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- 0:00Welcome to Networking Unleashed, Building Profitable
- 0:03Connections, the show where meaningful relationships
- 0:06create real business growth. I'm your host, Michael
- 0:10Foreman. Let's be honest, entrepreneurship can
- 0:13be exciting, rewarding, and exhausting. A lot
- 0:17of business owners are chasing growth while quietly
- 0:20running on empty. They're building, solving problems,
- 0:24managing pressures, and trying to do everything
- 0:27themselves. But here's the truth. Sustainable
- 0:31success rarely happens in isolation. My guest
- 0:35today understands the importance of building
- 0:38a business without burning yourself out. We're
- 0:40talking about why networking and community matter
- 0:43more than ever, how the right relationships can
- 0:47reduce stress instead of add to it, and why people
- 0:50around you often determine how far and how healthy
- 0:54you grow. If you've ever felt like you're carrying
- 0:57the weight of your business alone, this episode
- 1:00is for you. So I'd like to introduce to the podcast,
- 1:04Kelly. She is an expert in this field, so I can't
- 1:07wait to ask her these questions and get her responses.
- 1:11But Kelly, welcome to the podcast. And why don't
- 1:14you give my listeners the cliff notes of how
- 1:17you got where you are today? Thank you for having
- 1:20me. Everything you just said is everything I
- 1:23talk about all the time. You're speaking my language.
- 1:27I love it. Thanks for having me on. I got where
- 1:31I am today with a lot of resilience, a lot of
- 1:35burnout. A lot of learning my lessons and a lot
- 1:39of people around me. I built a really good network.
- 1:43Every business I've ever owned in the last 24
- 1:45years has been built on networking and referrals.
- 1:49So I totally agree with you that we cannot build
- 1:53sustainable businesses without having that for
- 1:56sure. It's so true. And that is the crux of networking.
- 2:02right? Because networking is not only business,
- 2:05it's in their personal life as well. If you go
- 2:08to a department store, a grocery store, and you
- 2:11turn around to the people behind you, you're
- 2:14networking with them. So it's all on different
- 2:17levels. That's for sure. Many entrepreneurs believe
- 2:22success requires constant hustle. At what point
- 2:26does ambition quietly turn into burnout? It can
- 2:32hit you out of nowhere, but there's a lot of
- 2:37red flags that come up with burnout. You're not
- 2:41sleeping, right? You're not doing anything besides
- 2:46working. You don't have an outlet. When you start
- 2:50to feel exhausted every day, all day, and you're
- 2:55not giving yourself any breaks, no self -care,
- 2:57no days off, burnout will creep in for sure.
- 3:01Yeah, it really does. And if you realize that
- 3:05all of your friends are around business, right?
- 3:10Everybody who you talk to is business. And then
- 3:15you realize that you have no personal life. And
- 3:18that's one of the big red flags that I've always
- 3:21noticed. I've been in my own businesses for 40
- 3:25years. And I was fortunate enough, I had my brothers
- 3:29with me. You have to realize that you need that
- 3:33time off. You need that time to unwind and let
- 3:35go. And that is different with just about everybody.
- 3:40Yeah, I always tell clients, even if it's 24
- 3:44hours off, do not answer emails. Don't look at
- 3:49your phone. Hopefully, if you can have a separate
- 3:51phone from your business phone. If you can't,
- 3:54just don't answer. It's the weekend or whatever
- 3:57your days off are and be disciplined about keeping
- 4:01that. It's hard as business owners to go 24 hours
- 4:05without looking at your email or doing anything
- 4:07for business, but it will help you start to come
- 4:11down a little bit and enjoy life. If you give
- 4:15yourself that permission to have at least 24
- 4:17hours off a week. Yeah, it took me a long time
- 4:20to realize how important that truly is. In the
- 4:25beginning, in my 20s and my 30s, I thought I
- 4:28was Superman and I can handle everything. And
- 4:31then slowly but surely, a couple of failed businesses
- 4:35and then startups and everything else, you'd
- 4:38say, I put myself into this 100 % and you realize
- 4:42as I got older, That's always not the best thing.
- 4:46Yeah, exactly. And we do burnout faster the less
- 4:51time we take off and the less time you can actually
- 4:55remove yourself mentally and physically from
- 4:59the business, right? We were good in my 20s.
- 5:02I built a ridiculously large real estate practice.
- 5:05I was good about going on vacation. We would
- 5:08work 26 days straight. We'd go on a five -day
- 5:10vacation, come back, work another 25 days, go
- 5:13on a six -day vacation. But I was still working
- 5:16on vacation. So that was the issue, right? We
- 5:19would go away thinking, oh, that's the deal,
- 5:22right? You just have to go away. No, you actually
- 5:24have to unplug, remove yourself. Yeah, absolutely.
