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Must Be a White Lady with Kevin Hart · Dear Chelsea

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  Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, it's today. It's Tuesday. Actually it's election day,
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  Speaker 1: so we are recording this episode on election day, and
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  Speaker 1: we do not know the results of the election. So
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  Speaker 1: here we are.
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  Speaker 2: Are you watching the news? You're gonna wait till later.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I've had a very very busy morning, and I am
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  Speaker 1: choosing to be as optimistic and positive until we have
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  Speaker 1: something to not be optimistic and positive about. I woke
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  Speaker 1: up this morning, I did a workout. I signed about
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  Speaker 1: a thousand of my books sheets for my new book
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  Speaker 1: that's coming out next year, and I signed a bunch
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  Speaker 1: so that they can put there called tip sheets, so
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  Speaker 1: that they put them in the book. And then we
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  Speaker 1: had a huge contractor meeting with all these new contractors
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  Speaker 1: that I had to hire to fix my house for
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  Speaker 1: all the bad contracting does. So that was a big
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't really part of that. I saw it from
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  Speaker 1: the inside out, people circling the house. But there was
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  Speaker 1: a lot of very responsible looking men here this morning,
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  Speaker 1: and that made me feel very excited about the potential
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  Speaker 1: of my house finally being done one day. And so
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  Speaker 1: all of my team was here working with everyone, and
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  Speaker 1: then I did something else. It feels like I've been
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  Speaker 1: up for almost three days. I'm going to my friend
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  Speaker 1: Connie's house to watch the election tonight. I do not
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  Speaker 1: believe that we will have an answer about who won
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  Speaker 1: the election tonight, but hopefully we'll get some a lots
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  Speaker 1: of good news. And if you're listening to this on
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  Speaker 1: Thursday and the election didn't go the way that we wanted,
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  Speaker 1: I'll be back to discuss that next week.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's a great way to put it. My
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  Speaker 2: dad went in for surgery today. He said he doesn't
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  Speaker 2: want to be present for the results. He wants to
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  Speaker 2: be sedated, So he's having a heart surgery today.
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  Speaker 1: That's good. Yeah, that's the right way. That's good. I
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  Speaker 1: will also be sedated. I haven't chosen what drug is
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  Speaker 1: going to do that yet. I have to go up
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  Speaker 1: to my little drawer and figure out what kind of goodies.
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  Speaker 1: I have so many goodies. I have so many new
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  Speaker 1: goodies to try out. So I don't know what excellent
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  Speaker 1: something that says love all over it. So maybe I'll
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  Speaker 1: pop one of those suckers fantastic. I feel love. Also, people,
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  Speaker 1: we need more of questions. We need people to write
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  Speaker 1: in with their problems or asking for advice, and we're
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  Speaker 1: doing minisodes this season which are like additional ten minute
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  Speaker 1: episodes which we're trying to do with couples and couples counseling.
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  Speaker 1: So if you have those issues with anybody that could
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  Speaker 1: be a friend or a lover, or a coworker or
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  Speaker 1: a family member, but also any of your questions from
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  Speaker 1: the silly to the serious, we are accepting questions at
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  Speaker 1: Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so if you've been thinking about writing in for
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  Speaker 2: a long time, this is your sign writ in.
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  Speaker 1: It's your sign today our guest. First of all, I
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  Speaker 1: was in Vegas this weekend. I saw A Dell on
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  Speaker 1: Friday night, which was amazing, before my show at Caesar's
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  Speaker 1: on Saturday night, which was amazing, Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: It was so much fun. I loved how many people
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  Speaker 1: came out. It was so so much fun. I had
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  Speaker 1: it like forty eight hours of great times in Vegas.
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  Speaker 1: And then Kevin Hart I ran into unfortunately at Adele
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  Speaker 1: and he grew uped me. I groped him too, and
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  Speaker 1: then we decided to go gambling. He was with Anico,
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  Speaker 1: his wife. I was with my cousin Molly, and I
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  Speaker 1: would just like to say that the amount of money
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  Speaker 1: that Kevin lost during our gambling session in his private
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  Speaker 1: gambling room that was attached to his hotel room is
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  Speaker 1: too embarrassing to say on this podcast. You're an idiot anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Our guest today stars in Peacock's Fight Out along with
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  Speaker 1: every other movie that you'll ever seen in your life,
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  Speaker 1: and you can catch him on his newest comedy tour,
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  Speaker 1: acting my age, and he is definitely not acting his age.
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  Speaker 1: Please welcome Kevin Hart. This is my friend, long longtime friends,
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  Speaker 1: Kevin Hart. I'm very happy to see your face. I'm
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  Speaker 1: always happy to see you. Actually, I always love to
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  Speaker 1: see your face in the beginning, at first glance in
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  Speaker 1: the beginning, like I see you coming and I think,
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  Speaker 1: oh fun, this will be fun. Well then it's not
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  Speaker 1: a dip, but I just there's I think there's an
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  Speaker 1: anticipatory level of excitement when I get to see you.
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  Speaker 4: Great word.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you've used a couple words wrong in the
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  Speaker 1: short time that you've been here, so I had to
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  Speaker 1: correct his grammar as I do so hopefully you know
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  Speaker 1: if you say anything wrong here.
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  Speaker 4: Good news is I'm with the dictionary.
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  Speaker 1: And you're only an hour late today, which for you
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  Speaker 1: is early late.
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  Speaker 5: I call you're not late when you give a heads
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  Speaker 5: up to two and a half hours before.
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  Speaker 1: When you say that's fine that you're late, I don't care, but.
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  Speaker 4: I want to make it back.
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  Speaker 1: You said I'm on my way at eleven o'clock and
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  Speaker 1: we were supposed to be here at eleven fifteen.
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  Speaker 5: Totally five in East Bubblefuck. I'm on the other side.
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  Speaker 5: I'm in Calabasas well.
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  Speaker 1: That's where the cheaper homes are. I guess, come over
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  Speaker 1: the hill, right. I don't know why you live in Calabasas.
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  Speaker 5: Because I don't want to backyard the size of my hand. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: how about that? Maybe that's why, Kevin.
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  Speaker 1: What do you have to say for yourself?
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  Speaker 4: What do I have to say for myself?
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  Speaker 1: In general?
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  Speaker 4: In general, I have to say I'm proud of me.
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  Speaker 1: You are, Yeah, I'm proud of you too.
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  Speaker 5: If I had to say something, I would say that,
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  Speaker 5: I would. I would say, though we're we're in a
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  Speaker 5: different time. I'm getting older, so now.
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  Speaker 1: You like you're getting older? Absolutely, I feel like I'm
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  Speaker 1: fucking crushing it and I'm forty nine.
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  Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I'm getting older.
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  Speaker 1: Doesn't mean but I mean it looks wise like body wise,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like, well, I've always been curious about your
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  Speaker 1: desire to work so much. I know you want to
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  Speaker 1: Well no, I'll let you speak about why you want
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  Speaker 1: to work as hard as you work.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, look, half of it's fair, half of its commitment.
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  Speaker 5: It's the idea of completion. So starting something you're not finishing,
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  Speaker 5: and it doesn't sit well with me. So right now,
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  Speaker 5: there's so much that I've started, right, not just in
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  Speaker 5: entertainment or comedy or acting, you know, from a creative space.
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  Speaker 5: Once you start building businesses and once you start developing
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  Speaker 5: like an infrastructure full of minds and people to help
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  Speaker 5: this thing last forever, it gets more difficult as you
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  Speaker 5: go on. It's not easy building a business with businesses
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  Speaker 5: in it. So completion, like, I feel like I have
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  Speaker 5: to complete the task at hand.
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  Speaker 4: And what that.
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  Speaker 5: Looks like, it's still it's still to be determined, right
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  Speaker 5: because it's constantly growing, it's expanding. So what once was
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  Speaker 5: just the idea of a production company has turned into
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  Speaker 5: an independent studio that's turned into a multi layered entity
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  Speaker 5: with a VC attached with fun and development and opportunities
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  Speaker 5: to merge and partner with like it's grows and grows
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  Speaker 5: and grows, and you look up and you got a
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  Speaker 5: staff of so many it's like, well, fuck, I can't
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  Speaker 5: stop if I wanted to, because now I've invested all
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  Speaker 5: this time and people have invested time into the thing
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  Speaker 5: that I believe in, so now I owe them.
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  Speaker 4: The return of energy. And it just keeps going.
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  Speaker 5: But I think I do believe by time I'm fifty
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  Speaker 5: to fifty three that a lot of these things should
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  Speaker 5: have hard punctuations on them. And then I can kind
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  Speaker 5: of sit back and go, wow, man, it's dope.
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  Speaker 4: Did that happen?
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  Speaker 1: And how old are you now?
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  Speaker 4: Forty five? Now?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, forty five? So tell me about how you hand
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  Speaker 1: difficult situations in business, like when something doesn't go your way?
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  Speaker 1: How do you how have you learned and grown to
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  Speaker 1: deal with that kind of stuff?
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  Speaker 5: That's the easiest thing to understand in business. The bulk
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  Speaker 5: of things don't go your way at first. All ideas
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  Speaker 5: are bad. Idea is to most. You got to prove
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  Speaker 5: your case. And what you'll find for me is that
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  Speaker 5: a resume without receipts is just it's just a piece
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  Speaker 5: of paper, It's just words. Proof of concept is important.
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  Speaker 5: So without a proof of concept, I'm always selling you
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  Speaker 5: on an idea. What I've learned is that an idea
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  Speaker 5: is something that comes a dimind dozen. Everybody has one.
