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2 Samuel 13 (Part 1) Bible Study | Pastor Daniel Batarseh · Bible Study with Pr. Daniel Batarseh | Verse by Verse Series | Maranatha Bible Church - Chicago

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  You have your Bibles tonight. Second Samuel chapter 13, is
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  where we're meeting tonight. And as you're there, I would
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  like to begin by saying the Apostle Paul Asher's us and
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  warns us by the holy spirit in Galatians 6:7.
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  Do not be deceived. God is Not mocked.
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  Whatever a man so's that will. He also what?
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  Reap that, whatever he sews will he also reap?
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  If you've been with us, you know, that in second Samuel
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  chapter 11 David has sold much into unfortunate.
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  Things. He sewed much into his lust into
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  deception. And to betrayal to murder and we
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  are now about to see him reaping from the same tragedies through
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  a series of catastrophes, that will essentially cover the rest
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  of our study in the book of second.
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  Samuel, We've already seen that David.
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  Has experienced some sorrow with the death of the child that he
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  had with Bathsheba. And that is just the beginning
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  of many griefs. And these tragedies these
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  atrocities that will follow David for the rest of his life
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  will be close to home. In fact, they will emerge from
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  his own home. And there is this strange notion
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  that people have. About how God's forgiveness
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  works because one of the overarching truths that will be
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  constantly before us for the following chapters until the
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  last period. Mark of This Book, Is that
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  forgiving sin still has consequences.
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  The Lord is ready to Pardon. He is quick to receive us over
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  and over again, but his willingness for us to be
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  reconciled back to him. There's not always promised
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  every outcome being canceled equally.
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  We can thank God that when we do turn from our evil, he promises
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  us. Restored Fellowship.
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  And he promises us as security of his favor to shine over us.
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  but depending on the nature of the sin that we commit, it is
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  very true that we cannot predict the outcomes that can sometimes
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  even be life lasting they can burn and remain to some degree
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  on us and around us. And before us and that truth
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  alone should discourage. The tented Saint, who finds
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  themselves very near to the edge of compromise because they sued
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  themselves with the idea that God is very, very quick to
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  forgive why? Because even Forgiving sin.
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  Can have consequences. and that is precisely what we are going
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  to see here in this chapter because starting here in this
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  Verse verse 1 of chapter 13. You and I are going to see
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  David's dishonorable example, reproduced in his adult
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  children. Now, we don't know how much of
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  David's failure was made known to his family, things catch on
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  quick, things can spread quick, but one thing is for certain
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  according to First Kings chapter one, David was not the most
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  exemplary father. He was very slow to discipline
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  his children. And even just in Practical
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  living, he didn't, he didn't really showcase the most,
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  honorable way of living and making decisions, especially in
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  the area of relationships. And so we're going to see some
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  some tragedies. It's not it's not going to be
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  the brightest Bible study moving forward from chapter 13 onward.
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  And the first person that's going to replay some of the
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  shameful things that David has done though in different forms
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  is going to be eminent David's eldest son.
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  According to 1st Chronicles chapter 3, verse 1.
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  And what a man is going to do, here is a grievous violation of
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  many things. And I want to give you a heads
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  up, this is not going to be the most comfortable Bible study to
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  engage with It's not going to be the most comforting things
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  you're going to hear. And read nonetheless, the Holy
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  Spirit included in his word for a reason and the inclusion of
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  the story, invites us to explore and investigate.
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  What it is that God wants to say with great, humility and
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  eagerness. And so it before we begin, we
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  have to trust that the Lord has brought us this detailed account
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  with the purpose of giving us valuable lessons.
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  Valuable Treasures, no matter how dark or uneasy it's going to
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  be to digest. And so, with all that being
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  said, I want to read the first few verses and then we will take
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  our time to understand what is taking place in verse 1.
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  Of chapter 13, we read now. Absalom.
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  David's son had a beautiful sister, whose name was Tamar.
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  And after a Time am ninh David's son.
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  Loved her. An eminent was so tormented that
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  he made himself ill because of his sister Tamar for.
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  She was a virgin and has seemed impossible to eminent to do
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  anything to her. But and then had a friend.
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  Whose name was jonadab the son of shamya, David's, brother, and
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  Jonah. Dad was a very crafty, man, and
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  he said, to him, o, son of the king.
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  Why are you so Haggard morning after morning?
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  Will you not tell me? And, and said to him, I love
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  Tamar, my brother Absalom sister.
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  Johnny Depp said to him lie down on your bed and pretend to be
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  ill and when your father comes to see, you say to him, let my
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  sister Tamar come and give me bread to eat and prepare the
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  food in my site that I may see it and eat it from her hand.
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  I want us to begin this study by looking at three things
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  concerning this man and then the first thing is going to be
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  eminence. Privilege.
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  The second thing will be eminence.
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  Passions. And lastly, we're going to look
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  at em nen's pressure. Emmons privilege.
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  Verse one. Tells us clearly that he was
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  David's son. You heard me say earlier that he
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  was not just one of David's Sons.
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  He was the eldest son according to 1st Chronicles, 3 verse 1.
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  Now, all of that should paint the picture of the privilege
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  that this young man had he was royalty.
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  He was born into unmeasured prosperity and it was born into
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  a world with unlimited opportunity.
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  And with all of the prestige and the position and the resources
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  that were made available to eminent on top of that, the
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  favorable blessings that would come to him simply because of
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  his birth order. This man was so far from being
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  wholly so far from being whole so far from being in the will of
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  God which promises great blessing and protection.
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  And I think that's insightful for many reasons, especially in
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  the culture that we're living in today, because the leaders of
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  our country proposed, very Vain and Halo strategies with the
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  promise, that it will bring us that much closer to Harmony in
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  society. These methods include something
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  along the lines of if we just give troublemakers a better
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  environment than they will calm down, and they will build
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  themselves up, and they will build a better future for
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  themselves and for their offspring and for their
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  surrounding area. Or if we just offer more
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  financial assistance to those who are self-destructive, then
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  then we will see some level of peace in our midst.
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  We know that Adam and Eve already proves that to be wrong,
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  they were in a perfect environment and they messed
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  everything up. And that is vividly described
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  even here, Illustrated with M, then with so much at his
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  disposal. He was intensely corrupt within
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  he would not only destroy his life but those around him
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  innocent parties. Resources.
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  Don't regenerate people the Holy Spirit.
