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139. Don't Marry The First Person You Date · The Shift Podcast

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  Welcome to frontline static we will get to hear interviews with
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  some of my clients journeys of getting into flight and how they
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  utilize coaching to help them create success of getting hired
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  with less confusion and more ease.
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  Make your dream a reality of getting into flight listen in as
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  you hear some of the stories of the people getting there and
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  come join the flight prep group. Hey, you guys, welcome to this
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  week's episode of Frontline Static episode 139, Not marrying
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  the first person you date. I know that this is kind of a
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  controversial top or not topic, but title for this episode, but
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  this is how I like to talk about dating a bunch of flight
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  companies before deciding who you want to marry and settle
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  down with when it comes to getting into flight.
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  And so I just wanted to talk about this a little bit more
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  today because this is a topic that I'm seeing come up.
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  I'm having more and more people join the flight prep Academy who
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  are at the three-year mark, 10 year mark, 15 year mark, 20 year
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  mark, and 30 year mark of working critical care.
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  And I always ask them, why haven't you applied for flight?
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  And a lot of them since the timing experience is only three
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  years to to be hired. And a lot of them say it's just
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  simply because they didn't know where to start or because they
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  were waiting for time and experience, or they were waiting
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  to feel ready, or the biggest one is that they were just
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  waiting for openings. And so I want to talk to a lot
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  of you guys about this who are either at that point or who know
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  that you want flight because I want to prevent you from waiting
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  and spending more in time trying to feel like you have to get
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  ready and just start going for this goal here in 2026.
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  So I like to liken getting into flight to flight for a lot most
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  people and for myself included, flight nursing was my end all be
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  all. It was what I knew when I was in
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  nursing school I wanted to do. And so it was my end goal.
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  And when I think about my end goal, I think about marrying
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  someone. And what I see a lot of people
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  do is they wait till the three-year mark and then they
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  just expect to marry the first flight company that says yes to
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  them without thinking about on a whim, without thinking about
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  what they want in that person or dating a bunch of companies.
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  And so I'm going to talk to you about the importance of working
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  towards this goal as soon as you know you want it today.
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  And also just like not marrying the first person you date,
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  dating and speed dating a bunch of people so that you get to
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  decide who you want to marry. And what's great about this too.
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  And thinking about this is often times with people want this goal
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  so much that they're just willing to marry the first
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  person and that wants to take them as a flight clinician.
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  And I really want to offer you to start thinking about what is
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  it that you want in a flight company and you want it to be a
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  good match. This is your end all be all
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  game. This is what you have always
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  wanted. And so you want to make sure
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  it's a good fit for you and you're not just doing it out of
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  excitement. So, and this is a concept that
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  that I call speed dating and I talk about highly inside my
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  program. And if you've been working and
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  follow and following me for a long time, this is what I talk
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  about as far as dating a bunch of companies to see what's a
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  good fit for you and if you're a good fit for their them.
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  I talk about going out there and you want a date just like
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  marrying someone to date a bunch of people while also deciding
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  ahead of time what will be a good fit for you, right?
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  You don't just go on a bunch of dates and be like, oh, let's
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  just see what I like. I guess some people do, but most
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  people are like, this is what I want in a partner.
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  This is what I want in a spouse. This is what I want in someone
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  that I'm dating. So it's really important for you
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  to think ahead of time what it is that you value.
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  What are you looking for in a company?
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  And maybe you go out there and you start dating and you have an
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  idea of what you want and then you start dating people and you
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  figure out maybe that's not what I want.
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  Maybe it's a little bit more of this and sometimes what you want
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  changes. But this is what ride alongs and
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  making connections is for because because you start to
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  hopefully have a plan of what you think that you value when
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  you want in a company. And then as you're doing these
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  ride alongs and making connections, you're getting even
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  more clear about what this is. So an example of this that has
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  to do with not anything clinical is my husband is like no one
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  else that I've ever dated prior. And I dated a lot of guys before
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  I got married, and I thought I wanted a certain subset of a man
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  that I wanted to marry. And then when I met him, he was
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  just super funny and I loved the humor.
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  I loved having laughter in my life.
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  And it realized that it was something that I was missing in
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  the previous people that I dated.
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  And I realized that I wanted that in my spouse.
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  And so that's an example of like really getting out there,
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  meeting a bunch of companies, going to a lot of bases, doing
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  the ride alongs base visits, outreach events, because this
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  will give you an idea of maybe what you thought you wanted in a
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  flight company, but maybe it's a little bit different.
