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BASIC BLAQUE AFTER DARK 8PM EST 1ST & 3RD FRIDAY · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Man pleasure to have you ladies here on the show tonight,
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  Speaker 1: and I apologize to everyone, to listeners viewers, I have
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  Speaker 1: a cold, so I'm gonna be sounding really odd and course,
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  Speaker 1: but we're gonna we're gonna power the throw because ladies,
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  Speaker 1: that's gonna help me out, and it's about them. It's
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  Speaker 1: definitely not about me hearing them speak. So I want
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  Speaker 1: to start with you, miss Rachel, because I've been hearing
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  Speaker 1: about some real challenges and how you overcame them and
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  Speaker 1: how it provides listeners with relatable lessons and resilience and perseverance.
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  Speaker 1: So looking back, what were some of the biggest challenges
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  Speaker 1: or obstacles that you had to overcome on your path
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  Speaker 1: to financial independence?
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  Speaker 2: For everybody who's a I appreciate the opportunity to speak
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  Speaker 2: with you guys. And as Arthur Black allude to, I
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  Speaker 2: am Rachel l Gary and I am a leadership coach
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  Speaker 2: and the biggest.
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  Speaker 3: Thing that.
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  Speaker 2: Was hindering me in my journey was of my mindset.
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  Speaker 2: And as a leadership coach, that is what I work
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  Speaker 2: with people with the mindset that is needed for growth.
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  Speaker 2: So when I realized in two thousand and four that
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  Speaker 2: I was living a life of lack, a life of
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  Speaker 2: a poverty mindset. I took an opportunity to rewrite and
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  Speaker 2: set forward on my mission to be the CEO of
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  Speaker 2: my life. And just a little bit about what the
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  Speaker 2: CEO is is the person that is clearing your actions
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  Speaker 2: and powered by your choices and owns your direction and
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  Speaker 2: on an everyday basis, each and every one of you
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  Speaker 2: are seeing he owes.
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  Speaker 1: I like that. Ever heard anybody saying that's what their
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  Speaker 1: mindset was? And I'm sitting here trying to go with that.
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  Speaker 1: That is amazing even for you to justnowledge as the
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  Speaker 1: kind of mindset that you had at that time. How
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  Speaker 1: did you get through it? How did you do through?
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  Speaker 2: I would say the biggest thing is that I am
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  Speaker 2: an intentional type person and that I've always been. I've
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  Speaker 2: always been someone who can be counted on and relied upon.
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  Speaker 2: But I noticed in two thousand and four that I
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  Speaker 2: couldn't rely on me. And before, while I was helping
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  Speaker 2: everyone else find success in their lives, I wasn't successful
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  Speaker 2: in mine because I wasn't putting the first person that
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  Speaker 2: needs to be your first love first you. So when
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  Speaker 2: I really dug deep and really realized that I was
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  Speaker 2: loving everything first and not loving everything in the overflow
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  Speaker 2: of me. I corrected that, so I started setting clear boundaries,
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  Speaker 2: which is things I remind people in my course about
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  Speaker 2: being self what self care really is, and it's about
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  Speaker 2: setting those clear boundaries with yourself, loving yourself, understanding yourself,
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  Speaker 2: and growling yourself so you can pour into others.
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  Speaker 3: Everything should be loved. You should love everything in your
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  Speaker 3: life in the overflow of you.
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  Speaker 1: She's poor, She's definitely pouring nuggets into us. Talk with
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  Speaker 1: the power of the mind and overflowing. You're not hearing
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  Speaker 1: that from nobody else, but Daddy, I'm sorry by Rachel
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  Speaker 1: talking about that. So, Daddy, where Rachel speaks about finance,
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  Speaker 1: you speak in a literate voice and creative process. Your
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  Speaker 1: first book is takeled with dec touches on deep emotional themes.
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  Speaker 1: What was the heart behind that story?
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  Speaker 4: Well, thank you.
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  Speaker 5: Let me say also thank you for having me on tonight.
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  Speaker 5: I am Bennie Nicole. I am an author, an entrepreneur,
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  Speaker 5: a speaker speaking at into existence. So this first novel
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  Speaker 5: that I published in twenty twenty four called Entangled with
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  Speaker 5: deceit a lot of it so it's fiction, but I took.
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  Speaker 4: Parts of my.
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  Speaker 5: Real life as a young woman, single, dating, you know, relationships.
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  Speaker 5: So that's kind of where the book came from, you know,
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  Speaker 5: my life experiences as a single woman. And and so
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  Speaker 5: I decided, you know, I want to talk about it.
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  Speaker 5: But at the time, I didn't want to be I
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  Speaker 5: didn't want it to be nonfiction. I wasn't ready to.
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  Speaker 4: Be vulnerable, that vulnerable about my own life.
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  Speaker 5: So the fiction I said I'm gonna turn into a
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  Speaker 5: fiction out would change some names, change some scenery, but
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  Speaker 5: it is, you know, based on a single moment that I.
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  Speaker 4: You know, that I was in my twenties and thirties,
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  Speaker 4: and that's how it came to.
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  Speaker 1: So would you say that the vulnerability is what impacted
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  Speaker 1: you personally?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I would say that.
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  Speaker 5: And that kind of leads up to and you, I
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  Speaker 5: know you're going to speak on this later. But with
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  Speaker 5: the second book, which is the anthology The Moments for Moms,
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  Speaker 5: that one brought out the vulnerability. And that was a
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  Speaker 5: challenge because I had to really, you know, share my
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  Speaker 5: true self with others.
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  Speaker 1: Just want to hear about how that came about with
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  Speaker 1: you pinpoint in a turning point can illustrate the mindset
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  Speaker 1: shift or opportunity that propelled you forward, or for insight
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  Speaker 1: into how change happens, Rachel, what was there within specific
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  Speaker 1: turning point or some hot moment when you realize things
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  Speaker 1: were changing for the better in your life and career.
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  Speaker 2: I'll say this, and when I started in two thousand
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  Speaker 2: and four and became intentional, that was when everything pivoted immediately,
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  Speaker 2: because I immediately set up a clear plan of action
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  Speaker 2: of who I wanted to be and what my biggest
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  Speaker 2: why is. I think that what we do is we
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  Speaker 2: set goals without having something that is going to anchor us,
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  Speaker 2: something that's going to keep us accountable to our success.
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  Speaker 2: And what I did was my why to this day,
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  Speaker 2: twenty one years later, is still the same. I am
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  Speaker 2: a person that my children are proud of. I don't
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  Speaker 2: speak in future, I don't speak in past tense, or
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  Speaker 2: I speak in where I'm going to be and where
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  Speaker 2: I want to be. So I speak in affirmation. I
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  Speaker 2: speak in affirming what is mine and anything that I'm
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  Speaker 2: going for.