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  Only does that Transformation comes from the inside out, not
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  from the outside. In if you attempt to change
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  things from the outside in, you're wasting your time and
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  you're wasting your resources. If we want to see neighborhoods,
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  altered, if we want to see cities, altered if you want to
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  see schools, altered if we want to see all these things that we
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  desire to see, begins with the human heart and you can't
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  change. What is immaterial with that,
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  which is material only the Holy Spirit can come in with the
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  truth of the gospel and bring about the transformation.
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  That is necessary. Go to cause a ripple effect
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  around day-to-day life. And in here, proves his
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  biography reminds us that you can be a prince in a palace.
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  It still caused havoc in your own life.
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  Around those things that you think will promise so much
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  pleasure and satisfaction and she's not going to happen.
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  There's a wonderful proverb that came to mind when I read about a
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  man's biography, very briefly. And it is this and Proverbs 15.
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  16, we are told better is a little with the fear of the Lord
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  than great treasure with trouble with it.
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  Better is little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure
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  with trouble with it. I love how the parallelism
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  there. Shows us that the spirit
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  contrast, the fear of the Lord with trouble.
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  You want to avoid trouble, get the fear of God, you want to
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  invite trouble, remove the fear of God.
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  And that proverb also gives us an ultimatum in some sense. if
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  you had a choice between having great treasure void of the fear
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  of God, governing your life, Or with contentment accepting much
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  little. But having the fear of the Lord
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  reigning over your life, choose the latter.
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  Always, you are way better off. Having the fear of the Lord than
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  unlimited numbers on that screen.
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  When you click into your bank account or whatever, things that
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  you can do at the snap of a finger, better is little with
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  the fear of the Lord than great treasure would trouble with it.
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  And all how the Bible even tells us how many occasions that there
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  is much trouble that comes with great wealth.
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  I wouldn't ask God for more in this life unless you are
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  saturated and anchored in your reverence for God who he is, and
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  what he's able to do or else you're headed for trouble?
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  I'm telling you. So, we look at a man's
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  privilege, right? We look at a man's privilege.
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  Now, we look at his passions and we read here that he loved
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  Tamar, who is David's daughter from another mother.
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  This is a man's half sister. They have the same father.
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  And what's interesting is all we know about her is that she was
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  beautiful, which tells me she her mom must have been beautiful
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  because Absalom her brother was also a very handsome man.
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  So says something about the mother.
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  She was beautiful. She was a virgin and she was the
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  sister of Absalom and were told about Absalom early on because
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  we're being prepared, he's going to be key instigator to David's,
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  upcoming troubles and problems. He's going to be a main
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  character in a Lifting much pain to David's life.
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  The love that a man had for Tamar here.
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  Raises a red flag, doesn't it? Why?
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  yeah, you know, it and on top of that, we are told according to
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  Leviticus 18 9. We are told plain and clear that
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  it is prohibited to have any kind of intimate relationship
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  with people from your immediate family.
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  So this is a law thing. This is not just a personal
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  opinion thing or a cultural thing.
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  This is even inscribed in the law.
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  And so we already know something about about em nen's desires,
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  their unnatural and they are unlawful according to the law of
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  God. It's clear and this brief
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  insight into this man's heart already.
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  It conveys that he was a man who lacked character and obvious
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  conviction. He loved tame our, he's about to
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  do something, simply because of what he feels, he feels these
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  strong emotions, and that's going to determine how he's
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  going to act. And just a few short moments,
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  even though it violates God's clear commands, it doesn't
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  matter to him then and I can't help but be reminded of the
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  Mantra of our day. The most of the Abominable
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  things that we're parading and tall. flirting is all done in
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  the name of what Love is not love.
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  It's all love. Just just slap the label love on
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  and we can justify it. No matter how illegitimate those
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  impulses are it is often backed up by what infatuation and
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  strong attraction and sometimes even this love element or this
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  love idea, it's love, it's love. And if we dismiss God's
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  parameters of what we should act on and what we should resist by
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  the power of the Holy Spirit, live under that Banner long
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  enough, and you will be led into whether individually or as a
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  culture and to perversions As we will see here, this is going to
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  be a very perverted thing that's about to take place and it's
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  true across the board. If you live under that Mantra,
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  if you justify your worldview by subjective, understanding of
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  what love means or what love is or what love feels like or what
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  love does, you're headed for it. Great.
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  Great confusion, and Abomination.
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  As Paul tells me in 1st Corinthians 13 6 that love
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  rejoices with the truth. If my love contradicts the
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  truth, it's not love. It's something else.
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  It rejoices with the truth. And we see here that this man's
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  love, whatever it is. It's not true, love because it's
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  not love in truth. In fact, when you read verse 2,
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  as you heard it, you're going to see the quality of this man's
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  affections for this woman. And a man was so tormented that
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  he made himself ill because of his sister.
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  Now, look at the language here for.
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  She was a virgin and it seemed impossible to amanat to do
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  anything to her. That's not love language.
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  That's lust language. And the torment of this man was
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  not that Tamar was a upstanding woman who was unwilling to be
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  allured by fellow men. It was because as a princess as
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  a daughter of the king and as a virgin she was protected in a
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  certain way. Physically.
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  I'm speaking of she lived in a certain place she was constantly
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  surrounded by certain people. She was protected she was
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  guarded and this bothered and and because he wanted just one
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  opportunity To be with her in order to take advantage of her.
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  I'm already looking at some of your faces, you're already
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  Disturbed. Hang on.
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  It's going to get it's going to get darker.
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  And so what we see here is that this man was so obviously
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  Disturbed that he came to the point where he became sick,
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  physically sick. He couldn't eat, he couldn't
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  sleep, and it was, it was noticeable.
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  So noticeable, that one of his close friends, asked him what
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  was going on. And so this temptation, morphed
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  into an obsession And that is an ins fault.
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  We can argue that the feelings that end in had were Beyond his
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  control, right? You can't you can't necessarily
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  control what visits your emotions or what ideas spring up
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  in your mind. But em and fetid.
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  He nurtured it, he entertained it, he imagined it, he
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  fantasized about it and it became stronger and it took a
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  greater control over his life to the point where it spilled over
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  into his actual appearance. And that's what we see here in
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  verse to do, we not? And it was so tormented that he
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  made himself, he made himself ill He allowed himself to come
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  to this point. He allowed those feelings to
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  drive him to such a low state. And so be reminded I'm sure many
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  of us in here would be would be very hesitant to share what has
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  cross through our minds. You may not be able to determine
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  that but what you can determine is how far it goes.
