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Guest Hypnotist Nicola Creen on Phoenix Rising · The Hypnotist

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Hi, it's Adam here. And on today's episode of The
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Hypnotist, I'm joined by a guest hypnotist and today's guest
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hypnotist all the way up from Scotland, we've got Nicola
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Crean. Welcome to the show.
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You so much, thank you for having me.
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Great to have you here. So I'm always fascinated to
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learn about the back story of people that end up being very
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influential in this world that we call therapy hypnotherapy.
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And sometimes it, it comes from a place of really being lost or
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struggling or going through something difficult and then
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helping others or sometimes it's just being inspired.
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So I'm curious to learn more about you because I, I know like
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me, you speak a lot of the conferences and, and that kind
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of stuff, but I'm curious where did it all start?
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The the hypnotherapy sides of things started I would see
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actually when I was pregnant with my daughter around about
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2015. I had already been coaching and
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heavily involved and the personal development one out.
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I always felt really drawn to hypnotherapy.
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It was like there was something about it that just really
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intrigued me and I had a really traumatic pregnancy and birth
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and I actually got myself through that through
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hypnobirthing. And after that I coached in a
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couple of, I trained and a couple of different things.
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And again, have they said he pick him up and it just wasn't
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the right person to train with. So I just sort of practice until
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2020. And then life was lifing, to say
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the least. I had just lost my grandmother,
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who was my best friend in the world.
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And a few months after that, well, still very much deep in
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grief, I found out that my dad, who was only 57, had been
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diagnosed with cancer. And it was looking like he
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wasn't going to pull through. So I had at that point when I
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had this information, I had just signed up to train with the
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incredible Fred, Jacqueline and I, I'm a woman that likes to see
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things through. I don't like to give up.
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And I was had this sort of inner turmoil of knowing that this
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training was going to be very powerful.
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I just, I don't need to have solid evidence.
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I just had this real strong gut feeling that this was going to
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be a game changer. But also I had to face reality.
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The reality of the situation was that I was at home on my own
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during COVID with two children, home schooling and dealing with
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grief and you know, everything else.
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So I thought, right, well, how can I resolve this?
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I know what I'll do. I'll reach out to Freddie.
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He will to understand, you know, I had never spoke to him in my
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life before and I just messaged him and said I have to admit
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defeat here. I don't think I can do this
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training. I remember printing off the the
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studying and it was like that and I thought, right, Oh my God,
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this is not going to happen. So he said to me, right, well,
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let's jump on a call have 5 minutes.
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And I remember Hayden and my son's, the room where he was
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practicing playing drums and sitting on his drum, still
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feeling really bad that I was having to pull out of this
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training. And Freddie said to me, if you
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got 5 minutes. And I said, yeah.
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And he said, right, close your eyes.
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And he put me under like that. And I'll never forget it, Adam.
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It was it was one of those real moments that changed everything.
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He told me that it's obviously was speaking to the subconscious
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part of my mind and told me that not only was I going to do it
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even under those circumstances, I was going to be effing amazing
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at it. And I was like it.
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Just the, the power of what he created in that moment not only
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resulted in me, I think I'm sure I was the first person of all of
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that cohort across the world to complete everything and submit
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my group evidence and come out graduating with flying colours
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against those circumstances, which in itself as amazing.
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It's like a medical right. But everything that unfolded
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after that, it was just, it's never stopped evolving and
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ascend them and having an amazing ripple effect because
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not only has it changed my life, it's changed so many other
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people's lives as a result of that.
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So that was that was the the real beginning of me having the
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superpower. I think superpower is such an an
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amazing phrase because that's how I look at hypnosis is your
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unlocking resources that are clearly there, but just because
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they're there doesn't mean that people are using them all the
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time. You know, there's lots of things
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we know how to do, we know how to ride a bike, but most people
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aren't riding a bicycle every day.
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But that ability still exists within us.
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And there are parts of us that are incredibly confident,
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incredibly resourceful, but sometimes those things get shut
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down. And it seems like in that 5
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minute chat with Freddie, he brought about some level of
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certainty, confidence, resources within you.
