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Valentine's Guided Meditation: Choosing Love in a Divided World 🔮 · The Psychic Explorer

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  Hello, you gorgeous lot. Welcome to another episode
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  of Psych Explorer. I hope you're doing well.
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  Happy Valentine's weekend. It is Valentine's
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  weekend. I don't know about you, but I am yet
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  to book anything for my other half. There are
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  no bunches of roses I bought yet, no card, and
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  there's certainly no fancy restaurant booked
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  yet. However, I'm letting myself off because
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  as I'm recording this, it is only the last week
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  of January, so I have got plenty of time. I'll
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  be honest, I'm hoping Simon will take care of
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  a lot of that as well. Take it off of my hands.
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  Hello, how are you? First of all, before I get
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  started, a big old thank you very much to Rob
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  Lomax. How did you find out? What did you think?
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  Wasn't what Rob had to say really fascinating?
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  Came from a very different point of view than
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  what I come to spirituality from, but - still
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  no less valid. Actually, when I think about it,
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  that conversation really opened up my eyes to
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  other options which I thought weren't even open
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  to me before. I hope you appreciated and thank
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  you again to Rob for coming on. Massive, massive
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  thank you to all my guests. Thank you to Rob
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  for the last episode. It is Valentine's weekend
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  and I'll be honest with you. This is maybe the
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  fifth time I have recorded this introduction,
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  this episode, because I want to talk to you today
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  about love. Isn't that lovely? It's Valentine's
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  and love, gushy love and all that love. I'm recording
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  this a couple of days after some pretty horrific
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  things that have happened in the US. And I was
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  wondering, do I go political? Do I sort of go
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  a little bit preachy about spiritual bypassing,
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  about being all love, light and rainbows and
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  trying to ignore everything and how I think that's
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  actually really damaging. But it just did not
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  sit right with me. I thought, no, I don't want
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  to go down that route. I don't want to be preachy.
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  I don't want to be ranty. As much as what I am
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  witnessing, what is happening in the US and as
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  a result, the ripple effect that is having across
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  the rest of the world, especially in my own country,
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  the political ideologies that are bubbling away
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  under the surface, which to me at least absolutely
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  terrify me. I thought, no, I can't focus on that.
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  But what I can focus on is exactly what Valentine's
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  Day is all about. And that is love. It's difficult,
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  isn't it? And excuse my French, but it's difficult
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  when we see so much shit go down in the world
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  around us. We think the world is just full of
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  hatred. The world is full of differences. And
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  what can I do? You know, I've literally been...
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  I am a very politically aware person. I pride
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  myself on knowing what is going on in the world.
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  I find it really interesting. But sometimes it's
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  to my detriment, you know, I'll listen to the
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  political analysis on my podcasts day in and
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  day out. And I really have to sort of go in and
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  go out of it. I've been watching the stuff happen.
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  I've been listening to it all. And I thought,
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  what can I do? Like, what can I do? Like, why?
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  I'm not in that country yet. It is affecting
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  me on an emotional level so much. It's exactly
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  the same when things kick off in Gaza and other
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  parts of the world. It just affects me. It does
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  affect me. It really does. But there's also with
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  that sense of sorrow is the only word I can think
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  of at the moment. comes this sense of helplessness.
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  What can I do? And I sat here for, as I said,
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  the fourth, fifth, maybe even sixth time trying
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  to start this episode, not having a clue, but
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  having a basic structure, but just not being
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  able to formulate how I want to take this episode.
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  And I was just sat here and I just thought, pull
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  a card. and I pulled a card from one of my decks
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  and it was Goldilocks and three bears and underneath
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  it said child of hearts and around the outside
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  it had a picture of a heart and on the picture
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  Goldilocks was wearing this apron with little
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  hearts on it and I thought I knew it I thought
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  I knew if I pull a card it's going to be something
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  Valentine's related I can guarantee it and you
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  know it was But I sat with it and I thought,
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  no, this still just doesn't resonate with me.
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  I don't know what I'm going to be talking about
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  here. And then I picked up my phone. And like
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  I say, I've got my personal Instagram account,
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  which is very different. The stuff that comes
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  up on my algorithm for that is very different.
