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Happily Ever PEACEFULL · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Peace of the planet. Charlamagnea god here.
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  Speaker 2: Before we get into today's episode, we've got to celebrate
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  Speaker 2: the Black Effect Podcast Network. It's turning five years old, man,
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  Speaker 2: five years of powerful voices, unforgettable moments in the community
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  Speaker 2: that keeps growing. This is the power of the platform.
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  Speaker 1: Now let's get into it.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 3: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 1: Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with an
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  Speaker 1: opinion who talks back. What's up? Y'all? Is your girl?
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  Speaker 3: A J.
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  Speaker 1: Holliday? Y'all everyone, it's tampam. This is your time. I'm
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  Speaker 1: live from parents And.
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  Speaker 3: What time is it over there? Why you look like
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  Speaker 3: you're still in.
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  Speaker 1: The bed, because I am. Because I've been out partying
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  Speaker 1: all night long, all night long. It's three o'clock in
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  Speaker 1: the afternoon. I didn't get back into the hotel till
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  Speaker 1: like five thirty in the morning. Shame. Did club stay
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  Speaker 1: open all night over there? Yes? All night?
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  Speaker 3: One of those little strip remember Big Lizzo had got
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  Speaker 3: in trouble when she was over there putting.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, oh, but I might try to see what
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  Speaker 1: see that tonight before I leave. I forgot about that no,
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  Speaker 1: so you know, it's Drake concert. So they had like
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  Speaker 1: a bunch of Drake after parties around the city. It's nice.
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  Speaker 1: I had a good time. I enjoyed it in the concerts.
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  Speaker 1: I don't really know a lot of party next door
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  Speaker 1: music though, so oh he on tour Drake too. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't even I've never seen party next door. That he
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  Speaker 1: a big nigga. He looked more like a party at
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  Speaker 1: the restaurant the next door. Honestly, party at the buffet. Yo.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, party. I don't think I've never seen him either.
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  Speaker 3: Let me see, wait a minute, party next door and
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  Speaker 3: he'd be talking flying too. Let me not to say
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  Speaker 3: big boys can't talk fly. We boys could be big
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  Speaker 3: boys sound good on the phone.
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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about it.
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  Speaker 3: And I met some random fat niggas on the internet.
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  Speaker 3: You fucking ride him, just one in particular, when we
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  Speaker 3: was at Benedict.
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  Speaker 1: Bitch, When I tell you that dude was the same
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  Speaker 1: size as his.
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  Speaker 3: Fucking love seat, dang, I swear to god, I could
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  Speaker 3: not believe he had like a seventy inch TV. He
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  Speaker 3: was seventy inches, I swear to god. And he had
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  Speaker 3: a bunch of sneakers they was all turned that Nigga
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  Speaker 3: needed a kick to look at that party next door.
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  Speaker 3: Oh okay, I haven't seen him, did he. I think
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  Speaker 3: he might have gained weight and.
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  Speaker 1: He was thick. He was a thick boy up there.
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  Speaker 1: He was little though, That's what I'm like. Wait, he big? No,
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  Speaker 1: he been eating good, he'd been getting good tour checks
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  Speaker 1: and they eating good on tour. Baby, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe on a protozoon very possible because he was thick
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  Speaker 1: on that stage. Shame. What'd you do?
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  Speaker 3: I ain't do much this weekend? Actually, y'all what I
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  Speaker 3: did do this weekend? Now, I did do a lot
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  Speaker 3: this weekend. So on Saturday I visited with my mama
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  Speaker 3: for like four to five hours, and then on Sunday
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  Speaker 3: I visited with my daddy for like four to five hours.
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  Speaker 1: That's a lot. That was nice. I feel I got
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  Speaker 1: enough visits for the rest of the year.
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  Speaker 3: You know, And I think I've said this before, like
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  Speaker 3: when you calculate how often you actually see your parents, right,
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  Speaker 3: So if you like, if your parents in the sixties
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  Speaker 3: seventies and you see them once twice a year, three times,
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  Speaker 3: like calculate like how long people be living and calculating
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  Speaker 3: how many times you actually gonna see them again. So
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  Speaker 3: what I'm saying is see your parents more often period.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I need to go put my eyes on
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  Speaker 1: my dad. I have not seen my dad in person.
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  Speaker 3: Now.
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  Speaker 1: We talk every day in the group chat at least
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  Speaker 1: good morning, but actually physically seeing him that wasn't on FaceTime.
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  Speaker 1: It's been two years.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I sat with my dad and found out
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  Speaker 3: this nigga was diagnosed with prostate cancer this year and
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  Speaker 3: had radiation. Didn't tell nobody, damn, damn. And in the
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  Speaker 3: midst of telling him, my stepdaddy just had surgery, same thing, he.
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  Speaker 1: Was like, yeah, I heard it.
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  Speaker 4: I just I said, you know what y'all are like,
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  Speaker 4: y'all the parents, like, it's really real that you are
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  Speaker 4: a child raising your parents because I guess you didn't
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  Speaker 4: want anybody to have like, you know, the energy, the
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  Speaker 4: negative energy about it.
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  Speaker 3: But I'm never for that. I'm always everything will always
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  Speaker 3: be good. That is my attitude about everything.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm never going to Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So I guess him and his wife knew. And I
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  Speaker 3: was telling her how I'm so appreciative and have a
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  Speaker 3: lot of gratitude and I'm very grateful for her, because y'all,
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  Speaker 3: my step mama, My step mama is the saying that
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  Speaker 3: we all in our forties, me her and my sisters. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: but yeah, my step sister is the same. She's like
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  Speaker 3: in between my two sisters. So she's like, yeah, that's
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  Speaker 3: what I meant. My step mom, she's like in between
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  Speaker 3: my two sisters age wise, and she'd be taking good
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  Speaker 3: care of my daddy, thank god, you know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 3: because you don't have to do it. Yeah, until she'd
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  Speaker 3: be like, hey, fuck that old niggabody to go get
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  Speaker 3: then I'll step in. But I'm still grateful, Like she
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  Speaker 3: made sure he take his medicine, put his little Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: she takes care of him.
