Latest / Giving Pain Purpose with Lyndsay Soprano / Soar With Tapping with Amy Vincze
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- Lyndsay Soprano (00:02.67) my goodness, human behavior. What in the world drives the motivations behind our behaviors? And I am the queen of behavioral issues, like straight up. It started really young. The acting out, acting up behaviors, if you will. And I'm not really sure where the rebellion stems from. Where did my... seeking out alternatives to making me feel better come from where did this mountain of anxiety stem from that I live with on the daily. But on this show we are seekers right we're here. I am here seeking for me I'm seeking for you. And I don't know about you but I'm sick and tired of masking my emotions I'm sick of masking my symptoms I'm sick of masking my feelings. I want resolve. I want resolve to this. want resolve to the hidden emotional and energetic blocks that have gone unnoticed and now have been like starting to slow that slow boil, right? When you're boiling your noodles and you got that little bubble and then all of a sudden your pan explodes and you're like, crap, I forgot about it. My bread's in the oven. All of that. And all of that boiling up has turned into illness, chronic pain. Quite frankly, massive irritability, anger, resentment, name it. So what can we do to transform this? How can we truly alter our lives? Are you ready guys for daring and courageous approach to healing and end the emotional struggle? I sure am. And so today we are going to tap into the effectiveness of, well, tapping. And I know we have talked about tapping on the show before. We've had a guest of mine, Lauren Fonville, who is one of my faves on the planet. Lyndsay Soprano (02:09.858) But this is a completely different approach, even though they use the same technique. So I want to get into it. So today, we're going to talk about how chakras can be a map and guidance system to decode physical symptoms within our bodies. How to tap through fear and distrust within our bodies. How we can tap dance all over treatment from our doctors and lack of support and so much more. So without further ado, I would like to introduce you to my guest today, my beautiful and amazing, amazing Amy Vinsa. Hi, baby. Amy Vincze (02:48.026) Hi, thank you for having me. Lyndsay Soprano (02:50.488) my gosh, it's so great to have you here. I'm going to tap. I'm going to tap you in here. She is a tapping coach, healing advocate and founder of the Soar with Tapping app, which is amazeballs with over 20 years in wellness and 16 plus years specializing in emotional freedom techniques. That's EFT, aka tapping guys. Amy has helped countless people release trauma, pain and limiting beliefs after using tapping to heal her own chronic conditions. She's made it her mission to share this powerful, accessible tool with the world, which means you guys. Amy believes healing is possible and so do I. And often, it starts right at your fingertips. So, I'm rolling out the red carpet for you, babe. I would like to start just quickly with your personal journey that led you to healing yourself from painful, chronic medical conditions. And then let's take it from there. Amy Vincze (03:44.322) Mm-hmm. Lyndsay Soprano (03:48.824) That's okay with you. Great. Amy Vincze (03:50.256) I'd love to. I'd love to. Like you, I have always been a seeker. I have always been really curious about human behavior, about why we do things, you know, what's the underlying motivation for why we do things. But it was a cancer diagnosis. I got breast cancer when I was 31 years old. Nobody in my family had a history of breast cancer. And like you know, many other people, it was my own suffering through that and through things like depression and anxiety that kind of got me down on the path of really trying to heal this kind of stuff. shortly after I was diagnosed, I was at a Tony Robbins event and a friend of mine introduced me to tapping and I recognized it as a really powerful tool immediately. but I had limited success with it. So I was using it and sometimes it would work, sometimes it would fall flat. But then about seven years ago, I had a kind of a another crisis moment in my life where everything around me was crumbling. I was in pain a lot. I was about to get fired from my job. mean, every just everything panic attacks every day. And I started using tapping a little differently. in that I started kind of intuitively backing out of what my problems were, what I was tapping on initially. So I was tapping on the symptoms. I was tapping on things like procrastination and then I would ask myself, what would happen if I moved forward with this? And then the answer came as, well, there's a fear that I'm gonna fail. And then I would ask myself, what? What would be so bad about failing? mean, what would be the really horrible thing about that? And I would answer it and say, well, it would prove that my worst fears are true, that there really is something wrong with me. And that's why my dad left when I was a kid. So it really got like all the way down to the core issue really fast. And it was such a revelation and epiphany in that moment to realize that that was the source of Lyndsay Soprano (05:57.23) man. Amy Vincze (06:10.232) the procrastination. wasn't that I was lazy, all these other things that I had assumed. It was this thing that happened way back when that make made me so hyper vigilant that I had to be perfect that I had to do things a certain way in order to get the love and attention that I was so desperately needing. And I was still operating from the place of that little girl that little wounded girl. And so I knew that I needed to heal that. And when I started really zeroing in my tapping on that and telling myself, of course I feel this way. Of course I'm procrastinating. It all means so much to me. It's not just failing at this one thing. It means that my whole life and my purpose is in question. And it doesn't have to be rational. I realized it just has to feel true. It has to feel real and it did for me. And so I tapped for maybe two weeks, half an hour a day and everything totally changed for me. I was able to, you know, when you're looking through the lens of feeling like there's something wrong with you for your entire life and all of a sudden you take that lens off of your eyes. It's like, all of a sudden I could see that the sky was blue. It was amazing to me. And at that point, that was when I was like, have to share this with people. They have to know that this is possible. Everybody's so focused on the symptoms that we're experiencing rather than, you know, what, why it happened. Yeah, that's everything. Because if you neutralize that beginning moment, that seed, then maybe you're not dealing with any of the symptoms again, right? Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (08:06.254) Yeah. It's incredibly powerful. So for those of you who do not know what tapping is, because there are, mean, we've got, I'm gonna assume that every listener on this show has listened to every episode from one until today, which would be amazing if you have, but if you are new here, can you just quick, just give a little intro about what tapping actually is outside of tap dancing? Cause everybody knows what that is. Amy Vincze (08:20.398) Thank Amy Vincze (08:30.242) Yes. Everybody knows that. Yeah. So EFT tapping is a combo of three different modalities. And I think that's what makes it so powerful. So firstly, it is energy therapy. That's just like acupuncture in that it utilizes the 14 energy meridians found in Chinese medicine. Instead of needles, obviously we're using the percussion of tapping on our acupressure points in order to facilitate healing. There's also the cognitive therapy aspect where you are actively talking about what it is you want to release, which is a huge, huge thing to actually get it out of your body. But then there's also the somatic therapy element because when you're tapping on your body, you can't help but kind of gather your energy back from the past. Lyndsay Soprano (09:09.326) It's a big deal. Amy Vincze (09:24.302) gather your energy back from worrying about the future and then really get yourself grounded in the present moment where most of the time everything is actually okay. So you're doing all these three things at once which are a really powerful combo. But what's happening on a scientific level is that when we get stressed, the stress center in our brain gets triggered. The amygdala gets triggered, we get into fight or flight mode really easily. For most people, it's like 24-7 now. It's become a really normalized state to be in. Yes, yes. So when we're in that state though, and cortisol is rushed in our bodies. Lyndsay Soprano (09:58.318) We're always being chased by a tiger these days. Yeah. Yeah. Amy Vincze (10:09.53) It's really hard to kind of get us out of that state. So what tapping does is that is telling our amygdala over and over and over