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Ben's Hot Mess of an Engagement Party · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with our radio. Hey everyone, can you see me? Can
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  Speaker 1: you hear me? Hey? Everyone? Ashley and it is Ben
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  Speaker 1: and just our couple of the hour right now. This
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  Speaker 1: is supposed to be an engagement party, but for some
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  Speaker 1: reason it didn't exactly turn out that way. It's kind
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  Speaker 1: of a hot mess. We're going to call this Ben's
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  Speaker 1: hot messive engagement party. And Ben, do you want to
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  Speaker 1: explain why? Then? Yeah? I would love to. Uh. This
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  Speaker 1: was so a little backstory here. Jessica had this incredible
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  Speaker 1: idea that she was going to do her bachelor at
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  Speaker 1: party in Napa and uh our amazing producer and he
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  Speaker 1: was kind of helping her with that. Well. Unfortunately, due
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  Speaker 1: to the massive amount of people that are getting married
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  Speaker 1: this year in Jessica's life, bachelor parties became very expensive,
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  Speaker 1: and so she decided, because she's incredible, that she was
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  Speaker 1: going to try to do a uh an amazing bachelor
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  Speaker 1: party with the lowest amount of costs. So Nappa was
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  Speaker 1: then out of the question. So Amy and I Heart
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  Speaker 1: was sweet enough to say, okay, well how about we
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  Speaker 1: through your engagement party in Napa and uh we were
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  Speaker 1: all super excited about it, like incredibly incredibly excited about it.
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  Speaker 1: A couple nights ago, we get a text from my
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  Speaker 1: heart that says, hey, unfortunately this trip is not uh
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  Speaker 1: looking good. Uh, you know, with California's new restrictions, um,
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  Speaker 1: with everything going on in the world, it feels like
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  Speaker 1: a lot for my heart to send people to um
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  Speaker 1: Napa and uh. And so the trip unfortunately got canceled.
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  Speaker 1: Well was that twenty four hours ago when we got
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  Speaker 1: texted it was canceled. We find out today that some
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  Speaker 1: people still went to NAPA. But but Ashley, Jared, jess
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  Speaker 1: and myself are still at home, and so we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: do a virtual engagement party not in Napa. But I
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  Speaker 1: promised Jessica this we would be going to NAPA at
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  Speaker 1: some point very soon because she deserves it. So that's
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  Speaker 1: we had a lot of confusion, a lot of things happening.
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  Speaker 1: But we're still in Denver hanging out. It'll happen soon.
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  Speaker 1: And Jared is having a problem. If you see him
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  Speaker 1: mouthing things, that's because he doesn't realize he's muted. I
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  Speaker 1: can see that he's muted, but he says he's not.
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  Speaker 1: So he'll be back in a second, Jesse looks so pretty.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you pretty? Um. Yeah, so it seems like Nick
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  Speaker 1: in Dean, who will be joining us today, did end
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  Speaker 1: up going to NAPA. So we'll see how it is
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  Speaker 1: from there. It'll be funny. Um. But jess you'll make
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  Speaker 1: you'll make it there sometime soon. I'm sure. I give it.
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  Speaker 1: I said, it will be the perfect time and worth
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  Speaker 1: the wait. And here's the big thing about tonight. So
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  Speaker 1: as as we're getting prepped for tonight, Jessica through on
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  Speaker 1: this incredible denom dress that her friend, my friend Tasia
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  Speaker 1: made it for me for the chips. So I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm still gonna wear it. Not not Tasia Artasha No okay.
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  Speaker 1: Another friend named What's what's her brain called tp dinnam
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  Speaker 1: so cool little startups. That was cool. So she gets
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  Speaker 1: still got to do that. She still got to pour
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  Speaker 1: us up a little drink. But before we get started
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  Speaker 1: with night, Um, and I know this is gonna be
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  Speaker 1: a great time. We always love these live shows as
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  Speaker 1: we always afterwards text each other like that was so
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  Speaker 1: much fun because we need to talk to people listening.
