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E298: Tammy's Take #12: Your Body Isn’t Broken: How Trauma & Your Nervous System Create Chronic Symptoms · Adult Child of Dysfunction

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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  Tammy's
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  Takes
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  where
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  we
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  take
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  powerful
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  conversations
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  and
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  turn
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  them
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  into
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  practical
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  strategies
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  you
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  can
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  use
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  right
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  here,
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  right
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  now.
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  So
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  yesterday
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  I
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  had
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  a
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  very
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  powerful
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  conversation
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  with
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  Faith
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  Ashenden,
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  and
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  she
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  said
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  something
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  that
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  I
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  don't
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  think
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  we
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  fully
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  understand
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  yet.
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  She
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  talked
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  about
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  how
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  many
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  of
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  us
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  are
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  dealing
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  with
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  these
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  chronic
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  physical
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  symptoms.
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  Fatigue,
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  anxiety,
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  gut,
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  brain
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  fog,
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  overwhelm.
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  The
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  list
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  goes
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  on
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  and
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  on
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  and
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  on.
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  And
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  we're
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  constantly
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  trying
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  to
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  figure
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  out
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  what's
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  wrong
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  with
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  me.
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  But
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  today,
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  kind
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  of
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  continue
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  on
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  with
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  our
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  conversation
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  with
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  Faith
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  from
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  yesterday
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  and
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  consider
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  the
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  fact
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  that
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  maybe
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  nothing's
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  wrong
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  with
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  you.
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  Maybe
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  your
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  body
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  isn't
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  broken.
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  It's
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  just
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  trying
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  to
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  get
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  your
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  attention.
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  Think
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  about
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  that
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  for
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  a
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  minute
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  because
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  she
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  did
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  say
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  something
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  very
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  powerful.
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  And
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  I've
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  said
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  it
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  before,
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  but
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  it
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  hit
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  me
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  harder
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  yesterday,
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  for
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  some
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  reason,
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  she
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  said,
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  your
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  body
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  speaks
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  before
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  it
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  screams.
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  I
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  always
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  say
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  it
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  whispers
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  before
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  it
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  screams,
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  but
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  whatever,
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  either
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  way,
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  let
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  it
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  sink
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  in.
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  Your
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  body
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  speaks
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  before
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  it
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  screams.
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  So
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  what
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  happens
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  when
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  you
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  grow
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  up
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  in
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  these
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  dysfunctional
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  homes
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  that
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  many
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  of
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  us
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  have?
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  Your
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  body
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  adapts.
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  It
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  learns
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  to
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  stay
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  alert,
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  stay
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  ready,
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  don't
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  relax,
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  don't
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  feel
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  too
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  much,
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  don't
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  trust,
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  don't
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  do
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  any
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  of
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  those
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  things
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  that
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  a
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  normal
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  person
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  and
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  nervous
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  system
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  and
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  body
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  is
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  supposed
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  to
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  do.
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  And
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  over
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  time,
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  literally
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  all
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  of
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  that
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  becomes
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  your
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  baseline.
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  It
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  becomes
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  where
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  you
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  sit
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  on
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  a
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  normal
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  basis.
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  So
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  instead
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  of
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  processing
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  emotions
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  in
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  the
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  moment,
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  in
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  real
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  time,
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  like
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  you're
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  supposed
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  to,
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  your
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  body
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  stores
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  them.
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  We
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  talk
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  all
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  the
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  time
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  about
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  the
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  invisible
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  backpack.
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  So
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  the
• 1:38
  invisible
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  backpack
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  that
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  you
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  carry
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  on
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  your
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  back
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  is
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  every
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  unprocessed
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  experience,
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  every
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  suppressed
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  emotion,
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  every
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  time
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  you
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  had
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  to
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  push
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  something
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  down
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  in
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  order
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  to
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  survive.
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  And
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  guys,
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  God,
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  I
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  don't
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  know
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  how
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  many
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  times
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  I've
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  mentioned
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  it.
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  It
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  doesn't
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  disappear.
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  It
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  gets
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  held
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  in
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  your
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  body.
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  It
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  gets
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  held
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  in
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  every
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  single
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  tissue
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  and
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  every
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  single
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  cell
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  of
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  your
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  body.
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  And
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  eventually
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  your
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  body
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  has
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  to
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  release
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  that
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  somehow,
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  some
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  way.
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  So
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  what
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  does
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  that
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  look
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  like?
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  it
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  gets
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  really
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  interesting
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  because
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  different
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  emotional
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  patterns
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  kind
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  of
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  tend
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  to
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  show
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  up
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  in
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  different
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  areas
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  of
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  your
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  body.
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  Now,
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  this
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  is
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  not
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  a
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  diagnosis.
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  It's
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  a
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  pattern.
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  For
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  example,
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  if
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  you
• 2:17
  have
• 2:17
  tightness
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  in
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  your
• 2:18
  chest
• 2:18
  or
• 2:18
  anxiety,
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  a
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  lot
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  of
• 2:20
  time
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  that
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  is
• 2:20
  connected
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  to
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  fear,
• 2:21
  hyper
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  vigilance,
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  or
• 2:23
  feeling
• 2:23
  unsafe.
