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Fuck You: Bullies · Let's Get Naked

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  SPEAKER_00: Hey everyone, I'm Anne.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm joined by Casey today for another mini episode of the FU series, which we are having so much fun with.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today we are going to be talking about bullying and bullies.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't mean uh like children in elementary school and high school behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean the full-size adult version.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I use the word adult lightly because, you know, I always say that like your adult uh version is not, yes, your body is in an adult form or an aging form, but generally what's happening inside is still child behavior.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: Very elementary.
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  SPEAKER_00: Very elementary, which is, you know, unfortunate and uh I don't know if you have people in your um friend group or orbit that exhibit bullying type behavior.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: Uh I will not have that in mind because I just I I look at that and I just think it's gross.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: But I will say that uh my first husband was a bully.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: Uh he was went ahead and so lovingly handed that down to one of our children in a really big way, uh, which is unfortunate.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: And she had to spend a lot of time working through that because that kind of behavior I feel like stems from a low EQ, and then you get triggered, and then you just don't know what to do with those emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you take it out, you lash out on other people, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you got embarrassed or if somebody said something, you got poked and it was tender, you come back from this bully perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think it does definitely stem from childhood.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, maybe you were picked on, maybe it doesn't even matter, you know, what the ingredient was that made that, made that happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but it is your responsibility to do something about it, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in in adults, I think uh bullying presents itself as gossip.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, public shaming, keyboard warriors are definitely a form of bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, if you're out on the if you're out on the socials and that's your jam is to like go into other people's comments and just get gross and and call names and do all the things like cool story, bro.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then what a waste of energy.
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• 1:55
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• 1:56
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• 1:58
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• 2:22
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• 2:35
  SPEAKER_00: Um, passive aggression, like that to me, very, very bully behavior that that's rooted in that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, emotional manipulation, uh, weaponized silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are all forms of bullying people because you just don't have a high enough EQ to understand how to handle your own emotions.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, intimidation, uh, humiliation disguised as humor, like all of those things are are, you know, ways that bullying presents itself.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: I know Casey's sitting here like processing some stuff right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, you know, the other part of that too is if you have kiddos, your kiddos are watching that.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: So because of your elementary level EQ where you can't handle your own emotions, and so you lash out in those types of behaviors, you're passing that down to your kids.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: You know, so any of the times that the girls had friends, uh, not so much Wiley, but when the girls had friends when they were teenagers and the the girls would come over, it's like if you notice that behavior in kids, go ahead and look at the moms, go ahead and look at the dads, and you can see exactly where it comes from.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're passing that behavior down.
• 3:33
  SPEAKER_00: So whether you realize it or not, uh, open your eyes to that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's it's really basic bitch behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to me, it's like, I just I don't have I don't have time for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know people do that a lot to one another, but for me, I just don't have time for it.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: So um, you know, you're you're passing it down and and also it's just fucked up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life's too short for all of that.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: So if you decided that you just, you know, wanted to come from this bully perspective in life, fuck you.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: And that's all we're gonna say about that.