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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-The Way of the Zealous: Embracing a Life of Dedication 9.11.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  And we're analyzing this idea and there's something called the
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  bringer Hassid, who you mentioned, not related to the
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  gob, the dress, the Mihagim I need.
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  That stuff is related to being a facit and doing things the full
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  way, doing them because you want to do them, doing them at
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  employ, really trying to get the job done in the area they're
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  doing it. And over here the examples are
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  concerning other people, which means if you are taking care of
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  our other person, we worrying about their well-being, worrying
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  about how they're feeling, concerning yourself with how
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  they're going to walk away from the room.
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  What's going to be their mood really worrying about that will
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  be that is a little hassidut same issue.
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  We have to worry about the financial being also.
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  If someone tells you the fans is struggling and you're trying to
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  figure out a way to help them or take care of them, you are
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  displaying a sense of being a Hasee going above and beyond.
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  And that's another example is in general has said in general has
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  said, but in general has said a lot of people has one of those
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  areas, one of those topics it has no level, no bar.
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  Some people, oh, they do, they try to do the hassle here and
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  there. All good people we try.
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  Other people are just hassle machines, right?
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  It's just always trying to figure out another way.
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  Another thing I had an issue actually only need help last
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  night for to help someone. I called up my friend 10:30 at
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  night last night OK and he says he was right into I said what
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  are you going to do? He says I'm going to go down to
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  the house right now on the coldest sister-in-law was the
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  whole thing to get helps on. I said this guy is just
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  different. He just mobilized to do Sir,
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  people are testing machines and it's one way or another.
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  That is a concept of Hasidut that means I am going above and
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  beyond. There's no the point of Hasidut
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  is this. There's no bar, there's no
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  limit, there's no minimum, there's no maximum.
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  It's all Gray. You can be a great guy in this
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  area. You can be a decent guy in this
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  area, all good people. But Hasina, someone was thinking
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  himself, I just love, let's say I love this topic, I love other
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  people. I want to figure things out for
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  people. And he goes all the way.
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  Now a small warning is many people in this field who are
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  like that get burnt. Many, they get burnt out, either
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  because they just get tired of it or because they try and they
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  fail, or because they get a lot of backlash.
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  Whatever the reason is, they get printed out.
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  A major warning is if you're doing this, you really have to
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  do it for the right reason. Which means you can love Jessa,
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  you could love more other people.
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  If you're thinking about credit, good luck.
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  It's not going to last because ultimately you'll get way less
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  credit than you deserve. Person has to be really loving
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  of this topic or this outcome more than anything.
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  The number one thing that you're matter to him is the results,
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  helping other people. He can't care about anything
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  else, can't care about us if you go, he can't care about
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  accolades and credit because if he dries A, he's not a conceit
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  because doing other reason and B he will feel better.
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  At the end of the day, there's no ifs and buts.
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  I tell people who are evolved in these fields, many of them have
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  a lot of the video stories basically of not being treated
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  properly. And the way to get past that is,
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  I'll remind yourself, I'm a Hasid, I'm doing this.
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  I care about people and that's all I care about.
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  I don't care about anything else.
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  Let that be a number one prerogate because in reality,
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  from other topics we've had, if you have two goals, you end up
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  having no full goal. If you want to be a Hasid in
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  these areas they really want. That's when it comes to so
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  Mitch, your man Mitch women, I can't go.
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  So basically how you want to do the good and you want to feel
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  good about it. It couldn't be that cause a lot
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  of times we when we have idealistic ideas, a lot of it is
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  a sense that I want to feel good.
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  A lot of them come together, but beware of looking for credits
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  and covert in those areas 'cause that will eventually take you
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  down. Now that doesn't mean you can't
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  want to do a good cinema things. Feeling good means you feel very
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  good when you pray, you feel good when you learnt, you feel
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  when you give charity, you feel good when you see someone who
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  you helped build their life back up.
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  That's real genuine feeling good and that's fine.
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  That's what we're great, that's great and a lot of those people
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  even don't have that. But that's OK, you can look for
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  that, that's a human being. But to look for the next step,
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  which is the credit and people saying a name and people know
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  who you are, people know who you do.
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  Oftentimes that takes you off your game for sure.
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  It is now same idea of being a chassis.
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  And this is a big .1 in Shalom. Another area that has many, many
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  levels in Shalom, which is you can have people who believe in
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  peace, but they set the bar at a certain dollar amount and now
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  are willing to lose that amount to so and so.
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  And they're in a fight and all they do all day is talk about
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  peace. And by the way, they're good
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  people and they believe in peace and they appreciate children
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  peace. And they're talking about
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  Shalom. And you say, how does AO 1 + 1
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  equal 2? Actually 1% does equal to how
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  does this equal there? How does the guy believe in
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  peace? Talk about Shalom, right?
