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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Talking Big Goals Into Existence With My Whole Chest · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Badi here, you are listening to five
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  Speaker 1: Minute Friday. Can I tell you the most unfortunate thing
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  Speaker 1: I am? This is not unfortunate. I am in Palm
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  Speaker 1: Springs right now. I came out to Indian Wells for
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  Speaker 1: the tennis tournament and some work which I'll talk about
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  Speaker 1: in today's episode. But on my last day in this hotel,
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  Speaker 1: I realized that the television has free HBO. I do
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  Speaker 1: not have HBO at home, but I, because I don't
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  Speaker 1: have HBO, have not yet watched Heated Rivalry. And I
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  Speaker 1: realized it today that I had the opportunity to watch it.
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  Speaker 1: And now I'm two episodes in and I'm just shy
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  Speaker 1: of crashing for my night and checking out of this hotel,
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  Speaker 1: and I am so bummed. I'm going to need to
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  Speaker 1: find somewhere to watch the remaining episodes of this series.
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  Speaker 1: I needed to be in the know. I needed to
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  Speaker 1: understand what all the hype was about. I know that
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  Speaker 1: I know that you understand. Anyway, Yes, I am in
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  Speaker 1: Indian Wells as I record this, and I'm here because
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  Speaker 1: I had the opportunity to do some hosting at the
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  Speaker 1: A six House of Tennis out here. So what that
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  Speaker 1: looked like was a product panel with two women that
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  Speaker 1: work at the brand talking about one of their new
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  Speaker 1: tennis sneakers, the Solution Speed, and then I got to
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  Speaker 1: sit down with Taylor Fritz. Many of you probably know.
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  Speaker 1: I believe he's currently ranked number seven in the world.
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  Speaker 1: He's an Olympic bronze medalist, twenty twenty four, US Open
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  Speaker 1: finalist twenty twenty two, a champion here at Indian Wells.
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  Speaker 1: So cool to do that. And although as we know,
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  Speaker 1: Taylor Fritz not a woman in sport, this is something
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  Speaker 1: that's very exciting for me because a big goal of
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  Speaker 1: mine this year is to do more hosting around events
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  Speaker 1: that have nothing to do with run. If you're not
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  Speaker 1: new here, you know that I'm obviously a passionate runner.
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  Speaker 1: I've been doing loads of hosting over gosh, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: at least the last eight years since I started this show,
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  Speaker 1: at events that have to do with run, and so
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  Speaker 1: now I'm really looking to put myself out there and
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  Speaker 1: have opportunities that involve other sports. And so that is
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  Speaker 1: something I'm really excited about. It's something I'm really excited about,
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  Speaker 1: and it's something that I know won't come easy. I
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  Speaker 1: know that having this base of hosting is super critical
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  Speaker 1: to doing this work. I know that I do this
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  Speaker 1: work well, and that's something that I want to say
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  Speaker 1: with my whole chest. I have been in situations where
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  Speaker 1: I've been up for opportunities and for a plethora of reasons,
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  Speaker 1: they just haven't panned out. But I can say for
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  Speaker 1: certain that I know that I'm good at what I do,
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  Speaker 1: and I know that I am willing to work for it.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of what's going on in my life right
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  Speaker 1: now feels like a big question market feels like I
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  Speaker 1: just need to trust the process. I'm sure i'll talk
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  Speaker 1: about this over the next month or so as I'm
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  Speaker 1: going through this process, but I'm starting the egg freezing
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  Speaker 1: journey next week, which comes with so many different emotions.
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  Speaker 1: I actually shared something about this on social media earlier
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  Speaker 1: in the day today and received so many beautiful messages
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  Speaker 1: of support and women sharing their stories and offering advice,
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  Speaker 1: and I just felt so grateful to have that community. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and so that's something that feels in flocks. I'm about
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  Speaker 1: to resign my lease, which is always like this thing
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  Speaker 1: where you think about where am I going to be
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  Speaker 1: in twelve fifteen eighteen months from now, And you know,
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  Speaker 1: every time I resign my lease, I think to myself, like,
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  Speaker 1: am I going to be in a completely different chapter
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  Speaker 1: of my life? Am I gonna ever get to this
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  Speaker 1: point where I don't want to live in New York?
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  Speaker 1: I know that my parents, well at least my dad
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  Speaker 1: doesn't want me to live in New York anymore because
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  Speaker 1: it is expensive. Things are in flux, and so I
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  Speaker 1: feel as though in every aspect of my life, I
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  Speaker 1: am just surrendering to the universe and trusting that I
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  Speaker 1: can do the best I can with what I have.
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  Speaker 1: And over the next few weeks, which will then bleed
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  Speaker 1: into the next couple of months, I promise that I
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  Speaker 1: will have grace with myself, and that grace is something
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  Speaker 1: that carries over all of these different avenues which I'm
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  Speaker 1: talking about. Yes, I want to be hosting at more
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  Speaker 1: events outside of RUN, and I want to really be
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  Speaker 1: immersing myself in so many different aspects of women in sport.
