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When You're Not Enough, You're Enough | Real Talk on Anxiety and Authenticity | Episode 449 · Voices for Voices®

• 0:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Hi everyone, it's Justin here, Voices for Voices.
• 0:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you so much for joining us on this episode of well over 440 episodes.
• 0:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I believe this is episode number 449.
• 0:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So thank you for joining us.
• 0:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If you're watching, listening, here in the United States or somewhere uh abroad, thank you so much for making the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast a reality day after day, hour after hour, minute after minute, second after second.
• 0:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh we couldn't do this without you.
• 0:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Help us reach 3,000 cities, help us reach 300 countries, help us reach and help at least 3 billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 0:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're well on our way, and again, that's only because of you.
• 1:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If you could do us a huge favor, reach out to 25, 50, 100 of your contacts and your phone, let them know about the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 1:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, we would greatly appreciate that.
• 1:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, you can find us everywhere if uh this is your first episode.
• 1:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Wherever you're finding us at, you can find us here each and every episode.
• 1:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And there are over 13 additional um platforms that you can watch and and listen.
• 1:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So again, all this is because of you.
• 1:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We thank you for being with us, for making voices for voices, uh, the longevity that uh we we have we've just been so yearning for uh and it's because of you.
• 1:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So thank you, thank you, thank you.
• 2:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh the Olympics, uh, we've like closed that that page on uh the uh the the summer 2020.
• 2:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We've closed the page, I'll try that again.
• 2:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We've closed the page on the winter 2026 Olympics.
• 2:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And what an Olympics it was.
• 2:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh lots of um lots of new faces.
• 2:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um it was just uh for the little bit that I got to see mostly through highlights.
• 2:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh it was it was fun to watch.
• 2:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um and you know, we're praying for everybody who uh unfortunately may have um been injured uh during the Olympics.
• 2:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh we are are hoping and praying for uh speedy and healthy uh recovery.
• 3:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So thank you.
• 3:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh we are growing.
• 3:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I I say this with all due sincerity.
• 3:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh, we are growing by leaps and bounds.
• 3:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We've talked about it on other shows.
• 3:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We truly are each and every show.
• 3:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um again, that comes back to you.
• 3:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're the one reaching out and telling your friends and colleagues and loved ones that you're sharing on social media, following voices for voices.
• 3:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, if you can give us the like, follow, subscribe, share, uh, that would be extra helpful as well.
• 3:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um, and it's uh it's a pleasure to be able to come to you and talk about mental health, talk about life, talk about overcoming trauma, and just being a human being.
• 4:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um it's very it's very hard in in this uh in this world as as we know to go day to day not sure what what's gonna be coming next.
• 4:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh we sometimes are pleasantly surprised, and sometimes we're unpleasantly surprised with uh what uh what what what comes that that next uh that next day.
• 4:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh but just getting to the next day, I think is a big thing.
• 4:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's one of those little big things.
• 4:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You may think like, oh Justin, oh of course I'm gonna live till tomorrow.
• 4:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, we don't know that.
• 5:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Nobody knows that.
• 5:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, whether you're a believer in God or not, uh we don't know.
• 5:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We don't know how how much time we have on on earth left, and that's really how we and I'll just reiterate that at Voices for Voices, we operate with a sense of um just a a sense of intensity, uh a sense of we don't know this is gonna be our last show.
• 5:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It could be, I don't want it to be.
• 5:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um but we have to be we have to be up front about life and you know being a human being.
• 5:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh we're always gonna be for good.
• 6:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's uh some some individuals who are not, and so we're we're gonna be uh representing and talking about the the good people in in this world that are doing fantastic things.
• 6:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh you and I are doing fantastic things.
• 6:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But for that person who feels down and out, that person that hasn't had a quote unquote good day in a long time, who hasn't had a friend to talk to, or hasn't had a therapist or somebody that can help them through some of uh you know life's curveballs that come every single day and multiple times.
• 7:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh yeah, I used to get upset at the at the small things, but I don't as much anymore because I don't want to spend a good bit of my time for what's left here to be worrying about the small things, you know, like blink 182, all the small things.
• 7:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I uh I wish it would have been earlier in in in life that uh put more things into focus, more positive things into focus, uh, but I can't change any of that now.
• 7:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And neither can you.