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  Speaker 5: But if my idea comes with a return, that's a
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  Speaker 5: different thing. So how do I put myself in the
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  Speaker 5: best position to make my partners understanding there's a mutual
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  Speaker 5: alignment where if I win, you win, If you win,
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  Speaker 5: I win.
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  Speaker 1: And that's also a track record. Right with all of
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  Speaker 1: this stuff you've done, people can trust your company, your brand,
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  Speaker 1: your you know whatever you're calling yourself these days. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: what are you calling yourself.
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  Speaker 5: These you just said? I think you just you just
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  Speaker 5: went through it. You're right, right, brand, you know, the
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  Speaker 5: business man.
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  Speaker 1: And then I'm very curious because I know how close
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  Speaker 1: you are with your wife and your family. And this
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  Speaker 1: may sound like a boring question, but I am very
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  Speaker 1: curious as to how you managed to balance everything and
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  Speaker 1: spend enough time with your family and your wife and
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  Speaker 1: your kids.
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  Speaker 5: It's a system. It's like a it's a routine system.
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  Speaker 5: So if you've been doing it long enough, you'll find
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  Speaker 5: that any routine is very easy to stay true to.
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  Speaker 5: There's no different from waking up early in the morning
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  Speaker 5: going to the gym than going to work. After the gym,
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  Speaker 5: they're making it home for dinner, eat dinner with the kids, kids,
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  Speaker 5: go to sleep, then you watch a movie, then you
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  Speaker 5: go to sleep, you wake up masturbate.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, well yeah, I'm sure. Yeah, and I have time.
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  Speaker 1: You probably are doing it.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think I need to.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's why it's weird that you're doing I get.
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  Speaker 4: It, which is which is once again, I just don't
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  Speaker 4: feel like I don't need.
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  Speaker 1: To, right, you don't need to address it.
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  Speaker 4: Fine, but I don't need to address I don't need
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  Speaker 4: to do it. My wife, I'm hot, I think.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's a separate conversation. I'm having her on
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  Speaker 1: next week.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I mean, if.
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  Speaker 5: You want to talk to her finally, she's going to
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  Speaker 5: do is tell you. I want to jump his bones
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  Speaker 5: all the time, and I would too. I walked by me,
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  Speaker 5: and I want to get a piece of that. No,
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  Speaker 5: There's were times where I've looked at myself in like
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  Speaker 5: a reflection, I'm like, I fuck, I get it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I don't know if you did.
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  Speaker 1: You actually don't even have to look in the mirror,
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  Speaker 1: because if you turn onto television. You can just watch
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  Speaker 1: yourself at any sort of credit card commercial or airline
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  Speaker 1: commercial or toe spacers commercial. It really doesn't matter what
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  Speaker 1: you're promoting. Have you ever worn toe spacers?
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  Speaker 4: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: No, okay, well I just started wearing them the other day.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I'm not gonna wear them, and I don't need what.
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  Speaker 1: If your toes to stay apart?
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  Speaker 4: No? I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Why not? I didn't know what to get a bion?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, then you get a bunion?
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  Speaker 1: No, but you want to do you want to look
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  Speaker 1: at a bunion?
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  Speaker 5: I don't want to look at a bunion. And if
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  Speaker 5: I had to, I don't care. I'm at an age
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  Speaker 5: where you think I care about my feet.
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  Speaker 1: I would hope. So what do you mean? Forty five?
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  Speaker 1: You're not dead. You a whole lifetime ahead of you.
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  Speaker 4: This is what it is.
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  Speaker 1: This is mid century. You have another hopefully fifty forty
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  Speaker 1: five fifty years and you to go around.
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  Speaker 4: With by no desire to correct my feet? You know
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  Speaker 4: you know what? I equate that too, like people that
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  Speaker 4: are sixty that get bracest. It's too late.
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  Speaker 1: I agree with this.
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  Speaker 4: It's over. It's over. Why don't you wait until now?
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  Speaker 5: Sixty years old, you're gonna fix it up. They be
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  Speaker 5: done dealt with it through all this time. Leave it alone.
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  Speaker 5: That's how I feel about my feet now. To answer
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  Speaker 5: your question about my kids, my kids in my time,
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  Speaker 5: it's a system. I'm dedicated to a home schedule, and
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  Speaker 5: if I'm filming a movie, it changes.
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  Speaker 4: But it's the reverse of touring.
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  Speaker 5: Right. Like touring, you're going on the weekends, you're home
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  Speaker 5: during the week. If I'm filming a movie, I'm going
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  Speaker 5: during the week, but I'm home on the weekends. So
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  Speaker 5: the kids understand that, and they have and they grow
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  Speaker 5: up understanding what my job is. And when dad's home
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  Speaker 5: it's great. And when he's going, we know what you're doing.
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  Speaker 4: But we talk all the time.
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  Speaker 5: My younger kids, I think are are going to get
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  Speaker 5: a different, very different version because I'm down a little bit.
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  Speaker 5: So well, yeah, I mean, I need to be home
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  Speaker 5: more and I can, like I have the luxury of
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  Speaker 5: working from the office at home, so I don't have
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  Speaker 5: to be in the office as much or have to
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  Speaker 5: be on the go as much. I think the bigger
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  Speaker 5: things have gotten You're in a position where you can
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  Speaker 5: delegate and have other people kind of execute things where you,
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  Speaker 5: once upon a time had to do it yourself. I
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  Speaker 5: don't have to do as much as that anymore. So
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  Speaker 5: my younger kids definitely get a I think a bigger
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  Speaker 5: dose of me than my olders did at this age.
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  Speaker 5: But my older kids were so close like yah, now is.
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  Speaker 1: They're getting the dose that they need. I would say
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  Speaker 1: that that is the most important age. Your older kids
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  Speaker 1: are at the age where they need you the most.
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  Speaker 1: They need your influence the most absolutely.
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 5: What I like is that they're comfortable enough to talk
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  Speaker 5: to me, good or bad.
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  Speaker 4: There's no secrets. I mean, the probably are well within reason.
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  Speaker 4: I noticed.
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  Speaker 5: This is probably things that my kids don't tell me, and
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  Speaker 5: like any kid, I get it right. But there's a
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  Speaker 5: lot that they do come to the table with that
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  Speaker 5: we talk about. And you know, I like the fact
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  Speaker 5: that they are very confident that there is no bad
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  Speaker 5: reaction from their father, Like it's dialogue all the time
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  Speaker 5: and it's never met with a negative energy or an
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  Speaker 5: angry tone.
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  Speaker 4: And that, to me, that's what I'm most proud of
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  Speaker 4: with them.
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  Speaker 5: Like that, that's where I can see the benefit of
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  Speaker 5: our relationship or the time that we're spending, Like I
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  Speaker 5: can see it paying off in real time.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, because of the people that they were coming.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's nice.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, that's my that's my win.
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  Speaker 1: What do you think about when you think about your
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  Speaker 1: own childhood and you think about what your kids have,
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  Speaker 1: what do you think about that?
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  Speaker 5: It's crazy, man, because you know, you don't see this happening.
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  Speaker 5: And the way I grew up, how I grew up,
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  Speaker 5: I was a happy kid. I was a happy fucking
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  Speaker 5: kid man, and with less. And the reason why I
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  Speaker 5: was happy is because you just appreciated the things that
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  Speaker 5: you had or that you were able to do. Going
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  Speaker 5: outside was a big deal. Playing with my friends outside
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  Speaker 5: was a big deal. Playing basketball in the schoolyard was
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  Speaker 5: a big deal. Walking to the store to buy candy
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  Speaker 5: was a big deal. Those were the big things. Like
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  Speaker 5: we didn't need the grandioso version of trips and adventures,
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  Speaker 5: like we had the steps. We had the walk from
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  Speaker 5: where we lived to meet up at a friend's house,
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  Speaker 5: to go to the playground, to go back from there
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  Speaker 5: to a friend's house, sit outside, play a game that
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  Speaker 5: we created, go back to the house, step repeat, Like
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  Speaker 5: that's it. If you were lucky, you were in some
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  Speaker 5: extracurricular activities. I swam, played basketball. My mom did the
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  Speaker 5: best that she could.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, when you talk about that, that makes me nostalgic
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  Speaker 1: from my own childhood actually, because there was an electricity
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  Speaker 1: in the air, like even just going out in the
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  Speaker 1: street after school and playing like red Rover, Red Rover
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  Speaker 1: with the neighbors all on the street. It's like, where
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  Speaker 1: does that happen anymore? Where did other neighborhoods in Minnesota
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  Speaker 1: where that that happens? Yeah, not in Los Angeles.
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  Speaker 5: I think the kids that are fortunate enough to grow
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  Speaker 5: up in the neighborhoods, and by that I mean, like,
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  Speaker 5: you know, where there's a nice connectivity within community. People
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  Speaker 5: live in close proximity, and the kids grow up knowing
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  Speaker 5: that friends across the street are down the street, and
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  Speaker 5: as they get older, that rapport gets better. Now you know,
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  Speaker 5: it's not my kid's fault, but respectfully, we don't we
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  Speaker 5: don't have neighbors right, Like there's.
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  Speaker 4: No walking to the house down the street.
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  Speaker 5: Like we're living to hopefully get a high level of
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  Speaker 5: privacy and exclusivity just in home because we don't want
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  Speaker 5: to be bothered or we don't want to be approached
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  Speaker 5: or it's me, it's not them. So because of that
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  Speaker 5: life that we now live, they don't have that. So
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  Speaker 5: it changes. But then the kids get old enough and
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  Speaker 5: they're driving. So my kids are driving at the age sixteen,
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  Speaker 5: and that I can go to my friend's house and
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  Speaker 5: after that we're gonna go meet and do whatever. You
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  Speaker 5: have a little bit more freedom, but the idea of
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  Speaker 5: what you're doing is different from what I was doing. Right,
• 15:05
  Speaker 5: it's I don't my kids aren't hanging out after school.