- 5:29It's funny you say real estate because most of
- 5:33my friends that are realtors, they say almost
- 5:36exactly the same thing. And it's for them, they
- 5:40don't know how to unplug. My clients need me.
- 5:45And that's the worst thing in the world to say.
- 5:47All right. So how does isolation affect entrepreneurs,
- 5:53even when their business appears successful from
- 5:56the outside? There's no outlet to talk about
- 6:00the struggles. You think you're the only one
- 6:04going on this rollercoaster ride of entrepreneurship
- 6:07if you don't have your community to lean on with
- 6:11people in the same boat as you, or even if they're
- 6:14in the same storm, but not the same boat. there
- 6:17the entrepreneurship is a roller coaster and
- 6:20you have to have people on the ride with you
- 6:23otherwise you feel that isolation so badly i
- 6:26talk to people all the time they're like it's
- 6:28so lonely i feel like i'm on an island and all
- 6:32this stuff i'm like Build your community the
- 6:34faster. And I tell people go every week, once
- 6:38a week, go to a networking event. Once a day,
- 6:40have a virtual coffee and be on camera and see
- 6:43people in and do the, do these things to, to
- 6:47set yourself up for. And once a month, go to
- 6:49a bigger conference or once a quarter. So you
- 6:53are around the same types of people that you,
- 6:57that either the same types of organizations or
- 7:00just entrepreneurs in general. who are high achieving
- 7:03like you, it's worth being around those people
- 7:06because you can talk about all the craziness.
- 7:10You have to be around like -minded people. And
- 7:13that's good that you say to go to a networking
- 7:15event once a week. I say twice a week, right?
- 7:19Because one is a main meeting. Another one could
- 7:23be a Zoom call or a meeting or something else.
- 7:26But we're human beings and the human beings.
- 7:30need that touch, need that to see face to face.
- 7:33During COVID, that was my line in the sand. When
- 7:36everybody went indoors and when they started
- 7:38coming out, it's like people forgot. They forgot
- 7:42that they need to be in touch with one another.
- 7:45And one of the things that I teach is go to one,
- 7:50go to two networking events per week, and once
- 7:54a quarter, go to a conference, right? If you
- 7:57can't afford a conference, find a big networking
- 8:00event, and it's very easy to find them. Just
- 8:03go online. You can go to Meetup or all these
- 8:06other places, and you can find them. There must
- 8:08be 1 ,000 of them. I go to three of them per
- 8:12week, and I also have my own. I created my own
- 8:16networking group just so I can see the interactivity,
- 8:19people coming and going and saying hi, and I
- 8:22made a lot of friends that way. You'd be surprised
- 8:24at how many friends you make. That's for sure.
- 8:27Yeah, because you realize that these are like
- 8:30minded people. These are business people trying
- 8:34to get ahead. And so when I say go to a networking
- 8:39event, you go with what's called a servant's
- 8:42heart. You go looking to give, not receive. And
- 8:46when you're looking to give, it takes all that
- 8:48pressure off your shoulders. And this isn't so
- 8:52bad. can do this and it becomes easier better
- 8:55and you get a lot more out of it that's for sure
- 8:58i get i love doing the connecting is my favorite
- 9:00thing so i love going to meet new people and
- 9:03then i'm like oh my client needs you oh my gosh
- 9:06you need to meet my client you guys would be
- 9:08great referral partners so it's my favorite thing
- 9:10that network i have it on my calendar that i
- 9:13make a connection once a week yeah once a week
- 9:16i bring two people together and i step away you
- 9:20let them handle it and everything else but i'm
- 9:22the one who brought them together and i make
- 9:24it i made a pact with myself this was two years
- 9:28ago that every single week i'm going to bring
- 9:30two people together that's really cool there's
- 9:33a new app called introsphere that you can track
- 9:38all the referrals you give oh really yeah write
- 9:42that down i n t r o sphere intro sphere like
- 9:47introduction and your sphere of influence the
- 9:50arizona entrepreneurs founder and another guy
- 9:55started that app and it's they just launched
- 9:58and they already have a couple hundred people
- 9:59on there but it's nice to be able to say hey
- 10:02i need you to meet this person instead of doing
- 10:05a whole email and a whole introduction you're
- 10:08like nope connect and then it shows how they
- 10:10do so that's kind of cool yeah it is pretty cool
- 10:13i'm gonna check that out okay What role does
- 10:17community play in helping someone build a business
- 10:24without carrying the entire weight alone? It's
- 10:29everything in my book. So you're speaking my
- 10:32language. I was, my book is called do what you
- 10:35love and outsource everything else, how to start
- 10:37growing scale without burning out. And I talk
- 10:40about that. And I think chapter eight and nine
- 10:43is building that community for, for referral
- 10:46partnerships, for vendors, for clients. It's
- 10:50not just, you're not just building a community
- 10:53to. talk about oh my gosh it's so bad entrepreneurship
- 10:57is so crazy you want to build those really good
- 11:02relationships so when you need a banker oh here
- 11:06you go here's a banker and they have an sb they
- 11:08have sba lending you need an attorney to help
- 11:12you with to trademark something Here you go.
