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30 Life Lessons I Learned Before 30 · Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land Always was, always
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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Ay Chicks, I'm out and this
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Speaker 1: is two Broke Chicks, the show that shares life lessons
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Speaker 1: and tips to help make.
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Speaker 2: You rich in life. And welcome back to another fabulous episode. Saal,
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Speaker 2: how are Yeah? I'm good? Been a world world week?
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Speaker 1: I know. I was literally thinking, I was like dreading
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Speaker 1: this week because it's probably the first five day week
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Speaker 1: I've had back in like four weeks, and I was like,
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Speaker 1: oh no, I've flown too close to the sun. What
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Speaker 1: am I supposed to do?
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Speaker 2: This is my life now?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, like I've been spoiled and now I'm going to
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Speaker 1: be a brat.
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Speaker 2: Anyway, this week has gone so fucking quickly, it is
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Speaker 2: absolutely flown.
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Speaker 1: I was like, what do you mean this time last
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Speaker 1: week I was getting hair extensions and a fake tan.
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Speaker 1: I know, yeah, seriously, it's for me. Now I'm pale
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Speaker 1: and in a slick bun like what You're.
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Speaker 2: Definitely not pale and you look beautiful.
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Speaker 1: That's because this is all a lie. And if I
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Speaker 1: took this high neck top off, you would never know
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Speaker 1: a thing. Very scary me naked right now, very.
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Speaker 2: Scary okay, but today we have a very exciting episode.
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Speaker 1: If I do say so myself, I've been waiting three years,
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Speaker 1: turn three years to do my thirty life lessons I
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Speaker 1: learned by thirty.
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Speaker 2: So three years ago you did yours and New Chicks
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Speaker 2: loved it. You guys love a life lessons episode. Like
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Speaker 2: if we do our end of year wrap up, They're
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Speaker 2: always one of our best performing episodes because I think
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Speaker 2: the chicks are thirsty for the wisdom. They want it all.
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Speaker 1: Me do as I say, not as I do. You know,
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Speaker 1: we always say that. So before we get into it,
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Speaker 1: do you want to share with me your obsession of
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Speaker 1: the week.
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Speaker 2: My obsession of the week is did you see that
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Speaker 2: Emma Chamberlain did a new architect architectural digest of her home?
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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh? Was it in sponsors? Is it because
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Speaker 1: she just did it?
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Speaker 2: Did that collab? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: Like a furniture collection, Yeah she did.
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Speaker 2: So she did like a house tour like a few
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Speaker 2: years ago, and it's probably one of the best ad
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Speaker 2: house tours they've ever done. I think it's up there
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Speaker 2: with like Troce of Arn's is another really really good one.
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Speaker 2: And also Kendall Jenner anytime she does it is incredible.
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Speaker 2: And this one was in collaboration with like that new
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Speaker 2: partnership that she's done. Yeah, but god, it's good. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: she has she has really really good style and taste.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And obviously, like the thing with.
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Speaker 2: These ad tours, they're not exactly the most really sick
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Speaker 2: source of inspiration, but I do still find them a
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Speaker 2: source of inspiration. Like, for example, she has different motifs
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Speaker 2: in different rooms of her house, so there's like one
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Speaker 2: section of her house and there's just little apples everywhere.
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Speaker 2: It reminds me of like you know when you go
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Speaker 2: to Disneyland and you have to find the hidden mickey.
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Speaker 2: Oh yes, it's like that.
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Speaker 1: Remember that segment on Disney Channel where it's like they
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Speaker 1: showed you a scene and you had to find the mickey. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: a scene and then you would like write it in
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Speaker 1: and I think you would win a prize.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, good times.
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Speaker 1: Okay. My obsession of the Week is kind of tied
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Speaker 1: into the episode, but it's that data shows that people
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Speaker 1: stop listening to new pop music after the age of
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Speaker 1: thirty three, which is known as taste freeze.
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Speaker 2: Yes, I've spoken about this on the podcast Oh My God,
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Speaker 2: because remember when we did the interview with Emma Edwards
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Speaker 2: and then we said something about Tate McCrae, oh yeah,
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Speaker 2: and she was like, I don't know who that is,
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Speaker 2: but yeah, I honestly, as somebody who's thirty three, I
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Speaker 2: have to concur to yeah, yeah, I don't think it
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Speaker 2: counts if you have listened to that artist before.
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Speaker 1: So it's like like and they've released new music, I
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Speaker 1: feel like that's different, whereas like if there's a new
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Speaker 1: hip pop pop person.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, hip hop happening. Yeah, I do definitely think that
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Speaker 2: or even if I do discover a new artist, because
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Speaker 2: I think I said earlier in the year, I've been
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Speaker 2: trying to like consume more content, especially by like Australian artists,
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Speaker 2: but it's always in the same genres that I've been
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Speaker 2: interested in. I'm like, I feel like that kind of
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Speaker 2: the same thing will.
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Speaker 1: Be good exactly.
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Speaker 2: All right, let's get into the app.
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Speaker 1: Okay, my first life lesson is probably one that has
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Speaker 1: strown all throughout the podcast and with the incredible content
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Speaker 1: that I have been able.
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Speaker 2: To share with you chicks.
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Speaker 1: Between shitting myself in a totty's bathroom, getting my tits
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Speaker 1: out of a skin check walking up a main road
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Speaker 1: with my grin chundies out is that it's only embarrassing
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Speaker 1: if you're embarrassed. Yea. There is like this quote from
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Speaker 1: Austin Butler on that Train Interview show, and he says
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Speaker 1: that embarrassment is an under exploded emotion.
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Speaker 2: It's character building, hey fielding, and like the ability.
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Speaker 1: To learn to laugh something off and be like, well,
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Speaker 1: fuck is like such a skill to have. I like,
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Speaker 1: only will ever be embarrassed now if I'm like, oh,
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Speaker 1: I actually think I fucked.
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Speaker 2: Up, And it's more like if I.
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Speaker 1: Feel like I've maybe hurt someone's feelings. It's only embarrassing
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Speaker 1: if you're embarrassed. Love that all.
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Speaker 2: Of the most embarrassing things that happened to you end
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Speaker 2: up being the best stories.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, all the embarrassing things that happened to me end
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Speaker 1: up being your favorite stories too.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, do you have a favorite?
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Speaker 3: Oh?
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Speaker 2: Out of all the embarrassing stories, the shitting yourself at
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Speaker 2: Toddy's one was really good because you didn't tell me
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Speaker 2: the whole truth in the moment you told me that
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Speaker 2: I was so much. You told me that you got
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Speaker 2: your period, and I remember I was like, because I
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Speaker 2: was at home and you were at todd years, so
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Speaker 2: I was about maybe twenty minutes thirty minutes away from you,
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Speaker 2: and I was like, do you want me to come
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Speaker 2: bring you an outfit? Like can you wait in the
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Speaker 2: bathroom jumping an uber? And now you're like no, it's okay,
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Speaker 2: She'll go grab one. And then on the podcast you
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Speaker 2: told me that it was, So that was really really good.
