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Season 3 - Episode 157 - It's about what WE get · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today an interesting concept I want to share with you that
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  something that has been brought up to me about my behavior.
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  So obviously y'all know I love my chickens.
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  I'm shoot this from the chicken coop.
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  I currently have babies in the chicken coop.
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  It is a very exciting time, springtime for me and, and for
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  everybody, not just me, but I particularly love springtime
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  'cause it's like that rejuvenation.
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  It's like the purge. You clean out, you, you get
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  things going, the garden's going, flowers are growing, lots
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  of things are happening, baby chicks are being hatched, Lots
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  of good stuff. Well, someone pointed out to me
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  your chickens are very spoiled and it's just not necessary to
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  be that way with chickens. And you know, at first I was
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  like, what is wrong with this person?
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  Because I felt like I had to convince this person of the
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  quality of the identity of chickens.
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  And then I realized what was really going on.
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  For me, it was that I was trying to prove that my efforts were
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  worthwhile. And when I had that aha moment,
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  and I mean it was like a slap in the head when I realized as I'm
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  having this conversation, what the hell am I doing?
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  Why am I talking to this person about this?
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  Clearly we are not like minded people.
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  Clearly we are coming from two different directions.
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  So what am I trying to prove in having this conversation with
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  this person? Am I trying to prove that I'm
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  right? Maybe.
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  And that really got to me because I don't, I don't profess
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  that I am right in any situation.
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  I just offer opportunities, especially in coaching, I want
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  to always offer my people perspective and new ideas and
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  ways to think of things. So when this was brought up to
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  me, it was kind of like I was trying to prove that my efforts
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  were worthwhile. And then I started thinking
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  about, well, where else does that show up?
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  How often do I do that? Do I try to prove that I have my
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  efforts are worthy of your acknowledgement?
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  And the truth is a lot because it was just ingrained to me
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  early on. You do things to make other
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  people happy. And I think a lot of us are in
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  that mindset where we do things to, quote UN quote, make other
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  people happy. But the reality is we are really
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  doing it to make ourselves happy because of the acknowledgments
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  that we get. And there's no reason why we
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  can't give ourselves the acknowledgements.
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  Now. Years ago I had started doing
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  this thing where I give myself, I track all my activities, I put
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  them into a daily planner. I use Passion planner by the
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  way, no promo here. I don't get paid by them.
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  But I absolutely love their books, passionplanner.com.
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  I love their erasable pens, their stickers, everything about
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  them. And I give myself stickers when
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  I have great days because I loved them as a kid and they
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  make me happy. And I acknowledge I do all of
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  that because it makes me happy. I track it because it gives my
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  certainty girl proof. But this comes down to something
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  different when I'm challenged with something and I need
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  somebody else to see, no, no, no, what I'm doing is valuable.
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  I need you to see I'm valuable. My efforts are valuable.
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  What I believe are this. And I had this aha moment the
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  other day about it. And I was like, wow, Right down
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  to just even when you think you are so far along in the process,
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  right when you're at that cusp, the universe and God remind you,
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  not so much sweet potato. Let's back it up here and say,
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  hey, you're always in learning, you're always in growth, you're
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  always expanding, you're always giving yourself new
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  perspectives. So in that moment, I recognized
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  I am not trying to do anything other than make this
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  acknowledgement from this person, get this acknowledgement
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  from this person that I was right with my efforts going in
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  the right direction because to them, chickens are stupid.
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  They weren't worthy of anything. And then I realized when I had
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  that, I was like, wow, I could sit here and talk all day to
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  this person and try to convince them, but it's not going to
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  change their point of view. And more importantly, it's going
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  to frustrate me. Not from just the fact that
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  they're not getting that, that chickens are not that way.
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  But again, it comes down to what do they believe about me?
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  And so they look at me and they say, well, she's just silly.
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  She's just a silly girl. And you know what?
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  Maybe I am a silly girl and I am truly OK with that.
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  It caught me off guard, but once I recognized it, I was like,
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  wow, no, I am OK being silly. I am OK being the person that
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  does things differently. I am OK being the person that,
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  you know, this whole thing came about because of the whole
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  conversation around how often you change your coop out, how
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  often you clean them, what you do with them, how you talk to
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  them. You don't have to buy them that
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  quality of food. It was like this whole very
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  dynamic conversation about you don't the care of chickens.
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  And the truth is, I care for all of my beings this way.
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  It doesn't matter if you're my son, my daughter, my chickens,
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  everybody is going to be that way.
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  And the reason that it's that way is I have incredibly high
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  standards and it's not just for them and their well-being, but
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  it's for me and my well-being. And then when I keep, I have to
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  keep circling back to that. So I'm going to challenge you
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  all to really take a look at when somebody has that effect on
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  you. When somebody says something and
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  you are arguing your points, you have to look back and say, you
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  know, what's what's really happening here?
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  Am I doing this because I am trying to help that person, or
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  am I doing it to prove something to myself?
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  And the reality is you already know about yourself.
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  You already know what you need to tell yourself.
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  You already know where that is, and you don't need to prove
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  anything to anybody. It's often said that the person
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  that talks is the person that doesn't know anything.
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  And I'm not going to say that that's true because I don't
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  believe that that's true completely.
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  But I will say in our culture right now, there are a ton of
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  people out there who want to force things on us.
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  And it doesn't have to be that way.
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  So I'm going to tell you, look at this because it was a
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  profound aha for me in an area where I've already had it many
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  times. And it was thrilling to see that
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  it can still show up and help. So I hope you guys have a
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.