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5 Signs Your Nervous System Is Healing (Even If It Doesn't Feel Like It) · Mindful Success Path

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  Healing the wounded feminine doesn't always seem peaceful.
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  In fact, sometimes it looks like things are getting a lot worse before they get better, and you might be feeling things like exhaustion or anxiety, or maybe you lose interest in the things that used to interest you.
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  All this stuff is normal, And in this video, I'm gonna be sharing with you some of the signs that your nervous system is healing, meaning you're healing the wounded feminine, even if it doesn't feel like it and even if it doesn't look like it, so that you start to realize,"Hey, I'm not crazy.
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  I'm actually on the right track." Hi, my name is Amanda.
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  Welcome to this channel where we talk about how to manifest what you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people are accustomed to.
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  Lately, we've been talking a lot about relationship dynamics, nervous system regulation, feminine energy, masculine energy.
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  And I have a free quiz that I recommend everyone take when they are new to my work.
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  I teach four archetypes of feminine energy.
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  I teach the wounded maiden, the awakening warrior, I teach the conscious queen, and the magnetic empress.
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  So you'll hear me making references to this a lot.
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  I created these four archetypes based on my 15 years of experience coaching women in different areas of their lives.
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  And in addition to that, it's based on my own transformation where I went from a super successful but hyper independent woman with a bunch of thyroid problems, adrenal problems, relationship problems.
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  I was running myself into the ground to make money because I was in full on survival mode, to in four months manifesting my provider, protector husband after deciding I was ready to get married within, like, a year, manifesting a move abroad, which is a lifelong dream that I've had, and now creating businesses that are far more sustainable and bringing a lot more passive income like this one.
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  So that whole process is documented throughout these four archetypes, and I've created a free quiz to help you get clear on which archetype is dominating your life and how it's showing up in different patterns of your life.
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  We've had over 200 women take this so far, and they are loving it because it's helping them gain a lot of clarity in terms of what stage they are in, in terms of healing their feminine energy or consciousness or manifestation.
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  So with that being said, let's get right into it.
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  So again, if you took the quiz, um, this is pertinent to all of you, all the archetypes, but this really starts to show up more for either the awakening warriors starting to come out of awakening warrior, and it definitely shows up a lot for the conscious queen.
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  So out of the 200 women who've taken this quiz, the conscious queen and the awakening warrior are the most common, which is really...
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  I mean, it makes sense for the society that we are living in today.
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  The awakening warrior is in survival mode, and the conscious queen is starting to get out of survival mode.
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  So the conscious queen especially, um, may start noticing some of the things that I'm talking about in this video.
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  And again, if you have no idea which archetype you are, please take the quiz,'cause it's gonna help this make a lot more sense.
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  So here are some of the signs That your nervous system is healing, that you're moving up in consciousness, that you're healing your feminine energy, but it may not feel like it, and it may not look like it.
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  So number one is that you feel more emotional.
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  So what's going on here is that if you were awakening warrior and now you're moving into conscious queen, you basically go through, like, a thawing out process.
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  Because whereas the wounded maiden lets her emotions, like, take over her life, the awakening warrior learns to control her emotions, which is fine.
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  It's great.
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  We need that because she starts taking more responsibility for her own life, whereas the wounded maiden doesn't take responsibility for her life at all.
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  Um, the awakening warrior does, but oftentimes what happens with the awakening warriors is that we- they get to a point, and this is where a lot of women are at right now, where they feel nothing.
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  They don't feel their own bodies.
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  They don't feel their emotions.
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  Um, it's almost like they have had to build walls precisely so that they don't feel, so that they can survive in the world.
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  This is a very common process.
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  I will oftentimes have women come to my coaching practice or buy our courses or join us in the temple, which is our membership and group coaching, and Some, some of the women, these are more the awakening warriors, um, it's like all the energy is in their head, but they're dead from the neck down.
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  And when I ask them,"Hey, what are you feeling right now?" They cannot tell me.
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  That's why in certain courses, like Shadow Work for the Modern Woman, I have documents in there with common emotions that you might be feeling because some women are so disconnected from their bodies and their emotions that they cannot tell me, and that's one of the areas where they're feeling very stuck.
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  So when we start moving from awakening warrior and we get into conscious queen, the conscious queens start to feel their emotions again, and sometimes they're not pleasant emotions.
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  Especially if we've been stuffing our emotions down for a very long time, it's actually very unpleasant, especially in the beginning.
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  I remember...
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  There's Rocky in the mirror.
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  Rocky the rescue dog.
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  He says hi.
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  Um, he was going up the stairs there to the, to the home office where Justin is right now.
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  But as I was saying, um, when the conscious queen, when the feminine starts to come back online, you start to feel your emotions again, and it's not always very pleasant.
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  I know that when I began this process for myself a few years ago, oh my gosh, I think I cried for like three months straight, um, because there was just so much stuff that I had stuffed down.