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Speaker 2: But some of my favorite moments is that Al has
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Speaker 2: like an uncanny talent for like saying something really embarrassing,
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Speaker 2: as like a waiter or somebody comes behind the one
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Speaker 2: time on camera airport and you like scootered your chair
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Speaker 2: and it made a sound and then you just said
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Speaker 2: I fired in. And then the guy also came over
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Speaker 2: and like served us out cooke zeros and was like
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Speaker 2: oh and You're like, oh no, and you like it.
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Speaker 2: You couldn't quite get it out and he walked away
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Speaker 2: and I was just like pounding the table like pissing myself.
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Speaker 2: So yeah, that was one of my.
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Speaker 1: Favorite tea he ha ha.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 1: My next life lesson is I think you'll also love
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Speaker 1: this one.
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Speaker 2: You're gonna love all of them.
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Speaker 1: Actually is vasoline is the best money you will ever
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Speaker 1: spend you know how they say, if you could get
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Speaker 1: locked on a desert island and you could only choose
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Speaker 1: one product, vasoline, fucking Vasso.
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Speaker 2: That shit works for so.
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Speaker 1: Many things, and like when I run out of a tub,
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Speaker 1: Mummy's gone to the chemist, like I am in the
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Speaker 1: care getting my vasso.
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Speaker 2: They also last so long. I was gonna say, the
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Speaker 2: next time you need a buy one, I will probably
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Speaker 2: be like forty life lessons from.
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Speaker 1: Seriously Vasso sponsored me. Well, not with all the things
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Speaker 1: I use it for. So I actually pulled in multiple
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Speaker 1: life lessons under this one for all the things that
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Speaker 1: you can use vasoline for.
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Speaker 2: Hit me get your notepad all right.
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Speaker 1: Number one, you can use it underneath your mascara to
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Speaker 1: extend your lashes, so if you do like get like
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Speaker 1: a little spool, or you can even just use your
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Speaker 1: fingertips if you want, and it can make your lashes
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Speaker 1: look longer when you put mascara on. The next one
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Speaker 1: is if you have like dry feet, or you want
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Speaker 1: to even just a little at home pedicure, putting some
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Speaker 1: Vasso on the bottom movie feet and then putting socks
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Speaker 1: on and you just say, vaciline, I sound too vrogan
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Speaker 1: p some basoline on the bottom of your feet and
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Speaker 1: then socks on and going to sleep. If you do
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Speaker 1: that for a couple of nights, softest feet in the world,
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Speaker 1: You'll never have.
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Speaker 2: To get a pedicure again. Yeah, I need to do that.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I had to do it when I gave myself
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Speaker 1: chemical birds on the bottom of my feet when I
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Speaker 1: wash a sheower with exit mold and I didn't rinse
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Speaker 1: it properly. Another Lafe lesson for you. Next one dry
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Speaker 1: patches for faked haan. Yeah, put a little bit of
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Speaker 1: basoline on your elbows, on your ankles. If you get
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Speaker 1: like little exma dry patches, you can pop them over that.
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Speaker 1: The next one, which I love is perfume. So if
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Speaker 1: you put a little like vacline helps extend your perfume.
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Speaker 1: So if you put like a little drop of vasaline
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Speaker 1: maybe under your under your chin or on your wrist,
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Speaker 1: and then you spray perfume over that spot, it extends
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Speaker 1: the life of your perfume scent.
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Speaker 2: It's for your perfume. Yeah, it's something to cling on to. Seriously.
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Speaker 1: Number seven lib bar you know, yeah, I say she's man.
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Speaker 2: She's as And then number.
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Speaker 1: Eight is a good old slugging I love just like
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Speaker 1: I really don't have that much of this, like evening
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Speaker 1: skincare routine. I don't have that much of a morning
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Speaker 1: skincare routine. That's okay, I keep it pretty simple. But
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Speaker 1: my favorite thing is just going shoblem and putting a
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Speaker 1: shit ton of vasso on my face and going to
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Speaker 1: bed being like gorgeous. You don't need to get one
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Speaker 1: of those like seventy dollars sheep masks that like stays
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Speaker 1: on your face all night because one how you can
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Speaker 1: roll around in that, Yeah, riddle me that, But.
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Speaker 2: You just need a little top of vassoline.
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Speaker 1: And you know what, I'm sure there's more that I
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Speaker 1: haven't even discovered yet, and I can't.
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Speaker 2: Wait drop them in the comments part two when I
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Speaker 2: turned forty, Yeah, I can't wait.
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Speaker 1: Don't use it for lou Black. They do in puberty
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Speaker 1: Blues though, Oh yeah do you remember that? Yeah? Yeah,
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Speaker 1: yeah yeah, and they're like, no, don't do that, not
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Speaker 1: good for your hu haa.
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Speaker 2: I love the little mini ones, you know, yes.
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Speaker 1: Nail and you get Yeah, I'm sure you could probably
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Speaker 1: use it on your brows too, like brow ju up,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna put it in my hair and see what happens.
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Speaker 2: I bet you'd be able to do it like a
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Speaker 2: hair mask slipbun. Seriously, you could use it to do
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Speaker 2: a slip butt. Yeah, definitely. What can't Vassaline do? Episode?
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Speaker 2: I love it spun to me now, Ambassador, please clip it,
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Speaker 2: send it all seriously.
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Speaker 1: Okay. My next life lesson is there is no such
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Speaker 1: thing as a wrong decision. When I was doing this episode,
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Speaker 1: I was trying to think of like or like maybe
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Speaker 1: the things that I've maybe regretted or I wouldn't do again,
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Speaker 1: or maybe like ways that I would avoid certain situations
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Speaker 1: to save myself, maybe pain or annoyance or time, money
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Speaker 1: or a headache. And in all of it, though.
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Speaker 2: I've realized I actually.
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Speaker 1: Wouldn't change anything, Like I wouldn't go back and change anything. Like, sure,
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Speaker 1: there are some things that I'm like, maybe we'll fast
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Speaker 1: forward that in the memory bank, right, but like, there's
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Speaker 1: not actually a single thing or decision that I'm not
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Speaker 1: saying every decision was necessarily the right decision, but there
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Speaker 1: wasn't necessarily a wrong one either, because you truly can
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Speaker 1: just make like any decision you make is the one
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Speaker 1: you make, so you make it the right one. Does
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Speaker 1: that make sense? Yeah, Well, it's like every Noah Centennio
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Speaker 1: at like the Nickelodeon Awards being like do what not
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Speaker 1: with what you have for yourself, but what you do
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Speaker 1: for others?
