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The Envy Blueprint: Converting Resentment into Growth · insyed; cozy psychology

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  Scrolling through Instagram, I sometimes see
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  posts that make me feel small and question my
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  own self -worth. I tell myself that they had
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  help so they don't really deserve it. I wanted
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  to understand what I was feeling and I didn't
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  realize I was suffocating myself. What I thought
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  was jealousy turned out to be envy. Jealousy
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  is seeing your friends have fun without you.
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  That pain in your chest feeling of losing something
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  you once had. Envy, on the other hand, it wraps
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  your heart in inferiority, longing, and resentment,
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  like wanting to hide your hands from being held
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  because you're too afraid that they're too fat
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  or too skinny. And if what I was feeling was
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  envy, what do I do with it? Like a two -way road,
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  envy can lead us down different paths depending
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  on where we go. We could choose malicious envy,
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  the poisonous desire to bring others down to
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  our level. It's characterized as hostile, resentful,
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  and with a sense of injustice. Or we could write
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  down the road of growth, benign envy. It still
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  stings, but it's the sting of an alarm clock.
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  It wakes you up to what you can do. It makes
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  you want to work harder, to be that person you're
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  looking at. You start seeing them not as rivals,
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  but as blueprints. And isn't it strange how even
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  in this unpleasant feeling, we find a way to
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  grow? And envy isn't wrong, it's in our nature.
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  Is it wrong for an animal to compete with its
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  own kind to survive? It's what we choose to do
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  with that feeling that decides who we are. So
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  I'll leave you at that. You may want what they
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  have, but you have what it takes. I kindly ask,
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  will you dig away their mountain, or will you
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  step forward to climb one that's even taller?
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  Always remember to take care of yourself. Goodbye.