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  If
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  you
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  have
• 2:25
  gut
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  issues
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  or
• 2:25
  digestive
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  problems,
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  that
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  can
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  be
• 2:27
  connected
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  to
• 2:28
  stress,
• 2:29
  lack
• 2:29
  of
• 2:29
  control,
• 2:30
  or
• 2:30
  not
• 2:30
  feeling
• 2:31
  able
• 2:31
  to
• 2:31
  process
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  what's
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  happening
• 2:32
  in
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  your
• 2:33
  life
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  or
• 2:34
  being
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  able
• 2:35
  to.
• 2:35
  If
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  you
• 2:35
  want
• 2:35
  to
• 2:35
  go
• 2:36
  back
• 2:36
  to
• 2:36
  a
• 2:37
  metaphor,
• 2:37
  not
• 2:37
  being
• 2:37
  able
• 2:38
  to
• 2:38
  digest
• 2:38
  what's
• 2:39
  happening
• 2:39
  in
• 2:39
  your
• 2:39
  life.
• 2:40
  If
• 2:40
  you
• 2:40
  have
• 2:41
  chronic
• 2:41
  fatigue
• 2:42
  that
• 2:42
  can
• 2:42
  come
• 2:43
  from
• 2:43
  a
• 2:43
  long
• 2:43
  term
• 2:44
  burnout,
• 2:44
  People
• 2:45
  pleasing,
• 2:46
  always
• 2:46
  being
• 2:47
  quote
• 2:47
  unquote
• 2:47
  on,
• 2:48
  like,
• 2:48
  you're
• 2:48
  never
• 2:49
  off,
• 2:49
  you
• 2:49
  never
• 2:49
  get
• 2:50
  to
• 2:50
  relax,
• 2:50
  so
• 2:50
  your
• 2:51
  body
• 2:51
  just
• 2:51
  wears
• 2:52
  out.
• 2:52
  How
• 2:52
  about
• 2:53
  throat
• 2:53
  issues?
• 2:54
  Right?
• 2:54
  How
• 2:54
  many
• 2:54
  people
• 2:55
  have
• 2:55
  their
• 2:55
  thyroid
• 2:56
  or
• 2:56
  their
• 2:56
  tonsils
• 2:57
  out
• 2:57
  at
• 2:57
  a
• 2:57
  later,
• 2:58
  at
• 2:58
  a
• 2:58
  later
• 2:59
  age?
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  That
• 3:00
  can
• 3:00
  be
• 3:00
  connected
• 3:01
  to
• 3:01
  speaking
• 3:01
  up,
• 3:02
  holding
• 3:02
  things
• 3:02
  in,
• 3:03
  or
• 3:03
  feeling
• 3:03
  like
• 3:03
  you
• 3:04
  don't
• 3:04
  have
• 3:04
  a
• 3:04
  voice,
• 3:06
  Tension
• 3:06
  in
• 3:06
  your
• 3:06
  shoulders
• 3:07
  or
• 3:07
  neck
• 3:07
  that
• 3:08
  can
• 3:08
  come
• 3:08
  from
• 3:08
  carrying,
• 3:09
  responsibility,
• 3:10
  pressure,
• 3:10
  or
• 3:10
  feeling
• 3:11
  like
• 3:11
  everything
• 3:11
  is
• 3:12
  on
• 3:12
  you.
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  So
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  again,
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  I,
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  I
• 3:14
  mean
• 3:14
  there's
• 3:14
  studies
• 3:14
  on
• 3:15
  it.
• 3:15
  There
• 3:15
  are
• 3:15
  literally
• 3:16
  studies,
• 3:16
  and
• 3:16
  we
• 3:16
  talked
• 3:17
  about
• 3:17
  them
• 3:17
  yesterday
• 3:17
  with
• 3:17
  Faith
• 3:20
  on
• 3:20
  the
• 3:20
  number
• 3:21
  of
• 3:21
  women
• 3:22
  that
• 3:22
  get
• 3:22
  breast
• 3:23
  cancer
• 3:23
  right
• 3:23
  after
• 3:24
  a
• 3:24
  divorce
• 3:25
  or
• 3:25
  right
• 3:25
  after
• 3:25
  the
• 3:26
  end
• 3:26
  of
• 3:26
  a
• 3:26
  really
• 3:26
  tumultuous
• 3:27
  relationship.
• 3:27
  And
• 3:28
  then
• 3:28
  next
• 3:28
  thing
• 3:28
  they
• 3:28
  know,
• 3:28
  they
• 3:28
  have
• 3:29
  breast
• 3:29
  cancer.
• 3:30
  Guys,
• 3:30
  where
• 3:30
  attention
• 3:31
  goes,
• 3:31
  energy
• 3:32
  flows.
• 3:33
  We
• 3:33
  are
• 3:33
  all
• 3:33
  energy.
• 3:34
  And
• 3:34
  it's
• 3:35
  just
• 3:35
  the
• 3:35
  natural.
