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What Actually Changes Thinking (S5) S17:E4 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello there, everyone.
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It is John C.
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Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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All right, everyone, so this is Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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Why small actions change everything.
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This is season five, and right now we
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are on our our show series five, which
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means basically we are in our we're in
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our fifth year.
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We have not completed our fifth year, but
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we are in our fifth year.
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And so that means we've been on the
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air over basically four years in a row.
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This is, ladies and gentlemen, this is show
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17.
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Yeah, this is show 17.
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And again, just a lot to share with
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you guys.
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And so how people actually take control of
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their direction.
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That's the master for the week.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, passionate
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lifelong learner, and now proud to be a
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published author.
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You know, I think a lot of people,
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when we think about these things, people get
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stuck in what's going on for them.
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And by being stuck, I mean like they
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just don't know what to do.
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They get confused.
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And that can be a that could be
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a very that could be a very big
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problem for for so many different people.
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You know, they want to do something.
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But then by the time they start to
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do something, it's like, I don't know, they
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get like sidetracked.
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And then every time they try to do
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something, it's like they can't because they're actually
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stuck somewhere.
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And again, I think those are I think
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those are important things to to acknowledge.
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It's not a time to say, hey, you
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know, we need to stop.
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You know, I think it's just important to
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realize that awareness becomes really key, guys.
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It becomes really key.
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So our granular topic is what actually changes
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thinking?
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What actually changes thinking?
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And that's important, guys.
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It's a very, very important topic.
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And I say this to you because.
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These are things that we live by every
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day, whether it's consciously or whether it's unconsciously,
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but these things shape who we are in
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life.
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And I think that's a I think that's
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a point that most people just they don't
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realize, they don't understand how much their subconscious
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changes things.
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So let's think about this for just a
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moment.
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Let's think about where you are in life.
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Let's think about maybe where you want to
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go.
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And you might say to me, John, you
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know, I want to go here, I want
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to go there, but I'm being blocked.
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And it's not the blocking of, let's say.
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You, it's the blocking, maybe of your environment,
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and I think that's a very I think
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that's a very important thing to to to
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realize.
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It's not something to get scared of.
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It's something to basically acknowledge, OK?
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It's something to acknowledge.
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And again, that's something that I believe is
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important for every one of us, every one
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of us.
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Yeah, every single one of us has this
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ability, has this concept.
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And I think sometimes, you know, we get
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stuck in the process, the process of wanting
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to do better.
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But then every time we try, we don't
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have enough resources to finish what we can.
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So I want to tell you to not
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get discouraged by that, because that discourages so
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many people.
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It's about how we react and how we
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choose to apply these things.
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I think that's probably one of the most
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important things that I can share with you
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here on the Inspiration for Your Life show
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is that and right now we've got the
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bell.
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So the bell rings basically every hour.
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Again, we're on a live campus.
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We have noise.
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We have students.
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We have all kinds of stuff happening.
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We have bells.
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We could have people interrupting us.
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There's so many different things to think about.
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And so becoming aware of just where you
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are, where your mind's at, I think is
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something that so many people, for whatever reason,
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they just don't understand.
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And that's a that's a really you know,
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that's a really, really big problem for for
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so many people.
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And again, I tell you this not to
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scare you.
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I tell you this so that you can
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build that kind of momentum so that you
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can go after what you want.
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You know, I know there's a lot of
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people out there that are going to cause
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you to get frustrated.
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I know this.
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Believe me, guys, I absolutely, absolutely know this.
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And maybe you're saying, John, you know, things
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are not going the way I want.
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They're not happening all tonight.
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OK, and maybe that's something that you're working
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on, you know, right this very moment, maybe
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or maybe you're stuck because you've tried so
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many times and you can't seem to get
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the needle to move.
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And I've used this expression before a lot
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of times many years ago, we would measure
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things with a needle.
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And when I say the needle, the needle
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of like a meter or something, it wasn't
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digital back then.
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And I think that's a I think that's
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an important thing for most people to understand
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is that it was not digital back then.
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And because it wasn't digital back then, we'd
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be able to see if the needle was
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moving or if the needle wasn't moving.
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So I think that's a I think that's
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a very I think that's an important concept,
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OK, you know, to understand.
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And I know a lot of you're saying,
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John, you know, I can't tell if the
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needle's moving.
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Well.