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  Speaker 3: I'm affirming that.
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  Speaker 2: So I was a person my children were was going
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  Speaker 2: to be proud of, and everything from that day forward
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  Speaker 2: reflected it. And when I really noticed The biggest change
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  Speaker 2: is when I went from sleeping on a couch and
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  Speaker 2: making seven dollars an hour to where my circumstances were changing.
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  Speaker 2: I want to say overnight, because in fourteen months I
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  Speaker 2: was promoted four times because I was intentional about the
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  Speaker 2: person I was being, So when I showed up at work,
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  Speaker 2: I didn't show up at work as an employee. I
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  Speaker 2: showed up to work every time as the best version
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  Speaker 2: of me. And that and that doesn't mean I was
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  Speaker 2: the best every day. Every day, I was getting better
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  Speaker 2: every day. It was about moving one step forward. It
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  Speaker 2: wasn't ten steps. I didn't go from zero to one hundred.
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  Speaker 2: It was zero to ten, zero to thirty, thirty to forty,
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  Speaker 2: forty to sixty and more and more months. The momentum
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  Speaker 2: came with the fact that I was constantly every day
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  Speaker 2: this is what this was my resimen. Guys, I'm and
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  Speaker 2: if you read my book Forest and Fire from Ashes
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  Speaker 2: to Empowerment it take, it speaks a lot to this.
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  Speaker 2: I was very similar to what Daddy was saying about
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  Speaker 2: not wanting to be vulnerable. I forced myself to be
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  Speaker 2: vulnerable because it was important to me that people understood
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  Speaker 2: that we all go through something and on the other side,
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  Speaker 2: it's survival, not victimhood.
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  Speaker 3: You're not a victim. You have survived whatever has taken place.
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  Speaker 2: And I wanted to give the moments of try tragedies,
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  Speaker 2: things that happened in my life, but the mindset that allowed.
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  Speaker 3: Me to get over it, go through it, move forward,
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  Speaker 3: and trust through even with my uncertainty.
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  Speaker 2: When I was uncertain with me and coming out on
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  Speaker 2: the other side and being able to still thrive.
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  Speaker 3: So I said, as I said to answer your question.
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  Speaker 2: The change was immediate for me because I immediately when
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  Speaker 2: I noticed I was pouring into everyone but me and
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  Speaker 2: my cup was always empty. I made that change immediately
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  Speaker 2: and started doing way more boundary, creating boundaries around my peace.
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  Speaker 2: I laugh all the time. I tell people I protect
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  Speaker 2: my peace with a shotgun. That's one thing I do
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  Speaker 2: not give up my peace to.
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  Speaker 1: No one blame you got people just blowing up the
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  Speaker 1: side this chart saying yes that part. Hello ladies, Hello family, sponsor,
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  Speaker 1: the crew, inspiring author. As we got this Malagros here,
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  Speaker 1: we got this Trevida here, we got DD here, and
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  Speaker 1: then powered in. They're powered in and they're talking to you.
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  Speaker 1: But I got a feeling and I'm going to have
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  Speaker 1: to change your title to the intentional leadership coach. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to start saying that the intentional leadership coach. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: that's black, Danny. Your next career move was connecting your
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  Speaker 1: book to your faith based view and it invites a
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  Speaker 1: heartfelt reflection. What was that like?
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  Speaker 5: It was challenging because I had to be vulnerable.
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  Speaker 4: I had to share.
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  Speaker 5: A part of myself and my feelings and my passed
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  Speaker 5: and what led me to now. So it was challenging
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  Speaker 5: at first. First I was like, I don't I don't
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  Speaker 5: think I'm going to back out, Like I can't. I
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  Speaker 5: can't tell them, you know, I can't. I can't share this.
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  Speaker 5: But a guy was saying, you know, it's time to
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  Speaker 5: to share, it's time to speak your truth. And it's
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  Speaker 5: you know, there's because there's other women who were who
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  Speaker 5: have the same story.
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  Speaker 4: And as we began to come together and I began
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  Speaker 4: to read the other women's stories and we shared.
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  Speaker 5: Before the release of the book, I was like, wow,
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  Speaker 5: that is so true, Like there really were people who
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  Speaker 5: really have gone through some things and we were alike,
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  Speaker 5: like we had the same you know, our journeys kind
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  Speaker 5: of took a similar path that wasn't everything wasn't the same,
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  Speaker 5: but I realized that I was not alone and and
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  Speaker 5: so yeah, I was able to just share and and
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  Speaker 5: and the women that were with me were just so
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  Speaker 5: like a singers, like a sisterhood that I really am.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the anthology that you're talking about, that anthology.
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  Speaker 1: It used to happens when you're in the anthology, that
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  Speaker 1: you become sisters or brothers and sisters. I want to know, also,
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  Speaker 1: what was harder getting to now or getting to know
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  Speaker 1: Danny in the way that Danny should know.
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  Speaker 5: Danny getting to know Danny And I'm still I'm still
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  Speaker 5: getting to know Danny.
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  Speaker 4: I'm still know Danny.
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  Speaker 5: And I like what Rachel was saying, she was talking
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  Speaker 5: like speakers to me, because I mean, I got.
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  Speaker 1: It was intentionally speaking to you. See, that's your intentionally.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna keep saying that. I keep saying that she
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  Speaker 1: was intentionally everybody else.
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  Speaker 4: To Yeah, she was intentionally speaking to me.
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  Speaker 5: Everything she was saying was intentionally for me, because that's
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  Speaker 5: the point I'm at at now reflecting and reinventing Danny.
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  Speaker 5: And you know now that Dan, you know because I'm
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I'm Danielle because that's what family knows me as.
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  Speaker 5: So now that I'm Danny and I'm taken on Danny
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  Speaker 5: to call the author, I'm finding me and I'm reinventing me.
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  Speaker 3: I love that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm proud of you, and so do I. I'm just
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  Speaker 1: a big one loving on you for that or identifying
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  Speaker 1: who you are and keeping yourself as a realist to
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  Speaker 1: say that this is who I am. There's no mistakes
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  Speaker 1: about it. In moments moments for mom and I just
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  Speaker 1: love that time you talk about motherhood as a divine
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  Speaker 1: I never heard it put that way, motherhood as a
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  Speaker 1: divine sign it can you share what made you few?
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  Speaker 1: Parenting as both a sacred honor and a challenging calling.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, sure so. So I'm a single mom, so when
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  Speaker 5: I had when I begin to have my children back
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  Speaker 5: in the nineties, and I'm a woman of.
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  Speaker 4: Faith, so I was in church for some I still
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  Speaker 4: am so.
