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When Trust Wavers: Understanding the Roots of Suspicion · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Your partner's been acting a little suspicious for the past
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  Speaker 1: few months. They've been staying out later than usual and
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  Speaker 1: suddenly became super secretive about messages on their phone. One
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  Speaker 1: day you see their phone on the counter and realize
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  Speaker 1: it's unlocked. Do you snoop through their texts or resist
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  Speaker 1: the urge and walk away? Trust is foundational for building fulfilling,
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  Speaker 1: healthy connections. A lack of trust might lead to anxiety
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  Speaker 1: or problems in your relationship. If you have trust issues,
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  Speaker 1: This video will give you insight into what may have
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  Speaker 1: caused them and tips on overcoming them so that you
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  Speaker 1: feel more at ease.
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  Speaker 2: Let's jump into it. The double bind. What was your
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  Speaker 2: childhood like? This is one of the most important questions
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  Speaker 2: to ponder if you're trying to get to the root
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  Speaker 2: of your trust issues.
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  Speaker 1: If you experienced the double bind dynamic growing up, this
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  Speaker 1: could be why you have trouble trusting others as an adult.
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  Speaker 1: Social scientist Gregory Bateson is the researcher who first identified
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  Speaker 1: the double bind problem. According to an article published in
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  Speaker 1: Psych Alive, the double bind happens when you get mixed
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  Speaker 1: messages from someone. A person might say or do something
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  Speaker 1: in one moment and then completely contradict it in the next.
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  Speaker 1: This can cause distress and confusion for the person receiving
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  Speaker 1: these contradicting messages, especially if they're a child. For example,
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  Speaker 1: imagine a young child's father saying, I love you to
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  Speaker 1: their son, but then His dad suddenly seems angry, has
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  Speaker 1: an outburst for seemingly no reason and walks away from him.
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  Speaker 2: This unpredictable behavior leaves his son confused.
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  Speaker 1: While dad gave him a message of love, at the
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  Speaker 1: same time, he acted hostile and uncaring. The child might
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  Speaker 1: not know how to respond to make.
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  Speaker 2: Their dad happy.
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  Speaker 1: Through his research, Bateson found that double binds like this
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  Speaker 1: can cause children to develop a sense of distrust because
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  Speaker 1: they learn that they can't trust the conflicting messages their
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  Speaker 1: parents give them. If you experienced hurtful situations like this
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  Speaker 1: as a child, know it's not your fault. You can
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  Speaker 1: heal from it and learn to trust again. Charlie Huntington,
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  Speaker 1: a researcher at the University of Denver, shares that one
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  Speaker 1: way to overcome trust issues is to pay more attention
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  Speaker 1: to situations where people are trustworthy. When you have trust issues,
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  Speaker 1: you tend to focus on the negative experiences you've had
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  Speaker 1: and overlook cases where people show that they can be trusted.
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  Speaker 2: This can lead to a cycle of distrust.
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  Speaker 1: Having gratitude for trustworthy people as you go about your
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  Speaker 1: day can help you build your sense of trust back
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  Speaker 1: up again. If a friend follows through on a promise
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  Speaker 1: or your family member consistently picks you up at the
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  Speaker 1: time they said they would be there, stop for a
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  Speaker 1: moment and appreciate their actions.
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  Speaker 2: Acknowledge that their actions are trustworthy.
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  Speaker 1: If you practice this strategy for long enough, you might
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  Speaker 1: find that you are able to trust a little easier.
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  Speaker 1: If you find this video relatable and helpful, please give
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  Speaker 2: Now, moving on to the next point. Trust is mutable.
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  Speaker 1: If you've ever been betrayed by a friend or cheated
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  Speaker 1: on by a partner, you know that it can feel
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  Speaker 1: nearly impossible to trust again. While your childhood experiences have
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  Speaker 1: a powerful impact on your sense of trust as an adult,
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  Speaker 1: your experiences later in life also.
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  Speaker 2: Have an effect.
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  Speaker 1: A study published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship
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  Speaker 1: Therapy found that broken trust is one of the primary
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  Speaker 1: reasons participants self-sabotage in their romantic relationships. Many participants expressed
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  Speaker 1: that they were so afraid to get hurt again that
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  Speaker 1: they wouldn't allow themselves to be vulnerable with other partners.
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  Speaker 1: This led to difficulty maintaining relationships. Can you relate? Huntington
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  Speaker 1: points out that there is a bright side to this.
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  Speaker 1: Our sense of trust is not set in stone. It
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  Speaker 1: can change over time. Depending on your experience, if you've
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  Speaker 1: been through a heartbreak that caused you to develop trust issues,
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  Speaker 1: you can take steps to change it. Licensed clinical social
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  Speaker 1: worker Michelle Risser suggests that in order to overcome trust issues,
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  Speaker 1: you can practice trusting in low-risk situations that you feel
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  Speaker 1: safe in. This could be something as simple as asking
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  Speaker 1: someone to run an errand for you and seeing if
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  Speaker 1: you can trust them to be reliable. If you build
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  Speaker 1: up trust in safe ways like this, you might find
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  Speaker 1: that after a while, you learn to trust again, little
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  Speaker 1: by little. We hope this video helped you reflect on
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  Speaker 1: why you might have trouble trusting and what you can
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  Speaker 1: do to overcome trust issues. There are many different reasons
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  Speaker 1: why someone develops trust issues that may not have been
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  Speaker 1: mentioned in this video. So we wanna hear from you, Psych2Goers.
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  Speaker 1: If you have trust issues, where do you think they
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  Speaker 1: stemmed from? For those of you who have overcome trust issues,
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  Speaker 1: how did you do it? Share your stories in the
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  Speaker 1: comments below. Remember to be kind and patient with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Rebuilding trust takes time and everyone heals at their own pace.
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