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Happy Hour #174: You're Too Young · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anny and Samantha. I want your stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I never told you. Protection of my Heart Radio and
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  Speaker 1: welcome to another edition of Happy Hour. As always, if
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  Speaker 1: you choose to drink whatever you choose to do, do
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  Speaker 1: so responsibly. Samantha, are you sleeping on anything?
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  Speaker 2: Got my good old trusty bubble water?
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  Speaker 1: What about you? Guys? Nice? I have a light beer.
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  Speaker 1: Oh it's cold. It is very hot today, but I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. I'm cold natured, so I'm still worried like
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  Speaker 1: a hoodie. Sure, yeah, yeah, which kind of relates to
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  Speaker 1: a follow up I wanted to do about my recent
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  Speaker 1: visit to the er. All right, let's talk. Okay. There
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  Speaker 1: were a couple of points that I mentioned in passing
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  Speaker 1: and didn't really get into detail. All one is I
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  Speaker 1: said something about like going as an ace person, and
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  Speaker 1: I didn't really expound upon that, and I should have
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  Speaker 1: because it wasn't that they were like, are you pregnant?
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  Speaker 1: I understand that's a real question you need to ask,
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  Speaker 1: right right, Like that's a that's a very important thing
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  Speaker 1: to know, especially if you're gonna have X rays, which
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  Speaker 1: I did. No, what I met was it's maybe it's
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  Speaker 1: not even maybe. It was just me being in my
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  Speaker 1: head because at that point I said, in the previous
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  Speaker 1: episode we're talking about this, I had have to be
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  Speaker 1: so one hundred percent sure before I go to the doctor,
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  Speaker 1: and this is like the ultimate level of going to
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  Speaker 1: the doctor. So I was having all these doubts in
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  Speaker 1: my head about it, like should I have gone, should
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  Speaker 1: I not have gone? All that stuff. It was more
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  Speaker 1: about how they kept asking me you live alone, there's
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  Speaker 1: no one for you, which I guess they were trying
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  Speaker 1: to say, like no one could have driven you or
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  Speaker 1: something else. I don't know. Again, I could be totally
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  Speaker 1: misreading the situation, but so many, like of the people
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  Speaker 1: I saw were like you live alone, this kind of tone,
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  Speaker 1: and I wanted to be like, yeah, I don't understand.
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  Speaker 1: That's she's sticking point for you.
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  Speaker 2: You know. That Actually was a question that was asked
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  Speaker 2: to me recently when I went to my physical therapy
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  Speaker 2: evaluation and she asked, so, do.
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  Speaker 1: You live alone?
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  Speaker 2: I said no, I have a partner, but he's not
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  Speaker 2: here right now. And she was like, oh, but you
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  Speaker 2: don't live alone, like she majored. I'm like no. She's
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  Speaker 2: like okay, great, great, great, And I was like wait,
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  Speaker 2: what wait, what why what I mean, I understand if
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  Speaker 2: we need to care for her, but I'm like, but
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  Speaker 2: he's not there when I'm going through this, so I
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  Speaker 2: don't know why this is.
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  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it was strange. It was strange how often
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  Speaker 1: it got bought up. And I just got the impression
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  Speaker 1: that they thought I was like the saddest possibly on
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  Speaker 1: drugs patient, but because they were very quick to be like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: this is stress. Do you live alone? Like all of
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  Speaker 1: these things. Another thing that came up that I mentioned
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  Speaker 1: very briefly but I've learned is something that's really happening
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  Speaker 1: a lot right now is that I got a lot
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  Speaker 1: of oh, you're too young, you're too young for that,
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  Speaker 1: You're too young for this. And outside of just my
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  Speaker 1: experience hearing that, I've heard that multiple times, I've heard
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  Speaker 1: that throughout my life. I've recently learned independently of what
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  Speaker 1: happened to me, there has been an increase in a
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  Speaker 1: lot of cancers amongst younger people, and a lot of
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  Speaker 1: times it'll be dismissed of, like oh you're too young.
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  Speaker 1: And I do think will we run a classic about
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  Speaker 1: self diagnosing, I think that's like tied up in it.
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  Speaker 1: But there has been an increase of younger Americans, in
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  Speaker 1: particularly women who you know, go in and they're like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I have all these symptoms and like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: you're too young, that's that can't be it. It just
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  Speaker 1: happens sometimes, or it's just this, or it's just stress.
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  Speaker 1: That's what a lot of people got and that's what
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  Speaker 1: I got too. Oh, it's just stress. And then they
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  Speaker 1: go multiple times over the years, and then unfortunately, finally
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  Speaker 1: somebody's like, oh, no, you have cancer or something like
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  Speaker 1: something very serious, and they're like, yeah, I've been I
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  Speaker 1: knew something was wrong. I knew something was wrong, and
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  Speaker 1: it's just kind of frustrating because I get it. I
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  Speaker 1: have a lot of friends who work in the medical industry,
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  Speaker 1: and I've heard their complaints about people who come in
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  Speaker 1: like all the time and are not honest with their symptoms.
