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Life Check & Real Talk: Catching Up with Emily & Cecilia · Mommywood

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And. We're off.
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And we're off. We're going.
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To be OK. Hello.
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Hello. It's been years.
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It's not been years. Ages.
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We have tried to do this. For a few months.
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And life happens mostly both of us, one of us, either of us,
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just forgetting. Yeah, it was good.
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Well, to be fair, I was traveling for a long time.
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We tried to do it then, and I was like, it can't.
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I'm too. It's too much.
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Yeah. And then I came back and we
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forgot three times. Yeah, before we got.
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Here and then we kept trying to do it like after bedtime.
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And then I'm like, I have I have such high hopes for my life
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after bedtime. Oh my God.
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And it consists of May going down and me passing out.
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Mm hmm. Yeah, I do.
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I feel like I have a list of like 15 things.
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I'm like, I'm going to get the kids a bed, I'm going to load
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the dishwasher, I'll finish whatever workout I attempted to
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start later. I'll watch this show with
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Garrett. I'll write.
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Lol no I I watched one episode of Traders and then I go to bed.
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Workout. No, I try.
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If I don't do a workout first, first thing, it's it's not going
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to happen. I used to be that way now ever
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since Garrett started going back into the office five days a
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week. I use it as like my decompress
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from being on the kids and doing my own work when he gets home
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and I really like that. So more like a 445 ish time.
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That works. Yeah, because it also tells me
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to like, stop working. Oh, that's because my first
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thought always is he's home and somebody's on the kids.
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So now I should try and get like 2 to 3 hours of uninterrupted
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work in, but then I'm just working all the time, all the
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time, always. So that's so hard because the
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kids, both of your kids now are in school.
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But it's not full time. No, it's very part time.
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Yeah, 9:00 to 12:30. And I work there twice a week,
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although I had my final work day this past Monday.
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Yeah. So yeah.
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That's hard. It's.
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A lot. That's a lot.
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You work there twice a week. You only need to work there once
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a week, correct? Or is it twice because you have
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both? It's twice because I have two
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kids and there's two other families with two kids, although
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there's two sets of twins and because there's that many
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parents that have two kids in, it was like a rotation and the
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road. So I would have like every 3rd
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week of the month off from 2 days.
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Oh my God. Yeah.
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So you don't have any time without the kids.
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You have like what, three you have right now?
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I have 9. Being here.
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I have 9:00 to 12:00. Twice a week, three time.
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Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday. Usually I work Monday and
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Thursday, but it it got weird this week and that some I wasn't
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supposed to work this Monday but a mom needed to switch so I took
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her Monday. She took my today.
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Yeah. Oh boy.
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But next next year, I only well, we won't dive into.
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That we'll we'll get there when our what what's coming in the
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future and Garrett's working full time now too.
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So what how are you? How are you doing that?
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Because you have lots of work to that you do do that you do.
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How are you? How are you that's.
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Such a good question. I don't know, I'm OK.
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I feel like 'cause it's really only been like a couple weeks of
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me figuring out how to do it because Garrett is working full
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time. But up until the end of March,
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he was able to do Tuesday and Wednesday half days at home.
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And then we had a week in April where it was full time, me and
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him not coming home anymore. And then it was their spring
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break and then we left for two weeks.
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So I am still technically trying to figure out how I'm doing it.
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That's great. Well, yeah, because then if he
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even the half days working from home, working from home is not
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helpful. Yeah, yeah.
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I don't. I don't know.
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I will. And now it's almost summer so.
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Do they have summer off? Well, they have a camp, but the
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camp happens in my backyard. No, Cecilia, no you're.
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I know it's fun. Insane.
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You really love having kids. I do.
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I really do. I say that as if I'm like I on
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the other. No, yeah.
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I can't. No.
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I am doing surprisingly OK if you'd asked me last week, but
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last week I was in my ludial phase and we all know how that
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goes. Everything is.
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What's that? Ludial.
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Phase, right? It's like your PMS phase.
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I've never heard it called that. Ludial.
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Yeah, it's the worst. It's your PMS.
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Where you're like, you want to kill.