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  Try to give over to his children the mindset of Shalom and yet
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  being embroiled in a few fights sometimes they're saying is I
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  can handle XI just can't handle this level, right?
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  I'm not willing to lose this amount of money or not only to
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  have my company, you know, messed over from this guy and
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  just accept it all. I believe in peace, but it's the
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  level that's fair. It's correct.
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  A Hassid is someone who tries as hard as he can to find ways to
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  create peace and figure out ways to go beyond these grade levels
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  and to go further for the sake of peace.
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  And he called the default Shalom, chasing peace.
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  This is again, a mindset. Again, it's an area that you can
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  have a lot of bars. Like I said, you have a person
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  who believes in peace based on value in many fights, some
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  people a little better than that, other people even better.
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  And all this is pretty much how much do I dedicate the piece?
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  It does not mean you can have shuttle everywhere.
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  No one's saying that. No one's judging because the guy
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  has one person doesn't like him and he's not a shuttle on
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  person. That's that's not proper
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  judgement. It's not fair to judge at all.
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  But it does say if you want to be a Hasid, you push past these
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  levels and you don't have limits and say, I I go off until this
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  point, beyond this point, I can't let me know.
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  He is a guy who really wants it, who really, really wants it.
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  And if he, you know, while in a fight, can't sleep at night,
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  that's great. That means he cures.
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  If he's calling other people to try to help him, that means he
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  cares. If he's trying to appease, it
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  means he cares. Different indications and the
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  ways of again, expanding your caram of Shalom.
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  You can expand his own, as you said the other day, you can
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  expand your zone of worrying about other people's well-being
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  and their their their mental well-being.
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  And you can expand your zone of Shalom as well.
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  But you go, it's not just I don't insult people that I'm
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  taking fights. It's more than that.
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  I don't trigger fights more than that.
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  I forget easily keep going. I'm willing to look past things
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  and you go and you go. And the idea is you really
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  believe in Shalom pointers, levels and a person has to know
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  you can be the basic level or you can be a top level, all in
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  your hands depends how much you like and you care about these
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  topics. Every topic that we have in
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  front of us you have to believe in.
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  You have to hold of holding of Shalom.
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  I mean, we all talk about Shalom, but you have to really
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  hold the Shalom. Hold the Shalom and believe in
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  it will stop you from many, many fights in life If you find
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  situations where the guy wronged you, messed you over all right,
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  you know of Shalom. You know it's a mitzvah to be
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  with Shalom. OK, that's great.
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  Pretty mess me over. So now what?
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  All right, now you have to go a little better step.
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  You have to believe in Shalom. So it's not just knowing it's a
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  mitzvah because a lot of times you know it's a mitzvah, but you
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  have an excuse. You have to believe in it.
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  That pushes you a little further.
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  You have to love it. Be a Hassid in that area and
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  then it takes you all the way as far as you can go.
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  All this is dependent on a person latching on to a topic.
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  Everyone is not. Not saying every person has to
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  be a casino in every area, but if you want to be a good person
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  or strive to be on high level, it's called taking these topics
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  all the way. That's the idea with Inside
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  Omaha. Isaiah Devata Shalom Shuatava
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  Kalit Chasing Shalom, which is considered one of the greatest
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  Nature's Pin Cola Damla Habilo team man and his fellow friend.
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  I very I really be believer of that point because I think there
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  are people who hold up talk about Shalom, but they don't
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  really display and you're wondering how didn't you know
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  miss the connection? The answer is they know Shalom's
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  a thing. Try to make peace.
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  Don't try to get into a fight. OK, that's but they know that
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  there are a lot of miss, you know, a lot of triggers.
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  What they don't realize is holding up peace takes you
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  further and further and further. And there are a lot of fights
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  that regular people have but a very good guy would never end up
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  in. That's an important point
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  because he would ignore certain things.
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  I've seen this. People who are very particular
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  can't have fights all day long. People who oversee things, never
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  going to get much less fights. And you're wondering, same
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  issue, same thing, but they have a different model, different
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  structure, therefore the outcome, he says, and now I'm
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  going to bring you a proof. I'm going to back up my concept
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  of a person going above and beyond in these areas.
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  I know it's obvious. Then I don't need to be proof,
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  so I'm going to do so anyway. For example, he says there's a
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  rabbi who says they asked him how do you live such a long
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  life? What do you do to marry?
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  Living a long life? He stated as well, see, I never,
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  I did a few things. One of them is I never called
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  people by their nicknames. Now a nickname is a Gray area of
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  insults. According to the camera.