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  Speaker 5: But as a woman of faith, being a single, being
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  Speaker 5: a young woman having children out of wet lock, this
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  Speaker 5: is in the nineties, that was kind of taboo. That
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  Speaker 5: was kind of like, oh my god, uh you know,
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  Speaker 5: so for me, I had to look at it. Children
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  Speaker 5: are blessing. Everyone is not blessed to have children. And
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  Speaker 5: when you when God blesses you, it's an assignment. Like
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  Speaker 5: he's giving you, he's giving it. He's given you the child,
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  Speaker 5: and it's up to you to be a good steward
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  Speaker 5: over end and the guys gives you. And that's how
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  Speaker 5: I looked at it, And so I wanted to be
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  Speaker 5: the best mother that I could be because God gave
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  Speaker 5: me my children, and so He's expected me to take
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  Speaker 5: care of them, to provide for.
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  Speaker 4: Them, you know, as they grow.
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  Speaker 5: That was challenging at first because my church family kind
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  Speaker 5: of shamed me.
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  Speaker 1: For that moment.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm glad I had my family and my family
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  Speaker 5: has been a big support, my mom, my grandmother, aunt's,
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  Speaker 5: uncle's best friends, because that was.
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  Speaker 4: A vulnerable moment. I'm in my twenties and.
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  Speaker 5: I'm pregnant, I'm no husband, and then now I'm ashamed,
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  Speaker 5: and you know, I'm trying to find Okay, Danielle now
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  Speaker 5: has these children, you know how she should God this buddy,
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  Speaker 5: grace of God that I'm here.
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  Speaker 1: The support of your family, support of your family, Like
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  Speaker 1: you said, it was an assignment. Just like you said,
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  Speaker 1: and you were chosen to carry that out, and you
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  Speaker 1: carried it out. So I wouldn't, you know, concern myself
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  Speaker 1: with that. Rachel. You recently you also had a call
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  Speaker 1: me and I'm so glad that you answered because you're
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  Speaker 1: serving as a panelist on cracks and the service strengths
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  Speaker 1: in the core not easily broken. Now this panel highlights
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  Speaker 1: your perspective on any strength and musilience. What was the
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  Speaker 1: message of that panel and what did you what did
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  Speaker 1: strengthen the call me to you in the context of
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  Speaker 1: your own.
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  Speaker 2: Life, I would say what I love about the panel
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  Speaker 2: is that first, I'm gonna be honest. When I first
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  Speaker 2: got the work book, I was like, oh, we got
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  Speaker 2: more work other Black You're always gonna get it. You're
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  Speaker 2: always gonna get me to be authentic and be an integritist.
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  Speaker 2: But once I started reading and have an understanding about
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  Speaker 2: what were you, what we were trying to do, how
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  Speaker 2: we were trying to impact people, and it was it
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  Speaker 2: was like, Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Take a moment. This isn't work.
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  Speaker 2: This is a mission, this is this is about helping
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  Speaker 2: others heal. This is why I wrote for As the Fire.
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  Speaker 2: So from this when I when I started going through
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  Speaker 2: the exercises, it brought some It brought some things back
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  Speaker 2: to my mind because you know how you you go
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  Speaker 2: through life and you're really just methodically just going through life.
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  Speaker 2: As things hit you, some knock you down, some pushed you,
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  Speaker 2: you pushed through. But when I was reading through your
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  Speaker 2: exercises in the book, it it made me have to
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  Speaker 2: take a second to reflect.
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  Speaker 3: And that's the part I.
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  Speaker 2: Like most about the the the companion guy that were
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  Speaker 2: reading currently and we're going through doing exercises, and I
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  Speaker 2: liked that part because it made me think about how
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  Speaker 2: did I really get through this? It made me dissect
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  Speaker 2: that a little bit, which would you asked Dadi and
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  Speaker 2: Nicole was just saying. It allowed me to find to
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  Speaker 2: figure out some more things about myself that I really.
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  Speaker 3: Thought I knew.
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  Speaker 2: Because we're all growing and we're all developing on an
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  Speaker 2: everyday basis. You learn more about yourself as you get
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  Speaker 2: older and as you as you get through things. You
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  Speaker 2: because as a child, as a younger, when you like
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  Speaker 2: in your twenties, you're still growing.
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  Speaker 3: Your mind is still growing.
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  Speaker 2: Our minds an't even developed fully into where in our
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  Speaker 2: twenty five twenty six, So going through those exercises really
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  Speaker 2: brought to.
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  Speaker 3: Light when I when I concentrated on.
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  Speaker 2: What you were asking and took that in and then
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  Speaker 2: started answering those questions transparently, being transparent, I tell you
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  Speaker 2: the heart. I tell everyone, the hardest thing to do
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  Speaker 2: is to be transparent with you. We could tell you
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  Speaker 2: we all we all constantly wear a mask of some sort,
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  Speaker 2: And the hardest thing is to be very honest with yourself.
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  Speaker 2: And that companion God did just that. It asks you
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  Speaker 2: to be honest, and if you're honest with you, then
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  Speaker 2: you really realize the pars where you were broken and
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  Speaker 2: where you really started putting yourself back together. So I
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  Speaker 2: appreciate the work that I said in the beginning, but
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  Speaker 2: now it also it's it's going along with me on
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  Speaker 2: the journey for the next portion, where now I'm helping
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  Speaker 2: other people find that those moments of clarity in their lives.
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  Speaker 3: So I appreciate the guy. At this point, I'm.
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  Speaker 1: So proud of all of you on the panel and
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  Speaker 1: doing the work, and I see it with each and
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  Speaker 1: every one of you. And I'm gona tell you I've
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  Speaker 1: been doing the work too. May have written it, but
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  Speaker 1: I get it in I do something to work too,
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  Speaker 1: because I reflect on a lot of what I may
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  Speaker 1: have written, but I wrote it for someone else. But
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  Speaker 1: now I'm looking at it with a different settle lens.
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  Speaker 1: And it feels good to go through this journey, you know.
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  Speaker 1: And I've always talked about parenting yourself, so it's given
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  Speaker 1: me another opportunity to go right back through it again.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm enjoying this journey, and I'm enjoying watching you
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  Speaker 1: all enjoy this journey and watching you go through the process.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone that's going through this process, they're going through it
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  Speaker 1: in a different way, and you all are sharing your
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  Speaker 1: journey with the public. So I appreciate that. Thank you
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  Speaker 1: so much for joining us. Tonight's your meeting. So excuse me.
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  Speaker 3: You have a ship.
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  Speaker 2: I would say this on the air while so everybody
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  Speaker 2: here is it. You got to take care of yourself too,
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  Speaker 2: Black Diamond. You gotta do it.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody tells me that, and I'm going to Yeah, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: run miles a minute.
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  Speaker 2: We running miles a minute, trying to make sure that
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  Speaker 2: we get everything out here, because we have so much
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  Speaker 2: that we want to pour into the world, but we
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  Speaker 2: have Just like I said it to myself, you have
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  Speaker 2: to pour into you.
