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Selfish Happy Events · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, is
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  Speaker 1: it selfish to post happy events in your life when
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  Speaker 1: there's so much tragedy in front of us right now? Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's ask ah American mama's.
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  Speaker 2: Alma mama, she said.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now our American mama is turning Outville
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  Speaker 1: and Kimberly Burlison. You know, I was enjoying the fourth
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  Speaker 1: of July, spent it with a family. We had a
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  Speaker 1: you know, a thing at the theater. We're doing all that,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of fun stuff, and I posted none of
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  Speaker 1: it because of the flooding that was going on in Texas.
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  Speaker 1: And I look, I understand this, this uh this question.
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  Speaker 1: The question, though, is if it's selfish to post something
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  Speaker 1: good going on in your life because there's something bad
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  Speaker 1: going on in someone else's life, will you ever be
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  Speaker 1: able to post anything?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's exactly that's exactly true. We struggled too with posting.
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  Speaker 2: We have so many friends that went to that camp
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  Speaker 2: All Mystic. Yeah, and their children went to Camp Mystic.
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  Speaker 2: So there's like one degree separation from the ones that perish.
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  Speaker 2: But I felt the same way. It was hard to post,
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  Speaker 2: but it made me think of something my mom shared.
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  Speaker 2: My mom said that when her dad died and they
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  Speaker 2: were in the limousine going to the cemetery, she's looking
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  Speaker 2: out the window and she's seeing people laugh, she's seeing
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  Speaker 2: kids play, and she thought, do they not realize my
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  Speaker 2: life feels like it's over right now? And then I
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  Speaker 2: saw a friend of mine. Her name is Barbara Allen.
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  Speaker 2: She wrote a book called front Front Towards Enemy Line,
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  Speaker 2: and her husband Lou, was murdered while serving in Afghanistan
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  Speaker 2: by another soldier, so it's like her story. But she
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  Speaker 2: talked about also the same kind of story, being in
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  Speaker 2: a limo and going to the cemetery and she passes
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  Speaker 2: a field of kids playing baseball, and she said that
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  Speaker 2: for that day, she realized that for that day, it's
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  Speaker 2: not their turn for tragedy, it was ours, and my
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  Speaker 2: tragedy should not mean that they don't have the right
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  Speaker 2: to savor their blessings. So she said it's important for
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  Speaker 2: us to recognize the tragedy that's around us, but that
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  Speaker 2: there's no reason for us to stop our own blessings
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  Speaker 2: and sharing our own blessings. But it does feel like
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  Speaker 2: there needs to be a balance, you know, because it
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  Speaker 2: feels I couldn't. I still, I mean, I just started
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  Speaker 2: posting yesterday, but I have struggled myself because I felt
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  Speaker 2: like it looked like I didn't care. Yeah, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: devastated over it.
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  Speaker 3: Do you know that's that's interesting that others are feeling
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  Speaker 3: like this because I posted, you know, I told you
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't really privy to the news that day, and
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  Speaker 3: I posted because every year, you know, I have I
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  Speaker 3: have this yearbook that I do annually and it's kind
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  Speaker 3: of like my way of scrapbooking. And after I posted
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  Speaker 3: it the next day, when I saw the heaviness of everything,
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  Speaker 3: I was sitting on that literally July the fifth, after
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  Speaker 3: y'all left, I just Kevin. I were just parked on
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  Speaker 3: the couch. I was so tired and I was looking
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  Speaker 3: at everything, and I was wishing I hadn't posted everything
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  Speaker 3: because I thought, oh gosh, this is not the time.
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  Speaker 3: It was already done. So I didn't take it down.
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  Speaker 3: But I didn't post anything since yesterday until yesterday when
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  Speaker 3: we posted about Ridge. But for the same reason, it
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  Speaker 3: didn't feel right, you know, because it's such it's not
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  Speaker 3: just one person's tragedy, and you see it, you know,
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  Speaker 3: you see a funeral procession. This is of the magnitude
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  Speaker 3: of something I have not felt and since nine eleven.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, it's like children just imagining all the horror
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  Speaker 3: that they went through that I just sat there, and
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  Speaker 3: you know how you sometimes immerse yourself in the terribleness
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  Speaker 3: of it just so you can kind of grieve with
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  Speaker 3: these people that you've never met, you'll never know. I
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  Speaker 3: was immersed in it that day, and I was crying
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  Speaker 3: with everybody else, and I was praying for more miracles
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  Speaker 3: and looking for any source, anybody to say something that
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  Speaker 3: would alleviate some of the grief that we felt for
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  Speaker 3: these families. To this day, when you see when you
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  Speaker 3: do a reel and it's like this dad was talking about,
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  Speaker 3: how do you he's a coach. I think I saw
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  Speaker 3: it was a picture of him with his beautiful wife.
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  Speaker 3: He's a coach somewhere and he lost his eight year
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  Speaker 3: old daughter. He's got a son, and in his words
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  Speaker 3: you could feel the deep sadness and grief, and I thought,
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  Speaker 3: how how do you move from there? And I'm constantly
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  Speaker 3: remind of reminded of my friend Jenny Henson, who lost
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  Speaker 3: her daughter here in Shreveport, Maggie Lee and a tragic
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  Speaker 3: bus accident. It was a church bus headed to camp.
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  Speaker 3: Remember that, and now she does. So what Jenny did
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  Speaker 3: was she immediately immersed herself in God's word in her
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  Speaker 3: faith and that was the only and she had Jack,
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  Speaker 3: she had another one that she had to be there for,
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  Speaker 3: and she started this Maggie Lee for Good Day where
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  Speaker 3: she does amazing things for the children in our community.
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  Speaker 3: And that's how she has continued through it. Because when
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  Speaker 3: you start looking at these and you think, how do
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  Speaker 3: you not just go dig a hole and bury yourself in?
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  Speaker 3: And then you see someone like Jinny, who's the greatest inspiration,
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  Speaker 3: You're like, Okay, God, God is how.
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  Speaker 1: You get through it. And I like how she's turned
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  Speaker 1: her grief into service. Yes, a lot of people do that,
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  Speaker 1: and that's that's a beautiful thing.
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  Speaker 3: That's like the Idaho U the four that were killed
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  Speaker 3: in Idaho, all of them have things set up in
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  Speaker 3: their children's name and in their honor and their memory.
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  Speaker 1: And and then once you you're in that mindset, then
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  Speaker 1: you turn things around. You can post on social media,
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  Speaker 1: let folks know what you're doing, and see if they'll
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  Speaker 1: out of Kimberly Burt listen. Thank you so much, Thank you,