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  Speaker 1: I actually think I kind of hamstrung myself with how
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  Speaker 1: honest I was being because I knew that, and so
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  Speaker 1: I was trying to be so honest and I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I kind of downplayed my symptoms.
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  Speaker 2: Oh that's what I do.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because at first they kept asking about heart pain
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, it's more of a tightness but
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  Speaker 1: it had been a pain earlier, but they didn't ask
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  Speaker 1: about earlier. They just asked about then, and so I
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  Speaker 1: was just trying to be like honest and be like, no,
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  Speaker 1: right now, it's just a tightness. And I was really
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  Speaker 1: and they gave me like the pain scale, and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, I don't know, yeah, I can barely focus
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  Speaker 1: right now.
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  Speaker 2: That is so misleading because I always put lower numbers
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  Speaker 2: in my head because I don't know. And then like
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  Speaker 2: we've talked about like pain tolerance, like what what? Because
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  Speaker 2: I was basing it without any like references. The pain
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  Speaker 2: scale on mine was like, you know, at three, it's
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  Speaker 2: mild pain, at nine, at eight, it's like moderate pain. Wait,
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  Speaker 2: and that'd be that's a high number to me, but
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, no, it was definitely. So I would always
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  Speaker 2: put myself at five, six, seven, because I didn't want
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  Speaker 2: to be like, you know, it's not awful. But then
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  Speaker 2: like the on the scale says nine you can't sleep.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, oh, yeah, I was there, but I
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't have described that's nine because it was bad. I
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  Speaker 2: hated it, but it wasn't the worst thing that I've
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  Speaker 2: ever gone through. So I was like, how's that a nine.
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  Speaker 2: So in my mind it was a seven because yes,
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  Speaker 2: it's it's not working. Someone needs to redo this, revamp this.
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  Speaker 1: I agree, I do the same thing. I'm like, it
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  Speaker 1: sounds wild to me to be like, oh, yeah, it's
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  Speaker 1: a nine unless I'm on the verge of the most painful.
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  Speaker 2: Death exactly, like nine is almost death and ten is dead.
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  Speaker 1: But painful death. So I was they were asking me
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  Speaker 1: and I didn't even have the scale in front of me.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know, right, why are you
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  Speaker 1: asking me these questions?
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  Speaker 2: These are so like internative.
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  Speaker 1: Right right, And I know that's that's difficult. People are.
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  Speaker 1: They do experience pain differently, so it is tricky. But
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  Speaker 1: I just felt like at that moment, that was not
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  Speaker 1: what I needed to see or hear. I just but
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  Speaker 1: it was also one of those things where, yeah, I'm stressed.
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  Speaker 1: I have been stressed. I think a lot of us
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  Speaker 1: are stressed. But I think within the first like five
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  Speaker 1: minutes when I got in the hospital, that I could
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  Speaker 1: stress before they'd done anything else. And it was just
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  Speaker 1: sort of like it was frustrated. It was downhearted because
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  Speaker 1: I'd finally taken like a move and I thought I
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  Speaker 1: was about to die and I did something about it,
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  Speaker 1: and here they are like, yeah, you're too young, you're
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  Speaker 1: too young. Okay, well great, can't wait to get the
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  Speaker 1: bill for that. And that being said, I really get it,
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  Speaker 1: I really do. Everybody was really nice, and they had
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  Speaker 1: just installed a new system, so it was kind of
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  Speaker 1: chaotic were fighting about because somebody was like, oh, she's
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  Speaker 1: too young for that, and the guy was like, did
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  Speaker 1: you see what I saw?
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  Speaker 2: Did well?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I think that that whole kind
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  Speaker 1: of dismissal. We probably shouldn't do that. I get that,
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  Speaker 1: like maybe statistics would indicate, but they're changing clearly obviously.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm also not that young. I'm young, but I
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  Speaker 1: got that right anyway. I just wanted to clarify those
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  Speaker 1: those points as I still work through this whole experience,
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  Speaker 1: as I'm still navigating it, because I haven't been still
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  Speaker 1: the doctor and embarrassing in a long time too, so
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  Speaker 1: it's I think I'm like kind of still in not shock,
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  Speaker 1: but oh yeah, that's what it was like. Because I
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  Speaker 1: had a lot of doctors when I was young be like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: that can't be right.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: A week later, I'm in a hospital and I'm like, oh, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: turns out that's about right. That's about right. Okay, so
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  Speaker 1: more health updates and I'm sure Read and Samantha will
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  Speaker 1: be back again with more. Oh, I didn't even mention.
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  Speaker 1: There's a whole thing about on the other end of
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  Speaker 1: doctors being told they're too younger all the time. So
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  Speaker 1: I do want to mention that I believe that, I
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  Speaker 1: think that's probably a thing. So if you have any
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