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  Speaker 3: I'm the happiest I've been in my.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Whole life right now because every day to get to
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: that happy.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: And I said, I'm going to take a step back,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: but I know me. I'll say I'm want to take
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: a step back. I'm right back in it again. But
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: I'm hoping that this major move that I'm gonna make
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: will get me to happy, because just thinking about it,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: I'm getting to happy. So I'm coming. I'm coming. I'll
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: let you know. That's what I said. The work book
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: is working for me as well. So Danny, wisdom is
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: gained over time and I get that and many parents
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: they can relate to me. However, during your journey, you
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: raised children in two different stages in your early twenties
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: and I know something about that with the church, and
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: also in your late thirties, so there's a gap between
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: your children. I guess how did you approach to parenting
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: evolving with age experience and maturity? Because I'm saying in
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: your twenties, there's one thing. Then when you get in
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: your thirties age experience and maturity, how did you approach
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: that parenting?
• 23:27
  Speaker 5: So that was a hard approach, it really was. I
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: know that my patience is a little, one little thing.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Now.
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: When I had my child later in life, in my thirties,
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: in my twenties, like Virtue was saying, I wasn't fully
• 23:50
  Speaker 5: developed like I was twenty two. So I'm trying to
• 23:55
  Speaker 5: figure out this parenting thing. And I'm a single I'm
• 23:59
  Speaker 5: a single parent. So now I'm trying to figure that out.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: So I'm my mom.
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: I'm a single mom.
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: Trying to raise I had two children at the time,
• 24:10
  Speaker 5: and it was a challenge because there's no handbook for
• 24:14
  Speaker 5: parents even when you have children when you're older. So
• 24:19
  Speaker 5: I'm figuring out along the way. And then as I
• 24:23
  Speaker 5: got older. Now it's about thirteen years so kids are
• 24:26
  Speaker 5: in college, I mean, I'm sorry, high school.
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: And then I'm.
• 24:30
  Speaker 5: Thirty seven, I'm having another baby. So that was like, wait,
• 24:36
  Speaker 5: how am I going to do this? You know, that's
• 24:39
  Speaker 5: kind of a big gap, you know, what, how is
• 24:43
  Speaker 5: this going to work? Because like you said, it's a
• 24:45
  Speaker 5: totally what the generation of differences. But I learned I
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: was and I was still figuring out Danyelle, not Danny yet.
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: Still dan Yelle.
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: I'm I'm still faring out this parenting me because.
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: Now I thought I was done raising the children, and
• 25:05
  Speaker 5: here goes another child. And again the support of my family,
• 25:11
  Speaker 5: my faith in God.
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: He definitely has played a major role in my life.
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: I love God.
• 25:20
  Speaker 5: God is the center of my life, and I wouldn't
• 25:24
  Speaker 5: be where I'm at without him.
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: I went about the love of.
• 25:29
  Speaker 5: God, loving me despite my thoughts, loving me when I
• 25:34
  Speaker 5: wanted to turn the other way, loved me when I
• 25:37
  Speaker 5: said I can't raise these children.
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: It's just I just can't do it. And God was like,
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: I got you, and I got you from back then.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to throw intention to your way as well.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: You wrote it moments for mom At what part it
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: was intentionally written for Danny and Danielle? What part in
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: that book was written for you?
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: What part?
• 26:15
  Speaker 6: Throw your curve balls in a minute, I know, right,
• 26:17
  Speaker 6: I got at the book. No, actually, I'm gonna have.
• 26:26
  Speaker 5: To say the whole chapter because again it was a
• 26:30
  Speaker 5: book where I had to be vulnerable and I had
• 26:33
  Speaker 5: to really step back and present myself and this is real,
• 26:40
  Speaker 5: like this isn't fiction, this isn't something made up, Like I'm.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: Gonna be sharing my real life, my real truths, and.
• 26:50
  Speaker 5: That that chapter introduced Dan, Danny and Danielle. It's telling
• 26:56
  Speaker 5: people about who I am and whose I am.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: Then you arrived, Yes, I love it. You arrived and
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: you're not going anywhere, and letting them know you are here,
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: you are here to stay. Yes, and I'm sorry, Hey,
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that. And I'm glad for you and
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: happy for you. And what I'm going to say is
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: welcome to any end. Yeah, yea yeah. Using relatorship or
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: using a coaching approach demonstrates the practical ways you left people.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: You're known for helping others build their confidence and leadership skills.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: What is your approach, Rachel, when empowering other people to
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: find their strengths and potential when they feel as though
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: that they are broken.
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: Mhm. I will say my first approach is for them
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: to take the opportunity to breathe, breathe through it. And
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: when you when you are when you say that you
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: are now ready for growth, understanding that you have to
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: learn who you are before you start growing. And the
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: first part of my coach, My coaching program is all
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: about self being self aware, being self assured, having self discipline,
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: self care, and just building up you.
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: Before we ever get into talking.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: About your specific goals, your specific things you want to do,
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: because if you don't talk or develop the you, those
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: goals will go by the waste line because you'll still
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: be battling with things like limited beliefs, things in your life.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: So when you're broken, I say, the first thing is
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: you have to first fix the broken youth and not
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: hold on to the broken youth. So let's sen let this.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna say hold on to the broken. You
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: understand that you're broken, develop those those broke, the things
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: that broke your confidence in you or because a lot
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: of times when you're broken, it is because you're not
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: confident that you can handle a situation, or things in
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: your life have pushed you against the wall that make
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: you feel as if you cannot stand up.
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: Rely on you.
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: That's the first thing I say. Rely on the fact
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: that you are strong enough to get through it, because
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: you've gotten through it. Every time we relive those moments,
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: we make them new. I want to say. Every time
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: we go back in the past and we relive those
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: moments and make them present day thoughts, we bring the
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: pain back to the present.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: Do you believe that some people hold on to that
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: brokenness because they're afraid to let it go that they know.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: Yes, ma'am, I really believe that, And I spoke on
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: this a little bit on Cash yesterday as well as
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: my radio show. What I said was this is that
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: we are comfortable with what we know. The future is unknown,
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: so you're uncomfortable to move forward, so you stay stuck
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: in the past because that is familiar. But trust me,
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: familiar will get you caught in a cycle that doesn't
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: allow you to find growth. So the only way to
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: find growth is sometimes. I think I said this on
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: on on on our show a couple of weeks ago,
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: because we're all it's almost time to do the show again.