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Everyone, yeah, and I can't handle anything and like
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everything feels like a big deal and.
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This week's better. This week, this week, I'm doing
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great. No, it is getting murdered this
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week. Yeah.
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Wow, that's surprising that they don't have school for the
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summer. They only has one week off.
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Holy cow, the whole summer. Yeah, they have the month of
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June off, but their teacher does a summer camp and usually she
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just hosts it in somebody's backyard because we don't pay
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for rent in our building at the the school park.
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I don't think we. Do because you're not running
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the camp. No, no, no, no, no.
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So it's like I like it because I just have to open my back door
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and be like go and then for three the full 3 1/2 hours
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because I don't have to think about leaving to pick them up.
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And then like playing with them after the playground.
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Like right now, pick up and drop off takes a long time because
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you have to think of the traffic to get there.
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And then they want to play after school.
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So like when I go to pick them up at 12:30, I'm really leaving
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at noon and I don't get home till 1:30 where it's like a
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camp. They're just there so I get the
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full 9 to 1230 of me. OK, that's actually nice.
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Yeah, it is your favorite. So that's.
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It is. It's really.
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Yeah, I don't like it. Because like, are you crazy?
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Oh my gosh, that's so funny. Wow.
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Well I only have one still and she started full time.
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I did an episode talking about preschool and choosing schools.
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And now she's been in it. She's been in it.
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How do you feel? A couple a few months now and
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she is full time, five days a week.
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Wow. And it's nice.
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Yeah, is it? And it's like still, time just
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goes by so quickly. So what are her school hours?
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So get this, I could drop her off at 7:00 in the morning.
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Oh. But we don't.
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I drop her off at 9:00 because 9 is like when they start circle
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time. So we usually like to have her
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there closer to like 83845 just so she has some time before they
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start their circle time and then we pick her up at like 4.
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Wow. Yeah.
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All right. I know.
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And while we were deciding, well for us it's like the half day,
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like it was a 15 minute drive. So it would be like, you know,
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the drive and then you're like, OK, well I can do one thing.
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And I don't know, it was more for Preston so he can work from
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home. And so I did have a little
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mental breakdown like a couple days before she went because I
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was like, well, you work all day, what am I going to do with
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my life when she's in school? Turns out like I got plenty to
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do. Turns out there's so much to be
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done. Not clean my apartment though
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that is never happened. But yeah, she really likes it
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there. It's a small school and she
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started like this week being like, I don't want to go to
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school, I want to stay home. Like this morning she was like,
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I want to stay home and I was like.
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Oh no. Well.
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Not today. But then she goes and she goes
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straight and. And has a blast.
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Yeah. So I'm like, all right, yeah.
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She's not like, crying about. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Or anything. But yeah, she likes it.
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And she's like making friends. And it's so cute to hear her,
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like, talk about kids at school. And she's like, Mateo's so
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funny. I like him.
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He's cute. He makes me laugh.
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He says I'm a spider play. Oh my, I love you.
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I can't believe she's in school. Honestly I can't.
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I can't wrap my head around being old enough to have like I
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can soon to be kindergartner like.
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I know. It goes fast because sky.
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Sky will be in kindergarten next year.
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No like this. This is her last week at EPNS.
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Yeah, I know, I know. We won't go into that.
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But does she know? You don't have to say where
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she's going, but do you know where?
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She's going yes and no. We can talk after.
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It's so complicated. Yes and no.
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I have so many thoughts about the schools and like the process
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of of are. You thinking private or public?
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Well, I wish I could do private. I can't afford private.
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So it's public, but like we know that she's not going to our home
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school because we went to the open house and that was so not
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an option at. All.
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And yeah, I, I don't know, because, you know, in Saint
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Louis, where we grew up, it's like every public school that
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was great. You just went to the school that
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was assigned and your parents weren't really stressed.
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The opposite experience, but maybe it's because I was in the
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city. Oh yeah, maybe.
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Or maybe my parents are just brats.
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I don't know. Well, I'm in, and I went to
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private school up until my junior year of high school, so
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I'm speaking here. That's when I switched.