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  And that is completely our responsibility.
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  And one of the means by which the Inflation of these
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  Temptations becoming so much more.
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  One of the means by which we can puncture that.
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  So it deflates and has a less of a grip on our hearts.
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  Is by God, providing people outside of us to speak into our
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  lives. To keep us accountable to remind
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  us of God's truth. And to keep us in the right lane
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  before we allow self-deception to steer Us in the wrong
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  direction. I've quoted this verse so many
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  times, I hope you memorize it. You've heard me preach at a
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  Maranatha. You heard me reference it from
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  time to time. We're told in Hebrews 3:13 but
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  exhort one another every day. As long as it is called today,
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  miss any of you be deceived or hardened by the deceitfulness of
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  sin. The see the prescription there,
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  the plan, their exhort one another every day.
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  As long as it is called today, less your heart become hardened
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  by the deceitfulness of sin. And so God has prescribed
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  outside sources, namely people, who love the truth, and love him
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  to play a part in keeping my heart, soft and tender lest I
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  become crystallized. In the passions of My Flesh.
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  That is something that and then unfortunately lacked because the
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  the straw that's going to break the camel's back.
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  So to speak is going to be the wrong friend because what we're
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  told there and Hebrews 3:13 it works in the - positively if I
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  have the right, people around me, who exhort me?
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  Then I can assure greater safety in my sanctification.
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  By the same token. If I have the wrong people, they
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  can encourage me into unholiness and sin degradation.
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  Eminence privilege, Eminence passions, Eminence pressure.
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  Look at verse 3 again. Five words.
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  But am then had a friend. But and then had a friend.
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  Those five words would shape his future and the future of others.
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  It is the sad commentary of the turning point of this man's life
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  but and then had a friend and unfortunately, it can be said of
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  many that they are not where they're supposed to be.
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  Because fill in the Blake, had a friend fill in the blank, had a
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  friend and then had a friend and the language there.
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  But and and had a friend, it implies that.
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  What a man is about to do was Was in great part stirred up by
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  this friend that we're about to read about.
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  Was lead and encouraged by this man.
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  And so here's the thing, whether you and I want to admit it or
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  not, it is it is true. The people we allow in our inner
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  circles, have future shaping influence, whether you're aware
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  of that or not, you've heard the popular saying, show me your
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  friends, your five closest friends and I'll show you would
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  be in five years. I don't know if I butchered or
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  not something along those lines, but it's true.
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  I understand the sentiment understand the argument.
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  I understand the philosophy. It's biblical.
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  It's biblical. And then had a friend.
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  And it was that verse At the Holy Spirit used in my life to
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  help me identify people throughout my life and to place
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  them into categories. Among many can I share those
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  categories with you two simple categories?
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  Among many, there are other categories as well.
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  There are people in my life who are going to one either, help me
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  fight my Temptation or two, they will help me fuel my temptation.
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  There are people who are going to help me fight my Temptation
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  or they're going to fuel my Temptation one.
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  I am to embrace and the other I am to resist and reject in
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  humility but also in great wisdom. and that is a very
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  helpful way to navigate in your life as people come in and out
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  and understand that in the same way, God brings people in your
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  life to bless you, Satan does the same to curse you God has
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  his agents. God has his ambassadors.
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  So this the devil And so, you know, people that you can say
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  you're a blessing your gift to me.
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  Well, no. This the enemy will also do the
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  same to bring about a burden instead of a blessing.
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  And so you and I need the discernment to be able to say is
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  this a person that's going to help me fight the good fight of
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  Faith or is this person going to dramatically influence me in the
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  wrong direction? Unfortunately in a case jointed
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  that was the ladder and the descriptions of who, this man is
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  given to us in. This text is instrumental in
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  helping us, be able to discern beyond the surface level.
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  So there are things about Jonah dad that will help you.
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  And I to some degree, be able to look past what we might be
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  tricked by and to understand how it is.
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  I can qualify worthy, candidates in my inner circle, Because
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  relationships is important in our walk with the Lord.
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  Let's look at a few things. What's the man's name?
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  Does anybody know what that name means?
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  Jonah. That wouldn't it be you ended up
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  Unidad? Yo.
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  Yes, we were there almost. Jehovah is willing.
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  Jehovah is willing. What's the big deal?
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  Here's the big deal. Jonadab obviously, has a name
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  that identifies a truth about the true God.
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  Jonah would have had an identity that was close to whenever you
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  would call upon him. Whenever he was referred to,
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  whenever he was asked for something, the here would be
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  reminded of something concerning God.
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  Now here's the problem. Although he had an identity in
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  that his worldview strongly contradicted, the god that his
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  name represented, here's the lesson for you.
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  And I, it really doesn't matter if that person, whatever kind of
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  relationship they have to you. They identify with God.
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  If they claim things about God, if they have a label of Truth on
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  their lives, they profess they post has very little value to
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  whether or not that person is worthy to walk.
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  Hand-in-hand with you in this life you have to look past that
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  and it was a psalmist said in Psalm 119, very clear that
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  they're not verse 63. I am a companion of all who.
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  What? Who fear you?
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  I am a companion in Psalm 119 verse 63.
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  I am a companion of all who fear you of those who keep your
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  precepts and Sam, a companion of all those, who believe in you.
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  I'm a companion of all those who confess, you know, I am a
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  companion of those who fear you of those who keep your precepts.
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  In other words, I'm looking at the observable traits of your
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  life. The convictions that are lived
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  out or not lived out, that's what I'm looking for.
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  When I determined that, this is a person who truly keeps the
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  precepts of God. I'm going to be your companion,
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  I'll allow you to be mine. It didn't add any value to end
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  in the fact that Jonah that was named Jonah Dobbin.
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  That his name was identified with the truth of who the true
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  God is. So be careful.
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  Be careful. Oh he says he's a Christian and
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  he's cute, who cares? Does he fear the lord?
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  Does he keep the precepts of the Lord?
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  Be careful. If that's your standard then
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  you're headed for trouble. I'm telling you if all your
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  standard is that he's wanted to come to church, 36 weeks out of
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  the year and he calls himself a Christian be very, very careful.
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  Secondly, we learn that Jonah that was also not amnesty
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  friend. He was Emmons cousin don't we
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  see that? And it had a friend whose name
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  was Joanna? The son of shimei David's
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  brother first cousins, first cousins, so we have permission
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  to believe that they have history together.
