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Season 3 - Episode 230 - The Bee or the Fly? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today I want to talk to you about something that is near and
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  dear to my heart and it actually influences my life quite a bit,
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  much more than most people even know.
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  I do not like talking about gossip.
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  I I don't like gossiping at all. I don't like talking about other
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  people. I have a very hard time, unless
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  it's really truly constructive criticism or figuring out how we
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  can help somebody, I just don't like it.
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  I feel it it that it's it it's so detrimental to my mental
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  well-being. I just won't take it into my
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  world. For this reason, I don't like
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  watching a lot of shows on television for the obvious parts
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  of that we can all pick up on. I have very limited circles of
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  people that I choose to hang out with because most people like to
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  talk about other people and I don't like to do that.
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  So often at parties, I will be the person who is sitting with
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  the dog and that seems counter to who people believe me to be
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  because I'm so outgoing that most people think that and feel
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  like, oh, she can walk in a room and she can talk to anybody.
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  And that is true. But as soon as something happens
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  and they start talking about people in a negative way and I
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  just get like, OK, I'm out because it feels like a drain on
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  my energy. And I know if you're listening
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  to this and you relate to that, then you get it.
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  And if you are listening to this and you're wondering, well, I
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  wonder if I do that, it's really something to look at my friends.
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  Because I have found that it is so much more peaceful and it is
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  so much more productive when you pull yourself out of that realm
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  and you just focus wholly on thinking, what am I doing to
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  lift up myself? What am I doing to lift up
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  others? Now, that doesn't mean you
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  ignore the problems in your world.
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  It doesn't mean that you don't ever talk about people because
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  sometimes you have to in order to help people figure things out
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  or you, you know, have to help somebody go through something
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  and talk about it. But it's when it's a physical
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  drain and you feel it that you have to look at it and say, no,
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  this is just not for me. It's not about avoiding updates
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  with your family. You talk to your aunt.
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  You're like, oh, how's it going with this person or that person?
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  It's not about that. It's about adding negative
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  energy, and that's what I'm talking about.
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  I have found that if you want to grow and you want to put
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  yourself at a different level in the world, you have to change
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  your habits across the board. Doesn't matter if it's, you
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  know, what time you go to bed, what time you get up, what you
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  drink in the morning, what you drink at night, what you talk
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  about, what you read. You have to change all of it if
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  you want to get to where you want to go.
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  And this is probably one of the hardest things that most people
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  suffer from is that they get stuck in this world of talking
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  about other people. And I just feel like it's that
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  old adage that, you know, bees don't have to feel the need to
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  go out and explain to flies why it's better to work on flowers
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  than it is to work on piles of poop.
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  OK. And it's a funny old adage, but
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  it's true. The bees just go and they look
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  for what they have to do. And they're very busy.
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  You know, that's why that whole thing, you know, busy bees get
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  out there and go. They don't focus on anything
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  except the good stuff. They just focus on that.
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  And they don't worry. They don't stop by the piles of
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  poop. So be a bee, don't be a family,
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  and focus on the good stuff. Focus on the things that make
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  you grow. Focus on the things that add
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  sweetness into the world. The bee has so much to teach us
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  in this metaphor, you know, don't focus on the things that
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  smell bad, look bad, taste bad, and don't add value in that way.
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  OK, it's excrement. Let it go.
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  Get rid of it and recognize that there are so many cool things
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  that you open the path for when you do this, when you open your
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  world up in a different way, all of a sudden everything changes.
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  Everything changes because the energy is different.
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  You feel more elated, you feel stronger, you feel more
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  energized, and that's what you're looking for.
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  That's the kind of stuff that you're looking to build on, not
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  the kind of stuff that is petty. Talking about other people just
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  doesn't work. I mean, sure, you know,
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  sometimes you have to say a few things, but you don't have to
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  stay in that energy. It's so unresourceful.
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  It can't be more unresourceful than it is.
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  So hopefully this entices you to look at yourself, put on your
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  wings, go be AB. And I hope you have a blessed
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  day and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.