again, deescalate, deescalate, deescalate. It's okay to feel safe and calm in this moment. And it is taking cortisol out of our body. It's reducing it 43 % faster than if you had done nothing else. It's lowering our heart rate. It's lowering our blood pressure. It is increasing our immune system response and increasing our happiness levels. It's doing all of those things at once. So that's why it's so powerful and so fast. It's really taking that stress response out of the equation. It's allowing kind of the nervous system signals to get to the prefrontal cortex in our brain again, which is where we can make sound logical decisions. Lyndsay Soprano (11:04.558) What are sound logical decisions? Amy Vincze (11:07.074) Right. Right. Lyndsay Soprano (11:10.488) I'm sorry, I'm new to this. It's like sleep, what is that? Right, because I would love to do all of those three things. Sounds, logical decisions with sleep combined. But when you're so stressed out all the time and the overwhelm is there, it's hard to sleep and make logical decisions. sound logic, because you're just like. Amy Vincze (11:23.96) Yes, yes, and we should. Amy Vincze (11:33.686) It's impossible, really. Lyndsay Soprano (11:36.278) Everything feels like, I always tell my sweetie that it feels like my brain, like somebody is scrambling eggs in my brain all day. That's what it feels like. It's just a fricking scrambled egg pie up here. Amy Vincze (11:42.584) Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah. You're triggered 24 seven, you've got cortisol in your body constantly. And that is your normalized state, especially if you've been in that state for a long period of time. That's like, that's normal. That's normal. Lyndsay Soprano (11:50.765) Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (12:00.718) forever. all I know. Yeah, that's all I know. I've been chased by a bear since I was nine. That's it. Hard stop. Boop. Amy Vincze (12:06.254) And there's, we have to admit too that society kind of conditions us to have, feel like a little badge of honor about that too. Like I'm so stressed because I'm important, you know, and I'm busy and I do a really good job and you know, all those things. And so we kind of make it okay. We make it okay, but we are not, our bodies are not meant to be in that place. Lyndsay Soprano (12:14.476) I made it. Right. Yeah, and I work and I run my business and I can do all of these things. Yeah, yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (12:28.334) We normalized it 100%. We're like, this is what, and in fact, it's interesting that you said that. I will call this woman, her name is Stephanie, I won't use her last name, but she, when I first started my marketing agency, it was actually a communications consultancy. I didn't know what the F I was doing. I was like, I'm starting my business, I don't know what it's gonna be called, I don't know what I'm gonna do, but it's called Metamorphosis Creations. Amy Vincze (12:48.407) Uh-huh. Lyndsay Soprano (12:56.138) And I started it and ended up being called Metta. then I turned it hard to believe that now Metta is Facebook. But whatever it was Metta, I should have trademarked that then. So Zuckerberg could give me a billion dollars. But I turned Metta into Bound by Marketing. So anyways, long story short, I started that business and it was like immediately the first thing I did when I walked in the door and I met this gal, Stephanie, she made me wait. Amy Vincze (12:56.279) Nice. Amy Vincze (13:01.988) Ha ha ha ha ha! Amy Vincze (13:09.496) Okay. Lyndsay Soprano (13:25.048) for 12 hours on a couch waiting to meet her. And I sat there and I sat there and I waited and I waited because I'm like, I'm gonna get this gig. And she taught me more stuff about business than anybody has ever taught me about business. But what she also taught me was wake up at four o'clock in the morning and go to bed at four o'clock in the morning, which means you don't stop. And she taught me Amy Vincze (13:49.422) Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Right. Lyndsay Soprano (13:54.552) to work with the man, work with the man, work with the business, work with corporate American, all of that. And so that was ingrained in me when I was really, my business was first starting to take off. it's just, it's been something that I do not not think about her every single day of my life. Good, or ugly. Amy Vincze (14:14.458) Yeah, yeah. And that type of behavior is really outwardly rewarded, right? Everybody looks at you like, oh my God, she's so efficient. She's so powerful. She's so, you know. Lyndsay Soprano (14:19.708) Of course! Lyndsay Soprano (14:27.182) Yeah, because I had to do like 25 lines of blow in the bathroom to get through the day. Like legitimately, at all the conferences, everybody was trying to stay up, to keep up with everybody. Like that is insane behavior. Yep, yep. Amy Vincze (14:33.048) Right? It's- Amy Vincze (14:42.516) It's is insane behavior. But yeah, but we reward it all the time. Yeah. So it's no wonder that people get stressed, especially if they're not operating at that level, or even if they are operating at that level, we feel pressure that we have to do that. And when we're there, then we don't have balance like it's just a crazy place to be. Lyndsay Soprano (14:48.32) all the time. Lyndsay Soprano (15:05.804) It is a crazy place to be. And a lot of this stress that we have self-imposed, lot of it, I mean, am the first person to call me out on anything, right? At this point in this show, mean, we're season three, I mean, guys, I mean, it's just, we're throwing it all into the Jones here, you know? Amy Vincze (15:08.74) Yeah. Amy Vincze (15:13.594) Mm-hmm. Lyndsay Soprano (15:27.854) I've lived a life that's been very, I've run it hard, I've lived so much, I'm so grateful, I've done all these things, I've seen so many places, I've been with so many people, and I've done all these amazing things in my life, and here I am, 50 % of my life in a wheelchair now. Was all of that worth it? I don't know. Some stuff was, maybe, I don't know, but we're getting me out of here, right? We're getting me out of here. Amy Vincze (15:44.228) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (15:55.062) Mm-hmm. Hell yeah. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (15:57.004) with my girl Amy. So how can we heal with tapping? And I know we're going to talk about chakras as part of the healing map because we've, like I mentioned in the opening and the intro, we've talked about tapping only with Lauren Fondville, which I just love her. She's just the sweetest pie on the planet. I just adore her. But we haven't talked about the chakra part. Amy Vincze (16:05.668) Mm-hmm. Lyndsay Soprano (16:21.184) of this healing within tapping. And so I would like to add that into this conversation. So we can talk about that. And then also after that, I kind of want you to be the host. I'm turning it over to you because I know that we've got some interesting guinea pig stuff coming up with me. So I'm to have you guide some of this conversation here. Amy Vincze (16:29.932) okay. Amy Vincze (16:36.384) We do, we do. Amy Vincze (16:42.69) Yeah, I'd be happy to. So starting with the chakras, I love using the chakras as a map to figure out what it is that we are holding in our bodies and in general, because we have not been taught how to really move through our emotions in a healthy way. So in general, when something traumatic happens to us or when we have really big uncomfortable emotions, we have not been taught how to deal with them properly. We've been told to shove them away, deny them, know, pretend they don't exist, make yourself busy, so that we don't actually have to feel any of the really uncomfortable stuff that is in our body. Lyndsay Soprano (17:31.51) I'm the queen of that. Amy Vincze (17:33.24) Yeah, so when I'm looking at a new client or when I'm questioning a new client, so I want to know where their pain is, where they're experiencing it in their body, because that's going to tell me which chakra is most affected. But also it'll tell me if they're experiencing tremendous guilt around it, if they're experiencing tremendous shame around it, because everybody has the trauma. That's always going to be housed in the first chakra. And that's always, always, always where we should start our work. That's root chakra. Yeah, down. Yeah. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (18:08.802) And that's root. Yep, it's sitting down on your pelvis, babies. That's where it's at. It's where we're sitting in it all day. We're sitting in the root cause of it, so we have to start there. Yep. Amy Vincze (18:17.961) the tailbone. We have to start there because if we start anywhere else, everybody wants to work on like the heart chakra because you know, there's love there or they want to work on the crown chakra because spirituality, you know, that whole thing. You don't start with the root, you're going to have a shaky foundation for the rest of your life and everything else that you do above that is not going to be as strong as it ever could be is if you create your strong foundation first. Lyndsay Soprano (18:36.782) love you. Lyndsay Soprano (18:49.39) Yeah, it's like building a house on sand. Amy Vincze (18:51.466) Exactly, exactly. So we have to start at the very root of the problem. So, you know, that's where trauma is housed. It's in the first chakra and that will affect the hips and the knees and the feet and in general the spine, but also bigger systems in our body like our skin and our muscles and our lymph and, you know, stuff like that. Lyndsay Soprano (19:19.576) fertility. Amy Vincze (19:21.274) Fertility more second chakra issue, but it will start with the first you can't go you can't go to number two you have to start with the first but reproductive stuff is more a second chakra and Because the first whenever the first chakra gets out of balance, it's gonna I don't know if I can swear it's gonna Okay, it's gonna fuck up everything else. You can't have a solid building on a shaky foundation You can't so it's gonna be tilted Lyndsay Soprano (19:23.502) Hmm. That's right, you gotta start with number one. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (19:32.718) Mm. Lyndsay Soprano (19:40.502) You can fucking swear on this show. Amy Vincze (19:49.676) or it's gonna be broken. So it makes sense that other things happen along the way, like the second chakra or the third chakra where you would have problems with digestion, people that have Crohn's or diverticulitis or something along those lines. That's definitely third chakra. But again, the source of it is the root. So you have to start there. But once you, honestly, once you take care of... the first, second, and third chakra, most of it will kind of align after that. Those are the areas that we need to focus all of our effort. Lyndsay Soprano (20:27.758) So how do you, when we're talking about chakras in regards to tapping, how does that work? Because I know you're talking about tapping on the meridians, like you would in acupuncture, as you would when we're talking about chakra work and all of that. So how does tapping, how do we start tapping at the root? How do we start working with tapping in chakras? Amy Vincze (20:39.279) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (20:52.206) Well, we're not working on the chakras directly. It's like having a map, but then you're driving a car. So you're using the chakras as information about where you need to drive the car. And what we know about the chakras is that they like to be in balance. They like to be in balance between power and vulnerability. Lyndsay Soprano (20:59.99) Okay, alright, that's a good analogy. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (21:10.124) Okay, that's fair. Amy Vincze (21:21.37) And a lot of us will be really heavy in one or the other and not have balance there. But I'm kind of going off on a tangent, but getting back to what really is important is starting with the trauma. The trauma is what created the shaky foundation in the first place. So working through the trauma itself is step number one. And I never, ever recommend somebody use something like an app to work through their trauma. trauma is so individualized and it is such a sensitive thing to work on that it really needs to be with a trained tapping professional or a trained therapist of some kind. Hopefully they do tapping because this is so much faster and because we're telling our amygdala to deescalate the entire time and it's okay to feel calm about this, it creates a really safe place to experience the trauma again. Right? So there's a lot of extreme emotions around trauma and sometimes it's so hard for people to even think about going there that we'll start with it in a vault like down on the other side of the city and the client is the only one that has the combo or the key so it is their choice 1000 percent. and just the awareness of it on the other side of the city can bring your intensity level up to a 10. So we start with it over there and we're not engaging at all. We're just tapping it down to zero and then we'll bring it a little closer and then tap that down to zero. And then maybe we open the door, but we're still not engaging. And then only when it feels safe do we start engaging and there's going to be. Lyndsay Soprano (22:50.638) Sure. Yeah. Amy Vincze (23:11.028) multiple points along the timeline of that event or multiple events that a decision was made that I need to feel guilty, ashamed, or I regret this decision. And each one of those decisions needs to be neutralized in order for the trauma to be neutralized. Now, once that is done, now you can really get started on the work, on the, I know, I know. Lyndsay Soprano (23:24.686) Ugh. Lyndsay Soprano (23:36.654) Now we're getting into the nitty gritty here. Yeah, because all of that just sounded a little scary on that road map because my road map is riddled with crazy fear stuff. You know, like, my God, we were having a great Gatsby party here. In fact, the this episode might be dropping like right before after the party. But anyways. Amy Vincze (23:47.617) I'm sure. I am sure. Amy Vincze (23:58.906) Have fun. Lyndsay Soprano (23:59.694) We're having a great Gatsby party at our house and it's been something that we finally got our house. We've been under construction for a year and a half. It's been a big hoopla. We finally got married after a million years of being together. It's his 185th birthday. There's like all kinds of wonderful things that are going on here, but we watched the great Gatsby. We watched both the Robert Redford the other night and we watched the Leo DiCaprio version of it again, I haven't watched it and still like, God dang it, is he adorable? He's 50. He's 50 guys. Can you believe it? What the hell happened to Leo? But he doesn't date anybody under 27, so we're all screwed. But anyways, there was this scene where they're like driving all frantically with the, in his yellow coupe and it's just all over the map and it just makes me, and they're running away from fear, they're running away from being scared and they're running and they're running and they end up killing somebody. Amy Vincze (24:38.563) No, no. Amy Vincze (24:54.874) Mm-hmm. Lyndsay Soprano (24:55.042) And it's just that constant feeling of like, we're driving away from it, we're running away from our fear, we're gonna fix it. And then what do we do? We blindside and we kill somebody else with it. No, I don't wanna do that. I don't wanna do it, yeah. And we hurt other people. We hurt people, hurt people, right? And I don't wanna do it. I know that I have and I don't wanna do it again. Amy Vincze (25:02.688) Yes, yes Amy Vincze (25:07.716) Yeah, yeah. And those are the, I know that's the hard work of it. That's the hard work of it. Yeah, we have to live. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Amy Vincze (25:24.281) Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (25:24.556) But I know that trauma, our own trauma, we don't even know how we affect other people by our behaviors. Like I even opened up about, know, talking about our behaviors. I don't want it to affect me, but I also certainly don't want it to affect other people. It's tough. I know. Damn it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Amy Vincze (25:35.129) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (25:41.114) We can't help it. We're humans. And our fears are kind of all over the place. So there's the trauma, but then the trauma creates the fears. And it's all of those decisions along the way that create the fears like, I'm not good enough, or I don't belong, or my body is a dangerous place, or something along those lines. Those are what I call foundational fears. Lyndsay Soprano (25:52.024) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (26:09.956) So we move from the trauma to the foundational fears. And that is the shadow. All of the fears are the shadow in the first chakra. So you move through all of those shadows. You neutralize all of those shadows. And then your first chakra will be in balance. And then you can go up to the second chakra. The second chakra shadow is guilt. And No, whatever you feel guilty about, you feel guilty in your relationship, you feel guilty about what you did or didn't do with a friend or at work or, whatever it is, how you are sexually, how you are financially, how you are creatively, like all of those things are in your second chakra. And those all have to be in balance between power and vulnerability. I don't know many people that have struck a great balance with that, but it takes working through the shadow of guilt in that area in order to strike the balance. Lyndsay Soprano (27:10.702) We call that the Jewish guilt Olympics here in this household. I will not take ownership of that line. I know my therapist actually listens to this show. So I may the Jewish guilt Olympics that you should trademark it because it's true. It's like it's live and kicking here in our household. But yeah, I came from a very right wing Christian. Amy Vincze (27:13.83) huh. I like it. Amy Vincze (27:27.674) you Amy Vincze (27:32.238) Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (27:36.568) home and it was shame, shame, shame, shame, was guilt, guilt, guilt. mean, you get it from all of these places. And I don't necessarily blame so much the fact that that came from my parent side of things. I mean, there's an element that I'm still trying to deal with. But they only learn from what they learned from and then, know, and the goes on and on and on. And they didn't have the tools that we had. mean, when we were kids, you know, we were the same age and it was like, well, Amy Vincze (27:39.097) Mm-hmm. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (28:06.648) All right, good luck with that. We'll see you at the end of the night. Y'all hope you're doing good. Amy Vincze (28:10.594) Yeah. I mean, we're just definitely a product of our environment, right? So whatever they believed, we kind of just assume that that's what it is moving forward. And so we decide, my God, that was their stuff. They didn't do their work and they didn't recognize that they had a choice in this. And here I am now, I have a choice. and while it wasn't my choice to come in with this, it is now my burden to deal with it. Lyndsay Soprano (28:13.92) Did you? Yeah, yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (28:18.614) We had inherited, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, that was their stuff. Amy Vincze (28:40.216) because they never did. now, yes, yes. And now, and there's way more willingness now to look at it and to get curious about it and unravel it a little bit. And then hopefully we have the courage to lean in and actually do the work to get rid of it. Lyndsay Soprano (28:41.656) but we have an exit strategy. Lyndsay Soprano (28:59.374) And not just get excited about getting a new blender, a vacuum, and a new pair of pearls. Amy Vincze (29:03.578) Yes. Well, that's still exciting too. But we can do this work too. can have those things and, you know. Lyndsay Soprano (29:06.913) my God, don't, well, actually, I would really love a new vacuum. I'm not gonna lie. Lyndsay Soprano (29:17.001) We can be Leave It to Beaver and also solve all of the world's hunger problems. That's because we're women and we rock. Give me a break. Sorry guys, but we're just better than you. We love you, but we're just better than you. Amy Vincze (29:22.4) We're all of those things, right? We're not... Yeah. Yeah. We're not just one thing. We're multifaceted. Lyndsay Soprano (29:34.786) I hope that I hope that's an uptick on listenership actually. Amy Vincze (29:38.583) Yeah. So. Lyndsay Soprano (29:42.35) Oh my gosh. So we've got one and two. Are we gonna go through all of these puppies right now? Cause if you want to, it's all you baby. I know that we're trying to use me as a guinea pig as well. So I wanna make sure that I, and I know that I'm adding into it, but it's so much fun to talk to you. I know. Yeah. Amy Vincze (29:59.362) I love it too. Well, let's go through real quick. So people just have an understanding. So with the third chakra, well, the second chakra, it's all of our reproductive organs and around to our lower back. People that have lower back problems, which I used to have a ton, that's all about an imbalance in power and vulnerability like with money. So that's something to consider. Then we move up to the third chakra, which is at our solar plexus. couple inches above our belly button. And the shadow of this one is shame, shame and embarrassment. And there is almost always an element of shame around whatever trauma we've experienced. So we know that that can be an issue too. And this, when there's imbalance there, we generally have problems in our reproductive, in our digestive system, excuse me. So all the way from the mouth down to where it comes out. It could be Crohn's, it could be irritable bowel syndrome, it could be like stomach ulcers, you know, whatever it is, if it's in that digestive system, it is associated with our third chakra. And then we go up, yeah, we go up to the heart. The heart has the most awesome bright side, which is love, but it also has one of our Lyndsay Soprano (31:16.002) rate. Amy Vincze (31:26.618) really darkest shadows, which is the inner critic and grief. And the grief with an inner critic are intertwined because it is a lot of sadness around how we treat ourselves and how mean we are to ourselves. And it creates just tremendous grief in our heart. And so there needs to be a balance with that and leaning in where all Lyndsay Soprano (31:44.046) Interesting. Amy Vincze (31:55.5) when we're tapping, we're always leaning into the shadow side. It's wonderful to lean into the light side of things, but the shadow side is generally where the pain is that we need to release. So next is throat chakra. And as you can imagine, the shadow of this is lies. And it's not just lies that we tell other people, it's lies that we tell ourself about what the truth is. And this is Lyndsay Soprano (32:06.52) Sure, yeah. Amy Vincze (32:23.702) affects not only our throat but our lymph nodes. What am I trying to say? Is it lymph nodes? No. Lyndsay Soprano (32:34.126) system. Amy Vincze (32:35.738) No, what's the thyroid? Thyroid? Yes. So not at all the same. No, not lymph nodes. So this is where like for women in particular, this is where we the the idea that we feel like we have needs that we can ask for help to for people to meet our needs, or we deny our needs altogether. So if there's a Lyndsay Soprano (32:37.944) Hyroid sounds like. Sounds like not lymph nodes. Amy Vincze (33:05.338) part of you that is denying that you have any needs and Especially for women because we are so focused on usually on nurturing kids and husbands and whatever partners We lose sight of the fact that we have needs too and that's when our thyroid starts to shut down and This happens or it gets a hyperactive And that's because there's a great imbalance there and we're telling ourself a lie about what it is we deserve and what it is we have to do in this life. Lyndsay Soprano (33:40.492) Yeah, yeah, I'm a, the throat chakra is a big one for me. Well, actually, as you've gone through these, so far I have to work on one through five. So what do we got going on with six? good, yes. I know, I know, and that's one of the things that. Amy Vincze (33:47.701) Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (33:54.746) We all do we all do Lindsay you're not alone there Lyndsay Soprano (34:04.366) That is so important about the show and for the listeners is that we make you not feel alone here being yeah, cuz it's not just Amy and Lynn's hair like The two of us don't have our shit together guys. So we don't I mean nobody does really is there anybody that truly does except Dolly Lama I mean Jesus I mean, but it's it's so interesting when you're talking through these things. my gosh the Amy Vincze (34:12.177) yeah. Amy Vincze (34:15.642) No, no, no. Amy Vincze (34:19.45) Not even close! Lyndsay Soprano (34:32.334) my gosh, just the lies that we tell ourselves about ourselves. In fact, my Rachel, she's listening. She always does. She's part of my Pug game. I don't even know the name of my show. Pain Game Podcast team. She's in charge of all my marketing and social. And quite frankly, she's now my boss. Like I don't even have any decisions that I make anymore on my own. She always tells me that I'm so hard on myself. Always tells me she told me this morning. She told me yesterday. She tells me the day before. Amy Vincze (34:49.306) you Yeah. Amy Vincze (34:56.942) Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Lyndsay Soprano (35:02.062) how hard I am on myself about the way I look, about how I'm doing, about... And I don't even know where that stems from, but I mean, from one, two, three, four, five, six, and seven. And I hear there's more than seven chakras, by the way. Yeah. Yes. No. Amy Vincze (35:14.957) It's all from the trauma. There is we're only going to focus on the seven though. Don't want to make this too complicated So the next one is our third eye and that's right just above our eyebrows in the middle of our forehead and that one is it's about our kind of awareness and this is about our senses and what we can sense other than just see So this is our ears and our nose and our sinuses and our eyes, but it's about expanding our vision to things that we can't see also, which means kind of creating a vision for your life, but also opening up to the possibility that there is more out there than what we can just see visually. Yeah. And then the last one up on top of our head, that's our crown chakra. That is our... connection with the universe. is the last thing on a baby's head that closes up when they're born. Because we, that's the soft spot, we're still connected until the very last minute. And that the, the thing to focus on there