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So not not only were you able to go through the kind of the grief
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and, and the kind of uncertainty of your father, but also take on
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a difficult intellectual task. And I think that's, I, I love it
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when people experience it first hand and they know just how
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powerful it is. Because I think there are not
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many, but there's a few hypnotherapists that I think
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don't really believe in what they do.
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And they're kind of, they're saying the words, but they don't
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really believe where it comes from.
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But when you find those hypnotherapists that with every
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fiber of their being really believe what they do and they
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believe the power it is, then that itself, I think amplifies
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their ability to be a good therapist.
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And it's, it's wonderful that you experience that.
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And you're, I'm, I'm looking at this incredible logo behind you
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on my screen here. The the the Phoenix rising from
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the flames. Tell us about Phoenix Rising
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because I understand that's that's the the name of your,
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your brand, your company. Yeah, it's just, it's just, it's
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rebirthed, really. I graduated from all that
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learning and training and got my certificate two weeks before my
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father passed away. And that was me and the ashes
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very much. And the ashes still.
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And I even though, you know, that was such a lifeline because
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it was, it was solid evidence or something is a woman that I've
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never experienced that level of pain before.
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You know, I have had plenty of adversity over throughout my
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whole life, but not to that level all at the one time being
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in mind, you know, we had COVID and things like that as well.
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It was just, it was all too much.
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And having experienced that shift, that real profound shift
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and solid evidence that that was possible, that really let me up.
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But I was still very much and the ashes.
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So I I spend doing this work. And I'm sure you'll understand,
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you know, we're, we're human beings.
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At the end of the day, life happens to us.
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And even though we're heart lead and we really have a passion for
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helping people, we have to be at a certain level ourselves in
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order to give. You know, well, I, I believe
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that I won't, I won't give and I certainly wouldn't dream of
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charging money unless I felt like I was in a position to come
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from overflow. So I was not there.
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I was still very much in grief and I decided to take some time
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out. I think it was like a year, year
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and a half got back into modelling because you don't
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really have to think that much about modelling and decided 2023
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that I was in AI was a level where I could give again, I
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could really give from this place of healing, you know,
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walking my talk. And so I decided to dip my toe
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back into therapy and coaching again and not really thinking
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not not with any Great Expectations.
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I wasn't sure what was going to happen.
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I thought that maybe it would take me some time.
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And then it just everything just happened so quickly.
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I don't know, honestly, it feels like now I'm really just
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starting to process the, the madness that has been this last
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year because it really, really kicked off.
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But this time last year, I, as you know, I'm a speaker.
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So I felt called to getting back on the stages, really feeling
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called to get this message, wanting to wanting to let the
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whole world know, you know, if I can get through this, so can you
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and teach the techniques and the tools.
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And so I've reached out to a few people that I knew were creating
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some pretty cool stuff in the UK and internationally and said
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that I wanted to speak on their stages.
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And one of them was a man called Steve Hardison, who's known and
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the States as the ultimate coach.
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And I just said to him, like, I want to speak on your stage.
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And he introduced me to a book. And then we've done some
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incredible work together and nothing has been the same since.
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So I ended up being in Arizona with him last May and that
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completely changed everything. And, and, and it was in Phoenix.
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So when I was in Phoenix, I had such, it was, it was a spiritual
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awakening. It was, it was, it's very
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difficult to put in words. It was just this knowing, this
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profound knowing that all of everything that I went through
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was happening for me and it created this new level of
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resilience, understanding, almost like gratitude for all
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all the, all the tough stuff. And I knew with everything,
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every part of my being, that when I came back to the UK from
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Phoenix that nothing was going to be the same again.
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And I knew that something was being burst within me and I
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didn't know how. I don't know what it looked
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like. I just, I just wait with it.
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When I come back from Phoenix, I just had a day where I was
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exhausted. And I was like, right, You know
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what? What's happening here?