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  Speaker 1: So shout out to the young bitches with them old niggas.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, we love y'all, especially when you got our daddy.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get in the sins because she can of young,
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  Speaker 1: which is an old niggas. Did you see summer Walker
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  Speaker 1: popped out at the VMA's with a very death her
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  Speaker 1: older gentleman absolutely sprinkle spring and I think biggas Mad
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  Speaker 1: Niggas is big man in summer. Now this this I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if y'all saw it. But this guy is
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  Speaker 1: considerably older than Summer, and he's considerably wider, much whiter
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  Speaker 1: than Summer as well in the normal white like that's
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  Speaker 1: a pill. So he looked like a vampire. I ain't
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  Speaker 1: gonna lie.
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  Speaker 3: He definitely a vampire. But to meet, his facial features
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  Speaker 3: aren't the worst. And if he's a billionaire, he might
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  Speaker 3: be the funniest nigga i've a seen.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, right, that's so.
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  Speaker 3: So she posted and she was like, fuck my type
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  Speaker 3: period right because my type ain't working clearly. Yeah, she
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  Speaker 3: already said she wasn't doing it for love no more,
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  Speaker 3: She's doing it for the black card.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I can't do no old less white
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  Speaker 1: man like that could do that. I've been talking. It
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  Speaker 1: is crazy.
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  Speaker 3: It's a couple of the social media girlies with their
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  Speaker 3: white husbands, and I'd be like, girl, why are you
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  Speaker 3: finding that one? Like?
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  Speaker 1: Some of them be fine, yeah, a fine, like age appropriate,
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  Speaker 1: But that man that make me think of Babs. Do
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  Speaker 1: we have a BAPS situation going on?
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  Speaker 3: She definitely looks super bapfished on that uh red carpet,
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  Speaker 3: and a lot of black men had a lot of
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  Speaker 3: choice words. You know, I've seen wench. I hate that
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  Speaker 3: term because our ancestors were not having sex with these
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  Speaker 3: because they wanted to write to call a woman that
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  Speaker 3: who is making a choice.
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  Speaker 1: Right, that's just nasty. I hate that.
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  Speaker 3: I hate it so much. And like nobody has this
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  Speaker 3: type of energy for black men when they date outside
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  Speaker 3: the race.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying why black women be coming
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  Speaker 3: from men is because y'all, y'all can't just say I
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  Speaker 3: like my white women because such and such.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all have to.
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  Speaker 3: Say because black women such and such and such. That
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  Speaker 3: is the problem we have. Other than that, we do
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  Speaker 3: not give a fuck about your preference, right, but your
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  Speaker 3: preference always seems kind of disparaging to black women. Like
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  Speaker 3: that's what it comes with. You got to disparage us
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  Speaker 3: to prove that you love your white queen.
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  Speaker 1: Nigga, go do that. I ain't mad at her. I
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  Speaker 1: ain't mad at nobody for choosing who didn't want to choose.
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  Speaker 1: So no power team and black men be nice, damn
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  Speaker 1: it ain't no, but black man, you don't see nobody
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  Speaker 1: else talking shit in there.
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  Speaker 3: No, And it's almost like, so the thing is that
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  Speaker 3: they say that black women go with white men like
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  Speaker 3: for the money, right, clearly right in this situation, absolutely,
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  Speaker 3: and why not, you know what I'm saying, Why we
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  Speaker 3: got to keep dating down? But it's actually black men
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  Speaker 3: who be pay per chasing when they fucking outside their race,
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  Speaker 3: when they start fucking with the big white lady, they
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  Speaker 3: pay per chasing, but they try to put it on
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  Speaker 3: us as if it's what we're doing. A lot of
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  Speaker 3: black women who date black who date white men usually
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  Speaker 3: have their lives together. They're a little quirky black girls,
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  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, most of them, and that's
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  Speaker 3: probably who liked them. They went where they were celebrating, right,
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  Speaker 3: what's the problem with that?
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  Speaker 1: Agreed?
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  Speaker 3: Y'all don't like black women. A lot of y'all don't
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  Speaker 3: like black women.
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  Speaker 1: And it's okay, especially that guy, that big ginger or
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  Speaker 1: whatever his name from. I don't know if y'all saw that,
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  Speaker 1: the UK rapper Ginger j Ginger j ooh. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if y'all saw that, the dustiest ginger ever, right,
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  Speaker 1: and he was like, black women, that's not even your hair.
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  Speaker 1: How can I argue with someone who doesn't have their hair?
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  Speaker 1: Take the lotches off?
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  Speaker 3: What really triggered those black women as when he said
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  Speaker 3: put you in your place, that.
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  Speaker 1: Girl said what place? Place? Yeah, because what place?
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  Speaker 3: So apparently Ginger Jay has done a lot of prison time. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: so listen, and I had the jail house niggas. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not if you go in there and you already
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  Speaker 3: with that type of time, it probably be easy if
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  Speaker 3: you to slide into those activities a lot displaying that
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  Speaker 3: type of aggression where you know a lot of people
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  Speaker 3: going to see it is you don't you really do
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  Speaker 3: you even like women? And you have somebody you can
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  Speaker 3: tower over who's possibly afraid of you. It's because black
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  Speaker 3: women aren't afraid of you. You want somebody to be
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  Speaker 3: scared of you.
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  Speaker 1: I mean not exactly, because why are you so angry though,
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  Speaker 1: Like it's one thing to have you know, these are
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  Speaker 1: your feelings, but why are you yelling and screaming at
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  Speaker 1: people about your feelings about black women? And then he
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  Speaker 1: said he don't like how his mother moved, And that
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  Speaker 1: made all the sense to me, because you got a
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  Speaker 1: black mom, and that's who you're mad at, and that's
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  Speaker 1: you need to go sit with, Ayanba, you and your mama.