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  Speaker 1: It's pretty engaging. Um. But you aren't in NAPA either, Uh,
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  Speaker 1: you are also you mentioned on the podcast to other day,
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  Speaker 1: So I don't think I'm in trouble for saying this,
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  Speaker 1: but if I am, you'll make sure to tell me. Um,
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  Speaker 1: you're not feeling great still, like things aren't like ideal
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  Speaker 1: for you right now? Still not ideal. Um, yeah, no,
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  Speaker 1: it's it's still kind of like a daily struggle grind
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  Speaker 1: hopefully soon. Uh. Jared, if you see, he's in our
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  Speaker 1: apartment in Rhode Island and I'm at my parents. I'm
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  Speaker 1: kind of getting babied here. I can get a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of different care here than I can over there
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  Speaker 1: because my dad's a doctor. Um. But Jared is up
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  Speaker 1: in Rhode Island, and I want him to tell the
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  Speaker 1: like the new the other big news that we have,
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  Speaker 1: so because it's kind of like his baby, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: like he's got this baby and then he's got like
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  Speaker 1: another baby he's been working on, which means that you
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  Speaker 1: have to be a part a little bit right now.
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  Speaker 1: But I but we'll wait for him to get on here.
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  Speaker 1: I'm getting some questions from the audience for you guys.
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  Speaker 1: Do you mind if I got a couple of questions
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  Speaker 1: for you, Let's do that, okay, Um, yes, or any
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  Speaker 1: of your friends and family skeptical that you're dating a celebrity.
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  Speaker 1: My little he actually said in an interview the other
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  Speaker 1: day because he plays, he's in the minor leagues in baseball. Um.
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  Speaker 1: And then maybe the other day, like I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what it was, from your radio show or something, they
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  Speaker 1: asked him about been and he was like, I was
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  Speaker 1: pretty skeptical. So it was funny. He was so cute
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  Speaker 1: that he texted me off and he's like, did that
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  Speaker 1: hurt Vince feeling? So I was like, no, no, did
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  Speaker 1: Was that the first time he ever said anything like that?
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  Speaker 1: Like just now after you guys have been together for
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  Speaker 1: so long publicly publicly, he's talked to me. We get
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  Speaker 1: to play golf together quite a bit and he always
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  Speaker 1: on the golf course X. But but but he did say something,
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  Speaker 1: and if he's watching this, he's gonna kill me. Um.
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  Speaker 1: But he did say something like I would say, six
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  Speaker 1: months after Jessica and I hadn't met her family, and
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  Speaker 1: we've been around him quite a bit because we ended
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  Speaker 1: up quarantining with him because if you remember, I got
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  Speaker 1: off the tour and we were back in Franklin, and
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  Speaker 1: so the whole family was there We're on the golf
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  Speaker 1: course one day and he goes, as, I'm around you
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  Speaker 1: and Jess, It's why I'm so picky, because I want
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  Speaker 1: the relationship you guys have, were your best friends very
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  Speaker 1: so he was skeptical, but we want him over in fact,
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  Speaker 1: interesting fact, and her mom was actually the one that said, hey,
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  Speaker 1: you should. You should message him back like yeah, so
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  Speaker 1: she wasn't askeptical. Yeah. I mean my family was more
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  Speaker 1: just surprised that I would be in this position ever
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  Speaker 1: so getting married, finding so body that would marry me
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  Speaker 1: in general, so I believe me, but they still can't
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  Speaker 1: believe that I'm married. And as time goes on, I
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  Speaker 1: think they're more and more surprised that Jared still seems
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  Speaker 1: very happy with me happy. Sorry about the audio mixed up,
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  Speaker 1: Apparently Safari is not that good with audio anyway, Safari,
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  Speaker 1: I know I was on Safari in the waiting where
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  Speaker 1: everything was fine. Then I signed on. I couldn't hear
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  Speaker 1: your beautiful voices as someone that you know, I'm wearing
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  Speaker 1: the almost famous You're goodie bag. It wasn't my goodie
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  Speaker 1: bag along with these to which I've been going around
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  Speaker 1: the house listening to the speed theme by myself. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. Oh my god, you guys. When he was little,
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  Speaker 1: he would go around with a play gone pretending like
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  Speaker 1: he was kanaves and speed and nothing is. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to be a top still do um. Any who, It's
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  Speaker 1: not about myself. It's not about Ashley for the first
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  Speaker 1: time in your life, it's not about you. This is
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  Speaker 1: about ben In Yes, your engagement. It's very exciting. I
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  Speaker 1: was engaged. Life been any different, nothing's changed any different
