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Socialite Farida & Husband Ademola Fight Dirty 2 Months After 100 Million Naira Wedding · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of Onset
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  I hope you're doing great. Today's episode is once again
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  and we'll get it sorted. Now let us dive into today's
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  episode because it is a sad one. I mean anybody on Nigerian
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  social media will know that the case between Farida's House of
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  Frida and here husband or ex-husband Ademola, it has
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  gotten out of hand. Now a couple of months ago
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  Farida and Demola had the most lavish over 100 million Naira
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  wedding. It was the talk of the town,
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  every celebrity or Yoruba celebrity that you know, was in
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  attendance. Lavish, I should be lavish,
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  Decor, lavish. Like everything was over the
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  top. The couple, they were happy
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  dancing, celebrating. Ademola was in high spirits.
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  She Farida was also very happy to be married.
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  According to the story, this is her third marriage and she was
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  very happy that in her 50s she has found somebody she's going
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  to do life with, somebody she's going to grow old with.
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  So it was a very happy celebration.
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  Love was in the air. Now people like the rest of us
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  that don't know these people we're just happy to watch,
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  should be online, watch people celebrating love and all that.
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  We're happy for them now. Call of days ago news started
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  flickering social media that there was trouble in paradise
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  and the wedding between Ademola and Farida has packed up
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  according to Jim Slova. So people were like, no way this
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  wedding is barely two months old.
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  How could they now be? How can how can he be over there
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  was this will literally. So that should be like everybody
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  was there in attendance. Over 100 million naira in this
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  Nigerian situation was spent on that wedding.
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  So people are like two months, like no, no, no, no.
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  This cannot be possible until Farida has cells sharing videos
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  online about accusing Ademola of cheating.
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  She actually showed text messages because according to
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  her, since they've got some married, Ademola has not
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  consummated their marriage. And according to her, one of the
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  reasons why she got married was to have children.
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  She has three adopted kids, but she wants her own biological
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  kids. So according to her she's been
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  trying to get her to do the do. I didn't realise not doing the
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  do. So according to her I Damola has
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  been claiming that he has you know erectile dysfunction.
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  So she's been buying. According to her she spent over
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  800,000 naira buying herbal remedy for this man to get it up
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  and get her pregnant. But that was not happening at
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  the Muller. Now according to her accused her
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  of trying to control him. He said that he there's nothing
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  wrong with him. He's been sleeping with other
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  people even in the marriage and there's he does not have any
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  erectile dysfunction. That is just because he's not
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  physically attracted to her and that her body looks like an 80
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  year old woman's body and he is not like he that she's too fat.
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  This is that. I mean this is a 2 month old
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  marriage. You don't understand.
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  You saw how he got married to her.
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  She was you serve your facts. So I don't get it when you know,
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  because she actually showed the messages that he sent her, she
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  screenshot and shared these messages online, so it wasn't as
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  if she was making things up. So later news article notes that
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  one of the reasons why the marriage didn't work was because
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  Frida or Farida detained at the Muller in the past and then they
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  broke up. Now she became best friends with
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  Larissa. According to the story now
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  Larissa dated Ademola. They broke up Now I didn't wanna
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  went to prison for three years for fraud the for fraud and then
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  when she came out she accommodated at the Mullah and
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  gave him house sent him 7,000,000 naira to start up
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  whatever just to get his life and he actually moved in with
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  her. So everything was quick, quick
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  quick quick quick and then they got married.
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  So now the relationship between Larissa and Farida actually
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  fractured because these are two best friends who are some points
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  dated at Imola. But now Farida is now getting
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  married to Ademola. So that was how that so that was
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  a situation and that which Larissa was coming online to
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  call out Farida. Farida was calling out Larissa
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  and this man in between these women, women in their 50s.
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  We we're not talking about Gen Z.
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  We are talking about women in their 50s fighting over a man.
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  So are they, Mullah. When they were fighting over at
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  the Mullah, he was busy you know knocking other people out,
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  having girlfriends, went back to the girl he used to date before
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  Larissa and whatever. Like it was a messy situation.
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  Now Ademola is saying that he does not want the marriage again
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  after two months to that Farida forced him to get married to her
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  Farida he wanted just a small wedding.
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  Farida blew the whole thing and Farida borrowed money today 100
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  million naira we did. Farida went and borrowed money
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  to throw a lavish wedding to Pepe people.
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  Now after the marriage ended and all these things was coming out,
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  Farida calling him he that he could not even perform sharing
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  all those things online. It was just messy people taking
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  sides. The Yoruba Internet was divided
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  because we had a group of people supporting Ademola and another
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  group supporting Farida and there's people in the middle who
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  we are, the Larissa people that were thinking, OK, you know
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  these people should just fight and give us content.
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  So he became very messy online and before you could say Jack,
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  Farida drove her car to 4th Mainland Bridge wanted to jump
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  in. Before then she released a video
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  apologising to everybody, apologising to Larissa,
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  apologising to Ademola that everybody should forgive her,
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  that she has forgiven them, blah blah blah.
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  So 24 hours later, she was on the Lagos Mainland bridge to
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  jump into the lagoon, basically to commit suicide until
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  passersby just saw her, held her back.
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  And we are now here talking about this.
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  This story is very complicated because, you know, you tell
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  women to, you know, be their own self, be successful before
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  getting into marriage. Now this woman is an embodiment
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  of all these things. Yes, she's been married two
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  times before, Ademola, but this is a successful woman,
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  successful business woman who is successful in her own right.