is just that there is a connection with something greater than ourselves. It's our higher purpose, our higher purpose in life. And the shadow there is when you kind of you Lyndsay Soprano (36:21.794) the soft spot. Amy Vincze (36:44.378) shut yourself off and you can get focused too much on expectations rather than kind of listening to your intuition and kind of guidance from outside yourself telling you to go in certain directions. You get so focused on expectations and feeling pigeonholed into doing something like. that and that would cause things like migraines and you know headaches and you know stuff like that. So one through seven have to start at the bottom in order to have them have it work the most efficiently the most effectively in order to heal kind of all of the things. Lyndsay Soprano (37:30.56) I don't know how many people like to climb a ladder from the top down. Amy Vincze (37:34.23) Right? We try all the time though. Lyndsay Soprano (37:36.47) Right, we're like, I'm gonna be here, and you're like, and you're gonna fall off of your roof putting the lights up because you didn't even start at the bottom. Amy Vincze (37:42.196) I know. The weird thing about it too is that there's a kind of a, it's not totally intuitive that you would need to be kind of grounded in your body and grounded in the earth chakras, which are one, two, and three in order to achieve higher spirituality. But that's exactly what has to happen. It's counterintuitive. You have to be grounded as much as possible in this life, in this body. Lyndsay Soprano (38:05.806) sure. Amy Vincze (38:12.086) in order to be able to experience higher levels of consciousness. So we can't just go straight here. We have to focus on the root first. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (38:23.672) Yeah. Yeah, and I mean, there's so many emotional layers that are part of chronic pain and chronic illness and we're always, we're hung up, like you said earlier about how there's all these physical symptoms that we have, right? And they're, I think you had mentioned they're really just physical. Amy Vincze (38:32.568) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (38:41.07) Yes, yes. Amy Vincze (38:46.554) I think they're intertwined completely. Lyndsay Soprano (38:51.182) Absolutely. And I agree with that. I didn't, it's not that I didn't understand that I wasn't interested in, and I'm sorry for saying this, but the woo-woo versus the medical side, but it is. I mean, it is what it is. Even though I 100 % believe in more of the woo-woo than I do medical, because medical has done nothing but fail me. But man, man, I'm telling you, when I start thinking about... Amy Vincze (38:52.834) Yeah. Amy Vincze (39:03.759) Mm-hmm. Lyndsay Soprano (39:16.994) physical symptoms and how I did an Araki session the other day and It was I was just laying in my bed Nobody was physically here with me and it was a thousand people around the world that were doing it at the same time and I walked the next day farther than I've walked in eight years Amy Vincze (39:22.298) Nice Amy Vincze (39:33.21) I love that. Amy Vincze (39:41.826) You can't argue with that, right? Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (39:42.38) I have no, I can't, I can't argue with it because nothing else has been able to make me do that. I have no idea and I texted my little Reiki girl and she's like, my, not little Reiki girl, Jennifer, you're not a little Reiki girl. She's amazing. And she's gonna be a guest on the show actually. But my God, it was like, what did you do to me in 30 minutes? Like I just, it was insane. And I felt so much more, I felt. Amy Vincze (39:55.386) you Lyndsay Soprano (40:09.458) light and I felt more free and I felt and whether I have no idea, but I believe in all of it. So when we're talking about these emotional layers and we're talking about tapping through these different chakras that you just were speaking about, now what do we do? Are you gonna make me tap right now? Amy Vincze (40:15.898) Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (40:28.41) I would love to take you through a tapping session. We're not going to go super deep. not going to, we're not going to do anything to traumatize you or no, but we are going to focus on general anxiety and overwhelm. So that should help. And that's the majority, that's the majority of us anyway. So. Lyndsay Soprano (40:31.596) Goodness, all right, let's go. Okay. Don't traumatize my audience. They're already traumatized just having me as a host Lyndsay Soprano (40:49.442) Okay, okay, yeah, because everybody knows that I'm overwhelmed all the time. Okay, well then this will be helpful for everybody here. Whether you are dealing with the Jewish guilt Olympics or not, you're welcome to join us here. Amy Vincze (40:59.992) Yes. Amy Vincze (41:05.838) Yes, yes. So, Lindsay and I did have a conversation before we got, we started recording and so I know some of the details of her stress and I'm gonna focus a little bit more intimately on those, but I'm also gonna be saying some general statements that everybody can gain something from while doing the tapping. Hopefully you'll all be tapping along with us at home. Lyndsay Soprano (41:29.448) My God, this is so fun. Amy Vincze (41:30.938) If some of the some of the words don't resonate with you just change them change them You're at home, you know, you can say whatever you want to say focus in on what it is that feels stressful for you right now in your life and That's what you tap on and this is just meant to be a really easy guide for how to do this kind of work at home anxiety No, not at all Because you're gonna feel way better after afterwards Lyndsay Soprano (41:53.23) Should I be nervous? It's my anxiety speaking. Lyndsay Soprano (42:00.11) Okay, all right, let's tap that. Let's tap it out. Amy Vincze (42:02.102) Okay, let's tap that. Okay, so I do want to go over the tapping points really quick because I know that many different practitioners use many different points. None of them are wrong. They're just different. And this is the way that I learned no studies have been done about which ones are more effective or, you know, anything along those lines. Lyndsay Soprano (42:22.476) the order of them or anything. Okay. Amy Vincze (42:24.94) Nope, nope, it all works. So we're going to start on the karate chop point, which is just down from our pinky finger on the fleshy side of our hand. We're going to tap those two spots together. That's called the karate chop point. And this is where we're going to say some like an even though statement. We're going to say it three times while we tap on this spot. And then we're going to move to what's called repeater phrases. And we're going to. Lyndsay Soprano (42:35.864) Okay. Amy Vincze (42:52.172) I'm going to go through the other points on those. So the first point is at the beginning of our eyebrows. And it's really important to be accurate with where you're tapping because if you're tapping somewhere in the middle of your forehead, not nearly as effective. Okay, stay right. Yeah, yeah. I know, me neither. So right at the beginning of the forehead. Next one is at the side of your eye is your temple. And then under your eye, right on top of your cheekbones. Lyndsay Soprano (43:08.002) So these random people tapping their foreheads in the supermarket. I'm taking my glasses off because I can't do it without my glasses on. All right. Lyndsay Soprano (43:20.302) Okay. Lyndsay Soprano (43:24.046) Does that help with under eye bags? Amy Vincze (43:26.274) I don't think so. And then under your nose, under your mouth, and then the collarbone point. If you find the beginning of your collarbone, you're going to go down about an inch. There's a little valley in between your ribs and your collarbone on either side of your sternum. Lyndsay Soprano (43:30.168) Mm-hmm. Lyndsay Soprano (43:42.595) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (43:44.954) That's the spot. And then under your arms, for women, it's right where your bra strap would be. For men, it's like three to four inches down from your armpit. And then the next one is on your ribs, just below your breasts. Lyndsay Soprano (43:53.358) All Amy Vincze (43:59.372) And then it's okay. And then the next spot is on your wrist. There's three different acupressure points. One's on the outside, one, and then the middle and then the outside. So when I'm tapping my wrist together, I'm turning them a little bit, or you can kind of hit them with your fingertips like this. Try and hit all three spots. And then the last point is up on top of your head. Lyndsay Soprano (43:59.596) Men, if you have breasts, it's no big deal. Keep going. Lyndsay Soprano (44:18.734) All right. Okay, my goodness. Okay. Amy Vincze (44:26.498) And while we go through those tapping points, there might be one that feels better than the others. And even though I keep moving around to the different tapping points, if it feels better to stay there, just stay there. It