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  Speaker 3: And on top of that. I'm disappointed any other black
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  Speaker 3: men that were in the room, Like, I feel like
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  Speaker 3: he fight somebody. Was he going to go run up
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  Speaker 3: and fight that girl?
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  Speaker 1: Right because he was like, why y'all gotta hold him back? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Very aggressive. So yeah, keep you an Indian woman, child.
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  Speaker 1: We don't need you over here. Yeah. But did you
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  Speaker 1: see this? There is a family out of Montgomery County.
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  Speaker 1: Where is this Texas? I think it's Texas. I'm sorry,
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  Speaker 1: but it says Montgomery County firefighters. Family has a daughter
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  Speaker 1: on the way. The last time the Sherman family said
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  Speaker 1: they had a girl born in their family was nineteen
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  Speaker 1: one hundred and eight years and family is finally expecting
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  Speaker 1: the daughter. Ain't been having nothing but all boys? Was
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  Speaker 1: that a curse? Is the curse?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I bet you that family big as hell. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: men be men, be pro creating. Okay, right, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: This is a black family too. I wonder what happened,
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  Speaker 3: but that, I mean, you know that's a blessing. A
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  Speaker 3: lot of times, like men they be wanting boys so
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  Speaker 3: bad they don't realize like that gene comes from them. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: so you're the reason you don't have a boy it's
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  Speaker 3: not your girlfault. Those are some some some. I always
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  Speaker 3: think men who end up with a bunch of girls
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  Speaker 3: are usually womanizers, like it'd be the good men who
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  Speaker 3: have sons to create more good men.
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  Speaker 1: Well that means literally every woman with the Sherman last
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  Speaker 1: name was married into the family, married, married, married, there's
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  Speaker 1: no girl, and then they had a boy too. That's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: That's insane. Honestly, a hundred or eight years and not
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  Speaker 1: a single girl until now. I pray blessings over that baby.
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  Speaker 3: I wonder who the family of the mom is, Like
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  Speaker 3: she came through with them jeans like powerful jeans, yep, yep,
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  Speaker 3: Trump Trump that yeh get a girl? Yeah, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder.
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  Speaker 3: I wonder if there's any other families like that. Is
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  Speaker 3: that like Guinness? That has to be a record, right,
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  Speaker 3: one hundred years seventeen. Yeah, that's nuts. Not a single female.
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  Speaker 3: So I saw this funny article. It said that female
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  Speaker 3: octopus have been observed throwing objects at persistent males who
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  Speaker 3: won't stop trying to mate with them.
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  Speaker 1: So it says it's smarter than we thought.
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  Speaker 3: I saw octopus trying to drown a man like he
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  Speaker 3: really was on him like trying to.
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  Speaker 1: Get to his face to put the body over his face,
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  Speaker 1: trying to kill his elf, throwing object saying I'm like
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  Speaker 1: leave me alone. Damn right, I don't want to you.
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  Speaker 1: It's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: The p L p l O S One study found
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  Speaker 3: that female octopus use a remarkable strategy, gathering shells, silt,
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  Speaker 3: or algae in their webs and blasting it through their tifon.
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  Speaker 3: I guess whatever it is to hit a target with
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  Speaker 3: surprising accuracy, and this is in water. Also imagine you
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  Speaker 3: had to crash it real hard for it to get.
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  Speaker 1: Away from my house, They said.
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  Speaker 3: Often females aimed at males, approaching too aggressively, researchers to
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  Speaker 3: even observe them, adjusting their arm and repeating throws at
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  Speaker 3: the same individual individual suggesting true intent. Maybe we need
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  Speaker 3: to start that, you know, instead of like giving this
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  Speaker 3: man the wrong phone number because you like don't want
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  Speaker 3: to be harrassed.
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  Speaker 1: Just man.
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  Speaker 3: I remember one time we got into a fight.
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  Speaker 1: We were some kids.
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  Speaker 3: It was my homegirl's boyfriend, it was my cousin's boyfriend.
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  Speaker 3: We were all fighting, and man, my sister threw a
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  Speaker 3: brick at that nigga like he was upstairs in his trailer.
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  Speaker 3: We were all like downstairs, mad with precision. She hit
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  Speaker 3: that name like imagine just a head like peep out
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  Speaker 3: out a screen door like after he'd done Eve been
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  Speaker 3: fighting all us outside.
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  Speaker 1: They got hit with a brick right in his face,
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  Speaker 1: beat him. All right, what are we talking today? All right?
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  Speaker 1: We are gonna talk about can you be single forever
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  Speaker 1: and happy?
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  Speaker 3: Like?
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  Speaker 1: Is that the thing? Do you have to be connected
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  Speaker 1: to someone for your happiness? Some women are saying they
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  Speaker 1: don't want to be with anyone and they can be
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  Speaker 1: fine like that. I want to get into it because
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you know, who knows what the future wholes.
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  Speaker 1: So we'll see. All right, we'll be right behind that.
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  Speaker 1: Would you be okay being single forever?
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  Speaker 3: You know my last relationship I said that was the
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  Speaker 3: last relationship. I literally I was like, Man, if this
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  Speaker 3: shit don't work, I ain't doing this again. You know,
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  Speaker 3: I don't have a problem being by myself, but that
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  Speaker 3: is not my preference. I know this life is built
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  Speaker 3: for double occupancy.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: You're not supposed to be trying to do life by yourself.
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  Speaker 3: At a lot of us will and do right. A
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  Speaker 3: lot of the divorced girlies love it single. Okay, you
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  Speaker 3: got the kids already, husband at the house and they
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  Speaker 3: chilling now understandable, they've already done it thing. I haven't
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  Speaker 3: done the thing yet, right, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes I like, I listen to like some of my friends'
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  Speaker 1: issues with their partner, and then I lay there like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, thanking God that I ain't got that. But
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  Speaker 1: then when I'm in there eating them factor meals in
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  Speaker 1: the house, sitting there at a trade table by myself,
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  Speaker 1: watching Netflix, alon be like, God, send me somebody. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but you you eating factor meals.
