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Settling for Less Will Destroy You—Here's the Fix | Dr. Patrick McLaughlin · Harder Than Life

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It's in the valleys that you really do grow. Even sports teams, they have difficulty repeating because success sometimes is not the greatest thing to learn. So how do you keep leading through that? How do you do it without your baggage? What did it cost you?
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Some people, they hit rock bottom and that's the end of it versus the person that they hit rock bottom and they say, boom, I'm bouncing right back. Perspective is such a powerful word. The surrendering really doesn't take, it's not hard. We make it hard.
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Picture this, a man standing barefoot on a dock in the cold, on the phone with his brother, grieving his sister who died far too young. My guest today is a chiropractor who built 50 salons, buried the hardest year of his life, and walked out the other side with a way of seeing the world he calls possibility. He is the author of The Power of Being Present and the new book, The Possibility Mindset. Please welcome Dr. Patrick McLaughlin.
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2025 was a tough year for me, and you said over and over that it was a volatile year for your life. I think everybody in the hero's journey has that year, the one year that makes or breaks them. What happened with you, and what broke first last year? A lot of what was going on there, Kelly. I mean, really, I mean, so I came from the heels of kind of a tough...
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2024 and then not thinking anything could be worse. My goodness, went through the roller coaster of it. So it started off like a great year. I went to the national championship game, saw Ohio State play Notre Dame in Atlanta, Georgia, with my brother. My brother's a big Notre Dame fan. He went to Notre Dame. So he was on a high.
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And then next thing you know, on March 9th, 2025, I got a phone call from my niece. And I was the first person she called. And she said, my sister died. She died in her sleep the night before. And it was just a crushing blow. And she put me in charge of calling my brother.
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Oh, lucky you. And then call my parents. And, you know, that was the toughest phone call I've ever had to make in my life. You know, call my parents and tell them that, you know, their daughter has passed away. So, and it kind of was just up and down from there. I had some doctor problems in two of my chiropractic practices I had to deal with. Had a business that just didn't get off the ground. And it was just a struggle city. I mean, up and down and up and down. And then, you know, comes Thanksgiving and I almost lost my hand. And so it was just kind of just blow after blow after blow. It was just a...
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I'm 58 years old and just struggling through that year and slogging through. And it was brutal. They say what doesn't kill you make you stronger. And on top of that, that's what makes that resistance. That's what makes or breaks you. And it sounds like it's making you, even at 58. I want to ask, how old is your sister? She was 56 when she died.
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I just want to acknowledge, because I'm sure if she's half as awesome as you, it's way too young. And I just want to pay homage to your sister and say, I'm sorry. It's never easy. My father passed away almost 30 years ago. And I think about him every day. And my sister is what kept me alive. So she saved my life a couple times from my mother's brutal beatings.
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I just want to acknowledge your sister and she's washing down on us right now and thinking these two clowns getting together and having fun. So hopefully we'll do the audience a good service and get deep into. In honor of Colleen Gove on Colleen. Colleen. So what did the grief of Colleen teach you that success never could? You know, just exactly what you just said, Kelly, is it's in the valleys that you really do grow, right? I mean, yeah.
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You know, you think about even sports teams, they have difficulty repeating because success sometimes is not the greatest thing to learn. It's from the grief. It's from those, you know, when you think and really gives you perspective too, doesn't it? I mean, perspective is such a powerful word. You know, the thing about I learned about my sister's death was, you know,
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It just can take a second. And, you know, you take life for granted at times. You really do. And it just kind of woke me up a little bit. And, you know, I'm blessed to be here. I'm blessed to be alive today. You know, you just, you know, when somebody dies at 56, it just makes you look in the mirror a little harder. Yeah, I'm 50. And every time I see a celebrity die, I start subtracting the years. And I'm going to tell you, you know, they say you think you're having a bad day. Imagine not having one. And we talked about failure.
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what do they say death taxes are two constants the only two sure things in life i think there's a third and i think failure is a part of that i think everybody goes through failure it's what you do with that failure and that's where the heart of the life movement comes in it's when the going gets tough that's when you really learn look in i learn more from failure than i do any success
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So it's 2026, my man. How is it shaping up for you so far? Better. Things have gone better in 2026. Still going through some challenges, though. I mean, I think that there's still some potholes that you go through. You know, I'm writing this third book called The Possibility Mindset. I'm doing some speaking, some podcasts here. Thank you for having me on here. You know, my practices have settled down. I'm looking at seeing what's possible in my life. You know, I've just had a different perspective. I'm
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You know, you get in a little bit of a rut, you get in this woe is me, and then you just got to say, hey, listen, you know, there's a lot of life out there. It's time to keep open, keep those possibilities open in what's out there. It really is. The audience heard in the intro that you're a successful man. You've been in a lot of successful ventures.
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You have multiple chiropractic clinics, but in the hero's journey and the success journey, I always say there's ups and downs. The ups and downs represent the heartbeat. And if you're not doing that, you're on life's merry-go-round. You go round, round, round until you puke. When you're on those ups and downs, it's inevitable. We talked about this before we hit record. It's inevitable that you're going to run into a betrayal. It's kind of like the rite of passage. So you were betrayed by people you were trusted inside your business. So how do you keep leading people
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Through that, I mean, you got all this negativity, then the betrayal. How do you overcome that? Because that's what literally everybody needs to hear. Kelly, it's faith at those points, man. I mean, I tell you what. I've got a prop here. Let's see. I'm going to use a little. It's a colander, but let's pretend this is a bowl. Pretend it's a bowl without the holes in it, okay? Okay. Trust is earned by drip.
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but it's lost in buckets. And so one of the things I used to do when I have four children, they're all in their 20s now, but one of the things I used to do, and one of them I used to have a real challenging conversation, is I used to put the bowl in the sink, and I would put the water on very little, just to trickle in this bowl. And as I would talk to my daughter or my son about, hey, this is what's going on, like a life lesson that we were going to talk about, what I would do at that point is,
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as the bowl kind of got somewhat full, is I would turn it and drop it in the sink to make that emphasis. And, you know, one of my flaws might be is that I've been trusting too quickly in my life. And what I've learned about some of these things, Kelly, is the fact that maybe that's something I got to learn, that people have to earn their trust more with me drip by drip versus being a little bit quicker on that because I've been burnt on a few things. There's no doubt about that.