• 7:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So it doesn't make a whole lot of sense for us to get caught up in the in the past.
• 8:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But it doesn't make it easy either.
• 8:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Uh it's not easy to it's not easy to not get caught up in the past of whether it's a song, whether it's uh certain type of weather, uh whether our car breaks down and needs fixed, and we don't have the money to do that, whatever it may be, just know you're not alone.
• 8:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that was the biggest one of the biggest things that I I took out of 20 or uh yeah, 2017 is I can't fix everything.
• 8:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Try to be a fixer, but I can't.
• 8:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I can't fix everything in life in the world.
• 9:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We can sure try, and that's what we're we're doing here with voices for voices.
• 9:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But just know that you're not alone.
• 9:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Just know that it may seem like Justin Nobody's gone through what I'm going through right now.
• 9:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Nobody's experienced that or this.
• 9:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And believe me, somebody has, and in a majority of cases, there's a lot of somebodies that are watching and listening, and maybe that's why our viewership has been picking up.
• 9:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't know.
• 9:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I really don't care why it's picking up.
• 9:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I just want to help people.
• 10:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I want to help one person, one person.
• 10:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Helping one person, they seem like, oh, well, you're only helping one person.
• 10:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's one less person that has to go through a tough time, a tough uh situation, a tough event.
• 10:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that one less person, it's not just that one person, it's their family, it's their loved ones, it's the individuals they may work with or come in contact with.
• 10:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so it's not just we're helping one person.
• 10:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Helping one person may easily be helping 50 to 100 people.
• 11:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So maybe that makes a little more sense why we're we're asking for help reaching out.
• 11:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, if you can reach out, the 25 of your contacts and sharing voices for voices, TV show, and podcast with them.
• 11:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We've already grown exponentially.
• 11:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This just takes a again.
• 11:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I think that's what we're seeing.
• 11:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is there's so many people that are tuning in that see what this is all about.
• 11:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like, why should I tune?
• 11:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Why should I tune in?
• 11:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: My friend, my family member, my significant other said I should check this out.
• 11:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because you're not going to find another authentic, down-to-earth hard topics and easy topics being discussed than our show.
• 12:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're number three behind the Dan Bon Gino show and the Joe Rogan experience, and we're we're so happy, but our work's not done here.
• 12:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Our work isn't done.
• 12:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We talk about numbers all the time, but that's not really what it's about.
• 12:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's about the human connection.
• 12:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's about what do I do when my head, when my brain tells me I'm not good enough?
• 12:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What do I do when my head, my brain tells me I'm not pretty enough?
• 12:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What do I do when my head and my brain say you're not good enough?
• 12:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're not you're not meant for great things.
• 12:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Ladies and gentlemen, yes you are.
• 12:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're good enough.
• 13:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're not alone.
• 13:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You are not alone.
• 13:09
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: How do I know this?
• 13:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I know this because I was in that situation, and I still am from time to time.
• 13:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: With those uh, you know, those thoughts ruminating over and over and over again.
• 13:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's really something we have to believe in ourselves.
• 13:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Nobody's nobody anywhere, anytime is gonna believe us if we don't believe ourselves.
• 13:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if we don't believe ourselves, maybe we should look at look at something else.
• 13:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe look at a different topic.
• 13:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Something else that brings us joy that brings us happiness.
• 14:03
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't know about you, but helping people, even the smallest, even the smallest thing to help somebody with.
• 14:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I get these chills, I get the this feeling like, oh my gosh, I got to do something good today.
• 14:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I try every day, I don't succeed every day.
• 14:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: All we can do is try.
• 14:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, there's um you know, children uh that are learning to ride a bicycle, maybe.
• 14:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And they might say, 'cause they may maybe they fall, maybe you know, they get just a short way.
• 15:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't want to do this anymore.
• 15:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's too hard.
• 15:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I can't do it.
• 15:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I can't do it, I can't do it.
• 15:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I'm saying this from a place of I've been there before.
• 15:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, obviously, the rider riding the bike years ago.
• 15:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Um, but a lot of these things I've been through again.
• 15:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So I repeated myself over and over again, right?
• 15:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So the more we believe it, the more it becomes like, I believe it.
• 15:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I believe I can do it.
• 15:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yes, there's gonna be obstacles, yes, there's gonna be zigzags, yes, there's gonna be forks in the road, and I'm gonna have to think where which direction do I go?
