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Journey from Dreaming Big to Doing Big · Start Your Comeback: Rebuilding after Divorce, Empty Nest, and Loss of Spouse

• 0:01
  Speaker 1: Is there a major life transition benching you?
• 0:03
  Speaker 1: I know you may be asking what's next?
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: What's my purpose?
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: What if?
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: Because I've asked those too.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Start your Comeback podcast.
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: I'm Toni Thrash, a certified life coach, and I want to share the tools and practical steps to help you create a winning game plan to move into your new adventure.
• 0:26
  Speaker 1: Hi, welcome back.
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: You're listening to episode 65.
• 1:06
  Speaker 1: Last week we discussed redefining resolutions, how we needed to make a perspective change in how we view those.
• 1:14
  Speaker 1: The bigger and more overwhelming they are sometimes, the less they get accomplished.
• 1:21
  Speaker 1: We broke it down a bit and now I want to talk to you about the three D's.
• 1:25
  Speaker 1: The first D is called the dream.
• 1:30
  Speaker 1: Several years ago, nine to be exact I had a dream to be a life coach and help others reach their goals and dreams.
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: I was doing it anyway because I was coaching basketball and tennis, and somehow coaching sports goes hand in hand with live coaching.
• 1:45
  Speaker 1: In fact, I use a ton of sports analogies because it applies to both life and sports.
• 1:52
  Speaker 1: At the time, I had zero dollars for the certification and knew it would have to wait.
• 1:58
  Speaker 1: One day I received a package in my apartment complex office.
• 2:02
  Speaker 1: I received a money order covering the entire cost.
• 2:06
  Speaker 1: I had no idea who gifted this to me, but this was a huge sign for me.
• 2:12
  Speaker 1: This was on the heels of another big miracle that God had already done for me, but I'll save that story for another episode.
• 2:20
  Speaker 1: I signed up for the certification and went through the whole process of becoming certified.
• 2:26
  Speaker 1: It was a dream come true for me, so let's talk about that.
• 2:31
  Speaker 1: Sometimes we have to dream, because this is our starting place.
• 2:35
  Speaker 1: Without a dream, we are stuck in the day-to-day with no hope of getting out of the rut we are in.
• 2:41
  Speaker 1: Dreaming is an awesome thing.
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: Personally, most of the time I keep my dreams to myself and only share them with those closest to me, but I found that if I look at the resolutions big picture, I become overwhelmed that the accomplishment won't happen.
• 2:58
  Speaker 1: For some reason.
• 2:59
  Speaker 1: I don't even see where I need to start.
• 3:02
  Speaker 1: I begin to think there's absolutely zero way that, from where I am currently standing, I can get there, to the finished or accomplishment of the resolution.
• 3:13
  Speaker 1: This type of thinking for me anyway, ultimately leads to complete surrender to Netflix, comfort, food and safe places.
• 3:23
  Speaker 1: Let's be real Procrastination at its finest.
• 3:27
  Speaker 1: I become fasciated seeing the big picture and then fear overtakes the everyday choices that chisel the path towards the dream.
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: And when there's no chisel, there's no path.
• 3:40
  Speaker 1: And then, all of a sudden, year-long goals take a complete shift from appearing delightful to utterly daunting.
• 3:47
  Speaker 1: What are long-year goals anyway?
• 3:49
  Speaker 1: Modern Americans consider their year-long goals to be resolutions.
• 3:55
  Speaker 1: While the dreams of resolutions are easy, the disciplines resolutions bring are the difficult part.
• 4:04
  Speaker 1: Dreaming is one of the things that brings hope and an eagerness to look forward to and ahead.
• 4:09
  Speaker 1: You see, we all have dreams.
• 4:11
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just stuck in our head.
• 4:14
  Speaker 1: It's there because we're afraid to say it out loud, because of what others might say or think about us.
• 4:20
  Speaker 1: You see, without some sort of goals attached to the dream, it just stays that a dream without any hope.
• 4:28
  Speaker 1: So I guess the question I have for you is this is your dream attainable?
• 4:33
  Speaker 1: Is that resolution attainable?
• 4:36
  Speaker 1: Are you willing to share it with someone?
• 4:39
  Speaker 1: Are you willing to put some action steps and build a game plan to help you succeed to make that dream, that resolution, a reality?
• 4:47
  Speaker 1: Because once you've shared your dream with someone, then it's more than just a thought.
• 4:54
  Speaker 1: You now have someone who will ask you about what you're going to do about your dream or what you're going to do about that resolution.
• 5:02
  Speaker 1: One of the things that you might want to consider doing is hiring a coach so you can put manageable steps into making that dream, a resolution, a reality.
• 5:12
  Speaker 1: You can put manageable steps into making that dream, a resolution, a reality, Because building a game plan, or establishing a game plan, is essential to making your dream or resolution a reality.
• 5:22
  Speaker 1: It is unanimously agreeable that resolutions are all around overwhelming.
• 5:27
  Speaker 1: Why?
• 5:28
  Speaker 1: Because they're a result of a wild imagination.
• 5:31
  Speaker 1: However, a wild imagination doesn't necessarily equal accomplishment.
• 5:37
  Speaker 1: It's a rather basic beginning.
• 5:40
  Speaker 1: We automatically deem resolutions or our dreams as unattainable because we constantly refer to the end goal, not those small steps in between the beginning and the end.
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: So here's an action step for you today.
• 5:55
  Speaker 1: This is the one area that you need to think about and process.
• 5:59
  Speaker 1: Be bold, Share the dream with someone and the next week, tune in as I talk about the second D, which is the decision.
• 6:11
  Speaker 1: We are so close to Christmas.
• 6:12
  Speaker 1: I've gotten all my presents wrapped and delivered to my kid's house for the celebration which, you need to know, never happens.
• 6:19
  Speaker 1: I don't know what about this year, but they're all done and delivered.
• 6:24
  Speaker 1: It is my grandson's first Christmas and, while he's still too young to understand it's going to be such a blast to watch him and celebrate with him.
• 6:32
  Speaker 1: You have exactly three days left to finish up your shopping.
• 6:37
  Speaker 1: Enjoy your time with your family and please know that if you're in the middle of a transition, I'm asking you to take another bold step and plant yourself with good friends on Christmas Day.
• 6:47
  Speaker 1: I'm celebrating with friends on Christmas Eve and then see my kids Christmas Day.
• 6:53
  Speaker 1: Merry Christmas.
• 6:54
  Speaker 1: I pray you will see joy and some laughter this weekend.
• 6:57
  Speaker 1: I'll see you next time.
• 6:59
  Speaker 1: Hey, thanks for listening.
• 7:00
  Speaker 1: I don't take it for granted that you're here.
• 7:02
  Speaker 1: You didn't listen by mistake.
• 7:05
  Speaker 1: If you want to reach out, you can DM me on Instagram at Tony Thrash Until next week.
• 7:11
  Speaker 1: Remember there's still time left on the clock.
• 7:14
  Speaker 1: Let's get you off the bench to start your comeback.
• 7:17
  Speaker 1: I want to give a special shout out to Country Club for the original music.
• 7:22
  Speaker 1: You can find them on Instagram at Country Club.
• 7:26
  Speaker 1: Thank you.