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  Speaker 1: than dating life, yes, because that's big um, and our
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  Speaker 1: conversations are a lot of people. Yeah, I would say
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  Speaker 1: it's also um. Dating for us was kind of different
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  Speaker 1: because I think early on and we've said this like
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  Speaker 1: either this was gonna be the best thing ever or
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  Speaker 1: was gonna end in like tragic heartbreak. Like we knew
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  Speaker 1: it was serious from the very beginning, and so there
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  Speaker 1: was never this time like because it never ended in
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  Speaker 1: tragic heartbreak. There was never this time that I, at
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  Speaker 1: least for me, it really ever doubted that we were
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  Speaker 1: gonna get married. Um. And so it always kind of
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  Speaker 1: felt like we were engaging. They were dating in fact,
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  Speaker 1: like putting like I'm here leading up to when I
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  Speaker 1: was proposing to her. Everybody's like, are you excited? Are
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  Speaker 1: you nervous? Are you anxious? And I was like, well,
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  Speaker 1: I did cry a lot during it. I didn't think
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  Speaker 1: I would, but it was like not really like it
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  Speaker 1: just kind of feels like natural. It just feels like
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  Speaker 1: the thing that's gonna needs to happen so that we
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  Speaker 1: can start playing wedding. It's also been really fun to
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  Speaker 1: be engaged, Like I think I'm actually gonna miss being
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  Speaker 1: engaged and having people like anticipating the wedding, and it's
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  Speaker 1: very pressing. After like three weeks you're married and you're like, wow,
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  Speaker 1: we're just husband and wife. We're not even cool anymore.
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  Speaker 1: I've always preferred saying husband and wife then fiance. Yeah fun, like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my wife actually cool. Still, it's still pretty cool.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie about that. But it was, like,
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  Speaker 1: to Ben's point, pretty fun when we're engaged and people
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  Speaker 1: were like, oh, when's the wedding and oh, buppapa up
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  Speaker 1: and you guys are engaged, so exciting, and now then
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  Speaker 1: it's like immediately transition to what are you guys having kids?
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  Speaker 1: That's more annoying than being asked about your wedding. Well,
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  Speaker 1: now they know for you it's very soon. Hey. Before
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  Speaker 1: we continue on, Jared, I do want to take a second,
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  Speaker 1: uh and highlight what you have going on. That actually
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  Speaker 1: was just mentioning um a second ago. Also throughout the podcast,
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna have some incredible guests. Those guests are celebrating
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  Speaker 1: our engagement in the place that we wish we were
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  Speaker 1: at right now. But uh, in fact, after this tonight,
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  Speaker 1: h Jessica and I are gonna go on a little
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  Speaker 1: date and then tomorrow night we're gonna have an incredible
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  Speaker 1: date invert because we've been apart for a long time,
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  Speaker 1: so we are going to take advantage of this celebratory
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  Speaker 1: weekend still even though we aren't in Napa UM. So
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  Speaker 1: we do have some incredible guests coming on. We're gonna
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  Speaker 1: talk wedding details as much as we can uh during
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  Speaker 1: the podcast, but before we get there, I do want
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  Speaker 1: to take a second actually because we had some incredible
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  Speaker 1: people who sponsored this event for Jessica and I and
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  Speaker 1: sponsored some of the gift bags that we get uh
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  Speaker 1: in this whole show. So I'm gonna name throughout the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna start with the Marritage Resort and spat in Napple,
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  Speaker 1: which I believe is where everybody's at right now. The
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  Speaker 1: resort features nine on site wine tasting rooms, a micro brewery,
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  Speaker 1: grocery store, the Food and Wine Center, and the waln
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  Speaker 1: with games for all ages. Meritage's signature restaurant, Olive and Hay,
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  Speaker 1: which is incredible, is Napa Valley's newest Italian restaurant for
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  Speaker 1: farm fresh fair position at the gateway of Napa Valley.
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  Speaker 1: The Marritage Resort and Spa welcomes guests tonight. Uh. I'm
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  Speaker 1: never sorry, guys. I Hey, this happens no editing here,
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  Speaker 1: set against rolling hills and its own private vineyards. Also,
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  Speaker 1: if you look behind us here and if you look
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  Speaker 1: at Ashley screen, uh, this is something that Ashley and
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  Speaker 1: myself have enjoyed many times, uh over the last few years.
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  Speaker 1: And it's you know, we are I'd say we're experts
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  Speaker 1: at Roses. Uh. And if we're gonna get Roses, we're
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  Speaker 1: longevity so you can sustainably enjoy their beauty for over
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  Speaker 1: a year, their perfect over a year. Yeah, and can
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  Speaker 1: we talk about the smell of these, these are the best.