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But it hurts, it's painful. I think trust is one of those fundamental things that I wrote about in my Bare Facts of Life book, my first book about the parallels with dogs and humans. And dogs, trust, dogs are loyal. Dogs are always by your side. And I think if humans can learn that one thing, I think trust is such a huge thing. I mean, trust is huge in marriages, it's huge in friendships, it's huge in business, it's huge in with your customers. I mean, trust is such a thing. And when that's betrayed and when that's broken,
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Man, it's painful. I mean, it's really, really painful. What happened with loyalty? Why did it become... That dog analogy just hit me because we're all three dog lovers. And the thing I love about dogs is you can forget to feed them. You can forget to take them out. They'll go under your feet and you'll kick them on accident. And they'll still love you unconditionally. What happened in our world that we have become such a disloyal, distrusting...
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environment it's just it's sad self-centeredness I think it's just I mean I really believe that people are just thinking about themselves so much that that um that teamwork that that partnerships they're difficult yeah and I just think it's an every man for themselves sometimes society and I think that that that loyalty sometimes can be can be broken and the flip side I meet you when you walked in today I'm like this dude's gonna be in my life forever
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I'm like... We connected pretty quick. Yeah, it was fast. I was like, I trust you, dude. Let's just go. Let's just have some fun. Let's get deep into setbacks because that's... As we talked about life's ups and downs, the downs are the setbacks. What is the difference between the setbacks that end you and the one that propel you? What have you seen in your life as well as the people that you speak to and you coach and you go through that you've seen that...
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Some people, they hit rock bottom, and that's the end of them. They continue drinking, and they can't get out of it, versus the person that they hit rock bottom, and they say, boom, I'm bouncing right back. David Goggins in his book, right? He talks about the cookie jar.
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and about how you've got to sometimes peel back and say, listen, I've been through some of this stuff before, and kind of reach back in there and pick those things up. And I think that's, as we get in our 50s, we've been through some battles, we've been through some wars, and I think you've got to go ahead and remind ourselves, hey man, we've been through that stuff before. And some of those journeys are, they just take longer to periods of time, right? I mean, I talked to one of my pastors about, some of the holes I've been in recently, as far as some regret and some,
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Like, hey, you know, I've been in the hole a little bit. And he says, you know, sometimes God puts us in the midst. We're in the midst in those valleys of those highs. And sometimes they take longer than others. I mean, you even see biblically, I mean, some people are, you know, journeys of seven, 10 years, 40 years even. I mean, there's time that it takes to jump out of there. But you've got to be true to yourself. You've got to get good people around you.
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And you've got to read good books. And you've just got to open up what's possible in your life. Oh, good one. You know what you just said? A, that was faith. The faith that everything's going to be okay and that everything's working out for you. But the trust isn't only in the other person. It's the trust in yourself. And that's what I want to stress to people. It's trusting that you're going to do the right things, that you are going to.
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journal and you're going to read and you're going to work out and you're and you're not going to succumb to the negatives of the scrolling and drinking and sexting and all the negative stuff so trust yourself that you're going to make the right decision because that's what's moving me in the right direction i have faith that everything's going to work out and i trust myself that i'm going to make the right decisions and quite contrary to the harder than life movement i have been surrendering and saying how can this be easy
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And that's been a weird, and this is just recent in the last couple of weeks. And I'm like, this actually is easier than I think it is. And it's just easy because it takes no effort. The surrendering really doesn't take it. It's not hard. And what do we always say? It's so hard. If it was hard, if it was easy, everybody would be doing it. And that's our default. I want to make it cool on the IHDL Nation that everything is easy. Because it is. We make it hard.
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Good point. Let's keep going into the dog. You said something to me that just blew my mind. Dog and God are the same letters. They are. They're inverted. So I'm going to bring a prop. And this is for my dog. And I've had golden doodles. I know I'm a manly guy with golden doodles. But bottom line is this is just a symbol. So there are six things I talk quickly about in my book.
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bare facts of life book okay and that's the six fundamentals that dogs can teach us and show us how to live and they're simple they're present right dogs are always present when i put this ball in front of my dog he is right there and this is in a particular order yes present present second thing is pp they're positive when i put this ball in front of my dog kelly that dog's tail is wagging he is positive he is happy
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Third thing, loyal, right? We just talked about trust. Dogs are going to be right by your side. I've had this ball in my hand, Kelly. He's going to be right next to me. The fourth thing is love. He loves doing this. Dogs have unconditional love. You just said it, right? You could just be a bad owner of a dog, and he's still going to love you unconditionally.
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And the next thing is they chase experiences. Dogs don't care if their bowl is made out of gold. They don't care what kind of car they're in. They just love to chase. And they love to chase experiences in life. A sixth thing is dogs are consistent. Like if you can be gone today and come back, your dog's going to be at the door.
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Today, tomorrow, 10 days from now, 100 days from now, the dog is always consistent. And I find that those six things are the same thing that brings us closer to the Lord. Think about this. We talk about presence with God. We talk about positivity with God, which is hope. We talk about trusting God. We talk about God's unconditional love. We talk about God's experience with us through faith and forgiveness. And God is always consistent with us. God is always there with us yesterday, today, and He'll be there tomorrow.
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Those are the six fundamentals of the bare facts of life. And yes, dog and God are the same three letters inverted. That's so good. You, after listening to all six, first of all, I know there's no coincidence to presence.
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With the advent of the phones, I've been telling everybody, take a phone vacation. It's so hard. I just said it. I was just about to do it. It's so hard. It's so hard to be present. No, it is very easy to be present. Put your phone down. Presence is where I think we're losing the trust and the faith and the understanding. I think number seven, and I know the book's done, but number seven would be a short memory.
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because the dog isn't going to be mad at you for leaving great point great short remember we i was thinking of my girlfriend or your wife and where you say you know you left them for a while or you didn't come they'd be so mad at you but the dog's never gonna be mad at you short memory we have these axes we grinded we hold it on for so long
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That's why I came today, Kelly. Thank you. Well, good point. I mean, I've been stuck in regret, reverse, rewind on some decisions I've made, right? And good point. Dogs have short memories, but humans don't. We live in that past. You know, and good point. We, you know, being present is critical because we get...
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focused on the reverse, the regret, rewind, or the unpredictably unknown or uncertainty of the future. And we get anxious, we get regretful, and it's just today's the only day. And as my sister proves to us, right? Time is finite. Time is indeterminate. We don't know when our last day is.
