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The Myth of Having it All · Whatever It Takes with Carli Lloyd and Jenny Taft

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  Speaker 1: I think I so value time home, and that's kind
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  Speaker 1: of what we wanted to get into, the work-life balance.
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  Speaker 1: It's crazy when you say to someone, yeah, I just
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  Speaker 1: worked a World Cup and I was away from my family,
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  Speaker 1: but at the end of the day, I'm home all
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  Speaker 1: of August, right? So that's also a crazy luxury that
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  Speaker 1: I have busy seasons, and we both have that, and
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  Speaker 1: trying to balance it all....
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  Speaker 2: All right. Welcome back, everyone, to Whatever It Takes with
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  Speaker 2: Jenny Taft and Carly Lloyd. Jenny, we did one episode
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  Speaker 2: so far. How are you feeling?
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  Speaker 1: I feel good. The office closet is still somewhat clean.
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  Speaker 1: I think it is looking great.
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  Speaker 2: The frames, you probably had to remove a lot of
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  Speaker 2: clothes and shoes in that background, but If.
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  Speaker 1: You see below me, I have a donation bag. I've
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  Speaker 1: filled up many bags of clothes to donate. And you
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  Speaker 1: know what? I just, I enjoy clothes. I am, I
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  Speaker 1: do television, so I have to have options, but I also,
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  Speaker 1: I do enjoy it. My husband always says, if you
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  Speaker 1: come over, just go into her closet, take whatever you
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  Speaker 1: need and don't bring it back.
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  Speaker 2: I guess you get gifted some clothes. You rent clothes.
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  Speaker 1: I do get gifted a handful of clothes. I tried
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  Speaker 1: the rental thing and I'm going to admit, I didn't
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  Speaker 1: love it. It just... It felt like I was wearing
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  Speaker 1: clothes that had been worn a ton.
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  Speaker 2: Because there's some companies that you can, what, rent for, like,
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  Speaker 2: seasons or, like, a couple of months, and then you
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  Speaker 2: just hand them all back in.
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  Speaker 1: I actually tried it ahead of the World Cup. I
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  Speaker 1: did one subscription service, and I was like, let's see
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  Speaker 1: how these clothes look. It just didn't... It didn't vibe
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  Speaker 1: with me. I did feel like they were worn a lot,
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  Speaker 1: and that kind of weirded me out in a lot
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  Speaker 1: of ways. But I... don't think that's fair because I
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  Speaker 1: donate clothes to my friends and family. And my mom
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  Speaker 1: just said, hey, what were you wearing? I'm stealing that
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  Speaker 1: from you. So I am really lucky that a lot
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  Speaker 1: of brands will send me clothes. I always post them.
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  Speaker 1: But I also love fashion. It's fun for me. If
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  Speaker 1: I was not working in sport, I think I would
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  Speaker 1: really enjoy the fashion industry before I got a job
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  Speaker 1: in TV. Because I know in episode one, we mentioned
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  Speaker 1: my time in New York City. I interned for.
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  Speaker 2: I love your fashion.
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  Speaker 1: I had interned for a for actually a lingerie company
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  Speaker 1: called Notori. And I loved learning about the industry in
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  Speaker 1: that way. And it's very Devil Wears Prada in a
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  Speaker 1: lot of ways. That is a real storyline. And I
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  Speaker 1: learned a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you always look great. I love all your reels
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  Speaker 2: that you post, you know. I need a Jenny Taft
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  Speaker 2: in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, watch out. Help dress me. Whatever it takes.
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  Speaker 2: Help with the content.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, good. Well, I'm going to get some reels for
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  Speaker 1: the pod going, some outfit looks. I just have fun
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  Speaker 1: with it. And I do think it's fun to show
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  Speaker 1: off different styles on the field and on the sideline.
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  Speaker 1: So thank you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I love it.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you can come here and take whatever, whatever
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  Speaker 1: you need. So What are you up to? What are
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  Speaker 1: you watching? What are you loving? What are you reading? Anything?
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  Speaker 2: As I sit here in my office looking at all
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  Speaker 2: of the books that I have up on my shelves
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  Speaker 2: that I really haven't touched, I'm always saying to myself,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to just start a book. And I want
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  Speaker 2: to read. I have so many things that would be
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  Speaker 2: great to read. And I just... It makes me tired
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  Speaker 2: and I just can't find the time, as sad as
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  Speaker 2: that is.
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  Speaker 1: So I get it.
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  Speaker 2: I get it. I did find time, Brian and I
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  Speaker 2: recently did find time to watch Dutton Ranch, which I
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  Speaker 2: highly recommend.
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  Speaker 1: I've been thinking about that one. We've watched all of
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  Speaker 1: the Yellowstones. Okay, me too.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the Taylor Sheridan show. He's phenomenal.
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  Speaker 1: So good.
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  Speaker 2: 1923, right?
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  Speaker 1: 1883. All of the things. Don't even get me started.
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  Speaker 1: I'm still recovering from the finale on the one with
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  Speaker 1: Brendan Sklenar. Oh. I can't give it away because I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to have a spoiler. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But the last scene, I still think about it. A
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  Speaker 2: lot of these things, there's so much time that goes by.
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  Speaker 2: So Dutton Ranch, you know, next season's probably going to
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  Speaker 2: be a year from now. And I'm like, I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to already forget about what happened. In season one. I
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  Speaker 2: need to watch that one. That's on my list. Do
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  Speaker 2: you read much?
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  Speaker 1: I just, I'm staring at three books, not multiple, but
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  Speaker 1: I have been trying to read at night. I was
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  Speaker 1: recently reading your book again, just a refresh on the
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  Speaker 1: life of Carly Lloyd.