• 3:36
  If
• 3:36
  you
• 3:36
  can't
• 3:36
  talk,
• 3:37
  your
• 3:37
  energy
• 3:37
  is
• 3:38
  focused
• 3:38
  on
• 3:40
  closing
• 3:40
  your
• 3:40
  throat
• 3:41
  and
• 3:41
  not
• 3:41
  letting
• 3:41
  you
• 3:42
  talk.
• 3:42
  And
• 3:42
  that
• 3:42
  is
• 3:43
  the
• 3:43
  part
• 3:43
  that
• 3:43
  is
• 3:43
  going
• 3:43
  to
• 3:44
  be
• 3:44
  affected.
• 3:45
  So
• 3:45
  again,
• 3:45
  it
• 3:46
  doesn't
• 3:46
  mean
• 3:46
  something
• 3:46
  is
• 3:47
  wrong
• 3:47
  with
• 3:47
  you.
• 3:48
  It
• 3:48
  means
• 3:48
  that
• 3:49
  your
• 3:49
  body
• 3:49
  is
• 3:49
  holding
• 3:50
  the
• 3:50
  energy
• 3:50
  that
• 3:51
  has
• 3:51
  not
• 3:51
  been
• 3:51
  processed
• 3:52
  yet.
• 3:52
  Because
• 3:53
  emotion
• 3:54
  is
• 3:54
  energy
• 3:55
  in
• 3:55
  motion.
• 3:56
  And
• 3:56
  when
• 3:57
  it
• 3:57
  doesn't
• 3:57
  move,
• 3:58
  what's
• 3:58
  the
• 3:58
  only
• 3:58
  other
• 3:58
  thing
• 3:59
  it
• 3:59
  can
• 3:59
  do?
• 4:00
  It
• 4:00
  stays.
• 4:00
  And
• 4:01
  when
• 4:01
  it
• 4:01
  stays,
• 4:02
  it
• 4:02
  wreaks
• 4:02
  havoc.
• 4:03
  So
• 4:05
  most
• 4:05
  people
• 4:05
  think
• 4:05
  about
• 4:06
  a
• 4:06
  symptom.
• 4:06
  They
• 4:06
  have
• 4:07
  something
• 4:07
  wrong
• 4:07
  with
• 4:07
  them,
• 4:07
  something
• 4:08
  hurts,
• 4:08
  and
• 4:08
  what
• 4:09
  do
• 4:09
  you
• 4:09
  do?
• 4:09
  You
• 4:09
  feel
• 4:10
  the
• 4:10
  symptom,
• 4:10
  you
• 4:11
  try
• 4:11
  to
• 4:11
  fix
• 4:11
  it,
• 4:12
  you
• 4:12
  ignore
• 4:12
  it
• 4:12
  or
• 4:13
  you
• 4:13
  push
• 4:13
  through
• 4:13
  it.
• 4:14
  Because
• 4:14
  that
• 4:14
  is
• 4:14
  what
• 4:14
  we
• 4:15
  have
• 4:15
  been
• 4:15
  trained
• 4:15
  to
• 4:16
  do,
• 4:16
  that
• 4:17
  is
• 4:17
  what
• 4:17
  we
• 4:17
  have
• 4:17
  been
• 4:17
  conditioned
• 4:18
  to
• 4:18
  do.
• 4:18
  And
• 4:19
  then
• 4:19
  it
• 4:19
  comes
• 4:19
  back
• 4:20
  stronger.
• 4:20
  But
• 4:21
  the
• 4:21
  message
• 4:22
  was
• 4:22
  never
• 4:22
  heard
• 4:22
  the
• 4:22
  first
• 4:23
  time.
• 4:23
  And
• 4:23
  that's
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  problem.
• 4:24
  Your
• 4:24
  body's
• 4:25
  like,
• 4:25
  okay,
• 4:25
  if
• 4:25
  you're
• 4:25
  not
• 4:26
  going
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  listen,
• 4:27
  I'm
• 4:27
  going
• 4:27
  to
• 4:27
  turn
• 4:28
  the
• 4:28
  volume
• 4:28
  up,
• 4:29
  I'm
• 4:29
  going
• 4:29
  to
• 4:30
  make
• 4:30
  it
• 4:30
  worse.
• 4:32
  So
• 4:33
  let's
• 4:33
  come
• 4:33
  up
• 4:33
  with
• 4:33
  a
• 4:34
  practical
• 4:34
  strategy.
• 4:35
  And
• 4:35
  you
• 4:35
  know,
• 4:35
  I'm
• 4:35
  all
• 4:36
  about
• 4:36
  practical
• 4:36
  strategies.
• 4:37
  And
• 4:37
  step
• 4:37
  one,
• 4:38
  two,
• 4:38
  three,
• 4:38
  four,
• 4:38
  I
• 4:39
  like
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  give
• 4:39
  you
• 4:39
  things
• 4:40
  that
• 4:40
  you
• 4:40
  can
• 4:40
  do
• 4:40
  in
• 4:41
  the
• 4:41
  moment
• 4:42
  that
• 4:43
  might
• 4:43
  help
• 4:43
  you.
• 4:44
  So
• 4:44
  here's
• 4:44
  something
• 4:45
  you
• 4:45
  can
• 4:45
  start
• 4:45
  doing
• 4:46
  today.