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Just like Van Halen says, right here, right now. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. All we have is today. And it's a gift, so be present. That's very important. There in the intro, we talked about a particular day. There was a grief phone, that grief phone call, stuck dog, a rotted stare.
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But we didn't get into that exact morning and what happened next. So would you pick up? Sure. I'll just be, I'll just kind of set the table quickly. It was Thanksgiving week. It's my favorite week of the year. Oh. I love Thanksgiving. So by the way, we just figured out something, why we are friends. That's my favorite week too. Oh, it is. I love it. It's my birthday week, but that has nothing to do with it. It's my wife's birthday week, the 25th of November. The 24th. Okay, yeah. So we always celebrate her. She turned 60, by the way, this year. And yeah.
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and Maria, happy birthday in advance. But anyway, so it's my favorite time of the year. All four kids come in, it's awesome. And so I've been blessed. I've got a dock in the back of my house. It's 400 feet long and I just go out there and I meditate a lot. So it was a Tuesday and I had chiropractic practice. It was opening at nine o'clock in the morning. My brother calls me.
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at about 8 o'clock in the morning, he's got a house in Lake Oconee. And so he's got a dock there and he calls me and says, Pat, I'm really kind of reminiscent about Colleen. I want to talk. He goes, I'm on my dock. Why don't you get on yours and let's go ahead and chat? Again, I had no interest in doing that this morning. I mean, I had to be at work in an hour. So I walked out the end of my dock with my dogs and we talked for about 15 minutes. Just remembering my Colleen during this is our first Thanksgiving without her. So as I walked back in,
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I said, I'll be damned. One of my dogs was in the water, Kelly. It was like one of my huge golden noodles. And he just missed this oyster shell. So I didn't have any shoes on. So I called my daughter who was living with me at the time. And she went down. She's a physical therapist. So she went down. She's petite. And she went down to try to pick up the dog who was stuck in this kind of this mud area.
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And she couldn't pick them up. So I said, listen, just hang in there. I'll go get my shoes on. So I got some flip-flops on. And as I went down these stairs, I did not know. The last stair was rotted. And I burst through it. And my hands went back in the stairs. And literally, all I could see was just the flesh and blood just spurting from my hand immediately on the side of this hand. Did that go all the way? Because there's a little bit of a scar around here. Yeah, it went all the way through. Oh.
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Because it looks like it went the other way. Yes, it did. Holy cow. Yeah, he's got about an eight-inch gash. Yeah, so anyway, and as a chiropractor, right then and there, I knew, oh, I'm not making my practice today at 9 o'clock in the morning. So my other daughter was- That's what you think about. Yeah, that's correct. That is 100%. You just don't know where you're at at that point. I mean, my hand, I couldn't move, blood's bursting. And so my other daughter, so here I got my daughter holding this dog, Kelly.
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I got my other daughter now driving 90 miles an hour to the local emergency room, which is only seven minutes away. And just praying that, you know. And I'll tell you this. The fear afterwards is if that cut goes here at the depth. And he's showing the wrist, guys. If you're not watching us on YouTube, which most of you are these days, he's showing the wrist. You cut across that. Then he has some major arteries that are. Then you're bleeding out. What does it say? A minute or three minutes? Oh, yeah.
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And I think you've got to tourniquet your hand, and therefore you can lose your hand. I mean, there's some things your head can go. You went right to doom and gloom, though. That's what happened? Yes, I did. I mean, I'm in trouble. So I'm thinking my life could be in trouble, my career could be in trouble, my hand could be in trouble.
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And yeah, you know, as I'm going 90 miles an hour down this thing with my daughter with the hazards blinking on. And I'll tell you what, this is fascinating. This is a God thing. And you're just, you know, you don't know who's going to take care of you. But this guy was in the Army. He was in the Army. He was an Army medic. And he's seen a lot worse than this. And he stitched it up beautifully, 17 stitches in your hand, and put me back together. And actually, I went back to work the next week. Where was the faith? Great question.
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Great question. I mean, it's amazing that it could leave you sometimes. I challenge you to, in the next tough decision, remember I just asked you that. I'm working with my coach about, you've heard of Archangel Michael? Tell me more. He's supposedly this angel that protects us. And I read all about it, and I'm like, it's fascinating.
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And really, for those that aren't religious, it's just a distraction to move your mind to some other being and some other energy. But if you dig deep into those who are religious, look it up. Archangel Michael.
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It is wild. I have gone down this rabbit hole like, whoa. And since I've been, I hate to fly, which is crazy because I'm always on a plane. And so when the turbulence happens, I'm always, so I usually am talking to God during that. And now I have adopted when I talk to this archangel, Michael. And then now I can vision them, God overtop the plane and Michael on the wings. And I just flew home through.
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We zigzagged around storms, through storms. It was one of the worst. I've flown a lot. It was one of the worst storms. And the whole time I was completely calm because I was able to have faith to know that everything was going to be okay. So I challenge you as well as all the listeners that when things get hard.
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Have that faith. This isn't just lip service because we just watched my boy Pat here calling him out. Calling you up. Not calling you out. Calling you up. That, you know, when it gets tough, we abandon ourselves. We abandon what we know works. I'm in trouble on this podcast because my mom and my Aunt Janice, they went to a Catholic church in New Jersey called St. Michael's. So for me not to know that, I mean, off the top of my head. Ask him.
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Yes. So I'm going to get grilled in this. I just heard about it. I just heard about the soul contracts. I'm just fascinated. I'm going to learn it all. I'm getting... Yeah, great point, though. People are probably like, I'm getting... Kelly, what's happening? You're getting weird. But I just want to live a peaceful life and it's joyous. And these things bring me comfort. A lot better than any kind of weed or alcohol. This is just... This is fun. I got to ask. This is so important. And I can't believe I took this long to ask you. How'd the dog get out? How'd the dog get out?
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Oh, so great, great point. So my other son, I had three of my four kids home. My other son had to go in.
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And very, very careful down the same stairs I just busted out. And he picked them up. Yeah, it's a good point. So I made it. Yeah, it's a good point. So I'm leaving my dog. That's a great point. So my hands are bursting in blood. I'm still leaving my daughter holding this dog in the mud as we left. But yeah, that's how we got out. We were talking about dogs and manly dogs. I have a little 10-pound Yorkie. But he travels with me everywhere. And little did I know it, I bought him just before the pandemic and just before I started this heart-of-the-life transformation.
