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How the Assumptions You’re Making Are Shaping Your Life ✨ · STOPTIME: Live in the Moment.

• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Hey there.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: Today I want to just kind of help you draw some awareness around something that might be holding you back.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's an inner block that we all have.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: And the good news is that when we notice it, when we notice we're doing it, we can make necessary shift to experience a different perspective or a different view of the situation.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: And the inner block I'm talking about today is an assumption.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: An assumption is an expectation that because something has happened in the past, well, it'll happen again.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: The dictionary defines it as a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen without proof.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: And assumptions are one of the big four inner blocks that limit how we see things, how we experience things.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: Energetically, they are constructing a narrow lens that makes it difficult to imagine other possibilities other than the ones that you've already decided are going to be.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: Imagine.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: Imagine that you're heading into a meeting that you're required to attend.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: You've been there before, you've been to these kinds of meetings before, and there's data to support that previous meetings have been contentious.
• 1:58
  SPEAKER_00: Certain players have acted predictably, or you haven't felt heard.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: When we operate from the assumption that things will be the same way, we limit our capacity for energetic choice.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: Going in with the assumption that you're not going to be heard might lead you to the energetic choice of I can't.
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: I can't say anything I want without being criticized.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: So you hold back from sharing your ideas.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_00: If you're feeling defensive about it, if you're operating from I have to, you might say, I have to protect myself from being overrun.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: Immediately being defensive, stripping any possibilities for collaboration.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe, maybe you're operating from I should.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_00: I should be better at expressing myself, shaming yourself into silence instead of practicing presence.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: You see how that works?
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: When we're operating from an assumption, that's exactly what we see and what we find and what we co-create.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: It is perfectly natural to draw from what we already know, to make assumptions and mental shortcuts about what we don't.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: But the beginner's mindset offers another way.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: What if you didn't assume that things were going to be the same way?
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_00: There's so much to glean from our childlike curiosity of that beginner's mindset.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: And I invite all of us to open our minds as if seeing something for the very first time.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_00: There's an opportunity in doing things repeatedly, in doing things that become part of your routine, to look at them differently.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: The learning is immense.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_00: You know, there was a time when I was in a tap dance class and I took a class that was much lower than the level that I was as an expert tap dancer.
• 4:28
  SPEAKER_00: But I had heard that this teacher was wonderful and I had some time on my schedule.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: So I jumped in willingly.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm always willing to jump in and learn.
• 4:37
  SPEAKER_00: And what stands out in this teaching is that she had me doing a step that I've known how to do for decades without realizing that I was doing the step.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_00: Now, how did she do this?
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: She did this by approaching it in a different way than I had in the past.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: She could have just said, do a triple time step, and I would have, on automatic pilot, known what that meant and assumed that I knew what she meant and done it.
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: She did not do this.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: She broke it down in a different way.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_00: And because it was slow and because it was not my level, I looked at it differently.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_00: I was honing each sound.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_00: I was I was working on the mastery of clarity and I was just approaching the step differently.
• 5:35
  SPEAKER_00: And it wasn't until I was dancing it that I had a an aha moment, which was this is just a a triple time step.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: But was it really?
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: I share that with you because this learning a step that I'd known for so many years from a beginner's mindset, keep in mind, everybody was learning it for the first time, offered me so much possibility to see things differently and to experience things differently.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: Think of a situation in your own life where you've caught yourself assuming, because it's always been this way, it always will be.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: What possibilities might open up for you if you approached that situation with beginners' eyes?
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: Curious, present, and willing to see it differently than the way you saw it when you assumed how it would be.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_00: What might change if you allowed yourself to imagine a different outcome?
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: Everything is new if you choose to look at it through fresh eyes.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: You are different in every moment.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: The world is different in every moment.
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_00: You have never been here before.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: Life is infinite, my friends.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: Do not assume anything.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_00: Everything's possible.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Lisa Hopkins.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: Stay safe and healthy, everyone, and remember to live in the moment.