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I think some of it is your gut,
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right, some of it is your gut, but
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then there's other parts of it that just
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sort of get in the way.
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And I don't say they get in way
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on purpose.
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They get in the way because of, oh,
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they get in the way because of you.
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Yeah, that's that's the truth.
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They get in the way because of you
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and because of, ladies, gentlemen, because of your
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environment and your environment, you know, will predicate
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to what you become.
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If you're not becoming what you want to
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be, guys, it's time to change that environment.
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It's it's not about, you know, it's not
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about doing something for just one thing.
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It's about doing something for a true purpose,
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a true purpose in life, a purpose that
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will set you further than you ever believed
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was possible.
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Now, this all happens, guys, from something we
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call your core values.
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Your core values.
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So your core values are how your mind
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and how your body is basically wired.
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And if you don't understand what those core
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values are, well, then you're going to be
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like, I'm going to say you're going to
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be up a creek because that dictates that
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predicates things like what actually changes.
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OK, and so people actually take control of
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their life, but then they wonder why it's
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not going the right way.
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Maybe they're not being open to things.
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So today I'm going deeper than just motivation.
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I'm talking about thinking because the most people
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believe in what they do in their life
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can actually change how they decide, how they
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react and how they show up and how
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they achieve their goals or not.
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It doesn't change instantly, guys.
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I got to tell you that right off
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the bat.
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But it takes effort.
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OK, it it changes through exposure, through repetition,
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through experience.
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And through what you allow into your mind
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every single day, thinking follows exposure.
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What you see consistently becomes what you believe.
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Ideas don't stick, guys, because you hear them
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once.
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They stick because you encounter them repeatedly.
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You make them part of your life.
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That repetition is what begins to reshape your
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beliefs.
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And by your beliefs, I'm talking about your
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true inner core values, because new input reshapes
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thinking slowly, not dramatically.
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Quietly, you begin to see things differently.
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And that shift in perspective changes everything.
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Perspective doesn't come from force.
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It comes from a contrast, from seeing something
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different than what you're used to.
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And when that happens, you begin to question
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what you once accepted because experience always overrides
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theory.
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You don't believe what sounds right.
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You believe what you see and live repeatedly.
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You believe what you see often, not what
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you hear occasionally.
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Repetition rewires thinking.
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Patterns become mental defaults.
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Understanding builds over time, not in one moment.
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And awareness creates change.
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That could be people around us.
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That could be people talking, people walking.
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And change happens because of the environment we're
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in and because of the thoughts we're currently
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holding.
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Remember, I told you we're on a live
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campus, so we could get people walking around.
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That's part of the jig here.
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Because the moment you notice something, you create
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the opportunity to think differently.
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Thinking adapts constantly, but only based on what
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it's exposed to.
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Beliefs don't change instantly.
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They update slowly through consistent input.
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New data shifts perspectives and context changes meaning.
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The same idea, guys, can feel completely different
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depending on how it's presented.
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Information creates options and the options create the
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decisions.
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And decisions shape our thinking and, of course,
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our belief in that to our core values.
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So thinking evolves with input.
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If nothing new enters your mind, nothing new
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develops in your thinking world.
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Static input creates stagnation.
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Dynamic input creates growth.
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Variety expands perspective.
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Narrow inputs limit it.
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Insights build gradually, not overnight, not like the
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snap of a finger.
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You don't suddenly understand everything just because you
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saw it once you heard something.
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You begin to see patterns and then you
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recognize those patterns and then you apply them
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to your life.
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And guess what, guys?
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They actually reveal the truth.
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Exposure reduces bias because the more you see,
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the more clearly you understand.
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And signals become beliefs, guys.
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Beliefs drive behavior and behavior reinforces thinking.
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This is where the cycle becomes powerful.
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What you think affects what you do.
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What you do reinforces what you think.
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And over time, that loop becomes, well, your
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identity.
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And thinking doesn't just influence, guys, your life.
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It builds it.
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But thinking only changes when inputs change.
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That's the key.
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Input controls our mindset.
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And inputs could be people, could be actions,
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could be things, could be the environment we're
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in.
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What you allow in determines what will develop
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or not in your life.
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And that means change doesn't start with effort.
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It starts with exposure.
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If you want to think differently, you need
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to see differently, hear differently, experience differently.
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And thus, you'll show up differently in the
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world.