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And that guy has been with me through thick and thin. I just posted this morning about the one thing that I did, the truth that I had to look at and that it was the hardest to deal with was that all the friends that I've lost, the so-called friends since I've decided to up-level my life. Because it holds up a mirror and they don't want to do it. But that guy...
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It was me and him all during the pandemic. You're never alone, man. Even if it's a dog, you're never alone. Let's dig into Colleen a little bit more because I can't help but think had she not died, that accident would have never happened. And you've said this in your book.
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What did you mean? Well, good point. And I got a good sidebar on that. What I say is, you know, I'm not sure my brother and I would have been on the dock that day, you know, talking about her, right? I mean, you know, it was kind of the impetus to get us out there that morning. It was just kind of reflection. You know, maybe something else would have got us out there that day. I don't know.
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But, you know, I talked to my son, my youngest son, Ethan, about this question because you guys shared this question with me that you were going to ask this. And I said, boy, Ethan, check this question out. You know what my son told me? He goes, Dad, it's because Colleen was with you that you lived and you lived your hand.
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You just stole my thunder. That's what I was about to say. Everything happens for you. Yes. You know, Tony Robbins says that, right? Life doesn't happen to you. It happens for you. And, you know, just the spirit of her. I mean, she was there with me that morning, even though we were chatting about her. And then she was there with me. Interesting. Well, John, think about it. If we look back in our lives, they say hindsight is 20-20. You know, and it's just something I picked up from my parents. Hindsight is 20. But if you really think about it, it means that you can see perfectly going backwards and how everything aligns.
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And every single thing, oh, had this not happened, that wouldn't have happened. And man, I wish that wouldn't have happened. But what ripple effect would have happened? I'll give you one. My parents were tremendously abusive to me. But they made me tougher than nails. And I built this big body. The first thing you notice, I walked downstairs. You could see me coming around the corner. You stood up because you could see me and feel me. Had they not been so abusive, I wouldn't be this guy. So in many respects, I'm like...
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Thank you. Thank you. Now, you have to take the blessing and you got to run with it and not think that it's out to get you. And that's what really harder than life, happier than life and healthier than life is about. It's taking the lemons and making lemonades.
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out of it. Andy Stanley says this in The Principles of the Path book. He says, you cannot figure your life out in the present. You got to look behind you and then you can connect the dots. And you're exactly right about that. Let's get into your book, The Possibility Mindset, because that's literally...
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That's me, bro. I grew up poor kid in eight mile and all my friends are dead or in jail. And I'm possible. It says impossible says I'm possible. I can't wait to dive into this. So you say specifically that I agree with possibility is not luck. Then what is it?
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Let's define luck for a second, all right? Luck is when preparation, right, meets opportunity. You've heard that a million times on Zabai. And I think you could almost say that, I should say that when preparation meets possibility.
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Ooh. Because I do believe, and I've failed in some of the possible things that happened in my life, but I've also taken advantage of some of the things that are possible in my life. It comes from action and vision. And I talk about these six concepts, and I'll just share them briefly with you. Please do. And it spells the word praise. And I think that's very important because, I mean, there's things you can praise that happen in your life.
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The first one is perception. It's seeing what's actually there versus what you want to see. And I think we have a lot of tendency to see things quickly, impulsively, and not take a deeper dive. So when you see those perception things, when you could see what's actually there, you can have a better possible, better outcome.
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How do you do it without the lens, without your baggage, without your... I think nobody has success alone. And I think having that inner circle and having those people around you and having... And I probably have been erred to ask too many questions sometimes and have getting too many people involved. But I believe in getting people... Sometimes when you plant those ideas in somebody else's brain, they can see things a little bit clearly for you. And sometimes... So I think it comes down to faith, those people closest to you, and trying and being patient.
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Be impatient. I'm going to throw one at you and then we'll get back to praise. You know what I've been using? And I'll show it to you. It's AI. I've programmed AI to disagree with me, but also give me my blind spots.
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Your friends, they don't want to see you in pain and they want to see you succeed. So I think sometimes that friend that is just trying to comfort you isn't who you need. My trusty old AI will tell me exactly how it is. I've over-programmed mine. So I'm not telling you guys...
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to do this, but I'm not telling you not to do it. I use my AI to be my sounding board, and it can't give me emotion because that's what AI is, no emotion. So I would tell you if you're struggling with perspective, go to your AI and just say, I'm struggling with my perspective. I need an unbiased opinion. Give me both sides of it.
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Yeah, let me get one more point, too. I'll get last prop here. I'm going to use this as what it is. Okay. It's a colander. Okay? So one of the things I talk about, I do this concept called life alignment. And life alignment is passion, mission, vision, action, progression, jubilation, everything that ends in ION. But one of the things I love is your mission. And mission is basically what your individual core values are. And I think this is going to help you with that perception. So my core values, if you ask people,
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What your core values are. Let me ask you this question. What are your core values, Kelly? Joy, peace, and purpose. Okay, awesome. And excellence. That's better than most people when I ask them on the street. That's how I run the company. Yeah, so awesome, right? So you have those core values. I got 10 of them. Go, grow, give. Live, love, learn. Fun, trust, time, and momentum. And what I do with those is I take those decisions or those people I'm hanging out with
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And I pour my life decisions, what I call through my colander of life, my core values. Future book coming, by the way, the colander. And basically, it's I dump those things. And if it sticks, then I know that I need to hang out with those people or not hang out with those people. Or do I need to make those business decisions or not? And these are the things that I look at. And I think in the possibility mindset, that will help with perception. If you watch those life decisions or those people that you're going to be hanging around with,
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through that calendar of life. When did you learn that? It just came to me. But I've been- No, no, no, what, like how old were you? When I learned that concept? Well, you are an EOS guy and I am too. I ran my great clips through EOS. And I was at the EOS conference in 2018 in Atlanta, Georgia. And I sat through that conference and I said, man, businesses have operating systems.
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do humans. And I've kind of designed this operating system in my head right now. And that's this, you know, that EOS talks about core values. Well, businesses have core values, but so do you and so do I. And I think people have to go ahead and get their individual core values. And if they can and watch those things, what I call the calendar of life, it makes those things very easy to just find that perception because you're basically following in here.
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Here I go again saying I'm about to say it's hard to cut loose those friends that aren't for you, especially the ones that have been you with 30 years. But it really isn't. It is so simple. It's when you go to your friend and you leave drained. They got to go. And it's not to be mean. That's just it's in the EOS term. It's coach them up, coach them out. So it's either you have your standards and you have your boundaries. And if they keep violating, they got to go.
