  narcissist, right? Have the day, have the day you
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  deserve. Why would they get so mad with
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  somebody? If you say have the day you
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  deserve this money? Why the hell do they get so
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  angry if they, if they have been, if they deserve a good
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  day, have the day you deserve, honey, How do they, how did have
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  the day you deserve, Timmy, have the day you deserve.
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  Why do people get mad when you say that to them?
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  You know what I'm saying? If I've been good, I'm the day I
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  deserve. I've been the great person that
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  I deserve a good day. OK, cool, but narcissistic
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  people know that they've been bad, so have the life you
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  deserve. That's if you say that to them.
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  Have the life you deserve. If they get angry at you, they
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  know they deserve a bad life. They just like, wait, wait, why
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  you say that like that? What do you mean have the life,
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  have the life I deserve? What do you come up?
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  No, no, no, no, blah, blah blah Boo Boo BBB.
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  That's the mindset of a lot of narcissistic people losing you.
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  You might be the best, like you have to be the best thing that
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  happened to them. Like who cares who they end up
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  with? Y'all in the in the actuality,
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  you know, I know it does matter sometimes when they end up with
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  your your sister or your brother or your cousin or your best
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  friend, whoever, you know, at the end of the day, if they, if
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  some, if, if they end up with somebody you know, and this
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  person that this, this person that you know and they ended up
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  with saw you being abused. Here's your stories and still
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  decided to date or marry this person.
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  That's on them. They're going to get their karma
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  too. They married, they just married
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  their karma, losing you, missing out on being with you, losing
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  access to you. The best thing that ever
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  happened to them will be their karma.
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  You have to keep growing though. It requires you to keep growing,
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  not in spite of them, not to be their karmic retribution, but to
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  work on you. That's crazy how that works,
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  isn't it? You don't have to set out to try
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  to hurt this narcissist, right? Your ex narcissistic partner.
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  You don't have to set out to hurt them.
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  You didn't have to set out to rebuild.
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  You build back better, work on you, heal you from the inside
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  out. It's a journey.
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  Healing is a journey. It is not a destination.
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  You cannot catch a flight to healing.
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  You got to walk there. And when you walk there, you'll
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  get some you look, you going, you going to get some, some,
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  some, some, some sores on your feet.
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  Your ankles going to hurt a little bit.
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  You might have to change shoes. You might have to change your
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  path. You might have to take a break.
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  It's OK to take a break, but losing you the access to you.
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  You're the light of you, the light you the the as light as
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  you are the healing that you offer them The the you know,
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  this is the beautiful person that you might be.
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  Let that be the karma keep growing.
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  I believe they I feel like they left me for spider.
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  That looks better than me. They have more money than me.
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  They're not you. It's easy for me.
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  You don't have to find a weakness in that person.
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  Find the strength in you or Lee. I need to find some way that I'm
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  better than this person. You don't have to find a
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  weakness in them. You just have to find the
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  strength in you because you have a different strength than they
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  do. You have different attributes
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  than they do. Lee.
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  They left me there for a rich person, and they're rich and
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  they seem like they're traveling the world.
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  Wherever you go, there you are. Over here, they're saying
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  before, wherever you go, there you are.
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  You can't you. No matter where you travel, if
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  you are a horrible person inside, you're taking your
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  horrible ass to Tahiti, to France, to Mogadishu.
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  Wherever you you're, wherever you go, there you are.
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  They're taking their karma, their evil spirit with them.
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  They're going there. They are taking themselves
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  there. They seem happy on the outside,
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  but internally they're a mess. Happy.
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  I can smile on the outside like this.
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  Y'all? Y'all see me smiling?
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  Do I look happy? Lee?
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  He looks happy in the picture. This, this is the picture, Lee.
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  She looks so happy in the picture.
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  This is the picture. Stop watching their social
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  media. Stop pain shopping.
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  I tell people you have to stop going pain shopping.
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  You really do like, you have to stop going pain shopping because
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  the more you go pain shopping, the more he's going to hurt you.
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  The more you paint shop, the more it's going to hurt you.
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  Like when I, when I mean my paint shopping.
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  You going on their social media looking for things that are just
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  going to make you feel bad about yourself, looking for things
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  that are going to hurt you and harm you, looking for things
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  that are going to mess with you. You are the best.
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  You are becoming the best version of yourself.
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  You have to be the best version of yourself.
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  You know, just keep growing, keep glowing and let the, the,
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  the universe will make them feel it.
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  They're going to feel it. You're going to win.
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  This is what winning looks like. This is the winning.
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  Don't look look winning looks different to everybody.
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  This is what your victory looks like without this person.
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  You know, you have to keep growing, you have to keep
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  healing and whatnot. Y'all, This is part of the
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  journey. I'm just telling y'all, this is
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