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: This month is.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: Flew by, But we can't wait for other people to
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: validate our pain or help us get through it. And
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: this is from the people from the past that might
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: have hurt us. Sometimes we're waiting for them to acknowledge
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: that they've done wrong or acknowledge that they they've heard
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: of us. The only person that needs to acknowledge your
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: pain is you. And then once you acknowledge it, it's
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: I have a thing I call fad or was it
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: within within my program, It's come and I named it
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: that way just because I tell people acknowledge it, debunk
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: that is real because remember, the past is over, it's
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: no longer realm elevator, elevate above it, and then reprogram
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: your mind to move forward. That's the the hardest one
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: out of it is the r reprogram, because you program
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: yourself as you're no longer a victim. You are a survivor.
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: And once you are no longer a victim, you're not
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: holding onto the victim mentality. You don't have to prove
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: that it happened to you. You don't have to prove
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: that you're over it. You are just now proving that
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: it happened is over. You have survived it, and now
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: you're ready to thrive. But you have to hear over
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: being a victim. You have to let go of being
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: a victim. And sometimes people want to be a victim
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: because that's the way of getting simple, that's.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: Their comfort zone. Yeah. Yeah, you is saying that she's
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: working on it. Now you all are hearing what leadership coach.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: You know, I take that back, intention leadership. That's what
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: intentional leadership coach. It's and you really want to hear
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: what she has to say. Go out on June fifteenth
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: in Chicago, Illinois, from two to six pm. Get your
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: ticket now, because she's gonna be there. And if you
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: just hear and just listen, you see here just for
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: forty five minutes, could you imagine what she's going to
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: do on that date? And you get ready. I'm ready
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: to get your things. Are they ready?
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: But they better get ready. If you're not ready, get ready.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: You don't need you don't need your your paper, yours
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: need you. I'm gonna supply everything else.
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: There you go, Danny, You inspire and I hear somebody
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: in here saying that welcome Danny, Welcome Dad, y'all, Yes, yes, Danny,
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: and welcome Dan yell. So you see, y'all, y'all are
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: bringing out a lot tonight, all the people.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: There we go.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: Danny, you inspired me with your talk about entrepreneurship, faith
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: and vision. You mentioned wanting to leave a legacy that
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: your children can be proud of. I think they're proud
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: of you already. What does legacy look like to you today?
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: And how are you actively building it?
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: Well, I'm still I want to say I'm still building it.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: I'm still.
• 33:56
  Speaker 5: Because I'm still finding me, So I believe it's an
• 34:01
  Speaker 5: ongoing process. Because now that I've reflected on my past
• 34:09
  Speaker 5: and now left that in the past, and now that
• 34:12
  Speaker 5: I'm moving forward, I'm re establishing Danny and I'm re
• 34:18
  Speaker 5: establishing that legacy.
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: And so it's not done. I wouldn't.
• 34:26
  Speaker 5: I'm not going to say it's even complete, because I'm
• 34:28
  Speaker 5: still adding to it.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: I'm still What's so amazing about it. What's so amazing
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: about it is that your children are watching you, yes,
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: go through that journey. And that's the amazing part of this.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: That they're watching you. They'll see, whether they want to say, Danny, Danielle,
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: mom or whatever, they are seeing you go through that,
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: seeing the growth, and they're knowing that they can do
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: this too. So I know, I don't know your children,
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: but I'm quite sure that they uh very much so
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: proud of you. Yes, Rachel. The Distinguished Author's Guilt Dad
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: was under the leadership of Gina Katson sheds light and
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: involvement with the organization that extends into community advocacy and
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: why that work matters as a dad ambassador, She's an ambassador.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: Now you hold a intentional leadership type that not everyone
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: may know about it. Can you explain what Dago up
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: and tells him why that role is important to your legacy.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: So DAG Distinguished Author's Guild, let me let me first
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: and foremost say it is a group of amazing, amazing authors,
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: award winning authors, of nominated authors. And I have happened
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: to be an ambassador. I have the privilege to be
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: an ambassador. And as an ambassador, we are supporting everyone,
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: every single person who is an author within DAG. Can
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: we we talk about Dag's Group. We bring them on podcasts,
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: we took we we we we put out their information.
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: We we are not just as an author myself, I'm
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: not just promoting me. I promote every single author on
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: my radio show Wake Up CEO. There have been two
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: authors who have come on the show, as well as
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: doctor Carolyn Stevens, which is the creative director for a
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: Distinguished Author's Guild. I was I was honored to be asked,
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: and I was already before I was even asked, I
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: had already started helping the Distinguished Author's Guilt behind the
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: scenes and the first my first order of business was
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: to get.
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: A website for for the authors.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: So I talked to my one of my i' mint teas,
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: which is now one of my creative He is my
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: graphic designer. I had him create a rep website because
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: to me, when you are looking to help someone grow,
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: you help someone grow, you don't talk about it. I
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: want to be the change I want to see in
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: the world, not talk about the change I want to
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: see in the world.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: And I'm gonna have to start charging doers for this.
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: This shew tonight a lot of information. So I got
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: a feeling we got have to put a little thing
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: on the side of blue buttons. Let me know you
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: want to do watch it in the rerun. You're gonna
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: have to pay for that, because hey, a mount of
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: times times you must mind. You can look look who
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: I have on my show tonight. So yes, I think
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: that I should have did that before the show even started.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: But it's not too late for anybody that wants to
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: join and put the book in with Dad, because you
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: have a few more weeks.
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: Yes, you have an exactly exactly to the first I
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: think it's the first week of June to put your
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: book in. If the Lincoln is not present currently, we
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: will make sure that the link is out. But what
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: you can go to right now is Distinguished Authors gild
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: Facebook page. Once you go to the page, the link
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: is right there for you. Uh. And in the next
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: couple of weeks that it will be live on the
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: on the web. We're gonna get that website up and running.
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: There's a There was a lot of moving pieces, but
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: at the end of the day, we are all working
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: tours as ambassadors to help authors find success with their books.
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: You poured out your heart to get the book written,
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: get the book published, and you're trying to get that
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: book monetized. I want to say something. Authors that are
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: listening are inspiring authors who who are looking to be authors.
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: Your book is a bit treated as such. When you
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: are the CEO of your life, you're the CEO of
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: every component of it. If you are looking for your book,
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: those words, of those words that can play, they came
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: from you and pour it onto those pages, and you're
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: looking for them to reach other people. Market, market, promote, promote, promote,
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: and did I say it promote Because the only way,
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: the only way your book gets out there without being
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: lost in the sixty million books that are that are
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: out there, is.
• 39:33
  Speaker 3: That you must be the voice for your book. No
• 39:36
  Speaker 3: one knows it better than you. So I on this show.
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: I will say this, if you are looking for a platform,
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: go to Distinguished Author's Guild. They don't they not only
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: do they celebrate literary excellence with an award, they help
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: you grow your brand.