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I have some friends that I was just realizing that have been friends with me for 25 years. I haven't talked to them in months. The beauty part about it is you just stop returning calls and stop returning texts, they fall off. They fall off. That is the hardest thing to, it doesn't need to be hard, but we make it hard because, oh man, I've been friends with so and so for 30 years and he's been with me for ride and die. But then you think about it, all the crap that you've been through with them
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was their cost. Yes. And you were like, wait a minute, why was I in jail all those times with Steve? You know? And like, if they're not growing, they got to go. Right, right. Good point. Right? We talked about this before. Those people around you, you're either growing or you're slowing. So if those business things, right? So if you're finding that they're just sucking you dry, or as John says, they're energy vampires. Yep. Right?
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You know, you got to move on. I love it. I love it. I'm a big outcome person. I follow...
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Alex Ramosi, a lot to talk about the inputs versus outputs versus outcomes. And everybody gets confused. This is the whole participation trophy argument. Inputs. Well, I tried really hard. Well, great. Keep trying because you didn't get the outcomes or you didn't reach your goal. So what are...
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The two things a person has to train, specifically I know this is in the book, to get more good outcomes and fewer bad ones. I think it's vision and action. Okay, so vision. We talked about that already, right? Seeing what's actually there. Seeking abundance, not scarcity. I think it's another one.
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And the last thing is seeing potential in others before they see it in themselves. So those are three things on vision, right? I'm seeing what's actually there. I'm seeing abundance. I'm seeing potential in others before they see it in themselves. The action pieces are this. Right.
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is jumping into resistance. You say this in your book about this, you've gotta jump into adversity. You gotta be, so whether it's surveys, whether it's patient feedback, or whether it's employee feedback, customer feedback, you've got to run into the resistance, not run away from it. So I think resistance by action going into that, you find the true wisdom. So that's one thing in action. The other thing in action is interference.
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is you've got to remove those interferences action-wise to allow, to maximize things, right? Remove interference, build people. And the last thing, you've got to escape crowd mentality. And walking away from the crowd sometimes is the most difficult thing with possibility mindset. Some of the biggest mistakes I've made is following the crowd. Oh, this guy's investing in this, this guy's investing in this. I need to do that as well. And man, I've lost it. And so basically finding your true path. So I think it's vision and I think it's action. To go back to my life alignment model, the progression piece of it is,
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is just what Jack Canfield taught me. I went to his thing 10 years ago. It's try, fail, learn, try, fail, learn, try, fail, learn, try, fail, learn, try, succeed. And you just got to keep, it's the grind. I mean, just what you talked to me about your new book, right? You got to fix the mind and then you got to fix the grind. Yeah, get your mind right, then your grind right. You guys kind of need to go back and rewind what he just said. I realized something. I'm a student here and I listen to people like Dr. Pat here and I'm,
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I'm in awe because this is great stuff. And what he just said the last 30 seconds was paramount. I learned something this week. I've been posting some of my workouts lately and I post these massive, I'm lifting ridiculously heavy weights. And I was noticing that before I sit down to do something hard, especially working out,
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I'm one of those meatheads that if I can equate it to working out, I can get the metaphor to apply to business and in life and relationships and everything. So I posted recently, I was bench pressing 150 pound dumbbells, each arm. And I walked into this new gym here in Fort Lauderdale. I'm like, oh, they got 150s. I'm going to do it.
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So I properly warmed up and then I watched myself go through the vision before I picked those things up. I imagined my elbow hurting and then it automatically feeling better. I imagined myself getting 10 reps. So that vision is real.
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And I envision myself walking on stage. I envision myself as the number one podcaster in the self-improvement space. I see it. I know I can see the plaque that Steven and I hold up. And if you followed anything about Kobe Bryant or Michael Jordan or Tim Grover, they talk about you have to go through the vision in your head. So I envision it first. That's paramount that you said that. Yeah.
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And then the action is obviously everything. But what happens in those conversations, I listened to those and you said, you spit about six different good things. I'm like, and I don't have any notes to write down. That was so good what you just said. And it is. That interference I also use, I'm trying to go back to what you said. I call it noise and signal. You have to eliminate the noise.
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All of us have too much of it, even if it's just social media. Distraction leads to destruction. Distraction. We have screen disease right now. It's killing us, right? The phones, the computers, the televisions. And we talk about a memorable life, right? Heightened presence heightens memories. And that's why distraction is just killing us, Kelly. It really is.
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I mean, one of the things I do is an exercise like this. And I'll just ask you this question. Where were you in 9-11? Where were you when you saw the building? Do you remember where you were? I don't know exactly. Where were you? I was at my office. And I was looking at the TV. And I just, you could see the people. I was in my office. And it just was a sad, sad day. Why do you remember that? Because it was just a brutal day in history. You're ultra-present.
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And I think that those ultra-present moments, good things and bad things, they enrich those memorable parts of our life. I just got back from my 40th class reunion at Charlotte Catholic High School in Charlotte. And, you know, everybody's had these pictures and stuff. And people would show you pictures like, man, you're at that party and you just don't remember.
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And I'm just sitting there thinking, I don't even remember this thing. Talk about, do you remember this or you remember that? The reason I don't remember it, I probably wasn't as present as I needed to be. So heightened presence heightens memories. There's no doubt about that. I would take it a step further and our mutual friend John helped me do this, by being present is, you can heighten some of the most mundane or simplest things in life. I walked into here yesterday
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from Detroit, walked in, house was completely clean, and I'm like, everything is perfect here. And I just took, just stepped for a second, went, how blessed.
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And lucky am I that I get to live this life. I flew first class down here. It was actually smooth for once. I haven't been on a smooth airline in forever. St. Michael was with you. Yeah, right, right. Archangel Michael. I don't know who was with me, but it was smooth. And I walked in and said, wow. And it just, I remember that. I'm way more present now. And it just makes life so much better. Because like you said,
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Colleen was here one day and she's not the next. And you don't know when your time is up. I may not wake up tomorrow. At least I got to spend my last day with you. Wow. This is good, man. I get to do this. I get to do this. This is my passion. I love doing this. I've sat back like, what am I going to do? Well...