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  And then it's going to be you're going to be thinking about what
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  is it that you value? Do you value education?
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  Do you value teamwork? Do you value the culture of the
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  team, the culture of the company?
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  Do a value management and your supervisors and how what they
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  value? Do you value pay?
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  Do you value scheduling? All of those things you're going
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  to get answered ahead of time while you're doing these ride
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  alongs and you're making connections and you're going to
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  find out what kind of specifies ultimately what you want out of
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  a company doing ride alongs, making connections, doing base
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  visits. It's what's going to teach you
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  all of this stuff. Not only do you get to know
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  them, but they get to know you and they also get to know you on
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  a very, very relaxed personal level.
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  What I see, and the common mistake I see people make is the
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  very first interaction they have with the company is in a flight
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  interview and you know, it's not relaxed.
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  And it's like they didn't even know you before.
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  And now all of a sudden they're asking you if you would be a
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  good team member or if you would be a good spouse for them.
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  And this is really why you want them to get to know you in a
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  relaxed environment ahead of time, so that when you go into
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  the flight interview, they're already bought into you.
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  They already know you. And that's going to make such a
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  difference for you before, during, and after the interview.
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  You want to start doing these ride alongs as soon as nursing
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  school. Actually, I have people who know
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  that they want flight prior to getting into nursing school and
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  they're doing ride alongs and prior to nursing school as well.
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  You want to be doing about 6:00 to 8:00 a year.
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  Whatever works with your schedule and your family life
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  and your your job currently or while you're going to nursing
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  school. It is no problem at all.
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  I had someone in the group do six ride alongs in one month.
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  Well, I highly don't recommend that.
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  I do recommend doing 1 every other month.
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  And I really teach you inside the flight Prep Academy how to
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  ask for them and also how to prepare for them.
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  And once you start doing them, you're going to find out if
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  they're super easy to get and they're a lot of fun to do.
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  This gives you an opportunity for them to see who you are,
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  what you value, and the team player you are not in an intense
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  environment in your first time meeting in a flight interview.
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  And also at the same time, you get to see what they value, what
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  their base and company culture is like and what kind of teams
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  they are. You do not want to leave this to
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  chance. It would be like, what is that
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  dating show? Love is blind where I, I mean,
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  I've never watched it, but I think the concept is like, you
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  date someone in the darkness. You have no idea about them.
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  You're just talking to them and then all the sudden you're at
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  the altar marrying them. That's what I see people chance
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  their flight job, their their biggest dream job too.
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  And you don't want to be like that.
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  So the biggest mistake that I see people make is waiting till
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  they hit the three-year mark to start doing this and then expect
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  to marry someone and get hired, by the way.
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  But the reality is people have been doing this since nursing
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  school and flight companies are wanting those people who've been
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  doing it, who've invested the time and dating them and getting
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  to know them. Plus one other thing that I hear
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  people doing is waiting for openings.
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  I hear people say, well, there has never been an opening or
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  there's very few openings because people don't leave.
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  And this is the worst thing that you can do because these
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  openings are already spoken for by people who have been making
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  connections and doing ride alongs and doing base visits
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  with them. And it's just now a formality
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  for the companies to post them. So when you're actually seeing
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  that posting online, those spots have already been spoken for by
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  someone. It's just a formality for them
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  to actually post the requisition number.
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  So I, I, plus I want you to imagine it feeling like again
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  what it's like to have the company bought into you prior to
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  walking into the interview. What would it feel like for you
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  before, during and again after the interview?
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  And lastly, I want to just mention I'm seeing like
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  companies now move towards creating rosters, meaning if
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  they really like someone who's been doing these ride alongs and
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  making connections, they're bringing them to flight
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  interviews sometimes early before the three-year mark.
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  I've helped four people get hired at the 2 1/2 year mark in
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  the last couple months. And so it's not just necessarily
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  three years that they're looking at.
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  They're definitely not looking at time and experience when they
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  bring you into flight interview. And that's definitely what you
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  don't want to be focusing on. So they're, what I'm seeing with
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  these rosters is they're bringing candidates in that they
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  really like to interview early ahead of time, even though
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  there's not an opening. And then they're putting them on
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  these rosters and they're telling them, hey, we're filling
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  these rosters 6 to 18 months ahead of time.
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  That way, when there is a opening, we're just going to
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  pull from the roster and we'll give you an offer.
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  And then that's often times afterwards you see the opening
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  online, but those aren't really openings.
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  Those are just people that they're filling from a roster
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  that they've already created 6 to 18 months prior than that
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  with people who've already interviewed.