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What's this all about? My son, my oldest, who's just
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turned 18, told me that it wanted to travel all of the
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world. And I had created everything
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around being a mum first and foremost.
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And that was a bit of a wake up call.
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I was like, right, OK, well, you know, maybe I should take a step
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back from speaking and coaching and training to really just home
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in on this last bit of being his mum at home.
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And then I was like, no, you know, I don't do all of that to
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stop now. And this doesn't make me less
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than a mum to level up and go all in even further.
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It makes me more of a mum. He can be more inspired.
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And then literally minutes later I had the creation of Phoenix
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Rising coming through me and it was just, it just literally lit
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me up. I was like, right after doing
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events for over a decade here in Scotland, I just had this
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inspiration. It was like a light bulb, right?
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I'm going to we're going global with us.
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We're going global. We're going to let the world
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know this is what I'm doing. We're going to have speakers
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from all of the world. People are going to fly in from
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everywhere. We're going to let everyone know
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what's possible, regardless of where you've been.
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You know that phoenix rising from the ashes.
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It doesn't matter where you've been.
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You can absolutely rise up and and it just let me up and I put
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out the call and I was, I could believe the response that I got.
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You know, we had people I couldn't, I still haven't got
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through all the applications. There was hundreds of people
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from all over the world. We had people from LA India,
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Bali all over fly to Glasgow last October.
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And that was the first of that level that I created on my own.
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And then I was awarded a couple of weeks ago for that bravery
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because it it, it was brave like doing a now when I look back on
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it, I'm like, well, I actually, I actually done that.
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And it's weird because it's, we're just getting started.
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So yeah, there's a lot more involved, but that's the brief
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version. Yeah, amazing.
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And I think, you know, it is risky, you know, to, to do
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something outside of the comfort zone to, you know, and I would
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say courage and bravery is, is wonderful resources.
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If you make the evaluation that you don't know if it's going to
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go OK, but you're going to do it anyway.
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And one of my favourite beliefs is that, you know, whenever you
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do something like that, you either win or you learn.
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Like it either goes to plan or you get some amazing wisdom just
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by doing it. And I think there's a lot of
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people that in life are sitting on the sidelines with all these
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reasons why they can't do something or I don't know enough
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yet. You know, I'm not, I'm not there
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yet. They're, they're kind of
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passively watching, but then they don't win or learn.
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They're just staying where they are, which I think is a real, a
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real shame. I, I think the, the Phoenix
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metaphor, you know, it's such a powerful metaphor because
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sometimes in, in therapy practice, a lot of people use
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the, like the, the representation of the, you know,
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the Caterpillar, the cocoon and the butterfly is kind of like a
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symbol of transformation. But that's just one thing
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changing to something else with the, the ashes.
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There's this idea that something has been destroyed.
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It, it, it has nothing and it can still come back from that.
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So I would say like the Phoenix rising is even a more empowering
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metaphor than the the Caterpillar because it shows
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that there is some real value in difficult times, in adversity,
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in in the trauma sometimes. But getting through that, you
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become so much more empowered than you were before.
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When you're working with clients, does that metaphor, is
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that used with them, or is that just become a representation of
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your story? It's both, it's a bit of both.
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I think that the reason that I get the results that I get and
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the time that I get them is because I have lived that.
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Like I'm not just talking a good game.
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I've actually been there. And so that hits deeper, You
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know, there's a, there's a deeper level of compassion
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there. And you're right.
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I love what you, I love what you pointed out there because I have
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used the butterfly one before. But you know, when I, when I
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became an author and then that's, that's, that's new
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level. I get, you know, it does feel
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like the death of a lot of the death of limiting beliefs, the
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death of thinking that, that, you know, that is not possible.
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Are you? I spoke about the ceiling being
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the new floor and that was what it was for me.
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It was like I had, you know, as a result of trauma, being
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bullied and different things. I did have these beliefs that
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were not serving me that, you know, these limiting beliefs
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that were keeping me safe, keeping me in this comfort zone.