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: That is what is about at the end of the day, growing,
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: growing the brand, brand of your book.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: And I have been honored with every member of the
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: Stinguish Author's Guild from every ambassador. They share my quotes,
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: they share my lives, they they support. The first day
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: I went live on the air of radio, every ambassador
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: was on either a live chat or was actually on
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: the radio. That's the type of support we do. But
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: hold on, let's let's let's not leave out. We talked
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: about the singers give, but let's not leave out Triple A,
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: LA C. We don't want to leave them out either.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: Support is there as well, Support with resources, support with information,
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: support with places for you to get out there and market, promote, promote, promote,
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: And I gotta say it again, did I say it?
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: Promote?
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: It's your business. It's the broader impact of literacy and representing.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: Representation reveals the passion and purpose. So you are a
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: member of the African American Authors Literary where this campaign,
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: which is ILAC underneath, Miss Angela Thomas, Why is promoting
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: literacy and authorship in the African American community so important
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: to you?
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: And how has.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: ALAC influenced your journey and does it align with your mission?
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: But before you answer that question, I want to give
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: a shout out to a few people who are here tonight.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: And that's some of the DAG sisters and brothers. That's here.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: And we got Farren who's put up the link for DAG.
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: We have Cheryn Baldlin, Northern Legrand. She says. Also, my
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: beautiful ladies, we got the founding sponsors, saying that part
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: we have Aspiring Author's magazine saying that part we got
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: d D. You are being an example and a leader.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: She's saying, founding sponsors property to the grief. Oh my gosh,
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: you got so many people one saying these things to you, ladies,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: get your books. They're staying to people. Healing Voice is
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: navigating get your book. We got show again saying you
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: better say it. And I'm just saying them just reading
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: it and it's just going through it and says from
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: Tremaine Thaccent, we need to take care of ourselves. Others
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: may depend on us, and yes, that is definitely true.
• 42:19
  Speaker 3: Show.
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: She's trying to get there, so we're am trying to
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: figure out where's where's there for her so we can
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: help her get there. Okay. So that's what we're going
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: through for you. Show. We don't know where there is yet,
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: but we want to find out from you where is
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: it that you want to go so we can help
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: you get there. Okay. So this is where we're at
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: with everything. Hey, Patrice, thank you so much for coming in.
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: So you just have you have everybody that's here to
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: support one another because I recognize these names and what
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: everybody is doing. But getting back to you, I would
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: like to know what is your approach within you're going
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: through the island. How has ILAC influenced your journey? How
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: does it align with your mission?
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: I would say this. I want to say Queen Angela
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: is phenomenal. She puts so many resources together. She is
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: always so I mean five o'clock in the morning, she's
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: on the prayer line. I'm getting emails at five fifteen,
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: five point thirty, we're talking at six am. What I
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: will say is that the support of growth, the support
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  Speaker 2: of not only growing the brand but also growing individuals
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: within that brand, because sometimes when you when you run
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: in an organization, you don't have time to help people
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: go up.
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: You don't have time people is to help people find
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: their voice. All I hear Angela do.
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: Is put out there how for us to find our voice,
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: how to support each other, how to like posts, how
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: to get that algorithm going about the forty four people
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: in there. That this tells you how much I look
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: at those posts that she puts in there, because I
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: know how many members are part of the group, because
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: I'm watching, because she's intentional about our growth, and when
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: you have people that are intentional about your growth, you're
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: intentionally gonna help them grow. I called Angela when she
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: said she was coming to Chicago, and we talked about
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: some things to help market the authors. I called doctor
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: Carolyn Stevens and said the same thing. I said, what
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: can we do because I don't want I want. I
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: love the support, ladies. I love the support of coming
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: to Chicago and supporting me, but I am a person
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: who supports as well. So I wanted to make sure
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: that when they came here that there was an opportunity
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: for them to sell books one more time. Promote, promote, promote,
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: and then promote again. That is what I'm about. I
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: want I want success for them.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: That's an intentional part her. I've been telling you all
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: about tonight. Somebody mentioned here that we need to take
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: care of ourselves and that goes for you too, Angela.
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: Take care of yourself because others may depend on you. Okay,
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: take care of yourself as well. I know what Rachel
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: is talking about. I've seen your work and I've had
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: conversations with you, and I don't think that I'm the
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: only one that had that kind of conversation with you. Danny.
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: We all know that self care and realistic reflections are important.
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: You once said, motherhood is a twenty four to seven row,
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: like a nine one one operator. If you are or
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: parent and you know exactly what it is, what we're
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: talking about, how is it align and how are you
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: caring for yourself by constantly pouring into your children? Because
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: it is like a nine one one operator, It is
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: a twenty four hour, seven days a week. I'm almost
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: believing that it there is an eighth day in the
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: week because quick, you know here it is Sunday, and
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: then by the time you get this Saturday. It's like
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: you see in double I just saw myself past. Myself
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: is eight days. I don't know anybody else is saying
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: it's eight days in the week. And how y'all can
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: try to have me committed if you want to, y'all
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: gonna see it too. How does it alignment how you're
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: pouring into your children. So it is.
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  Speaker 5: Like I said earlier, there is no handbook for parenting.
• 46:34
  Speaker 5: It took a while to even realize to take care
• 46:39
  Speaker 5: of myself because.
• 46:41
  Speaker 4: The children do require your time.
• 46:44
  Speaker 5: I mean your time, your money, you're working, you're you're
• 46:50
  Speaker 5: trying to do after school activities, trying to spend time
• 46:54
  Speaker 5: on weekend. But again I had to find self time
• 47:02
  Speaker 5: for self care and I just and I demand it.
• 47:05
  Speaker 5: Like it's like now I'm taking this time for me.
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, Danny talking about Danielle talking about saying she demanding stuff.
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: Both you came on with Danielle, but now look at her.
• 47:18
  Speaker 4: I need you. I demanded Now I demanded.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: Because I know I had on my show before. This
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: is not her first go round. I didn't hear this
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: Danny person. Yeah I'm here and Danny and.
• 47:36
  Speaker 5: Scared you.
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: Who she is?
• 47:40
  Speaker 5: Yeah, time to grow. I've had time to grow, I
• 47:44
  Speaker 5: had time to reflect, I've had time to have self care,
• 47:48
  Speaker 5: to reflect. It's important that it's it's just really important
• 47:55
  Speaker 5: that I'm older. I'm really realizing that I have to
• 47:59
  Speaker 5: take care me and I have to set boundaries.
• 48:02
  Speaker 4: Rachel shared that earlier, like you, you got to just
• 48:05
  Speaker 4: set some boundaries like this is what it is. And
• 48:09
  Speaker 4: I got to take care of myself.
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: And you inspire others who may be holding on to
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: faith while working hard. And faith is an action word.
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: What does that look like in your daily life as
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: a woman of faith, a mother, and in your experience
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: as a business woman.