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  Speaker 2: A lot has changed in that book.
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  Speaker 1: A lot's changed. I think it was 2016.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's a whole different life. We'll get into that another day.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But Gigi was like, who's that? And I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: it's my friend. Don't worry about that. It's my friend Carly.
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  Speaker 1: And then I just started watching the new Ted Lasso,
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  Speaker 1: which is so fun. I've always loved Ted Lasso. And
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  Speaker 1: it's about a women's team.
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  Speaker 2: I think I still have to watch... Is this season four?
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  Speaker 1: This is four.
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  Speaker 2: Correct.
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  Speaker 1: But they took some time off. I think I have
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  Speaker 1: to watch three. I've always been a fan. I feel like,
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  Speaker 1: of course, because of the worlds we're both in, I've
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed that show always. But A friend of mine posted
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  Speaker 1: on her social, it said something along the lines of,
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  Speaker 1: Ted Lasso is the bluey for adults. And I liked that.
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  Speaker 1: It's very feel good. It's light. I think it's witty.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, we love soccer. I think it's well written.
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  Speaker 1: And that's been fun to watch. I've always liked that show.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have a lot of time these days.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So how are we doing that? We're not reading.
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  Speaker 2: And then another one coming soon. So Won't be having
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  Speaker 2: much time. There's so many people that say, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: when you have a baby, you can catch up on
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  Speaker 2: all your shows. And I'm like, what?
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  Speaker 1: When? Who's catching up?
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  Speaker 2: I never, ever did that with Harper.
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  Speaker 1: No. I slept when Gigi slept. No. I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: was napping. If she would nap, I would try to nap.
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  Speaker 1: And I was not afraid of that time and needing it.
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  Speaker 1: But when you have a Harper, you're not napping necessarily
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  Speaker 1: with your second. You're busy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 1: Yep.
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  Speaker 2: Here we go.
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  Speaker 1: My girlfriend has four babies. She just posted a picture
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  Speaker 1: reading a book with her newborn. I'm like, Allie, where
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  Speaker 1: are the other three? Like, what's happening? I have a
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  Speaker 1: hard enough time reading with Gigi around the house right now.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know if I'm reading anytime soon. But
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  Speaker 1: are you feeling good? I mean... one more. Of course,
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  Speaker 1: it's exciting, but it does shift the dynamic between Harper
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  Speaker 1: being your only one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're savoring the family of three currently. Yeah, it's
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  Speaker 2: a little weird. I mean, this pregnancy flew by just
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  Speaker 2: because I think you've got a toddler running around and
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  Speaker 2: you're just busy. But yeah, no, look, our podcast, whatever
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  Speaker 2: it takes, you just adapt and you figure it out
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  Speaker 2: and I'm looking forward to it. I think it'll be
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  Speaker 2: really cool and we're going to be in the newborn
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  Speaker 2: stage very soon enough.
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  Speaker 1: Did you like the newborn stage? Because I think some
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  Speaker 1: people are very like opinionated about it. I frankly don't
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  Speaker 1: remember a lot of it. I think that's by design.
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  Speaker 1: They don't want you to remember.
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  Speaker 2: I think because it was such a tough journey that
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  Speaker 2: I appreciated every moment and.
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  Speaker 1: I loved it.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I've been so present as a mom,
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  Speaker 2: more so than in my career. I think it's so
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  Speaker 2: hard to be present and sort of have that balance.
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  Speaker 2: And so, yeah, a lot of people would like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I would love to skip over the newborn phase, but
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  Speaker 2: I loved it. I tried to savor every moment because
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  Speaker 2: everybody tells you it goes by so quickly. So I
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  Speaker 2: just tried to appreciate every moment, you know, not complain,
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  Speaker 2: not get upset and just embrace it all.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so true. You liked it though? No, I'm
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  Speaker 1: kind of like you. It's just not in my nature
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  Speaker 1: to be that negative of a person. I think, of course,
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  Speaker 1: there's challenges with a newborn phase and not sleeping a lot.
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  Speaker 1: But I, like you, like you appreciate it. And I
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  Speaker 1: think because you and I travel and I think, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm on the road more at times, but I think
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  Speaker 1: I so value time home. And that's kind of what
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  Speaker 1: we wanted to get into, the work-life balance. It's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: when you say to someone, yeah, I just worked a
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  Speaker 1: World Cup and I was away from my family, but
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  Speaker 1: at the end of the day, I'm home all of August, right?
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  Speaker 1: So that's also a crazy luxury that I have busy
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  Speaker 1: seasons and we both have that and trying to balance
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  Speaker 1: it all. I don't know if that really is a
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  Speaker 1: real thing, but when you think about work-life balance, what
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  Speaker 1: does come to mind for you, Carly, and how you've
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  Speaker 1: been able to be so present as a mom? Because
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  Speaker 1: I see that in you and, you know, you're valuing
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  Speaker 1: home so, so much. And I so appreciate and respect
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  Speaker 1: that about you because it is such a priority.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's something I've been, I feel like pondering a
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  Speaker 2: lot post-retirement because especially being inducted into the National Soccer
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  Speaker 2: Hall of Fame, I had to write my speech and
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  Speaker 2: I would spend, you know, days running and thinking about it. And,
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  Speaker 2: you know, I actually had a ton of people ask me,
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  Speaker 2: you know, how did you how did you write that
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  Speaker 2: speech of, you know, just was it all worth it?