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  Speaker 3: If you had a man there, you'd have to be
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  Speaker 3: cooking actual meals. You're responsible for this nigga's stomach, and
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  Speaker 3: they always want to know what, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Why you ain't get something before you got here. I'm
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  Speaker 1: eating cereal tonight.
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  Speaker 3: That's one of the things I hate being like, I
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  Speaker 3: understand the woman is responsible for the nourishment of the family,
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  Speaker 3: so I will always like prepare the food and shit
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  Speaker 3: like that. But man, when you single, some nights I
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  Speaker 3: don't even eat.
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  Speaker 1: I just go to popcorn, popcorn in the glass and wine.
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  Speaker 1: I don't always feel like eating. So you can have
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  Speaker 1: some of you want some power worm, go eat some cereal.
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  Speaker 1: My daddy used to say, get your air sandwich.
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  Speaker 3: If you think you're gonna be hungry, take two slices
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  Speaker 3: of bread blowing between it and slap it together real
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  Speaker 3: fast ship. Go make an air sandwich and get out
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  Speaker 3: my face. But yeah, like, it's just certain things you
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  Speaker 3: don't got to worry about when you single. You know,
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  Speaker 3: you don't have to consider someone else all the time,
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  Speaker 3: and that absolutely. And I think it's there's a difference
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  Speaker 3: between a single woman and a single man. Like single woman, uh,
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  Speaker 3: not to say we don't be out here smashing, having sex,
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: having fun. I think it's it's minimal. It's depending on
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: your age, right in comparison to men, like men is
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: out here just doing whatever, right right, smashing. Men like
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: relationships too, but they don't want the commitment parts. And
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: they might be doing all the things with somebody, but
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: they don't want like the title. Yeah, and I think
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: women kind of stay by themselves until they can get
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: that tight on.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, but I kind of like that too.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I've been know to not want a title, got to
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: call it anything it is, It's fine, We're fine, right.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: No, not for me, man, I be needing to know,
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: especially if I want to be in a relationship if
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: I don't want to. I mean, I'm never mentioning shit,
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: But then it's always when you are in that energy,
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: then the other person is always trying to figure out
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: what we're doing. Like men be trying to figure out
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: what's up too. It's just you trading pants with them.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, like the both of the like, I've
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: only had like two really serious relationships that I call
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: serious relationships, and both times I was given an ultimatum.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: Is that crazy? Like either we're gonna be together or
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: we just need to stop?
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: But what was it a relationship then? Wasn't yeah, you
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: have actually committed to it.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: So even once they said like either they gonna leave
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: me alone or we gonna be in a committed relationship,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: then I was like, all right, then let's be together.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: I don't want I don't want you to leave. But
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: it was never like the other way around.
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm leaving if a nigga gave me
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: an ultimatum, what.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I mean, because technically we were already in a relationship,
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: it just didn't have a title. So I don't know.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: I mean a commitment fold but that was a long
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: time ago. Now, I think I would want all the things.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: It's nice, especially if you you.
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: I don't know, man, it's just I know a lot
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: of it's hard because we just a lot of us
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: have been through the ringer with men. What I'm experiencing
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: right now is just like it's so good, right to
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: the point where I'm like, when is the nigga shit
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: showing up? Oh? Yeah, Like I'm self sabotaging in my
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: mind right because I've never experienced anybody be like good
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: day one. It's almost always you got to go through
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: this stupid ass rough patch, ghetto shit bitches, all these
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: different things, like to get to the promised land all
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: of a sudden, and by the time you get there,
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: it's like I don't even like you. An, Yeah, you're done.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: You've done.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: Try to broke me, break me down, Like I'm really
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: ready to try this shit with somebody else at this point,
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: Like you're good today, but what about them other three
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: hundred and sixty days?
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: So you said like this is your forever person, What
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: is forever? I mean, I'm listen. I will love like
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: I've never been hurt before.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: I will start over as many times as I feel
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: like I need to with anything, career, job, motherfucking just
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: life period, relationships, and I leave niggas, I definitely do
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: so I'm never scared to leave somebody. It might take
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: me a while to do it, but when I do
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: do it, I'm out of there forever.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: I hope, I hope. So. I was about to say,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I don't know, you didn't answer the question just now,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: but that's all we could do is.
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: Hope and then move forward and not with intention. You know,
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: that's all you can do. But uh, it's scary. It
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: is fucking like, I feel like this is more scary
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: than catch your nigga cheating, like or knowing your niggad
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: cheating and you ain't saying shit yet. It's more scary
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: when you're fucking with somebody with intention and you're sitting
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: there waiting for them other niggas. Yeah, somebody to kick
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: sweep you on your fucking head, like, damn, that's you.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: First of all, I've never been the type of woman
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: that can hold on to any information. If I find
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: out you're doing something, I ain't holding it in my
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: back pocket. I'm going right away, you.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: Know, I'm the FED Show. I'm being a rico, you know,
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: because I don't like the nag. I do be liking
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: happy days. But when she start piling up, I'm be like, listen, now,
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: I was like, people say they want you to address
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: shit the minute it happens, but when you are actually
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: doing that, now you're nagging. If I'm actually addressing everything
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: every time I don't like something, now I'm nagging. I mean,
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: everybody does it, though I don't know like I don't.
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: I don't. I don't really address everything every time. Sometimes
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: it's okay to shut the fuck up. But you know,
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: when she started piling up and we get into this
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: thing like, yeah, I might start spewing off some shit
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: you thought I ain't know about because shut the fuck
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: up with me.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. I'm like, I do pick and choose
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: my battles. But if I find out you're cheating on me,
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: I'm not sitting on that. I'm not sitting on that.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: I'm coming so that that I'm not cheating shit. I'll say.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: I remember one day where in my one of my
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: last relationships, I was actually looking for a reason instead
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: of just having knowing that you got enough reasons to
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: go why are you looking for a particular reason. This day,
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: I went through the nigga email and I saw he
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: was trying to go to lunch with one of his.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: Not I don't even know what the girl was an ex.