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Yeah. That is a story for another,
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correct? Yes, it is.
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It is a big, big. Story You're going to have to
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have a side a couple sidebars. It's been so long since we've
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caught up that it's like, OK, this is a recap on Mommy would
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not. Yes, yes, it's not.
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Art. Oh my gosh.
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But she's going to start. Yeah, she is.
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So that will be nice. At least you'll have one that's
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in school full time regardless of where she ends up, correct?
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How are you feeling about that? You'll still have one.
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I will still have one. The joys of.
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Having yeah, I, I really, I don't.
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I'm ready for them to be in full time school and then at the same
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time I'm I'm not. So we'll see.
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Yeah, that's how. We'll see.
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It's hard. It's really hard.
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We OK, so. Let's touch on your topic.
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So mommy would OK, I just want to point out that I've had I've
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had so many people reach out who have found mommy would recently
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and are like, I really needed this And it always I just look
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directly at the camera, but it makes me like cry.
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It's so sweet, just like anyone being like, I'm so happy I found
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this podcast and I'm like, me too, honestly me too.
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Because that's the whole reason I greeted Mamua, because I was
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like, none of us know what we're doing.
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No. And it's so it's exactly that
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none of us know what we're doing.
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And everybody like the managing of the day-to-day schedules is
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so chaotic. I have to know how everybody
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else is doing it because then I feel like, well, I'm yeah,
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everybody's living in chaos. Especially parenting, acting
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lifestyles, entertainment lifestyles.
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Yeah, because the things with kids are always changing.
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Like you're like, well, then there was spring break and then
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there was this and then so and so get sick or this happens.
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But then add that on top of, oh, my career, my job is the same
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way where it's always changing because I have that with like
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with my day job, it's semi consistent with like my teaching
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jobs where I'm like, OK, well, for these few months I have
13:51
these classes, but then it's like, well, then at the end of
13:54
the show, it changes. It changes a little bit because
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I have, the show is in the dress rehearsal and then the summer is
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different and I'm like, what am I going to do?
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And now that May is in full time school, I, it is like, well, I
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teach after school or on the weekends and that's not going to
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work because that's when I need to see her.
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Although that is what I have been doing and I don't feel like
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I haven't seen her enough. OK.
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I feel like I have seen her enough so I don't know but I'm
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looking for a shift. Yeah, I feel.
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Day job stuff. OK.
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Just cause yeah, those hours aren't going to work if she's.
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In school, yeah, I know it is weird.
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All this to say it's nice. I feel like the mommy would of
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it all is nice because it takes away that you know, that voice
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in your head that's like, nobody else is doing this but me.
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Like nobody else is crying over how chaotic things feel all the
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time except for me. And then this like pulled back
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the curtain is like, actually, no, you're not.
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Actually, we're all crying about.
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It we're all crying all the time.
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Everybody is throwing a fit, especially when they're in their
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ludial face. Yes.
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Now that we know that that means yeah of yeah.
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And I feel like there were so many.
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I mean, there's OK now we've done five seasons.
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I know there have been so many amazing guests and I feel like.
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And I just started a newsletter, so.
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Wait, I did notice. OK, you got.
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Your emails somewhere. Put them anywhere you want,
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we'll find them to. Me, I'll do something but yeah,
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I've only sent out like a couple with like a welcome and a
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Mother's Day thing, but I think I'm going to do a few a few
16:06
newsletters with like because I love entering the podcast with
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Lifesavers. So it's like different season,
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different Lifesavers that we've had because.
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Oh that's smart. I was going to ask what?
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What So if they sign up for the newsletter, what can they expect
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there that they can't necessarily get listening?
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I think, well, I'm definitely going to do specific links to,
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OK, well I'll do links to all those lifesavers if it's a
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specific product or a product. Or a service I guess.
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Or I, I think it's a nice way that you don't have to
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necessarily listen to the entire podcast where I can do clips and
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give you like the gist of things and give you more specifics.