doesn't matter if you're off from where I'm tapping at the moment. It doesn't matter at all. OK. So you're just going to repeat after me. You're going to tap where I tap and say what I say. Lyndsay Soprano (44:38.893) Okay. Lyndsay Soprano (44:45.474) Okay. Lyndsay Soprano (44:49.71) Okay. Amy Vincze (44:52.922) But first we're going to take a rating and I would love for you to tell me Lindsay where you are on a scale from zero to ten with your stress and overwhelm right now. Lyndsay Soprano (44:52.941) Okay. Lyndsay Soprano (45:02.424) Right now, I would say I'm out of stick. Amy Vincze (45:05.003) Okay, and do you feel that stress somewhere in your body right now? Lyndsay Soprano (45:09.326) in my elbows, my wrists, always in my feet and in my pelvic area. Amy Vincze (45:19.854) What does it feel like? Lyndsay Soprano (45:21.87) It's always burning or achy, like, my God, like heavy. Super heavy, like I'm carrying the world on me. Surprise, surprise. Amy Vincze (45:30.604) Mm-hmm. Okay. Amy Vincze (45:35.928) Yeah, okay. but it's a pain, right? Pain, okay. Lyndsay Soprano (45:41.422) Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's pain, ache. The sharp shooting stuff, it's hard to say like right now because it's just constant, but I get the sharp shooting from, that goes up all through my arms. Is it carpal tunnel? I'm not sure. In my arms, it's a totally different pain than sensation. I like to use the word sensation instead of pain. I've been trying to work on it. Then what I have from my hips down, my hips down is burning. Amy Vincze (46:05.102) Okay. Amy Vincze (46:10.202) Mm. Lyndsay Soprano (46:10.286) just burning like I'm on fire. I always say like I'm out of Salem Witch Trial and I'm the one that lost. Good stuff. Amy Vincze (46:14.13) Mm-mm. Mm-mm. Okay. Yeah, that's intense. Okay, and that's at a six right now. Lyndsay Soprano (46:21.676) Yeah. Mm-hmm. Which is good for me. Amy Vincze (46:25.818) How do you even manage? Lyndsay Soprano (46:27.758) because that's what I do. Okay, here we go. Okay, karate chopping. Amy Vincze (46:29.75) Yeah. Okay. Let's start tapping on your karate chop point now. even though I am so stressed right now. Lyndsay Soprano (46:41.162) even though I am so stressed right now. Amy Vincze (46:42.86) and completely overwhelmed with everything that's happening around me. Lyndsay Soprano (46:46.656) and completely overwhelmed with everything that's happening around me. Amy Vincze (46:50.21) It all feels like too much. Lyndsay Soprano (46:52.513) It all feels like too much. Amy Vincze (46:53.996) And it feels like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. Lyndsay Soprano (46:57.406) Man, it feels like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. Amy Vincze (47:01.452) And I deeply honor all my thoughts and feelings about that. Lyndsay Soprano (47:05.814) and I deeply honor all of my thoughts and feelings around that. Amy Vincze (47:10.764) even though I'm so stressed and overwhelmed right now. Lyndsay Soprano (47:14.272) even though I'm so stressed and overwhelmed right now. Amy Vincze (47:17.772) and it's manifesting as this intense pain in my body. Lyndsay Soprano (47:21.952) and it's manifesting as this intense pain in my body. Amy Vincze (47:26.2) This burning and aching and heavy pain. Lyndsay Soprano (47:30.358) is burning and aching and heavy pain. Amy Vincze (47:34.018) And I'm just meant to continue through all of it. Lyndsay Soprano (47:37.728) And I'm just meant to continue through all of it. Amy Vincze (47:40.812) I can't stop. I just have to keep going. But least that's what I tell myself. Lyndsay Soprano (47:42.542) I can't stop. I just have to keep going. At least that's what I tell myself. Amy Vincze (47:51.394) and I deeply honor all parts of who I am anyway. Lyndsay Soprano (47:55.852) and I deeply honor all of the parts in me all the way. Amy Vincze (48:00.438) even though I am so stressed and overwhelmed right now. Lyndsay Soprano (48:04.488) even though I am so stressed and overwhelmed right now. Amy Vincze (48:08.066) between the house remodel and the changes in my relationship. I am overwhelmed. Lyndsay Soprano (48:15.662) between all of the things that you just said, I am overwhelmed. Amy Vincze (48:21.228) And it's no wonder. Lyndsay Soprano (48:23.598) That's no wonder. Amy Vincze (48:24.812) It's too much for one person. Lyndsay Soprano (48:27.668) much for one person. Amy Vincze (48:30.093) and I don't know how to stop. Lyndsay Soprano (48:32.0) And I don't know how to stop. Amy Vincze (48:33.506) and I keep adding more on. Lyndsay Soprano (48:35.286) And I keep adding more on. Amy Vincze (48:38.207) And I don't know how I'm going to get myself out of this. Lyndsay Soprano (48:43.368) I don't know how I'm going to get myself out of this. Amy Vincze (48:46.018) And it doesn't feel safe. Lyndsay Soprano (48:47.82) and it doesn't feel safe. Amy Vincze (48:49.932) And I love and honor myself anyway. Lyndsay Soprano (48:52.566) And I love and honor myself anyway. Amy Vincze (48:54.936) And I honor my courage in tackling this issue. Lyndsay Soprano (48:58.36) and honor my courage in tackling this issue. Amy Vincze (49:01.634) Okay, now we're going to start tapping on your eyebrow point. I'm so stressed and overwhelmed right now. Lyndsay Soprano (49:04.621) Okay, wipe my tears for a moment. Lyndsay Soprano (49:11.438) I'm so stressed and overwhelmed right now. Amy Vincze (49:13.837) And it's no wonder. Lyndsay Soprano (49:15.638) And it's no wonder. Amy Vincze (49:17.292) I have a million things going on around me. Lyndsay Soprano (49:20.576) I have a million things going on around me. Amy Vincze (49:23.384) and it feels like everybody's relying on me. Lyndsay Soprano (49:26.722) and it feels like everyone is relying on me. Amy Vincze (49:29.828) For whatever reason, nobody else can get it done. Lyndsay Soprano (49:32.888) For whatever reason, nobody else can get it done. Amy Vincze (49:36.576) Nobody else has the answers that I do. Lyndsay Soprano (49:39.468) Nobody else has the answers, but I do. Amy Vincze (49:42.776) And I just want to honor how hard that is. Lyndsay Soprano (49:45.432) And I just want to honor how hard that is. Amy Vincze (49:48.536) I have a lot going on right now. Lyndsay Soprano (49:51.596) I have a lot going on right now. Amy Vincze (49:53.732) taking care of the house. Lyndsay Soprano (49:56.162) Taking care of the house. Amy Vincze (49:58.052) taking care of all the contractors. Lyndsay Soprano (50:00.28) taking care of all of the contractors. Amy Vincze (50:03.236) taking care of moving and organizing everything. Lyndsay Soprano (50:09.006) taking care of moving and organizing everything. Amy Vincze (50:12.676) taking care of my husband. Lyndsay Soprano (50:14.69) Taking care of my sweetie. Amy Vincze (50:17.634) And it's all too much. Lyndsay Soprano (50:20.226) That's all too much. It's too much for me. Amy Vincze (50:21.987) It's too much for me. I want to be able to handle it all. Lyndsay Soprano (50:28.268) I want to be able to handle it all. Amy Vincze (50:30.752) This is normally my comfort zone. Lyndsay Soprano (50:33.71) This is normally my comfort zone. Interesting. Amy Vincze (50:37.984) I like organizing. Lyndsay Soprano (50:40.59) to like organizing. Amy Vincze (50:41.92) I like getting things done. Lyndsay Soprano (50:44.342) I like getting things done. Amy Vincze (50:47.34) and it reached a threshold somewhere along the way. Lyndsay Soprano (50:50.99) and it reached the threshold somewhere along the way. Amy Vincze (50:54.86) and I'm having a real hard time finding peace around any of it anymore. Lyndsay Soprano (51:02.326) And I'm having a real hard time finding peace around it anymore. Amy Vincze (51:07.128) and I just want to honor how hard that is. Lyndsay Soprano (51:09.688) And I just want to honor how hard it is. Amy Vincze (51:12.501) all the stress in my body. Lyndsay Soprano (51:16.386) all the stress in my body. Amy Vincze (51:19.05) It's creating this really intense pain. Lyndsay Soprano (51:22.604) It's in yes, it is. Repeat that. Amy Vincze (51:26.924) It's creating this really intense pain. Lyndsay Soprano (51:29.684) Yes, it is creating this really intense pain. Amy Vincze (51:33.536) especially in my wrists and my feet and pelvis. Lyndsay Soprano (51:38.498) especially in my wrists and my feet and my pelvis. And my elbows. Amy Vincze (51:41.869) and my elbows. It's a burning, aching pain and it's horrible. Lyndsay Soprano (51:48.898) It's a burning aching pain and it's horrible. Amy Vincze (51:51.714) And it's too much for me. Lyndsay Soprano (51:53.994) It's too much for me. Amy Vincze (51:56.644) But I can't stop. Lyndsay Soprano (51:59.298) But I can't stop. Amy Vincze (52:01.172) Even with the pain, I just try to keep going. Lyndsay Soprano (52:06.208) Even with the pain, I keep going, fighting on stick. Amy Vincze (52:08.698) I keep going constantly. Lyndsay Soprano (52:13.334) keep going constantly. Amy Vincze (52:15.33) I'm afraid to stop. Lyndsay