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  Speaker 2: That was kind of my theme, you know, giving up
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  Speaker 2: and sacrificing and putting my career ahead of every single
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  Speaker 2: thing in my life. And I don't know. And I'd
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  Speaker 2: be curious, like, I don't know that I could have
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  Speaker 2: been any other way and still been at the level
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  Speaker 2: that I wanted to be at. I mean, I look
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  Speaker 2: at a Tom Brady. I feel like he was pretty similar.
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  Speaker 2: You look at, you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, Kobe Bryant. Same thing.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, currently, maybe Scotty Scheffler. Yeah. To me, maybe
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  Speaker 2: seems like he's got the whole work life balance down.
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  Speaker 2: He does. I did not have balance in my career.
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  Speaker 2: I was to the complete extreme of doing anything and everything.
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  Speaker 2: And I mean, bless Brian. I mean, I don't know
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  Speaker 2: that I could have been that person to him if
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  Speaker 2: the roles were reversed. I mean, to stay that patient,
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  Speaker 2: to have me be away for that long, to training
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  Speaker 2: at night, training at morning. I mean, I just think
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  Speaker 2: every thought that I had consumed my mind and my
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  Speaker 2: world for 17 long years. And there was no off
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  Speaker 2: switch that I had. And now I've shifted into this
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  Speaker 2: whole other world as a mom. And I feel like,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, do we ever really get the balance right?
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  Speaker 2: I don't think so. But I feel like the balance
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  Speaker 2: I have and I'm able to have because of the
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  Speaker 2: career that I had and what I put into that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm now afforded with the opportunity to pick and choose
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  Speaker 2: what I want to do and be home and be present.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, just be a different wife, which is kind
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  Speaker 2: of crazy to me.
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  Speaker 1: I have so many follows on that statement, though, that
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  Speaker 1: you said you couldn't do it for Brian, but Brian
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  Speaker 1: was able to do it for you, which is pretty unbelievable, right?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, do you remember when it shifted where you
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  Speaker 1: were like, all right, I'm good? Was it retirement? And
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  Speaker 1: you were like, all right, I'm not this Because I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to... You said you were selfish in the
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  Speaker 1: way you were training, but you had a plan and
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  Speaker 1: he supported you. How did you know he was going
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  Speaker 1: to be able to support you that whole time too?
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  Speaker 1: And how was he not frustrated with it? That's really special.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you think of like 2015 World Cup, he
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  Speaker 2: didn't come. He had the opportunity to come to the final,
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  Speaker 2: but we were getting married in 2016 and he was
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  Speaker 2: afraid that if he came and we didn't win, like
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  Speaker 2: that would affect... So he didn't come because I was
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  Speaker 2: so uber focused.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know that's why he didn't come. I thought
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  Speaker 1: he had a work conflict.
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  Speaker 2: No, he was just like, you know, I just I
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  Speaker 2: don't I don't want to come. And then if they
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  Speaker 2: don't win, you know, it just would be not not
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  Speaker 2: a good thing, I guess. But our love has just
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  Speaker 2: been so strong for one another over the years. We've
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  Speaker 2: been high school sweethearts. We've pretty much tackled so many
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  Speaker 2: different phases of life. I mean, he was 15, I
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  Speaker 2: was 17 when we started dating, broke up a few times,
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  Speaker 2: had some detours along the way, but no, he's just,
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  Speaker 2: he's such an amazing guy. And now I feel as
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  Speaker 2: if I'm able to be the wife that I can be, present,
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  Speaker 2: fully present, and not have to worry about in the
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  Speaker 2: back of my mind, okay, I got to wake up at,
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  Speaker 2: you know, what time tomorrow? I've got to run. I've
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  Speaker 2: got to do this. I've got to do that. There's
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  Speaker 2: other things that obviously, you know, are on my list
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  Speaker 2: of things to do, but it's nowhere near where.
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  Speaker 1: It had to be.
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  Speaker 2: And so, yeah, it's, I think the balance now I'm
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  Speaker 2: trying to get right. And I think that that kind
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  Speaker 2: of came after retirement and maybe, maybe the last few years,
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  Speaker 2: I think Harper, Harper definitely changed that for me is
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  Speaker 2: just being fully present and you know, not worrying about
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  Speaker 2: things that, I don't know, the wash, the dishes, you know,
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  Speaker 2: things that just aren't that imminent. But your schedule, like
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  Speaker 2: my schedules, it's kind of different now. You know, I've
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  Speaker 2: worked a month of World Cup, but you've got World Cup,
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  Speaker 2: you've got college football. You've got a lot of things
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  Speaker 2: throughout the year.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't say no well. I think the
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  Speaker 1: harder part is I enjoy what I do, right? So
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  Speaker 1: it's hard for me to turn down any opportunity that
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  Speaker 1: could open a door because I always tell people too,
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  Speaker 1: like you just never say no. You just never say
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  Speaker 1: no because you don't know who's going to be, you know,
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  Speaker 1: on the other side of something. But I recently did
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  Speaker 1: say no to a speaking appearance. Someone asked me to
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  Speaker 1: go talk at an NFL team. And I was just like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't think that's right. Like I
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  Speaker 1: need to be with Gigi the whole month of August.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: And I having the confidence to say no to something
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  Speaker 1: like that, was good for me. And I'm still learning.
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  Speaker 1: I also very much enjoy the, the adrenaline of what we're,
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  Speaker 1: what we do. I think I thrive on that. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if I'd be great if I wasn't working,
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  Speaker 1: you know, on my own, but I have a husband
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  Speaker 1: who's also super supportive, who did play professional hockey. So
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  Speaker 1: he and I have almost shifted in a really beautiful
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  Speaker 1: way where he had a career that he was focusing on.
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  Speaker 1: I was working in LA and, focusing on myself, but
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  Speaker 1: also trying to grow as a broadcaster. And we just
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  Speaker 1: supported each other from afar. And now he's able to
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  Speaker 1: be a little bit more with Gigi when I'm traveling.