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  Speaker 1: What an amazing time it is to be working in
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  Speaker 1: this area right now. However, these opportunities aren't going to
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  Speaker 1: come overnight, and so all I can do is put
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  Speaker 1: myself out there and do the best I can with
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  Speaker 1: what I have and keep showing up and doing a
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  Speaker 1: good job. Those are the things that are within my control.
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  Speaker 1: That is what I'm focused on. It's hard to let
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  Speaker 1: go right, It's hard to move forward when you don't
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  Speaker 1: know what happens next. It's frustrating to feel as though
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  Speaker 1: you want all of the answers right now. I want
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  Speaker 1: a magic eight ball to shake it and tell me, like,
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  Speaker 1: where will I be in X amount of time? How
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  Speaker 1: is this going to feel? But I don't have that,
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  Speaker 1: And so I take a deep breath and mind myself
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  Speaker 1: that I have great people in my support network, and
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  Speaker 1: I choose to do the best I can with what
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  Speaker 1: I have. And so my prompt for you this week
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  Speaker 1: is where can you loosen your grip just a little bit?
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  Speaker 1: Where can you trust the process a little bit more?
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question. Hey Emily, my name's Brittany.
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  Speaker 1: I'm writing today because I'm interested in signing up for
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  Speaker 1: my first half marathon. I'm wondering if there's anything that
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  Speaker 1: I should take into consideration before signing up for this.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a pretty avid runner right now, but is there
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  Speaker 1: a certain amount of base that I should have before
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  Speaker 1: pulling the trigger really appreciate your insight and love following
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  Speaker 1: you on social media. Thank you. All right, Brittany, signing
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  Speaker 1: up for that first half marathon, you already have an
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  Speaker 1: understanding that it's important to have some sort of a
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  Speaker 1: base going into this endeavor. So I would say that
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  Speaker 1: depending on how far out the half marathon your eyeing is,
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  Speaker 1: that is something really foundational. So you don't want to
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  Speaker 1: sign up for a half marathon that's in a month
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  Speaker 1: from now if you don't have some solid miles as
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  Speaker 1: a part of your regular routine. Now, that specific amount
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  Speaker 1: of mileage will differ from person to person, but you
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  Speaker 1: want a plan that isn't increasing mileage week over week
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  Speaker 1: more than ten percent at a time. So right now,
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  Speaker 1: if you're only running four miles a week and you
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  Speaker 1: want to sign up for a half marathon in four weeks,
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  Speaker 1: that's not the smartest idea. However, if you're running four
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  Speaker 1: miles a week and you want to get that cumulative
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  Speaker 1: mileage somewhere, maybe closer to twenty miles a week, then
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  Speaker 1: it's going to take a handful of weeks. I'm bad
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  Speaker 1: at math right now, but no more than ten percent
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  Speaker 1: increase in mileage a week. Over week to get to
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  Speaker 1: a place where you have a considerable amount of miles
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  Speaker 1: under your belt. You want to do that because you
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  Speaker 1: want to stay of off injury. You want to make
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  Speaker 1: sure that you're taking care of yourself, and that additional
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  Speaker 1: mileage more time on feet, is going to make you
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  Speaker 1: feel more confident. The next piece of advice that I
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  Speaker 1: can offer is that you don't want to choose a
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  Speaker 1: half marathon that is going to put unnecessary stress on
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  Speaker 1: the whole shipping. So, yes, the idea of a destination
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  Speaker 1: race can be fun. However, I would recommend for something
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  Speaker 1: that's your first half marathon to choose something that's a
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  Speaker 1: little closer to home. Choose something where you can remove
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  Speaker 1: aspects of decision fatigue, make the whole experience easier on yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Something else to keep in mind. I feel very strongly
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  Speaker 1: about this As someone who loves setting a goal. I
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  Speaker 1: firmly believe that your only goal for your first race
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  Speaker 1: of any kind and should simply be to finish. So
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  Speaker 1: while there may be buzzy times out in the world
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  Speaker 1: of how fast you quote unquote should be doing these things,
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  Speaker 1: throw the rule book out the window. You are doing
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  Speaker 1: this thing to be able to walk out on the
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  Speaker 1: other side and say I am a half marathon or
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  Speaker 1: and that is such a major accomplishment. I could ramble
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  Speaker 1: on about different advice when it comes to racing for
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  Speaker 1: quite some time, but the last thing I'll say here
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  Speaker 1: is it's better with a buddy. If you are signing
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  Speaker 1: up for your first race, there are going to be
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  Speaker 1: moments that feel scary and unfamiliar, and that is entirely
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  Speaker 1: understandable that it might make you feel some kind of way.
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  Speaker 1: So have an accountability buddy, someone to talk to you
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  Speaker 1: throughout your training, someone hopefully to toe that starting line with.
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  Speaker 1: Get a friend, do it together, and what a beautiful
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  Speaker 1: experience it will be for the two of you to share.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, always here for your listener questions. You can
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  Speaker 1: email me over at Hello at Hurdle dot us and
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  Speaker 1: I'll answer your question in an upcoming episode of the show.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you're following along with Hurdle over on social
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  Speaker 1: It's at Hurdle Podcast. I'm over at Emily Abodi another
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.