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  And it's interesting because I've seen more and more people
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  as I've helped get hired and take through this process.
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  They're telling me that they're asked to interview for a roster.
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  So that changes up the the scene too.
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  In trying to get hired in a flight, you want to be asked
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  ahead of time to be put on these rosters and you want to be
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  interviewing for these rosters. And again, I'm seeing people, I
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  just helped someone get hired this last year at the one year
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  mark. So I'm seeing them ask people at
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  the one year, 2 year mark knowing that they're still
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  working critical care, but getting them on that roster and
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  interviewing them early. Biggest thing is you want to be
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  ready for these flight interviews and in these flight
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  interviews, they are not wanting to hear about your time and
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  experience at all. So come join the flight Prep
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  Academy. I'm going to teach you exactly
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  what to focus on for the flight interviews and ASM.
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  You can now see why and how waiting actually puts you at the
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  bottom of the list or way far behind and ever being
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  considered. And so I really felt like I
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  wanted to talk about this this week because more and more
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  people are coming to me or telling me that they're going to
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  wait or I Ioffer for them to get started and have them come join
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  the flight prep Academy and we'll get them on track.
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  And they tell me why I got to wait till I meet the time and
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  experience. And I just wanted to make a
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  podcast about this so that you guys know that this is putting
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  you further and further behind. And there are people that are
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  doing these now way ahead of time.
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  I am actually going to be covering all of this way in more
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  depth on my next free training. It's going to be next Monday.
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  If you're listening to this, my podcast episode dropped on
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  Thursday, but it's going to be next Monday, January 12th at new
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  Pacific Standard Time. I'm going to post the link in to
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  sign up for the free training and the podcast caption.
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  But I'm going to be talking about this specifically.
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  What are three simple steps to focus on to get you in a flight?
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  And you can start this at any time of your journey, whether
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  you're pre nursing school, nursing school, not working
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  critical care, currently we're in critical care or at
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  three-year mark. And I want to let you know if
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  you are listening to this and you're at the 2 1/2 year mark,
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  that's kind of when I start telling people you need to start
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  prepping for flight interviews because you can get hired at the
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  2 1/2, three-year mark. If you're there and you haven't
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  done any of these things yet, don't fret.
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  Come and join me inside the flight prep Academy.
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  I'm going to teach you exactly what to be focusing on so that
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  you are not spinning and you are taking the focus action that
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  flight companies are looking for.
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  And I'm really going to prep you for the flight interviews.
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  And if you know flight nursing is what you want, I just want to
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  invite you and I hope that this episode invited you to start
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  taking action on it now. Not tomorrow, not next month,
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  not when you feel, quote UN quote ready because you never
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  will. In the seven years I flew, I
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  never felt ready for every call. Not when you're at the
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  three-year mark, but now. So again, come join the flight
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  Prep Academy. I'm going to teach you exactly
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  how to get started. We'll map out your plan.
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  I'll teach you how to land your first ride along anywhere in the
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  US this month. And let's make 2026 the year you
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  finally start moving towards this goal confidently and
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  clearly. And if you're at the 2 1/2 or
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  more year mark, let's get you hired in the next couple months.
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  Most people who come and join me inside my program at that amount
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  of time get hired within the within the few months of
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  joining. And I know you guys are really
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  focused on getting an offer, but I'm really more concerned with
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  helping you confidently transition into the role after
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  your offer. I just saw a lot of people get
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  hired and then not do well in orientation.
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  And so that's a really big important part of it.
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  We're a little over 100 people strong inside my program right
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  now and there's about 30 flight nurses and flight paramedics in
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  there. So you were going to get 24/7
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  support with weekly calls and a member portal with a five step
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  process and everything I'm talking about here.
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  So that's it for this week. I hope this encourage you guys
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  to get started now and start taking action.
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  If this is what you've known you've always wanted, don't
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  wait, do it now. Get yourself a net right along
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  seat. Get yourself in that helicopter
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  seat. Start having some fun and
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  working towards that goal this year.
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  OK, that's it you guys, I'll see you next week.
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  Bye. If anything in this episode
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  sparked your interest into getting into flight, come join
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  my flight flight group. We are an entire community that
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  meets together on a weekly basis with an ongoing group chat.
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  And if you are already flying and you are currently a flight
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  nurse or flight medic, you can join my all flight clinician
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  group as well. You can click on the link to
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  join in the show notes or you can DM me on Instagram.
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  I hope to see all of you guys inside.