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And then also just different newsletters, like specifically
17:11
for different guests. And then you can be like, oh,
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what? Instead of like looking at the
17:16
show notes or something like that, because my show notes can
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be. OK spitballing here, you could
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ask your guest to write a letter to their like pre parenting
17:33
self. Like what would you say to her,
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him, them? Yeah.
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And have that in the newsletter. That could be fun because if you
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ask somebody that on the spot, they're they're going to have a
17:43
hard time like pulling it out. But if you say, hey, and now I
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do a newsletter with every episode and yours, here's if
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you'd like, because I would read those, man, I would read.
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Those I have one that I did write to myself.
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I wrote it to we'll. Be sharing.
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It I will share. It on our socials.
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I wrote it. I don't know.
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I honestly, I don't know if I was, I must have been pregnant
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because that seems weird to do it before I was pregnant, but I
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I'm weird. I don't know.
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Do you know? Yeah, I think I did it when I
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was pretty newly pregnant and it was just kind of a oh wait, so
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it's the opposite of what you were asking.
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Like what I? Would but.
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You know what I'm saying? Yeah, Yeah.
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Mine was when I was pregnant writing to myself as a mock like
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as I don't want. You to forget.
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Yeah, where it's just like, hey, you're doing a good job.
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And I was like, yes, I am. I'm doing great.
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I'm doing it so good. I'm doing so good.
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Yeah. So that's what to expect from
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the newsletter. Lots of lots of fun things.
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Yeah, lots of fun things. Let's see what?
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OK. Well, Speaking of just like
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doing a good job, yeah. We're all doing a great job.
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Look at us. Great.
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Job. You are doing a good job.
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You are doing you. You.
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We're dangerous with a microphone and a camera.
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Don't you dare. OK, so Speaking of another, well
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not Speaking of, but talking about another season, if you
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could hear from like any mom in the industry like dream guest
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situations, we have some good, good people in the in the
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pipeline. Is that the word?
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That's a good word that I'm very excited about, but who would
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you? Oh God, I don't know.
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That's a really good question. Have you thought about it?
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No, but I'm on a spit ball. OK?
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I'm just thinking Kate, Kate Hudson, because I think I'm
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going to one of the SAG conversations with her next
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week. Yes.
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And I'm like, how are you doing? Because she seems chill.
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Yeah. And it's interesting to hear
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from people who are like, so beyond like the reality to.
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Hear from. Rihanna reality, Oh my God, she
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the way she talks about motherhood and like interviews
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that I've seen or even just like red carpet stuff, she's like
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it's the hardest. Thing yeah, I'd like to hear
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from her. I I do I feel like I would like
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to hear from somebody who's like so consistently in the chaos of
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both parenting and the industry. Not that our other guests
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haven't been, but, you know, like, traveling for months at a
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time to work on a film and then not going home after, but
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traveling to the next location to work on that for months at a
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time. Plus owning a business, you
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know, like, she's got her makeup line.
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She's got like, and it's not like her kids are older now.
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She's in the thick of like, they need my attention.
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I'm like, forming their opinions on the world.
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And the tantrums are there. Like, yeah, I think I'd like to
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hear. Yeah.
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From that. Or like Jennifer, not Jennifer
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Hudson. Jennifer Lawrence has been
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talking. Yeah, she's been on.
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Correct. Because she has her new movie
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coming out, which I'm so excited to see 'cause it's been a minute
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because she just had her second baby.
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And like, it's interesting hearing people who you're like,
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well, that's gotta be easy. You have so much, so many
22:04
resources. And then to hear them be like,
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it's brutal. You know, like, yeah.
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What specifically is brutal for you?
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Like what is it? Yeah.
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I mean, we can all, we all have brutal parts, but it's like,
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yeah. And I, I do know her manager.
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Let's reach out. Let's reach out, shall we?
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They can't say yes if we don't ask.
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That is true, that's all I'm saying, as well as Jessica Biel
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and Justin Timberlake. Oh.
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Power couple, How did they do it?
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Do they take turns? I'd also be interested hearing
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from a couple like that, whether Jennifer Lawrence or like
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similar to Emily, our last guest of like, how do you talk about
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family planning when you're so in the thick of it?