• 4:46
  And
• 4:47
  we're
• 4:47
  just
• 4:47
  going
• 4:47
  to
• 4:47
  call
• 4:47
  it
• 4:47
  the
• 4:47
  body
• 4:48
  listening
• 4:48
  exercise.
• 4:49
  For
• 4:49
  if
• 4:49
  you
• 4:49
  have
• 4:49
  to
• 4:49
  give
• 4:49
  it
• 4:50
  a
• 4:50
  name,
• 4:50
  right?
• 4:51
  So
• 4:51
  step
• 4:52
  one,
• 4:52
  when
• 4:53
  you
• 4:53
  have
• 4:53
  a
• 4:53
  pain,
• 4:53
  when
• 4:53
  you
• 4:54
  have
• 4:54
  something
• 4:54
  going
• 4:54
  on,
• 4:54
  when
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  feel
• 4:55
  something
• 4:55
  wrong
• 4:55
  with
• 4:56
  your
• 4:56
  body,
• 4:56
  the
• 4:57
  next
• 4:57
  time
• 4:57
  you
• 4:57
  feel
• 4:57
  it,
• 4:58
  don't
• 4:58
  override
• 4:59
  it.
• 4:59
  Just
• 4:59
  stop
• 5:00
  for
• 5:00
  a
• 5:00
  minute
• 5:01
  and
• 5:01
  Pause.
• 5:02
  Tune
• 5:03
  into
• 5:03
  it.
• 5:03
  Listen
• 5:04
  to
• 5:04
  it.
• 5:04
  Ask
• 5:05
  yourself,
• 5:05
  where
• 5:05
  do
• 5:06
  I
• 5:06
  feel
• 5:06
  this
• 5:06
  in
• 5:06
  my
• 5:07
  body?
• 5:07
  What
• 5:07
  does
• 5:08
  it
• 5:08
  feel
• 5:08
  like?
• 5:09
  But
• 5:09
  stay
• 5:09
  out
• 5:10
  of
• 5:10
  the
• 5:10
  story
• 5:10
  behind
• 5:11
  it.
• 5:12
  Stay
• 5:12
  out
• 5:12
  of
• 5:13
  why
• 5:14
  it
• 5:14
  feels
• 5:14
  like
• 5:15
  that.
• 5:15
  Just
• 5:15
  feel
• 5:16
  it
• 5:16
  and
• 5:16
  acknowledge
• 5:17
  what
• 5:17
  you're
• 5:17
  feeling.
• 5:18
  Then
• 5:19
  if
• 5:19
  you
• 5:19
  want
• 5:19
  to
• 5:19
  ask
• 5:19
  a
• 5:20
  deeper
• 5:20
  question,
• 5:20
  go
• 5:21
  ahead.
• 5:21
  What
• 5:22
  might
• 5:22
  my
• 5:22
  body
• 5:22
  be
• 5:22
  trying
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  tell
• 5:23
  me
• 5:23
  right
• 5:23
  now?
• 5:25
  Whatever
• 5:25
  comes
• 5:26
  up,
• 5:26
  let
• 5:27
  it
• 5:27
  come
• 5:27
  up
• 5:28
  now.
• 5:29
  When
• 5:29
  something
• 5:29
  comes
• 5:30
  up,
• 5:30
  validate
• 5:31
  it.
• 5:31
  Just
• 5:32
  say
• 5:32
  to
• 5:32
  yourself,
• 5:32
  huh,
• 5:33
  that
• 5:33
  makes
• 5:33
  sense.
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  mean,
• 5:34
  if
• 5:34
  your
• 5:34
  throat
• 5:35
  is
• 5:35
  hurting
• 5:35
  all
• 5:36
  the
• 5:36
  time
• 5:36
  and
• 5:37
  you
• 5:37
  have
• 5:37
  been
• 5:37
  trying
• 5:37
  to
• 5:37
  tell
• 5:38
  somebody
• 5:38
  something
• 5:39
  that
• 5:39
  you
• 5:39
  haven't
• 5:39
  told
• 5:39
  them
• 5:40
  in
• 5:40
  a
• 5:40
  long
• 5:40
  time,
• 5:41
  it
• 5:41
  makes
• 5:41
  sense
• 5:41
  that
• 5:41
  your
• 5:42
  body
• 5:42
  is
• 5:42
  going
• 5:42
  to
• 5:43
  close
• 5:44
  up
• 5:44
  the
• 5:44
  throat
• 5:44
  or
• 5:44
  your
• 5:44
  throat
• 5:45
  is
• 5:45
  going
• 5:45
  to
• 5:45
  hurt.
• 5:46
  But
• 5:46
  what
• 5:46
  if
• 5:46
  it
• 5:46
  doesn't
• 5:47
  make
• 5:47
  sense?
• 5:49
  I'm
• 5:49
  going
• 5:50
  to
• 5:50
  flip
• 5:50
  it
• 5:50
  around
• 5:50
  a
• 5:51
  little
• 5:51
  bit.