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  It's very political. I don't post a lot of political
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  stuff. It's more artsy photos from my travels
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  and things like that. but the algorithm shows
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  me lots of political stuff on that. Whereas my
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  psychic explorer is all love, light and rainbows.
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  And I was on my psychic explorer side and I obviously
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  can't show you this reel, but what I will do
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  is I'll put the audio onto it. All you need to
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  know is this reel. of a bus driver who drives
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  around Hackney which is a borough in London and
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  as he drives around on his route he has this
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  portable bubble machine and he opens his window
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  and as he drives these bubbles just come out
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  of his bus and it's such a simple thing to do.
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  I was watching this reel, and I've reposted it
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  on my Instagram, so if you are interested in
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  it, go to my Instagram, go onto the reels page,
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  and you'll see it there. Here is the audio of
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  it. Just listen to what this guy has to say.
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  Hey, mate, what are you doing? What are you doing?
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  You've got to share the love. As soon as people
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  see a bubble, they're smiling like, they don't
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  know why. That's the whole point. You don't need
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  a reason. There's three people I've made cry.
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  I'm getting emotional now thinking about it.
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  An elderly man came down and he says to me that
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  his daughter always gets this bus and she's very
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  poorly in hospital and she doesn't smile much,
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  but every time she speaks about me she smiles.
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  A black cab driver pulled up next to me and he
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  says, brother, you don't understand what kind
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  of day I was having and you just made my day
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  and his face went red. This is the weapon of
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  mass construction. 106 is cool. I'm from Hackney.
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  A lot of people who come in the bus will actually
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  know. So it's like a home route. It's my home.
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  Life is short. Smile more. That's my motto. Thank
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  you very much. I saw that and I thought that's
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  it. That is it. That is what I want to talk about.
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  Things are really not great in the world at the
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  moment. And it's very easy to feel really powerless.
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  It's really easy to think, who am I to make a
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  difference in such... a power -filled world where
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  it feels almost impossible to make any difference
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  whatsoever. But what that video showed me, we
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  all have the power to make someone smile. We
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  all have the power to make someone laugh. We
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  don't have to be comedians. We don't have to
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  be Samaritans. But if we all touch just one person
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  in our day, said hello to someone, then What
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  difference could that make and what impact could
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  that make? I spoke early on about the ripples
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  that the US politics is having on the UK politics
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  and they are having massive ripples over here.
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  Humans, people, souls are inherently good. We
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  want what is best. And sometimes that means that
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  some people make judgements that don't seem to
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  be. good on the surface, but actually if you
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  probe a bit deeper, then you sort of understand
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  where they're coming from. It takes empathy.
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  That doesn't mean I agree. Trust me, there are
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  plenty of people who I understand where they're
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  coming from, but I staunchly disagree with where
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  they're coming from and their ideology. But that
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  doesn't mean that I don't have the power to make
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  an impact on their life. If that means that I
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  drive around with a portable bubble machine hanging
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  out of my car, so that when I drive, bubbles
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  following me around the village that I live in.
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  If that means that you can say hello to someone,
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  a stranger, just smile at someone. I know it
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  can be a bit awkward, but actually just smiling
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  at people can make such a difference. I went
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  to my online sitting in the power practice I
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  do on a Sunday evening. It's facilitated by Dana
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  Willey, the wonderful guest I had on episode
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  eight. And she has something called City in the
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  Power Sundays, where it's a free online thing.
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  You go on to her website, Mediumship with Heart,
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  where she talks from her heart or from spirit,
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  and then she takes you through a guided meditation
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  where we just sit in the power. And then after
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  that we have a question answer session if anybody
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  has any questions. And she was talking last week
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  about an interaction that she had with someone
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  that worked in a shop, I think it was. And she
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  just stopped and she asked them how they were.
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  I know in America, there's this culture of asking
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  how people are, but not really listening to the
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  answer. And she was saying that she asked this
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  person how they were. And she asked him again,
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  said, no, really, how are you? Are you all right?
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  And the person interacted with her in such a
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  way That it left him saying to her, thank you
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  for asking about me. I really feel seen today.
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  Imagine the impact that had on that person's
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  life just from asking, how are you? No, no, really,
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  how are you? We all have the power to love. And
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  that love does not need to be gushy. It doesn't
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  need to be. red hearts and red roses and fancy
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  meals out with bouquets of flowers. It can be
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  taking the time to say hello to your neighbor.
