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Season 3 - Episode 141 - What is the difference in Power & Force · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody, Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Talking today about power versus force, there is a big
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  difference. Your power is something that's
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  yours. It is made-up of your mindset.
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  It's made-up of your demeanor. It's made-up of your character.
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  Your power comes in through the elements of you that you
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  cultivate to be yourself. Your integrity, your honor, how
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  you show up, those are all things that fall under your
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  power. Nobody can make you think
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  something that you don't choose to think.
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  Now, force that comes into like, you know when you're angry, when
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  you're going to try to handle something through harsh words.
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  Manipulation, gaslighting, right.
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  Those things tend to fall under the the use of force.
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  How do I go about this? And listen, sometimes you do
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  need to be angry. There have been times in my life
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  when showing up in a situation, it was necessary to show up
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  angry. My son got picked on in school
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  and the school did not want to deal with it for one reason or
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  another. Because it was, you know, people
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  in charge were children were involved.
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  And I had to go in there and I had to use that force as as a
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  weapon in that moment because otherwise I wasn't going to get
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  the attention that needed to be done.
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  But the moment I got the attention, I switched over to
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  the power, which was the wizardry of working with what I
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  had as skill sets. And there's a delicate balance
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  between knowing when to use them and knowing when other people
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  are using them for the wrong reasons, which is why I included
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  in that list. The force comes in under
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  manipulation, narcissism, gaslighting.
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  All those things come in under that feeling of I'm being forced
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  to do something. It is a force that I don't like.
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  I I'm being shoved in that way. And so I'm bringing this up
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  because I think that a lot of people struggle with, do I jump
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  in and defend myself? Well, right now, the way you
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  you're interpreting what's going on in your situation.
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  If you're in this type of a situation, it all comes down to
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  your interpretation and if you are letting people in your head
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  again. Because nobody can make you
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  think or feel or do things that you choose not to do.
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  And you have to ask yourself, am I staying in a state where I'm
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  present and I am in control of myself, or am I letting someone
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  else control me, therefore I am no longer in my power.
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  It's a really vital question to ask because it's imperative to
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  stay in your power, always be checking back in with that,
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  always be looking to working and staying in your power.
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  Nothing is more important than that.
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  Nothing, because it leads to everything great in your life.
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  It leads to every bit of of your your own character development.
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  When you are in your state of power, you're centered.
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  You're certain you have the ability to flow.
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  Sure, you do need to go to others sometimes.
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  Sometimes force is necessary, but it's not often.
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  And you can typically get more places than anything with your
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  power, so it's a tricky thing to pay attention to.
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  But you have to ask yourself, am I using my power or am I using
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  my force to get what I want? And if you are someone who's
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  listening to this, and you are someone who does use emotional
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  manipulation and certain things with people, you have to ask
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  yourself, really, why am I doing this?
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  I don't need to do this. I can get what I want a better
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  way and then feel better about it.
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  If you're someone that's having that happen to you, you have to
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  ask yourself, well, what's the reason I'm giving up my power to
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  something that I know I don't like?
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  And don't make yourself wrong for it, but just really debrief
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  yourself as to what's the reason it's happening.
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  Because ultimately, again, nobody can make you think, feel,
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  do, ACT, be anything that you don't agree to in some way,
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  shape or form. You have to be the person that's
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  in charge of you and it's always necessary to look at it and can
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  and keep asking yourself, am I on task to be the person that I
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  want to be every single day? This is not a like a annual
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  check in where you do it once in 365 days.
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  You have to do it every damn day to stay on task.
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  So really take a look at this power and force in your life,
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  what's showing up for you around you and you.
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  All of it, because it's necessary to understand it in
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  order to work with it. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.