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Am I going to continue on the cybersecurity thing or am I going to do this? And this is where it's at. I get to meet people like you and I get to hang out with Stephen and watch millions of people get better. And if I can do it, anybody can. So I grew up in a life of absolute scarcity. So living in abundance was very difficult. So why do you choose to assume abundance even after a brutal year? I know why I do it.
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But why do you do it? You know, I'm going to tell just a quick story of a chiropractic mentor of mine. And I'm going to use my hands here. Just, I know people are listening to this. But picture your hands are real close. And I'll get them expanded here. But, you know, as a chiropractor, right, I went to, you know, graduate from high school. And then I went to undergrad. And then I went to college. And then I, you know, chiropractic school. And then I had an intern. And then I had this associate. And then I had to do, you know, I had to work for these guys. And you do all this stuff.
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but you settle for this. And why do we do that? Why don't we settle? And so I use this concept in my life, a limit concept, a vast vision. There's a book by Schwartz, it's The Magic of Thinking Big. And we had, how many times do we live?
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Once. And there's a book by Oliver Berkman called 4,000 Weeks. And the average person lives 4,000 weeks. It's 80 years times 52 weeks. It's 4,000 weeks. So I've got a – there's a countdown app you can get. You can put your 80th birthday in there, and it's freaky. This is not for everybody. No, that's – I'm freaked out. But, you know, I'm 58.
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I've probably got about 1,100 weeks left. And my point is that's if I've lived to 80. Then that's not promised. And so my point is that time is finite. Time is indeterminate. And as I said before, it's that motivation that, hey, I want to maximize this one life I've got. And go through those core values and go through God's calling and just be the best version of myself and do what is asked for me. But don't settle is my point. I think a lot of us are settling. And I've settled for things in the past.
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But I think we're called for big things on this earth. I've noticed that the bigger we're getting and the more I give, the more I'm in alignment with myself. Ed Milad talks about getting to the end of your life and the person you were meant to be and the person you are. The space between that is regret. And I think right here, right now, I know for a fact I am exactly where I'm supposed to be. So I'm loving it. We're in the middle of the struggle right now, both at NTM and Harder Than Life.
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But I'm having the time of my life, and this is exactly where I'm supposed to be. If overnight we got to 16 million subscribers, I wouldn't know what to do with it.
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If NTM grew up to, blew up to 10 figures, I would mock it up. So you have to take the process. We started off with teams and going through the struggle. You have to learn how to lose so you can learn how to win. That takes me to, you've owned some successful businesses. You had in the intro, I talked about the 50 salons and the multiple chiropractic clinics. What's the one success that is transferable across them?
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All things. I think the one success is just a fundamental Christian principle is treat people like you want to be treated. I mean, I just think that that is something that has allowed my chiropractic centers to be successful. I think my patients, the lion's share majority, almost all of the patients would say that that guy treated me with care and love like he would want to be treated.
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And I believe my employees at my Great Club Salons would say the same thing. That guy was fair, and he was appreciative, and he put love in his businesses. And I would say my four kids, I would believe would say the same thing. They were traded fairly with a lot of unconditional love, and I did the best I could for them.
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And he had a growth mindset. I think having a growth mindset is critical. And then trying to, as we said, you're either growing or you're slowing, just trying to be better each and every day and not be stagnant. I think the toughest thing in life is to be the same. It really is. That is so true. In your book, you said you were successful on paper, but you were doing it wrong. So what were you missing? Because somebody else is going to say, yeah, that's me. I don't think I smelled the roses enough.
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I think you can lose what you're doing sometimes. And I've erred in that, is just growing. And sometimes you're trying to do too many things. I've had too many balls in the air before. And not stepping back and putting proper perspective. We talked a lot about perspective today. It's having that perspective of being in the present,
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And being appreciative. Just what you just said about a minute ago. Hey, I like where I'm at right now. I mean, yeah, there's some struggles going on. I'm in it, but I'm appreciative of where I'm at. And I think there's something to be said about that. And I've failed to do that a lot in my lifetime. Let me paraphrase what I just heard. And you can correct me.
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your why got out of whack. Oh, I lost it. I've lost my why before. I have lost my why. You nailed me. Steven hammered me on that the other day. I said, Steven, we got to freaking hire these clippers. We got to grow. We got to do this. And he said, why?
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And he was testing me. And I know you were doing it. And he wanted to make sure I was doing it for the right reasons. We're going to help more people. There's more people. There's people hurting. We got to go out there. He goes, okay. He wanted to make sure it wasn't vanity. And just remember what your why is. And the what and the why. Name those. And not only name them, write them down. Be crystal clear. Okay.
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What are we going to do? We're going to go to the number one podcast in the self-improvement category in the world. Why? Because we're going to help millions of people. And we're going to pay it forward. The how? I have no clue. We'll figure that will appear. But you know what? Steven and I meet and the team keeps collaborating and we're growing and we're growing. And this time next year, watch. This is going to grow.
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We've gone all this time and we don't know the 10-10-10 filter that you have. So what is a decision you've ran through this 10-10-10 filter that you almost got wrong? And then what is that 10-10-10 filter?
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Yeah, so let me go with the 10-10 filter first. Yes, yes. Sorry, it's two questions at once. I do that all the time. Yeah, that's okay. Get excited. So my kids could recite this, and if they're watching this, they'll know what I'm talking about. And I've read this in some book. I don't know which book I read it in. But those decisions you make in 10 seconds can impact you in 10 minutes, in 10 hours, in 10 days, 10 weeks, 10 months, 10 years.
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a lifetime. I mean, you see this all the time with, you know, a bad decision could be, geez, we can even go through some bad, you know, people can, you know, get in a car after drinking too much. And that's a 10 second decision that could affect people's lives for a lifetime. So that's just one example, but, you know,
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So a lot of these things can have some impact. I'll tell you a 10-second decision I made that has impacted me for a lifetime is I made an impulsive decision to move to a small town called Moorhead City, North Carolina, based on just happen chance. I was at this community making a decision whether to practice chiropractic care there, and I so happened to show up during a festival.
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And as I sat there and watched these thousands, early tens of thousands of people, I made a deductive decision at that point, like, my gosh, this place is incredible. What little I know, it was a one-time-a-year festival, and I based my entire life of moving over there. So I made a 10-second decision, technically, like, man, this place is just crazy with people. We've got to go practice here. And here I am 30 years later.