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  They shared an upbringing, they probably had many memories
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  growing up. Over the years.
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  And such a relationship with long history can be a gift, but
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  it can also be a curse. And the reason why it can be a
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  curse is because that kind of a history, those ties the
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  memories, the laughter, the joys that cries, all those things can
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  have a very binding influence on someone's Allegiance.
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  And the trouble here is a trouble that Jesus predicted
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  about discipleship, that one can elevate a person whether in
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  their family or outside their family to the point where
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  they're denied true discipleship.
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  Because what will decipher and determine whether a blessing or
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  cursing come from a close member of our family or close friend
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  that we grew up with is whether or not they take precedence over
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  the word of God. If that person has more
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  Authority or sway in your thinking and in your planning
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  and in your decisions, more than the voice of the Lord that's
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  troubling. That's dangerous.
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  And that was the case for this man.
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  John had that very like they had a very special place in his
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  heart and he lacked the conviction to be able to
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  determine I will deny all other voices.
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  If they encouraged me to deny the voice of my shepherd.
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  If any advice or counsel will come and conflict with what God
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  has made clear to me that I must stand with my God.
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  Even if I Stand Alone, that was so void in a man's life.
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  And there's a side note for this as well because Jonah dab is
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  presented in a way like people in our lives that are almost
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  unavoidable. You have family that are
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  unavoidable sometimes, right? I mean there's there's
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  celebrations or even a home that you have to walk into day after
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  day where you're going to meet people and do life with people
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  that don't see the way you see that don't live the way you
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  live. And here's the warning, based on
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  what we see with jonadab and eminent be aware of allowing the
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  familiarity of other people's presence to erode that strong
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  anchoring. Conviction of living before God.
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  A living before God because sometimes things can just over
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  time, begin to have a firmer grasp on you.
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  And so, constantly be aware, be vigilant be strong, stay in the
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  presence of God day after day, lest over time.
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  Someone that is near and dear would hijack.
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  Something that was so strong at one point.
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  Lastly, we learned something else about John adapt.
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  What do we said? What are we told about what he
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  was like, he was a very crafty man.
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  A very crafty man. Now depending on the context
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  that can be really good or really bad and we already know
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  that this is bad, this is a flag and it's not only evidence in
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  how jonadab is about to give and proposed a scheme for a moment
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  in order to satisfy his lust, we even see it in the next time
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  that he's mentioned in this very same story.
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  The next time jonadab is introduced to us after this
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  whole ordeal. Gives us greater understanding
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  of just how conniving he really was.
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  Can I show it to you? Scroll down?
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  You're in Chapter 13, scroll down to verse 32.
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  Here's what happens and then was assassinated.
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  Okay, Absalom takes vengeance. He kills and then and news comes
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  to David and like when you play telephone things, get
• 30:41
  mistranslated very quickly. So news arrives to David and
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  here's the news, all of the king's sons have died.
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  David is overcome with grief. He expresses the pain of such a
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  tragedy Calamity and who's on the scene to bring about the
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  accurate report. Jonah, dad and look what he
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  says. But jonadab the son of shamya.
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  David's brother said, let not my Lord.
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  Suppose that they have killed all the young men The king's
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  Sons for n and alone is dead. This is the part.
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  You ready for by the command of Absalom.
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  This has been determined from the day.
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  He violated his sister Tamar. Did you see it?
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  What's concerning about that report?
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  That's he knew that he knew from the day that Tamar was raped at
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  and Absalom. Rather had it in his heart to
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  plot to kill em. How did he know?
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  How did he know? Was he confident to Absalom as
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  well? and if he had known, Makes you
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  wonder did. He tried to convince Absalom not
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  to do it? Did he try to convince Absalom?
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  Not to cause even more grief by returning, evil with evil, okay?
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  More importantly, if he had known as he claims, why didn't
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  he go tell a man about it? What happened when Rebecca
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  learned that Esau was comforting himself with the thought of
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  killing Jacob. What did she tell?
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  Jacob to do, go to laban's house, go to my brother's house
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  fleets, your uncle, I will call for you when his anger subsides,
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  which she never does, which probably shows that he's estate
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  angry for a long time. Yeah, when you care about
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  something, you hear that somebody's trying to kill them,
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  you kind of give them a heads-up.
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  We don't see any of that. We have no reason to doubt that.
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  Jonah that did know about it and if he did know about it and
• 32:55
  here's what we can conclude even from our introduction to this,
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  man. He did not have an ins best
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  interest in mind. He did not.
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  He did not really care about eminent not have his future in
• 33:09
  mind. And listen, that might concern
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  some people because we wonder what's a person's heart.
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  Truly for me, how do I discern, who to yoke myself with?
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  And listen. God is gracious.
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  He can, he can provide many ways of clarity, but if you want one,
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  clear indication, any person, who persistently encourages you
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  to sin does not care about you. Even if their deception is
• 33:38
  coated with words, like what we see back in verse four, look at
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  how he speaks to and then when he sees him, so dejected and
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  troubled, Oh, son of the king. Why are you so Haggard morning
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  after morning? Will you not tell me.
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  He's a snake. And in said to him, I love Tamar
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  my brother Absalom sister. so, if you want to know whether
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  somebody is for you or against you, Do they pull you away from
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  the will of God? Do they encourage you to be
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  deceiving and to step outside of the character of Christ likeness
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  in order to achieve something because that's exactly what
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  Jonah does for this man admin. And so we are realized something
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  about this man. He's dangerous.
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  Too bad engine could not see it. Because what we see in verse six
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  shows that he ate it all up verse 6.
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  Let's come back to our main text, shall we?
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  In verse 6, we read. So M and laid down and pretended
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  to be ill. And when the king came to see
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  him and said to the king, please let my sister Tamar come and
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  make a couple of cakes on my site that I may eat it from her
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  hand. Some people blame David for not
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  being suspecting of the plot, that Edmund was brewing here.
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  I personally have more understanding toward this father
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  because I can't imagine anybody immediately thinking about an
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  unthinkable act, taking place. Between the most unexpected
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  people. And so we can give some kind of
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  mercy here to David. Others would say that just gives
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  everything he he's asked for from his children, he just
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  splurges them and that might be true.
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  But here we see that he just comes in to check up on his son.