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  Speaker 1: And the balance is so special. It's not easy for
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  Speaker 1: a single parent, whether you're mom or dad, to be
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  Speaker 1: home with a baby or, you know, one to two, whatever,
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  Speaker 1: how many kids you have. it's hard when I'm solo
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  Speaker 1: with Gigi. It's just nice to have a support system.
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  Speaker 1: So I give him a lot of credit for being
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  Speaker 1: able to be one, my biggest fan and two, able
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  Speaker 1: to support me along the way. But yeah, I can,
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  Speaker 1: I could be more present too. I think it's as
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  Speaker 1: simple as we've been trying to leave our phones like
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  Speaker 1: on the kitchen counter and we're, because I don't want Gigi,
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  Speaker 1: and I know still so much younger, but I don't
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  Speaker 1: want Gigi to visually see me on my phone. Like
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  Speaker 1: little things like that, like turning off social media in
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  Speaker 1: a way that's, normal where we're just, we're consciously trying
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  Speaker 1: to have dinner together at night and we are making
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  Speaker 1: that a family event. And it's not just all of
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  Speaker 1: us eating at different times, like just little family things
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  Speaker 1: to keep a unit strong. I've been trying to bring
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  Speaker 1: into a work-life balance, but I'm crazy. I love traveling.
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  Speaker 1: Like I tried to get my husband to go away.
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  Speaker 1: We went to Nantucket two weeks ago. Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 1: Didn't you go straight from the final? Yes, I was.
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  Speaker 1: Pretty much? I was a disaster when I got there
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  Speaker 1: for three days. I was more so just exhausted, but
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  Speaker 1: so happy to be off. But I tried to get
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  Speaker 1: him to go back because I do somewhat thrive off
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  Speaker 1: of being on the go and experiences and travel. My
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  Speaker 1: mom was a flight attendant growing up, so we traveled
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  Speaker 1: all the time. I very much enjoy that. I think
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  Speaker 1: if I didn't enjoy traveling, what I do would not
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  Speaker 1: be that fun.
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  Speaker 2: So you're home this whole month of August.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah. No plans. I take that back. We're going to
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: go to Minnesota. But that's to see my parents. That
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: feels different. That's where grandma grew up.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: So how does it feel daily? Feels great. Just being home.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: It feels great, but I have my suitcases right here.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: I'm just ready to go.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: At the drop of a hat, if somebody emails your
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: agent and calls you and says.
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: Hey, I need you here. There is a level of
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: that that's hard for me, but I also so appreciate
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: the time that I have with Gigi and the time
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: we can have before school starts for her and football season.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: My first game is September 5th, which is Also my birthday.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: So where else would I want to be than Bloomington, Indiana?
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: A big one. You should come out to a game.
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: I know. I've had Rob tell me to come out
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: to some games. And unlike you, if I don't have
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: to travel, I'm like, I don't want to travel.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: You're also going to be very busy in September. So
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: we're going to hold on the big noon kickoff hangout
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: until after baby number two.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: At some point.
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: Soon enough. I think what would be fun, too, if
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: we at one point had someone on the pod who's
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: an expert in, like, the work-life balance or, you know,
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: someone who, a therapist who gives advice on doing it all.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: I think that'd be fascinating because I'm still learning this.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: It's not perfect by any means.
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: Totally. And I don't think there's one right way of
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: doing something. Like, I don't think everybody could have approached
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: their profession or career the way that I did, right?
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: And you just had such a commitment to it, to
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: your craft, to your success. It's so inspiring because I
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: don't know if I, if you said and made me
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: wake up every day and train the way you trained,
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: I don't think it has the same end goal result.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: Like you had that, that extra switch, which so few
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: athletes have. Yeah. Yeah. Well, Kobe, I love the Scotty example,
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: but I haven't, I can't think of who else in
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: my experience had that. And I'm going to think about
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: that and get back to you on others.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, this might be a good time for a
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: little break and we can come back and talk a
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: little bit more about whatever it takes, the ethos, the
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: trade-offs in life. Yeah, get talking to some more stuff.
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: Welcome back to Whatever It Takes, with Carly Lloyd and
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: Jenny Taft. This has been fun. I've been enjoying this
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: chat with you, Jenny. Just the balance of life. And
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: now as we kind of shift gears a little bit,
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: I feel like having a child changed my viewpoint on this.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: And I don't know if you can relate a little bit,
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: but since I played on the national team, I would have,
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: very short windows of time that I would come home.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: And I would always have a list of things I
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: got to get done. I got to do this. I
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: got to do that. You know, I'm type A. So
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I got to get all this done in
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: one shot. Having had Harper, that changed my perspective a
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: little bit of just certain things are not a priority.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: And I want to be present in that particular moment
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: of time. The dishes can wait. The wash can wait.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: But I don't know if you've had to get better
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: at this. I've had to get better at this. And
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: it does kind of make life a bit less stressful
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: because I feel like we're always going to have stuff
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: to do. There's always a list. I'm like, that will
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: be forever.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: I'm looking at my list right now.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: And you still, do you still physically.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: Write your lists out? It's a new thing I'm trying because. Oh,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: I love it.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: I physically do it.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: I found that I put the list on my phone.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: There's a little cheesy shot. And I wasn't crossing things
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: off the list on my phone. So this is new.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: I got this for the World Cup. And weird, none
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: of these things. New nanny has not been found. Thank
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: you notes have not been written.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Now, with your to-do lists, are you just busy with
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: other things that you can't? get some of these things done?
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: Or is it not a priority?