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Speaker 2: It's No, It's like every single decision that you've made,
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Speaker 2: whether you know, maybe the right or the wrong one
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Speaker 2: on paper, has led you to where you are now,
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Speaker 2: and you've learned so many things along the way. And
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Speaker 2: I think that's a good way to look at it,
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Speaker 2: because a lot of people look back on their twenties
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Speaker 2: and like, oh, like I fucked this up or I
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Speaker 2: wasted this or whatever, And it was like, yeah, honestly.
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Speaker 1: Because like if I didn't you know, potentially date let's say,
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Speaker 1: like that person, then I wouldn't have you know, started
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Speaker 1: being friends with this person, and then through that person,
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Speaker 1: I wouldn't have met someone else who's like still in
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Speaker 1: my life now. Like I think, whenever I was looking
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Speaker 1: at you know, quote unquote the wrong decisions I've made
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Speaker 1: or things that I'm like, probably wouldn't do that again,
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Speaker 1: there was always something that was like a tree branch
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Speaker 1: off that that I was like, but if I didn't
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Speaker 1: make that decision, then I wouldn't have this now, yeah,
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Speaker 1: and like I'm so insanely content and happy with my
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Speaker 1: life now that I'm like, no, no, no, you gotta
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Speaker 1: go through the graveyard, like and I just really it really,
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Speaker 1: I think makes you a lot. Well, it makes me
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Speaker 1: a lot less anxious because I'm like.
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Speaker 2: It'll be right, honestly, like it'll.
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Speaker 1: Be fine unless you're doing something disgustingly wrong and illegal,
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Speaker 1: then like.
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Speaker 2: You're it will be okay.
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Speaker 1: And I think there is this And Sarah J.
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Speaker 2: Mast did her call her Daddy interview.
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Speaker 1: She was talking about how like when her book started
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Speaker 1: blowing up, she was getting really anxious and overwhelmed, and
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Speaker 1: because obviously with you know, more fame and popularity, there
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Speaker 1: comes more scrutiny and more people being like me, I
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Speaker 1: hate Cassie, in which I'm like, how could you? Well,
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Speaker 1: just like a lot of people expecting a lot from her,
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Speaker 1: right and her therapist made her right out what was
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Speaker 1: like the worst case scenario, like if all of this
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Speaker 1: went away, what would happen? And when she wrote it
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Speaker 1: all out, she realized she was like, oh, like that's
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Speaker 1: actually not that bad.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I will be fine. I'll be fine even
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Speaker 2: if the worst case scenario happened, exactly.
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Speaker 1: And you know, my favorite stat ever is that eighty
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Speaker 1: five percent of the things that we worry about never happen.
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Speaker 1: A majority of the things like that fifteenth, If that
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Speaker 1: does happen, majority of people actually handle it better than
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Speaker 1: they thought they would.
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Speaker 2: So truly, there is to me, there's.
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Speaker 1: No such thing as the wrong decision. You just kind
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Speaker 1: of smack it up, smacking in.
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Speaker 2: Figure it out, Yeah, exactly. They make you who you're
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Speaker 2: who you are today.
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Speaker 1: Seriously doing the things you did as a child is
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Speaker 1: the key to happiness. Welcome to your thirty Welcome to
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Speaker 1: your fucking thirties, babe.
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Speaker 2: Literally, Yeah, being thirty is doing and enjoying the things
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Speaker 2: that you did when you were thirteen, but not being embarrassed.
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Speaker 1: By it seriously and fucking oath Like I when I
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Speaker 1: am truly at my happiest, I'm like literally just doing
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Speaker 1: the things I did when I.
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Speaker 2: Was like fourteen years old.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm like it all comes full circle, I think,
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Speaker 1: because when you turn twenty or when you're in your twenties,
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Speaker 1: it's such this like enveloping era of self discovery of
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Speaker 1: like who do I want to be? And I think
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Speaker 1: it's this really nice like circle life that you'd come
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Speaker 1: back and you're like, oh no, who I was was
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Speaker 1: actually actually good?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was all along, she was reading fasting books. Yeah, Jessica.
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Speaker 1: Okay, my next one, get in visiline and wear it. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: you know, I was. Look, it's not my fault. Okay,
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Speaker 1: nothing ever is. But I got in visilin and I
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Speaker 1: was really bad at wearing it. But once I locked in,
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Speaker 1: I locked the fuck in, and it is the best
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Speaker 1: thing I ever did. Like, I really was, like I
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Speaker 1: would notice my teeth so much, and I know it's
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Speaker 1: such like a small vanity thing, but when you lock
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Speaker 1: into something you don't like about yourself, especially with how
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Speaker 1: much we see ourselves on camera, I'm like, yeah, exactly,
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Speaker 1: but it's also like a very popular insecurity for a
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Speaker 1: lot of people. Yeah, but now I love looking at
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Speaker 1: my teeth.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're like, I did that, I did the
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Speaker 2: hard work. Yeah. Yeah, it's the fruits of my labor. Seriously,
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Speaker 2: it's not a fun process.
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Speaker 1: I'll tell you that. Like, it's definitely fucking annoying. But
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Speaker 1: anyone that's like no, you don't even for me, maybe
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Speaker 1: that is the process for them.
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Speaker 3: For me.
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Speaker 1: I was like, let's let's wrap this up. Yeah, I
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Speaker 1: was ready to get a lot.
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Speaker 2: I don't know anybody who's enjoyed the experience.
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Speaker 1: Who loves putting in their retainer. Yeah, I don't know anyone.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you're reaping the benefits now.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. Getting insurance to go and do all like the
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Speaker 1: things that I've been putting off and wanting to do
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Speaker 1: was like the best money I've ever spent. Also, we
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Speaker 1: spoke about this in an insurance episode a while ago.
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Speaker 1: But if you don't get health insurance, look into it
17:03
Speaker 1: because this is like the TLDR version. If you don't
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Speaker 1: get health insurance. I think by the time you turn
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Speaker 1: thirty one, you actually get like a fee on top
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Speaker 1: of that because you never for the rest of your life. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: because you never got it beforehand.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's like a tax.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll put it.
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Speaker 2: There's a there will be ato guides out there. We'll
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Speaker 2: put a link in the show notes so that you
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Speaker 2: can look into it.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, and honestly, like best money out because
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Speaker 1: I just stopped smiling with my teeth.
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Speaker 2: Oh, I hate that. It's such a beautiful smile too. Sorry.
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Speaker 2: Getting earnest I also I do love imperfect teeth on other.
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Speaker 1: Pick, Yes, so again's really upset when celebrities get veneers.
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Speaker 2: Yes, when Nellie got his veneers, it really changed the
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Speaker 2: What did you.
