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Season 4 - Episode 66 - Mind control is a real thing · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happen to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the Coop, and
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  let's start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. OK, we are talking today about
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  how other people control us and we don't even realize it.
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  Now, let's take a little bit of a walk on this one.
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  So let's say you're in a conversation with someone, and
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  that conversation becomes heated.
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  You get angry, there's something going on, you start to feel a
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  certain way. You end up in an argument with
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  that person and they they have pushed your buttons.
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  They have everyone that you know is a trigger on your bus
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  emotionally is driving. They run to the front of the bus
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  and you are irritated, whatever the emotion might be.
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  But let's use irritated, frustrated, angry, whatever.
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  It doesn't matter. They're at the front of the bus
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  driving and then the you 2 separate.
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  You go into separate rooms, office, whatever, wherever the
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  location may be, all of a sudden does it end?
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  Does that mean because your body is away from that person, has
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  the whole thing ended? No, Unfortunately, no.
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  It doesn't work that way for most of us.
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  What ends up happening, and it's so fascinating, is that that
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  that little simple separation really doesn't do much, does it?
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  Because in our head, we start Monday morning quarterbacking
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  it. We start having conversations
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  with ourselves and all the emotions inside of us start
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  having a conversation and we will take the time, like think
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  about this. We take all the time to replay
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  the argument, to play replay the frustration, to replay the
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  situation over and over and over.
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  Then we start saying, OK, I wish I would have said that if I'd
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  only thought of this. And we start getting mad at
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  ourselves because we didn't perform the right way.
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  And we start thinking about, OK, well, I should have seen this
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  coming. And we now we have turned our
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  anger and our irritation from that person to ourselves because
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  we're mad that we didn't do the right thing in the moment.
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  Now, mind you, this is going to continue because that's we're
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  not done. Now it's night time.
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  Wherever has happened, whenever, whatever time this has happened,
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  now you got to go to bed and now you're taking it with you.
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  And now you're still thinking about it.
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  So now you're going into a place that's supposed to be sacred for
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  a time for relaxation and like repairing your body, because
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  sleep is about relaxation, repairing, going into a deep
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  status of being able to relax for once.
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  In this godforsaken day that's been going on, you want to go
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  relax. And now you can't even relax
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  because you're replaying these situations in your head over and
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  over and over and over and wishing you had said things,
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  beating yourselves up for going in that direction.
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  We just beat ourselves up for it and we don't get any sleep now.
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  We wake up and we're frustrated because we couldn't sleep well
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  because all of this happened because it wasn't right.
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  And, and it goes on and on and on until we decide maybe we have
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  to deal with this or we have to let it go or we have to change
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  our thinking. I mean, yes, Can we let go of it
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  sooner? Absolutely.
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  Have we? No, because we haven't allowed
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  our ourselves to process it in the proper way and recognize
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  that whatever happened, whatever that person did, whatever they
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  said, however they showed up, they pulled our bus over, they
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  ran in and they threw up all down the aisle of our bus, all
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  their vomit and grossness. And now they jumped off the bus
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  and they seem to be going through their life happy go
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  lucky, not caring. And you're over there with a
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  stinky vomit bus driving it everywhere you go.
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  That's what happens. And we suffer further.
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  We suffer over and over and over when these arguments and these
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  types of things happen. We replay it over and over and
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  over in our minds and unless and until we recognize that's what
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  we're doing, we will suffer from it again and again.
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  So it's like the argument, the problem just keeps going and
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  going and going and going. And unfortunately there's no end
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  insight, right? Like it just seems to keep
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  going. And how frustrating is that,
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  that we are just, Oh my gosh, we're just at that place where
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  we're like, OK, I don't, I don't even understand why it's
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  happening at this point. I'm so frustrated.
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  And days can go by, weeks sometimes can go by.
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  And and we're still doing that to ourselves because we're still
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  thinking about it now. Does it change over that path of
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  time? Yes, organically.
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  It will soften, it will change, it will blur.
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  And eventually you get to the place where you literally, I
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  can't even anymore, I'm exhausted.
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  But you give up based on exhaustion, not on healing.
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  So today is all about recognizing if you're in that
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  process right now and you're hearing this, then you have to
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  say, I can be in control. I can clean up this vomit in my
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  bus. And I don't have to do this, but
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  I have to be conscious of it. I have to be aware of it, and I
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  have to choose a different driver.
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  And you have to know that you, every time you let that thought
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  come back without having a clear resolution in your mind, you are
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  letting that whole situation dictate you again.
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  And that's not fun. So it's a matter of pulling back
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  from it and saying, Nope, I choose something better.
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  I choose a different driver, I choose a different belief and I
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  choose a different outcome. And I will not think about this
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  anymore. And I you force yourself to
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  think about it in a different way.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.