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  It can be taking the time to remember that a
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  colleague of yours is going through a hard time
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  and just to stop and ask them at the water cooler
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  or in the canteen or wherever it is, how are
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  you? Are you okay? What's going on with that
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  situation you were talking about a little while
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  ago? At the same time, it can be difficult to
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  have empathy with people. Someone may have wronged
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  you. You find it very difficult to relate to
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  someone else's point of view. Maybe someone cut
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  you up on your drive to work this morning. Maybe
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  you threw them the middle finger. Maybe you swore
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  under your breath. Having that space for love
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  and empathy for someone you dislike is the hardest
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  thing to do. But we're not going to get anywhere
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  in this world if we continue to dislike one another.
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  If we continue to point out our differences rather
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  than point out what unites us. To try and understand
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  those differences and why that person feels the
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  way they feel. Where have they come from? What
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  has been their experience? To witness the injustices,
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  the hypocrisy, the double standards. And this
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  doesn't have to be on a global platform. This
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  can be in your life. This can be something that
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  you have experienced or are experiencing in your
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  own life. It's hard to talk about love when our
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  concept of love is so binary. And as I'm sitting
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  here, I'm really thinking to myself, how can
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  I relate this back to mediumship or spirituality
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  or psychic work? It's nothing too profound. I'm
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  thinking, I'm sat here thinking, oh God, where
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  am I going with this? But actually it's really
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  nothing too profound. When we connect, when we
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  connect to the beyond, the overall feeling and
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  the vast majority of the messages that I get
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  through are from loved ones telling the people
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  that are still here they love them. Empathy,
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  apology and love. Those are the three points
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  that come through over and over again. And if
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  our frame of reference is used by the world beyond
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  as a library and we don't understand empathy,
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  if we can't open ourselves up to at least try
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  to understand those that we don't agree with,
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  how are we going to improve in our mediumship?
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  How can we improve? in the messages that we receive
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  and that we convey to sitters. I'm going to end
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  this first half of this episode with audio from
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  a video on YouTube. The channel is called Dose
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  for Society and the video is called Older People
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  Give Life Advice. Have a listen to this and when
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  the people are talking, don't necessarily think
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  that the advice they are giving is about life.
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  Shift it to think about mediumship as well. And
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  a lot of what they'll say, I think, resonates
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  a heck of a lot. After the break, I'm going to
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  put together a meditation. So if you feel like
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  you need to, or if you feel like you want to,
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  then stay tuned and there'll be a meditation
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  I've put together on the other side of this.
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  What advice would you give to your younger self?
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  Don't be scared. Make the hard decisions. Don't
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  worry yourself about things that might never
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  happen. And what makes you say that? Because
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  I spend my whole life doing it. Well, why is
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  that important? Why would that be? Because you
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  waste emotional energy. You're wasting time on
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  something that A, might not happen and B, you
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  can't change anyway. So true. So then what would
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  you say to young people that are literally struggling
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  with that right now and maybe they're watching?
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  Try not to worry about anything that you can't
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  change. Think of other things that they could
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  do that would improve their lives in other ways,
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  but don't waste time worrying about something
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  that you cannot change. Spread my feathers and
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  let my beauty shine. You had any problem with
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  that? Well, we all do, right? And we all want
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  to make sure that we can give our best selves
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  to everyone and let our inner selves shine. Don't
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  be so afraid. Have you been afraid of something
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  that you needed to overcome? Oh, sure. You know,
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  plenty of times where there's an opportunity
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  that came up and you think about it and you think
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  about it and then you're like, okay, maybe next
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  time and you put it away for a way and then you
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  think later like, oh, I really should have done
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  that. I really should have gone there. take any
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  opportunity that you have for your future. Because
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  as a teenager I had a very simple boring life
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  and then I had the chance to go to Japan and
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  it changed my life. Don't get so caught up in
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  things. Don't get so worried. Have fun. Have
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  a little fun. And why would you say that? Because
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  we're all going to die eventually. You don't
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  want to spend your whole time worried and fretful
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  and anxious about this or that. Seize the moment.
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  Say yes more often. Don't always say no. Don't
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  always think things over too much. I think there's
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  been times when I haven't seized opportunities.