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Speaker 1: Think about when Miley Cyrus fixed her teeth?
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Speaker 2: She's always had her teeth have changed a lot over
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Speaker 2: the years, She's had lots of different What about asat Rocky,
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Speaker 2: I didn't really know him before, but so that's okay,
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Speaker 2: it looks good.
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Speaker 1: A Rocky is two point?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, hand Rihana deserve each other. I'm really happy for them.
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Speaker 1: Like, if there is anyone that deserved to bag Rihanna,
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Speaker 1: it's him. Can you believe they wake up next to
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Speaker 1: each other in the morning.
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Speaker 2: What do you reckon they talk about like just cool
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Speaker 2: ship that we couldn't even fat American.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: My next life lesson I really hope you backed me
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Speaker 1: on this is that the Moscow Mule is the most
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Speaker 1: underrated cocktail.
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Speaker 2: In the world.
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Speaker 1: I truly believe we need to bring the Moscow Mule
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Speaker 1: back into a hierarchy.
18:53
Speaker 2: Yeah.
18:53
Speaker 1: I like it.
18:53
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's the most underrated. Yes it is.
18:57
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not a huge ginger beer girl.
18:59
Speaker 2: It's so but neither am I, But in a.
19:02
Speaker 1: Moscow mule it's nice. It's just all the elements work
19:06
Speaker 1: together because it's vodka, lime and gingerbeer, heeps ices of ice,
19:14
Speaker 1: and then maybe a little bit of mint if you're lucky.
19:16
Speaker 2: It needs mint. It needs mint to bring it all together.
19:19
Speaker 2: And in that brass cup, shut out that you really
19:23
Speaker 2: that the fuck out? My mouth is literally tingling y.
19:27
Speaker 1: I love a mosk aMule. If you are hungover, order
19:31
Speaker 1: a Moscow a mule. Well, if you're like, if you're
19:33
Speaker 1: hungover and you have to go out again the next day,
19:36
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that.
19:38
Speaker 2: Of the dog, So just drink every day.
19:41
Speaker 1: That's what I learned. No, if you have to go
19:44
Speaker 1: out and you went out the night before, maybe you
19:45
Speaker 1: got a little bit lippy and you're like, oh yum.
19:48
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then two friends mouth and you're like, oh,
19:53
Speaker 2: first night favor.
19:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're like the first drink that you have
19:56
Speaker 1: to have and you're looking at it and you're like,
19:59
Speaker 1: I want to do that. I don't want to do
20:01
Speaker 1: that at all. Get a Moscow mule.
20:03
Speaker 2: It's like a breath of fresh air.
20:06
Speaker 1: I don't know why I like breath. There's a breath
20:09
Speaker 1: of fresh air.
20:10
Speaker 2: What was that cocktail that we had when we were
20:12
Speaker 2: celebrating six hundred k It was really limey. Oh, it's
20:20
Speaker 2: like it's not is it a capricosa? No, caprioscar, cabrioscar.
20:24
Speaker 2: That's good, that's good.
20:27
Speaker 1: Moscow mule is better.
20:28
Speaker 2: I think, why does he not want to talk about
20:31
Speaker 2: Moscow mules? Are they a little bit like kind of
20:35
Speaker 2: like a Cosmo, Like they're a bit parse?
20:36
Speaker 1: Now, No people drink moscow mules.
20:40
Speaker 2: I think so. I think it's kind of like a
20:43
Speaker 2: Cosmo or even a Mehido, Like I think they're not
20:45
Speaker 2: They're not cool.
20:46
Speaker 1: No, I think mehidos and cosmos are cool.
20:49
Speaker 3: I think they're a bit what everyone drinks aperol sprits exactly,
20:56
Speaker 3: and we don't like that. Sprits is fucking disco.
21:00
Speaker 1: Write that down on the life lesson Moscow Mule, delicious apparel, sprits, vomit.
21:06
Speaker 2: I can't get around it.
21:08
Speaker 1: Anyone that says they like an aperol sprits is lying.
21:11
Speaker 1: It's like when every boy turns eighteen and they're like, yeah,
21:17
Speaker 1: every single guy I've ever like spoken to, I was like,
21:20
Speaker 1: did you like beer when you first started drinking?
21:22
Speaker 2: They're like, no, I start drinking it. That's what I
21:26
Speaker 2: think apperol sprits is are. It's just like they taste
21:31
Speaker 2: like the rind of an orange. They taste like the
21:34
Speaker 2: bottom of a car tire. That too, like chemicals stuck.
21:39
Speaker 1: In the back of my throat. All sprits stands think
21:45
Speaker 1: of most mules, solllimey, Well fine, I'm just gonna leave.
21:54
Speaker 2: Also the mule.
21:55
Speaker 1: Also the mule. Okay. My next life lesson is the
22:01
Speaker 1: where are your sombers theory? H This is when I've
22:05
Speaker 1: coined myself.
22:07
Speaker 2: I like it.
22:08
Speaker 1: Basically, it's the fact of where are your sombers? Now?
22:12
Speaker 1: You know how we're all going, Oh, look at this
22:15
Speaker 1: new colorway. It's pink and red on this one's purple
22:17
Speaker 1: and green and blue and brown and all of that stuff.
22:21
Speaker 1: If you still have your sombers, credit to you, love you.
22:24
Speaker 1: I still have mine?
22:25
Speaker 2: Yeah?
22:26
Speaker 1: Do I necessarily reach for them? Or did I need
22:31
Speaker 1: them in three different colorways? Gonna go ahead and say no, Yeah.
22:38
Speaker 1: That This could probably be applied to any trending product.
22:45
Speaker 1: And it's the fact of you need to know whether
22:48
Speaker 1: you can trust yourself when you're asking the question of
22:51
Speaker 1: will I still love this in five years, because in
22:54
Speaker 1: my twenties I was a liar.
22:57
Speaker 2: I lie to myself.
22:58
Speaker 1: I lie. I was like, no, we used toize this
23:01
Speaker 1: poke and I'd be like, yes of I was like
23:03
Speaker 1: a little kid asking it's mum if it could get
23:05
Speaker 1: the new brats. I'll be like, no, no, please, I'll
23:07
Speaker 1: play with it every day and I love it so
23:09
Speaker 1: much and I actually don't have that one yet. Yeah.
23:11
Speaker 1: And then and then I got bigger money and I
23:13
Speaker 1: kept doing it. Yeah, and it's like I did this
23:16
Speaker 1: with you know when I think I was like twenty
23:18
Speaker 1: one and I got a bonus at work and I
23:21
Speaker 1: bought a designer handbag, but I still ended up. I
23:25
Speaker 1: think I still bought it on like a buy and
23:27
Speaker 1: hour pay later and worse money I've ever spent in
23:32
Speaker 1: my life. I'm like, what were you thinking? Because I
23:35
Speaker 1: never used it, so I was too scared of anything
23:38
Speaker 1: happening to it. And also it was fucking tiny.