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  Speaker 1: You know how there's a lot of companies and do
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  Speaker 1: box flowers and the smells supposedly last for a year. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: now the best out of all of them. They really do.
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  Speaker 1: Like that's pretty that we need it to um in
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  Speaker 1: this house. They're perfect for any occasion or guaranteed the
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  Speaker 1: last you so you can live your special moments again
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  Speaker 1: and again. All right, Actually that's the first group of sponsors. Again,
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  Speaker 1: thank you for everybody that came out and support us.
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  Speaker 1: These will stay with us the whole time. Ashley, I
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  Speaker 1: know we have some special guests coming up. But before
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  Speaker 1: we do, Jared, what do you have going on? What
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  Speaker 1: is that Jared? Talk about what you're working on up
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  Speaker 1: there in Rhode Island. Well, Ashley and I just needed
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  Speaker 1: some time a part, so I figured that. Actually was
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  Speaker 1: so concerned that when we came on the zoom separately,
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  Speaker 1: She's like, people are going to paint that. We're like,
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  Speaker 1: we're arguing and we don't want to be around each other. Listen,
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  Speaker 1: Ashley is down in Virginia. Ashley been very sick throughout
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  Speaker 1: the entire pregnancy, so I've been going back and forth.
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  Speaker 1: We do have some very exciting news. We are opening
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  Speaker 1: our own establishment in Rhode Island in South Kingston is
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  Speaker 1: going to be a coffee house and lounge. We have
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  Speaker 1: much more to tell you guys coming very soon, which
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  Speaker 1: of course using generous coffee because it's great. And there's
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  Speaker 1: a lot, I mean right now, there's so much going
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  Speaker 1: on because I'm the full owner and operator right now,
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  Speaker 1: and so it's just trying to get through all the
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  Speaker 1: red tape of opening an establishment, obtaining a liquid license,
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  Speaker 1: changing the interior, buying the equipment, talking to the health department,
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  Speaker 1: talking to different lawyers, getting the LLC set up. There's
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  Speaker 1: just like a lot to be done. And with the
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  Speaker 1: coffee vendor vendor, who's a complete I can't say j's
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  Speaker 1: doing the job. Like there's so many logistics and that
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  Speaker 1: stuff is so overwhelming to me. But he's like really
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  Speaker 1: got under control. He's doing amazing jobs. And just to
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  Speaker 1: like clarify, it's a coffee house that at night turns
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  Speaker 1: into like a martini lounge. Um. And we're getting some
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  Speaker 1: you guys, We're getting questions in our event chat and
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  Speaker 1: we want to answer them throughout the live but just
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  Speaker 1: keep the questions coming. We really. Um, we have fun
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  Speaker 1: with the questions. Somebody asked Trish to saying, what's the
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  Speaker 1: new place is going to be called. It's actually named
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  Speaker 1: after my mom. It's gonna be called Audrey's Coffeehouse and Lounge.
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  Speaker 1: So well, we're gonna answer those questions at the end
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  Speaker 1: of the podcast too, so we will save time for that. Um,
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  Speaker 1: congratulations you too. That's a big deal, and um, we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna highlight it and talk about it a ton because
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  Speaker 1: this is super exciting. I know. I just Dean. How
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  Speaker 1: Dean's in the comments? That classic Jared sharing big news
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  Speaker 1: everywhere but his own podcast. Everybody watching right now, definitely
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  Speaker 1: go check out help I suck at dating in our
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  Speaker 1: Heart Radio podcast. It's amazing. I think, Well, I have
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  Speaker 1: a stuck army hat in the other room, but I work. Wow,
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  Speaker 1: I really just promoting your podcast, aren't I. I shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: be wearing a stuck army Okay, that's where you are
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  Speaker 1: right now? Yeah, all right, Hey speaking to Dean. Let's
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  Speaker 1: bring Dean and Kylen into the chat. Hey, guys, how's NAPA.