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Because your mind is not fixed, it's shaped
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every day by everything that you choose to
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expose it to.
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Whether that's consciously or subconsciously, most people, guys,
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try to force new things.
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But they keep the same environment, the same
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conversations, the same content, the same patterns.
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And then they wonder why nothing changes.
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Einstein said, the definition of insanity is doing
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the same thing over and over again and
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expecting different results.
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But nothing changes because nothing new is being
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introduced.
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Change starts with exposure, not intensity, not pressure,
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exposure.
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You don't need to push harder.
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You need to see more, learn more, experience
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more.
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Because once your thinking begins to shift, everything
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begins to flow.
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Your decisions change, your actions change, your direction
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changes.
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And here's the truth, guys, if you want
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to know, most people don't understand that thinking
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is about the moment.
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But it does change permanently when you shift
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the moment.
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Because once you see something clearly, you can't
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unsee it.
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Once you understand something deeply, you don't go
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back to thinking the same way.
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So today, don't try to force new thinking.
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Just change what you're exposing yourself to.
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Ask yourself, what am I seeing every day?
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What am I repeating mentally?
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What input is shaping my mindset?
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Because those answers are shaping your future.
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If you want, ladies and gentlemen, different results,
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you need different input.
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You need different stimulus.
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You need different environments, different people, different conditions.
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If you want a different direction, you need
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different exposure.
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Because thinking doesn't change by accident or by
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the flip of a coin.
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It changes by design.
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And a lot of people that are not
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getting what they want don't realize that our
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life is by design.
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And once you understand that you stop trying
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to control everything around you, and you start
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controlling what shapes you, that's when you start
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to enjoy life.
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And I think a lot of people today,
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when we think about insights, and I'm just,
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you know, sitting here in this little park
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here at school.
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I think a lot of people walking by
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today, if I just kind of look at
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them, you know, as I'm sitting here on
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this little round concrete bench.
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People walk, but I will tell you something.
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You can tell when somebody's walking intentionally.
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You can tell when somebody is really enjoying
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where they are.
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And I can tell you, I, out of
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just glancing here at a few people around
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campus, I don't really see anybody on campus
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that's really enjoying the moment.
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I see people in a hustle to get
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to class.
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I see people playing around with their iPhones
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or their Androids.
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I see some people just basically rushing to
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get somewhere.
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Looking around again, you know, some people are
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walking slowly.
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Some people are walking very quickly.
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Some people are walking and noticing nature.
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So that's close to enjoying the moment, right?
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But I can tell they're not enjoying the
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moment because they're going so quickly.
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You know, and it's the haphazardness of, you
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know, just moving around.
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And it's just, it's really an eye opener
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to just sit here and watch people as
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they walk by.
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Because again, you can see different expressions, different
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emotions.
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You can see where people's heads are.
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You can see how they carry their book
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bag or their laptop.
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You can tell if someone's walking with intention.
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You can tell if somebody in this environment
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is showing up for the reasons that will
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make them successful.
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But again, just kind of watching, I see
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a lot of people just thumbing through their
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cell phones, thinking that that's all they need
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to do.
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But just looking around here, the trees, I
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don't think I can give you one person
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that's been intentional.
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OK, I can give you one.
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There was a camera crew here before doing
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some work for their final, about maybe 20
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minutes before I started the show.
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And I saw them moving their reflectors outside,
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you know, for the shooting of getting the
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sun's light to help their videography.
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And in addition to that, I could tell
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there was a cohesive group.
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Now, they were all working on this for
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a grade, but I could tell that group
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was showing up intentionally.
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Maybe because they had to, but I could
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tell that they wanted to show up.
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All right, they wanted to show up.
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You know, I also see looking around campus,
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I see, you know, some people looking at
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the foliage around.
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I see another person here basically rolling a
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cart which has some gear on it.
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Looks like he's probably a film student because
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I can see all the all the gear
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that's on the cart.
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And, you know, just looking here and just
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noticing for just a few moments how.
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Everyone is just showing up.
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But they're not doing intentionally.
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They're just kind of walking, they're just kind
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of being part of life.
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And so whether we're talking about life, we're
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talking about a game, you got to show
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up and play with your entire heart.
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Right.
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If you ever known a baseball player or
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a basketball player, a football player to just
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show up and go through the motions and
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not get into the game and not be
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psyched about winning.
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Here's somebody that just was rolling by literally
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on the field.