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And then even though I had achieved different things and
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could demonstrate to clients and potential clients what was
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possible, I still knew that I was still playing small for, for
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what I was capable of doing. And so Phoenix Rising represents
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to me that, you know, the, the, the greatest pain of my life,
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the, the most difficult periods of my whole life.
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If I could rise from those ashes, then what what a story,
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what, what a way to inspire other people to do the same.
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And so it's the death of limiting beliefs.
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It's the death of the old story is the death of that old version
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of yourself. And that we all have an
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opportunity to recreate ourselves in in every given
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moment. And actually, when you look back
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and at the pain and I love what you said there as well about the
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either whenever you learn, because I've got that, I've got
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that, you know, written down, I've got it my notes, I've got
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it all over because there was when I created Phoenix Rise and
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it did ruffle some feathers. And you know, there was very
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much I did feel resistance from some people, you know, like,
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what is she doing? She's never done this to that
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level before. And it wasn't always made my
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support Adam, which was unchanged.
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And and it doesn't stop me. And I found, I thought, you
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know, so many people keep themselves in this comfort zone
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through fear and fear of what other people are going to think,
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fear of failing, right? That's I mean, and I knew that.
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I knew there was a serious pressure on my shoulders and I
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knew that it could fail. In fact, right at the very
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start, and I've not spoken about this publicly before, right at
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the very start of when it dries and I had everyone in the room
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to the left hand side just ready to kick everything off.
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And on the right hand side, we still had guests coming into the
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building. And a man collapsed right in
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front of me. And I genuinely thought that he
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could have just died right there and then right in front of me.
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And I thought, what would I do in that moment?
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You know, it was almost like that was such a test for me, you
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know, because the old me before that Spanish rising would have
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probably burst into tears, cancelled everything straight
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into panic modes. And I just, I just remained calm
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and just went with it. He ended up being fine and, and,
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and it was like, it was like that another example of Phoenix
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rising from the ashes. We, we didn't stop, we didn't
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stop. We didn't give up.
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We kept going. And it was that.
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And I know that that happened for a reason.
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So yeah, it's, it's a great example.
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I think leading by example is such a powerful way to be, and
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that's what that represents for me and the people that I work
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with. Yeah.
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And and even though the the Phoenix rising kind of metaphor,
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it doesn't actually deal directly with death.
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But as you were describing it in that way, using death as a
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metaphor, I was getting connections with the the
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Egyptian God Osiris of, you know, in order to become someone
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new, you have to die in the previous form of you.
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And, you know, a lot of people look at, you know, this element
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of death. I mean, that's a heavy metaphor,
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but it's kind of like, well, I'm definitely not the person I was
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10 years ago. So that version of me doesn't
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exist. That version of me is dead.
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I'm someone different now. And it seems like you've been on
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a journey of death and rebirth and evolution.
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You know, the, the old version of you, you're not that version
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anymore. You're someone new.
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And each time there's a slightly new version of you.
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And again, I think that's a really.
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A powerful metaphor. We're both speaking at the Irish
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Hypnotherapy Conference in Dublin, literally a few weeks
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time. So if you listen to this and you
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and you like what Nicola is saying, definitely get some
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tickets. We're going to put the link in
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the show notes so you can check that out.
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But tell us what you're going to be talking about in Ireland and
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and why people should come along and see you so.
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Excited about this, you know, it feels like a, it feels like a
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bit of a 360 moment for me when I think back to how, you know,
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what happened to therapy has been such a powerful tool for me
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personally and then it's enabled me to help change so many lives
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since then. It's going to be wonderful to be
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on the stage, sharing the stage with Freddy and, and people like
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yourself and talking about it so passionately and, and being, you
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know, being an example of what's possible.
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And so for me, it's all about confidence.
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And I think you touched on it earlier on when you were talking
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about, you know, having that confidence in what you do.
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It hurts my heart when I see so many incredible therapists out
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there that are extremely gifted and, you know, the hearts in the
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right place. And they've got so much
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potential to help so many people.