• 5:52
  Say
• 5:52
  it
• 5:52
  makes
• 5:53
  sense
• 5:53
  and
• 5:53
  validate
• 5:54
  it,
• 5:54
  even
• 5:55
  if
• 5:55
  it
• 5:55
  doesn't
• 5:55
  make
• 5:56
  sense
• 5:56
  to
• 5:56
  you
• 5:56
  right
• 5:56
  now.
• 5:57
  Because
• 5:57
  for
• 5:58
  many
• 5:58
  of
• 5:58
  us,
• 5:59
  that
• 5:59
  might
• 6:00
  be
• 6:00
  the
• 6:00
  absolute
• 6:01
  first
• 6:01
  time
• 6:02
  that
• 6:03
  your
• 6:03
  body
• 6:03
  has
• 6:03
  been
• 6:03
  listened
• 6:04
  to.
• 6:07
  It
• 6:07
  might
• 6:07
  be
• 6:07
  the
• 6:07
  first
• 6:08
  time.
• 6:09
  So
• 6:09
  even
• 6:09
  if
• 6:09
  it
• 6:10
  doesn't
• 6:10
  make
• 6:10
  sense,
• 6:11
  just
• 6:11
  give
• 6:11
  it
• 6:11
  the
• 6:11
  validation
• 6:12
  it
• 6:12
  needs.
• 6:13
  That
• 6:13
  makes
• 6:14
  sense.
• 6:15
  Now,
• 6:15
  this
• 6:15
  is
• 6:16
  where
• 6:16
  you
• 6:16
  have
• 6:16
  to
• 6:17
  identify
• 6:18
  a
• 6:18
  pattern
• 6:18
  or
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  have
• 6:19
  to
• 6:19
  break
• 6:20
  up
• 6:20
  a
• 6:20
  pattern.
• 6:20
  Honestly,
• 6:22
  start
• 6:22
  asking
• 6:22
  yourself,
• 6:23
  when
• 6:23
  does
• 6:23
  this
• 6:24
  show
• 6:24
  up?
• 6:25
  When
• 6:25
  does
• 6:25
  my
• 6:26
  throat
• 6:26
  hurt?
• 6:26
  When
• 6:26
  does
• 6:27
  my
• 6:27
  lower
• 6:27
  back
• 6:27
  hurt?
• 6:28
  Is
• 6:28
  it
• 6:28
  after
• 6:28
  a
• 6:29
  conflict?
• 6:29
  Is
• 6:30
  it
• 6:30
  when
• 6:30
  I
• 6:30
  slow
• 6:30
  down?
• 6:31
  Is
• 6:31
  it
• 6:32
  when
• 6:32
  I'm
• 6:32
  feeling
• 6:33
  overwhelmed
• 6:33
  or
• 6:34
  rejected
• 6:34
  or
• 6:34
  having
• 6:35
  some
• 6:35
  kind
• 6:35
  of
• 6:35
  confrontation?
• 6:37
  Identify
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  pattern
• 6:38
  as
• 6:38
  to
• 6:38
  where
• 6:38
  it
• 6:39
  shows
• 6:39
  up
• 6:41
  and
• 6:41
  write
• 6:42
  it
• 6:42
  down
• 6:42
  if
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  need
• 6:42
  to.
• 6:43
  And
• 6:43
  then
• 6:44
  step
• 6:44
  two
• 6:46
  is
• 6:47
  name
• 6:47
  that
• 6:47
  pattern
• 6:48
  and
• 6:49
  name
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  state.
• 6:50
  So
• 6:50
  instead
• 6:51
  of
• 6:51
  saying,
• 6:52
  I'm
• 6:52
  broken,
• 6:53
  just
• 6:53
  say,
• 6:54
  my
• 6:54
  body
• 6:54
  is
• 6:54
  in
• 6:54
  a
• 6:55
  stress
• 6:55
  response.
• 6:56
  My
• 6:56
  body's
• 6:57
  not
• 6:57
  broken.
• 6:58
  It's
• 6:58
  in
• 6:58
  a
• 6:58
  stress
• 6:58
  response.
• 6:59
  What
• 6:59
  does
• 6:59
  that
• 7:00
  do?
• 7:00
  That
• 7:00
  takes
• 7:00
  the
• 7:01
  shame
• 7:01
  out
• 7:01
  of
• 7:02
  feeling
• 7:02
  like
• 7:02
  you
• 7:02
  did
• 7:02
  something
• 7:03
  wrong.
• 7:04
  So
• 7:04
  just
• 7:04
  say,
• 7:04
  my
• 7:05
  body
• 7:05
  is
• 7:05
  in
• 7:05
  a
• 7:05
  stress
• 7:06
  response.
• 7:07
  Now
• 7:07
  break
• 7:08
  it
• 7:08
  up.
• 7:09
  Do
• 7:09
  something
• 7:09
  different.
• 7:10
  What
• 7:10
  do
• 7:10
  you
• 7:11
  normally
• 7:11
  do?
• 7:12
  You
• 7:12
  push.
• 7:13
  You.
• 7:13
  You.
• 7:13
  You
• 7:13
  overwork.
• 7:14
  You
• 7:14
  suppress,
• 7:15
  and
• 7:16
  then
• 7:16
  you
• 7:16
  spiral,
• 7:17
  right?