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  Speaker 1: Well we just arrived. We got into the hotel room
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  Speaker 1: and open up the computer right away to say how
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  Speaker 1: do you guys, but the same. You know, I feel
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  Speaker 1: it feels a little empty inside just because you guys
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  Speaker 1: aren't here, but we feel it was. It was a
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  Speaker 1: hectic twenty four hours, a lot of confusion, but we
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  Speaker 1: are glad you made it and we did just talk
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  Speaker 1: about the resort that you're staying at. I know you
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  Speaker 1: only see got to see a piece of it, but
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  Speaker 1: is it is? Is it as incredible as it seems? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Here I'll show you. Actually we got a nice vineyard
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  Speaker 1: view if you can see out the window. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if the camera will adjust. If there's a nice there.
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  Speaker 1: The bell staff, that's my guy, Cole. He was really
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  Speaker 1: nice when he checked us in. Haven't seen much of
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  Speaker 1: it yet, but we're excited to check out. I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: got nine venues here a micro brewery on location, so
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  Speaker 1: you know, maybe maybe we'll be able to check in
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  Speaker 1: afterwards and give you guys an update. Well, Dean Kalen,
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  Speaker 1: do you have any questions that you've been dying to
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  Speaker 1: ask Just and Ben about their relationship that you had
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  Speaker 1: never have yet? Oh? Yeah, actually at the car and
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  Speaker 1: I have got a lot of questions on that about it? Um,
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  Speaker 1: do you guys. I know you guys have sent out invites, right,
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  Speaker 1: so that means you've got a date set. You got
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  Speaker 1: a venue set. Yes, you guys didn't get the invite.
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  Speaker 1: I guess I say, I know that you said invites.
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  Speaker 1: I have no I'm just assuming you did because Ben
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  Speaker 1: asked for my address. I haven't received anything yet, but Benny,
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty care Dan just doesn't check his mail. I
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  Speaker 1: could have a mailbox. Yeah, I mean my mail gets
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  Speaker 1: sent to like not even my old address, but like
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  Speaker 1: my old old address, and so it's like I'm giving
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  Speaker 1: me out like five different locations right now, so hopefully
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  Speaker 1: I get it. Dean, your life gives me anxiety every time. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: by the way, uh healing. Hello, you look beautiful as always.
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  Speaker 1: You're an incredible human. You made just feel super special
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  Speaker 1: when you text her and said we wish you were coming.
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  Speaker 1: You have no clue what we were doing last night
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  Speaker 1: as we were trying to figure out what the heck
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  Speaker 1: was going on with this trip. It was a roller
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  Speaker 1: coaster of emotions. But yeah, thanks for thanks for text her.
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  Speaker 1: That means a lot. She was really excited for this trip. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I wish you guys were here, but you know, we
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  Speaker 1: have Vegas and other things. Yeah, all kinds of fun
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  Speaker 1: stuff coming up. I thought that I thought I was
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  Speaker 1: gonna be able to guilt trip you and actually coming
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  Speaker 1: last night. You were close. Uh. There were some other
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  Speaker 1: things that that came up that were non negotiable, but
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  Speaker 1: you're very close. We tried very hard, um, because I mean,
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  Speaker 1: nap was an incredible place to be and we've we've
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  Speaker 1: had some incredible times there. I do have a question
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  Speaker 1: for YouTube because Jessica and I are trying to figure out,
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  Speaker 1: like how to really refine our communication styles for so
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  Speaker 1: for Jared and Ashley and heal anything, how do you
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  Speaker 1: best uh enter into conflict? Uh? Yeah, Cal and I
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  Speaker 1: are really good at the conflict thing. This is I
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  Speaker 1: we just have different communications styles. So we're like figuring
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  Speaker 1: out how to communicate best. I think helped by a
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: second dating and helping because you guys are taking these quizzes,
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: like the apology quiz helped because we both have different
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: apology styles. I need an apology in a certain way
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: and he needs a different apologies. We're like learning just
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: takes time. How is how is your apologies different? What
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: type of apologies does Dee need? Dean needs you to
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: own up to your mistake, say what you did wrong,
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: and kind of like fix it, fix it, just say
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, and that's it. I like, as long as
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: you recognize that you had a mistake by saying I'm sorry,
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: that's all I need. Yes, And we've grown from knowing
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: those two things about each other immensely. So hey, let's
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: take a short break here and just mentioned that, Uh
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: it's really cool because uh, this is something that's pretty
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: near to all of our hearts and I and I
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: love you guys for it. But all the proceeds from
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: tonight's have been are gonna go to Humanian Hope United,