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  I've been too cautious. Whereas now, I sort of
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  feel like that was a bit silly. I should have
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  gone for it more. I don't regret things, but...
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  It's just what I would say, I think. Now I realize
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  over my life I've probably not done things because
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  too worried about what might happen and what
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  might not, whereas really, you know, just go
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  for it. Probably to take my time and to explore
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  and not be afraid to explore and adventure and
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  those things that maybe I think were too big
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  to go ahead and to try, to just have a go. Sometimes
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  fear can hold us back. And when we're younger,
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  like on one side of it we can be fearless, but
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  on the other side of it with fears of the unknown
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  or fears of different and change can be intimidating.
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  Ask yourself why you're afraid. Ask yourself
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  where that fear is coming from. and then begin
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  to investigate that and press forward into it.
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  And if you need to make a change, make a change.
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  If you need to step in another direction, then
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  step in another direction. But don't let it hold
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  you back from following and chasing your dreams.
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  Thank you. Welcome back, everyone. I hope that
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  three and a half minute audio clip brought a
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  smile to your face. It certainly did. I've listened
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  to that a couple of times now and... I thought,
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  am I cheating by taking something from YouTube
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  and putting it onto my own podcast? Yes, probably.
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  However, things are there to be shared. And I
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  think the whole point of this episode is love.
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  Love is there to be shared. And on that topic
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  of sharing the love, I put together a meditation,
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  which I'm going to play in a moment. If you wish
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  to take part, then by all means, please do. Just
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  the only thing I would ask is make sure that
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  it's safe for you to participate. If you're driving,
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  do not do this. Make sure you are sat somewhere
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  and that you are safe, free from distraction.
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  The point of this meditation is to hold love
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  for yourself and to hold love for someone else,
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  whether that be a loved one, whether that be
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  someone that you're finding it difficult to love
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  at the moment. The point is to share your love
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  because that is what we do in our mediumship.
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  We share the love that we feel from beyond to
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  our sitter. So sit back, relax and enjoy. Take
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  a moment to settle wherever you are and if it
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  feels comfortable gently close your eyes. Begin
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  by noticing your breath. No need to change it.
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  Just notice the inhale and the exhale. Allow
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  your shoulders to drop. Let your jaw soften.
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  Let your body arrive in this moment. Let go of
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  the day's tensions. This time is for you. An
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  opportunity to feel an opportunity to forgive
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  and an opportunity to allow your love to grow.
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  Imagine a soft warm light forming in the centre
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  of your chest. This light is not blinding, it's
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  not intense. It is steady, quiet, present. With
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  each inhale, this light gently grows. And with
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  each exhale, it softens and spreads. This light
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  is love. Not the loud kind. Not the performative
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  kind. But the quiet, enduring kind. the kind
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  of love that holds you even when you feel tired
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  the kind of love that stays when you don't have
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  the answers allow this light to fill your chest
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  expanding past your ribs into your shoulders
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  down your arms and into your hands let it move
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  up into your throat past your jaw your cheeks
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  up to your eyes to the top of your head let it
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  move down into your stomach past your hips through
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  your legs all the way to your feet you don't
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  need to force anything You don't need to fix
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  anything You don't need to become anything else
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  Just notice what it feels like to be held in
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  gentle love Imagine this soft light expanding
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  beyond you. This light is just enough to include
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  someone else. Maybe it's someone you love. Someone
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  who is struggling. someone you don't understand
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  or someone who feels afraid. This light is not
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  going to save the world. This light is not going
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  to solve everything. But in this place, you are
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  safe. There are no stories, there are no arguments
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  and there are no conditions. In this place, you
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  are both safe. In this place that you share with
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  this other person, there is only an intention.
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  May you be held in love. May you be safe. May
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  you feel supported. I will leave you here for
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  a few moments. Just you. This light of love.
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  and this other person and as I leave you notice
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  how simple that intention is may you be held
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  in love may you be safe may you feel supported
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  Notice your breath, breathing in and breathing
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  out. Breathing in, breathing out. Return your
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  awareness to the space that you are in. Allow
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  your feet to feel the surface beneath you. Allow
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  your body to feel the air around you. When you
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  are ready, gently open your eyes and return to
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  yourself.