• 7:18
  So
• 7:18
  instead
• 7:19
  we're
• 7:19
  going
• 7:19
  to
• 7:19
  try
• 7:19
  something
• 7:19
  different.
• 7:21
  We're
• 7:21
  going
• 7:21
  to
• 7:21
  pause
• 7:22
  instead
• 7:22
  of
• 7:23
  push.
• 7:24
  We're
• 7:24
  going
• 7:24
  to
• 7:24
  rest
• 7:25
  instead
• 7:25
  of
• 7:25
  overwork.
• 7:27
  We're
• 7:27
  going
• 7:27
  to
• 7:27
  speak
• 7:28
  instead
• 7:28
  of
• 7:28
  suppress,
• 7:30
  and
• 7:30
  we're
• 7:30
  going
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  breathe
• 7:31
  instead
• 7:31
  of
• 7:32
  spiraling.
• 7:33
  So
• 7:33
  try
• 7:33
  something
• 7:34
  different.
• 7:34
  Pattern
• 7:35
  interrupts
• 7:36
  are
• 7:36
  where
• 7:36
  healing
• 7:37
  begin.
• 7:37
  If
• 7:37
  you're
• 7:38
  in
• 7:38
  some
• 7:38
  kind
• 7:39
  of
• 7:39
  state
• 7:39
  or
• 7:39
  some
• 7:40
  kind
• 7:40
  of
• 7:40
  way
• 7:40
  and
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  need
• 7:41
  to
• 7:41
  change
• 7:42
  the
• 7:42
  way
• 7:42
  you
• 7:43
  are,
• 7:43
  just
• 7:44
  do
• 7:44
  something
• 7:44
  different.
• 7:46
  So
• 7:47
  your
• 7:47
  body,
• 7:48
  guys,
• 7:48
  even
• 7:49
  though
• 7:49
  you
• 7:49
  might
• 7:49
  think
• 7:49
  it
• 7:49
  is,
• 7:50
  when
• 7:50
  everything
• 7:50
  hurts
• 7:51
  and
• 7:51
  everything's
• 7:51
  sore
• 7:52
  and
• 7:52
  you
• 7:52
  wake
• 7:52
  up
• 7:52
  and
• 7:53
  you're
• 7:53
  creaky
• 7:53
  and
• 7:53
  you're
• 7:53
  crunchy
• 7:54
  and
• 7:54
  all
• 7:54
  that
• 7:54
  stuff.
• 7:55
  Your
• 7:56
  body
• 7:56
  is
• 7:56
  not
• 7:56
  your
• 7:56
  enemy.
• 7:57
  It
• 7:58
  has
• 7:58
  been
• 7:58
  working
• 7:58
  overtime
• 7:59
  for
• 7:59
  many,
• 8:00
  many
• 8:00
  years
• 8:00
  to
• 8:01
  protect
• 8:01
  you.
• 8:02
  And
• 8:02
  when
• 8:03
  even
• 8:03
  thing
• 8:03
  when
• 8:03
  things
• 8:04
  feel
• 8:04
  uncomfortable,
• 8:05
  even
• 8:05
  when
• 8:05
  it
• 8:05
  feels
• 8:05
  overwhelming,
• 8:07
  it's
• 8:07
  doing
• 8:08
  exactly
• 8:08
  what
• 8:08
  it
• 8:09
  was
• 8:09
  designed
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  do.
• 8:11
  But
• 8:11
  your
• 8:12
  job
• 8:12
  now
• 8:12
  is
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  do
• 8:13
  it
• 8:13
  a
• 8:13
  little
• 8:13
  differently.
• 8:14
  Your
• 8:15
  job
• 8:15
  is
• 8:15
  to
• 8:15
  have
• 8:15
  a
• 8:16
  different
• 8:16
  relationship
• 8:16
  with
• 8:17
  your
• 8:17
  body
• 8:18
  where
• 8:19
  you
• 8:19
  once
• 8:19
  ignored
• 8:19
  it
• 8:21
  and
• 8:21
  fought
• 8:22
  it
• 8:22
  and
• 8:22
  pushed
• 8:23
  it
• 8:23
  and
• 8:23
  made
• 8:23
  it
• 8:23
  work
• 8:24
  so,
• 8:24
  so
• 8:25
  hard.
• 8:26
  I
• 8:26
  want
• 8:26
  you
• 8:26
  to
• 8:26
  just
• 8:27
  take
• 8:27
  a
• 8:27
  moment
• 8:28
  and
• 8:28
  thank
• 8:28
  it
• 8:30
  and
• 8:30
  don't
• 8:30
  push
• 8:30
  it,
• 8:31
  don't
• 8:32
  fight
• 8:32
  it
• 8:32
  and
• 8:33
  don't
• 8:33
  silence
• 8:33
  it.
• 8:34
  Let
• 8:34
  it
• 8:34
  do
• 8:35
  its
• 8:35
  thing.
• 8:36
  You
• 8:36
  listen,
• 8:37
  you
• 8:37
  respond,
• 8:38
  and
• 8:39
  you
• 8:39
  support.