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  And then I think society, there are some functions according to
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  people that she was not invited to because she's single.
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  Or there are functions that even though she has three children,
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  adopted children, Nigerians don't regard them as her
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  children because as long as you don't birth those children, they
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  are not your children. So she was excluded in some of
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  the functions. So now Farida wants to get
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  married, to be included in the marriage to function and Farida
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  wants to have children to be included in the biological
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  mother group. So you look at all these things
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  and then you wonder is it societal pressure.
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  I mean marriage is a beautiful thing.
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  Marriage is something that having a companion not just
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  marriage. Because what I see I I've done
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  you know marriage or I live in diaspora, I live in the UK, I've
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  done content wedding or a house. Which would you choose?
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  And you will be amazed at a lot of people choosing lavish
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  wedding that were that money that they're going to use to buy
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  has rather use this for a wedding just to show people that
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  you know and it's so it's so sad because a lot of people plan for
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  wedding and they don't think about the marriage.
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  Now in the case of Farida, according to sources even before
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  the the wedding they had issues. The man threatened to not show
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  up at the wedding day. She two people to beg him and
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  after the begging he told her to kill Iram and that was how he
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  was able to now show up at the wedding.
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  You could already see that the IT is the event that is the most
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  important. People will not cancel the
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  wedding when they clearly see that OK, there is a problem and
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  most times it's even more healthier to break off an
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  engagement or disengage from a wedding just to fix an issue.
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  Then after you have fixed that, no matter how long it's going to
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  take you, once you fix that issue, will not have an
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  agreement and understanding with that person.
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  Then the marriage can go ahead and then the wedding can go
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  ahead because it is not that wedding, it is the marriage.
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  But a lot of people don't understand these things.
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  They just want to do the wedding and then think about the
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  marriage later. Nobody wants to sit down and
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  silky is this the right person for me?
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  Is this, is this the person that I see myself with in the next 10
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  years? Those are our ideology align our
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  do we think You must not even think alike, but you have to
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  have E how do I put it? A common goal, a common
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  understanding. A whole lot of people don't even
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  think about any of these things. They just want to get that
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  wedding sorted. Invite people, let's everybody
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  know that they can afford big weddings.
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  It's it is sad. And when this two months, barely
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  two months after a lavish over 100 million Naira wedding was
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  conducted, they are both on social media, washing their
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  dirty linen in public, exposing themselves.
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  This one calling this one facts looking like an 8 year old, this
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  one saying that this one does not have erection.
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  These are everything you saw before you got married to this
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  person, before you had that lavish wedding.
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  And a lot of people say they're giving credit to Ademola based
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  on the fact that he said he didn't want a big wedding, but
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  afraid that being the societal of socialised that she is, she
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  wanted something that everybody can celebrate with her.
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  And that was how she now went into debt to conduct this
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  wedding that is already over. Now she's paying debts that he
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  even the man. She does not have even Peace of
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  Mind to the points that she wanted to kill herself.
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  It is not about waiting. Think about the marriage.
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  Think about the days after that wedding.
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  Wedding is just one day. You can plan it 10 years, but
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  once you have that day, that day is over.
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  You don't have to face the reality of living with the
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  person that you're actually married to.
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  You not have to do marriage with that person.
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  Would you be happy with that person in the next 10 years?
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  Would you be happy with everything that that person is
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  doing? See.
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  Don't just see. I maybe I think different.
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  I don't know. I'm just a different breed
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  because this is something that would affect you physically,
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  emotionally, financially, psychologically, socially.
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  This is one person that is going to be your life for the rest of
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  your life. And people don't even put things
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  into consideration before jumping into, you know,
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  marriage, but everybody with their own.
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  Some people will tell you I'd rather have done it than never
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  have done it. Some people will tell you it's
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  better for me to experience it than not experience it.
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  So everybody choose whatever you want to choose.
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  Life is a choice. Make your choice, be happy with
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  your choice and if you realise that you've made the wrong
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  decision, don't go and try to kill yourself like a Farida.
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  Farida wanted to take her life knowing that she has three
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  adopted children that she she who would they go to?
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  Who would they have gone to after she has passed on?
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  So please, please, it is not about wedding.
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  It is not. It is the marriage after the
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  wedding that people need to actually focus on.
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  Think about that. Make sure that this person that
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  you're saying I do too, this person will be planning 100
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  million Naira wedding. You know with that person is
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  somebody that regardless in the next 10 years you can wake up
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  beside that person. Even if you when you you won't
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  have issues, you're going to have issues.
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  But are you happy? Would you be happy to wake up
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  with this person or beside this person for the next 10 years?
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  If you are not happy, if you will not be happy with that
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  picture. New Polo agent.
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  So now any apple and hey you just carry your bag.
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  I'm famous. You will not be thinking of 100
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  million that you borrowed. You will not be in Lagos
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  mainland. Bridge will not be calling you
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  Anyway. This is not a laughing matter.
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  This is a very serious issue that is going on.
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  People should protect their mental health.
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  I cannot over emphasise on that. Your mental health is very,
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  very, very very important. Protect your mental health.
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  Don't let anything get into that space.
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  Don't let anything that would disrupt that balance get into
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  it, protect it, protect it, protect it.
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  And if you just want wedding, get your wedding but make sure
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  that you have shock absorbers that will, he went.
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  Things happen. You are it will absorb that
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  shock and will not take you to over the edge or overboard.
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  So that is all I have to say for today.
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  When you're planning a wedding, also plan for the marriage.
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  That is it. Thank you very much for watching
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  Bye. Bye.