- 11:15I have an attorney for you. You need somebody
- 11:17to continue to build your business without you
- 11:20having to do everything yourself. You need a
- 11:23trusted partner like us who does that for you,
- 11:27the implementation team, right? But if you didn't
- 11:29know me, you wouldn't know that there's fractional
- 11:32help out there that you just plug and play. Here's
- 11:34the team, right? So you can lean on everybody
- 11:37in your community for referrals, for vendors,
- 11:41and for clients. And you hit on so many points,
- 11:47so many good points that I don't know where to
- 11:49begin. But it is so important that you, I learned
- 11:54this in business a long time ago. I do the things
- 11:59that I love. I do those things. The things that
- 12:02I hate, I source out. I don't want to deal with
- 12:06that. So I just do the things that I love. And
- 12:08again, fortunately, I was in business with my
- 12:10brothers. So they took up a lot of that. But
- 12:13we all worked off of one another. And I'll tell
- 12:16you, on a bigger scale, Steve Jobs, when he first
- 12:20created Apple, it was, he knew his strong points.
- 12:26But his weak points, he hired the people to fill
- 12:30those weak points. So he had a well -rounded.
- 12:33board and not just a bunch of yes men exactly
- 12:36that's what i tell everybody i'm like hire people
- 12:39smarter than you you have to and have them do
- 12:43everything you're not good at that's why i coined
- 12:45the phrase do what you love and outsource everything
- 12:47else absolutely it's great that's a great thing
- 12:50how can networking become a source of support
- 12:54and energy instead of just another obligation
- 12:58Yeah, you have to be careful, right? Because
- 13:01when you know why you're going, I say set an
- 13:05intention before you go to a networking event.
- 13:08What's the point of going? And most of the time
- 13:11I say, look for referral partners because you
- 13:15can build your business faster with 10 referral
- 13:18partners instead of 10 clients, right? Because
- 13:22those 10 referral partners can give you that
- 13:25many more connections to more people. Again,
- 13:28We're not looking for direct clients. That will
- 13:32come naturally. But if you're building referral
- 13:34partnerships, you're going to be set the second
- 13:39you have 10 really good referral partners. Absolutely.
- 13:43And those referral partners, that's a never -ending
- 13:45client source, right? If you get a client, that's
- 13:49great. You got to hit that client. So unless
- 13:51that client refers you, but those referral sources
- 13:55will constantly refer you. So yes, that's how
- 13:58you increase your business. What signal, what
- 14:02signals tell you someone is building a sustainable
- 14:05business versus simply surviving day to day?
- 14:09They're really good at delegation. So I teach
- 14:13clients a CODA method. We call it how to keep
- 14:17the things you're good at. which is the k o stands
- 14:21for outsource outs this outsource the stuff that's
- 14:24really specialized and needs somebody really
- 14:26smart to to outsource to let's say a fractional
- 14:30cmo like us or a fractional cfo right outsource
- 14:34those delegate to your team the d is delegate
- 14:37to your team the stuff that you're like this
- 14:40is repetitive it's the same thing over and over
- 14:42again you record a video how to do these things
- 14:47these tasks you can delegate those tasks and
- 14:50then the a is automate there's so many cool things
- 14:53now with ai that you can automate oh my gosh
- 14:56so the people that instantly when i say oh we
- 14:59have a coda method and it's what to outsource
- 15:02what to delegate automate and they're like and
- 15:03they can spitball exactly what they've outsourced
- 15:07and delegated i'm like oh you're building a sustainable
- 15:09business you're set and then people that when
- 15:13i say that they have their eyes this big and
- 15:15they're like oh i'm doing all of that myself
- 15:18my whole list is everything myself i'm like you're
- 15:21going to be in trouble unless you hurry up and
- 15:24start outsourcing and delegating and automating
- 15:26stuff absolutely and of course it depends on
- 15:29how much money they have when they started So
- 15:33if you're starting behind the eight ball, that's
- 15:35much more difficult. There's a whole formula
- 15:39how many months you need before you go into business,
- 15:42but what you said is exactly right. Why do meaningful
- 15:48relationships often become more valuable as the
- 15:55business grows and not less? You can lean on
- 15:59people so much more. I never thought about having
- 16:03a banker until recently as a business owner.