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm a little bit like you. I would
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: call myself type A with like so many type B qualities,
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: which is weird. I'm a Virgo. So there's a level
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: of me that I'm very type A with work. I'm
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: never going to go into something unprepared. I will cram.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: I will stay up late if I need to. I
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: will wake up early if I need to. I'm type
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: A in that. And I'm type A in the way
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: I think I got to this point, but there is
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: a level of like security and confidence and we're doing it.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: We're figuring it out. And I do love to just
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: be with Gigi and be present. And if the house
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: gets messy, it gets messy. That's the point. Like we
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: were painting yesterday and I had this huge, this like,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: which is fun, you should get for Harper, just like
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: a roll of paper, but it's sticky on the bottom.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: So we just laid it out on the floor and
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: we were just painting. Like it's kind of chaotic. And
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: you know what else has shifted in me, which I'm
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: curious your thoughts. I work out less, which is weird
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: because I like working out. I do. But if I'm tired,
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: like going to squeeze in a HIIT workout class, which
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I used to always just say I had to do something,
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: my mindset towards a workout class is different. If I'm tired,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: it doesn't feel the same. I mean, I still, of course,
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: I like working out. I worked out twice this week.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: I'll do something tomorrow. So maybe three times a week,
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: but I'm just not running every day It's just different.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Like if I'm tired, my body needs rest. And that's
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: been different, which I never used to be easy on myself.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: Was it post-World Cup, you think?
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: Well, the World Cup I would work out, but we
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: were just busy. Like it's more so working out sometimes
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: was just me going on a long walk. So I
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: don't mean workout like I'm pushing it to the limit.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Like maybe I would have trained harder when I was younger,
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: but it's more the mental break, which I think is
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: still very important. But are you like... you used to
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: be the most intense training person I've ever seen. But
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: while pregnant, you've approached it very differently.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: I have not worked out besides doing Pilates a couple
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: times a week. But obviously with my travels and World Cup,
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: I had to kind of put a hold on that.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: And then I've just been this, you know, last few
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: bits of the pregnancy have just been, I've been just
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: really tired. So it's been, it's been hard to get
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: back into it. But No, first pregnancy, obviously, you know,
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: probably a lot of people know my journey of IVF
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: and going through all that and just how long it
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: took and how sacred I just wanted to have that
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: pregnancy and not really like I didn't need to push
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: my body. I pushed my body for 17 some years
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: and it was hard enough. I thought I was always
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: going to be somebody that never had an issue working out.
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: I remember some of the younger players on the team,
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: when I was close to retiring, we were in the
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: ice bath together. It was like Sam Mewis, Rose LaBelle,
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: and Emily Sonnet. They're like, are you going to keep
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: working out the way that you do? And I'm like, yes, absolutely.
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: And I retired, and then I gave myself some time off.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: Clearly not enough. I tried to go back out for
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: a run, and I'm like, my gosh, this is so hard.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: Now I know what every human being that does not
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: play a professional sport where you have to work out
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: feels like. It's really hard. It's hard to not have
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: a goal, to not have to be like motivated or
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: to not have to do it for a living.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: So it was hard.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: And then, you know, obviously going through the IVF and
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: all the retrievals and, you know, working out, not working out,
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: the start, the stop.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: It was hard.
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: And then I just said to myself, you know, there's
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: just no point of working out. I don't need to
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: work out during the pregnancy. And then after I had
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: Harper in October, I was playing at TST with Heather
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: Riley's team and the U.S. woman. And that jump started
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: me and gave me a bit of more of a
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: goal to work out at that particular time. And it
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: suddenly felt like fun again I wasn't doing anything crazy
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: maybe three days a week doing some running and and
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: various stuff played on a co-ed soccer team which was
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: hilarious and then this pregnancy haven't really worked out either
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: but I'm looking forward to getting myself in shape after
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: this pregnancy but it's like.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: You are a goal-oriented person in the way that working
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: out had to have a goal maybe It seems to be, yeah.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: And when your goal was to have a baby, have babies,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: the goal shifted, which I think it... But I think
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: that's really actually special to hear because the priority was
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: not you.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: No, no. And I am type A, type A, you know,
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: not type A, type B. Not my list that's unchecked.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: So for me to... I guess just kind of like
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: breathe a little bit more and be present. Like I said,
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: I will sit here with Harper. Harper is on the go.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: She does not stop from the moment she gets up
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: till her nap. Then when she wakes up from her
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: nap till bedtime.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: So a lot of.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: Times I'm like, I don't even know what I did
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: with my day except for sit here with her, play
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: with her. But yeah, I mean, I wouldn't want it
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: any other way. So it's, It's weird to be able to,
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: I guess, have changed that aspect of my life of just,
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: you know, if it's not a priority, I'm okay with that.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: But that's pretty wild to me that you've gone from
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: the most type A person I've ever seen too, being like,
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: I'm just going with the flow. That's what you told
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: me the whole World Cup. I'm like, Carly, I am
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: not going with the flow right now. I am stressed.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: Hey, I was trying to tell Clint Dempsey, too, to
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: go with the flow.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: He didn't go with the flow. You need to remind
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: him of that at times.
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: Actually, he might be an athlete that has that switch.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: You asked me who else. He counts in that way, right? Yeah.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: Bring him on the pod. He can defend himself. I
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: feel like what is so cool though about the reminder
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: is that you can you can do both like you
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: can be type a still and still also say we
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: can do it tomorrow we can finish the list tomorrow
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: and look like there's always going to be something to
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: do like you said life is never going to not
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: be busy there's always stuff but what's the priority and
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: what's the focus and the time with harper you have
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: right now is so sacred it's never going to have
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: this one-on-one time like you have right now i.