• 15:08
  Speaker 5: They're not hanging out at the school and not breaking
• 15:11
  Speaker 5: the next to go to pet rowllies or the football games.
• 15:14
  Speaker 5: It's different now, and you know, electronics and social media,
• 15:18
  Speaker 5: it's changed all of that to where from afar people
• 15:21
  Speaker 5: feel close, but you don't have the same synergy.
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: Don't you think you're addicted to social media?
• 15:26
  Speaker 5: No? As and I could give two shits about it,
• 15:28
  Speaker 5: but at one point it was it was what drove
• 15:30
  Speaker 5: the machine. So I'm one of the early winners in
• 15:35
  Speaker 5: the space of social media about understanding the value of it.
• 15:38
  Speaker 4: Like anything else, is going to be getting bad.
• 15:41
  Speaker 5: I think that the bad is a little more present today,
• 15:45
  Speaker 5: but I also think that the good is watching this
• 15:48
  Speaker 5: younger generation crack the code and figure out like a
• 15:52
  Speaker 5: different side of economic payoff. They've cracked the code to
• 15:56
  Speaker 5: where the value in return and energy creative on social
• 16:01
  Speaker 5: media is making them millions of dollars live streaming, gaming, vlogging,
• 16:06
  Speaker 5: you name it.
• 16:07
  Speaker 4: They've cracked the code and made of the business.
• 16:10
  Speaker 5: So you're looking at a lot of people take care
• 16:12
  Speaker 5: of themselves and their families from doing the thing that
• 16:15
  Speaker 5: we thought was like real simple and just one note.
• 16:18
  Speaker 5: They've created a teer to it. So I think my
• 16:21
  Speaker 5: hat off to them, but I also understand, like I don't.
• 16:23
  Speaker 4: I don't do that. I don't have that much.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: I don't have to do that. Well, you don't have
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: to do that. It's also yeah, okay, moving on from
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: that subject, because who cares. I want to ask you
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: what are you most proud of as a person, Not
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: of your accomplishments, but what is like a lesson that
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: you learned that you didn't have to learn more than
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: you know once or twice that you're proud of, like
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: understanding that lesson.
• 16:47
  Speaker 5: I think the biggest lesson I'll probably say is don't
• 16:50
  Speaker 5: expect others to give you what you give them, Right,
• 16:54
  Speaker 5: Like one of the biggest things that I'm now very
• 16:58
  Speaker 5: comfortable with understanding is my heart is different and the
• 17:03
  Speaker 5: energy attached to making others feel good or to put
• 17:07
  Speaker 5: others in a position to do good is a high
• 17:10
  Speaker 5: level energy. And just because you have that, it doesn't
• 17:14
  Speaker 5: mean that other people should. Everybody operates differently, right, and
• 17:17
  Speaker 5: everybody shows their love or shows their value or shows
• 17:21
  Speaker 5: their I guess you can say commitment differently. Yeah, so
• 17:26
  Speaker 5: I took the pressure off of others when I stop
• 17:31
  Speaker 5: expecting you to do what I do or to work
• 17:34
  Speaker 5: the same way that I wol Did that.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: Happen when you met the Plastic cup boys.
• 17:38
  Speaker 5: I mean, me and my guys have definitely had our peaks,
• 17:40
  Speaker 5: hills and valleys. But I think they're all not only talented,
• 17:45
  Speaker 5: but they're all chasing different things for themselves. So you
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: go through this period where you want the most for everybody,
• 17:53
  Speaker 5: and if they're not doing what you think, then you
• 17:56
  Speaker 5: don't think that they're doing enough or are.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: You go through a period where you want you feel
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: like you're helping so many people, and then when they
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: exceed beyond what you've provided for them, when they have
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: their own success beyond what you've given them. There can
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: be friction because you're like, wait, wait, wait, you're going out.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: The whole idea is for everyone to fly by themselves,
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: but some people in leadership positions want to hold on
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: to everybody and say, don't exceed beyond the success that
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: I've given you.
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: You know that.
• 18:23
  Speaker 5: That's an interesting point because I don't. I don't suffer
• 18:26
  Speaker 5: from that. I'm very much a I want to see
• 18:29
  Speaker 5: everybody fly. I want to see I want to see
• 18:32
  Speaker 5: everybody get to the highest level of a win.
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: To me, that's special.
• 18:37
  Speaker 5: If you want to know the true definition of success,
• 18:39
  Speaker 5: the true definition of success is look at the success
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: of others around the successful person. Like that's if you
• 18:44
  Speaker 5: really want to get into it.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: That's like when I put you on Chelsea Lately before
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: it when yeah, because nobody thought because of his height
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: and because of his body, he would ever be successful.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, that's a cute little nugget, Like,
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: let's put him on Chelsea Lately. And you guess what
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: he did as a thank you. After three or four appearances,
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: he decided that he wanted to only be a guest
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: on Chelsea Lately, that he didn't want to be on
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: the panel anymore because he was becoming too famous. That's
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: what he said after I put him on the show,
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: and those his first television it was probably on The Jeffersons.
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: He played that little kid on The Jeffersons too, but
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: that was a long time.
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: But I think I think that that was the right move.
• 19:20
  Speaker 5: And just to kind of punctuate when I'm saying you
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: were trying to.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Hold you down, I think I said, good for him
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: for asking and the answers, Yes, that's what I said,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: because I wanted to fly. I wanted you to fly
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: like a little lash.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: You actually were very supportive of my progression in those days.
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: But also I think one thing that I that I'm really.
• 19:38
  Speaker 5: Good at is I don't forget You don't forget the
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: road of the journeys. So it's like those things that
• 19:45
  Speaker 5: helped elevate you, you don't turn your back on them.
• 19:48
  Speaker 5: When things start going well, you figure out great ways
• 19:51
  Speaker 5: for you to maintain those relationships and those platforms. Right, Like, like,
• 19:56
  Speaker 5: how how did I get to the place of like
• 19:59
  Speaker 5: crazy availability and awareness from a fan base was because
• 20:04
  Speaker 5: of all the things that I was able to do.
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: So that panel was very important. When the panel turned
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: into just being a guest. Very important. That audience attached
• 20:12
  Speaker 5: to Late Night with You was a very important audience.
• 20:16
  Speaker 5: Like those things transferring the ticket sales, so you don't
• 20:19
  Speaker 5: shut the door on it. You do that while doing
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: other things, and I think I did a good job
• 20:23
  Speaker 5: of maintaining all of that as things continue to grow,
• 20:27
  Speaker 5: and even today when you look back and we're able
• 20:30
  Speaker 5: to go and do a podcast. The dope thing about
• 20:32
  Speaker 5: these relationships is like when people go and look at
• 20:34
  Speaker 5: how long, over the course of time you've stayed true
• 20:37
  Speaker 5: to a friendship, or stay true to a great energy
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: and a great rapport.
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: It's a story. It's one long story.
• 20:44
  Speaker 5: Wow, they started here, they went here, and they've been
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: doing this all the way. Oh my god, it's so
• 20:48
  Speaker 5: dope that they still find a way to maintain a relationship.
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: It's so dope that we're able to connect those dots
• 20:55
  Speaker 5: with them. That to me is special and you don't
• 20:57
  Speaker 5: have many of those.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: What you do, I mean, loyalty is a big thing
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: for you. You're very loyal and I love that about you.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: I feel the same way about being loyal to people
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: and reciprocity. But like what you're saying is not hanging
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: your hat on reciprocity, like don't expect from others what
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: you give, which is also a good life lesson. And
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: another thing that I very much respect about you is
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: your vibration. You are operating at a high vibration. You
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: want to bring people in. You're a lover, You're always
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: you've always been this way. I've never seen you be
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: an asshole once. I mean you are an asshole, like
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: you are an asshole, like you're an asshole. Which, yeah,
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: I mean I already talked about that stuff, so I
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: don't need to expound.
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: All of that. I just don't think you need to
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: say that, right, I think.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: You're an asshole. But and it's a good asshole and
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: it's a ridiculous asshole.
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: Well you know, a good assle.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: But but loyalty is important to you, very right, absolutely,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: So when you say what you just said, which is
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: don't expect other people to give you the love that
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: you're giving them necessarily, then how does loyal else play
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: into that?
• 22:01
  Speaker 5: Well, I don't think it's I don't think it's just love.
• 22:03
  Speaker 5: I think it's the energy. Right, Like if you just said,
• 22:06
  Speaker 5: if you're operating at this crazy vibration.
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: It's high vibration.
• 22:09
  Speaker 5: Like you just said, I can't expect everyone to meet
• 22:12
  Speaker 5: me here. I understand what's special about where I am,
• 22:17
  Speaker 5: and I understand how passionate I am about wanting so
• 22:20
  Speaker 5: much for so many. If you don't have the same
• 22:24
  Speaker 5: wants for yourself, I can't get mad at you. I
• 22:28
  Speaker 5: can't take that as like disrespector or I can't get frustrated.
• 22:33
  Speaker 5: I have to then say it's dope, and I understand,
• 22:36
  Speaker 5: like what you want for you is for you. I
• 22:39
  Speaker 5: want to just do what I can to help you,
• 22:40
  Speaker 5: and then I hope you get whatever it is that
• 22:43
  Speaker 5: you want. It's much easier when you can process it
• 22:47
  Speaker 5: differently and look at it with a dual POV. Then
• 22:49
  Speaker 5: look at it from one perspective, which used to be
• 22:52
  Speaker 5: for me I used to suffer from. Well, if you
• 22:54
  Speaker 5: don't want what I want to you don't want the
• 22:55
  Speaker 5: best for yourself, Like that's correct, you don't want obviously
• 23:00
  Speaker 5: not trying to be the best, and everybody's not trying
• 23:02
  Speaker 5: to do that.
