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Let's Have a Personal Conversation · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  So today, you guys, I want to talk about this, all right?
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  It's important. I haven't talked about some
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  situations like these that happened to a lot of women.
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  Something similar happened to me in the 90s.
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  I'm going to talk about it today.
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  So hang on. To be clear, my incident was not
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  Puff Daddy, not at all. But you guys need to know
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  there's a reason that women don't come forward.
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  I just did a love call the other day with a woman who who got me
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  on the phone because she had dated a very, very famous
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  celebrity and he'd been jerking around doing different things.
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  And, and she says, well, and I said to her, this is what they
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  do. They a lot of things that feel
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  and seem unbelievable are true. And she said, why don't more
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  women come forward? Why don't women come forward?
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  If this is true, how come women aren't talking about it?
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  And again, not talking about the PDD incident, OK, Just talking
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  about these stories that do eventually make their way out.
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  And it's by one brave woman who's willing to tell the story
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  or video footage that comes out. And then everybody goes, well,
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  if this is true, where are all the other women?
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  You walk amongst the other women.
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  Trust me, plenty of women. The reason women don't come
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  forward, they don't want their lives blown up.
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  They want to move on. There's fear, there's shame.
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  And the truth of the matter is, whoever has the most money,
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  whoever is the craziest, willing to scream the loudest from the
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  rooftops, or has the most money so that their team will scream
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  from the rooftops on their behalf, that's who wins, whether
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  it's true or not. Whoever has the most money and
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  resources and is willing to scream the loudest will always
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  win, whether it's true or not. So let's talk about my story.
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  I'll share it with you guys today.
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  I'm still hesitant, but I'm going to do it.
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  So let's do this. So back in the early 90s, I was
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  new to Hollywood, West Hollywood.
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  I was a flight attendant and I was dating up a storm and I
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  happen to cross paths with this guy at a nightclub that he this
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  was like no guy I've ever met before.
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  He was rough and rowdy and he was on the cusp of putting out a
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  song that would go on within me meeting him over a period of
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  weeks. His song came out and it blew
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  up. It was the biggest song of the
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  time and it's still one of the biggest probably songs ever
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  still to this day. OK.
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  And I was dating him and he wasn't treating me right and I
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  was putting up with it. Things I never, never want you
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  ladies to put up with or do now, OK, But I had a final incident
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  with him that went like this. It's pretty horrific.
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  So get ready. And if you're easily triggered,
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  you may not want to watch any further.
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  All right, so I flew out to meet him because he was, I'm not
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  going to say what he was doing on this particular occasion
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  might give it away, but he was somewhere out of town traveling
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  for whatever reason, and I flew there on my own dime.
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  Huge mistake. You know, if a man doesn't want
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  you, don't go, don't push yourself.
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  And he was just, it was horrible treatment I should have never
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  put up with. All right, but I didn't know
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  better. Anyway, I flew out to meet him.
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  I stayed in the hotel with him. He wasn't treating me right.
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  We got into a huge fight, a huge, huge, huge fight.
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  And it escalated. So I finally said something that
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  really pissed him off. He grabbed me by the hair, drug
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  me into the bathroom, in front of the bathroom mirror.
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  He threatened to shave my head. I don't know why that's a thing
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  with them, but it is, apparently.
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  And then when that wasn't good enough, he didn't shave my head.
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  He pulled out a loaded handgun from his bag and threatened,
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  held it to my head, threatened to pull the trigger.
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  I'm screaming, I'm screaming, I'm crying, I'm begging for my
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  life. He didn't do anything, thank
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  God. It didn't escalate beyond that.
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  I, I apologized profusely. I apologized to him.
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  I gathered up my stuff and I, I slept actually in the corner of
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  the room all night while he slept in the bed because I was
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  just too scared to make a move. You get paralyzed by fear.
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  You don't know what to do. The last thing I'm going to do
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  is call the police because I was too scared.
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  I'm still don't want to. I don't want to poke the bear.
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  I don't want to say who he is. Lot of people do know.
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  I told people over the years privately, absolutely.
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  But do I want to make this public?
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  Absolutely not. This is why women don't because
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  you don't win. Usually you become the bad guy.
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  You ladies a lot of times want to believe these guys,
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  especially the cuter they are, the more famous they are.
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  You want to get behind them. Oh, he's the hero and his team
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  makes him out to be the hero, and then the woman is suddenly
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  the villain and you ladies buy into it.
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  Don't. The more outrageous the story
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  sounds, the more unbelievable, the more outrageous.
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  It sounds like she is the bad guy.
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  Usually, the more true it is that he has done the deed he's
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  been accused of. OK.
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  And I hate to say that, but I'm just speaking for experience.
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  And I'm speaking for women who are too afraid, who don't maybe
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  even have a platform like I do. Stand by the women usually.
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  It's almost always always true. All right, I hope this helps
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  somebody today. I hope it helps.