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: Know I just look at my career and you talk
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: about a World Cup, how quickly a World Cup's over with.
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: And you've seen it with Gigi. I mean, I guess
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: not that I don't want to make the same mistake,
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: but I want to be more present now here with her.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: Turning 40, after 40, I feel like your whole life
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: perspective changed, at least mine did. You just view things
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: a little bit differently. And everybody says like kids do
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: change you. So I'm not 40 yet. I'm I'm getting there.
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: I'm getting closer.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: But I always think about like when we were younger
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: and I thought my parents or my friend's parents who
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: were 40, I'm like, oh my gosh, they're so old, right?
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: Like we're in it. 40 is different, right? Like I
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: used to think that was so old. But the cool
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: thing is the life we've lived, right? And I don't
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: want to have any regrets. I want to have perspective
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: and appreciation. And I just, I love hearing that from
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: you because it does matter. It does matter to like
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: have the perspective. On what's important in life.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: Would you say the older you've gotten, and obviously Gigi's
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: gotten older, have you gotten a better balance of that?
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: I would say we've also been a little bit on
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: the move the last couple years because my husband's been
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: transitioning from he was playing, he was coaching. We've lived
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: a couple places in the last couple years. So I
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: feel like we've been a little bit in motion in
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: a way that we haven't settled fully. But that's okay too.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: Like transitions in life are okay. Like I love the
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: idea that Gigi's now lived all these places and she
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: was born in California at the beach and now she's
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: a city girl in Boston and, you know, takes the
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: tea and takes, you know, takes the bus and we're
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: going to go to school on the bus next year,
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: which is such a fun like experience for her. I
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: don't know if we'll live here forever, but right now
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: it's a really fun place for her to just be
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: a young kid and seeing her explore the city is fun.
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: Cause I went to school in Boston and, So now
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: having a daughter to explore the city with is pretty fun.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: Like we were at Faneuil Hall yesterday and I remember
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: going there in college and thinking, how lucky am I
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: to go to school here? So that's been a fun perspective.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: But I just think that the balance in my life
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: comes from just making sure I always have the time,
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: you know, to spend with her. And, you know, we
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: take advantage of every time together and making sure that
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: we're just creating those memories with friends and family. And
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: you inspire me in the way that you're able to
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: just be that present with Harper. And like you said,
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: like you wanted her so much. You wanted a family
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: and it all is worth it in the end. And
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: I believe in timing and a plan. And I don't
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: think anything happens by accident. So hopefully Gigi will have
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: another sibling and you can talk me through another one. Yes.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: Not today.
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: Yes, I believe that.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: But let's hope my list gets crossed off. Well, I
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: feel like we should probably take a little break and
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: then get back to more conversation from whatever it takes.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: We'll be right back.
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: Welcome back to Whatever It Takes with Carly Lloyd and
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: Jenny Taft. As we're sitting here kind of talking about
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: work-life balance and being present, being in the moment, there's
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: been some non-negotiables, I feel like, in my life that
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: I've been trying to kind of change. You talked about
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: wanting to keep your phone away from Gigi a little bit.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: And I've kind of been the same, even though Harper is,
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: you know, just a little under two years old. I
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: just feel like they still get the sense of that.
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: And so I was wondering if there's any other things,
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: non-negotiables that you have currently that you're kind of trying
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: to get better at or change.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: It sounds so silly saying it out loud, but like
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: getting the right amount of sleep is so crucial. And
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: I know that's a luxury that we don't always have, right,
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: with kids. But I am so aware of going to
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: bed because I feel like today, I feel great. I
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: went to bed at like 1030. Gigi's been waking up
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: at seven. She's staying in her bed. When you are
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: at that stage, Carly, I got ideas. It's hard when
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: they're not in their bed, they're leaving their bed. We
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: have a sleep fairy that occasionally visits. We have a
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: light in her room. It's like a red light, green light.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: So she stays in her room until seven when the
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: green light goes on. My sister uses those too. Honestly,
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: for us, it's been amazing. But I just, as I've
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: gotten older too, I do think it just matters so much, right?
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: And like not being afraid to just go to bed
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: and try to get your rest and be smart about
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: what you're eating and drinking and all the things because
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: it all matters. And you just feel it differently as
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: you get older. And that's been big on us. And
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: just like the the TV time with her, like just
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: trying to be really conscious. Like, of course she watches television,
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: but you can tell. And I know Harper's a touch younger,
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: but like if Gigi's watched a long show or a
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: movie and it's like lots of colors and movements, you
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: can see her mood shifts, right? So it's, yes, we
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: watch television. We watch movies at times. And that's a
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: special thing. Like we went to see a movie recently
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: and at the movie theater, and it was so, so fun,
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: like to experience that together. I'm never someone who's going
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: to say no Screen time, but like still have it
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: be a fun, sacred thing. Sleep, less phones at home
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: and trying our best to take care of, you know,
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: the family and putting the family first, I think is
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: big for us. What stands out to you?
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, well, sleep. I feel like we don't
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: get enough of that currently and soon we'll not.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Get that much either. How's Harper sleeping? But it's all
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: worth it.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: No, you know what? Harper's been, she's a great sleeper
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: from pretty much three months, We had her in her crib.
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: She was morphed into her sleep schedule, you know, kind
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: of get up in the morning and then have that
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: morning nap for a couple hours. And then when she
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: was doing two naps, she would have an afternoon nap. And,
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: you know, I nursed her for a year, so.