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: I just knew she was always a goddamn problem, right
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: and so, and we were working on like the food
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: truck at the time. So I go out to the
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: food truck, got your kids in my car, and I'm like,
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: and we're engaged. At this point, I said, you want
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: an open marriage? That was my way of letting him
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: know he was on some bullshit and I knew, do
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: you want to open marriage? So it's never like I'm
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: like you cheating.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: Ain't da da da, No nigga, I like even playing
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: fields I am.
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: I am definitely a one upper, so don't don't tip
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: me and I won't tap. So if you on that
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: type of time, I want to be able to be
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: on that type of time too, because what makes you
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: think I just want to be super committed.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: If you ain't right, I thought you was gonna say,
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: y'all pulled up on him. No, hell don't know. The
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: kid was like, stay away from my daddy trip. You
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: know what movie that kids with me though you never
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: seen Daddy's Little Girls where, Yeah, I remember, I don't
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: remember that scene. The lady pulled up on Gabrielle Union.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: She on a date. She was on the best date
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: she had with another attorney, and a van pulled up
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: and the door slid open, and the little boys jo
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: dad like, stay away from my daddy. Tramp shit girl.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: I remember when I was leaving and I was taking
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: like food at the refrigerator, like I eat a lot
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: of things people don't eat right, so I'm not about
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: to leave. I'm leaving like I'm leaving, leaving, and his
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: son was like, why are you taking all our food?
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: It was at that moment I was like, you and
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: your daddy. I beat the one in here cooking and
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: slaving and fee of your eyes. You don't eat this ship.
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: I'm taking out hair. These are things I bought for me. Like,
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: why ain't taking hour He's just studying me. Why you're
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: taking all our food? Your Daddy's gonna get you some
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: more food. This is my food. What'd you say?
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Shut up? Shut up? I missed those kids, man.
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: I definitely told his ass to shut up because I
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: was not taking all this food. This is daddy energy
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: just tapped into him right quick. Yep, that's all that
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: shit was.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: Now he wouldn't know where the good shit going because
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: you look at peanut butter and jelly than this motherfucker.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: They definitely say, wake me up. We want your breakfast.
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: Didn't your daddy just give y'all cereal? But y'all want
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: my breakfast hot? It's better.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: So do we like what celebrities are like proudly single
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: versus like people who are like seem like they fake independent.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: I don't think anybody is. I mean you had Beyonce
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: single independent, all these songs she was making, and really
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: she wanted a husband.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? Like the girlies be talking
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: hell is shit, but they stay pregnant right you know?
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: So why are we spreading that, yes, spreading our rhetoric
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: when really women want to be loved all of it. Yeah,
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: we want to be in love. We want somebody to
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: consider us. We want We just want it with the
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: right person and we don't want to have to go
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: through the fucking struggle first to get it. We just
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: want you to be a one day one.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: That's it.
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: So I think if all women can find that that situation. Now,
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: I'm not saying bitches ain't crazy, because that's a lot
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: of women that are crazy as hell who probably need
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: to be by themselves because they cannot coexist with someone else.
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: But I believe for the most part, like women, just
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: women do want relationships. I think it might be like
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: a defense mechanism.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: I think that's what it is for me. Oftentimes, I
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: think it's just like an office meant like, why we
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: need to If I don't pick, nobody, nobody can hurt
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: me kind of thing.
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm picking, and I like to pick, you know
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying. I like to pick because you get
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: what you want when you when you pick, So even
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: if you got multiple people pursuing you, you still get
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: to That's why it's important to date. And like we've
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: talked before, like black women just don't know how to
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: date because we were never allowed to. Yeah, right, So
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: white girls got multiple boyfriends, They got multiple friends. John,
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: all these people can come to the house, they hanging
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: out with them, you know, not even having sex.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: At least their parents think they ain't having sex.
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: But you know, when black women get to the age
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: of dating, which let our elders tell it.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: It need to be after college.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: Right, you know, yeah, you need to find your mate
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: while you're in college. You got to try to figure
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: out how to do both.
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: Well, it's just so far in college you're still like
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: so young. And especially I feel like the kiddies that
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: are well they're adults, the young adults that are in
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: college now, I don't think they are as mature, you know.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: I think there's a bit of arrested development when it
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: comes with millennials and Gen z or and I think
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: like some of them don't even I mean, listen, I
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: don't feel like a lot of people get to know
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: themselves for real until they're in their thirties.
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you're right, men and women when men might
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: take it even a look than that.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: It's a proven scientific fact, yeah right.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: You might not be dealing with a fully developed male
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: until he's you know, late thirties.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: Forties, early forties, and then sometimes.
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: You know, they be thinking they'd to pick it the litter,
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: so they really they still be playing even in today forties,
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: Like my daddy is seventy two years old. I remember
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: my daddy's still playing in his fifties and sixties.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Okay, good out here, wrong. I was living with his
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: nigga for like a year or two. I saw it.
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: I knew when my daddy was coming home and when
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: he wasn't. If he put on like a tracksuit or something,
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: he coming back. If that and put a hat on
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: some hard bottoms, he ain't coming back. I don't seen
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: a bra on the fucking Like, what is happening? You
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: know you had a teenage daughter living here. He live
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: in his best life, best life for a long time,
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: you know, staying And now.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: Do you have any friends that like swore they be
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: single forever and like now they booed up in love
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: and a different person, got a kid and all kind
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: of shit.
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: No, not one of them. That's why I'm like, maybe
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: those women only exist online, or maybe those women are
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: ones who have been who are now divorced with children
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: and like fuck that. Or older women right in her
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: fifties or something like that. But young younger women like
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: our age, Like, no, everybody wants somebody like they looking
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: for their husband. They manifest their right and they list
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: out they're trying to manifest their husbands.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: Everybody.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: Do you know anybody who just be like sucked out?