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  There was, there was a lot of anger that I had stuffed down.
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  There was a lot of sadness that I had stuffed down, and it all just started to come out.
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  So I actually started to feel a lot worse before I felt better.
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  The other way in which this showed up, uh, Justin, my husband, actually brought this up with me because when we first got to Mexico about three years ago, we actually, um, signed up to be certified holistic healers.
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  We're both actually trained in that.
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  And we, so we did, like, this eight-week certification, then we did, like, an eight-month meditation class in Guadalajara, Mexico, and then we got trained in order to be able to teach that that meditation class.
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  I- they're seeing you in the mirror.
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  Did you notice?
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  Just making sure your, your mic is good.
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  Thank you for making sure my mic is good.
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  Thank you.
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  Um, you know I'm liable to screw up the mic thing, so thank you.
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  Um, so as I was saying, um, we went through this whole process, right?
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  So we've basically been training for three years, uh, behind the scenes in order to be able to bring some of these things to you, because we actually got told by our teacher three years ago that a lot of the things that he was teaching us, we were gonna start translating for an English-speaking audience, and here we are.
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  We're doing it.
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  So as I was saying, we went through this whole, like, three, um, year process, and one of the things that started happening with me is I actually started becoming a lot more sensitive, and I started becoming a lot more emotional, and I didn't really understand what was going on.
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  And Justin, my husband, basically said,"I think you were always sensitive and you always had emotions, but you were used to not feeling them, and now you can feel them." And I was like,"Oh." So that might happen when you're going into Conscious Queen, and it's not It's not always pleasant, okay?
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  It's not.
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  Now, you get to feel the good emotions too, right?
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  But it, it may not be so good in the beginning, or you might start feeling like you're very sensitive all of the sudden to energies and things around you, or other people's emotions.
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  That's just kind of normal.
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  The second sign that you're healing your nervous system, and therefore your feminine energy, is that you have less tolerance for chaos.
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  Um, so people with dysregulated nervous systems, they tend to like chaos, and that chaos shows up in a lot of different ways.
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  So for example, for the wounded maiden, chaos shows up, like, just everywhere in her life because she's the victim of everything.
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  And then when it comes to the awakening warrior, the chaos looks a bit more productive.
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  So let me give you an example of awakening warrior chaos, because I see this a lot when it comes to women who are in business or women with very successful careers who are awakening warriors.
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  Here's how the chaos shows up.
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  The chaos shows up...
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  Um, let's use a business example.
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  The chaos shows up in instead of sticking to one project or one system or seeing something all the way through, you create situations where you're always creating new things to make money because the new thing gives you a dopamine hit, and then your addiction to chaos comes online.
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  Or sometimes successful women will choose chaotic men in order to bring chaos into their lives because the awakening warrior, although she's taking responsibility for her life and although on the outside it may look like she has it together, especially in her career, uh, the reality is that she's still in survival mode and she's addicted to chaos and she's addicted to dopamine hits because she's, she's still on the hamster wheel of survival.
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  So when you start moving into conscious queen, you don't tolerate those things anymore.
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  So for example, with me, in my life, um, I no longer tolerated income streams that would require me to be on 24/7 like I was before, hence this YouTube channel started, um, and all the courses and things that we teach.
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  I also decided that in my relationships I was no longer available for passivity.
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  I was avail- now available for men who were consistent and reliable, and poof, there showed up my husband.
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  So it's in things like that.
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  And when I talk to a lot of the conscious queens, this is something that comes up for you a lot.
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  You just say,"I just don't have tolerance.
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  I don't have tolerance for small talk.
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  I don't have tolerance for people's drama.
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  I just want my peace." That is something that comes up a lot.
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  So you might find yourself being very irritable by other people who are still...
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  Love you.
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  Thank you.
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  Right?
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  You might find yourself being very irritable by other people who are still living in that state of chaos and drama because your system just can't tolerate it anymore, and you might be liable to think that maybe you're being a bitch, or you might be liable to think that maybe you're being unreasonable.
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  You're not.
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  Your nervous system is healing The next sign, and I definitely lived through this one, is that you start feeling tired and less driven.
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  In fact, my awakening warriors are...
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  A lot of you guys are running on adrenaline, the awakening warriors, again, because you're in survival mode and you're addicted to chaos.
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  Um, your chaos is usually a form of productivity, um, or a way of making money, so on and so forth.
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  Now, when we get to the conscious queens and you start c- getting out of that, you're gonna feel exhausted.
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  You're going to feel very tired, especially if you were running in the awakening warrior for many years.
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  I was in awakening warrior mode for at least 15 years.
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  So when I finally stopped When I finally stopped, and by the way, I stopped before I had a husband because I saw somebody saying the other day online, you know, w- women who are married need to stop telling single women to slow down.