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And I got lucky because, I mean, when we came back a couple months later to move there, there was actually nobody there because it was a very small town. But anyway, that was a 10-second decision I made that actually worked out. Now, there's 10-second decisions, or maybe not 10-second, but maybe you go into those 10-hour or 10-week decisions, and you look back, and maybe things haven't worked out as much from business decisions and stuff like that or investments.
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that he's like, man, how did that not work out? And I think that's the free will that we have here on this earth that God gives us. And sometimes things don't work out, but as we've talked about already, maybe there's a reason that that didn't work out, and we've got to look back and we connect those dots. Well, Pat, I'm going to go back to your preparation and possibility. You were prepared because most people would go to this place and say, oh, this is cool, I'd love to move here, and then not do anything. So you had the preparation, and then the possibility, you saw the possibility. I did. And look at what happened. So you just...
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Drank your own Kool-Aid, my friend. We talked about the 555 workouts I did last year. And I worked 80-hour work weeks in National Technology Management. And then I did 150 or so podcasts. I worked hard. I said, I'm stuck. And all I know, my default is to work harder. So what would you tell the operator who is grinding as hard as they can and they're still stuck? Great question. I would run through the possibility mindset.
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I would step back and just reevaluate a little bit, seeing and action. I would take a look at what's going on. I would do this. Actually, I would shift gears. Let me answer this a little bit differently. I would re-examine those questions you just said a minute ago.
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Refocus on the passion, their why. Refocus on your core values, what do you stand for. Refocus on what the vision is, where are you going. Refocus on the action of when are you going to start maybe doing things differently. Refocus on the progression, how are you doing. Maybe run your life through EOS if you're in a business situation and you're stuck because obviously EOS can, or some type of other operating system, individually or professionally can get you maybe out of that.
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and then refocus on what's giving you joy, what I call joyful jubilation, and who are you? Because I find out when you're
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Passion, mission, vision, action, progression, jubilation is in alignment. So is your soul. And if you're fighting something and you're stuck, I believe your life's not in alignment. And I think you need to go and examine those six steps to try to get it into alignment. Guys, email me, kelly at harderthanlife.com. I'll send you the prompt to actually give you that. Just put Pat in the subject line, kelly at harderthanlife.com. And I'll send you the prompt.
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that will get you running your life through EOS that you can use for AI. That's number one. Number two is I would tell you as I was listening to you to do the polar opposite, not of what you said, of what they're doing. I'm going through it right now. I would tell them to be still, be silent, surrender. Three S's as you're talking about. And be in silence. Do nothing. And your guys are going to hate it. Because if you have the wherewithal to grind like I did last year and you're doing that,
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You cannot stay still. And it is in the becoming of the stillness. It is in the becoming of the silence, the becoming of the surrender, that you will find all the answers. And I'm telling you, I just said...
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I wouldn't say this, that it's supposed to be hard. It's not hard. It is simple. It's almost too simple. And all of a sudden, and I've done all this, and surrender, let go, let God, all things are going. You sit here and go, it can't be that simple. So yes, refocus. Do all that. And then just be still. In my book, The Power of Being Present, I talk about this recipe.
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And I talk about the first thing is you've got to find your place. And you talk about that with your three S's, right? Solitude. And I call solitude really solitude because you can find your soul when you're solitude. But find your place. My place is my dock. Believe it or not, I went back to my dock.
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to find that even though I've had a lot of tragedy on my dock. I really have. My hand, I lost a dog tragically on my dock. But that's my solitude. But yes, so I call five, I'll give the recipe about how to be present. It's find your place, follow your memories. So go into your memories, go into those things that are bothering you, face those feelings.
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Face those feelings. Those feelings are gratitude, forgiveness, faith, hope, and love. And then you can focus on being present, and then you free yourself to acceptance and meanings. And that recipe will get you grounded from those grief things that you're going through to get back to being present. But it starts with finding your place in solitude, as you just said. You're Mr. Positive, man. It's...
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You know, there's a lot of people are listening like, Kelly, Pat, I don't feel those things. I feel worthless, less than. So I would tell you, I would just put a little spin on his feeling is healing and lean into that still. Because those are thoughts are magical lies. Because I can tell you that's how I felt. I felt that I was unlovable. I was worthless. And I was bad. And I was a flat out...
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POS. And I was none of those things. It's just what my... The programming I was brought up in there. So feel into those feelings. That's just my one little spin on that. Love that. My daughter that you saw the picture of is 17 years old. And she is my everything. She is my why. You spell love with four letters. Time. T-I-M-E. I believe this. I don't know where the heck I've read this before. But I...
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Literally in the 17 years or 15 years that I've been away from her mother, I changed my parenting time maybe five times because I made her absolutely know that her time with me was the most important time. And now 17 years old, she has, she called it reverse daddy issue. She grew up knowing every, a man was taught that a man is good. Where did you come up with that?
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I don't know if I read it or just thought about it. I don't know. But it's so true, right? It's where you put your time. It's where you put your love. You either have to invest in your kids early or you're going to invest in them later. And it's a lot more expensive to invest in them later. I found this, and you're kind of in this journey. I found this with kids, too, real quick on parenting. I learned this from John Rosemond. You know, zero to two, you're just a caretaker.
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2 to about 11, 12, you're the disciplinarian. 13 to 19, you're the mentor. So you go from caretaker to disciplinarian to mentor. You're in the mentor group. And then once you're 22, 23, you become their friends. And I think that people sometimes are short circling that, I want to be a friend too early, right? They struggle a little bit. So caretaker, disciplinarian to about 11, 12, then you're the mentor, you're in the mentorship group. I think by handling those types of cycles properly, I think that you can throw the time into, because you're in that mentorship time right now. And that's just so critical.
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And you got a daughter, too. That's interesting times with 13 to 19-year-old daughters there. So I wish you all the best. I'm sure you guys were having a great time with it. So for me, I had that, and I read this in your book, too, and this is why I liked it. We went from chasing more to choosing just presence. She doesn't care.
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what we have. She cares that she has my time. And you had mentioned that. What did it cost you by chasing more instead of being present before you made the choice to be present? Cost me my senior year at my daughter. And when I moved to Nashville, Tennessee and her senior year, and that was, it's one of the biggest regrets of my life. So I literally tried to move my daughter senior year.
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So I chased more, going to 22 to 50 salons. We moved my daughter to Nashville with us. That was a disaster. And then in a couple weeks, we realized that we had to move her back. So that's what it cost me. It's cost me time. Yeah, that's a hurt. There's some regret in there. Keep going.