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: which is an incredible organization that I've been working with.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: But they were struck by two hurricanes back to back
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: UH in November of last year, and over half million
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: people were just were dispersed from their homes due to
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: mudslides and flooding. Uh. I didn't get talked about a
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: lot because I don't know if anybody knew this, but
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: we had election going on at the same time in
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: the United States. But it's something super special. So to
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: anybody that bought tickets tonight, also to the guests that
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: are gonna be coming on things for doing this, because
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: it's gonna go along ways for the people of ponder
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: So I just want to mention that I love that.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: Um do you guys have a conflict, Well, how do
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: you do deal with conflict? Yeh Ben, Yeah, yeah, I
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: m it literally like conflict. I hate it so much.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: I don't do anything for him not to be upset. Yeah.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: We actually started this morning. We started premarital counseling. And
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: it's something that was, you know, not only advised to
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: us by people that we love, but also it was
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: something really important to Jessica and I. I have a
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: weird thing with it because I'm excited for it. I
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: think it's gonna help, but I do think it might
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: like some of those big questions are tough to answer
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: at times. Um. But the thing with me and I
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: have to be careful of this. Jessica cares so deeply
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: to not hurt me that I I could have the
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: ability to like walk all over the right because I
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: could just like do what I want, say what I want.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: And she's not gonna ever bring it up or she's
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: gonna run from it because she doesn't want to hurt
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: me and so we're figuring out, like what's that balance
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: look like where she can like enter into conflict with me,
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: or she can tell me that she doesn't like something
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: or she's not appreciative of something. I will respond in
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: a way that doesn't just completely like heighten the conflict
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: so that she wants to runt of the room. So
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: we're figuring that out, which in a in a weird way,
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: We're on a walk today and she's like, I'm really
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: excited for this because it's something that I think we
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: can get better at. Actually has no quarrels hurting my feelings.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: I need I need someone to like just tell me, Hey,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: this is what's going on, this is what I need,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: this is what's wrong, and this is what I need
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: you to change because I'm such I don't know actually
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: what the word is to describe me besides perfection obviously,
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: but it's I'm someone who just like I'm kind of
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: like Jets where I will deflect, deflect, deflect, and that
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: doesn't sound anything as I've learned. Yeah, but he's gotten
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: so much better. I just say, what's bothering him throughout
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: the years. It's like impressive of how much he's improved.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: Have I if I approved upon anything or do I
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: need to do approve proNT anything. I guess like I'm
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: just stubborn, and like sometimes I'll just be like, yeah,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: but this it's kind of like my mom, right, Yeah,
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: sometimes you definitely are pretty stubborn and you will just
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: not like you'll know you're wrong, but you need to
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: get that word in and uh, that's when I just
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: know I need to swallow my pride and like, let
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: you get the last word in and then it's over
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: because like if then, yeah, it's usually me just trying
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: to be like it didn't come from a place of malice.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I just messed up like this, Like I messed up.
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: I know I messed up, but I didn't do it
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: to be hurtful. I Mean, here's the thing. I believe
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: that Deen and myself have been friends and Kleen, you've
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: been around actually long enough that we've all probably gotten
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: confronted by actually at some point our lives, and it's
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: always done with love and she always knows best and
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: we appreciate everything about her. Dean and Kalen, We're gonna
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: have another guest come on in just a second, but actually,
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: do you want to ask them one of the questions
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: that was thinking to us to start, I want a
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: question for you before we shift gears here, So on
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: the same topic we were just discussing. We know that
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: Jess is conflict diverse, which is totally okay, so she
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: won't approach you about an issue. But let's say you
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: have an issue with something that she's done. How do
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: you honor her conflict a version uh style with while
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: also being able to like bring up the topic that
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: you want to bring up. You know what I mean?