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And they don't, they don't show up because they are they're
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stuck. And you know what we've spoke
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about fear of what people might think or just thinking that they
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have to be a certain level, they have to be perfect and all that.
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And I'm really passionate about. So I've worked with many people,
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many therapists want to speak on a stage, for example, and they
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just are crippled with fear. And then I've, I've managed to
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go in and work with a subconscious part of the mind to
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really instill that confidence to have them do one of the
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scariest things, speak on stage. So I want to really create a
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powerful shift in the room with everyone there, regardless of
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what they want to create moving forward and, and reason their
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confidence massively and just just just eradicating any fear,
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any blocks are holding them back.
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I've got some very powerful tools and techniques that I've
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used over the years that have just been incredibly powerful.
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So yeah, just confidence getting rid of blocks are holding people
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back. And yeah.
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And I think when it comes to speaking on stage, one of the
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key things is that fear of judgement, the fear of other
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people evaluating someone in a, in a harsh way.
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And I mean, I've done loads of conferences, but I felt a little
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bit of nervousness when I was in the, the UK hypnosis conference
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a few a few months ago. And it's like, where's this
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coming from? And I think it was because when
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I was learning hypnotherapy, I went to that conference and when
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I was in the audience watching these people, I put them on such
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a pedestal that in my head then when I was in that situation, I
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had this kind of, I have a feeling it was some kind of
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element of do I deserve to be here?
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You know, and I think I do. But at the same time, I think
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that was causing just kind of a little bit of kind of imposter
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syndrome or kind of who am I to, to be here and maybe fearing
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that the people that I hold in high regard of judging me.
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Is that a natural kind of feeling, or is is that just the
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human brain playing tricks on people?
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Well, it's like, it is absolutely normal, honestly,
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like even though I've been speaking on stages for many,
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many years and you know, lies to the nation on the radio and
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things like that. I remember because I had always
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spoke on my own stage. So that's different because it's
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my stage. But when it was like when I
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started levelling up, well before the pandemic and, and my
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speaking, I remember having, I'm being invited to this huge event
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in London and that that's what happened to me.
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I remember just before that I was like, Oh my God, you know,
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who am I? And all these business people
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from all over the world. And there's little me, you know,
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I had them and I paid the store, but you know, I definitely don't
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do that anymore. And what the people that I work
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with now, I, I encourage them not to, not to, it's natural
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when you look up to people, but we shouldn't put people on pay
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the stores. It's just, it's natural to do
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that. But what you find, what I find
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is, is that that's just stories that we tell ourselves in our
24:22
head. That's all it is.
24:23
And it's and and feelings are not facts.
24:26
People are there to learn and you know, and and there will be
24:32
people that do judge. But if this is so interesting, I
24:35
found this by Phoenix Rising when I put out the call and I
24:38
had so many people like incredible people wanting to
24:41
speak. And when I decided on who I
24:43
would have for my speakers, I decided to do some coaching and
24:48
have the therapy with them on the lead up to the event.
24:50
Because even though they were at the top of their game and they
24:53
were like international keynote speakers and best selling
24:56
authors and all the things that some, you know, somebody,
24:59
somebody would put them on a pedestal.
25:02
They were their limit beliefs and their impostor syndrome were
25:05
going crazy like like probably maybe 2-3 months before Phoenix
25:10
rising. So I'm planning this event and
25:13
I'm, I'm getting all my, my main people like having meltdowns,
25:17
like, you know, what's going on here, what's happening.
25:20
So that was really interesting, you know, how the human brain
25:24
works. And I just, it was happening
25:26
with anybody that got them through that.
25:27
I was just like, right, you know, this is, this is what's
25:30
going to happen. And I would get them to
25:32
visualize being on the stage and how they would feel.
25:34
And it was such an interesting process to, to watch all of that
25:38
unfolded is definitely part of it.
25:41
But what I, what I tell myself and what I teach my clients as
25:47
is that when you actually take yourself out of it because,
25:50
because the brain tries to keep us safe, right?
25:53
The ego does everything to try and keep us safe.
