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Your Body, Earth, and Source: Remembering Connection as a Highly Sensitive Woman · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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  Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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  the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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  is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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  and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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  explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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  your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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  to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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  soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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  life in a way that feels true to who we really
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  are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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  and to come home again and again to your own
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  wise, sensitive, authentic self. Last week, episode
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  46 was called Forgiveness is an Inside Job, Living
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  in the Question as a Highly Sensitive Woman.
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  And I'm so grateful for the responses that I've
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  been receiving with that episode because it is
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  so important. You know, there is no judgment
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  and there's no time frame for how we process
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  and as highly sensitive individuals, and especially
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  women, right, like this depth of processing has
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  us reflecting and refining, you know, our understanding
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  of ourselves and others and nature, like, I really
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  want you to see that, like, this is truly, it's
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  called an innate survival strategy and what comes
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  from it, when it's aligned for us is true brilliance
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  you know and I just love you know supporting
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  other sensitive women in their journey and the
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  thing is is you know I honor where each of us
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  you know where each of you are you know because
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  I can be meeting no matter the age, but a woman
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  who is feeling the anger, right? The frustration.
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  And that's valid, right? Like I'm not somebody
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  at this point in my journey, right? Who judges,
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  right? Negative emotion. Although there was a
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  time during my awakening where it was like, no,
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  no, I've felt it enough. I want to stay positive.
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  I want to stay peaceful, you know? And so that
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  was just, a period of my journey, right? Like
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  a certain spiral that I was walking where it
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  was just like, I just don't have the bandwidth
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  for, you know, when someone else is really in
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  the thick of that anchor. But, you know, again,
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  this is coming up on my 18th year since my own
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  spiritual awakening. So I've had a lot of personal
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  experience and professional experience, you know,
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  where I am to the point where I can just honor
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  where each person is on their journey, because
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  I most likely have also been there, felt that,
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  thought that, you know, even if the circumstances
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  are different, because of course, you know, there's
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  infinite possibilities and probabilities of...
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  you know, what we might experience, but we can
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  often see common themes and threads in each other's
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  experiences. And so I just feel as though this
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  period of time on the planet for many of us,
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  not all of us, but many of us is, you know, a
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  rise in awareness, right? Like this awakening
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  into you know, what else is going on, right?
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  Like, what other ways are there to perceive reality?
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  And, you know, I believe I've written a blog
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  post before about perception and, you know, how
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  really key it is for us to notice, you know,
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  like, what do we perceive primarily in situations,
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  you know? Are we quickly going towards you know
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  kind of that judgmental blame um right pointing
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  the finger at somebody else or even yourself
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  right like again it's highly sensitive individuals
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  you know that reflection is going on that depth
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  of processing is having you look at yourself
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  most likely um but again there's no judgment
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  from me and i absolutely invite you to soften,
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  you know, when judgment arises within you. Because
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  it is, it's our perception of what's going on,
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  right? Self judgment, judgment of others. And
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  you might have heard me say my motto for a long
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  time has been, you know, live and let live. Because
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  we each have our own kind of soup, right, of
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  ingredients that we are going to taste, touch,
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  you know, feel, see, hear, all of that. And so
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  just you be you. If you notice judgment coming
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  up for yourself or for somebody else, just take
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  that break and breathe love, right? Again, one
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  deep inhale and a second inhale and then a nice
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  long and slow exhale out your mouth. That can
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  really change how you're seeing something because
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  again, it is absolutely relaxing your muscles,
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  right? Your body. so that it also shifts how
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  your brain is operating. So just do your best.
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  But, you know, as sensitive souls, you know,
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  I love the curiosity that many others, you know,
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  are also sharing, you know, like what they've
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  discovered. And I want you to know that, you
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  know, what you are curious about, you know, and,
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  and the patterns that you see in others, like
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  that's super helpful, you know, and sometimes
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  as highly sensitives, we might perceive us as
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  having a bigger picture for somebody else and
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  wanting to be helpful, or being frustrated that
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  somebody else isn't doing something that you
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  can see would be helpful for them. And also I
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  want to say to that is I know it comes from a
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  deep place of caring, right? You've heard me
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  say that depth of processing and the empathy,
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  you know, that we experience on deeper levels
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  is Part of why I view us as the heart of humanity,
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  because that depth of caring, it goes really
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  deep. And I say, you know, we need to reel it
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  in ourselves because it doesn't matter what we
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  see for someone else. That's our perception,
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  right? What matters is what's going on for you.
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  You know, what do you need in that moment? Not
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  do you need to tell somebody else something that
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  they don't see, but what do you need for you?
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  Because... No matter how many decades it may
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  have been for you, you know, noticing other people's
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  needs, noticing problems that can arise, noticing,
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  you know, the scary things that happen, you know,
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  in the world, the traumas, right? The violence,
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  the heartache, the pain, right? Like, just because
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  we notice it more doesn't... mean that it's healthy
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  for us to maintain that vigilance around wanting
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  to avoid that. And I totally get that that's
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  also part of what many of us walk as highly sensitive
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  souls. So I just want to remind you, you know,
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  just keep coming back to your breath, to your
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  body. You know, what's truly arising within you
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  in those moments that you're experiencing? You
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  know, any sense of judgment that may come up.
