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Become Disciplined: Change Your Mindset, Transform Your Life · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Regret, regret the things I could have done differently or
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  Speaker 1: learned sooner. There's so much knowledge out there, so much information,
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  Speaker 1: so many ways to get better, and we make so
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  Speaker 1: many mistakes.
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  Speaker 2: We are the.
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  Speaker 1: Product of our mistakes. And oftentimes the lesson is sitting
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  Speaker 1: in front of our face, there to be learned, but
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  Speaker 1: we miss it. Oh, we don't pay attention to it. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: we think we know better until it punches us in
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  Speaker 1: the face. The most important thing to learn is that
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  Speaker 1: we have so much to learn.
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  Speaker 2: We all do.
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  Speaker 1: You have to open your mind, free your mind so
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  Speaker 1: that you can learn and make real progress.
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  Speaker 3: I do think that if you sit on the edge
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  Speaker 3: of your bed and things aren't going very well for
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  Speaker 3: you and you ask what foolish thing you're doing to
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  Speaker 3: make it worse, that you'll get an answer right now,
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  Speaker 3: And it won't be the one you want, but it
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  Speaker 3: might be the one that, if you listen to, would
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  Speaker 3: set things straight. It might be something that you really
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  Speaker 3: don't want to contend with. But if you clear some
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  Speaker 3: space to meditate on the probability that you'll figure out
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  Speaker 3: something that you did that was stupid, that's bending you
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  Speaker 3: and twisting you in the wind. You'll get an answer.
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  Speaker 4: How to do it?
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  Speaker 5: Wake up every morning, make your bed, take a coat, shower,
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  Speaker 5: all that crap. I'm telling you right now you have
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  Speaker 5: to be that person that leads from the front.
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  Speaker 6: And many of our leaders right now.
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  Speaker 7: Are not leading from the front.
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  Speaker 6: They're leading from the rear. But they're telling you how
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  Speaker 6: to do it.
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  Speaker 5: They're waking up late, they're not doing what they say.
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  Speaker 6: So in life it's really important to.
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  Speaker 5: Do what you say, because that's where you nowist comes from.
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  Speaker 8: See when you begin to understand and acknowledge your fear
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  Speaker 8: and you go forth anyhow, you go forth in a
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  Speaker 8: spirit and a knowing, there's a way that you can
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  Speaker 8: begin to handle this. There's a way out here, somewhere,
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  Speaker 8: there's a solution what it is that you're seeking, that.
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  Speaker 4: You have the capacity to whatever.
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  Speaker 8: Comes up, to handle it, to.
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  Speaker 4: Face it, and rather than feeling powerless, you begin to
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  Speaker 4: feel powerful. But there are few people who have decided
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  Speaker 4: within themselves, I'm going to make it.
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  Speaker 8: Some people aren't waiting to be cut.
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  Speaker 4: Some people are moving.
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  Speaker 8: On their home because they feel.
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  Speaker 4: Within themselves, I've got what it takes.
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  Speaker 9: To make it.
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  Speaker 1: Fight go down swinging, and I'll tell you if you
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  Speaker 1: fight with all you have, more often than not you
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  Speaker 1: won't go down at all.
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  Speaker 6: You will win.
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  Speaker 1: But you have to make that attitude a part of
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  Speaker 1: your everyday life. Do the extra repetition, run the extra mile,
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  Speaker 1: go the extra round, make the right choices, give the
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  Speaker 1: full measure, make yourself stronger mentally and physically, stand and fight.
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  Speaker 10: What you most want to be found will be found
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  Speaker 10: where you least want to look, essentially, and it's so
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  Speaker 10: interesting because it means that if you're willing to turn
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  Speaker 10: around and to stand up and stand up straight and
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  Speaker 10: face the darkness like fully, what you discover at the.
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  Speaker 9: Darkest part is the brightest light. And then not something
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  Speaker 9: that's so much worth discovering, because there's going to be
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  Speaker 9: terrible darkness in your life and it's gonna make you
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  Speaker 9: cynical and bitter. And it could easily be that you're
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  Speaker 9: just not looking at it enough, because if you looked
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  Speaker 9: at it did not and you didn't shy away, and
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  Speaker 9: it brought everything you had to bear on it, you'd
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  Speaker 9: find that there is more to you than there was
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  Speaker 9: to the horror.