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  I mean you hear when even a celebrity has a scar on their
• 35:41
  face or something it makes headline news.
• 35:42
  So it's obvious that news has gone around that.
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  The firstborn of the king is ill.
• 35:47
  So here comes David, a check up on his boy and the boy makes a
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  request. I want my sister to come in to
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  feed me so I'm too weak to feed myself. and instead of talking
• 35:58
  more about David, I would like for us to consider the character
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  of Tamar What are we told in verse 1.
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  She was beautiful verse 2. We're told she's a virgin.
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  And what we see here is that when he goes to tame our David
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  and asks for her to make a couple of kicks for her brother.
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  She obeys her father And she is willing to drop everything and
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  immediately come to the service of her sick.
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  Half-brother okay this is a woman of character.
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  She's praiseworthy. She's pure and even when you see
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  her resisting the attack, her appeal.
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  Her proposal is so filled with wisdom and even respect though
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  she stands before a monster. And when I considered the
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  portrait of Tamar and what's about to happen to her, I could
• 36:51
  not help. But think what perhaps you might
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  be thinking even now how could God allow this to happen to such
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  an outstanding lady, a young woman who has guarded her life,
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  who was chased Who kept herself pure, who obviously had a
• 37:09
  knowledge of the word of God who cared about her reputation of
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  the reputation of Israel of even her own brother's reputation who
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  had a sense of right and wrong. That was clear in the way that
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  she carried herself and presented herself, how could God
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  allow this? We can also think about Uriah.
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  The Godly Man remember him. Who had such loyalty to the Lord
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  and to his King. Who has such loyalty to the
• 37:43
  cause of the God that he loves so dearly.
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  And yet, he was deceived enough to the point where he
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  orchestrated his own death and tame, our though, she is admire
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  ball in. So many ways would also be
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  attacked in a way that she would be ruined for the rest of her
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  life, to some extent. This opens up so much discussion
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  about suffering in our life suffering in our world.
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  In fact, when you read chapter 13, I can't find one mention of
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  God. And some people that we know
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  some things that we read, we wonder where is God in all of
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  this. I'm sure you have answers, I'm
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  sure I can present some answers. But one thing that puts my heart
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  at ease to an extent is that the judge of the earth will do.
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  Right? One day, he will make sure every
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  wrongdoer pays and every victim is restored.
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  He can do it in this life, but he will definitely do it where
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  it really counts. And that's an eternity So, this
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  poor young lady. Is about to be violated in a
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  very serious way. and in verse 8, We can even read it to get an
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  idea of the scene. It's almost in slow motion.
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  It's almost as though the author by the spirit is trying to make
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  us feel the suspense because we, the reader know what's about to
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  happen and, and Tamar and her innocence is completely
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  oblivious. She's just trying to be a good
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  sister. Good daughter.
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  Verse 8. So Tamar went to her brother and
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  his house where he was lying down and she took dough and
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  knead it and make cakes in his sight and bake the cakes.
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  Like that's very detailed. Like we're supposed to Envision
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  this or supposed to see these verbs being lived out and she
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  took the pan and emptied it out before him, but he refused to
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  eat and, and, and send send out everyone from me.
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  So everyone went out from him. Then end and said to tame our
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  bring the food into the chamber that I may eat it from your hand
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  and Tamar took the cakes, she had made and brought them into
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  the chamber to end, and her brother, every single step,
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  every single movement is recorded.
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  And our hearts should be racing. we see here that and then pushes
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  everybody out all the servants leave Many of David had any
• 40:25
  reason not to worry. Among many reasons.
• 40:28
  One, is this that there were servants were going to be
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  present as Tamar was serving at her brother and now, that's not
• 40:34
  the case. And wants privacy sin is often
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  encouraged by secrecy. Sin is often stimulated by
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  darkness by the lack of witnesses. but God sees all God
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  sees all that. That is what the fear of the
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  Lord entails. The fear of the Lord is a drum
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  that continually beats in the conscience that says, nothing is
• 41:04
  private. Nothing Is concealed.
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  All things will be revealed. God is here.
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  God is taking note. God will call into account.
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  That's what the fear of the Lord does.
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  When it resides in the heart. It beats that drum loud and
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  clear. obviously it was lacking in this, man, because he thought
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  if he just pushed out the servants that he could satiate
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  his sensual fantasies And so he calls everybody to leave.
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  And this is what we see in verse 11.
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  But when she brought them near to him to eat, he took ahold of
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  her and set their come lie with me.
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  My sister like that's pretty disturbing.
• 41:50
  In the same appeal of asking somebody to lie with you, you
• 41:53
  could also save my sister. And Tamar's words here.
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  In her rebuke. Offer wonderful incense of the
• 42:03
  blinding power of Temptation because Temptation can really
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  put blinders on our reasoning on our sensibilities.
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  On our boundaries. I want you to see just a few of
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  these insights of what temptation is capable of.
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  If we do not take captive these thoughts, if we do not resist
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  it, we do not fight. If we do not bring them before,
• 42:30
  God and bring Truth to combat that, which tries to conquer.
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  Let's see what she says verse 12, she answered him.
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  No, my brother do not violate me for such a thing is not done in
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  Israel. Do not do this outrageous thing.
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  As for me where could I carry my shame?
• 42:51
  And as for you you would be as one of the outrageous fools and
• 42:55
  Israel. Now, therefore please speak to
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  the king for. He will not withhold me from
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  you. What do you see out of that,
• 43:03
  that you think is valuable in light of what I just said in
• 43:05
  light of? Because she's the voice of
• 43:07
  reason. Here she is bringing to Emmons.
• 43:10
  Attention. What was clearly lacking in his
• 43:14
  understanding what stands out What's that the consequences?
• 43:24
  Surely, yes. Okay, so why is she proposing a
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  different way out? Especially when marriage between
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  siblings was obviously prohibited.
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  Yeah, I think it is. It's a way out.
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  It's a way to buy time. It's a way to just put him in
• 43:52
  his place so that she can escape that's what I believe.
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  Anything else? Yes.
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  Yeah. Where should I carry my shame?
• 44:05
  Do you realize what this is going to do to me?
• 44:08
  And she follows that by saying do you realize what this is
• 44:10
  going to do to you? So here's the first thing that I
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  see look here again, at verse 12, she answered him know my
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  brother, she addresses him as her brother and that's
• 44:21
  intentional. The reason why it's intentional
• 44:25
  even though this is an unusual case of immorality, it provides
• 44:28
  an important principle. That lust Has the ability to
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  erase the boundaries in our relationships between people
• 44:38
  lust has that kind of clouding effect.