• 16:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Which door do I open?
• 16:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What time do I show up?
• 16:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What do I say?
• 16:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: What if I say something wrong?
• 16:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Or I I stutter.
• 16:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've done that from time to time.
• 16:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We just try our best, that's all we can do.
• 16:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And bring bring attention that there's people in this world, you and me, and a lot of others that can use a little bit of a pep talk right right now.
• 16:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, just sitting here speaking to you, whether you're watching or listening, whether your English is your first language or it's not man helping people.
• 17:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Nothing feels better than that.
• 17:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because every time I help somebody, and that I'm able to recognize that I'm helping somebody, because sometimes we don't realize that we're helping people, because we just think, well, we're just going, we're we're going on with our day, and we don't know if certain things are gonna happen, and we're we're actually gonna help somebody, you know, a lot a lot of times a lot of times we don't know that we're helping somebody.
• 17:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: How do we quantify that?
• 18:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: As I mentioned, helping one person is not just helping that one person because there's loved ones, there's friends or family, there's teachers or pastors, uh, there are pets, the love every everybody that are better off because we're here.
• 18:35
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I know times are tough.
• 18:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Times are hard.
• 18:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Times are very hard.
• 18:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But we have that option, we have that choice.
• 18:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we pick ourselves up?
• 18:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we continue on?
• 19:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we get out of bed today?
• 19:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we brush our teeth if we're able to?
• 19:13
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we wash our face?
• 19:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Do we get a shower, a bath if we're able to?
• 19:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: See, these are things that we sometimes overlook.
• 19:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like, oh whoa, I brush my teeth.
• 19:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well, of course, that's an easy thing to do.
• 19:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm not here saying for a lot of people that it isn't somewhat easy.
• 19:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm lucky.
• 19:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I have ten fingers, I have ten toes, I have two arms, two shoulders, I have two eyes, a nose, a mouth, two ears.
• 20:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Right there, I I just I just need to be grateful because I know I know I got a little visitor here.
• 20:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I know how hard it is to do things.
• 20:46
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that's from experience.
• 20:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's not me just saying, you know, these tips.
• 21:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, a lot of there's a lot of tips out there.
• 21:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Well if you just do this, well maybe you can't, maybe I can't.
• 21:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But maybe we can.
• 21:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe we can't do it every day.
• 21:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But maybe we can do it today.
• 21:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Or tomorrow.
• 21:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We won't have to write everything out.
• 21:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Journaling is fantastic.
• 21:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But I get caught up in I'll do it for a while.
• 21:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then I'll just fall off the uh fall off the horse and I'll just I I I just won't I just won't do it for a day.
• 21:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then that one day turns into two days and three days.
• 22:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so we we just have to take what life gives us and use what we're given, whether you're a believer in God or not, or a higher power.
• 22:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Man, our our minds, our the mental part, that's so hard.
• 22:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's so hard.
• 22:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So hard even for me and for us to do these shows.
• 22:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Cause guess what?
• 22:55
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's easy not to do them.
• 22:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's easy to uh not to do them.
• 23:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then I start to think there's somebody that could could be helped.
• 23:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that makes me happy that I have that opportunity, that our organization, Voices for Voices, has that has that opportunity to help others.
• 23:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so then a dog is shaking around, shaking it off.
• 23:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so it's that helping others that's what we're here for.
• 24:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Again, we we get all kinds of comments, we get positive comments, we get comments that are not very kind.
• 24:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: However, we're here to help.
• 24:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And if somebody's not happy with where they're at and what they're doing, I don't claim to say we're gonna help every single person across the world.
• 24:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We got big goals.
• 24:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, I want to help.
• 24:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We want to help over three billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 24:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Will we hit that goal?
• 24:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't know.
• 24:54
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But you've helped us get get that uh, you know, get those jet engines fired up.
• 25:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And looking at the analytics that I can see, because there's so much that's hidden analytic-wise that we can't see, it's just amazing.
• 25:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You're amazing, you're amazing, you're helping this grassroots movement titled Voices for Voices, whether you watch, whether you listen, whether you buy a book or two or a hundred, um, when our TV shows and movies and other media sprouts.
• 26:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's how you can watch.
• 26:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's how you can be a part of Voices for Voices.
• 26:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's how you can know that you're helping people too, because you're you're using us as the vehicle of the helping.