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you for that, by the way.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: I remember us chatting during the summers. You are such
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: a warrior. That's really, really, a year is incredible.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: I mean, I guess when you look at it like that,
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: I'm like, wow, yeah, it is a long time. I
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: feel like I just put my breast pump away and
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be getting it back out.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: Bring it back out. Well, and it's like, I think
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: it's amazing when it works and it doesn't work for
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: some and that's totally fine too. But I enjoyed it for,
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: I did six months and I enjoyed it. It wasn't,
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: it was time consuming, but I'm glad we did it. And-
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: you know, whatever works for anyone works. But I do
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: feel like it's an intimate thing that you can experience.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: So well done on a year. It's awesome.
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: I pretty much did all the feeds at night. I
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: have to get up anyway. I might as well get
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: up and go nurse her and be with her. And
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: then what was great about, you know, our schedules and
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: our lives is he was able to get her in
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: the morning when she would wake up and I could
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: sleep for a couple hours, which was massive just because
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: of the, you know, the broken sleep throughout the night.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: But she was always a great sleeper. She still takes
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: like a two to three hour nap. And I'm like,
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: the day that she gets rid of this nap, we're
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: going to be.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: Like, oh, it's a sad day. We really mourned the
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: loss of the nap because I like I told you,
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: I would lay down if I realized like if I
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: needed a second, I can lay down too. Or just
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: have time alone to yourself.
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: You're going to miss that.
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: Sleep.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: I have prided myself on sleep.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: What were you sleeping when you were playing? Probably like
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: nine hours. As I got older, it was less and less.
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: But I needed, you know, I needed a good nine hours.
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: I would go to bed early. And, you know, that
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: was everything. I mean, that was performance, the way I felt.
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: I wasn't really, you know, a morning person. So, you know,
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: Brian should be very proud because he's been a morning
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: person for probably since high school.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: I am not a morning person. I know. But I
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: have morphed into a morning person, clearly. Good for you. Yeah.
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: So I can't complain. It was like she turned a
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: year old. I stopped breastfeeding and then she sleeps through
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: the night. Yeah.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, okay. Thanks.
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: I feel like everyone's always like, should we do something different? Like,
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: what aren't we doing? And it's like, you know, they're
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: going to sleep eventually. You just have to. Just let
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: it just all pan out the way it's going to
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: pan out.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: Well, and it's like her coming into our room. It's
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: not ideal, but it's also like she's not going to
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: do this forever. And you kind of appreciate the moments
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: of her wanting that time or I'd been away or,
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: you know, I stayed in her room a little bit,
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: but she's back sleeping in her bed and following her
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: red light, green light. But I also understand that. she
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: missed me at the world cup. So there's going to
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: be a clinginess towards me right now, which at times
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: is even hard for my husband. Cause he's like, she
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: wanted me so, so much only thing when you were away.
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: And now when mom's home, it's a little bit more me.
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: So we have to, it's just kind of like getting
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: back into a routine, but you know, it's, it's a balance.
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: I've been trying to just be better.
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: Even when Brian and I go up to bed, like
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: just putting the phone down and, and just, I know we're,
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: you know, we're both tired, but let's, Let's chat. Let's
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: catch up. You know, Harper's sleeping and so that. And
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: I mean, as Harper gets older and obviously we have
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: another one on the way. I mean, family dinners has
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: always kind of been a big thing for my family
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: growing up. I think that that's still going to be
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: a really important thing is that the four of us.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: Oh, I love them. They were big for us, too.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: Were they?
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: I didn't even appreciate it.
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: And I'm sure now with Gigi, like, she probably talks
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: and shares things.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: Even last night, like, we had a show on or something.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: Because we had been running around, and so we did
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: not sit at our table. We were all just kind
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: of eating at different times. And I even said to Matt,
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't love this. Like, it needs
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: to be a priority that we're sitting and we're saying
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: grace and we're together. And that's what— I like that. I
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: remember that from my childhood as a special time that
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: we all— Even though we had sports, we were still
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: finding a time, not every day of the week, but
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: we were together. And I think it's important.
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I feel like today's day and age,
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: families are, you know, eating in the car and running off,
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: you know, depending on how many kids you have, which
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: I get, it's probably insane, but I think it's just, yeah,
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: it's important. And we'll definitely want to do that. But yeah,
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: the phones, you know, just trying to kind of limit
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: the amount of time and maybe eventually, you know, working
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: out post-pregnancy for me, try to get myself back into
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: some shape.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: I mean, you just got to have a goal. What
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: are you training for?
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: I need to play TST again.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: That's what I was thinking. Did you enjoy it, though,
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: when you were playing again in that way?
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: When I retired... I was so ready. Mentally, physically, I
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: was completely done. And I think I didn't, it's not
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: like I hated the sport. You know, I didn't leave
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: hating the sport. I left feeling fulfilled and just ready
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: to move on. And I started, you know, doing other
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: things and traveling and just living life, as crazy as
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: that may sound, having some drinks and letting loose and
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: eating whatever. And then as time kind of went on,
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: then I started getting into golf. So I was golfing
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: a bit more. And then TST came and I was like, wow,
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: this just... Actually, I had a high school friend ask
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: me to play in this co-ed league for soccer. That
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: was actually the first thing.
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh, it feels so good to be
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: back out here. The quality of play was, you know,
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: not great. They were happy to have you. There was
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: probably an injury each week. Yeah. And when I walked
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: through the doors, everybody was like, is that really Carly Lloyd?
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: Carly is here. High school pickup league. I love that, though.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: The love is always there. But yeah, that just kind
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: of reinvigorated my love and passion again. And then playing TST,
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: I mean, it was so fun. It was the first
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: time I had felt like I had fun since, you know,
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: my club days, which was awesome.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: That's really refreshing to hear.