• 44:41
  So when less is unrestrained, it doesn't care if that person is
• 44:45
  somebody else's spouse. That's it. it doesn't, it
• 44:51
  doesn't care if then if the desires are unnatural, according
• 44:56
  to Romans chapter 1, It doesn't care if other parties who are
• 45:00
  not directly involved will be harmed by the news of that
• 45:05
  desire, being acted out. And so she she immediately
• 45:11
  brings to his attention, you're my brother, he had no problem
• 45:15
  saying, you're my sister obviously, but he, he's now
• 45:20
  hearing from her lips, you're my own blood you, and I, we have
• 45:26
  the same father. And if we are not careful with
• 45:32
  our conscience, our appetites as we are witnessing in our own
• 45:36
  culture can become animalistic. Animalistic.
• 45:42
  We just whenever anybody's in heat, they act in that.
• 45:47
  And that's how base we can become when we blunt our
• 45:50
  conscience over and over again. And we decide to worship
• 45:54
  creation rather than the Creator refusing to give him.
• 45:56
  Thanks, and Glory, we open the floodgates of Untold, kind of
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  behavior. And this is what's happening to
• 46:07
  this, man, sinned doesn't remind you of the value of the person
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  before you sin doesn't nudge to you.
• 46:17
  Of the identity, the spiritual identity of that person that
• 46:21
  person is a son or a daughter of the king sin doesn't do that.
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  Sin just Harps over and over, you'll be satisfied, you'll be
• 46:31
  satisfied, you'll be satisfied. My brother.
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  Secondly, what is she called this thing?
• 46:40
  Do not violate me for such a thing is not done in Israel.
• 46:42
  Do not do this. I thought it was love.
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  outrageous thing, some translations say, Folly other
• 46:52
  translations, say, If you had the nasb.
• 46:59
  Disgraceful. Temptation, always presents us.
• 47:04
  The shiny side of sin always, never shows you the mold and the
• 47:09
  vileness, the hides underneath the veneer of the pleasure that
• 47:12
  it offers never and will never do that. and admin thought that
• 47:18
  this was love, but in reality was outrageous, If you and I
• 47:22
  don't allow ourselves to have truth frame, how we view the
• 47:27
  things that promised us pleasure then that which is outrageous
• 47:32
  that which is bitter can become sweet.
• 47:36
  So she's trying to remind it. This is out of bounds.
• 47:39
  This is unspeakable filth, and in his own understanding and his
• 47:44
  own world. You it was love, it was love.
• 47:48
  So she's trying to preach truth into his heart.
• 47:51
  I see no other thing here. Thirdly, Temptation does not
• 47:58
  inform you about house in can ruin your reputation.
• 48:02
  Our sister said it. She knew the shame that she
• 48:04
  would carry because of this and the shame would be that she
• 48:07
  would become less of a prospect for marriage.
• 48:10
  She would have been violated, she would have lost her
• 48:12
  virginity and because this would, this would become known
• 48:16
  people would now be much less willing to engage with her
• 48:21
  because of what had happened to her. but she also goes beyond
• 48:24
  that and tells him you will be known as one of the fools in
• 48:28
  Israel, you'll be known as one of the was one of the Ones.
• 48:34
  Who lack sense? You're royalty, you're a prince.
• 48:38
  You have so much ahead of you. But sin doesn't care Temptation,
• 48:41
  doesn't care. It doesn't tell you about your
• 48:43
  future. Always always always rehearses
• 48:46
  the few seconds of pleasure as though it lasts for eternity.
• 48:51
  When in fact, it's the consequences that always Outlast
• 48:55
  with the pain, in comparison to whatever pleasure you experience
• 48:58
  always. So she's trying to tell him of
• 49:02
  the stain that will come to his name.
• 49:05
  If he performs this, even these few minutes of realizing what
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  you've been tormented by will end up tormenting you and then
• 49:13
  be careful. I always whenever reach
• 49:16
  Simpsons, I always think about that.
• 49:18
  This guy was flirting with temptation.
• 49:19
  He just kept going closer. Close to revealing how he lost
• 49:22
  his anointing and it just like you lost it all the potential
• 49:26
  that you had the future that you had the story.
• 49:30
  You could have had the Miracles that God could have done three
• 49:32
  for what, for, what to lay your head on a prostitute slap, who
• 49:36
  cares? Lastly, I said lastly earlier, I
• 49:44
  think, but there is something else that I see with This
• 49:46
  Woman's wise words through her voice, she tells us what an and
• 49:52
  could not see that in Temptation, there is a way out
• 49:56
  no matter how strong or persuasive or powerful
• 49:59
  overwhelming. It may seem there is a way out
• 50:01
  and she she kind of gives that by telling him of a potential
• 50:07
  option. Hey we can get married.
• 50:10
  Now we just discussed This was she genuine in that request
• 50:15
  makes me wonder if she knew enough about her dad and how he
• 50:18
  deals with his sons that if daddy's boy says I want this,
• 50:22
  he'll give it. Even if it's something like an
• 50:24
  illegitimate marriage or is it a strategy just to buy more time
• 50:29
  regardless of why she saying? This one thing is for certain,
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  in terms of principle especially in this.
• 50:36
  I know it's difficult to try to reconcile this to day-to-day
• 50:39
  Temptation. This is incestuous rape.
• 50:41
  It's severe. Here it happens.
• 50:44
  Unfortunately, in life and I know it's difficult to relate to
• 50:47
  but the principles are still alive and well in terms of
• 50:49
  immorality is as a whole There is a way out.
• 50:56
  So many try to justify their behavior because it seems to
• 50:59
  overwhelm them and that is not the case.
• 51:01
  We don't have to give in to our desires.
• 51:04
  How much more us Christians, who are filled with the Holy Spirit?
• 51:07
  Jesus Christ, purchased on the cross, with his blood, a power
• 51:11
  that lives in us, 24/7 as our brother just read early on in
• 51:15
  Romans chapter 6, sin shall not have dominion over you.
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  Do you realize something about that verse in Romans shinsen
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  will not have dominion over you. That's not a command that's a
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  promise. Yes.
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  Sin will not have dominion will not because you are under grace,
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  not under law. These are promises that Christ
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  purchased for me. How much more can I be assured
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  that in the face of invitation to do wrong to entertain that
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  which is wicked? I can escape I can evade it.