• 26:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Just like the show is helping us, myself, help people.
• 26:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: There's ups and there's downs, there's ups and there's downs, there's ups and there's downs.
• 26:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It is our honor to be able to come speak to you, whether you're watching and listening, first episode or uh all four hundred and forty-nine episodes.
• 27:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I see you, we see you, we see you watching, we see you listen.
• 27:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you very, very, very much.
• 27:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you very, very, very much.
• 27:24
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I've had dreams, and I think you do too.
• 27:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, you want to be on camera too, don't you?
• 27:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Let's see.
• 27:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yep.
• 27:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay, we all have dreams.
• 27:45
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay.
• 27:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We all have had dreams, and we all do have dreams.
• 27:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: No, no, no, no, no, no.
• 27:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: This is definitely gonna end up as one of the clips.
• 28:04
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I know it.
• 28:05
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If not one, there's gonna be a couple.
• 28:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that that might be part of the reason why it makes me feel good when I help somebody.
• 28:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And there's so many people that I don't get to, that I don't get to help.
• 28:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It's that thing called being on.
• 28:42
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Being on that means being at our selves in our maximum capacity.
• 28:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So whether we're on a show or we're met at an event, that's called being on.
• 29:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Like I gotta be at the top of my top of the top of my game.
• 29:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I I have to be that leader, that founder of Voices for Voices every day, every minute, every second, every month, every year.
• 29:36
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so that gets exhausting.
• 29:44
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Especially with some like since I have mental illness, my brain gets tired, I guess.
• 29:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Tired easily.
• 30:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So it needs extra time to rejuvenate.
• 30:07
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so there's some times where I I'm not on, I'm not at my peak.
• 30:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I I don't know anybody that is and can be.
• 30:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, maybe if you have assistants and secretaries and people to handle a lot of a lot of um a lot of different things for you.
• 30:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe that causes the brain load to go down for you, but I don't.
• 30:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so there's times where, like my psychiatrist says, I'm an introvert.
• 31:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I know you you're watching and listening, and going, wait a minute, that an introvert can't be speaking and being in front of a camera so much so often.
• 31:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I didn't think I could either.
• 31:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But I can in spurts, and so some days we'll film two or three episodes, and then it might be a week until we film one episode because there's a lot of things on the back end, you know, titles, descriptions, hashtags, all those things.
• 31:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so for the shows, I I try to be as on.
• 32:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That just means like, okay, three, two, one, you're on.
• 32:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I mean, I guess I I I may have signed up for this.
• 32:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And that that that that's okay.
• 32:31
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But I'm just letting you know that it's okay.
• 32:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: If you're not feeling on.
• 32:43
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Yeah, this is the newest member of our family, Lucy.
• 32:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Say hi everybody.
• 32:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: My name's Lucy.
• 32:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so be on when you can.
• 33:10
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Maybe it's once a month, once a year, I don't know.
• 33:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But what I do know is don't feel ashamed.
• 33:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Don't feel ashamed.
• 33:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm gonna end this episode with a story I've mentioned.
• 33:32
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So when I when I got out of the hospital in 2017, November 2017, so Christmas was you know coming up.
• 33:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And one of the big things I had was, and I still have, is being in like big groups, and so I can talk in front of big groups because I have an idea of what I want to say sometimes, but again, oftentimes that changes, and so we have to adapt.
• 34:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I found myself by myself at church extra early because I wanted to, I wanted an aisle seat and I wanted to be up front.
• 34:48
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I did that.
• 34:53
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: As the pews or rows started to fill up, the closer the time got to the uh starting of mass, there was a family that came and they sat in my row.
• 35:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I wanted to be on the end because in case I had a panic attack, I could get out fast, I would just I would be on the end, and so I would just stand up and then head out.
• 35:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so his family next to me, where there was a young boy, there was his mom.
• 35:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Oh, no, I'm okay.
• 35:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Lucy, Lucy, let's let's let's let's just hang out, okay?
• 35:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so his his young young gentleman, young gentleman, and his mom and his dad, they were sitting next to me.
• 36:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And the young gentleman, he he asked to get up uh a few times.
• 36:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't I don't know if it was two or three times.
• 36:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But like I said, I was there quite early, and so I just figured, you know, he wanted to stretch his legs and and all that.