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  I slowed down before I met my husband, and that is how I met my husband, was because I actually slowed down.
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  Um, so you usually have to do this beforehand, and what ends up happening there is that your-- you start to feel the exhaustion.
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  You might have to go through, like, a recovery period.
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  I absolutely did.
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  I went through a recovery period where I wanted nothing to do with business, nothing to do with money.
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  I didn't want my old career.
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  Um, nothing.
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  I, I mean, I went through a period where I wanted nothing to do with my old life.
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  Now, obviously, as you move on to Magnetic Empress, then you're able to integrate the good parts of, like, your old life into the new life.
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  Uh, but I-- you might go through a period where you just wanna reject all of that, and you might go through a period where you just feel very exhausted and less driven, and perhaps, you know, less interested in the things people tell you you should be interested in.
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  Like, I wasn't interested in money goals.
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  I wasn't interested in business goals.
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  I wasn't interested in the latest fad.
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  The only thing I was interested in was intending to myself and taking care of myself and resting, like truly resting for the first time in a long, long time.
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  And when you get to Conscious Queen and Magnetic Empress, you will realize that you might need a bit more rest than you did before, and it's not necessarily that you need more rest than you did when you were an Awakening Warrior.
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  It's just that the Awakening Warriors only tend to allow themselves to rest after they've achieved something, whereas when you're a Conscious Queen or Magnetic Empress, you now allow yourself to rest just because.
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  Just because.
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  You don't have to earn the rest, whereas the Awakening Warriors and the Wounded Maidens, they feel like they have to earn the rest.
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  So when you get into Conscious Queen and Magnetic Empress, well, now you don't feel like you have to earn it anymore.
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  But there may be a time period in the beginning where you feel very exhausted or you're recovering from burnout, and you may lose interest in a lot of things in your life.
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  This is also completely normal.
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  I think Justin and I have talked about this.
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  Like, I took a hiatus from working for, like, three years.
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  I wanted nothing to do with any of it.
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  I was taking my classes.
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  Um, he was building Entrepreneur Expat and, you know, I would help a little bit here and there, but I was really just tending to myself during that three-year process, and then after I had recovered...
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  I mean, my burnout was bad, okay?
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  Plus, I was moving to another country, plus I was getting married, plus I was going through a lot of change all at the same time, so all I wanted to do was nurture myself, um, as I went into this new stage of my life.
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  But one of the things, um, that definitely happened for me is I spent a three-year period before I came back around to career or business or creativity, or creativity in a way that makes money, I should say.
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  Because I was getting more tuned into creativity, it was just things like painting.
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  for example.
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  It wasn't necessarily like,"Oh, this creative idea makes money," which a lot of entrepreneurs, uh, they tend to operate in that way.
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  So it would be a while before I even created something like this YouTube channel, because I had to go through a period of, of rest.
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  I mean, I had to recover from 15 years of just being on all the time.
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  So that might be very common.
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  Sign number four is that old patterns come back, but you handle them differently.
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  Your responses are different So for example, maybe you feel anxious again, maybe you people please, uh, maybe you start to seek validation.
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  It's normal for these patterns to come back.
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  The difference this time around is that you'll notice the pattern and not immediately react to the pattern or react to the outer stimulus around you.
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  Now you're able to kind of more observe what's going on rather than reacting from it.
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  But you might be liable to think that you're going backwards or that you're not actually healing, or you're not actually moving up in the stages of consciousness because you might be thinking to yourself,"Oh man, this thing, it just came back around.
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  Like really?
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  I have to deal with this thing again?" It's normal for the lessons to come back around, and sometimes they're gonna come back around hard.
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  Okay?
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  Like, sometimes there's gonna be a universal two by four in order to just kinda There's gonna be life's tests, right, in order for you to just finally shake this thing off and start responding in a different way.
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  Because sometimes the universe is like,"Oh, you wanna change this?
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  Well, do you really wanna change this?" And then those lessons will come back around or life's tests will come, um, back around.
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  But you may notice some differences as well.
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  You may notice, um, your, your discomfort sooner.
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  You may notice your anxiety sooner.
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  Um, you may stay in it for less time, so you may rebound a lot faster.
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  Um, you may recover a lot faster, like I said.
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  You may speak to yourself more gently.
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  So I'll give you an example.
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  This is like a really silly example from yesterday.
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  I was feeling a little bit overwhelmed yesterday.
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  I'd spent like all morning, um, in the kitchen and then I had some projects to do.
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  Um, and I was feeling kind of like frustrated in my body and like a little bit irritable.
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  That's like the best way I could describe it.
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  So when I was done in the kitchen, I went upstairs and I just like laid down in bed for a little bit and I was like,"Okay, what is going on in my body?
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  What I'm, what am I feeling?" And then it would come out and it would be like, you feel irritated and you're, and frustrated.