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Like how do you decide when to take a pause from everything
23:04
that's going on? Like, how did Jennifer Lawrence
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decide now is the time for the second baby and now is the time
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to do another film? And now's the that would also be
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interesting to me because I feel like, yes, those are
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conversations I'm starting to think about again, if we want to
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do a third, if we don't want to do a third, if we do, like,
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what's that going to look like? Especially because Sky and
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Frankie were so stacked on top of each other and now there's
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going to be a bigger age gap. Like just all of these things
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that happen around family planning that you're like, oh,
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this is what they meant by that. Yeah.
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This is what they meant by planning a family.
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Oh man, that is a that is loaded because I am still the yeah, I'm
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like, God, I feel like going on a change in here, but I feel
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like the people because I can't stop talking about the idea of
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having another one or not. And I feel like the people and
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tell me if you felt this way that knew that they weren't done
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at one like that they knew they wanted at least 2 just knew
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always like did you just know that you.
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Wanted at least more than one. We were always There's going to
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be multiple. Yeah.
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Couple. Because my sister said that,
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too. She was like, I just knew I
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wanted at least two. Yeah.
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And I was like, well, I don't know that.
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Yeah. So I'm like.
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Maybe. Yeah, I don't.
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Know, or people saying like, like when I envisioned my dinner
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table, I always envisioned too. And I'm like, I don't, I don't
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think into the future that way. So I don't yeah, like I never
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thought of getting married. I just never, I was always kind
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of like, yeah, I don't. I'll do it.
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I also have a hard time with that like picture your dinner
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table scenario because you never know what your situation's going
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to because I used to be so a picture your dinner table and I
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wanted five kids and I really thought I could handle it and
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like. That's a.
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Lot. That's a lot.
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My body had a really hard time delivering too.
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Yeah, I have had infertility issues now after the second one.
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So you can't plan for that. There's also like people in my
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life who have like, you can't envision the table because you
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there's so many. Factors.
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So many factors that are so far out of your control that like
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doing that whole picture your table in 20 years thing feels
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like such a messy space to be because we just don't all have
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the privilege of being like well I'm picturing 3 kids but that's
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true. But then you find out you're
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struggling to get one, so here you are like, yeah, everybody's
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being like, well, how many people do you want there in 20
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years? I want what I can, what I can
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maintain and properly like gear for and is going to keep me
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alive to see the table in 20 years.
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So we'll be happy with. That I think that's one of my
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fears. And I've already sobbed to like
26:22
my parents about this and my sister and Preston and every
26:25
person who will listen to me. Yeah, sorry, nobody talked to me
26:30
because I will just bring this up and start trying new.
26:33
But but the idea of also like how many kids you can be a good
26:39
parent for, I, I feel like I might be maxed out at one.
26:45
I'm like, 'cause I don't have the patience I thought I would
26:49
have. And I think I don't know if I
26:55
would be a good mom to two or the best mom.
26:58
I was like, I think I can be a good mom to may if another one
27:03
comes. I don't know how I feel like
27:06
that's. Valid.
27:07
And I feel like everybody's threshold is so different.
27:11
I remember my dad saying I I don't know if you said it's all
27:15
of us or I just overheard him say it's my older sister because
27:18
she was the first to have kids. And he would always just be
27:22
like, you'll know. Like you'll one's gonna come out
27:26
and you'll know if you have the space for a lot more, you have
27:33
the space for one more. Like not everybody is meant to
27:37
have a big family. I feel like I really thought
27:41
that was going to be me. And same, like Frankie came
27:45
along. I feel like I am a really,
27:47
really good mom to two. And the days when it's really
27:51
hard, I'm like, Oh my God. I really thought I had the
27:57
capacity for more. And I do have the capacity for
28:00
more when they're not mine. Like I could have 10 kids at my
28:03
house and I have so much patience and it really doesn't
28:07
rattle me. How does that makes me feel
28:11
guilty for not guilty but like I don't know why that is.
28:17
I just think there's less pressure from it.
28:20
I don't know if I feel because you care so deeply for May, I
28:26
care so deeply for Skyler and Frankie.
