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Season 2 - Episode 47 - When your intentions and goals don’t arrive on time · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So, today I want to talk to you about the fact that sometimes
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  our intentions and our outcomes don't actually arrive on time.
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  Always love that one really go. No and plan that it was going to
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  work by this time and how much that spins us on a control.
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  And the moment we start to spend on a control, we start to have
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  even more problems because ultimately our emotions, create
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  more of the situation that we're experiencing.
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  And I cannot stress this enough. I know we talked about it a lot,
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  but when you're focused on a large outcome, It's a it's
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  inherently an opportunity for stress to arrive.
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  And when you have stress arrived, it's just supposed to
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  come to you as information when we take it on as more than the
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  information and we start living in that state of stress, and we
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  start acting in that state of anxiety, we ultimately are
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  giving way more power than we should.
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  Because all of a sudden that's the point that we're attracting
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  from, that's the point where all the energy is going to And we
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  know like attracts like science. Not whoo, it's definitely the
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  case. So we have to make sure that
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  when we put our intentions on an outcome, and the outcome is
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  arriving slower than we want it to, or not, quite in the way
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  that we want it to rather than getting into that state of
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  frustration, irritation, anger, fear, whatever you want to call
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  it or whatever you're experiencing it to be.
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  We have to stop and say, I got to hang on here for a second.
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  I got to look at this and say, this is just information and I
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  can't allow myself to stay in that state because that state
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  attracts more of itself and maybe the information it's
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  providing to me. Means I need to change my
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  Approach. I need to look at something and
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  shift. I need to try something
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  different because often when we get into those States, we become
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  blinded by the path that we've been doing, as opposed to
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  looking and saying, Like okay, is there something else I can
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  do? Is there.
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  Another way I can look at this? Is there another person I can
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  involve? How can I participate in my own
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  rescue? Rather than drowning myself and
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  on resourceful emotions? And this probably is one of the
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  hardest things to do because typically when your emotions are
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  high we don't become the brightest people.
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  You know, I hurt you. Probably heard me say before
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  when emotions go up intelligence goes down.
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  But this is Definitely one of those cases because when you're
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  in it and you're trying to evaluate things and you're in a
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  heightened state of emotion, God knows that.
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  That is a just difficult place to be thoughtful about your
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  reactions and taking action to move forward to something.
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  You know, I have myself when I know when I panic, it is not a
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  good thing and I don't always think clearly, I always mired my
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  An immensely for his ability to have this sense of Peace.
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  When things get really intense, he has this ability to pull
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  himself down and get into this very centered place and be
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  thoughtful about it. And, you know, changes approach.
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  If necessary I've seen him do this in life-threatening
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  situations, where we almost drown in a kayaks and had to, he
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  had to save my son, he's in the ice cold water up to his chest
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  over his head. Hanging onto a kayak and he's
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  talking to me as calmly as he would saying, can you please
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  pass the milk and that be ability to be able to do that is
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  such a presence and such a gift because it helps you to make
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  smart decisions because he was capable of doing that in those
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  moments. When we were in trouble, he
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  saved us and he made sure that we were all walking away from
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  that without a disaster. And That was predicated on the
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  ability to be able to do this. So think about the fact that you
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  might be doing something right now and it's super intense and
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  there's a lot happening around you.
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  Whether you're, you know, people are businesses happening.
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  You're waiting for clients. You're working on a project and
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  it's not going the way you thought your boss is upset with
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  you, whatever it might be your emotional reaction to, it has to
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  be thought out if you're having An emotional reaction and it's
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  not resourceful say to yourself. OK, is this trying to teach me
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  something? Or is this unnecessary right
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  now? Really, debrief yourself.
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  Ask yourself, is this resourceful?
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  Is this the emotion? I need to be in and then figure
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  out if there's information, you need change your approach and
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  you don't have to come up with this all by yourself, ask, if
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  you need help, ask someone else and say, okay, how would you
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  approach this? But go make sure you go to a
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  good resource of course, but always check in with yourself
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  and realize that in those moments, when it's not working
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  out, the way you intended it to be, is there something you can
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  learn from it? Is there a way you can change
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  your approach? Is there, you can definitely
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  change your emotion and that can't be done by anybody but
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  you, you are the person that changes that emotion, so please
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  be aware. No one can help you change your
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  emotion but but you can change your emotion.
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  So you need to go in there and do that work.
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  Hold yourself to that, right? Very strict line.
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  I'm in charge of my emotion. I don't choose this one.
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  I choose to be this way. I choose to look at this
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  differently and I choose to focus on what I can learn and
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  move forward so that I can get to my outcome and I can get to
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  what my intention was. All right, my friends.
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  I hope this was helpful and I hope you have a very blessed day
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye. can change your emotion.
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  So you need to go in there and do that work.
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  Hold yourself to that, right? Very strict line.
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  I'm in charge of my emotion. I don't choose this one.
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  I choose to be this way. I choose to look at this
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  differently and I choose to focus on what I can learn and
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  move forward so that I can get to my outcome and I can get to
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  what my intention was. All right, my friends.
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  I hope this was helpful and I hope you have a very blessed day
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.