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  It's insult but slight. A lot of times they became your
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  thing. They became what people call
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  you. A lot of this stuff is true, but
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  it's a Gray area of insult type of thing that if you're not a
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  Hasit, you don't see the insult, but if you are a Kazit, you can
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  see yourself. You know what father doesn't
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  like? You have a friend who every time
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  he comes to the conversation, everyone always makes the same
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  jokes about him. And you know what?
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  He accepts them. He laughs and then he laughs
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  alone. And you and I know you notice
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  when his wife was with you, she goes home and she's together and
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  I go. She doesn't like those jokes.
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  She doesn't accept those jokes anymore because that means my
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  husband is not as high as sure as his friends.
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  I know my husband was able to handle it all these years I was
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  part of the boys guess but you know that means he's not as
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  adequate as all of them and that does not make her feel good and
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  that is a sense that's what that's a level where you can
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  sense although it's OK I really am insult it's her that's a
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  Hasee picks up on that it was we we have legends in the community
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  of storefront and all those different names.
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  Yeah. How do you have all those names
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  nicknames. Each guy had their own nickname.
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  Guccho has a life roast. And then so it's kind of like
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  Nick. What do you say?
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  Nope, No. Look at it 60 years later.
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  Those names. No, 'cause those guys loved it.
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  They want to call it Izzo. Izzo.
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  Yeah. So how do you go?
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  Do we have Mazzo? Dudo?
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  ISSO. That's not real.
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  I'm talking. They call it God.
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  You're Judy Little. This or Baba, maybe.
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  Yeah, Baba. Their names.
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  They call them their names. Who is that big?
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  So and so it's a name big so and so Shorty, you know, come on,
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  right Then you say that became that that became their identity.
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  Oh, that's true. That is their name true.
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  So. We don't get that.
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  We don't want to. The first hurry, we tell my name
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  is Bitch. Actually, they're psyched about
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  it. Right the first I wasn't psyched
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  his wife and kids and all and I'll psych right.
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  Who's your father? He's he's they go home Shorty so
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  and so come on. So the idea is that Al Hasid can
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  identify and recognize these layers and levels of
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  sensitivity. Sensitivity is another area
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  where there are 1,000,000 levels.
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  You can have people who have a conversation and they have
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  thrown insults. They were throwing insults left
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  and right and they walk away and they said someone says how do
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  you do that? He said what I do wrong, I did
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  nothing wrong. And you one second, the guy just
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  hurt a person in the conversation four times.
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  He doesn't pick up on it. He doesn't pick up on it 'cause
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  he's not a facet. He doesn't recognize the levels
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  and the layers of really caring about well-being.
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  And the point I'm trying to make over here is I think it's
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  important point, which is his point really, which is if you
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  believe in something, whatever it is you were raised on,
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  whatever it is you grew up to thinking, you know, not
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  everyone's a big has a person. Not everyone's a big Cesar cop
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  person. Not everyone is a big, you know,
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  he's Zook and worrying other people's well-being person.
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  We have how it thinks, but if you believe in it and you want
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  to take it, go to the Max. Let that be your identity.
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  Let that be what you believe in and let that be something that
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  you constantly are strong at your whole life.
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  Take them and make the identity. But you need to believe in it.
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  You need to really be dedicated the same way regained the
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  service of Hashem. It was something called the
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  Hasidan service. The guy praise for hours.
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  The guy learns a lot and you want someone to learn a lot.
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  You need to believe in it. Someone's really going to pray.
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  Well, I need the hold of tefillah.
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  It's same exact thing when it comes to Shalom.
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  When it comes to caring about other people's well-being, you
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  need to buy in. If you don't buy in, there's no
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  way I can tell you. You could tell it's how and so
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  be nice. They'll tend to be nice, but
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  they'll be insulting all the time.
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  I need to really be a hassid. That means being dedicated to
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  this area in their life. You have to believe in it.
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  That's just telling you this rabbit was asked what made you
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  live a long life, Amal. And he said, MI amai.
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  Well, there's time to be talking about emotions, to feel out.
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  Number one, I never walked in front of someone else while they
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  were praying. Right as he says.
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  Oh, he says worse. I never use the restroom.
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  OK, look, look, I never gave my friend nickname.
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  I never neglected keep Kedush of Shabar properly, OK.
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  And the rabbit says what do you mean Neville?
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  He says one time I had a mother, one time my mother had to sell
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  her veil, her head covering, just to get money to buy wine
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  for Kedush. In other words, we would
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  dedicate it to a topic again, a theme of a hasidut of being into
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  something. Everyone's got their thing.
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  You have your thing, I have my thing.
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  We love other things. And if you buy into your thing
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  and you take it to the all the way to the bank, that'll be the
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  item and you'll become a casino in that area.
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  And it's a whole different level.
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  It's beyond the level bound to the your casino sign area.
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  Alright, we'll start with this.