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  Last night was the fall equinox. It was such
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  an honor to facilitate, you know, the fall equinox
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  sensitivity realignment spiral. And these gatherings
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  happen four times a year at the equinoxes and
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  the solstices, you know, as a way to come together
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  as sensitive women, you know, and to also interrupt
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  our old patterns or for some, you know, still
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  current and active patterns. of continually showing
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  up in the physical you know kind of material
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  way um where the focus is on when to get to work
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  what work you have to do you know what do you
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  get paid where does that money go you know and
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  help you to realign with you know the natural
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  rhythms you know that we are part of right the
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  seasonal changes the light the dark the moon
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  right And I just, I'm honored, you know, that
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  they're small and intimate gatherings because
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  as highly sensitive women, you know, feeling
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  safe and comfortable to open up is certainly
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  a priority for me because that's how I am. You
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  know, I don't join, you know, really big gatherings
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  if I... going to be vulnerable and intimate,
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  you know, I like them to be smaller gatherings.
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  So I always like to share that in case you are
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  someone who, you know, kind of turns away towards
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  anything that might be really big. I like to
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  keep it small and intimate because it's so important
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  to hear and to be with other sensitive women
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  who can relate to your personal experiences as
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  a sensitive woman and your own realizations,
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  you know, because again, we're supporting each
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  other. We're helping raise awareness within ourselves
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  and each other. And it really. creates beautiful
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  bonds, even if those bonds stay within the gatherings.
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  Um, so I want you to know, you know, you're always
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  invited to join. Um, and you can find that information
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  on realignwithmelissa .com. And I also, uh, just
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  adore, you know, hosting the realign circle for
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  sensitive and strong women in their twenties.
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  And, you know, it had been once a month. And
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  recently, we agreed that twice a month felt better
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  to keep the continuity of the group and the connection
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  going. So if you happen to be in your 20s, I
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  want you to know that that's something that you
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  can consider. And, you know, you're welcome to
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  schedule a free resonance call if you have questions
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  about either of those. But it is, it's important
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  that, you know, we reestablish our connection
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  and our relationship with, you know, that which
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  is most important for our journeys, you know.
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  And, you know, I have a bachelor's in psychology,
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  but I got into social work while I was still
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  in my undergrad program. And it just decided,
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  you know, social work felt. you know, more aligned
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  for me. And that's why I have my master's degree
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  in social work. And, you know, it's, it's about
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  relationships, you know, and I think that for
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  me before my spiritual awakening, like I definitely
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  referred my referred to myself as a seeker. And
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  I would say that definitely started when I was
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  at 19 when my brother, you know, passed. um in
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  1990 and i definitely you know deeply deeply
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  wanting to understand you know how does all of
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  this work you know um but it's it's just really
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  beautiful as we expand our awareness and our
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  understanding of you know how we're connected
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  to something so much greater um and i shared
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  last night um in the fall equinox gathering you
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  know about how we're born with that soft spot
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  on the top of our head um and how that for many
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  um historical um peoples right like um the ancient
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  wisdom around that soft spot and why it was open
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  you know not not only you know for you know going
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  through the birth canal right but to maintain
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  an open connection and and flow with source whatever
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  you call it and this was a new um new understanding
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  for me I hadn't really thought about it before
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  but it absolutely resonated immediately and so
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  it was really what was really beautiful too is
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  after my awakening in 2008 I visited Arizona
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  Sedona for the first time in 2009 with my then
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  younger kids and former husband and I just really
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  resonated with the Hopi people. And I've talked
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  about them in other episodes. But it was just
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  beautiful to hear that the Hopi people are also
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  one of those who share their perspective on this
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  soft spot. And, you know, I remember my youngest
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  is 13 and a half. And I remember when he was
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  an infant and he was sitting on my lap and he
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  was just talking away, you know, the way infants
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  do. But I remember saying, who are you talking
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  to? You know, and like, I just felt like there
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  were spirits, you know, in my home that he was
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  talking to. And I just remember feeling like,
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  oh. Like, I would love for this to continue,
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  you know, but it didn't. And he doesn't remember
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  that now. But the remembering of the connection,
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  right? And I feel like that's where social work
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  for me is really big because it's all about.
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  relationships we're relational beings right so
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  the relationship that we have with our body which
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  i really talked about you know last episode too
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  about you know your body being your best friend
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  right but also that relationship with the source
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  you know whatever you call it And also the relationship
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  that you have with like your mother, your father,
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  right? And even like father sky and mother earth,
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  right? Like these are relationships that many
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  of us were not raised to nurture, right? And
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  to maintain a connection with. But if you do
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  reflect on your own childhood, or if you have
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  children and you remember, you know, their younger
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  years easier. or even right now, like, you know,
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  what is way more natural for them, right? Like,
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  again, it's being connected to the earth, right?