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: Not well? Uh, yeah, it's hard. You know what I
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: do is I I shut down. I get really in
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: my own head, I have been wrong so many times,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: uh that I don't want to react, and so the
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: fear of like reaction and reacting incorrectly like has caused
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: me to take a step away, which feels and seems
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: even to me like I shut down. And so I think,
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: as we start talking about this, the hope is that
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: once we both bring it up to each other, then
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: we both understand about each other and maybe we can
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: push each other to say, hey, what is actually like
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: affecting you? Like, what is actually going on? At least
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: I can recognize that she's hurting it I'm hurting or
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: that I'm in my own head, but I'm not great
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: at it. Uh and uh, and it's still something we're
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: working on and that's the exciting part because we can
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: still work through stuff. We still love each other deeply
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: even though um and conflict doesn't happen that often with us,
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: So it's it's kind of rare. Um. I yeah, so
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: it's it's been interesting. Uh and it's exciting and it's fun.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: Um And hey, I think this would be cool. Ash.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know how you feel about this, but for
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: those that are watching, if they can, if they can
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: submit the ways that they deal with conflict in their relationship,
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: I think that would be really fun to see and
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: pull back from later. Okay, we have to hurry up here,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: so ask this question Dean and Caitlin. You answer it,
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: and we're gonna bounce to our next guest. Okay, this
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: is a fun question. What is one thing that your
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: significant other does that they think they're good at but
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: they aren't really they are you asking? That'sk that question?
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: Oh well, I'll answer because Kalin doesn't have an answer,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: because I've creative everything. No, I don't know. I thought
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: you had something. I just just trying to tell time
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: to be honest. Um, something that she thinks she's great at,
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: but in reality she's not. Besides driving, that's driver. That's fine,
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: that's a good answer answer. Do you think you're okay driver? Kalin?
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: She claims to be the best driver. And it's not
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: only it's not only when she's driving, but also like
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: when I'm driving the car, she'll that coach me as
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: if I haven't been driving for the past fifteen years.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: She'll be like, oh, it turns up here, or I'll
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: watch out for that pull over there. And I'm in
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: my head, I'm like, obviously all of these things in
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: my head, I don't I appreciate what you're doing, but
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: like it's not necessary. In my defense, we've gotten into
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: two car accidents together, so I just have anxiety. Yeah,
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: I was driving, all right, Hey, we gotta hurry up.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: We're on a time crunch. All right. I see what's
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: going on to the question, cause I'm actually curious about it.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: I don't think I know something that you think you're
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: good at. Um. Oh gosh, organization. He actually just complimented
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: my organization skills the other day, So I did I said,
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: he's a great organized traveler. Traveler. Yeah, this is every
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: fight I talking like once we were in the hotel. Well,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: this is coming far right that has the closet space
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: and it's all a mess, and of the bathroom space
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: also all a mess. And yet I'm the one blame
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: for the mess all the time. This is what we need. Yeah, hey,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: have a great time. I'm enjoy NAPA, celebrate for us,
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: send us some pictures. Thank you for joining us. But
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: we've got to go because we have the one and
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: only Nick file come up next, see you guys. So
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: Jared has also jumped off because he's he's got to
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: get back to work, so we're gonna leave. Ashley, Ashley, UM,
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I appreciate you being here because I know this is
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: not easy for you right now. I know you're not
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: feeling but you still want to come here and help
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: out with this. So thank you. Oh of course, no
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: need to thank me. Oh there's nig is Natalie in
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: here too, she's getting ready for the evening. Okay, so
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: we don't even have a significant other. That means that
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: you can talk about Natalie to us. So we're talking
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: about couples things here today and yeah, well, I mean,
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: I mean they wanted me to put headphones on. I mean,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: she could probably jump on if you want her to.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: I don't know if she's proper. She was like revealing
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: and like real emotional on Charlene's podcast the other day.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: That was so cute. Something went wrong with um, oh
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: she's the best? Yeah? Thanks? Yeah? We uh we We
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: chatted a little bit about how the arduous process of
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: becoming a couple a very unromantic love story, but one
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: that turned into the greatest level the time. What now, Nick,
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: I don't even know if we've got to talk about this,
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: but you wait a bit to kind of announce your relationship,
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: and I'm sure that's because of a few factors that
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: it would be only I mean, we announced a big
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: of paparazzi inside to camp outside my house and post
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: pictures of us, and then I was like, okay, well,
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: I guess it's out, like has the fact that it's public.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: Nouch did it all? Uh No, But like you know, whenever,
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: like before I was in a relationship, you know, regardless,
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: it was always I was always going to take my
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: time trying to you know, build a relationship before I
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: you know, made it a public thing. Um. You know,
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: I'm a firm believer and I've always said that I
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: don't think having a quote unquote public relationship has ever
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: helped a relationship. You know, like it. I think you
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: can be strong enough of a couple to have it
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: not hurt a relationship, but I don't know if it
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: really does anything for the relationship itself. So I think
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: for me that was really the biggest reason to you know,
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: make sure that you know the priorities were important, and
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: because it just it creates added stress and you know, um,
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: you know, other other opinions and just your your reacting
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: to things that really don't have anything to do with
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: the actual relationship. So that was just something I was
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: this mindful of. Now asked me. We have a couple
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: of questions, and since Stanley's go around, I would love
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: you to ask Nick some of these questions that were
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: submitted us before we begin tonight. Okay, fun Um, Nick,
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: I kind of want to ask the same thing that
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: I just asked Dean and Kaylin, because it's like a
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: great question, what do um, what does Natalie do that
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: she thinks she's good at but she's really not that
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: good at? Uh? She's a pretty self aware individual. Um,
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: she once claimed to be really good at parallel parking,
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: And the truth is, she's good at parallel parking, in
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: parallel parking, but she wasn't like I still have you
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: know there she had this tendency of parking uh like
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: six inches six inches like to but she she's still
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: a pretty good parallel parker, but she would brag about it.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: And then I was like, well, you're you know, you're
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: you're pretty good. But it was it wasn't It wasn't good.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: What do you think it is about I have fantastic stereo?