25:56
When you actually come back into your heart space, right?
25:59
Because we're all heart LED. That's why we do this work and
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you remember why you're doing it.
26:04
You're doing it because people need to hear your story.
26:06
You're doing it because you want to make a positive difference.
26:09
And actually, it doesn't matter about what people think about
26:13
you. It's about your message and the
26:14
people that you're going to impact and how you're going to
26:16
help them. That takes the pressure out of
26:19
it. I think.
26:21
So I'm surprised that you had that.
26:23
I'm, I'm very surprised that you had that because you're somebody
26:25
that I would, I would have had on a pedestal.
26:30
You know, I think you've done incredibly well, but it's, I
26:32
love your vulnerability and honesty because it's shows that
26:36
it happens to the best of us. Yeah, I think, I think there's,
26:40
you know, what isn't helpful is to have this kind of bravado and
26:43
and project this kind of invincibility in every single
26:46
case. Because you're right, we're all
26:48
human. We all have different emotions
26:49
and those kind of things, But what I like about it is that
26:52
even though I felt the anxiety like nothing was going to deter
26:55
me from doing it. And you know, I, I think that
26:59
element of when you do things outside of the comfort zone, the
27:02
comfort zone expands. And then the same thing that
27:04
caused anxiety before doesn't you know, if you do it, you
27:08
know, however many times, just like just by doing it, you know,
27:11
it becomes sensitized to it. So from, from my perspective, I
27:16
think that public speaking is one of those things that people
27:19
find daunting. There's other things, big
27:21
decisions, you know, relationship goals, all these
27:24
things that people find fearful in many ways.
27:28
In your working confidence, what do you find is the overall theme
27:33
or the key, you know, broad strategy that can get someone
27:37
from a place of fear or paralysis or anxiety into that
27:41
confident state, you know, maybe as a as a tip or a trick.
27:49
You know, there's I've got loads of answers to that and I will be
27:51
talking about that's that's the value that I will be given on
27:55
the stage in Ireland. But if there had to be one
27:59
thing, I would say that rather than rather than thinking that
28:11
you have to wait until I'll wait until I feel more constant, I'll
28:15
wait until I lose. Like the way I'll wait until
28:18
I've got the perfect relationship.
28:20
I'll wait until the kids leave home rather than waiting, you
28:24
know, for the perfect time. What actually happens is when
28:28
you feel the fear and you do it anyway, that's when the gift
28:33
comes that that's when you get the confidence and it's a skill
28:36
that anyone can learn. People think that confidence.
28:39
You know, people don't believe that I at one point had no
28:42
confidence. People just don't believe that.
28:44
But that is that's the fact that at one point I had no
28:47
confidence. Confidence is a skill that you
28:49
learn and you learn it by stepping out the comfort zone
28:53
and the people when you know when, when people keep
28:56
themselves stuck through worrying about what other people
28:59
think. The people that are actually
29:01
judging are the people that are not in the arena, the people
29:05
that are sitting on the sidelines, actually people that
29:07
make the most noise. And they're not, they're not,
29:09
they're not people that you would want to to have have in
29:13
your inner circle anyway. I don't, I don't think that.
29:16
I think that if you, if you know who you are, this comes with
29:20
confidence as well. You know who you are, you know
29:22
your heart by rising up, by making a difference, create an
29:26
impact. It's going to create judgement
29:28
and noise from the outside. If you stay focused, surround
29:32
yourself with eight people, feel the fear and do it anyway.
29:35
That's when the gift of confidence comes.
29:38
And then it just increases to different levels.
29:41
So it's it's about not waiting to the right time, trusting the
29:46
do it anyway. And, and it's easier said than
29:48
done. That's why having the right
29:50
people around you. And again, it's not the amount,
29:52
it's quality over quantity. It doesn't have to be many
29:55
people one or two that have you know that you trust that has
29:59
done the work and there's nothing that you cannot be do or
30:04
have. And I mean I could talk all the.
30:07
Other and I think it's a really important distinction because a
30:09
lot of people are waiting to feel in the right state.