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Your octave dropped? Yeah, that's a tough one. People ask me, you know, one of the biggest regrets. And, you know, interesting, my dad worked for IBM. And IBM also stands for I've been moved. And to chase that, to go higher in IBM, you've got to move your family a lot. And he never did. He moved us once. But he kept us, and he kept on declining those options to move us around because he saw more value in building a family than others.
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He felt the abundance was you can have a great career and a great family at the same time. It wasn't either or.
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Well, that's, wow, we're nearing the end of the show. And that's the big life lesson. People say work-life balance. There's no work-life balance. It is emotional intelligence. And it is the ceiling of your life is the healing that you're willing to do. And when you get that, you get in complete balance. And one, it's not even a balance. It's just, it's never be the teeter-totter.
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Never. If it's a teeter-totter, your life is so out of alignment, it's not even funny. Because as my emotional intelligence and as my healing grows, so does all of my, quote-unquote, material success things. Right. And the funny thing about it is when you get there, you don't even care. Right. Good point. I couldn't care less about anything I have.
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And that is scary when you've been grinding your entire life to get here. And now all of a sudden I've healed and I don't even care about any of it. I don't care. I literally could sell everything I have. As long as I'm alive, I'm good. And the podcast. I need the podcast. And a book. I like to read. It's so funny. You keep quoting authors. It's a curse. Because I learn. I'm going to learn it all. I keep learning, learning, learning, learning. You go in the other room. I got another book.
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And I read this in your book, 10 pages a day. Yeah, at least. It's 10, 15, yeah. At least. I go 10 pages. I always do the most of it. So if it's 10 pages or a chapter, whatever is more is what I do. I at least get a chapter in. Sometimes I'll just sit and binge. Planes. On planes you can binge. On the planes. And when I'm in solitude. The weekends, TV never goes on for me. I'll just read.
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And read and read. And there's some days that I'm just so exhausted. I just take it easy. And that's the new me. If I wasn't grinding, I was dying. And if you're growing, you're slowing, even the rest portion of me is growing. And I need it now at 50, man. That was a big thing. Great point about work-life balance, though, in the One Thing book.
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There's no such thing as work-life balance. You said it's called counterbalance. Oh. And so you could swing and, hey, I'm in the work really heavy right now. You know, hey, family knows that, but they know that I'll be heavy on the family sometimes too, and work will suffer. So by the way, it's a counterbalance. But if you can recognize it's a counterbalance and you're not gripping, oh, my God, I'm not equaling those out.
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You sound like you grew up a good Christian family. I didn't. Most of our listeners didn't. And I would tell you this much. If you don't, what you don't heal, what you don't repair repeats. So I kept hitting from a scarcity mindset, from a victim mindset, from a worthless mindset. And I could only get to a certain part. So I had to heal that to go up. So that's just, I want to open up to other possibilities.
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Let's say we're going to wrap this up, then we're going to rapid fire. So if someone is in the middle of their own worst year right now,
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what would you advise them first move be? I would take an assessment of themselves and just be reflective. I would follow my recipes. I would first find your place, follow those memories, face those feelings, focus on being present, and then try to free yourself from acceptance and meaning because there's some things you're going through. So that's the first thing I would do.
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And then the second thing I would do is I would focus on your passion, your mission, your vision, see what you're taking action on, progression and jubilation. How happy are you and some of the things that are going on in your life? And focus on your life alignment. Third thing, I would get around some great people.
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Make sure you're around the right people. I think that's critical. And the fourth thing is, and these are not in any order, but pray. And pray and meditate and just give it time and be patient. I say this, and I'm going to start saying this a little bit louder, guys. There is no time like today because there's no excuses to be...
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out of shape. There's no excuse to not be working on yourself, mindfulness, because all this stuff is free. Everything, all of our material is free. I don't have a coaching program. I'm not trying to sell you something. Ed Milet, who I know now, he was my mentor, didn't even know it. John Gordon, who we do know, great friends. He was my, I read the energy bus over and over and over again.
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So you can get online and get this stuff for free. You're a little overweight. You can, for a few bucks, you can go and get some sort of healthy peptide that will help you through that. You can't afford therapy. Most of it's covered by insurance now. And you can get it on BetterHelp. There is no reason other than being lazy. I'm sorry.
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And that's going to be controversial. But there's no time like this right now. AI and technology has leveled the playing field. We're all even. We all have access to the same information. Who's going to take that next step? You talked about Goggins. That's what he talks about. So I'm so glad I went through what I went through because I...
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I'm going to take action. Massive action. Might be too much action, but I'm going to take action. So, guys, this is a great time to be harder than life, to be happier than life, and to be healthier than life. Pat, we said so many good things. We started off with praise. You did the P, which was present. And then I took a...
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Off the tangent. No problem. Can we go with what R is? Yeah, sure. And we hit it, but I'm going to go ahead and make it cleaner for the audience. Okay? So the six principles of the possibility mindset. Perception. Seeing what's actually there versus what you want to see. Resistance.
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Go into it, see it, find it, because that's where your true wisdom is. A is abundance. Seek it, not scarcity. I is interference. Remove it and build people up. S is seeing potential in others before they see it in themselves. And E is escaping crowd mentality and finding your true path.
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So P-R-A-I-S-E, perception, resistance, abundance, interference, seeing, and escaping. That is so good. Thank you for being here. We're going to end every show the way we do all of them, which is rapid fire. One sentence to one word. Best concert you've ever been to. Van Halen or Kings of Leon. Favorite movie of all time. Gladiator. One thing you are genuinely terrible at. Directions. Directions.
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Awful. The book you would put in your kids' hands.
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It's Success Principles by Jack Canfield. I know John Gordon may be upset with me on that answer, but I love his books, but Success Principles. He likes Jack. Yeah, okay. Ping pong or golf? Got the best ping pong game around here. Yes, I do. That's second to none. Little known fact, I will give you a run for your money. I learned in prison. All right, we've got to find a table before we leave. My best friend and I were playing ping pong on his birthday. Let's get after it. First thing you do on a morning that already feels hard.
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I go to my doc and I meditate. Slowing down. See? Finish this line. Possibility begins the moment you... Wake up.
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Oh, microphone drop. People get out and buy books. They are so good. You just share this episode. Be sure to email me for that prompt, kelly at harderthanlife.com. This has been a pleasure, man. I just met a new brother from another mother. Thank you guys. Until next week, be harder than life.
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