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  Speaker 6: The desire is strong, but the dedication is weak. Desire
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  Speaker 6: is what you feel, but dedication will always expose what's real.
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  Speaker 6: All right, Dedication will always expose what's real. Desire doesn't
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  Speaker 6: create lasting change, dedication does. So my question to you
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  Speaker 6: right now is how dedicated are you? I mean, I'm
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  Speaker 6: dedicated to Betty. How dedicated are Are you dedicated past
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  Speaker 6: the level of your support? So if people don't support you,
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  Speaker 6: are you still dedicated to it? Are you dedicated past
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  Speaker 6: the level of your recognition? If people don't recognize you
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  Speaker 6: or give you validation, are you still dedicated to it?
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  Speaker 6: Most people give up on their dreams when they don't
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  Speaker 6: get those needs.
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  Speaker 2: Suffering is a byproduct of the unknown.
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  Speaker 7: And that's why we will project out into the future
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  Speaker 7: and go what if. Because suffering does introduce a man
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  Speaker 7: or discomfort does introduce a man or a woman to
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  Speaker 7: their high self. I call it the other room, like
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  Speaker 7: in your head, in everybody's head, like there's this other
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  Speaker 7: place that you can go to. You may have been
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  Speaker 7: there before, and this other room, this other place, you
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  Speaker 7: get to meet your other self.
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  Speaker 11: You see the very thing that's supposed to be your demise,
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  Speaker 11: to be the thing that gives you your elevation.
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  Speaker 2: It's at that moment of elevation that you don't sit
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  Speaker 2: there and you celebrate it.
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  Speaker 9: Look how made it?
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  Speaker 2: Now you realize that the reward was the journey. It's
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  Speaker 2: what it cost you to get you.
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  Speaker 7: Because if someone had some really gave it to you
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  Speaker 7: and wouldn't.
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  Speaker 11: Have any value.
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  Speaker 2: Greatness is in.
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  Speaker 11: There's no way that you can let life pass, and
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  Speaker 11: then the wondering why you ran out of time. When
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  Speaker 11: you look at some of the most successful high performers,
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  Speaker 11: it might be tempting to say that they were born
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  Speaker 11: this way their talented end of story. In fact, talent,
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  Speaker 11: while undeniably making life easier, is but one part of
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  Speaker 11: the equation. I used to be a shy and fearful person. However,
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  Speaker 11: my apparent misfortune turned out to be a source of
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  Speaker 11: strength because it provided a spark to introduce big changes
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  Speaker 11: in my life. By continuously pushing my comfort zone, I
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  Speaker 11: not only overcame social shyness and improved my communication skills,
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  Speaker 11: but also developed high self confidence and overcame other fears
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  Speaker 11: in my life. I might not have been born with
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  Speaker 11: the talent to be a people person. I still prefer
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  Speaker 11: solitude to crowds, but with self discipline and consistent work,
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  Speaker 11: I still achieved astounding results. Next time, before you complain
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  Speaker 11: that you don't have a talent for something or weren't
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  Speaker 11: born this way, remind yourself that self discipline in many
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  Speaker 11: situations can more than make up for a lack of
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  Speaker 11: inborn traits. Life's easy when you live it the hard way,
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  Speaker 11: and hard if you try to live it the easy way.
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  Speaker 11: Self discipline means living your life the hard way, resisting
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  Speaker 11: temptations and instant gratification in order to receive bigger and
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  Speaker 11: better rewards in the future. It's certainly easier to avoid
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  Speaker 11: all kinds of discomfort and indulge yourself whenever you want,
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  Speaker 11: but in the end, all that you get from that
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  Speaker 11: approach is fleeting pleasure now at the expense of your future,
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  Speaker 11: which otherwise could have been much better. Consider a weak
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  Speaker 11: willed person who, when faced with a challenge, immediately opt out.
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  Speaker 11: How likely is this person to achieve anything substantial in
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  Speaker 11: life if their primary value is to feel comfortable? How
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  Speaker 11: is this person going to manage crisis that they must face?