23:40
Speaker 2: Yeah you have anything in it? Yeah.
23:43
Speaker 1: So it's like all of those things you need to
23:46
Speaker 1: kind of do, like a performance review for yourself and
23:49
Speaker 1: be like, can I trust myself to actually be be
23:54
Speaker 1: honorable in my response to do I like this or
23:57
Speaker 1: is it just trending. Yeah.
23:59
Speaker 2: Yeah, because if you are thinking.
24:01
Speaker 1: Where are my sombers or where is that you know,
24:05
Speaker 1: trending product that I bought, and I was like, no,
24:08
Speaker 1: I'm going to love this forever. If you don't know
24:10
Speaker 1: where it is, then I'm like, we need to we
24:13
Speaker 1: need to build our trust.
24:15
Speaker 2: Yeah, or you can't remember the last time you wore it.
24:17
Speaker 1: That kind of brings me into my next life lesson,
24:21
Speaker 1: and it's that you can't buy confidence, satisfaction or a personality.
24:26
Speaker 2: So true. Say it louder for the people on the back, please. Yeah.
24:31
Speaker 1: I have spent way too much money in my twenties
24:37
Speaker 1: trying to be confident or interesting, and especially it comes
24:44
Speaker 1: from like the social media pinterest, you know esque vibe
24:51
Speaker 1: of wanting to be cool. I was going to say
24:53
Speaker 1: the cool girl strikes a girl strikes again of just
24:57
Speaker 1: like this idea of like walking in to work and
25:01
Speaker 1: being cool and looking like, you know, I'm on the
25:04
Speaker 1: way to my journalist jar that I'm like, you know,
25:07
Speaker 1: Andy Anderson and blah blah blah blah blah, which like
25:10
Speaker 1: that's fine, be confident, but you're not going to get
25:13
Speaker 1: that from buying things. Yeah, or like you can't buy
25:16
Speaker 1: things to give yourself a personality. Yeah, and I would
25:21
Speaker 1: definitely like camellion myself into these different aesthetics or personalities
25:28
Speaker 1: of like who I thought I wanted to be, rather
25:31
Speaker 1: than finding things that met the personality that I already had.
25:36
Speaker 2: Well, those are always the times that you get the
25:38
Speaker 2: most confidence as well, Like when you're wearing something that
25:41
Speaker 2: is truly unique or something that you've probably owned for
25:44
Speaker 2: years because it's really a piece that you feel like
25:46
Speaker 2: represents your personality, or when you're like talking about something
25:50
Speaker 2: that you're truly passionate and interested in, Like that's when
25:53
Speaker 2: people really connect with you, and people can see right
25:56
Speaker 2: through that, Like you know, when you can tell that
25:58
Speaker 2: somebody I'm talking about myself as well in these instances
26:02
Speaker 2: like even looking back in a photos and stuff like that,
26:05
Speaker 2: but you can tell someone who has put a lot
26:07
Speaker 2: of effort into an outfit, which it's just like you
26:11
Speaker 2: can tell that it's not like it's a kind of
26:13
Speaker 2: like a costu authentic.
26:14
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's yeah, I know what you mean
26:16
Speaker 1: that It's like it's more that it's not actually who
26:21
Speaker 1: they are because I love also a great fucking fit.
26:24
Speaker 1: Oh of course, I can't appreciate a fit, you know,
26:27
Speaker 1: But I from my experience, it was like what do
26:31
Speaker 1: I think someone like X would wear?
26:34
Speaker 2: And it was never actually something that I would wear.
26:36
Speaker 1: Whereas now I feel like I'll go somewhere and people
26:40
Speaker 1: be like, oh, yep, the double denim or like oh
26:42
Speaker 1: the cowboy boods or the red or whatever, and it's
26:45
Speaker 1: like that uniform is like there now, and it's not
26:49
Speaker 1: necessarily like buying things to try and fit a mold
26:53
Speaker 1: of someone that I think is cool or hip or
26:58
Speaker 1: hot or whatever it is. And trying to buy confidence
27:04
Speaker 1: is like the quickest way to not only be broke,
27:08
Speaker 1: but to also kill your confidence, because that's just not
27:12
Speaker 1: going to happen. And I also mean this with like
27:14
Speaker 1: even you know, when we did that episode about hobbies
27:17
Speaker 1: or being like I want to be this person. I
27:19
Speaker 1: want to like, you know, knit an entire sweater or
27:23
Speaker 1: whatever it is, and it's like, but do you or
27:26
Speaker 1: do you want to say you have knitted an entire sweater?
27:30
Speaker 1: Like where's the line of what you actually want to
27:32
Speaker 1: do versus what you just want to be able to
27:34
Speaker 1: say that you did.
27:35
Speaker 2: I remember when we had all Right Hay on the show,
27:38
Speaker 2: and we were talking to him about how he picked
27:40
Speaker 2: up his hobby of reading, and he'd like, never really
27:44
Speaker 2: read before, and then he actually tried it and realized
27:46
Speaker 2: he was obsessed and it became like a huge passion
27:49
Speaker 2: for him. And we were like, oh, do you have
27:51
Speaker 2: any advice to anybody who wants to be a reader
27:53
Speaker 2: and can't get into it? And he was like, don't read.
27:56
Speaker 2: Like if you try to read and you can't get
27:58
Speaker 2: into it, like maybe you don't like reading, Like you
28:01
Speaker 2: don't have to force yourself into these things if it's
28:04
Speaker 2: that much work.
28:05
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's interesting how tasks, hobbies, and activities have
28:09
Speaker 1: also become trending topics and trending activities. And it's like,
28:14
Speaker 1: that's not to say you can't try it. No, it's
28:18
Speaker 1: about you know, putting a square peg in a round
28:21
Speaker 1: hole Missy Higgins shout out. But it's like, I don't
28:25
Speaker 1: think that's the lyric. It's like triangle trying to fit
28:28
Speaker 1: into a circle.
28:29
Speaker 2: Ego.
28:31
Speaker 1: I was going to sing it, and I was like
28:32
Speaker 1: triangle trying to squeeze into a circle. I love her
28:37
Speaker 1: so much. Yeah, it's not about saying you can't try
28:40
Speaker 1: new things. It's about like feeling like you have to
28:44
Speaker 1: do everything everyone else is doing in order to fit in.