• 36:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So regardless, it didn't bother me.
• 36:41
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So he came back and then he went out again, and then his mom.
• 36:52
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay, so this is the very first large gathering that I was at after the hospital I was in, getting my mental health starting to to be addressed.
• 37:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Okay, so that was part of part of me having the panic attacks too.
• 37:21
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And then the depression and you know all the things.
• 37:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So one of the last ones, well, or one of the last times the young man got up, his mom mentioned that he gets nerve that her son gets nervous in groups.
• 37:47
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And and so I said, I said, I do too.
• 37:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I said, I have anxiety, major depression, and you know, I started to share as much as he can, and you know, a couple minute conversation.
• 38:06
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so when he came back, I don't know if I introduced myself, like, hi, I'm Justin.
• 38:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I so somehow we're just I I just uh I said, hey man, I got I have anxiety too.
• 38:29
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You know, I I was in the hospital, got I'm on a path, and I said something to the effect of doesn't matter how many times you want to get out and you want to stretch your legs or maybe go get a drink of water or whatever, like don't worry about it.
• 38:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I said, because I I said, because I am too going through the same thing that that that you are, like the same same, you know, nervousness, anxiousness, impatience.
• 39:16
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And he said, Man, there's he goes, Man, there's police out there.
• 39:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I wonder what's going on.
• 39:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Is everything okay?
• 39:30
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I said, Yeah, they're they're just out there probably directing the traffic because this is one of the biggest.
• 39:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: The most people attend this this particular, you know, the Christmas Eve vigil mass.
• 39:50
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I said, yeah, like but nothing, there's nothing extra that's going on.
• 40:00
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's just what they're doing.
• 40:02
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: They're just you know keeping people safe and directing traffic and so I told them then again, I said, hey, if you gotta get out 20 more times, or whatever number I gave, I said, you don't have to be ashamed.
• 40:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I said, you and I were in the same boat.
• 40:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I said, I might get up and do and do the same thing, and so he got up again, and his mom said, Thanks for you know, talking to her son.
• 40:49
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I said, Hey, like, we're all human, and I'm not just making this stuff up.
• 40:56
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I said, this is real life for me too.
• 41:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't keep in trap, I don't keep in touch with them.
• 41:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I don't, I don't even know if I know their last name.
• 41:11
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: But what I'm trying to get at is we can help people.
• 41:18
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And I feel like God put me there that day in that row where I was at.
• 41:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I could have been in there are hundreds of other places I could have been in church that day, and I and I never would have met that young man and his mom.
• 41:40
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so when I say helping one person can help more, and it does.
• 41:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so I was able to see it helped that young man, helped his mom, helped his dad.
• 41:58
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Because even if they didn't show that they were nervous and they're anxious, sitting next to somebody that just so openly, like me, they so openly talk about what I was going through, too.
• 42:17
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: That's what I'm talking about.
• 42:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're not alone.
• 42:22
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: You have a life to live.
• 42:26
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We all do.
• 42:28
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're gonna have good days, we're gonna have bad days, we're gonna have days that are so so, they're average, they're they're they're just what they are.
• 42:39
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And so for you to help us reach one person, one additional person, or 20 additional people, or a hundred, or follow us on any of our social medias, that's how we get to help over three billion people over the course of my lifetime and beyond.
• 43:08
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And we are a 501c3 nonprofit charity.
• 43:14
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: So if you're willing and able and so moved, you can go over to lovevoices.org, lovevoices.org, lovevoices.org, and we accept donations of any denomination.
• 43:33
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We have big goals, big aspirations.
• 43:38
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you for being with us on this episode and all the episodes of the Voices for Voices TV show and podcast.
• 43:51
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: I'm your host, founder of Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes.
• 43:57
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Let's celebrate the voice.
• 43:59
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Of everybody.
• 44:01
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And let's be a voice for ourselves and those in need.
• 44:12
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We'll see you next time.
• 44:15
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Thank you so much for being with us.
• 44:19
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: It means so much.
• 44:20
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We're sending good vibes your way.
• 44:23
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We love you.
• 44:25
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We think about you.
• 44:27
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: And thank you for being a part of the Voices for Voices movement.
• 44:34
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: We'll talk to you next time.
• 44:37
  Voices for Voices, Justin Alan Hayes: Send in love, good vibes your way.