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: Everybody's not trying to be the best.
• 23:06
  Speaker 5: And some people want to be enough, or some people
• 23:09
  Speaker 5: want a little bit or a little taste, and some
• 23:11
  Speaker 5: people want to be content.
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: There's different levels for a reason. And to.
• 23:17
  Speaker 5: My fault, a younger version of myself, it was like, Man,
• 23:22
  Speaker 5: if you're not on this page and you just don't
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: see what I see, then I just can't have that
• 23:27
  Speaker 5: or around because your energy is taken away from my energy.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: And that it's not the case all the time. You
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: should be able to separate it.
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: You should be able to understand it, and you should
• 23:34
  Speaker 5: also be able to let people figure things out on
• 23:36
  Speaker 5: their own time. And sometimes when they do, it's a
• 23:39
  Speaker 5: great it's a great full circle moment. If they don't,
• 23:42
  Speaker 5: it doesn't matter, It doesn't affect you to the point
• 23:44
  Speaker 5: of no return. But I used to operate as if
• 23:47
  Speaker 5: it did at one point. That's the biggest lesson that
• 23:50
  Speaker 5: I think I had. And when I got out of
• 23:51
  Speaker 5: my way and I started letting other people flourish and
• 23:54
  Speaker 5: be great and stop trying to control and navigate every
• 23:57
  Speaker 5: single thing, I started to see things grow.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: Okay, on that note, we're gonna take a break and
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: we're gonna be right back with Kevin Hart. Okay, and
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: we're back with Kevin Hart. Can you put your pants
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: back on?
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: What do you mean?
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: Oh? Nothing, This is. This isn't a visual podcast, So
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: I still need you to put your pants back on pants.
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: I will also have you put on your headphones right
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: now because we're gonna start.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: Put over your pants. Actually, we have callers, and you're
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: gonna give advice to real people. They call in for advice.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: It's called dear Chelsea. How is that how you wear?
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: These people are asking you for advice? Do they have
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: they seen you?
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Is that how you wear? Headphones?
• 24:40
  Speaker 5: Like this?
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Who are you beats?
• 24:41
  Speaker 6: Well?
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: You don't?
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: Why not?
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: Because you don't need to hear in one.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: A this and it's not an air it's an early.
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: One of those people that wear pods.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: The point of having a because I want to still
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: hear you. Clear, you're gonna hear me in the fucking
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: microphone miracle.
• 24:58
  Speaker 5: I can hear you just like this though. Yeah, see that.
• 25:01
  Speaker 5: See this is you know what that's called these crazy gaslighting?
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: No, this is crazy. This is what the millennials are
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: talking about.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: Are you talking about me? I'm a millennium. Are you
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: talking about me?
• 25:10
  Speaker 5: No?
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: I'm saying that you're what they talk about.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: Millennials are talking about us. They're talking about I think
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: that I'm talking about me only Yeah, women like me
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: who go like this, if you did that, she gets it.
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: No, that's stupid.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: First of all, it fucking hurts my ear rings and
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: it hurts my ears.
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: Well, then has more reason for you to have one off.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: No, it hurts my ears to have it off.
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: Why would it hurt your ears to have it off
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: of your ear?
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: Because then my ears are way bigger than your ears.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: They always have been. It's catching my ear. Look at
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: how big my ears are.
• 25:44
  Speaker 5: Wow?
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: Have you ever they keep growings? Are like little two oreos.
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: My Jesus, my.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: Ears actually are like my very embarrassing feature. They look
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: like a laby. The bottom part is like laby. It's
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: like flappy, I don't know, bigger than my vagina, like
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: a whole person. I can here, Jesus, what do we
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: have today, Catherine?
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: Oh, we have some very juicy questionss for you, Kevin.
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: Our first question comes from Kelly, and she has a
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: question about her best friend.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: Try and be serious. Okay, okay, this could be serious
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: or it could not be. I don't know yet.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: There's a mix.
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: This isn't rocket fucking science. This shut up answer the questions.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: I kid it, Dear, Chelsea.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: My best friend and I have been friends for over
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: twenty years now, but lately she's been getting on my nerves.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the club.
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: Every time we go out to do anything, she is
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: overtly sexual with any mail around. She got divorced a
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: couple of years ago, so this is her first time
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: being truly single. She's joined every single dating app, and
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: I'm glad she's getting out there. But what I'm not
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: so cool about is her acting like a cat and
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: heat every time we're out in public. A few months ago,
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: we were at her daughter's twenty first birthday where she
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: was hitting on her daughter's friends to the point of
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: adjusting her shirt so her cleavage was fully on dis play.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: Her daughter was mortified. I did address that her daughter
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: looked embarrassed by her behavior, and she just laughed it off.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: So I don't know how to approach this or if
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: I even should. Last weekend, she hit on my married
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: friend before even taking the time to ask if he
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: was married. I'm heading out right now with my friends
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: and did not invite her, but I know this is
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: going to be a topic of conversation and I feel
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: the need to defend her. Am I being a prude
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: or is this just a phase I should wait out?
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: Kelly, Hi, Kelly, Hey, Kelly. Hi, guys, Hi, this is
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: Kevin Hart. Do you recognize him? He's our special guest. Yeah. Yeah, Okay,
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: you want me to go for sure? Okay? Yeah?
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: I think I have a pretty good wrap on this.
• 27:37
  Speaker 5: Okay, First of all, you know, I think you have
• 27:40
  Speaker 5: to have a little bit of understanding to the fact
• 27:43
  Speaker 5: that she's divorced in life after divorce.
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: If you haven't been divorced, you don't know what that's like.
• 27:49
  Speaker 5: So companionship is something that people want, something that people
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: long for and fiend for.
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: It sounds to me like there's just a want in.
• 27:57
  Speaker 5: Need for companionship, and that can opinionship right now is
• 28:01
  Speaker 5: being filled with flirtation or fun any environments that you're
• 28:05
  Speaker 5: going to. So if you were looking for a real
• 28:08
  Speaker 5: change and it was annoying you at a high level,
• 28:11
  Speaker 5: I think that you should just change the environments that
• 28:14
  Speaker 5: you attend with this particular friend. In other words, if
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: you don't want to be a part of the flirtatious
• 28:20
  Speaker 5: or salacious things or ways, I think you change it
• 28:23
  Speaker 5: to just lunch or an early dinner and there's not
• 28:28
  Speaker 5: the crazy party environment or the world where you can
• 28:31
  Speaker 5: approach or be approached, and I think for you, you'll then
• 28:34
  Speaker 5: have a better understanding of what that relationship is, and
• 28:39
  Speaker 5: then you can separate yourself and she can go do
• 28:41
  Speaker 5: her thing when she wants to, and you don't have
• 28:43
  Speaker 5: to be annoyed and come off as a friend that's
• 28:46
  Speaker 5: prudish or just not fun within the world of fun
• 28:50
  Speaker 5: that she's looking for.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: How long has she been divorced.
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: She's been divorced about three years.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: Okay, so she's not newly divorced, not newly divorced, she's
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: just getting out of the newly divorced area.
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: Right, I'm getting out of it. Yeah, and she's been
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: in two long term relationships since then.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: And so is this flirtation like horniness level? Has it spiked?
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: Is that what you're noticing.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: I've Yeah, I've definitely noticed in the past probably three months,
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: that it's really really spice. She just gets overly, like
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: touchy and feely with people that she really doesn't know,
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: she doesn't really know their situation.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: No, she's making people around her uncomfortable. Some of my
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: friends have said, I'm a little uncomfortable with her around
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: my husband because she didn't even know that he was
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: married to me. She was just in this big friend
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: group and was like petting him. I was like, oh, yeah,
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: I can see that.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: Well. I think Kevin's advice is great and sound, but
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: I think so too if the problem continues, because like
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: it could really be like a hormonal female thing, you
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: know what I mean, Because all of a sudden, someone
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: going around and like, you know, kind of semi groping
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: people is a problem, and it will become a problem,
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: especially since people are fucking married and they don't like that.
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: But if you want to have an honest conversation with her,
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: I would, as a woman, appreciate a woman having an
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: honest conversation with me saying like, hey, your behavior which
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: has happened in the past, your behavior was inappropriate or
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: you're you know, like, hey, you made someone feel uncomfortable.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: You don't want to shame her and say everyone's talking
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: about you, but you want to do you do want to
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: be honest, as if out of a friendship you kind
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: of owe each other honesty to say, hey, that guy's
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: married and his wife was there and he was uncomfortable
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: and she was uncomfortable and cite one example instead of ten.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: You know, when you do want to have a conversation,
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: if it gets to the point where you think you
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: have to have the conversation, if you in the business
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: of defending her, I think you could just say, she's
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: just going through something right now, I'm going to be
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: her friend and you know, hopefully this is just a phase.
• 30:37
  Speaker 5: Is that really going through something that some people were
• 30:39
  Speaker 5: just a little faster with life?
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: No? No, because she said this isn't typical of her behavior, right.
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: She said in the last three or four months.