• 48:28
  Speaker 5: So it hasn't always come easy. So I have had
• 48:34
  Speaker 5: wavering faith, and I'm gonna be honest about that. But
• 48:39
  Speaker 5: I've been learning to stay before God for everything and
• 48:45
  Speaker 5: ask him, Lord, what does.
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: It you need me to do?
• 48:47
  Speaker 5: What is it that I can do better that I
• 48:51
  Speaker 5: can be a help for others, to my children, for
• 48:55
  Speaker 5: other people that I'm coming into contact with that maybe
• 48:58
  Speaker 5: want to learn about how to be an author, or
• 49:02
  Speaker 5: that I meet at work. So faith is action, like
• 49:06
  Speaker 5: it says in about of faith without works is dead.
• 49:09
  Speaker 5: And I truly believe that and that's one of the
• 49:12
  Speaker 5: mantras I stand with. You know, I have to put
• 49:15
  Speaker 5: my faith into action, and I had so people can
• 49:18
  Speaker 5: see Daniel's got the faith, and Daniel's moving Forore and
• 49:21
  Speaker 5: Dan He's not giving up.
• 49:23
  Speaker 4: So that's how I'm moving forward.
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: Now, Rachel, I've seen your energy, and I know they've
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: seen it here Tonight's exuberates. Please share where your energy
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: comes from and lessons from collaborating with other authors. Now
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: I told you I've been keeping an eye on you.
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: You recently participated in the original Chasing Your Dream book
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: tour and literary expot with one hundred authors. What was
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: it like to be part of such a huge gathering
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: of writers and what did you take away from that experience?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, let's we'll start with question one. So, so, what
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: was the first question. I want to make sure I
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: get you all your answers.
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: I want you to share with you who comes from.
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  Speaker 3: I'll say this, every day I meditate. I have a regimen.
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: I am grateful every day. Before I go there's gonna
• 50:23
  Speaker 3: be a little tea of mine. I go to the restroom.
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: Then I wash my hands, Then I before I brust
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: my teeth, I put on my border gratitude. What I'm
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: grateful for today, because every single day you must lead
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: your life with gratitude. You cannot live in whatever you
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: believe you're lacking. What are you grateful for today? But
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: sometimes my gratitude, my gratitude board has love, abundance, patience, breathing,
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: and and and it'll be showing and just love because
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: I love me always. I I know it sounds selfish,
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: but I wanted someone to just just listen a little
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: part here. If you are not selfish with you, you
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: can't be selfless. Yourself is still in it. So I've
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: learned to build me. So after I do my gratitude,
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: I do an affirmation on my calendar that my wife
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: and I signed off on. We signed off on being
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: millionaires and moving accordingly.
• 51:24
  Speaker 3: Every day. Then I meditate.
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: I meditate for when I very first started, and meditation
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: for me was being able to get in tune with
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: myself and listen to God pour into me. And God
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: is in everything and in me. So I asked a question,
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: a simple question, and I meditate for fifteen to twenty
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: minutes every single day, and I ponder that question.
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: I don't look for the answer. I allow of answers
• 51:55
  Speaker 3: to come to me.
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: I am always afterwards, I say thank you, write, I
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: write down my thoughts from that meditation because I'm always looking.
• 52:06
  Speaker 3: That's how I pour into me. I on a everyday basis,
• 52:10
  Speaker 3: I listened to at least one hour day.
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: Of only motivational music podcasts or books own.
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: So you participated in the original Chasing Your Dream book tour?
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: What was that like to be a part of such
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: a huge gathering.
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: The biggest thing was was a support. Support support support.
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: Everyone was extremely supportive when I came in the room,
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: when we started talking and just hearing everyone's story that
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: that allows.
• 52:43
  Speaker 3: You to feel the energy of connection, that moment of
• 52:47
  Speaker 3: connection when I would actually hugged Angela.
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: As I talked to Angela a lot, talk her online,
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: talk to on emails, were talking and the hugger in person,
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: and the first thing I said is I came to
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: see you. I wanted to see her in person because
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: I wanted to tell her in person she's not alone
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: and stop acting as if she's alone.
• 53:07
  Speaker 4: Stop working alone, work work team.
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna keep saying it. I hope she's hearing this.
• 53:21
  Speaker 3: If she's not listening, I'll say we'll say. I'll say
• 53:23
  Speaker 3: it again when I talk to her.
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: Soon this tape. She's listening.
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: Because you created yeah, I mean yeah, she created an organization.
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: Now let the support come in. I think I always
• 53:42
  Speaker 2: believe that everyone comes into your life for seasons reasons
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: and comes here to meet you for her purpose. I
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: have growth, i have leadership, I have organizational skills. I'm
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: here to help. So when I call her on the
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: phone to say I'm here to help, what do you need?
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: What do you need? I'm here. I'm not I'm I'm
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: not one of these people who lends out the hand
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: and says I'm a help. But I'm not. So I
• 54:08
  Speaker 3: call reinforcements.
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: After I call reinforcements, after I called talked to her,
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: I talked to doctor Stevens. Asked her to get some assistance,
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: give me some information, let's go, how do we move forward?
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: Because you can do you can do, you can do
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: something good by yourself, you can do something extraordinary with
• 54:26
  Speaker 2: a team.
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: But she's listening because saying, coach Rach, you got in
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: front of it.
• 54:34
  Speaker 3: Though she has a new title.
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: Coach Rache.
• 54:40
  Speaker 3: Okay, but that's what I got from being at the event.
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: The camaraderie, the opportunity to just hugger and say that
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: in her ear that she's not even when you.
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: Join this organization, that's what you get. That's what you're
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: gonna get when you join.
• 54:59
  Speaker 3: That's the same thing.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: This is a family, and if you want to join,
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: you can. When we're not going to sit in and say,
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: oh no, you don't qualify, you do qualify, Just join. So, Rachel,
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: I mean, Danny, you created a deeply emotional spiritual moment
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: for all listeners. When you hit low points, you turn
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: to prayer, scripture, or worship. What's one moment when God's
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: presence sustain you through a difficult time in motherhood or life?
• 55:32
  Speaker 4: Hmmm, one times, so many?
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: What stands out to you the most?
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: What stands out to me the most? Wow, that's a
• 55:48
  Speaker 4: loaded question here.
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: I'll make for you this way.
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: What message or lesson from God do you hope pour
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: it into you?
• 55:56
  Speaker 4: Gotcha?
• 55:57
  Speaker 5: So I would have to say say, I keep hearing
• 56:04
  Speaker 5: God say you are enough, and you're enough because I
• 56:09
  Speaker 5: created you to be enough. And so I again I'm
• 56:17
  Speaker 5: going back to Rachel early on because she said it's
• 56:19
  Speaker 5: the mindset.
• 56:21
  Speaker 4: It's a lot of things are in our minds that.