- 16:08And I've been a business owner 24 years. Somebody
- 16:10in my network referred me to a banker and said,
- 16:14they will give you the most amount of relationships
- 16:16you'll ever need. And you can get lines of credit.
- 16:22You can have a small business loan. There's so
- 16:26many ways to increase your business just by that
- 16:29one relationship, just by that banker. But the
- 16:32people in your network, you can lean on for,
- 16:35hey, I have this idea. Oh, I need a patent. Do
- 16:39you know a patent attorney? But if you don't
- 16:41have that community to lean on, you will, yes,
- 16:45you can look on Google and figure out your reviews.
- 16:48But has anybody that you know worked with them?
- 16:51Like how, you don't even know what questions
- 16:53to ask them. for the relationship so if you have
- 16:56to continue building all those really good relationships
- 16:59it'll be it's everything it's a huge time saver
- 17:03because yes you can probably get the answer in
- 17:07let's say three or four days after you finish
- 17:09researching the person and his google reviews
- 17:12and see if anybody worked with him instead because
- 17:15when you get a referral it's like a done deal
- 17:18exactly immediately so it works out really well
- 17:22How can entrepreneurs build genuine connections
- 17:26when they feel overwhelmed, stretched too thin,
- 17:29or constantly busy? outsource, delegate and automate
- 17:38so you can go network. So you can be the face
- 17:42of the company. I tell people as business owners,
- 17:45especially small business owners, you need to
- 17:47be the face of the company. So you need to be
- 17:49out doing the networking, but you don't need
- 17:52to be posting on social media. You don't need
- 17:54to be doing bookkeeping. There's things that
- 17:56you can get rid of off your plate so that you
- 17:59have the time to build those meaningful relationships
- 18:02to go to the network. events to give back and
- 18:06make connections for other people. And then it
- 18:08comes back tenfold all the time. Yeah. When you
- 18:12are the face of the company and people realize
- 18:16that when they see you, they see your company,
- 18:18but there's a mantra in networking that really
- 18:22comes to life. If they know you, if they like
- 18:26you and trust you, then they'll do business with
- 18:29you and know you. When you go to enough networking
- 18:31events, everybody knows you. Right. But likes
- 18:34you, that narrows the field down just a little
- 18:37bit because everybody's not going to like you.
- 18:40But trust, that's a major factor because nobody's
- 18:44going to do business with you unless they trust
- 18:46you. So once you've established that bit of trust,
- 18:51then you can go further with your networking
- 18:54and everything else. And it actually becomes
- 18:56easier and more enjoyable and you'll enjoy doing
- 18:59it. And then you'll see to. give away the things
- 19:02that you don't want to do. Exactly. That's neither
- 19:05here nor there. And they say, what is it? Nine
- 19:08times that somebody has to see you, hear about
- 19:11you, talk to you to even build that trust. So
- 19:16you got to keep going. Yeah. Between eight and
- 19:1912 times. It takes between eight and 12 times
- 19:22of touches. It could be emails, could be seeing
- 19:25you, it could be something else. But before they
- 19:27even, because I have this whole thing with emails,
- 19:31a corporate email, when you first send an email,
- 19:34you have a 2 % chance of them responding to that
- 19:37email. And you say, oh my God, that's really
- 19:40low. But I also have a system, I call it my secret
- 19:45sauce of follow -up. Because I feel the follow
- 19:48-up is more important than actually meeting the
- 19:51person. And if you finish with the whole follow
- 19:54-up, I can get you to about 75 % of a chance
- 19:58of them returning your email, positive or negative.
- 20:02That doesn't matter because at least chance,
- 20:05but it's very important. But always remember,
- 20:07it's between eight and 12 touches before they'll
- 20:10even respond to you. Yep, exactly. So don't give
- 20:13up. No, no, persistence. unless they come out
- 20:17and physically tell you no. Then you say, okay,
- 20:21I'll stop. But otherwise, you're persistent,
- 20:24you're consistent, and the consistency pays off.
- 20:28The persistence pays off in the long run. This
- 20:32is not a short -term game, right? This is a long
- 20:36game. What's the difference between surrounding
- 20:39yourself with people who drain you and people
- 20:42who strengthen your growth? Wow, that's everything
- 20:46too. There are groups that you can go to and
- 20:50you can feel the energy immediately like, oh,
- 20:53no, not my people. And then you go in other rooms.