• 30:46
  Speaker 5: So maybe like she's in a fucking mindset like you
• 30:49
  Speaker 5: know what, I've I haven't let go and just completely
• 30:53
  Speaker 5: let loose, and you know what, at this time, I
• 30:56
  Speaker 5: just want to fucking do what I want when I
• 30:58
  Speaker 5: want in return. Granted, yes, rubbing some people the wrong way,
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: flirting with husbands when you don't know that they're married, okay, yes,
• 31:06
  Speaker 5: but it's not like she's going and said, oh, this
• 31:09
  Speaker 5: is my husband. Then she's still doing the shit she
• 31:11
  Speaker 5: didn't know. I'm saying, if she's in a mindset of
• 31:14
  Speaker 5: I'm going to live and operate differently for me, I
• 31:17
  Speaker 5: think you should just be open and discussion, like, hey,
• 31:19
  Speaker 5: just tell me where you at, where you are mentally, like,
• 31:21
  Speaker 5: are you on like a more free life living journey
• 31:26
  Speaker 5: right now? Because it's appearing like you know, you just
• 31:29
  Speaker 5: you look like a fucking can and heat right now,
• 31:31
  Speaker 5: like every guy you flirting with look like you want
• 31:33
  Speaker 5: to fuck everybody. If that's the case, let table it
• 31:36
  Speaker 5: so I know where you are and I can let
• 31:38
  Speaker 5: you operate when and where you want to do that.
• 31:40
  Speaker 5: But you can't do that in all the settings. It's
• 31:43
  Speaker 5: coming off crazy, But let me know because me and
• 31:45
  Speaker 5: you are close enough, so I'm on the table. I'm
• 31:48
  Speaker 5: on a table of understanding.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: That's actually really good advice, Chris. I wasn't expecting that
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: from you.
• 31:52
  Speaker 5: You don't expect me to be a sound not nostalgic board,
• 31:56
  Speaker 5: no common sense, it's.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: Not common sense. It's a little bit more new on
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: than common sense. And I wouldn't expect.
• 32:01
  Speaker 5: Everybody wants to everybody wants to attack the person with
• 32:05
  Speaker 5: like whole like activities.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: I understand saying that. I'm just saying when you make
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: someone feel uncomfortable, I want to know if I made
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: someone feel uncomfortable, if I was at a party and
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: was like hitting on ancone made Yeah, well that was intentional.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: This is not intentional, I don't think.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: Well, and I'm sure there's like room for levity in
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: that conversation about like girl, you got a.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: Tone of yeah, yeah, exactly. It doesn't have to be
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: so serious.
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I definitely want to come at it
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: from a place of love and understanding because I know
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: everything she's been through on her human diary. She's mine, Yeah,
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: I get that, But I really love that approach.
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's too pronged approach where you talk, but
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: also maybe she's a brunch friend for a while.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: What is a too pronged approach called? What is that?
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: Remember what we used to call it?
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: To talk about approach? I think that's what you would
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: call it.
• 32:51
  Speaker 5: I think I think a too pronged approach is Actually
• 32:53
  Speaker 5: I was thinking of the shaker.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: That's what I remember, the shocker. I think that's sorry related.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: I don't know, it might be directly related to her.
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: Maybe that's exactly what she's looking for, the shocker.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: Give her the shocker and send her on her way.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: Anyway, I think that those all sound like good options.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: Do you?
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: Absolutely? Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate it.
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: Okay, thank you, thank you bye. That was good, Kevin
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: h for you.
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah for me, that was impressed by that.
• 33:20
  Speaker 5: Why can't you just like give you there?
• 33:24
  Speaker 4: Because you do it?
• 33:25
  Speaker 5: And then there's this weird change. It happens right after.
• 33:29
  Speaker 5: It's like the car just goes to the left. It's
• 33:31
  Speaker 5: like we're on a great road.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: Do you want to make you want to make card
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: jokes right now? I don't think so.
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: So all right, well, our next question comes from Jennifer,
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: and this one is just an email, so she won't
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: be joining us, but the subject line is hot tub fury.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea, don't you.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: Have a show about hot tubs or cold cold?
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: Oh?
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: You do the whole plunges and all that stuff.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: He does a bit like that, yeah too.
• 33:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah, one day she will support me.
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: I believe I have supported you on several occasions. I
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: think I worked out with your fucking trainer too on
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: a show. What was that show?
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: Was that?
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: The Cold plun Show?
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: Jennifer says, Dear Chelsea, I have an absolutely fed up
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: situation I'm dealing with. I've been married to my husband
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: for fourteen years, together for twenty we own a business
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: and a home together. On to the hot tub fury.
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: There's a woman who circles our friend group, let's call
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: her Abby. On New Year's Eve twenty twenty, she got
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: naked in my hot tub at a party, and I
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: told her flat out that I was uncomfortable with her
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: being naked in the hot tub with.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: This girl gets around.
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: I told my husband the same thing. I have zero
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: problems with him having single female friends, and he has
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: a lot that he sees for drinks or shows that
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: I don't wish to attend or don't care about. In
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: twenty twenty two, when I went on a cruise, I
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: later learned that Abby had been at my home when
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: I was not there. Then this past New Year's Eve,
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: she got naked in the hot tub again in front
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: of me. I confronted her and asked her to leave.
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: I was away this past Friday night, and around eleven
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: pm I got a text from a neighbor telling me
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: the dogs were barking. I checked the cameras. I see
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: him standing naked behind our bar with two cocktails in
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: front of him. So I switch views and see Abby
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: naked in our hot tub. I didn't say anything to him.
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: I couldn't decide my next move, so I waited. When
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: I got home, I realized that I wasn't eating or sleeping,
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: so I decided to confront him. I have since found
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: out that Abby is at my house whenever I go
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: out of town. I have also gone through all the
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: camera footage and found that nothing beyond the naked hot
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: tubbing and some bizarres sitting in the bar naked, has happened.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: They never touched each other, not even a hug when
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: she was leaving. It's so bizarre to me. I'm uncertain
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: if this is cheating or severe boundary stepping. I don't
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: feel like I can leave and start a new life
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: and career at forty six.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: Help Jennifer, Well, she really needs to be a caller,
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: I know, because hey, there's so many questions. Do they
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: have cameras? They don't have camera. The husband knows about
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: the camera, right, so of course he's not going to
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: be doing anything on camera. So perhaps they're not doing
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: anything in front of her, and then they go inside
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: and do something. I mean, that's one theory. Like, he's
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: not an idiot, it's his house, so why would he
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: be fucking somebody on camera that seems really stupid. Kevin,
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: what is your what do you have to say about this?
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: I mean, this is this is just stupid.
• 36:23
  Speaker 5: I mean like literally this is This is one of
• 36:25
  Speaker 5: the ones where you what are you asking? What help
• 36:28
  Speaker 5: is she looking for? Like if you're okay with your
• 36:31
  Speaker 5: husband having female friends, and you have been for the
• 36:34
  Speaker 5: duration of your marriage and your relationship, and you choose
• 36:37
  Speaker 5: to not be around those environments, so that means you
• 36:41
  Speaker 5: support whatever the world of fun is and you're his
• 36:44
  Speaker 5: level of comfort has progressed and grown over the years.
• 36:47
  Speaker 5: And if the female friends come over your house when
• 36:50
  Speaker 5: you're not there and you're aware or not aware, you
• 36:53
  Speaker 5: said boundaries or linestepping, like, well, it appears that you've
• 36:57
  Speaker 5: already set some type of boundary that this is okay.
• 37:00
  Speaker 5: I don't know what husband in his right mind is
• 37:02
  Speaker 5: having female company over as if a wife can't find
• 37:07
  Speaker 5: out when there's cameras and camera footage and you checking
• 37:10
  Speaker 5: the cameras and then seeing her at your house numerous
• 37:15
  Speaker 5: amount of times, like and then her getting naked in
• 37:18
  Speaker 5: front of you when you're there, obviously like she doesn't
• 37:21
  Speaker 5: feel like she's don't get anything wrong, Like so somewhere
• 37:25
  Speaker 5: along the line.
• 37:27
  Speaker 4: Somebody's not being very clear with what's happening.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: Also, you did say she asked this woman to leave,
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: and because she was naked, your husband understands. That's also
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: setting a boundary saying you don't want to be around that.
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: And then the husband's she's there all the time when
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: you're gone, that's fishy.
• 37:44
  Speaker 4: But she got naked again, like the first time.
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: She said the New Year's part.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: I don't trust your but I also don't trust the husband.
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: I think the husband is fine. He's not doing the
• 37:56
  Speaker 5: husband ain't doing nothing wrong. He's like, look at the cameras.
• 38:00
  Speaker 5: Go look at the cameras. I ain't touched this woman.
• 38:02
  Speaker 5: I ain't a goddamn thing with this woman. Yeah, it
• 38:04
  Speaker 5: was naked. So what we send at the bar having
• 38:06
  Speaker 5: a drink. The hot tub got hot, we got out,
• 38:08
  Speaker 5: we sat at the bar. You see it right there,
• 38:10
  Speaker 5: like he's.
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's his defense. You don't think I know
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: there's cameras, obviously, I know you can look at this
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: not feeling anything wrong. I find that behavior very suspicious.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: I don't think two people are hanging around naked because
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: they're nudists. I don't think that I don't think that's
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: a thing. I think there's probably something more to the
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: story that you're not willing to face. And if you
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: don't want to face it, then I would say, turn
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: off the cameras and look away.
• 38:34
  Speaker 5: I tell you another big thing, the whole idea of
• 38:38
  Speaker 5: strangers over your house, like, I've never been a company
• 38:42
  Speaker 5: at my house. Guy her saying, oh yeah, well she's there,
• 38:47
  Speaker 5: and other people were there at the house, Like this
• 38:49
  Speaker 5: is why you don't invite people to your home. Weird
• 38:52
  Speaker 5: shit happens when weird people get free and get comfortable.