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  Like, it's being closely connected to mom and
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  dad, or whoever those caregiver are that are,
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  you know, showing up for them. And so at some
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  point in many of our journeys, you know, we start
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  that more separation right and feeling maybe
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  different or feeling that disconnect and as highly
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  sensitive individuals having that higher you
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  know uh resolution you know navigational system
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  you know oftentimes we are like building barriers
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  and walls because we're we're again we're trying
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  to keep ourselves safe and and and minimize the
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  amount of pain that we're experiencing. Because
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  again, as highly sensitive individuals, you know,
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  we definitely are feeling things more deeply
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  and more intensely. So I just invite you to,
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  you know, just kind of sit with, what is your
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  relationship like with your body? Do you love
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  and listen to your body? Do you nurture your
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  relationship with your body, right? Do you pay
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  attention to how you do feed your body, what
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  you feed your body, you know? What are the situations,
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  you know, when you are taking in food, you know?
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  Are you upset, angry, you know? Are you, you
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  know, more present and calm? Because how we take
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  in food into our body also influences, you know.
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  how everything is flowing within our body. So
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  I just invite you to just take a moment and assess,
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  you know, what is your relationship with your
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  body? And what might be one thing that you could
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  let go of that you notice doesn't serve you well?
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  And that right there is a way to honor yourself,
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  your body, you know, and that didn't take long
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  to just pause and kind of assess. And it's really
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  important that we're doing this and not just
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  once, you know. And, you know, you can take this
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  further, of course, and assess too, like. what
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  is your relationship with source god universal
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  intelligence the creator there's so many words
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  that you know you could be using that i don't
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  know about so you know i honor whatever it is
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  for you but just be curious you know what is
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  that relationship like And again, the same for
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  your relationship with your mother, your father,
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  father's guy, like how often do you look up and
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  notice the stars, the sun, the moon, you know?
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  I think for a lot of us, we're so busy, you know,
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  the hecticness of life can make it so your head
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  is down, right? And you're just, you know, thinking
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  and doing and busyness, right? So The, the joy
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  that can come from looking up, you know, and
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  acknowledging again, whatever you call it can
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  be heavenly father, you know, like, again, you
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  get to choose for you what resonates for you
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  that this is about remembering, you know, remembering
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  your connection, despite however much you've
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  been through that made you led you to feel separate.
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  This is the time of awakening for more of us
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  to recognize and to acknowledge that there is
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  something greater and to be curious and open
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  to it. So let's just continue with this inquiry
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  by taking a break and breathing love. So I invite
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  you to just be still. If it's safe for you, close
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  your eyes or just lower your lids. Again, just
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  kind of closing off what's going on in the outer
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  world so that you can tune inward. And just notice
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  what your breath is already doing. That life
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  force energy is moving through you. And just
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  notice. Notice the breath. Maybe bring some attention
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  as you're breathing in to the top of your head.
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  That soft spot that we were just talking about.
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  You know, and just as you're breathing. And again,
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  you want to inhale as deeply as you can. Take
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  that second inhale before you exhale slowly.
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  Just bringing your attention to the top of your
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  head and just maybe being curious. You know,
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  curious about the opening there. Because it never
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  fully closes. Bringing our attention to that
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  openness can change so much because what we give
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  our attention to has great power for us. So as
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  your breath continues, again, nice inhale, lengthening
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  your spine as much as you can comfortably, taking
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  that second inhale before a nice long exhale.
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  And again, always honor your pace and rhythm.
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  But then just kind of go down through your body.
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  You started at the head and just, you know, imagine
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  this light coming from up above into that opening
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  at the top of your head, going down through your
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  body, right? Through the throat, the heart. the
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  abdomen, going all the way down into the legs
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  and out the feet into the earth, the ground beneath
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  you, wherever you are. And just imagining that
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  as you're breathing, right? Like this is this
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  full body movement, starting up at the sky, coming
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  down into the head, through the body, out the
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  feet into the earth. And I just invite you to
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  continue that as long as it feels good to you.
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  Just that reminder that your relationships, your
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  key essential relationships, they need nurturing.
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  They need attention. And it's different for each
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  of us. So honor you and where you are on your
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  journey. And if something in today's conversation
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  resonated with you and you'd like to explore
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  working together, as I mentioned, you can schedule
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  a resonance call if you're interested in any
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  of the spiral guide gatherings that I host. Those
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  are open globally. And if you are interested
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  in working. with me as a holistic psychotherapist
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  and you are in Massachusetts, California, or
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  Arizona, I offer the Embodied Somatic Therapy
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  Intensive or weekly sessions, whatever best suits
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  you. And there are consultation calls for each
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  of these different offerings that you can easily
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  find on my website, realignwithmelissa .com.
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  But before we close, you know, I just invite
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  you to keep returning to your breath, to your
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  body, to what feels true for you right now. There's
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  nothing you need to fix. Just notice what's here.
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  Where the heart leads, the body remembers, and
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  the soul awakens. As a reminder, we are here
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  together to rise, reclaim, remember. And as always,
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  I am so super grateful that you're here. You
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  know, your unique light matters. It's so important.
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  You know, your voice, your presence. You know,
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  I just want to acknowledge you and your unique
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  brilliance and greatness. So take good care of
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  you. Much love and light.