28:29
And it's our responsibility to be the one helping them through.
28:34
Yeah, like through all the really hard stuff where it's
28:38
like when it's other kids, I can help them get through a moment,
28:42
but it's not my job to be like forming the boundaries around
28:46
that moment so I can do things to help it pass quickly.
28:52
Whereas like when I do it with Skyler and Frankie, I'm like,
28:54
OK, how what? I don't know if I'm making
28:58
sense, but like when they're having a meltdown or stuff, I'm
29:01
trying to put other things in place to help my next meltdown
29:05
and my next meltdown and my next meltdown make more sense to
29:08
them. Slash work better and in the
29:12
family unit whereas like when it's another kid I I'm just
29:15
trying to help him get through that moment because it's not my
29:18
job to. Yeah, well, and also like you
29:21
can give in to another kid easily.
29:23
You're like you want the cookie. Here, Yeah.
29:25
But it's like with your own kid, you're like, OK, well I said no,
29:29
so now I have to yeah, say no. Also you're if it's not your
29:35
kid, they're going to behave better for.
29:37
You well and also my kids behave better when other kids are
29:41
around and so that's another reason why I don't mind having
29:46
summer camp at my house or like inviting people and all of their
29:50
kids over because because my kids are so good like when other
29:57
kids are around so it's makes it easier for me to so.
30:02
Because then they're not like they don't need you as much.
30:05
They're Yeah, yeah. And and, you know, not everybody
30:09
can do that. Like not everybody is
30:10
comfortable with other people's kids in that capacity.
30:13
So it's like, yeah, am I meant to have a big family?
30:18
No. Did I think that I was?
30:20
Yes. But I feel then that my calling
30:23
is I'm meant to be a home where people feel comfortable bringing
30:26
their kids and knowing that their kids are safe and taking
30:29
care of around me. And that's just a different.
30:32
Well, you've got that. So you're you're, you're doing
30:35
great, so. Bring your kids over if.
30:36
You need more? Yeah.
30:39
We're going to splash pat it up at your place this summer after
30:42
school. What do you think has been your
30:47
biggest win as a mom lately? Not lately, Not the past years.
30:57
Maybe lately. What's what's something you you
31:01
can also say your biggest fail if you if you want to start
31:05
with. I think my, yeah, I, I think my
31:11
biggest win is, is, is the environment our kids are in.
31:20
Like they will just like we say, I love you in our house so much.
31:30
Like these kids have no doubt. And like we'll just be driving
31:35
in the car and they'll do things like, hey, mom, guess what?
31:38
And I'll be like what? And I'll be like I love you.
31:40
Like it's just like that is their the I, I don't question
31:46
it. I know that they know they're
31:47
loved. I think that's the biggest thing
31:49
because we're all so vocal about it.
31:52
That's good. So that feels like that biggest
31:57
fail is, is I feel like I'm failing through the transition
32:02
of Garrett going back to work. And my patience with them is
32:05
significantly less. And it doesn't help that they're
32:07
both going through big development stages at the exact
32:10
same time. So it feels like there's been a
32:13
lot more yelling in the house than there usually is.
32:19
But you know, I do know that it is a transition.
32:22
And so I try to give us grace and, and, and with that fail
32:28
comes the chance to set up another win, which is they,
32:33
they've never not heard me apologize and not heard me do
32:36
it. Like as soon as I realize we've
32:40
all messed up so. Yeah, the idea of like my my dad
32:46
apologizing for yelling when I was little.
32:48
Like what? What are you?
32:50
What? That's insane.
32:53
I love my dad so much, but noon. Yeah, but it's yes, I would say
32:59
that's also my biggest fail probably.
33:02
It's just the times when I lose my patience where it's like the
33:11
like, why are you still doing this type of thing?
33:15
And I'm like, doesn't know That's the dumbest question.
33:19
That's the dumbest question and unhelpful and not making her
33:23
feel good. But then the apology or the
33:27
conversation afterwards, you were like, I should have taken a
33:32
breath. And she'll say that where she'll
33:35
be like, I need a minute, give me space.
