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The Power of Encouraging Words · The World Knowledge

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  Speaker 1: Well, good morning, listeners. Thank you for listening to Lament
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  Speaker 1: of Hope podcast, and thank you for listening, watching, whichever
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  Speaker 1: platform you're on. Is there something, though, in life for
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  Speaker 1: you that if you fail at, it's really hard for
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  Speaker 1: you to have that perspective? Because I know for me,
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  Speaker 1: there's certain... Actually, if I'm being honest, failure in general,
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  Speaker 1: as I said before, is really hard for me to say, like,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't do well at this, or I didn't do well, like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, but... there are things that are easier to say,
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  Speaker 1: oh yeah, that was an oops, I'm sorry, or yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that didn't work out. There are things that are easier
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  Speaker 1: to say, but the pain of it, because similar to you,
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  Speaker 1: I'm perfectionistic, just not on baking. But is there something
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  Speaker 1: for you in life that if you fail at or
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  Speaker 1: don't do well at, it's really hard for you to
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  Speaker 1: think positively? Like, yeah, it's okay.
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  Speaker 2: If I think back, I'm not sure whether I can
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  Speaker 2: find anything I can find easily something that it's difficult
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  Speaker 2: for me to admit failure in. But there are a
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  Speaker 2: few things that are easier. For example, I've never been
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  Speaker 2: a particularly sporty person. I've never been particularly physically endowed
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  Speaker 2: or powerful. So if I suck at a sports match,
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  Speaker 2: I don't mind. that at all, because it's part of
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  Speaker 2: who I am, and I just turn it into a
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  Speaker 2: self-deprecating joke, and usually things are lightened up like that.
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  Speaker 2: I suppose that what I find particularly difficult to admit
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  Speaker 2: failure on is the things that I am known to
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  Speaker 2: be good for. So for example, baking is an obvious one,
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  Speaker 2: but even in my engineering job, if I screw it
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  Speaker 2: up at some point on a project or an activity
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  Speaker 2: for whatever reason, and then I realized that I could
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  Speaker 2: have avoided that because I had all the knowledge to
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  Speaker 2: avoid that, if only I had paid more attention. That
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  Speaker 2: I find difficult to accept failure on because it's almost,
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  Speaker 2: you see, we, at least I, identify myself in what
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  Speaker 2: I do. So when I was just an engineer, I
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  Speaker 2: identified myself as my engineering output, my research output. So
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  Speaker 2: admitting that that output wasn't of the right standard for
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  Speaker 2: my expectations is almost admitting that I am personally not
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  Speaker 2: at the right standard for my expectations. So there is
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  Speaker 2: this element where you mix up what you're producing with yourself.
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  Speaker 2: And you're saying, oh, this cake is not good enough.
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  Speaker 2: That makes me not a good person or a good
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  Speaker 2: enough person or a good enough baker. Whereas, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I keep telling myself that that's not the case because
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  Speaker 2: you can have a blunder and still be the same
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  Speaker 2: good person you used to be. And people's perception of
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  Speaker 2: you won't change because of that individual blunder you made
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  Speaker 2: out of a 25 years brilliant career in engineering but
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  Speaker 2: that's easier to say to yourself than to actually believe
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  Speaker 2: in that so i keep telling that to myself but
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  Speaker 2: i cannot honestly say that i believe that fully and
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  Speaker 2: i still find extremely daunting to uh to admit failures
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  Speaker 2: in my professional uh activities, whichever they are, engineering or baking.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, which probably also drives and helps you at the
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  Speaker 1: same time make really good cakes and do really good engineering.
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, that's the thing. You see, I've written a
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  Speaker 2: paper a while ago for a UK newspaper, and my
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  Speaker 2: point was exactly that. You know, there is a mantra
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  Speaker 2: these days everywhere especially when it comes to children, that
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  Speaker 2: as a parent, the best thing you could do is
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  Speaker 2: to install confidence in them. And, you know, they have
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  Speaker 2: to grow confident because that's the only way they can
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  Speaker 2: deliver what's expecting them.