28:48
Speaker 1: And that also comes into so much that it's like
28:51
Speaker 1: this sense of belonging, Like are you spending money in
28:54
Speaker 1: an attempt to belong And is that where your confidence
28:57
Speaker 1: is coming from? Because I think for me that's what
28:59
Speaker 1: it was. It's like even when I got my first
29:02
Speaker 1: full time job, I went out and bought all these
29:03
Speaker 1: like heels and like clothes and just shit that I
29:07
Speaker 1: would like have never worn, but I bought it because
29:11
Speaker 1: I thought that's what I needed to look like in
29:13
Speaker 1: order to fit in and be professional. Yeah, but really
29:17
Speaker 1: I was putting on a costume every single day, and
29:20
Speaker 1: I think that hurts your confidence a lot more in
29:23
Speaker 1: the end.
29:24
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely.
29:43
Speaker 1: The best way to make a man fold is to
29:46
Speaker 1: take your jacket off while uninterrupted eye contact, fold straight
29:53
Speaker 1: away the man.
29:56
Speaker 2: One one man has folded, because I only love one man.
30:00
Speaker 2: You pass this information to a lot of our single days.
30:03
Speaker 2: Can you give us a tutorial like I can't because
30:07
Speaker 2: I'm wearing like a shirt that's okay, and also some
30:10
Speaker 2: people might just be listening. So basically, fusty step.
30:12
Speaker 1: Basically you have to wait for them to be talking,
30:17
Speaker 1: so you have to ask them a question, like when
30:19
Speaker 1: you're on a day or whatever, and be like, oh, so,
30:22
Speaker 1: like how long have you been playing soccer for? Yeah,
30:25
Speaker 1: they're gonna start talking, and as they're talking, you're noddy.
30:27
Speaker 1: You locked in on eye contact and you just slowly
30:31
Speaker 1: peel your jacket off your shoulders and like shrug it
30:34
Speaker 1: off and then but don't break eye contact. When I
30:39
Speaker 1: tell you, you can see their brain melting out their ears.
30:42
Speaker 2: It's so good.
30:44
Speaker 1: I just do it to my boyfriend to fuck with
30:46
Speaker 1: him sometimes and he's like, don't do that.
30:48
Speaker 2: You're like, I still got it. They literally short circuit
30:51
Speaker 2: in front of your eyes and it's the best thing ever.
30:55
Speaker 1: If you want to make a man fold, take your
30:58
Speaker 1: jacket off and don't break cay contact. It hits the
31:01
Speaker 1: nail on the head every single time.
31:03
Speaker 2: I love that. Where did you learn that or did
31:06
Speaker 2: you just figure it out yourself?
31:07
Speaker 1: I definitely didn't invent it. I can't remember where I
31:12
Speaker 1: saw it. It might have been on TikTok. It might
31:14
Speaker 1: have been in like a fucking Dolly magazine. No not Dolly,
31:16
Speaker 1: that's for sixteen year olds, but like, it might have
31:18
Speaker 1: been in a magazine or something. Yeah, but I remember
31:22
Speaker 1: the first time I did it, and I was like, well, shit,
31:25
Speaker 1: that works. I reckon.
31:27
Speaker 2: I know we said for to make a man fold,
31:29
Speaker 2: but it would work on anyone. Oh yeah, whatever your preference.
31:35
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I've told like so many people to do
31:38
Speaker 1: that and the report back I think the only person
31:41
Speaker 1: it didn't work was Maddie.
31:43
Speaker 2: Oh that's because she was wearing an awkward jacket.
31:46
Speaker 1: I think I couldn't get it all.
31:48
Speaker 2: You're wearing one of those like military military style jackets.
31:51
Speaker 2: I have like a thousand buttons, Like, that's not it
31:53
Speaker 2: needs to be something that you can't keep your arms tight. Yeah,
31:56
Speaker 2: that's the opposite. Yeah yeah, yeah, Okay.
32:01
Speaker 1: My next life lesson, and this was a read for myself,
32:05
Speaker 1: is that being busy, messy, or chaotic is not a
32:08
Speaker 1: personality trait. Yeah, and this is definitely like your twenties
32:14
Speaker 1: are busy, messy and chaotic, but pushing that onto other
32:18
Speaker 1: people as like a way to kind of account for
32:23
Speaker 1: maybe not necessarily showing up or being on time or
32:27
Speaker 1: being as present as you should be in your friendships, Like,
32:30
Speaker 1: isn't a personality trait? Like you don't you can't just
32:33
Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, I'm just so chaotic, Like
32:36
Speaker 1: sorry I didn't show up to your birthday. Yeah, like,
32:38
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm just so busy. Sorry I didn't
32:41
Speaker 1: call you when I said I would. Like, obviously there
32:45
Speaker 1: is an asterisk to this that whenever things are like
32:48
Speaker 1: going on in your life and things are genuinely really
32:51
Speaker 1: really difficult and you're struggling to manage everything, that's obviously
32:54
Speaker 1: a different situation. But I now in my ripe old
33:00
Speaker 1: age of thirty, have realized like how much it is
33:04
Speaker 1: really meaningful to show up and be there even if
33:07
Speaker 1: your life is busy, messy and chaotic, and that like
33:11
Speaker 1: doing that for your friends and being able to make
33:13
Speaker 1: that time because there is time. Yeah, there is always time,
33:17
Speaker 1: Like being busy is not a personality trait, and being
33:22
Speaker 1: able to be like like I we talk about this
33:25
Speaker 1: all the time. People are like, oh, how's your week
33:27
Speaker 1: going or what are you doing?
33:28
Speaker 2: And we're like all busy and it's like shut up,
33:32
Speaker 2: and I'm anyone else, I'm just saying this about myself. Well,
33:35
Speaker 2: that's like it's something that episode is a reactive of
33:38
Speaker 2: things that you or we've done.
33:39
Speaker 1: Yeah that it's like imagine getting to the end right
33:44
Speaker 1: sparkle the end sparkle, and thinking, oh, how is your life? Oh? Busy?
33:50
Speaker 2: Oh I hate that? Right?
33:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, like oh how is your like ah a bit messy,
33:58
Speaker 1: bit chaotic?
34:00
Speaker 3: What like that?
34:02
Speaker 1: If those are the three ways that like you're living
34:04
Speaker 1: your life for me, I'm like, I don't want to
34:07
Speaker 1: do that. I want it to be fun. I want
34:09
Speaker 1: it to be light. I want to be sparkling, and
34:11
Speaker 1: that's not going to happen all the time because without
34:13
Speaker 1: you know, shade, we don't have light. But it really,
34:18
Speaker 1: it's like really something that I think I'm even just
34:20
Speaker 1: still learning not to like live by those things as
34:23
Speaker 1: a form of life and.
34:26
Speaker 2: Your default setting. Yes, exactly, Yeah.