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  Speaker 11: Relatively insignificant problem can become an insurmountable obstacle for a
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  Speaker 11: person who's been living a sheltered life and always avoided
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  Speaker 11: what's difficult or disagreeable. Now, contrast that with a person
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  Speaker 11: who voluntarily makes his or her life harder. They seek
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  Speaker 11: out and welcome challenges as opportunities to grow. Each self
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  Speaker 11: imposed affliction strengthens them so that fewer and fewer difficulties
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  Speaker 11: in life overwhelm them day by day. They immunize themselves
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  Speaker 11: against problems precisely because they seek them out. When life
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  Speaker 11: deals them an unexpected blow, they're ready to handle it because,
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  Speaker 11: thanks to living their lives the hard way, they're always
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  Speaker 11: ready for hardships. Your choices are made in a moment,
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  Speaker 11: but their consequences will transcend a lifetime. Humans have the
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  Speaker 11: capacity to act against their urges in exchange for a
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  Speaker 11: better future. Unfortunately, many people live by the principle of
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  Speaker 11: if it feels good, do it, and if it doesn't,
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  Speaker 11: don't do it. Caving into your temptations whenever you feel
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  Speaker 11: them emerge is like relinquishing your humanity in a way.
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  Speaker 11: As an intelligent human being, you have an ability and
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  Speaker 11: I dare say, an obligation to make decisions that are
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  Speaker 11: based on rational thinking, not on your instincts alone. Strive
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  Speaker 11: to be a better human and embrace your humanity by
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  Speaker 11: exercising your will power muscle instead of succumbing to your
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  Speaker 11: most primal and least helpful for your long term goals
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  Speaker 11: part of the brain. Your most primal instincts may provide
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  Speaker 11: temporary comfort, but seldom are good for the long term,
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  Speaker 11: except when there is a direct threat to your survival.
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  Speaker 2: If you study a subject every day for one hour
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  Speaker 2: a day, five days a week, in five years, you
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  Speaker 2: will become an expert in that area. One things simply
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  Speaker 2: have to be done every day. You know the old
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  Speaker 2: saying an apple a day keeps the doctor away. Will
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  Speaker 2: eating seven apples all at once isn't going to give
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  Speaker 2: you the same benefit. If you want to improve, intentional
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  Speaker 2: growth needs to be a habit. A habit is something
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  Speaker 2: I do continually, not once in a while. Motivation may
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  Speaker 2: get you going, but the positive habits you develop and
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  Speaker 2: practice consistently are what keep you improving. As I have
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  Speaker 2: work to improve on a day by day basis, two
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  Speaker 2: words have helped me to stay on track. The first
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  Speaker 2: is intention. Every morning, as I start my day, I
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  Speaker 2: intend to learn something that day. This develops a mindset
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  Speaker 2: in me to look for things that will help me improve.
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  Speaker 2: The other word is contemplation. Time alone is an essential
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  Speaker 2: for self improvement. When I spend time thinking about my challenges, experiences,
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  Speaker 2: and observations, it allows me to gain perspective. I can
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  Speaker 2: evaluate any losses and I can learn from them. Contemplation
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  Speaker 2: time by myself also gives me time to do positive
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  Speaker 2: self talk. Motivational humorist Or Walker stated, the most important
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  Speaker 2: words you will ever utter are those words we say
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  Speaker 2: to ourselves about ourselves when we are by ourselves. During
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  Speaker 2: these conversations, we can beat ourselves up and make ourselves
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  Speaker 2: feel really small, or we can learn and build ourselves
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  Speaker 2: up so that we become better. If you want to
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  Speaker 2: spend some time each day try to improve yourself, you
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  Speaker 2: might want to begin by asking yourself three questions at
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  Speaker 2: the end of the day. As I do, they are
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  Speaker 2: what did I learn today? What spoke both to my
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  Speaker 2: heart and my head? How did I grow today or
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  Speaker 2: touched my heart and affected my actions? What will I
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  Speaker 2: do differently? Unless I can state specifically what I plan
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  Speaker 2: to do differently, I won't learn anything. One of the
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  Speaker 2: things I don't do is compare myself to others during
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  Speaker 2: that time. There's a reason for that. My desire is
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  Speaker 2: to not become superior to anybody else. I only want
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  Speaker 2: to be superior to my former self. Intention and contemplation
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  Speaker 2: assist me in doing that. Make improvement. Intentional improvement is
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  Speaker 2: within the reach of anyone, no matter how experienced or green,
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  Speaker 2: educated or ignorant, rich or poor. To start improving today,
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  Speaker 2: do these three things decide you are worth improving. To
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  Speaker 2: improve yourself, you must believe you can improve. Author Dennis
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  Speaker 2: Whitley has wonderful definition for personal development. He says that
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  Speaker 2: it is the conviction that there is value in your dreams.