• 38:55
  Speaker 5: Somebody feeling that comfortable that they can get naked at
• 38:59
  Speaker 5: your a home where you lay your head and your husband,
• 39:02
  Speaker 5: that's a problem within itself. And if it's happening a
• 39:05
  Speaker 5: number of times, clearly, somewhere along the lines, when it
• 39:09
  Speaker 5: happened the first time, somebody was like, hey, go girl,
• 39:13
  Speaker 5: somebody is supporting it, Like, you don't double back and
• 39:15
  Speaker 5: do the naked thing again.
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: If it was met with aggression or resistance the first.
• 39:20
  Speaker 5: Time, exactly, something somewhere there's some information being left out.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: She exactly, you told her not to be naked in
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: your house, You asked her to leave, and the minute
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: you were gone, she went back and did the same
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: thing you asked her not to do. So she has
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: no boundary with you because somebody else has let her
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: know that she doesn't have to have a boundary. And
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: that's somebody is your fucking husband. So you have a
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: problem with your husband. I believe something more is going
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: on between those two. You're forty six years old. That
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: is not the end of the world. Please don't ever
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: say what am I going to do as a forty
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: six year old woman? Plenty of shit. You could change
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: the channel anytime you want in this life, right And
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: apparently they say if you make it through the next
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: ten years, we can live till War one hundred and twenty,
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: so you might have a whole life ahead of you.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I mean, I've already spoken about
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: how I don't want to live that long. I can't
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: afford to live that long. It was, it'll be exhausting.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: What am I going to be doing stand up when
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: I'm one hundred and nine, like I hope not. I
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: don't you know that nobody wants to see that. I
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: mean talk about vaginal dryness, you know, So, I mean, honestly,
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: one hundred and nine years old. My god, I will
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: figure out a way to get a wet pussy at one.
• 40:23
  Speaker 4: Hundred and nine.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: Anyway, we got a little off track. But you know
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: who's pussy isn't dry? The woman he's sitting in your
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: chacuzzi naked.
• 40:32
  Speaker 5: That's an aggressive that's a very aggress it's an aggressive move.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: So do we send her a couple's counseling? The marriage a.
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: Couple of counseling. I have a direct conversation with your husband.
• 40:43
  Speaker 4: This is not a very hard problem to solve.
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's very easy, all right. And if he won't
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: stop seeing abby when.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: Well, then that's a big red flag too. This is
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: all very odd. There's no counselor that you're going to
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: go to. I mean it's good actually to go to
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: a counsel with him. So so you have someone tell
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: him a count of party. This is not normal behavior.
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: You don't have naked opposite sex people at your house
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: when your wife is out of town. That leads to
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: one thing. I mean, where are they going when they're
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: drinks at the bar? Right?
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: All right, Jennifer, Well keep us posted.
• 41:15
  Speaker 5: Well.
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: Our next caller is Savannah. Her subject line is my
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: stepmom thinks I'm doing porn. Oh, dear Chelsea.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's perfect. Kevin just launched his only Fans Paid.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: That's perfect. It is actually on it right.
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: Now, Dear Chelsea. My stepmom has been in my life
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: since I was ten and I'm now thirty one. We've
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: had a pretty good relationship for most of my life,
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: but for a year now we haven't spoken. I got
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: out of rehab last year, and at first she and
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: my whole family were nothing but supportive and proud. When
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: I got out of rehab. I had moved back to
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: my apartment after treatment and was enjoying some time before
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: re entering the workforce, especially since I was still in
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: treatment three times a week. I began to get questions
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: about how I could afford being unemployed. Then my dad
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: called me, who I have the closest and most love
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: relationship with, and asked me if I was selling my
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: body on the internet or doing that quote only funds thing.
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: I was aghast. I have no judgment, nor do I
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: condemn that line of work, but it's just simply not
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: something I'm comfortable with and I have a successful career.
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: After some interrogation, I found out that my step mom
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: told my mom and dad that I was doing OnlyFans
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: because I had once asked an offhand question about, oh,
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: what do people put on their taxes if they're making
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: bank doing that sort of work. That was last year.
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: We haven't spoken since my dad called with her on
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: the line to host the apology. We haven't had a
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: genuine conversation since, and that's over a year, which is
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: extremely unlike us. How do I get us both to
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: move on? I feel like I need a genuine apology
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: where my dad isn't policing the phone call, and it
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: appears she's fine going on without speaking forever. Please help.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: I want our relationship back, but I need more from her.
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: Savannah Hi, Savannah, Hi, Savannah Hi, Kelsey Hi.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: In your stepmom's defense, you look like you could have
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: your own only fans.
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: You're very hot.
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean. So, and women like
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: that are always think younger girls are up to something,
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm not up to half the shit
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: you think I'm up to. I'm just honest about what
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: I am doing. So it sounds a lot worse because
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: everybody else is lying. But anyway, so she's just like
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: kind of holding a grudge against you since that happened.
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: Do you feel like or it's just not the same
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: since she confronted you.
• 43:20
  Speaker 6: I think she's afraid to talk to me again after
• 43:22
  Speaker 6: she knows that she spread a rumor about me that
• 43:25
  Speaker 6: was really damaging, especially in a really vulnerable time. I
• 43:28
  Speaker 6: was just getting out of rehab, been figuring out what
• 43:30
  Speaker 6: do people think of me? Now I'm going it back
• 43:31
  Speaker 6: into the workforce. How do I explain this your gap
• 43:33
  Speaker 6: I took, so I was really dealing with insecurity. So
• 43:36
  Speaker 6: she hit me at a really low point. So when
• 43:39
  Speaker 6: my dad called and said, you know, your stepmom's on
• 43:42
  Speaker 6: the phone, and she kind of just said, well, we
• 43:44
  Speaker 6: didn't know what you were doing, so I just didn't know.
• 43:46
  Speaker 6: And I'm like, that's not a valid enough excuse to
• 43:49
  Speaker 6: make up the rumor that you did. So we've just
• 43:52
  Speaker 6: been going for about a year with really not reaching
• 43:55
  Speaker 6: out to each other, seeing each other at big family
• 43:57
  Speaker 6: events and kind of saying hi and I we need
• 44:00
  Speaker 6: to have another conversation to really clear the error.
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: Well, this is probably a good step in your recovery,
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: actually to have an adult conversation that isn't acrimonious. And
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: to actually say, hey, listen, I know things haven't been
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: the same in the last year, and I just want
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: you to know exactly why it struck me so hard
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: because I was in such a vulnerable spot in my life.
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: You really that was so unfair that you assumed because
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: I asked one question and so I really really hurt me.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: And but I we're past that, I hope, and I
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: would love to like work towards building back our relationship, right,
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's all reasonable.
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 44:34
  Speaker 6: I think I just wish she had the gumption to
• 44:37
  Speaker 6: you know, I have a stepsister who she fonds over,
• 44:38
  Speaker 6: and she should, that's her daughter. But I just wish
• 44:41
  Speaker 6: I felt like she knows like something's wrong and she
• 44:43
  Speaker 6: misses the relationship too, because it feels like we're just
• 44:46
  Speaker 6: in the stalemate forever.
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: I know, But don't wish for what you can do,
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: like you could be a bigger person here. Kevin was
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: trying to say, what were you trying to say?
• 44:54
  Speaker 5: Well, Chelsea, for one of the few times you're actually
• 44:56
  Speaker 5: kind of write and I'd never actually say that. I never,
• 45:00
  Speaker 5: I've really never I think I've ever agreed with you.
• 45:03
  Speaker 5: This is probably like, yeah, this is probably like one
• 45:04
  Speaker 5: of the first times I feel like you said something good.
• 45:08
  Speaker 5: I'm going to give you a really good cut to
• 45:10
  Speaker 5: the chase moment. And this is what a volume of people,
• 45:14
  Speaker 5: high volume of people suffer from. Right. I was talking
• 45:16
  Speaker 5: about it earlier, like the expectation of what you feel
• 45:20
  Speaker 5: you would do, you put on someone else and if
• 45:22
  Speaker 5: they don't meet that expectation, it bothers you. Right, people
• 45:27
  Speaker 5: are so afraid to just be direct and have forward
• 45:30
  Speaker 5: facing conversations like a year a year gap of a
• 45:35
  Speaker 5: fall in a relationship doesn't make sense to something that's
• 45:38
  Speaker 5: honestly not that difficult. It's this isn't a hard problem.
• 45:42
  Speaker 5: Is she wrong for assuming that you were doing something? Absolutely?
• 45:46
  Speaker 5: Is it uncommon for women today to be doing the
• 45:49
  Speaker 5: thing that she assumed or that she thought based off
• 45:52
  Speaker 5: of whatever was she heard.
• 45:53
  Speaker 4: It is what it is, you got.
• 45:55
  Speaker 5: It's a multi billion dollar business where everybody's doing it.
• 45:58
  Speaker 5: And by the way, it doesn't mean that if you
• 46:00
  Speaker 5: were you're doing porn. You could be posting regular pictures.
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: You can have your toes, you be wearing toes, spaceers.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of footation.
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: It could be anything I thought about toes.
• 46:09
  Speaker 5: Okay, listen, it could it could be anything, And I'm
• 46:11
  Speaker 5: just saying the first assumption in thought attached to it
• 46:14
  Speaker 5: doesn't have to be the worst. So there is just
• 46:17
  Speaker 5: an assumption and assumption that's taking place. You're hurt because
• 46:22
  Speaker 5: of her assumption and you think that I'm doing something
• 46:24
  Speaker 5: that I would never do.
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: She's like, well, I.