34:30
Speaker 1: Okay, oh this one I really loved. So this life
34:33
Speaker 1: lesson is the helped, heard, or hugged method. This one
34:39
Speaker 1: I really had to had to learn because of just
34:42
Speaker 1: the way that I like try to consolet friends. So basically,
34:46
Speaker 1: the helped, heard, or hugged method is that when someone
34:50
Speaker 1: you love comes to you with a problem, they either
34:53
Speaker 1: want to.
34:53
Speaker 2: Be helped, hugged, or heard.
34:56
Speaker 1: And so often it's very easy for me, any of
35:00
Speaker 1: us to fall into the helped category, where we start
35:04
Speaker 1: giving people advice or we start telling them what we
35:07
Speaker 1: think they should do, when that might not necessarily be
35:11
Speaker 1: what they're after. Maybe they just want to be hugged,
35:14
Speaker 1: or maybe they just want to be heard, and it
35:17
Speaker 1: can cause friction in those relationships when you don't know
35:21
Speaker 1: what they want. So when someone comes to you with
35:24
Speaker 1: a dilemma or a problem or a rant, asking them
35:27
Speaker 1: do you want.
35:28
Speaker 2: To be helped, hugged or heard can really.
35:32
Speaker 1: Also help you understand what that friendship needs, because also
35:35
Speaker 1: on the other end is the frustration of when you
35:39
Speaker 1: sit there and your friends dating a fucking loser and
35:43
Speaker 1: you're sitting there being like, but didn't we have this
35:45
Speaker 1: conversation like two weeks ago and I thought I gave you,
35:50
Speaker 1: like I really put in a lot of effort to
35:52
Speaker 1: giving you advice, And this is very upsetting for me
35:54
Speaker 1: to see you upset that. It's like, also, maybe you
35:58
Speaker 1: don't need to invest that much in it and just
36:00
Speaker 1: give them a hug and help them feel.
36:02
Speaker 2: Heard, yeah, or just smile and nod and listen and
36:05
Speaker 2: yeah yeah. And you can literally ask people that, yes,
36:09
Speaker 2: do you want to be helped hugged to her? Yeah,
36:11
Speaker 2: Like do you actually want help or do you just
36:13
Speaker 2: want to vent? Yeah, Like I was having a.
36:15
Speaker 1: Rant to my mum the other day about something and
36:18
Speaker 1: she said a problem with somelthing. I was like, no,
36:19
Speaker 1: I just want to bitch. You want some thing please. Yeah.
36:23
Speaker 2: It's like when you are trying to vent to your boyfriend.
36:26
Speaker 2: Like men don't have this quite wide in I don't
36:29
Speaker 2: think as much. You'll rant to them about something and
36:32
Speaker 2: then they come to you with like all of these
36:34
Speaker 2: logical things.
36:35
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, you're ruining it ruined.
36:39
Speaker 2: I just wanted to have a ted talk in the
36:41
Speaker 2: living room.
36:42
Speaker 1: Literally number nineteen. All you need is a brown lip
36:47
Speaker 1: liner and some battline. But a brown liftliner is one
36:54
Speaker 1: of those products that can also do everything. It can
36:59
Speaker 1: do your lips, you can do your brows, It can
37:03
Speaker 1: do your eyeliner, It can do your nose contal, it.
37:05
Speaker 2: Can do your freckles.
37:06
Speaker 1: It could even do a little bit of a face
37:08
Speaker 1: bronzing if you've got a really if you don't mind
37:11
Speaker 1: using half of it. But it's like the one thing
37:15
Speaker 1: that I always needed my makeup bag is a brown lipliner.
37:19
Speaker 1: Otherwisean fucked I on the train and take me high.
37:22
Speaker 1: What's your go to again. Oh thank you for asking.
37:25
Speaker 1: It's the Morphy Sweet Tea lipliner. I think it's like
37:29
Speaker 1: ten bucks and you can get it from Macco, you
37:32
Speaker 1: can buy it straight from Morphy. It is just the
37:34
Speaker 1: most perfect like neutrally but still a little bit warm
37:38
Speaker 1: brown lipliner. And it was discontinued for a little while
37:43
Speaker 1: and it came back and I.
37:44
Speaker 2: Was so grateful because I had this literal like nub.
37:49
Speaker 1: It was like a pinky toenail at the end, like
37:53
Speaker 1: it was like I could have stuck it on my
37:54
Speaker 1: toe and someone said, oh, nice pedicure, like it was
37:58
Speaker 1: barely do And when it came back, I think I
38:01
Speaker 1: bought ten I was like, I know I'm being selfish,
38:04
Speaker 1: but I need this. It's the Hunger Games. Okay. Anyway,
38:09
Speaker 1: they ended up re stocking and it came back, and
38:11
Speaker 1: that was a really unnecessary thing, but at least I
38:13
Speaker 1: always had one on me around my house. There is
38:16
Speaker 1: just Morphy Sweet Tea lip lineders like sprinkled around next
38:19
Speaker 1: to all my dead contact lenses. Yes, rct on that
38:22
Speaker 1: note as well is a signature scent is better than
38:27
Speaker 1: any pair of matching lingerie. I was very much a.
38:34
Speaker 1: I love a matching set giry from the get go, however,
38:40
Speaker 1: which is fine for occasions, but now I can't be bothered.
38:43
Speaker 1: Whereas what makes me feel really sexy and like who
38:46
Speaker 1: is a really good signature scent and like that can
38:50
Speaker 1: also evolve over time, that can change. It doesn't matter,
38:53
Speaker 1: Like you don't have to like lock in on one.
38:56
Speaker 2: But I love the idea of.
38:59
Speaker 1: Having a said and someone goes, oh, that smells like ales.
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Speaker 1: I love that. I love the idea of even you know,
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Speaker 1: in the future, if I have kids or grandchildren being like,
39:12
Speaker 1: oh that smells that or nah, you know, like I
39:15
Speaker 1: just think that's such a nice element to your life.
39:19
Speaker 1: That is really beautiful, right, And I have that with
39:23
Speaker 1: perfumes with my mom, Like she always had this one
39:26
Speaker 1: perfume that would always get her for a birthday every year,
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Speaker 1: and she would wear it all the time. And so
39:31
Speaker 1: whenever I smell that there's two actually she now number
39:34
Speaker 1: five and poem, And whenever I smell those two perfumes,
39:38
Speaker 1: I think of my mom, and I think that's such
39:40
Speaker 1: a nice thing to have about yourself. It's not to
39:42
Speaker 1: say that you can't wear any other perfume. She wore
39:45
Speaker 1: lots of different other perfumes, but to just have that
39:47
Speaker 1: one thing that you're like, hmm like to have a
39:50
Speaker 1: smell link to a memory I think is really special.
39:53
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely, all right, I'm going to do some rapid fires.
39:57
Speaker 1: A night on your own is a privilege. Get a pet, yes,
40:03
Speaker 1: try to help others as much as you can, and
40:06
Speaker 1: embrace the schlumper dinker.