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: I love it. There's no pressure. You're just playing. There's
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: no coaches. Yeah, it was it was a good time.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: Got to play with, you know, Allie Krieger and Heather
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: O'Reilly again, Allie Long, you know, some other players that
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: I played with. So that was that was a good time.
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: I feel like Heather O'Reilly is one of those moms
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: who she always blew me away.
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: Like she had her kids.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: And funny enough, I was working with her at Fox
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: and I was pregnant like early on and I hadn't
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: really told anyone. But I was so excited to tell
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: her because I felt like she was one of those
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: moms that just like figured it out. And then she
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: had a kid and then she was back and she
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: was training and she still is like that. She's so inspiring.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: She's probably still running. Faster than anyone I've ever seen.
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: But she just, like, found a way. And I always
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: really respected that about her. And I just remember telling her.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: And this, like, community of support from that whole group
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: of women. Like, that's why I love your era so much.
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: Because we were all kind of the same age.
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it was cool. And Heather, in particular, she's
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: exactly that. I feel like she just.
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: She just gets it done, no matter what. She figures
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: it out. I mean, it's pretty incredible. I remember her,
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: you know, because... She was asking me about playing in
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: TST and I had to tell her early on that
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: I was pregnant.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: And I remember her.
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: Telling me that, you know, this is going to be
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: the greatest. We've obviously accomplished a whole lot in our career.
• 41:29
  Speaker 2: But she's like, this is going to be the greatest
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: thing that you've ever accomplished. You know, when you don't
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: have a kid yet, you're like, yeah, yeah. But then
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: I'm like, it's so true.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: That makes me want to cry.
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: That's so true. Yeah.
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: It's pretty amazing. Like, what were we also doing before? Like,
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: when we thought we were busy? Well, you were busy training.
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, my gosh. What were we doing?
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: All the time in the world. I watched, binge watched,
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: you know, season after season of shows. And now our
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: lives are, you know, this and pretty crazy and probably
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: a little bit more crazier than I am.
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: No.
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: It's all... Do you guys have help, though? You've got
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: the nanny.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: We do have a nanny, and I think, yes, like,
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: of course we need help. In my mind, the more
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: people that love and support Gigi, the better, right? I mean,
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: my parents will help. My parents will fly in. She's
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: gone to my in-laws in New York. The more, the merrier, right?
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: But it also is, you know, it's not for everyone,
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: and I totally get that, but I've found that for
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: our family dynamic, like, I really love having someone else.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: We've now had maybe... four different nanny it's like one
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: a year I guess since Gigi was born I had
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: two nannies that lived with us at one point which
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: is a different dynamic but I didn't mind it I
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: thought it was kind of nice to have someone in
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: my home I always felt safe to have someone else
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: if if my husband was traveling if Matt was away
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: so anyways I've had kind of both but I just
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: think it's the more love any kid can have the
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: better and and she loves her relationship with her nannies
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: like it's it's been cool to see that evolve and
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: you know have that a part of our family too
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: do you guys have someone It helps you guys?
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: No, no.
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: So we're- You haven't needed it. We're just full time.
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: I've had a lot of people ask me, did you
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: have a night nurse? I'm like, no, I did all
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: of it for a year and- I'm impressed. Wouldn't change
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: it for the world. I mean, now our lives offer
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: that up. We're able to do this. I mean, if
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: we had nine to five jobs and traveling and doing
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: all that, then, you know, way different story. But, yeah,
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: we do it all. And we've got my parents and
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: his mom that helps. We want, like, our parents to,
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: it to be like a treat. You know, we don't
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: want it to feel like it's like they're working and they're,
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: you know, they've taken Harper. My parents have taken Harper
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: multiple times for an extended stay when she was just
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: two months old. Which was crazy because I'm like, you're
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: getting up with a newborn.
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's tiring.
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: Feeding and doing all the things. Yeah. But then I'm like,
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: I don't know what's more tiring. That. So it's either
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: the newborn phase where you're getting up multiple times or
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: this toddler phase where they just don't stop.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: Non-stop. Yeah. CG does not stop moving. I tried to
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: bring the soccer ball out last night, like, inspired by
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: the World Cup, but she was like, I've got, I'm
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: the scooter right now. Like, I'm, this is a faster
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: means of transportation. Like, they do not stop. No. But
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: as it should, right? I'd rather her be busy and active.
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess then they're in school mode at some
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: point and, you know, whatnot. Harper's going to, she's going
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: to start school in September.
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: Oh, good. Yay.
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: A couple days a week, just for a couple hours.
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: So I think it'll be good for her, especially when
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: the baby's born. But yeah, no, I think we're going
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: to we're going to obviously need some more hands on
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: deck this time around. But yeah, we always I guess
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: we it's just maybe more in us where we like
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: feel bad asking, you know.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: I like what you said, like it should be a
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: treat still, which is, you know, my parents do help
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: us a lot. But I mentioned I'm going to go
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: to Minnesota in a week or two before I get really,
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: really busy. And it's because it's like I don't want
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: them to feel like they're always coming here to help babysit.
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: I want them to feel like it's fun to see
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: Gigi and it's just a fun trip and I want
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: to see Minnesota to see friends and my grandma and
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: a lot of reasons, but you appreciate the help and
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: I don't take that for granted by any means, but
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: I'm all for the nanny. The nanny help. I can't
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: say no to that. I don't know if I see
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: you with an au pair living in your house, Carly.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: I don't feel like that's in your future. Yeah, I
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: don't think that that's for us. I can't imagine that.
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: I don't think Brian, I think Brian would shut that
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: down like immediately.
• 45:43
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• 45:46
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• 45:49
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• 45:55
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