• 46:27
  Speaker 5: Thought because of what you said, and okay, I spun
• 46:30
  Speaker 5: it and put it out there. It's a real easy conversation. Hey,
• 46:33
  Speaker 5: we were close. It's real stupid for us to have
• 46:35
  Speaker 5: this thing holding over our head. I just didn't like
• 46:37
  Speaker 5: your timing of it. You know what I was going through,
• 46:39
  Speaker 5: and I felt from you, if anybody, you should actually
• 46:43
  Speaker 5: have a little more sensitivity in knowing how vulnerable I
• 46:46
  Speaker 5: was at that time. Now, if you didn't, maybe we
• 46:48
  Speaker 5: missed some key conversations. But how was that a low
• 46:51
  Speaker 5: and coming out? You hitting me with that? It kind
• 46:53
  Speaker 5: of put me back down. And like now as I'm
• 46:56
  Speaker 5: becoming like back to myself of old and experiencing life
• 47:01
  Speaker 5: and loving life, I'm realizing that I'm missing what we
• 47:03
  Speaker 5: once had. I want to work on getting back there,
• 47:06
  Speaker 5: but I need you to understand where I was. And
• 47:09
  Speaker 5: also I want to hear from you just in like
• 47:12
  Speaker 5: addressing that and being accountable for that, then let's move
• 47:14
  Speaker 5: on from it.
• 47:15
  Speaker 4: But it's a.
• 47:15
  Speaker 5: Five minute to ten minute conversation. These things don't have
• 47:18
  Speaker 5: to be drawn out.
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: And you're being the bigger person because she's your stepmother,
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: so technically she is the more mature, older version of
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: a woman who should have been, you know, making these
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: inroads to you already. But this is a great exercise
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: to actually just say fuck it, I don't care about
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: the smallness of another person. I'm going to be the
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: big person and say, yeah, no problem. I mean, you know,
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: it's over, but this is where I was coming from,
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: and I'd love to build back our relationship and get
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: back to normal.
• 47:43
  Speaker 5: This feels awkward, and guess what if the relationship doesn't
• 47:46
  Speaker 5: make it back to the standards of old, it happens.
• 47:49
  Speaker 5: It's life like. So holding on to a concept, or
• 47:54
  Speaker 5: holding on to this feeling of old like that may
• 47:58
  Speaker 5: not be in your best entry for the new version
• 48:01
  Speaker 5: of yourself that you've now become. So don't be afraid
• 48:04
  Speaker 5: to say, okay, like, if we don't get back, we don't.
• 48:06
  Speaker 4: But at least I got this off my chest.
• 48:08
  Speaker 5: So you can know how I feel, and I know
• 48:10
  Speaker 5: that I was very adult with how I approached you.
• 48:13
  Speaker 5: It was very much mature. This isn't a Caddy moment
• 48:16
  Speaker 5: of back and forth. This is one of simple understanding,
• 48:18
  Speaker 5: and I feel like if we had that as.
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: Good Absolutely I agree with all of that, and then
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: at the end you can just say and thanks for
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: the great idea. I actually started an OnlyFans page and
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: I'm crushing it.
• 48:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, by the way, I'm thinking about.
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: It because you need more money. Well, oh for her,
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: I thought about that.
• 48:35
  Speaker 6: We had a trip to Chicago where you're watching my
• 48:37
  Speaker 6: niece and nephew, and it's thought about just saying like, oh,
• 48:39
  Speaker 6: I'm going to disappear for an hour. I've got an
• 48:40
  Speaker 6: appointment with my only fans, so we'll be right back.
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, But I think that's the bigger picture, you know,
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: always just step above when people are bringing like being
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: low about something, just be bigger and congrats. Yeah.
• 48:53
  Speaker 6: I guess I'm just afraid that if I come with
• 48:55
  Speaker 6: that that she'll hide from it or won't address it,
• 48:59
  Speaker 6: or I won't get the resolute.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what you get, it matters how you
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: go after it, like you be the bigger person. You
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: do it. If you don't get the results you desire,
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: that's on her, that's not on you.
• 49:09
  Speaker 4: Done your part, Chelsea.
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: Actually you brought this up on another episode recently. Was
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: forgiving someone before you get the apology, you know, and
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: you had sort of the forest apology. But I wonder
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: if you can go in, you know, with a sense
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: of empathy, like she might be feeling kind of embarrassed
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: about what she did, Yeah, and like going in being
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: like I like, spend some time with yourself, forgive her
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: and then approach it.
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: Do you know what your dad said to her? Because
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: I bet you your dad gave her an aar full
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: about that.
• 49:36
  Speaker 6: So my dad had to call me one morning, early
• 49:38
  Speaker 6: in the morning, and he was like, and my dad
• 49:40
  Speaker 6: and I are very close. He'll always see me as
• 49:42
  Speaker 6: his little girl. You know, we talk three times a week.
• 49:45
  Speaker 6: But it was the worst call ever, you call me
• 49:47
  Speaker 6: early in the morning. He just said, are you doing porn? Which,
• 49:49
  Speaker 6: hearing that from his mouth, I was just like, oh,
• 49:52
  Speaker 6: I told him no. He believes me. He is frustrating
• 49:55
  Speaker 6: now that there's tension, of course, so the rumors put
• 49:58
  Speaker 6: to bed. But I know he's just wishes the tension
• 50:00
  Speaker 6: would be over, and he has. He believes my side.
• 50:03
  Speaker 6: He knows that that's not what I was up to.
• 50:05
  Speaker 6: So yeah, it's really just the between us that's left.
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, congratulations on getting sober. Kevin has been struggling
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: with his sobriety since I met him.
• 50:15
  Speaker 5: Well, you know, I have little shoes, so it's tough
• 50:17
  Speaker 5: to kick it.
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: No, I did not get that. I don't think about
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: that try together.
• 50:25
  Speaker 5: Lucky, lucky enough, I haven't. But I do admire those
• 50:29
  Speaker 5: that have made it out of the fire. So that's
• 50:32
  Speaker 5: pretty dope to hear you say I did. I was,
• 50:35
  Speaker 5: but I am now. Yeah, I think that's Uh, that's special.
• 50:38
  Speaker 5: Real heroes don't always wear capes, buddy.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, thanks for calling by Savannah. Thanks, Savannah really
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: looked like a Savannah. No, I know.
• 50:48
  Speaker 4: So, just to be clear, there is no link.
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: Oh no, there is no, although she said on our
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: interview her cousin does only fans, so it's like a thing,
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: you know, that's in the realm of reality for her family.
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: Saying no, there's no link is very hot. Anyway, moving along,
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: Moving along, Well, let's take a quick break and we'll
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: be back to wrap up with a very stupid question.
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, we're gonna take a break. I'm gonna give
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: Kevin a quick bath, and we'll be right back. And
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: we're back with Kevin Hart.
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: We are, and we're back with a final kind of
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: dumb question.
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: Perfect.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: That's a great way to end us, Gina says, dear Chelsea.
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: This what this, some of our conversations today is probably
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: some of the most serious conversations we've ever had. Even
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: though this I wouldn't consider this a serious conversation, there
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: were moments of seriousness within the conversation. I think so
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: for you and me, because usually it's not very serious question.
• 51:52
  Speaker 4: Some of those questions like required a good peal.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: You know, I mean, even our own conversation before the questions.
• 51:58
  Speaker 4: Yes, this was a lot. It was.
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: There's harassment coming from one of us to the other person.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: To me. Yeah, usually that's true. I'm not gonna lie.
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: And you take the abuse very well. You almost seem
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: to enjoy it. Well, yeah, I mean I've just grown
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: accustomed to it, right, Okay, Yes, that's what I wanted
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: to say.
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: Well, Gina says dear Chelsea. I couldn't think of a
• 52:18
  Speaker 2: better person to help me decide if I should listen
• 52:20
  Speaker 2: to the little devil on my shoulder that wants me
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: to seek some mostly innocent revenge on my husband. We
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: have been happily married for one year and living together
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: for three While living together has come with the expected
• 52:32
  Speaker 2: amounts of uncovering stupid shit we are going to argue about.
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: There's one silly thing we haven't come to a resolution
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: on the water diverter in the tub slash shower. He
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: thinks it's no big deal to leave it on the
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: shower setting, and I think it's a common courtesy to
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: put it back to the tub setting so no one
• 52:49
  Speaker 2: gets sprayed in the face with cold water at six am.
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: I'm sure you can guess which of us keeps getting
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: sprayed in the face at six am. But I'm not
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: here to discuss our disagreement nor our flaws, I said,
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: I'm here to discuss revenge. We recently installed a dog
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: shower attachment in our home's only bathroom. Ever since we
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: installed it, I can't help but think, how if I
• 53:10
  Speaker 2: just accidentally leave the diverter in the new dog shower position,
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: he will get sprayed directly in the face.
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: I do it absolutely no question. First of all, I
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: want to thank you for bringing a question like this
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: to the podcast because we need more levity, and I
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: like the stupidity of this and absolutely retaliate against your husband.
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: That's so funny. After we I just gave you a bath,
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: that we get a bath sub question.
• 53:32
  Speaker 5: That's actually it's not. But I just want to back
• 53:34
  Speaker 5: up the dog diverter in the in their shower. Yeah, yes,
• 53:38
  Speaker 5: I sure I heard that.
• 53:39
  Speaker 7: Correctly, and the only one in the guaranteed to be
• 53:44
  Speaker 7: So the dog takes the shower a couple or in
• 53:47
  Speaker 7: the same shower, that's a bigger question.
• 53:51
  Speaker 4: More Again, I'm going to guess that these people are white.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: If I have the guess, why do you say that?