30:14
You know, they're waiting for the confidence before they do
30:16
the thing, But actually, if you do the thing and then you get
30:19
the confidence as the gift as the reward.
30:22
Well, that, that makes a lot of sense because then you've got
30:23
that growth. And, and I think you use the
30:25
word phrase, the phrase bravery at your event.
30:28
And it's kind of like, well, there must have been some level
30:31
of anxiety there. Otherwise you don't need
30:32
bravery. But you did the thing.
30:35
And now if you were to do the, the the same event, now your
30:38
confidence is going to be way higher because you've, you've
30:41
got the experience now you've got the track record of doing
30:43
it, even if you felt a little bit daunted that first time.
30:46
And I think for people listening, that might be just
30:49
waiting for more confidence. It's kind of like, you know,
30:52
consider that the confidence is the prize you get from doing
30:55
that difficult thing that feels daunting, might be a good way
30:58
forward. I know you're going to do a bit
31:00
of an experience for us. So we'll we'll do that.
31:04
But just in case someone wants to kind of learn more about you,
31:07
is there an ideal website for they can go to or what social
31:09
medias you, you know, kind of prevalent on?
31:14
Yeah, great question. Good timing as well.
31:15
I'm just about to over the next few days launch Mastermind, just
31:22
a workshop that anyone can come on and learn more about what
31:26
I've been talking about with confidence on the 5th of May.
31:30
The new website where everything Phoenix rises just feels like
31:34
just a baby. It's just been born, even though
31:36
I've been doing this for many years.
31:38
So we're just creating the brand new website right now, which is
31:42
it's going to be amazing. But to to get in touch right
31:45
now, you can find me on Facebook, Instagram, just Nicola
31:48
Cream or Nicola all lowercase Nicola Phoenix rising@gmail.com
31:55
would be the best way. Or come along to Ireland, come
31:58
to Dublin at the start of April. It's going to be incredible,
32:03
yeah. Yeah, Ireland is not far away
32:05
and for those people interested, I'll, I'll put the link in the
32:07
show notes. But it's Irish hypnotherapy
32:10
conference dot IE and you can see myself, Nicola and loads of
32:14
other fantastic guests there as well.
32:16
So Nicola, you've got a bit of an experience, whether it's
32:19
hypnosis or something else to, to share with us.
32:22
So I'll put myself on mute and then it's over to you.
32:25
OK, for. Anyone listening and wants to
32:31
have a feeling of letting things go that are no longer serving
32:36
you, Just take a moment now just to relax and allow yourself to
32:41
be present in this moment. Just take a nice big deep breath
32:46
in through your nose and then slow controlled release through
32:51
your mouth. Just feel your shoulders
32:55
dropping. Feel yourself relaxing and going
32:58
deeper and deeper. Enjoying this beautiful feeling
33:02
of blissful relaxation, focusing on the darkness behind your eyes
33:09
and finding that even if you wanted to open your eyes right
33:13
now, you couldn't. You're just so relaxed.
33:16
That's right, allow yourself just to leave your body just
33:24
now. Just leave your body as you go
33:27
higher and higher. I want you to visualize yourself
33:30
looking down, whether you're sitting on your chair or lying
33:33
on your bed or your sofa. Just look down at your beautiful
33:36
body and give thanks for everything that body has done
33:40
for you up until this point. Feel your heart space expanding
33:45
with pure unconditional love for you and your body.
33:50
Feel yourself going higher and higher, going higher and higher.
33:55
Right up, up out of your building, right up.
33:59
So high now that you're just coming right above planet Earth.
34:02
And as you look down, all you can see is the beautiful Blues
34:06
of the ocean and the gorgeous greens of the forest.
34:09
You're just going high in and higher.