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I want to be single, No, I don't know. You know,
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: actually I do? Is fun? Huh? Is she still getting
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: smashed up? She don't want to how to say she
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: don't want to have sex? Well, I think she just
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: so tired of men and like it's exhausted, being feeling,
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: feeling misused, because she definitely got like a very very negative,
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: very negative perspective, negative energy when it comes toward dating
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: and what you're gonna get and how you know, She's
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: just like, fuck these niggas, fuck them. I don't want
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: to fuck. I don't want to date. I don't want
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: to be bothered with them at all. I'm like, well,
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: are you a lesbian? And she's like, no, I'm not
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: gay either.
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: I'm always fucked these niggas too, right, But I love
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: these niggas, Let's not get it twisted. Fuck these niggas
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: who be on that motion. Right, if somebody comes along
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: who isn't, I'd be ready. That's what I mean. Like
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: when I say fuck these niggas, like collectively for these niggas.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: As a as a body of people.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm never like I love men like and
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: I love love. I understand the power of partnership and
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: a union, you know, what I'm saying, even though a
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: lot of men don't understand, and y'all be out here
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: paper chasing, running in circles, you don't realize the bad
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: come with your wife, right, you know, and not saying
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: that you can't be shit without a woman.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: But whatever you got going on, I.
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: Bet you it will triple double, quadruple backflip.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: Okay if you get a good woman. Do you think
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: there's a difference between loneliness and solitude.
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, they a little bit, right, so they could be
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: a little interchangeable or they can be like opposite. I
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: think solitude is good, and you don't. You're not necessary lonely,
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: necessarily lonely when you're in solitude, I like to be
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: by myself, you know what I'm saying. I like and
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: right now I got like a long distance thing going on,
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: and it's good. Yeah, because I'm a Gemini right every
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: single day, Like I have to work up to that,
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: like I do like cohabitating, but I have to.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: Work up to that, like in a long term relationship.
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: I think my like my last serious serious relationship work
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: lasted as long as it did because my nigga was deployed.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: He was military, so he'd be gone for three more
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: and then come home for three months and then be
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: gone three more months, and that shit used to.
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: Just yeah, you really missed them. When you see them,
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: you miss each other. So it does make the love
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: like stronger. But once you like in that and y'all
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: in each other's faces every day all day, like you
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: really learn each other.
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: That's the hard part. Like that's the hard part for
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: me of a committed relationship in my face every day
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: every day. Huh. I said, you're still here, Yeah, like
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: every single day, day in and day out, and y'all
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: always here. You know.
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: I said I would never live with a man in
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: an apartment, and I mean the townhouse is essentially the
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: same thing, Like I have done both now at this point,
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: and it's not enough space. Yeah, because if you pissed
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: me off and you still can walk past me, I'm
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: going to trip. Last night, I was in here practicing kicksweeping.
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: I might post a video practicing that is funny, because
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: why are you because I want to KickSweep a nigga
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: in the midst of an argument, like when he like.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: That's not want to be.
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: And wash their head like like pop up off the
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: floor a little bit.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: Like, but I think relationships would last a lot longer
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: if people had that space.
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: Well, I'm not opposed to separate bedrooms, separate bedrooms, separate bathroom.
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: We need a big ass house and we could take turns.
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: But nine times out of ten, man gonna be in
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: your room because your shit can be cleaner, better linen
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: all that, Like, it's a comfortable room. Your ship is
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: the playroom. I'm not opposed to, like older people start
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: doing it. My parents live in separate rooms right now,
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: both of them. Okay, both sets of family members. They
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: live in separate rooms.
• 35:19
  Speaker 5: Yeah, because this time, Yeah, and I think it's healthy.
• 35:25
  Speaker 5: Were still individuals. You know what I'm saying. We're not
• 35:29
  Speaker 5: sleep in the same bed every now.
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: Get I would listen. I'm even one of those people
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: like if we sleep in the same bed, I don't
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: want to sleep on you. Get over there, like we
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: can cuddle, but then what's this time to go to sleep?
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: Please go to your corner and get the fuck away
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: from me, don't. You might can put a leg over
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: here a little bit, but don't be trying to hold
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: onto me like the last I keep saying, the last relationship,
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: he would want to like me to late sleep on
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: his chest? Do you have ground beef grown beef on
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: sh He had little curly hairs on his chest and
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: want me to sleep on that? And then he was sweat.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: Oh hell no, get off of me. That'd be me.
• 36:15
  Speaker 3: I started sweating immediately, like I want to cut over
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: for two minutes, and then like you know, I love
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: you and I'm turning my back to you. Yes, I
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: saw this diagram. They were saying, like people who actually
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: sleep back to back, like couples booty the booty, booty
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: to booty have the best relationships actually, like they're confident
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: in their relationship that we don't know what I'm saying.
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: So I'm trying to fucking sleep. Yeah, damn, you have
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: to be connected at the joints, Like god, damn, let
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: me go.
• 36:45
  Speaker 3: Imagine being sleep and every night somebody like taking their
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: feet and rubbing the bottom of your feet with their toes,
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: you know, while they're sleeping, while you're trying to go
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: to sleep, while you're sleeping, every ain't gonna night, you like,
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: stop doing that to my fucking feet. How am I
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: supposed to go to sleep?
• 37:05
  Speaker 4: Right?
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: Somebody sickling the bottom of my fucking foot. First of all,
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: you probably don't want to do that with my foot.
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: You're gonna cut yourself.
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: You got defense mechanisms like I don't know what type
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: of animal got raisins on the bottom of your foot.
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: Just to the nigga, try it.
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: I've been staying at twenty years. Okay, all right, I
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: got some questions for me. Would you rather be single
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: forever or date someone broke? What the fuck? Hello? Why
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: we can't why we can't never like I'm here, bitch, got.
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: Why we can't ever have both stingle forever or date
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: someone broke?
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: Okay?