Soprano (52:17.454) I'm afraid to stop. Amy Vincze (52:21.486) There's a part of me that's afraid to slow down. Lyndsay Soprano (52:25.088) I am afraid to slow down. Amy Vincze (52:28.123) Everything's gonna catch up to me if I slow down. Lyndsay Soprano (52:31.734) Everything's gonna catch up to me if I slow down. Amy Vincze (52:34.786) and then I'm going to feel it all. Lyndsay Soprano (52:37.198) And then I feel it all. Amy Vincze (52:38.85) And I don't want to. Lyndsay Soprano (52:41.346) I don't want to. It's way too scary. Amy Vincze (52:42.264) It's too scary. It's too uncomfortable. Lyndsay Soprano (52:47.904) It's too uncomfortable. Amy Vincze (52:49.783) And I don't want to. Lyndsay Soprano (52:51.842) I don't want to. Amy Vincze (52:53.58) I don't want to slow down. Lyndsay Soprano (52:56.566) I don't want to slow down. Amy Vincze (52:57.952) I don't want everything to catch up with me. Lyndsay Soprano (53:01.056) I don't want everything to catch up with me. Amy Vincze (53:03.106) It'll be like a tidal wave. Lyndsay Soprano (53:05.462) It'll be like a tidal wave. Amy Vincze (53:07.138) And it doesn't feel safe. It doesn't feel safe to stop. Lyndsay Soprano (53:09.28) and it doesn't feel safe. It doesn't feel safe to stop. I have to keep running. Amy Vincze (53:14.786) I have to keep running. And I deeply honor that there's this part of me that doesn't feel safe. Lyndsay Soprano (53:23.35) And I deeply honor the part of me that doesn't feel safe. Amy Vincze (53:26.83) that doesn't want to face all this stuff. Lyndsay Soprano (53:29.186) that doesn't want to face all this stuff. It's too hard. It's too painful. Amy Vincze (53:30.966) It's too hard. It's too painful. Amy Vincze (53:38.392) And there's a part of me that is triggered by it constantly. Lyndsay Soprano (53:43.008) And there's a part of me that's triggered by it constantly. Amy Vincze (53:47.396) So it's no wonder I feel so stressed all the time. Lyndsay Soprano (53:51.342) So it's no wonder that I feel stressed all the time. Amy Vincze (53:55.2) I feel this stress and overwhelm all the time. Lyndsay Soprano (53:59.35) I feel the stress and overwhelm all the time. Amy Vincze (54:02.2) That's why I don't let myself sleep. Lyndsay Soprano (54:04.744) That's why I don't let myself sleep. Amy Vincze (54:09.292) and I never let myself slow down. Lyndsay Soprano (54:11.754) And I never let myself slow down. Amy Vincze (54:14.979) I'm running. Lyndsay Soprano (54:17.398) I'm running. Amy Vincze (54:19.49) and it's okay. Lyndsay Soprano (54:21.186) and it's okay. Amy Vincze (54:23.298) and I deeply honor all my thoughts and feelings about this. Lyndsay Soprano (54:27.328) And I deeply honor all of my thoughts and feelings about this. Amy Vincze (54:31.37) all this fear in my body. Lyndsay Soprano (54:33.686) All this fear in my body. It's there for a reason. Amy Vincze (54:35.5) It's there for a reason. There's parts of me that have been really hurt in my past. Lyndsay Soprano (54:44.312) There are parts of me that have been really hurt in my past. Amy Vincze (54:48.48) I don't want to face it. Lyndsay Soprano (54:51.862) And I don't want to face it. Amy Vincze (54:53.954) It's too painful and it doesn't feel safe to go there. Lyndsay Soprano (54:55.372) That's too painful. It doesn't feel safe to go there. Amy Vincze (55:02.84) And I just want to tell my adult self that it's okay. Lyndsay Soprano (55:06.582) And I just want to tell my adult self that it's okay. Amy Vincze (55:09.71) that I am safe in this moment. Lyndsay Soprano (55:12.264) I am safe in this moment. Amy Vincze (55:15.091) All the things from my past can't get me anymore. Lyndsay Soprano (55:18.344) All the things from my past can't get me anymore. Amy Vincze (55:21.518) They're not here with me. Lyndsay Soprano (55:23.278) They're not here with me. Amy Vincze (55:24.972) It's okay to feel safe and calm in this moment. Lyndsay Soprano (55:28.044) It's okay to feel safe and calm in this moment. Amy Vincze (55:31.042) and I deeply honor my courage in tackling this issue. Lyndsay Soprano (55:35.079) and I deeply honor my courage in tackling this moment. Amy Vincze (55:40.024) Okay, take a nice deep breath. Amy Vincze (55:48.378) Okay, Lindsay, keeping your eyes closed, I just want you to try and sink down into your body a little bit. Amy Vincze (55:57.522) and tell me what came up for you while we were tapping and where you are zero to ten with anxiety level right now. Lyndsay Soprano (56:10.702) Anxiety, honestly, I don't even know. I kind of feel like I'm not sure if it roses or if it made it lower because everything's super tingly right now. And so when I'm tingly, it kind of makes me feel little anxious because I'm like, ooh, it's like my spidey sense. Amy Vincze (56:15.994) Hmm. Amy Vincze (56:27.128) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (56:35.194) Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (56:35.884) But it's almost like a good, it's like a good Spidey set. Cause I feel like sometimes my anxiety does good stuff for me. Or maybe it's not even anxiety that. Amy Vincze (56:44.172) I think energy is moving. And for somebody like you that has had chronic pain in your life, when energy is moving and there's tingling like that, you don't trust that it's necessarily good. It could be a precursor to more pain, which is also really scary. It's triggering something else, right? Lyndsay Soprano (56:46.092) Yeah, for sure, energy is moving. Lyndsay Soprano (57:01.558) Right, Right, I'm like, shit, what's happening here? No, no, no, but I don't feel that way. Like, I don't feel like it's a scary tingling where like some of my tingling sensations that I have, do I still need to keep my eyes closed? Because I feel like I might be getting dizzy. Lindsay's going to tap out legitimately here. Yeah, no, I feel kind of... Amy Vincze (57:14.413) Okay. Amy Vincze (57:21.454) no, no, open them up. Sorry. You Lyndsay Soprano (57:32.46) don't even know, kind of like a little dizzy a little bit. Like I have a lot, my head's almost like a balloon, like a string is my neck. Just kind of like, ooh, not in a bad way, just kind of like, okay, that's interesting. Did I do it right? Amy Vincze (57:41.376) Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. Amy Vincze (57:52.502) I think you absolutely did. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (57:54.144) Okay, because I didn't know. I wasn't thinking about it. I just was like, I wasn't doing it in any order. My eyes were closed. I wasn't watching you. I tried in the beginning to watch you. I'm like, you're screwing me up. I'm doing this on my own. Amy Vincze (58:04.794) And I didn't correct. Lyndsay Soprano (58:06.926) Standard issue Lindsay response. I'm going to just do this my way. No, I just did. I wasn't watching an order. You had said do what feels best for you. So that's what I did. And there were places where I really wanted to tap on more than there were other places. Is there a reason for that? Where why you would like why I wanted to tap more on my chest and my chin and the top of my mouth than in other places? Amy Vincze (58:15.928) Yeah. Amy Vincze (58:30.618) I don't have any concrete data about that, but what I interpret those feelings are, because I've had them before myself, especially right here at the collarbone point for some reason. To me, it just means there might be more of an energy blockage there, and it's kind of your body begging you to kind of give it a little bit more attention so that it can... Lyndsay Soprano (58:34.114) Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (58:48.142) Well, and then my lymphatic system is all right, just like clogged up in my neck and my shoulders and my armpits and all of that. So I mean, we know that every time I go for a mammogram, they're like, oh my God, you gotta get, excuse me, every time I go to the OBGYN, they do the whole like booby test. They're like, you gotta get in for a mammogram. like, I promise you, it's just my lymph system. Then I go in for an emergency mammogram and there's nothing wrong. It's just my lymph nodes are like, know, showing up as cancer, right? Amy Vincze (58:51.64) Yeah. Amy Vincze (58:55.63) Yeah. Amy Vincze (59:07.809) Yeah, yeah. Amy Vincze (59:13.996) Yes. Yeah. So how did that feel though? How do you feel though right now? If you really zero in? good. Okay. Lyndsay Soprano (59:16.27) or potential. Light, light, yeah, I would say light. Not in my hips, my hips are heavy as hell. But the rest of my arms feel kind of floaty. My stomach doesn't feel, I always have digestive issues. Like I'm just sitting here normally grueling all day long and that seems to have kind of subsided a bit. But I feel very heavy in my legs. We know that that's a lot of what I carry, yeah. Yeah. Amy Vincze (59:27.097) Yeah. Amy Vincze (59:30.915) Uh-huh. Amy Vincze (59:37.292) Yeah. Yeah. Okay, well that we know that that's trauma and that's that's deeper work definitely that needs to be done. Lyndsay Soprano (59:49.954) You