• 8:41
  Doesn't
• 8:41
  hurt
• 8:41
  to
• 8:41
  tell
• 8:42
  your
• 8:42
  body
• 8:42
  every
• 8:42
  night
• 8:42
  before
• 8:43
  you
• 8:43
  go
• 8:43
  to
• 8:43
  bed.
• 8:43
  Thank
• 8:44
  you
• 8:44
  for
• 8:44
  supporting
• 8:44
  me.
• 8:45
  Thank
• 8:45
  you
• 8:45
  for
• 8:45
  being
• 8:45
  there
• 8:45
  for
• 8:46
  me.
• 8:46
  Thank
• 8:46
  you
• 8:46
  for
• 8:46
  working
• 8:47
  so
• 8:47
  hard
• 8:48
  to
• 8:49
  fix
• 8:49
  the
• 8:49
  things
• 8:49
  that
• 8:49
  I
• 8:50
  couldn't.
• 8:51
  Just
• 8:51
  validate
• 8:52
  it
• 8:52
  and
• 8:52
  love
• 8:53
  it
• 8:53
  for
• 8:53
  everything
• 8:53
  it's
• 8:54
  doing
• 8:54
  for
• 8:54
  you.
• 8:55
  I
• 8:55
  promise
• 8:55
  you,
• 8:55
  it's
• 8:56
  going
• 8:56
  to
• 8:56
  make
• 8:56
  you
• 8:56
  feel
• 8:56
  a
• 8:57
  little
• 8:57
  better.
• 8:58
  So
• 8:59
  a
• 8:59
  lot
• 8:59
  of
• 8:59
  you
• 8:59
  are
• 8:59
  probably
• 9:00
  out
• 9:00
  there
• 9:00
  and
• 9:00
  you're
• 9:00
  thinking,
• 9:01
  oh
• 9:01
  my
• 9:01
  gosh,
• 9:01
  I
• 9:02
  do
• 9:02
  that.
• 9:02
  I
• 9:02
  have
• 9:03
  a
• 9:03
  pain
• 9:03
  and
• 9:03
  I
• 9:03
  get
• 9:04
  irritated
• 9:04
  and
• 9:05
  I
• 9:05
  overmedicate
• 9:06
  it
• 9:06
  with
• 9:06
  everything
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  can
• 9:07
  do
• 9:07
  and
• 9:07
  I
• 9:07
  just
• 9:07
  want
• 9:07
  to
• 9:07
  push
• 9:08
  it
• 9:08
  away
• 9:08
  and
• 9:08
  get
• 9:08
  it
• 9:09
  away.
• 9:11
  Maybe
• 9:11
  it
• 9:12
  does.
• 9:12
  And
• 9:12
  maybe
• 9:13
  you're
• 9:13
  sitting
• 9:13
  here
• 9:13
  now
• 9:14
  and
• 9:14
  you
• 9:14
  realize,
• 9:15
  wow,
• 9:16
  it's
• 9:16
  probably
• 9:16
  been
• 9:16
  trying
• 9:16
  to
• 9:17
  tell
• 9:17
  me
• 9:17
  something
• 9:17
  for
• 9:17
  a
• 9:18
  long
• 9:18
  time.
• 9:20
  Come
• 9:20
  check
• 9:21
  it
• 9:21
  out
• 9:21
  with
• 9:21
  me.
• 9:22
  I
• 9:22
  have
• 9:22
  a
• 9:22
  free,
• 9:23
  complimentary.
• 9:23
  Well,
• 9:24
  obviously
• 9:24
  free
• 9:24
  is
• 9:24
  complimentary.
• 9:25
  Same
• 9:25
  thing.
• 9:25
  But
• 9:25
  it's
• 9:26
  a
• 9:26
  biofrequency
• 9:26
  voice
• 9:26
  scan.
• 9:27
  I
• 9:27
  talk
• 9:27
  about
• 9:27
  it
• 9:27
  a
• 9:28
  lot
• 9:28
  on
• 9:28
  this
• 9:28
  podcast.
• 9:29
  We
• 9:29
  actually
• 9:30
  use
• 9:30
  it
• 9:31
  to
• 9:31
  start
• 9:31
  to
• 9:32
  identify
• 9:32
  the
• 9:32
  patterns
• 9:33
  that
• 9:33
  your
• 9:33
  body
• 9:33
  is
• 9:33
  holding
• 9:34
  onto.
• 9:35
  It
• 9:35
  shows
• 9:36
  where
• 9:36
  your
• 9:36
  nervous
• 9:36
  system
• 9:36
  may
• 9:37
  be
• 9:37
  stuck
• 9:37
  in
• 9:38
  those
• 9:38
  survival
• 9:38
  responses.
• 9:39
  And
• 9:41
  it
• 9:41
  honestly
• 9:42
  sends
• 9:42
  you
• 9:43
  back
• 9:43
  some
• 9:43
  calming
• 9:44
  things
• 9:44
  that
• 9:44
  you
• 9:44
  can
• 9:44
  do.
• 9:45
  It
• 9:45
  gives
• 9:45
  you
• 9:45
  balancing
• 9:46
  harmonics.
