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Why highly sensitive men don't lose their humanity (INFJ / INFP) · Lightbearer's Library

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello, dear soul, and welcome to the Light Bears Library.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Kate Harmony.
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  SPEAKER_00: In today's journal entry, I want to talk about how we as highly sensitive people can navigate through this world that we're currently living in that feels like a fantasy sci-fi fiction novel.
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  SPEAKER_00: At least that's what it feels like to me because I grew up reading fantasy a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um this is kind of what it feels like.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think that, you know, the majority of people who are not really thinking and aware, you know, there's lots of different names for what that might be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but the masses that um they're headed towards kind of this transhuman future of, you know, with the you know, put a chip wherever you want, or wear the glasses and just like zone out of being here in the world, take a pill and you know, forget who you are, whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, I think as highly sensitive people, we have an advantage to staying human, to remaining human.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, I know that we can feel like we're in we have a lot of anxiety or fear or depression, or we're dealing with thoughts of not wanting to continue living here in this world.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I think we can all, we've all been through some of those times, or you're maybe you're in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um I think that, you know, I personally wouldn't trade away any of what I've been going through recently to, you know, to just I wouldn't trade that away for a pill or a chip or whatever, because those those things, those feelings, they I feel like they're my guide, they're my guidance system um towards am I am I more in line with my soul self?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, there's lots of lots of ways of talking about that, you know, our our soul self, our conscience, you know, the our individual soul path.
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  SPEAKER_00: And are we aligned with that or are we just kind of going with the group that are headed towards the cliff?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um so I think that um it's those things are guiding me towards staying human, to to being more human and following that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I think with our deep perception and our deep observation of the world, you know, these are the kinds of things I had in mind about how it keeps us, our high sensitivity keeps us human, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So we are much more attuned to our feelings and emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we can, you know, feel really joy, overjoyed and full of enthusiasm for life when things happen that are good in our lives and and how wonderful that we can feel those highs, you know, and we also feel those lows of when things happen in our lives, when there's just sorrow or or anger or sadness, we we we feel those lows so deeply.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we may think that that that kind of waves of of emotion is is maybe a bad thing, but because we look around and everyone's kind of like monotone or like just I don't know, kind of dead inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I I that's kind of how it seems like from the outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: So like whatever, you know, they can have whatever experience they want.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm just saying that us as highly sensitive people, that's that's human, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Those, those, those emotions, um, those feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think the other thing is is that we are good lie detectors for the most part, you know, as INFPs, um uh the personality type in the Myers-Berg system, um I'm an INFP and I want to see the good in everybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I've learned that that's that's not a good thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I really need to see clearly and see, see what's actually happening so that I can I can keep my own sense of safety or whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like see through manipulation, see through lies, see through, you know, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and my husband's an INFJ, so he's always like, I mean, human lie detectors, right?
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: The INFJs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but the there's as HSPs, we have this we have all this deep processing of, you know, even just facial expressions, but also tones of voice or or body language, or things that just don't be because we also are are deep thinkers, we put things together and we're like, okay, but that's a contradiction of this, or that's not like you know, all the things that just set our little detectors off that says something's not right here, and then we start digging, you know, it's like digging into what might be going on, and I think a lot of us HSPs know a lot of what's going on under the surface and are quite aware that things are not as they seem to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um, so that's I think that's another thing that keeps us keeps us human, keeps us on our toes, and keeps us, you know, um, yeah, right, maybe safe.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Researching, lots of research goes on in our house with my husband being.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um and I think another thing that keeps us human is our big imaginations.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we have lots of creativity that lives within us, even if you're not currently being creative.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I've heard from a lot of you of, you know, you're you've been working jobs here in a life with family and stuff, and it's just kind of life has gotten away, but you have this creative side inside of you that, you know, I think we all need to nurture that a little bit more.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, my husband is a lifelong artist and you know, with music and writing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so he, it's like the he's all about, you know, creativity and keeping our human, our humanness through creativity.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I would, I would suggest that, you know, it not be a big deal to just add like five minutes of creativity to your life somewhere, whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if you're a photographer, then you know, just go out and take one photo a day or whatever, whatever, you know, um, or you know, yeah, write a poem a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what my husband does.
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  SPEAKER_00: He does a um oh, what kind of poetry?
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  SPEAKER_00: He does he doesn't let me read it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like the the two-line one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I'm totally blanking.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway um, but you know, something that's just a daily creative habit, a daily creative practice, I think is really good for keeping us human.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um I think that um when we are I think our our biggest strength as highly sensitive people and as INFs or NFs, I don't know, maybe whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe maybe you'll all resonate with this, but this sense of being in alignment with our with our soul and and knowing we might we might not be in alignment and we might know deep down inside we're not in alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um and we kind of keep living a life that's out of alignment, but but we know on some level that we're out, and we know that there will probably be a reckoning at some point, you know, to to rectify that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it takes so much courage and strength of the human, you know, our human will, our human soul to to course correct, to align with our our values, with our, you know, our heart, and you know, and letting go of some of the things that the world says are important sometimes, like, you know, fancy jobs or, you know, whatever it is, and lowering our our the cost of our lifestyle in order to live something that's more in alignment with our our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know with kids that's that's maybe harder, but I think it's also setting a good example for them as well of how to live a human life in alignment with your soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's it's being a good role model for your kids in that way, of trying to find a way to live a life that's more in alignment and speaking to them about that that being in alignment and what that means.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's teaching how to be human, which the world does not teach how to do, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It teaches us how to, you know, well, I don't know what it teaches us.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't nothing good.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just kidding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, maybe I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um but so I just I want to try and just I I I do this for myself, that the anxiety sometimes that I feel or the depression is pointing me in a direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if I listen to it and I write about it, say, or journal about it, or talk to you about it, or you know, it it will give us guidance to how to keep being human.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think that's really, really important in this time that we're living in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I would um love to hear from you in the comments about your thoughts on this topic.
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  SPEAKER_00: And um, if you would like to come and talk with other men about this topic, about staying human, about our our highly sensitive natures and how it really is really a really wonderful thing, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been given a gift and it actually is a gift in this world.
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  SPEAKER_00: I might not feel like it, but I think it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: So um, the next men's group is the men's sanctuary of being able to talk about these things out loud with other men is next Wednesday, July 1st from 6 to 7:30 mountain time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I would love to have you join and um just kind of see how do we get our lives in alignment?
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  SPEAKER_00: How can we be more human?
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  SPEAKER_00: How can how is it keeping us human by being highly sensitive?
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, I'm so excited to hear from you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I wish you so many blessings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Signing off for now.
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  SPEAKER_00: XOXO Kate.