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: Why are you being discriminatory? Well, fill a little.
• 54:00
  Speaker 4: I'm willing to bet the farm on this one.
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: Why would you say that white people would have Why?
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: Because black people what the dogs?
• 54:07
  Speaker 5: The dog is probably showering with the holes outside. There's
• 54:12
  Speaker 5: no such thing as a diverter in the black household,
• 54:16
  Speaker 5: especially not in the one bathroom in the house. Get
• 54:19
  Speaker 5: that goddamn dog outside and don't get that out there,
• 54:23
  Speaker 5: that dog in the bucket and figure it out.
• 54:26
  Speaker 4: That's what it is.
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: It is so true. You don't let your dog sleep
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: in the bed. No, Black people don't like that.
• 54:32
  Speaker 4: No.
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: All my black friends when they ever see me, they go,
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: you look like one of those girls who sleeps in
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: bed with your dogs. And my other friend Yahya always goes.
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: White girls don't wash their legs. We've talked about this.
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: White girls don't wash their legs. I go, why do
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: my legs need to be washed? They're fucking covered, Like
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: my legs are going out without me, and when I
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: take a shower, all the soap from my shower comes down. Tiffany,
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: I had this conversation with two.
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: So you feel like that's It's not like my legs are.
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: Out there gardening all day without me. Wash your legs. No,
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: I don't think so.
• 55:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah, what do you mean? You don't think what.
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: Is going on with your legs that they need washing?
• 55:12
  Speaker 5: It's your body. You wash your body, Chelsea, your entire body.
• 55:17
  Speaker 5: You don't pick and choose.
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: I have hot spots. I have hot spots that I wash.
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: I get one, two, three, four, and I get those going,
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: and then and then the fifth is the head, and
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: then everything is fine.
• 55:30
  Speaker 4: No, it's not Chelsea, I.
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: Want to cleaning in between your toes? Who got in there?
• 55:36
  Speaker 4: What do you mean?
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: Who got it in my leg?
• 55:39
  Speaker 4: You that it's dirt and me? You see how to
• 55:41
  Speaker 4: back your he is right.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: Now with clean clothes over it.
• 55:44
  Speaker 5: Okay, yes, but you're you're gonna conjure of sweat on
• 55:47
  Speaker 5: the back of you.
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: No, I don't. I'm not a molester. Why would I
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: be sweating on the backs of my knees.
• 55:51
  Speaker 4: Because you sit You're sitting with your legs crawls.
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, criss cross apple sauce.
• 55:55
  Speaker 4: Okay, this is a hot spot behind these.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: Is a hot No, no, no, not for maybe for you,
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: it's not for me, okay.
• 56:01
  Speaker 4: Because this is just what we're culturally different.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: Well yeah, I guess so.
• 56:04
  Speaker 5: Well, I'm just telling you it really is. And this
• 56:07
  Speaker 5: is the thing that we just had to nip in
• 56:08
  Speaker 5: the butt. Also, you probably don't even use like a washwrag.
• 56:11
  Speaker 4: You're like a hand.
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: I don't use a wash oh my god.
• 56:15
  Speaker 4: Oh because your hands have because your hands are why scrubble? Oh?
• 56:24
  Speaker 4: Because you have the the loofahs on your hands?
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: Why why don't you Why is sleeping with the dogs?
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: I mean I understand that that is that that is
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: actually dirty?
• 56:33
  Speaker 4: Yes?
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: Who cares?
• 56:34
  Speaker 4: What do you mean? Who cares? That's my bed, that's
• 56:37
  Speaker 4: my bed.
• 56:38
  Speaker 5: The dogs are outside all day running around in the backyard,
• 56:41
  Speaker 5: playing and stuff that you want them to come in,
• 56:43
  Speaker 5: jump in the bed, sleep in the bed.
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: You've never pissed the bed and slept in it?
• 56:48
  Speaker 5: No, you wake up after you do it. Now, definitely
• 56:50
  Speaker 5: I have wet the bed of young, young and old age.
• 56:53
  Speaker 5: I am definitely guilty of that. But immediately I get
• 56:57
  Speaker 5: up and this has to be changed. This has to
• 56:59
  Speaker 5: be this.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: I I once this is not a flattering story, and
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: that's why I'll share it. I once was very I
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: don't remember what drugs I was on, but I was
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: on something and we were in bed and I had
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: to pee so many times before I could go to sleep.
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: And we were in a hotel room in Vegas. This
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: is when I was in my twenties, and I was
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: so sick of getting up to pee that I just said,
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna pee right here, and I'm going to
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: move over onto the other side of the bed. And
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: I thought I could do that. And then when I
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: moved over to the other side of the bed, I
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: was like this is disgusting. I can't pee there too, yeah,
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: because it sprints. Yeah, and that was the last time
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: I peed in the bed.
• 57:38
  Speaker 5: By the way, this is a good moment just to
• 57:40
  Speaker 5: kind of point out to the listeners that this is
• 57:41
  Speaker 5: who you're asking your questions to, right, this is who
• 57:46
  Speaker 5: you are.
• 57:47
  Speaker 4: Asking for sound advice from the woman.
• 57:49
  Speaker 5: I felt that she could peel on one side of
• 57:51
  Speaker 5: the bed and roll over and that here wouldn't be
• 57:55
  Speaker 5: pee there and then no, forget the smell, none of
• 57:58
  Speaker 5: that stuff matters. Okay, I'm gonna change her name from
• 58:01
  Speaker 5: Chelsea to Hotspot Hotspot Chelsea because you already watch her.
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: What if I I I go into the shower like
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: it's an emergency. I don't want to be light lingering
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: in there, so I have to get all the zones
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: right away, just in case, because I've treated like a
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: fire drill.
• 58:24
  Speaker 4: No, why are you in a rush?
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: So if I dilly dally around with my legs in
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: my arms, you're adding.
• 58:30
  Speaker 4: A three minute You're adding a three minute times.
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like being in the shower for that long,
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: So that's probably it is.
• 58:37
  Speaker 5: Really this is so interesting to me because this debate
• 58:40
  Speaker 5: is ongoing it's the one thing. Like, you know, there's
• 58:44
  Speaker 5: so much that we discussed, but nobody wants to just
• 58:47
  Speaker 5: nip this in the bud, and I think it all
• 58:49
  Speaker 5: goes away.
• 58:50
  Speaker 4: We would feel more.
• 58:51
  Speaker 5: Comfortable as a culture if we were just here some
• 58:54
  Speaker 5: white people say, you know what, I understand the washcloth
• 58:57
  Speaker 5: and I get it. Okay, if that's this is about,
• 59:01
  Speaker 5: I'll meet you halfway and I'll use a washcloth.
• 59:03
  Speaker 4: That doesn't mean I'm going to wash my entire body,
• 59:06
  Speaker 4: but I will.
• 59:07
  Speaker 5: I'll start by at least admitting that the use of
• 59:10
  Speaker 5: the washcloth is important. And then and then we can
• 59:12
  Speaker 5: we can rest there and I think we can work
• 59:14
  Speaker 5: on the other stuff in steps. But the the the
• 59:18
  Speaker 5: double bang of no washcloth and only hotspots, that's a lot.
• 59:24
  Speaker 4: That's a lot to digest.
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: Kevin. I want to thank you for coming over today.
• 59:27
  Speaker 5: What the fuck man, Okay, that's why are you acting
• 59:31
  Speaker 5: like that?
• 59:32
  Speaker 4: Feels like I had.
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: Well, he's his dog sniffing you.
• 59:35
  Speaker 5: But it's the way he looks at me while he's
• 59:38
  Speaker 5: doing very like, what's his deal?
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: Confrontational? Yeah, you've had a problem with all of my dogs,
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: every dog I've had. You're never friendly to.
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  Speaker 4: Dog because they all think I'm fifty cent.
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  Speaker 1: No, they don't think you're fifty cent.
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  Speaker 4: They think him fifty.
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  Speaker 2: Before we wrap, Kevin, what do you say to Gina?
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  Speaker 2: I know, Chelsea, you say, SPRAYM in the face? Should
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  Speaker 2: Gina spray?
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  Speaker 5: I want Gina to fucking get a hobby, Okay, I
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  Speaker 5: want Jama. I want Gina to figure out what else
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  Speaker 5: to do during the day instead of talking to me
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  Speaker 5: about the goddamn shower settings. Just like, so what do
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  Speaker 5: I do? I mean, what do you guys think? Do
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  Speaker 5: I get them back? Or do I I feel like
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  Speaker 5: it's payback? Like what are you talking about? Like, God,
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  Speaker 5: damn it. Do you want to switch it yourself? If
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  Speaker 5: you know what's there? It is?
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it automatically happens. Usually it's supposed to automate. Anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway is right? Anyway. This is the end of
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  Speaker 1: this episode and the episode. The episode's title will be
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  Speaker 1: called Anyway, not to be confused with any ways.
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  Speaker 4: Good night, good one, good night man.
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  Speaker 1: See you next week.
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  Speaker 4: Love you, Chelsea, thank you, I love you, Kevin.
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  Speaker 1: My upcoming shows are Brooklyn on November eighth, Bethlehem, November ninth, Philadelphia,
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  Speaker 1: November tenth, and then I'm going to Texas November fifteenth, sixteenth,
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  Speaker 1: and seventeenth. I will be in Dallas, Austin, and Sugarland, Texas,
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  Speaker 1: and then I have another show in Vegas on November thirtieth.
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  Speaker 1: San Diego is November twenty ninth, and then Des Moines, Omaha,
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  Speaker 1: New Orleans, and Atlantic to close out the year. So
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