33:39
And I'm like, yes, go for it, or.
33:43
Space make. Or the other day, I think we got
33:46
into the elevator and I was like and did a breath and she goes,
33:52
why you breathe like that? Why'd you breathe like that?
33:56
And I was like, I was like, I just needed a deep breath.
34:01
I was like, we're just trying to get in the car.
34:04
I just needed a breath because I it's too early to lose any
34:09
patients and I'm having a good morning with you.
34:13
Yeah. And so, yeah, my biggest win.
34:17
I was going to say, is that your win or is there something else?
34:19
Because the fact that she's like, give me space,
34:23
communicating at 3 when we'll take it.
34:27
Although I'm like, can you not? I'm like, well now you need to
34:31
brush your teeth. I'm not.
34:32
I don't know how to give you space.
34:35
Let's work together. I yeah, I think though, I just,
34:41
she's my biggest one. She's so I feel like you see
34:46
those posts recently that are like, the weirder your kid is,
34:50
the more comfortable. And I'm like, she's beyond like
34:53
she's so funny. And I'm like, I just feel like
35:00
when Preston and I are together and like we see her smiling,
35:04
we're like, OK, we're doing something like she's fed, she's
35:08
happy, she's safe. Oh God.
35:12
And when she'll I say, she came up with this on her own, but now
35:17
we'll tell her we say mommy and daddy and she goes, we'll always
35:22
keep me safe. And I'm like, but she said that
35:29
to us out of nowhere. She said mommy and daddy will
35:32
always keep me safe and so now we say it all the time and I'm
35:35
like. Oh my God.
35:38
I. And then we try to follow up
35:41
with the best we can. Yeah, yeah.
35:44
Yeah, we will keep you because then I'm like, I mean, you
35:46
didn't break your arm last year. I'm.
35:49
Like, we'll keep you as safe as we can.
35:51
Yeah, as safe, but I know, my God, aren't they just.
35:58
Yeah, I oh, wait, we're biased, but our kids are great.
36:01
They, I just, they are. We really do have good kids.
36:04
Yeah. They are good kids.
36:06
We wait. There was another another a
36:09
funny fail that I made the mistake of asking May if she
36:13
wanted a sibling because I was like, should mommy have another
36:16
baby? Should would you if mommy had a
36:18
baby in her belly, Like what do you think about that?
36:20
And then like, I was like, well, you wouldn't, I was like, or do
36:24
you like being the only baby? And she was like, mom, I'm not a
36:26
baby. And I was like, oh, kill me.
36:29
But then we went to the park after this conversation, she
36:32
says to the this other mom at the park, she's like, my mom has
36:35
a baby in her belly. And I was like, well that was my
36:40
bad for asking a three. Year old for advice.
36:42
She's not talking about me. I was like sorry.
36:44
Oh my God, Yeah, I do. I it's pretty funny.
36:48
It's interesting because Sky and Frankie both really.
36:53
And Yeah, I don't know, Garrett and I keep going back and forth,
36:58
but Skyler will say things like Mom, I would like to complete
37:02
our family with. Yeah, First of all, who's?
37:05
Teaching. Her to complete our family who
37:08
did this? I'd like to complete our family
37:11
with one more girl for me, one more boy for France, and baby
37:16
chicks. I'm like baby.
37:18
Chicks, you're like. What?
37:20
Oh my God, that's. Really cute, yeah.
37:23
And so that. Really.
37:25
That that, Yeah. I love that.
37:28
She really, she really wants a baby in the house.
37:31
And so we'll see. We'll see.
37:33
You got to just find a friend that's having a baby.
37:36
Oh well, that's the issue. It's because so many moms at the
37:38
school have babies. Come on over.
37:42
Yeah, always, Yeah. Shout out to all the babies at
37:46
school. I know.
37:48
I really, Yeah. I really think I want one more.
37:52
I don't know if I could do 2, but I think I could do 1.
37:55
So I don't know. We'll see.
37:56
I. It's got a both parents got a
37:59
one. You keep hearing, and I feel
38:01
like I've said it a million times so I really should like
38:04
Google it and make sure that it is true.