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: Because I understand broke is a mindset, So you have
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: a broke mindset. I can't fuck with you. If you're
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: currently in between blissings, I might give fuck with you,
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. If you're a man with
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: a plan, I can. I would prefer doing that and
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: just being completely single. But if we going with this
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: exactly how it says, I would just be single.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Without adding in all the other factors.
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: I would just be single because that is not a
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: happy life for me, because that is not a happy man.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because listen, the number one reason in the United
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: States that relationships. Dissolve is what finances. So I don't
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: want to be with no broke, angry man just so
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: I can say I'm happy I'm with somebody.
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's a lot of women's situations. They got
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: that dude, they can't get off their damn couch a.
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: Mad Okay, what about this one? Single for single forever?
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: Or deal with a cheater love?
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: See, I've done that right, and it just doesn't lead
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: to a good place like there even if he stops cheating,
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: the trust is gone. I don't trust you not to cheat.
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: I don't want to keep harassing somebody about the past.
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: So if I can't do that, I need to get
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: out the situation. If you can't really actively forgive, because
• 39:21
  Speaker 3: forgiveness is given giving up hope for a better pass,
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: that's all it is.
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: And if you can't give up hope for a better pass.
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: You gotta get out of there. So I would just
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: be single then, just to stay with somebody who's always
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: gonna cheat.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: See for me, I don't know, because cheating ain't a
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: deal breaker for me.
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: It depends on well maybe it depends on how you cheat.
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: And if you're giving pitches money like somebody could send
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: me like a roll of cash app and Apple pay
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: payments you've been sending.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: I'm outitor. Oh but what kind of what kind of
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: I don't know, because think about it, what kind of
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: women are you dealing with that you don't have to
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: do nothing for?
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: There's a lot of women out here who can't even
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: ask for what they need or want. So even though
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: you know he doesn't have to show up with anything,
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: she probably maybe he's the type of person where you
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: got to actually ask him. It's not that he can't
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: do it, but he's not offering. She could be fucking with.
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: He could be somebody like that for her.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: For me over here, it's a little bit different. Require money,
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: like you don't require any like financial help, and you
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: just you be questioning a woman. No, You're like, what
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: are you doing? You're just getting You just want his
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: dick is crazy.
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: And a lot of women just want the dick. That
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: is the weird part to me, Like that's all y'all
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: like man dick for brings. I have this argument with
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: a loved one all the time, and I remember one
• 41:03
  Speaker 3: time she said to me, well he got bills.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: Too, stole sounds like a personal problem.
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: You asking me for money. Now, I gotta suck my
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: man's dick to give you a dollar. How is that right? Yeah,
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: I'm doing the dirty work, and you over here let
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: somebody hop on your body for what.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: I don't understand it. I will never understand it. At
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: least get a pack of cigarettes. Right, A dry person
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: or mass do not match? You?
• 41:35
  Speaker 3: Remember Bud, your grandmama, she that's used to. At least
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: get get a pack of cigarettes.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: All right? This is gonna come home single forever or
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: married with no sex?
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: Does it okay? Does the husband have a bag, Yes.
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: He's not broke. I ain't gonna say he rich rich,
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: but he ain't broke.
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: I might could do married with no sex if you single? Right,
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: you're not supposed to be letting nobody smash on you
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: if you're single.
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: Right, No, that's not true. You have sex when you single?
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: Maybe that's another episode. I mean you don't like Yeah,
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: of course, right, But most women want more than sex. Yeah,
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: most women want more than just letting somebody get on
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: their ass.
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: Most women, you know, not you If you want a
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: marriage with no sex versus being you didn't say I
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: can have no You said no sex. That means no
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: sex with him, and let's say that it's married with
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: no s with him, because I'm gonna get me. I
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: don't know.
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: I just I have been in relationships where love is
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: going and you don't want to have sex, and you
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: just not even in the mood to have sex. You know.
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: So men always talking about how their wives are gonna
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: be giving it up. I'm gonna tell y'all a secret.
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: Women ain't gonna don't want to tell y'all. She don't
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: like you were giving that pussy up when we in love. Okay,
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: we can't wait for you to touch us.
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: They move too high, they're bored and never rubbing his
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: foot on the bottom of their foot at night. They
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: can't get no fucking sleep. They like they get bored.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: I don't even think it's I don't think it's good.
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: The stroke will change. It's the same position. We're gonna
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: start missionary and then I'm gonna flip you over, and
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: then I'm gonna do that a couple of times. I'm
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: gonna come and go to sleep. Same ship for twenty years. Yeah,
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: she tied. She don't want that no more.
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: I think married people or people who have been in
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: long term committed relationships, they need to go go go
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: to a hotel more often.
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: Hotel sex be good. Vacation sex. That's what I always like.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: The girl the say like they sex might be born
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: at home, but when they go on vacation, they get
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: splitted out by their men.
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah, let's see, because you're just happy you're on vacation,
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: you got to worry about the kids ain't here if
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: you got them like it's just all fun times and
• 44:12
  Speaker 3: then maybe like that thing that made them like each
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: other gets rekindled, like they acting like kids themselves. You
• 44:19
  Speaker 3: got to keep that childlike energy man to keep fun.
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: And shit is just extra strict and too much adult
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: shit going on. Like we just living, working and paying bills.
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: I don't really feel like sucking dick. I really don't
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: feel like you know. So on one of our episodes
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: when I said, like I want a man who ain't
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: mad that we ain't having sex for a month for
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: our goals, I believe sometimes you have to practice abstinence
• 44:44
  Speaker 3: right from multiple things, just fasting to reach goals.
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: You just have to, Like, if.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: You're milking a man every single night, I promise you
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: he's not producing. He don't have the energy too, if
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: you're doing it right, baby, because I put niggas asleep.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: So if your nigga always awake, you ain't doing nothing
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: every night? Every night is crazy?
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like having sex every night, having sex every time
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: your man wants to have sex. That's not I wouldn't
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: suggest that to anybody. No, I'm not saying deprived, but
• 45:19
  Speaker 3: have a little boundary even in the marriage, to make
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: sure he keeps producing.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but a month is crazy? Is it thirty days?