34:15
Well done. As you go higher and feeling
34:20
lighter, feeling more relaxed, I want you just to picture
34:25
someone. It could be one person in
34:28
particular or a number of people that you love dearly, that you
34:32
love unconditionally. Just look at their face, look at
34:36
their smiles, look at that unconditional love in their
34:38
eyes. Feel that love that they feel
34:40
for you, feel that love that you feel for them, and just feel
34:44
your heart expanding. Just breathe that into your
34:47
heart space right now, just trusting you're exactly where
34:54
you're supposed to be, just in this beautiful present moment,
34:57
because that's all we really have is this present moment.
35:02
Just feeling that beautiful energy.
35:06
And in a moment, as you feel that heart speaks, expanding
35:10
more and more, you're feeling so blissful, so relaxed right now.
35:18
We're going to set an intention. We're going to have an
35:22
experience in a few seconds time.
35:25
We're going to instruct the subconscious part of the mind to
35:29
let anything go that's no longer serving you right now.
35:32
Anything that you've been holding in your subconscious
35:34
mind to keep you safe, we're going to thank that part of your
35:38
mind right now for keeping you safe until this point.
35:41
Thank you for being there and no instructor.
35:45
It's time to let go now. There's a good chance that that
35:49
part that's been keeping you safe, it's actually now been
35:51
keeping you stuck, preventing you from moving forward, and now
35:54
is the perfect time to let that go.
35:58
In a few seconds, we're really going to let that go and I'm
36:00
making space for all this beautiful new energy to come in,
36:04
creating this blank canvas as clear palette moving forward
36:09
ready for all these wonderful new creations just to come in
36:13
and create all this magic from this brand new space as phoenix
36:18
rising from the ashes. Just feel that wonderful feeling
36:21
of freedom start to come through your whole being right now.
36:25
Get ready. Want you to see this ball of
36:28
light right in front of you. You can feel the warmth warms
36:33
just hitting off your face, but like the sun, you're going to go
36:36
straight through this ball of energy and it's going to cleanse
36:41
your whole system, your whole being, everything right down,
36:46
right down to cellular, molecular level.
36:48
Get ready when I make this noise.
36:52
We're going to go through that together. 321 See yourself.
37:04
Visualize yourself going straight through this ball of
37:08
white energy. Just feel your whole system
37:11
being cleansed now as we go through this together.
37:13
Anything that's been holding you back, any old limiting beliefs,
37:17
any old stories, any old fears, anything.
37:20
Just let it all go now. Just feel it leaving your system
37:24
right now. Feel that energy just leaving
37:27
your system right now as you see yourself rising like that
37:31
phoenix from the ashes, just rising up, claiming this new
37:35
life, this life, this incredible life full of miracles and
37:39
abundance and love and joy and presence and health.
37:44
Everything that you were here to create, everything that you know
37:48
that you deserve. It's your birthright to
37:50
experience a life with no limits.
37:53
We're ready to claim that life right now and feel that energy.
37:58
I feel it right now. So in every single part of your
38:01
being, like down to cellular molecular level, from this
38:07
moment forwards, you're stepping in to this new version of
38:12
yourself, the version of yourself that's always been
38:15
there, that's rebirth, the death of everything that has no longer
38:19
been serving you, and you feel a sense of freedom like never
38:23
before. It's time to rise, time to step
38:28
up. The world needs to see you.
38:30
The world needs to hear what you have to say.
38:33
You matter. You're so worthy, you're so
38:36
loved and so deserving. Just breathe that into your
38:44
heart space now. And when you're ready, just come
38:51
back into the room, back into the night time.
38:54
Clean that energy. What a lovely experience.
39:04
I enjoyed that. Fantastic.
39:09
Remind us again how people can get hold of you Nicola.
39:14
The best way to get a hold of me is to e-mail me at
39:18
thenewemailaddresswhichisnicolaphoenixrising@gmail.com. Nicolaphoenixrising@gmail.com.
39:27
So we'll put that in the show notes.
39:28
If you want to drop Nicola an e-mail, you can get hold of her
39:32
there. Nicola, it's been great to have
39:34
you on the show and I guess we'll we'll see each other at
39:37
Dublin in a few weeks time. Look.
39:39
Forward to it. Thank you.
39:40
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