38:07
But I did hear that 3 that parents with three are the least
38:15
stressed, which I find very. Interesting.
38:19
I want you to research that. Yeah, I need.
38:22
To I love you so much. Good thing I don't.
38:24
Have like something in front of me I can Google with, but yeah,
38:29
I find that very interesting. And I'm like, why not one, not
38:34
two? I could tell you not one, not 2,
38:36
not 4. Yeah, I don't know.
38:39
I've no experience with the family.
38:40
Oh, that's a lie. Oh my God.
38:42
If my sister listens to this, she's going to be like, hello, I
38:44
have 3 kids. I'm like I've nobody in my life
38:47
and I have 3 kids. Never met anybody with never
38:49
you. Don't know a single person with
38:52
who has only three kids. But it's like, how do you ask
38:56
parents that are in that? Like how did?
38:58
Also how did they? Also, it's like you, you can't
39:03
determine what your kids like temperaments and things are
39:06
going to be so like in that research.
39:08
Did they all have? Yeah, easy going.
39:11
I know that's also my my whole back of having another one where
39:15
I'm like, I've gotten off so easy.
39:18
Yeah, I don't want to rock the boat.
39:20
I don't think I want to test it. I want to test it.
39:23
I did get rid of a lot of maize baby clothes though, and then
39:28
cried a little bit. But yeah.
39:31
OK, well, let's wrap it up. What's What's your lifesaver
39:34
today? Oh.
39:38
I think mine's just just a little sweet treat, like a
39:42
little ice, a little ice coffee. I I think my lifesaver.
39:48
Oh God, let's get coffee after this.
39:50
Let's do that. That's a good one.
39:52
A sweet treat really does. Honestly, a sweet treat gets you
39:56
through a lot. I think my lifesaver is knowing
40:05
when it's time to switch the environment.
40:09
Like like yesterday we were home, they got home from school,
40:13
they both like had rested enough and I could tell that they were
40:17
getting antsy together and I was like time to run errands.
40:20
And immediately fine like me, finally picking up on their
40:27
energy before their energy gets bad.
40:31
Lifesaver because I would say 8 out of 10 times they just need
40:38
something new. Yeah.
40:39
And whether that that switching of the environment is me just
40:43
closing my computer for 30 minutes and playing with them or
40:48
just going on a quick walk, just getting in the car and driving
40:52
to go pick up a sweet treat really quick.
40:55
But I think that is my lifesaver is, is knowing when it's time to
40:59
switch something. I love it.
41:01
Yeah. Because it really it'll it'll
41:03
fix a lot for them. Well, great.
41:06
Well, let's go switch up our environment and get out of.
41:08
Here and get a coffee time for our sweet treat, OK?
41:11
Well, here's to Season 6 coming up.
41:14
Well, here's to five seasons. Yeah, Congrats.
41:18
And and coming up on 6, we got some good stuff coming.
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more good stuff. You know what?
41:28
We're doing great. Kell, Annette.
41:30
Also, before we wrap, I wanted to say this going back to why I
41:34
love Mommy Woods so much. Yes, let's end on this.
41:37
Let's end on this because I really do.
41:41
People love talking about their kids.
41:44
Oh yeah. And they don't get to do it
41:47
enough. And they love talking about
41:49
their kids and a space that's actually like, let me tell you
41:52
why my kid is cool and not like a, you know, because you have a
41:56
tendency to get with other mom friends, especially if they're
41:59
not in the same like career space as you.
42:02
And all you want to do at those points is like vent about all of
42:07
the bad stuff to just help you get through through the neck,
42:10
whatever that like this space, you get to come on and talk
42:15
about how cool like your kids are and like all of the cool
42:21
things that they get to see because you are in the
42:24
entertainment industry is really that is is.
42:30
So I don't think parents have a space to do that enough.
42:35
And I love it so much. Well, here it is.
42:37
Here it is. You want to talk about your kids
42:39
and how cool they are, reach out.
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We're here, baby. Yeah, so anyway, I did want to
42:45
make sure I said that because it's one of my favorite pieces.
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So there you have it. All right.
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