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  God has a better plan. God has a different way out.
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  And when I read the words of Tamar here, you know what I
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  thought to myself as well? If only jonadab had given
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  similar words to his friend, Maybe he wouldn't drive his life
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  into a collision that would cause others to be casualties as
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  well. But here's the thing.
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  Look what we're we're told here after she says everything verse
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  14 but he would not listen to her.
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  Oh so you're willing to listen to jonadab.
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  But when it came to this woman, you're not willing to listen to
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  her in the end, no matter what you say, no matter what kind of
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  accountability, get no matter what kind of sermons you here
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  week after week in the end, in the end, in the end, it's your
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  choice. It's all of our choices.
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  We are all timidly responsible. Yes.
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  What people say or don't say can help us, but we come to the
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  line. Where we make a decision and
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  this is the decision that he makes.
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  I'm going to listen to jonadab My Flesh.
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  I mean, I'm going to ignore what you just said and have you to
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  myself even apart from your own will.
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  And that's what happens verse. 14 says, he would not listen to
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  her being stronger than she, he violated her and lay with her.
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  It's very dark. Very disheartening, very sad.
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  And what happens here in verse 15 might be surprising to you at
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  first, but it's actually a common response.
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  That is very, very relatable. When people sin, especially in
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  the area of sexual immorality, look at verse 15, then am then
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  hated her. With very great hatred.
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  So that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the
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  love with, which he had loved her.
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  It's like two different people here. you apparently loved her
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  to the point where you were lovesick, you couldn't sleep,
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  you couldn't eat, you couldn't play sports with your friends,
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  you were just consumed with Tamar and now that you've gotten
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  what you wanted. Your hatred for her was greater
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  than whatever love you experience beforehand.
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  How do we how do we explain this?
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  It's actually again, very simple.
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  Once and then fulfilled his fantasy the intense fake love.
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  That was roaring in his heart was quickly replaced with the
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  Testament. And rejection.
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  That determined a new kind of behavior.
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  We already covered that. A man's love wasn't true.
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  Love. It was a counterfeit.
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  He confused lust with love. And sexual sent.
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  This is a very important point because it might bring a lot of
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  answers to people's confusion. Sexual sin.
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  Always carries the potential of causing physical harm, right?
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  We all know that there are risks with that unwanted pregnancy
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  disease and, some people get away with it, some people don't
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  but here's one thing that's for certain the uniqueness of sexual
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  sin is that it guarantees a level of emotional damage that
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  is virtually inescapable. only Christ love and his truth and
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  his gospel can ultimately bring healing to that, to the degree,
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  that people yearn for, But do you see what's happening here,
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  there's there's some confusion here.
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  And am nen's, emotional state. And that is really the fruit.
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  When we step outside of God's guidelines for what he
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  determined in the realm of intimacy with other people.
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  Sexual sin often. Does that you reject his order?
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  You reject his promises. It doesn't just endanger you
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  physically, it brings some damage emotionally here, a
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  couple of way that it happens with the example that is set
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  before us like a madman. When I know this is a unique
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  case, but it's true beyond what we see here.
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  We risk rejecting, despising belittling distancing ourselves
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  from these very same people that we sinned with, or sinned
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  against Because we associate them with the shame that we
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  have. Right?
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  So he could not wait to get rid of her because now she is
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  forever. Brandon in his mind and a
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  forever, reminder of the gross in that he had committed.
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  So he wants nothing to do with her.
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  Get out of my sight, get out of my sight.
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  I don't want you in my life. And though, this is a severe
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  case. It is true and more mild cases.
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  I can use that word. That is why it's extremely
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  important. My brothers and sisters, I say
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  this with a soft heart. Please hear me?
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  I know my voice can sometimes be strong but I hope you can sense.
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  Love laced in these words. So important that in your
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  pursuit of a relationship that aims toward marriage that you
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  do, everything you can with God's promises and his wisdom to
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  maintain Purity because even when there is failure in sin
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  though you have the ambition to be married, the regret and shame
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  can be brought into that marriage and it can cause
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  conflict. In that very same marriage.
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  And so, it's important to keep the future mind.
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  Even though you've made promises to each other, that you will
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  come together. Trust in God's timing.
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  I've never heard, I'd never to this day after 11 years of
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  walking with the Lord and several years of ministry.
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  I'm sure brother Daniel can attest to this.
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  I've never heard in all these years of Ministry of any couple
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  has been married to his said, you know, my sweetheart and I
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  were talking the other night and we thought I wish we fooled
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  around more before we got married.
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  Never heard of it. You know what I do here?
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  I wish we can go back in time and redo it.
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  I wish we can. I wish we can have another shot
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  at the process and the pursuit of coming to marriage.
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  That's what you often hear. Because it brings in distrust,
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  it brings in all these complications and and it just
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  goes to show that God knows what he's talking about when he says
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  just do not awaken love before its time, don't awaken love
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  before its time. It muddies things it muffles
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  things even with the person that you want to be with And if you
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  have made that mistake, listen the Lord again, can redeem,
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  praise God, that you're in Covenant.
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  Now, praise God, that you realize you're wrong.
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  Praise God. That you repented of that wrong
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  and trust that the Lord can now come and mend your ways.
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  And, and be like David where when he was restored, he said, I
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  will now teach transgressors your ways.
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  We'll be able to relay that to others in our lives to say
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  trusting God's wisdom, trust in God's wisdom.
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  Here, we see a man who wanted nothing to do with the woman
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  that he wanted at one point because now she's associated
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  with the shame that he sensed And again, the scenario is
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  related to a Despicable Act of rape but we can still draw
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  another lesson from it. Can we not?
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  And it is this people who view another person's body, as simply
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  as a means to satisfy your selfish desires, if they view
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  your body simply as an object to satisfy yourself, selfishly,
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  generally will not show you respect and other matters.
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  Generally won't respect you once they realize that they can get
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  from you what they want. And I'll show you that in one
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  way scroll down to verse 17 of second, Samuel 13.
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  Look what he ends up saying to one of the servants about Tamar,
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  it breaks my heart. He called the young man who
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  served them and said, put this woman out of my presence and
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  Bolt the door. After And he just kicked her
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  out, like she was garbage. You know what's amazing?
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  When you go to the Hebrew of this, there's a word that's
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  omitted. When you go to verse 17, you'll
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  realize that one word is missing.