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  And like not really even irritated and frustrated, like what's behind the irritated and frustrated?
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  I was like, oh, my body feels a little bit sore.
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  And then I was like,"Well, why does my body feel a little bit sore?" And it's like, well girl, you're on day nine of daily yoga and you haven't...
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  Well, number one, you were just recovering from a foot injury, so you weren't working out at all for a while there while you were recovering, and number two, you haven't been this active like quite like this in a very long time, so of course your body is sore, and of course you feel kinda tired, and of course that's going to irritate you a little bit.
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  And then it was like magic, like the irritability just lifted.
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  When you're in conscious queen, right, you might...
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  And definitely in magnetic empress, you might be able to do more of a process like this where you're able to regulate yourself a lot faster.
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  And sign five, which may not feel very nice, um, but it's definitely a sign that you are healing your nervous system and therefore your feminine energy, is that you feel like you are between identities.
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  So this is specifically for the conscious queens.
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  The conscious queen is in a transitory stage.
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  She's in a stage where she no longer sees herself as being in survival mode.
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  She's coming out of survival mode.
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  But her nervous system might not yet be at a place where she feels comfortable in her new life.
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  Like an example I gave on a live stream recently was like I had a really pretty dress on, but I need to get it altered.
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  So like the dress looks nice and it's really pretty, but it fits kinda weird'cause I have to get...
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  I don't quite fit in it, right?
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  So I have to get it altered in order to fit in it, it can feel kind of like that.
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  You know, like if you've got an outfit, but like, and you know, like you need to go buy something for a special occasion, and it's not necessarily in your size, so maybe you have to get a size bigger, and then you have to get it altered.
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  You know what I'm talking about, okay?
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  You know.
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  And I'm thinking about this because I have to buy a dress because our niece is getting married this year.
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  So I'm probably gonna be going through that, um, later this year.
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  So one of the things to keep in mind here is that you are in between identities, right?
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  You just now started moving out of survival mode.
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  You just now started, getting to a place where you're starting to retrain yourself to believe that, for example, love could be easy and you deserve good love, that money could be easy and you don't have to struggle for it, that, you know, your health could be easier, that life in general could just be easier.
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  You're now starting to move into the identity, and I'm just gonna say it, you're now starting to move into the identity of consciousness where you're starting to identify more with God.
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  So what I mean by that is you're going to start realizing that you are not separate from God.
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  I'm a student and a teacher of A Course in Miracles.
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  My lesson this morning, the day of recording this, was, um, something along the lines of, you know, let me figure out what the real problem is so I can solve it.
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  Lesson 70-something.
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  And basically, the idea of the lesson for today was, well, the only real problem that exists in the world is that people think that they're separate from God.
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  That's it.
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  That's the only real problem in the world.
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  That's why we're constantly in all these problems.
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  That's why the problems look complicated, because everybody thinks that they're separate from God.
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  So when you start moving up, uh, in Conscious Queen, you're just now starting to hook into that, right?
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  So you're now just starting to identify with something bigger than you, not as this thing outside of you, but as this thing that you are not separate from.
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  You may be, um, for example, realizing that prosperity and you are not separate, love and you are not separate.
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  But it's not quite locked and loaded in your nervous system yet because we're just now getting to that.
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  When you're a Magnetic Empress, it's more locked and loaded in your nervous system.
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  But when you're a Conscious Queen, meaning and, and you're in that middle, it feels a bit more wobbly.
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  So you can feel like you're in between identities, and it can feel very disorienting.
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  It definitely did for me because your old life no longer fits.
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  You don't even know what part of your old life fits into your new life, and that takes a little bit of time for you to figure out.
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  Um, and your new life has not fully arrived yet.
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  It's an unfolding process.
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  You don't have all the answers yet.
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  Um, you start to become okay with not having all the answers yet, but you don't have all the answers yet.
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  So it can feel a bit, uh, disorienting as your new life unfolds and as you get more used to being in this new identity.
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  And again, completely normal to feel, way.
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  So those are the five signs that your nervous system and therefore your feminine energy is healing and coming back online, even if it doesn't feel like it, even if it doesn't feel like it, and even if it doesn't look like it.
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  So even if it's uncomfortable, even if you feel more sensitive, even if you feel more tired, even if you feel like you're being mean to other people because you can't tolerate them anymore, even if you feel like perhaps a pizzazz that you had for life you don't really have anymore, all of this is completely normal, and it means that you are on the right track.
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  If you would like to know what stage you are in in all of this, then please make sure to take our Divine Feminine Archetypes quiz.
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  It's completely free.
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  It's three minutes.
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  It will let you know which of the four archetypes you are in and how it's showing up in your life and how that ties to one of these stages of consciousness.
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  Thank you so much for giving me your time today.
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  Make sure to share this with a girlfriend who needs to hear it, and I will catch you on the next one.