• 56:26
  Speaker 5: Hinders us from moving forward or hinders us from our greatness,
• 56:30
  Speaker 5: and we have to change the way we think.
• 56:33
  Speaker 4: So in my in me reflecting again and changing the mindset.
• 56:42
  Speaker 5: And realizing I am enough because that's what God made
• 56:46
  Speaker 5: me to be. Now I am aware that that's that's
• 56:51
  Speaker 5: all I need. If God says I'm enough.
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: Then I'm enough.
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So what that's I want you, Danny, to come
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: full circle to speak directly to our audience and our
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: listeners with encouragement. You ended your chapter with a powerful
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: message for all types of mothers, single, married forster and
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: grandmothers and so on and so forth. What would you
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: say to the woman listening right now who feels like
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: she's not enough?
• 57:22
  Speaker 5: I would say, give yourself some grace, give yourself grace
• 57:29
  Speaker 5: and realize that you are still growing.
• 57:33
  Speaker 4: I mean we're older, like I'm older, but I'm still growing.
• 57:37
  Speaker 5: And for me, my faith in God is what keeps
• 57:44
  Speaker 5: me going because I know, no matter what, God's going
• 57:47
  Speaker 5: to be there for me. God's never going to turn
• 57:49
  Speaker 5: this back on me. And again that's going back to
• 57:53
  Speaker 5: I'm enough. You are enough, Allow yourself, take care of yourself.
• 57:59
  Speaker 5: I think we tell talk about this most of it
• 58:01
  Speaker 5: a lot of times throughout that self care is so
• 58:05
  Speaker 5: important because you can't take care if you not take
• 58:08
  Speaker 5: care of yourself, help you take care of someone else.
• 58:11
  Speaker 4: So definitely allow of time and demand that you have.
• 58:16
  Speaker 4: Demand your time.
• 58:17
  Speaker 5: What reclaim your time, Demand your time, demand your self care.
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: Ddy is saying that she has to tell herself that daily,
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: that she is enough that she has to tell herself that. So, Rachel,
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: for listeners who are facing challenges like the ones you
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: want space, what message or advice would you shared to
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: help them pursue their dreams and achieve their own six
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: figure success? And I have to get in on that too,
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: me too, So I'm gonna start here, be in the room.
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: June fifteenth.
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: My book, the book Launch Immersive Vent. It's called hashtag
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: poverty from six figures. It takes you from a six
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: figure a poverty mindset because poverty is not a money amount,
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: it's a mindset. You could be a millionaire and have
• 59:12
  Speaker 2: a poverty mindset that will take you from a million
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: to zero. So it builds your mindset that is needed
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: to grow. And I know one thing you guys noticed
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: that everything about me is mindset because your mindset allows.
• 59:26
  Speaker 3: You to grow. It gives you the growth that is
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: needed for your success. How you grow, change what you're thinking.
• 59:33
  Speaker 3: Get rid of.
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: As one of my favorite mentor says, stinking thinking will
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: keep you stuck. So the first thing is, let's get
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: the positive mindset. Knows as Danny said, No, you are enough.
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: You are divinely created to be the perfect person that
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: you are. Every challenge that you faced, everything that you've
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: gone through has made you the perfect version of you.
• 59:58
  Speaker 3: There's no one like you. There's there's nothing.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: You can look in the mirror, and that person in
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: the mirror is different than a person that looks back
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: because you learn something when you look in the mirror.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 2: So that means that you your reflection is reflecting something old.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: Think about that, when you even look in the mirror,
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: you're reflecting the past because the president you has just
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: learned something new about. So what I will say is
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 2: you stay staying focused on your dreams and your desires
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 2: and taking a dream into a gold plan and be
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 2: intentional about your actions. Know that you are enough, Know
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: that you have enough, and what you don't know right
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: now start learning. Will you make your listen when you
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 2: when you want to grow, you make the listen to
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: what you do know and what you don't know. Start
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: with what you do know, and grow to what you
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: don't know because you don't because and get assistance when needed.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 2: I don't say it just because of a coach. I'm
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 2: saying that speaking to another individual allows you to find success.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: My mentor is doctor, so I speak to her on
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: a regular about things that are for my growth, for
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: the next level of my growth.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 3: And I know there's other.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 2: People on the pedal who are who have had some
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: of the similar conversations I have with Will you have
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: those conversations of in depth knowledge and growth. If your
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 2: coach doesn't have a coach, you got the wrong coach
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 2: because your coach can't pour see if they're not as
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: long as you want to pour it to them.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: She's not just dropping nuggets. There's spicy nuggets. So when
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: they start coming down, grabbing them, throw them in the
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 1: basket because they're gonna be too hot to handle. Because
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: she's hot tonight. My lady's hot tonight. So this is
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 1: where we're at. Looking at everything you've accomplished in the
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 1: communities you've touched, Ladies, what do you hope your journey
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: teaches others about what's possible in life. And then we're
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: gonna wrap that up after this. Give me something quick.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 4: Anything is possible. I got a T shirt that says that.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: Anyway, it's funny you say that. My T shirt says
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: I'm possible. The word impossible does not exist. The word
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 2: says I'm possible.
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: That is what it is.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: I'm I'm possible. I'm possible. The name of my academy,
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 3: how you find me in any way? Say I am.
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 2: Possible dot com, w w SA, i am possible dot com.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 2: That's where my academy is, my books are, my vinsar,
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 2: everything is Because the word impossible doesn't exist, it says
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 2: I'm possible.
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: On that note, Danny, how could they reach out to you?
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: Want to give them some information? Yeah? Reach out to you.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 5: So I'm on Facebook at Danny Nicole and Danny the
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 5: Cold the Author, I'm on Instagram at Danny the Coole
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 5: the Author, and in my website is www dot Danny
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 5: Nicole the Author dot com.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: So what a what a powerful conversation tonight when intentional
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: coach Rachel and Danny see I canna say, Dan, you
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: gonna say, Danny, two women walking in purpose, leading with
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: heart and reminding us all that healing and hope can coexist.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: So if anything they said tonight resonated with you, take
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: a moment to share this episode, leave us a review,
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: and keep the conversation going in your circle. Healing is
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: a journey and you don't have to walk it along,
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: and don't get On Friday, May sixteenth, at eight pm,
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: Posession two of Cracks in the Surface, Strength in the
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: Cord not easily Broken. And yes, doctor Carolyn Stevens is
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  Speaker 1: part of that panel. The panel is ready, the pages
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  Speaker 1: are waiting, and you're healing. It's still happening. And get
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  Speaker 1: your copy of Cracks in the Surface, Strength in the
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  Speaker 1: Core Not easily Broken, and follow along with us in
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  Speaker 1: the workbook. I guarantee you you're going to enjoy your
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  Speaker 1: journey and tell you but not easily broken. Mm hmm