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  You know what word it is? Woman.
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  In the original language, you won't find woman.
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  So you don't, you know, what how that translates.
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  And if we just honored the original language, put this Put
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  this out of my presence. That's how he said it.
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  Doesn't even refer to her as a lady.
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  Again, he saw her as an object to begin with, and guess what he
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  ends up, seeing her still as an object that he just used.
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  Like a piece of gum that he chewed up and once it lost its
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  flavor, he spat it out. Here's the thing, especially to
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  my sister's realize this. There are men out there who are
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  like that be very careful, be very careful.
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  If that man truly loves you, he will respect you.
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  And he will honor God first. And he will as a true worry for
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  Christ fight for that Purity. Do things happen to Temptation
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  this temptation. Have us as sometimes do we fall?
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  Sure. But if there is a person who
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  consistently pressures and persist you into wrongdoing,
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  that person lacks respect for you.
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  And if they lack respect for you for something, so sacred, and
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  pure and holy what makes you think they're going to respect
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  you in other ways. Keep that in mind.
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  Keep that in mind as you are considering a potential spouse
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  as a person is perhaps trying to woo you Do they love you enough?
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  Do they love you enough to respect you in that way?
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  Or would they throw themselves on you and and pressure you?
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  If you really loved me, you would do this.
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  And I told you, I would be your husband.
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  Anyway, we're going to be together.
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  Anyway, that's not love, that's not love.
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  No matter how strong his affections are no matter what he
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  brings about to try to convince you to give that part of
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  yourself, be strong, my sister, be careful, my sister.
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  Now, that's different than a man who does love you and finds
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  himself stumbling with you takes two to tango.
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  I get it as I want to talk to Mom talking about aggressive.
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  Inconsiderate, overpowering manipulative Behavior.
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  Put this out there was that young girl wrecked?
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  This is what this man experienced.
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  Can I show it to you in one last verse of our Bible study?
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  Wow. Time is an amazing thing, isn't
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  it? Go to Proverbs 20 verse 17 very
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  quickly. Proverbs 2017, I think is a
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  wonderful way of wrapping up the segment of this chapter.
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  I know it's not the most encouraging Bible study.
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  Sometimes the worship team has trouble after a study like this.
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  You know what? They ask, what do we sing?
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  After you share something like that.
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  And to me, despite the content, I always praise God for his
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  wisdom. And including these things for
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  the sake of my preservation and maximizing on the pleasure that
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  he has for my life in yours. Look at 4:17 bread gained by the
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  seat is sweet to a man. There's something attractive and
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  exhilarating about gaining something through deceit or
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  manipulation something that is quick gratification, but look
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  how this verse ends. But afterward his mouth will be
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  full of gravel. Afterward his mouth will be full
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  of gravel. You know, what gravel does if
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  it's in your mouth and you chew on it.
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  Doesn't taste very good. 12 can break your teeth.
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  Three. If you swallow that gravel, it's
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  going to have some problems internally long-term effects.
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  And that's exactly what Adam is going to experience.
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  That thing that was once sweet to him would end up betraying
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  him. And so, in one moment, he can
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  love it and the next moment he absolutely hates it.
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  This is a wonderful commentary on the short-lived Promises of
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  sin. It doesn't take very long for us
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  to go from. This is what I've been wanting.
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  This is what I've been longing for to.
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  I hate this, I hate myself. I hate this person.
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  I hate that I'm in this predicament.
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  I wish I can do it all over again.
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  Right. Such is the nature of sin.
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  Such is the nature of sin and so that I think equips us
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  wonderfully in our Temptation that when that thing looks like
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  bread. That will fill us and bring
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  flavor to our lives. Look past that and realize that
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  it has the potential of becoming gravel dirt rocks.
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  And reject it from the get-go. By the grace of God, this can
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  happen. With such a Bible study brought
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  to a conclusion, may I end with a hopeful thought.
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  In Christ, the most grotesque dark heinous, things are
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  absolutely Washed by his blood. Absolutely washed.
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  And then will not repent and then will not repent.
• 1:06:35
  David, repented, David repented, and God forgave.
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  And then would not repent, and he would pay the Lord, even in
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  light of all this, I'm sure knowing his character through
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  his word. If M then, And then had enough
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  sense to stop in that moment and to Feel the Rush of guilt to
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  instead deal with in a very humanistic way, but be broken
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  before. God could have had a different
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  future different future even maybe a hopeful future, remember
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  this? Remember that even when David
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  sinned with Bathsheba Married her in an illegitimate way when
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  he had repented God recognized. Their Covenant gave them a baby
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  named Solomon and reassured them through Nathan.
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  I love this boy, I love this boy.
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  And my heart breaks for many reasons, with the text that we
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  just read. What can it continue in the next
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  few weeks. But also, if a man had just
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  known That the same God who forgave his dad would also
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  forgive him what a different future.
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  He would have had, maybe he would have had a family, maybe
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  God would have restored, a maybe God would have done something
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  through him, but the things that we borrow ourselves from because
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  of our stubbornness and our unwillingness to believe that he
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  is a forgiving God. I pray that in this place.
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  As you you heard some of these dark things, you remember that?
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  There is light above it all if you just look up and see that,
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  that light is the person of Jesus Christ reach out, even if
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  your hands are stained with blood or perversion realize that
• 1:08:14
  he'll pick you up, wash you and set you on Solid Rock, that's
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  the goodness of Jesus Christ. At the same time my brother's my
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  sister Let us not be like and fool ourselves thinking that we
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  can get away with sin. Because even forgiving sin can
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  leave tattoos that we didn't ask, for can leave scars that we
• 1:08:34
  could have avoided and that's why text like this is given to
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  us to be prepared in advance. The trust the promises and the
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  warnings of our god. Well, we thank you.
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  And we will sing to you. We will sing to you in all
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  things because we love the whole counsel of God.
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  And Lord, this text before us today reminds us of many things.
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  and one thing we are certainly reminded of Is that your word is
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  truth? And it sets free.
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  Now we visit set free, it keeps free.
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  And we want to stay free. Lois.
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  Sing to you tonight, we worship you. if we've been warned, we
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  praise you for the warning. We've been comforted.
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  We shower you with the same, praise and Lord tonight, we pray
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  that our faith would be strengthened.
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  Now you would be honored with our lives in Jesus name.
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  We pray. Amen?
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  Shall we stand in worship?