mean you weren't going to just clear me of all of my issues right now on this on this episode today? Amy Vincze (59:53.964) And little 10 minute tapping script. I wish. One minute miracles happen, man. But complex trauma is a little bit more challenging. Lyndsay Soprano (59:57.646) 10 minute taparoo. Yeah, you can charge like $3 million if you would fix that in 10 minutes. Screw you Bezos, we got a yacht for you. Mm-hmm. That's so interesting and it and it it's awkward It's a little awkward to like try to do it especially because I'm doing it and people are listening outside of you so I had to like Put that bus to the curb, you know and be like, alright, maybe it's just me and Amy, know Nobody maybe nobody's listening this episode. I certainly hope that is not the case but it just it felt Will you make me feel safe so Amy Vincze (01:00:19.299) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (01:00:29.176) Yeah. Amy Vincze (01:00:34.244) Right. Lyndsay Soprano (01:00:42.658) That's a huge part of it with me with safety issues. being able to do that and do it on the show is new. It's the first time I've legitimately done anything totally guinea pig on the show. So congratulations to you. Amy Vincze (01:00:42.771) good. Amy Vincze (01:00:46.234) I'm so glad. Amy Vincze (01:00:54.298) Nice. Have you? Amy Vincze (01:01:02.07) wonderful. I love it. Who would thought? Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (01:01:05.504) Amy Vinson for the win. Who would have thunk it? So, okay. I kind of feel like I need to take a nap. Amy Vincze (01:01:17.37) So that, yes, and that is not unusual, especially for somebody that lives constantly in fight or flight mode. When you come down from that a little bit, it feels like nap time, nap time. Lyndsay Soprano (01:01:21.271) Okay. Lyndsay Soprano (01:01:25.442) Yeah. I'm like, wow, I feel sloopy. Yeah. Sloopy? I don't even think that's a word. Now I'm just making up stuff over here. No, but I do. I feel heavy in some places and I feel light in others. Amy Vincze (01:01:34.894) Yeah. Amy Vincze (01:01:42.37) And what we did really was just put a bandaid over an issue because we didn't fix anything. But we did tell your nervous system that it's okay to feel relaxed right now. It's okay to calm down. Yeah. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (01:01:44.952) Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (01:01:50.478) It's okay to kind of calm down a bit. It's okay. Yeah. It's funny, my other girlfriend who I've, you know, well, I call her my girlfriend because I'm out of doing this show, but she's such a love. And she's like, we would just like randomly be talking. She's just like tapping her chin. She's like tapping. I'm like, what are you? She's like, I'm just, she doesn't even know she's doing it. So I started saying, all right, so when I go out and about and I'm feeling anxious, Amy Vincze (01:02:11.162) That's funny. Lyndsay Soprano (01:02:19.31) because I don't necessarily love being around a bunch of people. Like, ew, who wants to be around a bunch of people? That sounds horrible. And so I leaned on her for a little bit of that. was like, all right, I'm just gonna start randomly tapping my chin and see if it helped. And it legitimately helped with my anxiety. Like, just tapping on my chin and my collarbone, like right underneath my collarbones helps me with anxiety. Just one little trick that she showed me. It's amazing. Amy Vincze (01:02:19.513) yeah. Amy Vincze (01:02:22.894) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (01:02:37.015) It does. Amy Vincze (01:02:43.503) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (01:02:47.8) Yeah, yeah. If it's removing cortisol from your body, that's the stress hormone. You take that away and your body just naturally relaxes. Yeah. Lyndsay Soprano (01:02:49.185) So good. Lyndsay Soprano (01:02:53.28) Insane, right. I love it. Well, this has been Amazeballs. By the way, I own itsamazeballs.com. So no kidding, and also welcome to the shit show. But I also do own 159 domain names. And the reason why I know that is because yesterday I had to update all of my contact information in GoDaddy for all the domain names that I own. Amy Vincze (01:03:00.314) I'm so glad. Hahaha! Amy Vincze (01:03:19.594) That is really impressive. Yeah. Yes, you are. Lyndsay Soprano (01:03:21.826) Thank you. I'm a dreamer. I have all kinds of ideas for products. It's amazeballs. You know, it's like TV, like made for TV. There's gonna be something I'm gonna create that makes it be in it's amazeballs. And it has to be something that's about cleaning supplies of some sort. But in walking to the shit show, I should just put a picture of me and my sweetie up at the domain name and that's all we need to do. This has been incredible. Amy Vincze (01:03:38.458) You Amy Vincze (01:03:44.084) Mm-hmm. Lyndsay Soprano (01:03:50.274) Thank you so much. mean, there's so much more, obviously, that we can talk about in regards to this, but adding this session into it has been something that we've never done. So what I want to do is do two takes really quick here. One is thank you so much for our episode. And then also thank you so much for listening to the tapping part. No, I'm not doing that. This is just being incredible. Amy Vincze (01:04:10.33) You You Lyndsay Soprano (01:04:20.274) It's a I love your logo. I absolutely love you. And this is this this was great. And I hope that those of you who are listening, maybe certainly I hope that you weren't doing this while you're driving, perhaps. But, you know, take a beat. Everybody take a beat. We run so hard and so fast and we forget to take care of ourselves in the midst of all of that. I am the first one to say that I and the one that does that. So I'm speaking to myself always first when I give any kind of advice on this show, but man, we gotta find you. So how do we find you? Amy Vincze (01:05:00.11) You can go to sorewithtapping.com. You can look in the app, either the Google or Apple app stores, sorewithtapping. also social media, sorewithtapping. You can find me in any one of those places. Lyndsay Soprano (01:05:12.394) I love it so very much. We'll put this all in show notes, obviously, and in social and email marketing, all the things, but soarwithtapping.com and then it can lead you to all the places. Insta, of course, is my go-to place. Soar with tapping, of course. Is there anything that you'd like to leave us with before we tap out of here? Amy Vincze (01:05:33.722) Just the idea that, you know, we've we've put a lot of emphasis on our spiritual selves and on our physical selves and our intellectual selves. And it's really is time to put some emphasis on the emotional part. And it's going to be uncomfortable at first because we haven't built up that emotional muscle by allowing ourselves to feel things in general, unless they're the shiny, happy emotions. So it's gonna be uncomfortable at first, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. And the more you are able to move through uncomfortable emotions and you get to the other side, man, that is a beautiful, beautiful feeling. I've been through it many times now and I am hooked. I am addicted. I want to work through all of my stuff so I can get to the other side. So I encourage everybody to try it. Lyndsay Soprano (01:06:30.518) It's certainly worth the work, you know? I mean, it stinks that we have to like work so much in life that trauma has hit us, emotions hit us, life hits us hard, man. I watch true crime every night of my life and I wake up every morning grateful. There's a reason why my twisted mind watches it at night every night before I go to bed. I don't know why I do it, but I feel like every morning I wake up more grateful, but. Amy Vincze (01:06:32.506) Mm-hmm. Amy Vincze (01:06:50.303) Hahaha Lyndsay Soprano (01:06:59.982) Man, this has been incredible. Thank you so much for your time with us today. It has been nothing but incredible. So great. Thank you so much. And I know why your mic is being weird. I'll tell you after this. All right. Well, you can find this little cutie patootie at soarwithtapping.com. can find her on all the socials, Insta, YouTube, LinkedIn, TikTok. Is TikTok still a thing? Amy Vincze (01:07:04.058) I I've had a blast talking with you, Lindsay. Thank you for having me. okay. Amy Vincze (01:07:26.99) Yes. Lyndsay Soprano (01:07:27.706) I know it went away and then it comes back. I don't know. I have never gotten into TikTok. It is what it is. But thank you so much for being here today. Amazing. You are exclusively invited to share this soaring with tapping VIP pain journey together. Let's get to the heart of how to heal with you by my and Amy's side. Please follow the pain game podcast wherever you digest your podcast content. We will be there. Amy Vincze (01:07:36.59) Yeah, thank you. Lyndsay Soprano (01:07:56.822) visit us at thepangamepodcast.com and follow us on all the socials. Thanks for listening, my little VIPs. Catch you on the other side.