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On a skateboard.
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And.
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I have to say, out of all the
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people I've seen today and there's been, let's
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say right now, campus is slow, maybe there's
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probably I've maybe observed maybe 60 or 70
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people, the person on the skateboard.
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Is putting intention into what they're doing, they're
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being mindful of.
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How they're steering, you know, their.
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Their their their their mini.
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Sports board.
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But so many people just walking around.
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Kind of having this very lackadaisical and very
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apathetic thing, another group is coming here, walking
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with some coffees.
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And so sitting down and taking the time
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to enjoy that coffee or that latte or
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whatever is enjoying the moment.
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But I can tell you have looking at
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all the people here, there's maybe 30, 40
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people at time.
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I can't pick out too many intentional people.
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The person with the the camera gear was
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intentional, the kid with the skateboard was intentional.
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So that means, guys, it's a very low
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percentage of people in this world that actually
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are intentional with their life.
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You know what that means?
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That means they're not going to get what
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they want.
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They're going to be disappointed their whole life
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because they're not intentional.
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You might say, John, what do we do
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intentionally on campus?
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Everything you do should be intentional.
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The way you think, the way you walk,
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the way you talk.
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Intentionality is not something you just do for
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the moment, it's something you do for life.
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It's kind of like a daily mental diet.
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Ask yourself this question, when's the last time
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you've been intentional?
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And I'm trying to notice around campus here
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if anybody else is intentional.
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And I noticed that we're getting to the
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end of one of the class time, so
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it's a little quiet right now.
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Again, you'll see some people look up, make
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sure they're not going to bump into something,
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but not really intentional.
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I saw a group of people just a
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few minutes ago, we have an amphitheater walking
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up to the top and exploring it, probably
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enjoying the outdoors.
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So that's maybe four people I've seen in
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just under 25 minutes that have been intentional.
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Intentional means that you are lining up your
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actions and your thoughts with your core values.
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We've got another skater board back here, another
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skateboard guy.
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So now we're up to five people that
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are intentional.
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And I'm watching him and he's kind of
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just controlling the skateboard and he's kind of
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like, you know, he's getting into the feel
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of kind of it.
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And he's really, you know, basically becoming part
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of that skateboard, going back and forth, you
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know, taking one foot, pushing from the back
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and getting on and really having to focus
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because you've got to do something to be
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able to drive a skateboard, even ride a
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bike.
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So do this sometime, go somewhere where it's
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outside and notice how many people are being
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intentional in their environment.
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And you're going to see, guys, it's not
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very many.
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It's not just looking around.
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Enjoying the foliage, enjoying the wind, noticing how.
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Right now, there's another intentional group I see
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getting up, which is that film crew I
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told you about working on this project for
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probably their end of semester grade.
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And they're becoming intentional because they've got to
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focus on their project, so they want to
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shoot the best video that they can.
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So are they being intentional because they want
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to be intentional?
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Well, to be intentional because they have to
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if they want to get a good grade,
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but if they were doing this for fun,
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would they be intentional?
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I'd have to say yes.
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Most film people, you know, I do a
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lot of film when I shoot.
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I'm intentional.
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Everything I do is intentional.
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Showing up, coming on camera for you, that's
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intentionality.
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Ladies and gentlemen, for more insights, I invite
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you to visit BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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You see, ladies and gentlemen, your thinking changes
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when your input changes.
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And if you're saying to me, John, I
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don't know how to change my input, it's
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a fair question.
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Show up, be in the moment, focus on
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being present.
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Things you see or see, hear, touch, taste,
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smell and experience how your world around you
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is putting you in a certain state.
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Is it calmness?
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Is it stress?
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Is it curiosity?
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What is it?
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The more that we learn how to embrace
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our environment, to read our environment, to show
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up in our environment, the more that we
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as people can live intentional lives.
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If you're serious about being intentional, I invite
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you to check out Drain to Driven, which
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you can do, by the way, guys, at
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BelieveMeAchieve.com, as well as my short form
27:35
content, my long form content, my articles, reels,
27:39
book, and so much more.
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As I leave you today, I want you
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to understand one thing, from this moment forward,
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I'd be intentional about everything you do, how
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you walk, how you talk, how you relax,
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how you learn, be intentional about how you
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show up in the world.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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more of my amazing and of course, inspiring
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creations.
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Have a great one and be well, everyone.