- 20:59I have a networking. It's not a networking group.
- 21:02It's more of a media company, but they put the
- 21:05most high achieving women in all of the US in
- 21:08one room together and 100 million. 50 million
- 21:13dollar companies that these women have built
- 21:15and scaled and sold it makes you want to do more
- 21:18you're like oh the ceiling is way up there i'm
- 21:22not done yet and so it it makes not forces you
- 21:27but it makes you want to continue achieving if
- 21:31you're in the room with people that have done
- 21:34stuff more than you have done. I would have never
- 21:37written the book had I not been in that group,
- 21:39right? I would have never been on stages and
- 21:42on TV and done any of this PR stuff had it not
- 21:46been for that group. So it makes you, if you're
- 21:50in the right room, it makes you want to achieve
- 21:53more and more. Yeah, it makes you want it. That's
- 21:56all. It really, it opens your eyes to say, you
- 21:59know something? I thought I could only do. this
- 22:02level. But this open your eyes and you can say,
- 22:05wow, I could do so much more. And you want to
- 22:09do so much more. But then you realize you can't
- 22:12do it alone. And the people who you surround
- 22:16yourself with. Now, remember, this goes back
- 22:20to having a circle of friends, right? Do you
- 22:23want to have a circle of friends that are always
- 22:25doubting you and saying you can't do this? Or
- 22:28would you rather have a circle of friends saying,
- 22:30yeah. That's great. Do it. You need help? I can
- 22:33help you or something. And all of that, it lifts
- 22:36you up and it makes you want to do more. It makes
- 22:38you want to do better. 100%. How do strong communities
- 22:44create opportunities that would never happen
- 22:47through strategy alone? I think we kind of hit
- 22:54on that before, right? Is having those connections
- 22:57and the referral partnerships and just thinking
- 23:01like that lady said to me, do you have a banker?
- 23:04And I was like, oh my gosh, no, I don't have
- 23:06a banker. I have a bank, but that's not the same
- 23:09thing as having a banker in your corner that
- 23:12gives you referrals or that gives you money.
- 23:16It's true. It's true. Okay. Let's bring this
- 23:19podcast full circle. If a listener wants to grow
- 23:22their business over the next 90 days without
- 23:25sacrificing their well -being, what one relationship
- 23:29building habit would you recommend that they
- 23:33start immediately? At least one networking event
- 23:38a week and one virtual coffee a day. Okay, wow,
- 23:44that's really good. And if they can do that,
- 23:46then they should well be on their way. hundred
- 23:49percent and because as long as you know what
- 23:51you're going to that networking event for or
- 23:54what you're having the virtual coffee for i'm
- 23:57always building my community building my network
- 24:00so that i can have When someone, a client asks
- 24:03me for anything, I'm like, got you. I already
- 24:06know somebody that I can give you. I know two
- 24:08people. So you have that. So I'm always going
- 24:11to the networking group to build my network so
- 24:14nobody can ask me for something. And I'm like,
- 24:17I don't know anybody. No, you're absolutely right.
- 24:21A hundred percent right. I could probably talk
- 24:24to you for another hour because we talk so much
- 24:27on the same level. Yes. We really coincide. Kelly,
- 24:31if somebody wanted to hire you or be mentored
- 24:35by you or just call you to say hi, how can they
- 24:38get hold of you? Our website, DuplicateMyselfKLM
- 24:43.com, and that has all of our contact information.
- 24:48That's great. Okay. So this conversation is a
- 24:51reminder that entrepreneurship was never meant
- 24:54to be a solo journey. The right community can
- 24:58give you perspective, support, encouragement,
- 25:00accountability, and opportunities you would never
- 25:04create on your own. Strong relationships don't
- 25:07just grow business, they help sustain the people
- 25:10building them. Take one step this week. All right,
- 25:14let me start that again. Take one step this week.
- 25:17Reconnect with someone who brings positive energy,
- 25:21insight, or encouragement into your life. One
- 25:24meaningful conversation can shift your mindset
- 25:27more than another hour of overworking yourself.
- 25:32If you found value in today's episode, make sure
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- 25:52to strengthen your communication and building
- 25:55relationships, that lead to opportunity and sustainable
- 25:58growth, visit michelaforman .com to learn how
- 26:02I work with professionals, teams, and organizations.
- 26:05So until next time, build your business, protect
- 26:08your energy, and surround yourself with relationships
- 26:11that help you grow. Wow, that was a mouthful
- 26:15and I could barely get through it. But Kelly,
- 26:18I can't thank you enough for coming on the podcast.
- 26:21You were wonderful. Thank you so much for having
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