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  Speaker 2: Personal development, he says, is the belief that you are
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  Speaker 2: worth the effort, time, and energy needed to develop yourself.
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  Speaker 2: It gives you permission to invest in yourself so you
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  Speaker 2: can develop your own potential. You can invest in yourself.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need anyone's dreams but your own, and you
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  Speaker 2: don't need to become anyone other than yourself at your best.
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  Speaker 2: The great philosopher Thomas Carlyle once wrote, let each become
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  Speaker 2: all that was created capable of being. I can't think
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  Speaker 2: of a better definition of success. Life challenges us every
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  Speaker 2: day to develop our capabilities to the fullest. We're successful
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  Speaker 2: when we reach for the highest that's within us. When
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  Speaker 2: we give the best we have. Life doesn't require us
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  Speaker 2: to always come out on top. It asks only that
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  Speaker 2: we do our best to improve at whatever level of
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  Speaker 2: experience we are currently on. Take an area to improve.
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  Speaker 2: You will have plenty of time to improve other areas
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  Speaker 2: of your life. Focus on the one now that makes
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  Speaker 2: the most of your strengths and is closest to your
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  Speaker 2: sense of purpose. I am suggesting you to spend an
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  Speaker 2: hour day improving in that area. Then take it slow
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  Speaker 2: but steady. We always overestimate what we can get done
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  Speaker 2: in a day or a week, but we underestimate what
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  Speaker 2: we can get done in a year. Just imagine what
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  Speaker 2: you will be able to get done in five years.
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  Speaker 2: Find opportunities to improve in the wake of your losses.
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  Speaker 2: Focused strategic improvement is important to success, but so is
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  Speaker 2: learning from our our losses as they come. However, let
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  Speaker 2: me say this, some lessons in life cannot wait. You
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  Speaker 2: must make the most of them when they occur. If
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  Speaker 2: you don't examine what went wrong while the details are fresh,
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  Speaker 2: you may lose the ability to learn the lesson. Besides,
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  Speaker 2: if you neglect to learn the lesson immediately, you may
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  Speaker 2: experience the loss again. Business Professor George Knox said, when
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  Speaker 2: you cease to be better, you cease to be good.
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  Speaker 2: When you stop growing, you cease to be useful. A
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  Speaker 2: weed in the garden of prosperity. We are what we
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  Speaker 2: are today because we were what we were yesterday, and
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  Speaker 2: our thoughts today determine our actions tomorrow. Those who learn
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  Speaker 2: from their losses give themselves that permission. As your friend,
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  Speaker 2: I give it to you also. Knowledge may come from study,
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  Speaker 2: but wisdom comes from learning and improving in the wake
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  Speaker 2: of your mistakes. I always try to remember that I
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  Speaker 2: am a work in progress. When I maintain that perspective,
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  Speaker 2: I realize that I don't have to be perfect. I
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  Speaker 2: don't have to have it all together. I don't need
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  Speaker 2: to try to have all the answers, and I don't
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  Speaker 2: need to learn everything in a day. But I make
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  Speaker 2: a mistake, it's not because I'm a failure or worthless.
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  Speaker 2: I just didn't do something right because I still haven't
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  Speaker 2: improved enough in some part of the process, and that
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  Speaker 2: motivates me to keep growing and improving. If I don't
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  Speaker 2: know something, it's an opportunity to try to improve in
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  Speaker 2: a new area. I'm in it for the long haul.
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  Speaker 2: I try to be like industrialist Ian McGregor, who said,
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  Speaker 2: I work on the same principle as people who train horses.
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  Speaker 2: You start with low fences, easily achieved goals, and work up.
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  Speaker 2: When I got started, my fences were embarrassingly low, but
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  Speaker 2: in time I was able to raise them. Today I'm
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  Speaker 2: still raising them little by little. That's the only way
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  Speaker 2: I know how to keep improving, and I always want
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  Speaker 2: to keep doing that because improvement is the focus of learning.