• 9:46
  It's
• 9:47
  using
• 9:47
  your
• 9:47
  voice.
• 9:47
  It's
• 9:48
  a
• 9:48
  beautiful,
• 9:48
  beautiful,
• 9:49
  non
• 9:50
  invasive
• 9:52
  method
• 9:53
  that
• 9:53
  we
• 9:53
  use
• 9:54
  to
• 9:54
  balance
• 9:55
  what's
• 9:55
  out
• 9:55
  of
• 9:56
  balance
• 9:57
  and
• 9:57
  help
• 9:57
  your
• 9:57
  body
• 9:58
  get
• 9:58
  back
• 9:58
  to
• 9:59
  that
• 9:59
  place
• 9:59
  of
• 9:59
  homeostasis
• 10:00
  that
• 10:00
  it
• 10:00
  wants
• 10:01
  to
• 10:01
  be.
• 10:01
  So
• 10:02
  go
• 10:02
  into
• 10:02
  the
• 10:02
  link,
• 10:03
  grab
• 10:03
  the
• 10:03
  link,
• 10:04
  sign
• 10:04
  up.
• 10:05
  Takes
• 10:05
  about
• 10:05
  20
• 10:05
  minutes.
• 10:06
  No
• 10:06
  big
• 10:06
  deal.
• 10:07
  So
• 10:08
  let's
• 10:08
  go
• 10:09
  back
• 10:09
  and
• 10:10
  kind
• 10:10
  of
• 10:10
  wrap
• 10:10
  this
• 10:10
  up.
• 10:11
  Healing
• 10:12
  isn't
• 10:13
  about
• 10:13
  willing
• 10:14
  your
• 10:14
  body
• 10:14
  to
• 10:14
  be
• 10:15
  fixed
• 10:15
  or
• 10:15
  fixing
• 10:16
  your
• 10:16
  body.
• 10:18
  It's
• 10:18
  about
• 10:19
  really
• 10:19
  taking
• 10:19
  the
• 10:20
  time,
• 10:20
  slowing
• 10:21
  down,
• 10:21
  and
• 10:22
  starting
• 10:22
  to
• 10:22
  finally
• 10:23
  understand
• 10:23
  it.
• 10:24
  Because
• 10:25
  when
• 10:25
  you
• 10:25
  do,
• 10:26
  everything
• 10:27
  else
• 10:27
  starts
• 10:28
  to
• 10:28
  shift.
• 10:29
  And
• 10:29
  as
• 10:30
  always,
• 10:30
  as
• 10:30
  I've
• 10:31
  always
• 10:31
  said,
• 10:32
  you
• 10:32
  are
• 10:32
  not
• 10:32
  your
• 10:33
  trauma
• 10:34
  you
• 10:34
  are
• 10:34
  who
• 10:34
  you
• 10:35
  choose
• 10:35
  to
• 10:36
  become
• 10:36
  next.
• 10:37
  So
• 10:37
  why
• 10:37
  don't
• 10:37
  we
• 10:37
  choose
• 10:38
  a
• 10:39
  healthier,
• 10:39
  happier,
• 10:41
  more
• 10:41
  balanced,
• 10:42
  energetic
• 10:44
  and
• 10:44
  healed
• 10:45
  you?
• 10:46
  I
• 10:46
  know
• 10:46
  you
• 10:46
  can
• 10:46
  do
• 10:47
  it.
• 10:47
  I
• 10:47
  know
• 10:47
  you
• 10:47
  deserve
• 10:48
  it.
• 10:48
  You
• 10:48
  deserve
• 10:48
  every
• 10:49
  single
• 10:49
  second
• 10:50
  of
• 10:50
  every
• 10:50
  single
• 10:51
  minute
• 10:51
  of
• 10:52
  every
• 10:52
  single
• 10:52
  day
• 10:52
  that
• 10:53
  you
• 10:53
  spend
• 10:54
  becoming
• 10:54
  the
• 10:55
  you
• 10:56
  that
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  were
• 10:56
  when
• 10:57
  you
• 10:57
  were
• 10:57
  born.
• 10:59
  So
• 10:59
  I
• 10:59
  hope
• 11:00
  this
• 11:00
  helped.
• 11:00
  I
• 11:00
  hope
• 11:00
  it's
• 11:01
  a
• 11:01
  strategy
• 11:01
  you
• 11:01
  can
• 11:01
  use.
• 11:02
  As
• 11:02
  always,
• 11:03
  I
• 11:03
  want
• 11:03
  to
• 11:04
  be
• 11:04
  here
• 11:04
  for
• 11:04
  support.
• 11:04
  Please
• 11:05
  reach
• 11:05
  out
• 11:05
  if
• 11:05
  you
• 11:05
  need
• 11:06
  anything
• 11:07
  and
• 11:07
  I
• 11:07
  hopefully
• 11:08
  will
• 11:08
  talk
• 11:08
  to
• 11:08
  you
• 11:08
  soon.
• 11:09
  If
• 11:09
  not,
• 11:10
  tune
• 11:10
  in
• 11:10
  again.
• 11:11
  Love
• 11:11
  you
• 11:11
  guys.