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#480 Holiday Edition - Wally Goddard · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just
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  Speaker 2: once answers now Gooday.
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  Speaker 1: It's doctor Justin Coulson for another episode of The Happy
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  Speaker 1: Family's Podcast Holiday Edition, where we go back through the
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  Speaker 1: very best interviews, the best conversations that we've had on
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  Speaker 1: the podcast and pull literally the best couple of minutes
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  Speaker 1: out of that to give you some tips for making
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  Speaker 1: your family happier. One of my favorite people in the
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  Speaker 1: world is a guy by the name of Professor H.
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  Speaker 1: Wallace Goddard. He's been a mentor of mine for well
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  Speaker 1: over ten years now, based over in the United States,
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  Speaker 1: and just has such compassion, such wisdom, such humor and
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  Speaker 1: delight in everything family related. While he was kind enough
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  Speaker 1: to join us for episode three hundred and forty four
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  Speaker 1: of The Happy Family's podcast, and I asked him, as
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  Speaker 1: a parenting expert for many years now, what have you
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  Speaker 1: learned and how have you applied the lessons that you've
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  Speaker 1: learned in your own family?
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  Speaker 2: Oh? Boy, Yeah, A few things we learned. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: one was that you have to plan to invest time,
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  Speaker 2: a lot of time. I think some people want parenting
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  Speaker 2: to be efficient or they figure if you do it right,
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  Speaker 2: it makes very little demands on your schedule. I think
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  Speaker 2: that's a pretty serious mistake. I think, for instance, when
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  Speaker 2: in the evening after teaching all day long, I'd be
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  Speaker 2: sitting reading and I was just really absorbed in when
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  Speaker 2: I was reading, and our little boy, Andy would come
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  Speaker 2: up and say, Dad, can we take a walk around
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  Speaker 2: the block? And I say, sure, as soon as I
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  Speaker 2: just finish this chapter. And after a few times, Andy
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  Speaker 2: said that you say that every time, and wow, it
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  Speaker 2: is just painful to face yourself and realize that you've
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  Speaker 2: been lying to yourself into your son, saying essentially, I
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  Speaker 2: really want to be a good dad. I want you
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  Speaker 2: to feel like I'm really present, but boy, I sure
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  Speaker 2: don't want to waste any time unless it's absolutely necessary.
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  Speaker 2: And that's the wrong way of thinking about it. When
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  Speaker 2: you interparenting, you how to say, this is one of
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  Speaker 2: the most important things I'll ever do. It'll have more impact,
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  Speaker 2: it'll leave a more important legacy than anything else I
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  Speaker 2: will do. And I intend to be present. I intend
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  Speaker 2: to invest myself, heart and soul into this job. And
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  Speaker 2: so I can drop my book and take a walk
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  Speaker 2: around the block with Andy and not be impatient trying
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  Speaker 2: to get around the block and get back to my book.
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  Speaker 2: But stop and throw rocks and pick up sticks and
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  Speaker 2: enjoy life with that little boy who's transformed our lives.
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  Speaker 1: That's Wally Goddard from episode three hundred and forty four
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  Speaker 1: of The Happy Family's podcasts. Imagine a relationship where you
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  Speaker 1: felt seen, heard and valued one way. As your partner
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  Speaker 1: enters the front door, they see you and their eyes
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  Speaker 1: light up. A relationship like that is a gift. If
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  Speaker 1: you don't have it, now you can. The Happy Family's
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  Speaker 1: webinar Better Together gives you the insight, tools and support
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  Speaker 1: you need to have a happier relationship, Available now at
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  Speaker 1: The Happy Family's webshop. Hey, thanks so much for joining
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  Speaker 1: us for the Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the
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  Speaker 1: time poor parent who just wants answers. Now Tomorrow we're
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  Speaker 1: having a conversation with Jeremy mcveen. He's the founder of
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  Speaker 1: the Fatherhood and co author of the book about the Fatherhood.
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  Speaker 1: I think that you'll find him fascinating as we consider
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  Speaker 1: what it is to be a great dad. This is
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  Speaker 1: definitely one for mums, for the man in your life
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  Speaker 1: to have a listen to. You might want to point
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  Speaker 1: him towards our podcast tomorrow and Dad's You don't want
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  Speaker 1: to miss this one because we're going to be talking
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  Speaker 1: all about fatherhood. That's on tomorrow's Happy Families podcast. We
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  Speaker 1: appreciate Justin Ruland and Craig Bruce. They're the guys that
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  Speaker 1: make the podcast sound great. If you like more and
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  Speaker 1: fol about making your family happier, find us at happyfamilies
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