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: It's four weeks? You break that down, it's thirty days. Yeah,
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: that's sound like, yeah, that's a long time, y'all just horny.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: Why y'all are horning thirty days? And I got a
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: whole man right there. Every day it seemed like a lot.
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but every day like we knocking our goals, Like
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: every day we doing things like might that might have
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: us tired? And this is in situations where you're building
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, like, why do you even
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: what's the reward? What are we celebrating with the sex?
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: That's how I feel. I'm talking about relationship girl, by
• 46:09
  Speaker 3: that love shit, man ain't ship when them bill's piling
• 46:12
  Speaker 3: up on your ass? Yeah, you know what I'm saying,
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: like you only got enough money for bills, enough but
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: nothing fun.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, now that don't sound fun at all. Yes, and
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: why do you I have to be happy to have sex.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: You have to be happy to have sex to do it?
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: WI are really really mad? One of the two toxic?
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: That's all.
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: I'm here.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: You toxic.
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: You be making up reasons to fighting niggas, so y'all
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: can have makeup sex.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be upset. I don't do that.
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: Don't worry.
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: You don't even know if you just don't do that
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: or not? Great the helly No, man, the more we fight,
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: the less I like you.
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but you never had like really good makeup sex
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: like mm hmm. I don't want to have sex. We gotta.
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: We have to have had an in depth conversation about
• 47:08
  Speaker 3: whatever transpired, and maybe the day after tomorrow I'll give
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: it to.
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: You three days. We'll revisit this conversation in thirty days. Nigga.
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because you're not climbing up on me if you
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: don't piss me off. Because the problem with men, they
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: are already don't understand what intimacy really is. Intimacy is
• 47:29
  Speaker 3: not you tapping me on my shoulder, if you don't
• 47:31
  Speaker 3: pissed me off all fucking day, and now we're in
• 47:33
  Speaker 3: the bed and you think I'm supposed to happily give
• 47:35
  Speaker 3: you my pussy like this is somebody else going into
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: my body, my body. I can't let you go in
• 47:42
  Speaker 3: my body when you have not been being nice to
• 47:44
  Speaker 3: me all day.
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: Right, I agree.
• 47:47
  Speaker 3: So intimacy starts when you wake up kissing on me,
• 47:50
  Speaker 3: rubbing up on me. If I'm cooking you breakfast, you're
• 47:52
  Speaker 3: touching me like the makeup, the makeup. I think of
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: makeup sex.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: I think of reinforcement of the conversation that we've had
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: to make up. Now we're having sex, not just we
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: was mad, but now I want to fuck.
• 48:07
  Speaker 3: No, so it's gonna be like right after the conversation.
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: It's not gonna be a cool down period.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: It don't have to be no cool down period, as
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: long as we've communicated that you're sorry. See here's the thing.
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: I'm scared of people who say sorry easily.
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: Because I really don't do shit. I try, my really,
• 48:31
  Speaker 3: my heart is my dam is not to do shit.
• 48:33
  Speaker 3: I got to apologize, whant to say sorry about it?
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: So when somebody can easily say sorry, they are going
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: to violate you again, Okay, if all they got to.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: Do is say sorry to get that play. No, it's
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: as long as that, as long as it feels sincere,
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: you know, not even like they're saying that just to
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: say it, but like if they're acknowledging my perspective and
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: they are seeing where what they did may have hurt
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: me or upset me or why it did, I'm okay
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: with that sorry. You know what if they do it again?
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: Hear me?
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: What if they do it again the thing that they
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: apologize for, they do it again in a month and
• 49:11
  Speaker 3: a half now, a month and a half ago, was
• 49:14
  Speaker 3: that really a legitimate sincere apology?
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: Seeing then, I know that's the slippery slope. That's what
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: you gotta see. Like, I'm a work in progress, you.
• 49:23
  Speaker 3: Know, no, not just change behavior, And motherfucker, don't never
• 49:27
  Speaker 3: have to tell me sorry. You don't never have to
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: apologize to me for nothing, I promise. I just don't
• 49:32
  Speaker 3: want to see that shit again.
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: That's it. That's all you have to do.
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: And I'm and I'm yeah, and I'm happy. I don't
• 49:41
  Speaker 3: want to see that shit again. If I got to
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: say something to you about the same thing again. I'm
• 49:46
  Speaker 3: building a rico.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: What's your last last?
• 49:54
  Speaker 3: Y'all, bitch is better stop flexing like y'all happy being
• 49:57
  Speaker 3: single because you're not okay, and no, uh, I'm not
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: saying you're lonely, right. I think men they just think
• 50:05
  Speaker 3: that women are just going to die alone. The Bible
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: says man shouldn't be alone, okay, because we can. We
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: can be alone in solitude and and not be lonely.
• 50:17
  Speaker 3: We got relationships with our friends. You know, half your
• 50:20
  Speaker 3: niggas don't even got no healthy relationships with other men.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 50:23
  Speaker 3: We always want to have community, I believe as women. Yeah,
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: I agree, you know, so we don't got to worry
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: about being alone.
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: Good loving people, good friendships, church, fine hobbies, and that's
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: more of you know, you have solitude and that's not long. Yeah,
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: so yeah, that's that's really My last last is like
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: we want, we want it, We want good men, definitely
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: want good men.
• 50:47
  Speaker 3: A lot of women need to stop acting like it.
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: And it's because somebody ran into a bad man.
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: Like the men.
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: I can tell us choose better man, you'd be thinking
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: you choosing better and then all of a sudden, Michael
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: Myers shows up on your ass, you know. So we
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: be doing our best the information we have until until
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: it's representative, you know, dies, and then all of a sudden,
• 51:11
  Speaker 3: the real nigga polls up.
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: It is like this you right shit, Well, listen to
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: me again, my last last I pray a healthy relationship
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: for anyone within the sound of my voice with whether
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: that be with yourself or with somebody else. Amen, period,
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: all right, period, period, all right, y'all, y'all single bitches.
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