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Speaker 2: So love this.
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Speaker 3: Do you know what that is?
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Speaker 2: I think I do, but I teach you what it was?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so.
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Speaker 2: So.
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Speaker 1: My mum, speaking of, always used to watch Oprah, and
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Speaker 1: there was this term on Oprah called the schlumper dinker,
40:26
Speaker 1: which the first guess was the cousin of an opal lumba,
40:28
Speaker 1: which it's not that. It's basically when you are just
40:33
Speaker 1: ugly and comfy and you're not worried about what you
40:38
Speaker 1: look like, whether your hair's done, whether you've got your
40:40
Speaker 1: skin care on, you're just a schlumper dinker and having
40:45
Speaker 1: a schlumper dinker day. And I think as well, even now,
40:49
Speaker 1: we just live in a world so focused with esthetics
40:52
Speaker 1: that we've even put pressure on how we're supposed to
40:55
Speaker 1: look when we relax. That that's even like putting on
40:59
Speaker 1: a watching track, your set, putting in a hammer, skincare on,
41:03
Speaker 1: like eyebrows laminated, and I'm like, no, we need to
41:07
Speaker 1: be ugly. We do being Uglyzabeth, and like not being
41:11
Speaker 1: like ooh.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, not feeling bad about being ugly seriously, so.
41:19
Speaker 1: Embrace the Schlumperdinka. And then my last three, I've got
41:25
Speaker 1: rituals of free joy and finding, like what your favorite
41:30
Speaker 1: rituals are, So opening a window first thing, fresh air
41:34
Speaker 1: fixes way more than you think, eat at the table,
41:38
Speaker 1: make your bed, enjoy your morning coffee, say good night
41:42
Speaker 1: to the moon, watch the same movie on the same
41:45
Speaker 1: night every year, every year on the twenty third of December.
41:48
Speaker 1: Sound I watch The greench and it's like one of
41:49
Speaker 1: my favorite rituals ever.
41:51
Speaker 2: And talk to yourself.
41:52
Speaker 1: And all of those things are literally free or cost
41:56
Speaker 1: like three bucks if you want to get down to
41:59
Speaker 1: the nitty gritty of like the beans for your coffee.
42:02
Speaker 1: But it's like all of those things are zero dollars
42:05
Speaker 1: but bring you so much more joy than like buying
42:08
Speaker 1: something online or spending money out at a bar, Like
42:12
Speaker 1: all of those are such beautiful things that you get
42:14
Speaker 1: to do with yourself to build that relationship with yourself.
42:18
Speaker 1: Second last one is that just because you lost me
42:21
Speaker 1: as a friend doesn't mean you gained me as an enemy.
42:23
Speaker 1: I still want you to bloom, just not in the
42:25
Speaker 1: garden I built.
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Speaker 2: Ah, that's nice.
42:28
Speaker 1: I saw that quote on Tikiitoki, and I was like,
42:31
Speaker 1: that is the perfect explanation for what so many of
42:35
Speaker 1: us go through, because ninety one percent of people no
42:38
Speaker 1: longer call their best friend a friend anymore. Because in
42:42
Speaker 1: your twenties, I think you especially go through a lot
42:46
Speaker 1: of seasonal friendships and you know, you kind of move
42:51
Speaker 1: on from high school, you go to UNI, you get
42:53
Speaker 1: your first job. There are so many, you know, iterations
42:57
Speaker 1: of friendship groups that I had in my toes and
43:00
Speaker 1: friends that nothing bad happened. We're just not necessarily as
43:04
Speaker 1: close as we were. But it doesn't necessarily mean that
43:08
Speaker 1: I have any ill will or there was some mushroom
43:10
Speaker 1: cloud or anything like that. I think in your twenties,
43:14
Speaker 1: it's probably good to kind of expand that umbrella as
43:17
Speaker 1: much as you can, because it actually helps you really
43:20
Speaker 1: lock in and find the people who are meant for you.
43:22
Speaker 1: I'm still best friends with my best friend from high school.
43:25
Speaker 1: You know, we've been friends for ten years, and all
43:29
Speaker 1: of that wouldn't have happened from trying to meet and
43:32
Speaker 1: build connections with as many people as possible. But it's
43:35
Speaker 1: also not sustainable to expect you're gonna be best friends
43:37
Speaker 1: with every single person you meet, or you'll stay best friends.
43:40
Speaker 1: People move, people get new jobs, people change, and that's okay.
43:45
Speaker 1: It doesn't necessarily mean that you wish them any ill will. Yeah,
43:49
Speaker 1: And I think that's a nice way to look at it,
43:52
Speaker 1: and a nice reminder to be okay with things moving on,
43:57
Speaker 1: even if you know there actually was a fire and
43:59
Speaker 1: you decide after that, I don't think this is right
44:02
Speaker 1: for me. You don't actually have to hold onto that
44:04
Speaker 1: anger either. You can go, do you know what. I
44:06
Speaker 1: don't want you to be in my garden, but I'm
44:08
Speaker 1: okay with you blimming in your own life.
44:10
Speaker 2: Yeah.
44:12
Speaker 1: And then my last and final life lesson by the
44:15
Speaker 1: time I turned thirty is that you just have to
44:18
Speaker 1: trust that the future is going to be a little
44:20
Speaker 1: bit sexy.
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Speaker 2: I like that, especially going into your thirties. What are
44:26
Speaker 2: you looking forward to the most about your thirties if
44:28
Speaker 2: you have to finel one thing, I.
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Speaker 1: Think I am looking forward to just being a little
44:34
Speaker 1: bit more self assured. I think I know who I
44:37
Speaker 1: am a lot more than when I was like twenty.
44:39
Speaker 1: That girl had no idea what was going on.
44:41
Speaker 2: Bless her.
44:42
Speaker 1: She was just brain and brain. Yeah, you know, and
44:45
Speaker 1: whereas I think I just really understand and know myself
44:50
Speaker 1: a lot better. And I really think every heartbreak in
44:55
Speaker 1: my twenties has brought me so much closer to what
44:59
Speaker 1: was meant to me. Stop crying, that's.
45:02
Speaker 2: Beautiful, it's fine. We both have our period. Yeah exactly.
45:05
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm impressed we made it through without it.
45:08
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not going to be earnest in this.
45:10
Speaker 2: I was like, we can't do it.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we can't know. That was beautiful. Happy birthday, Princess,
45:16
Speaker 1: and also number thirty one shun an awful life. Yep,
45:21
Speaker 1: all right, chicks, thank you so much for having us
45:23
Speaker 1: in your ear holes. We love to be here. Kisses, smooches.
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Speaker 1: We'll see you next time. I love you. Bye, chicks,