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: What do you think it is about the female brain
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: that we're just like we can't the parallel parking just
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: not in our in our DNA. Well again, she's a
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: very good parallel parker, but she just was like, you know,
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: six inches into the street. You know what I'm saying.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: I don't play into any gender stereotypes, especially when it
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: comes to driving. I'm not a particularly great driver. I
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: am a good, uh parallel parker, but I I wouldn't
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't give me any like my right. My driving
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: skills are not great at all. Gertally, Yeah, actually, parallel
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: parking is the one thing that I'm I can do
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: pretty well driving because but it's because when I ran
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: across country all the parking at the parks of parallel parking.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: So since I was sixteen, I always had to like
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: every day of the week. So I just got good
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: at it good. But that's the only thing I can
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: do well. She loses focus sometimes we have to snapper
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: out of like just having a really good time and
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: driving looking down the road. Nick, before I let you
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: go here, I hope you have an incredible trip. I
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: hope you guys have a great time and a great evening.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: What are you gonna be doing tonight? And then do
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: you have any advice for Jess and I Because you
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: are a relationship expert. You have the Vial Files, which
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: is an incredible podcast, and your TikTok talks about relationships
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: often and so you do have a lot of insights,
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: So advice and then also what's your plans tonight, Natalie.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: I believe we're going to dinner with Dean in uh
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: Kalen and an Tanya. Um, it's like the Early Bird Special,
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: Like when I get off the phone, we're gonna go.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like style. I know, Um,
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: so I think we'll be doing that. Um, and thank
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: you for saying I. I don't call myself an expert,
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: just a guy with a handful of opinions. But what
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: is my advice to you guys? I don't I don't know. Um,
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: I mean, once you get married, just enjoy well. Well,
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know enough about your relationship
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: to give you like general advice, you know, I don't know.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: Do you have a specific question I don't like, you know,
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: be happy and love each other? I don't know. Yeah,
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: so okay, Um, the specific question is going to be
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: one that probably resonates to the whole evening here. How
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: do you best believe to enter into conflict? I think
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: it's one thing right now. We just did uh some
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: counseling this morning. We asked Dean and Kaylin, we asked
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: Ashley and and Jared, like, when you enter into conflict,
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: how do you believe it's best done in a relationship? Um,
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: to keep an open channel communications? Well, I think one
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: thing that Nellly and I do well at and something
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: I've had to get better at and I've worked at.
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: She's apparently just always been good at it. Ah, is that.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: I think there was really good at acknowledging each other's feelings.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I don't think either of us have ever made the
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: other person feel like our feelings were wrong. I think
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: a lot of couples have a tendency of doing that.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: You know, they get defensive when someone says, well, I
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: feel a certain way, and then when they hear the
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: other person, you know, communicate their feelings, it's easy to
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: quick to quickly get defensive and make it about them
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: and project those things as opposed to just listening to
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: how they feel. Uh. And then we just never make
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: the other person wrong for having those feelings, and we
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: try not to make it about our ourselves, and then
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: we just try to address those feelings. That's something that
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: seems to work for us. And then in terms of
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: like conflict, I think, you know, this is something I
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: learned from my therapist. It seems to be really helpful. Uh.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: If you're fighting for more than ten minutes, Uh, we
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: all tend to I think all of us tend to
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: turn into children. And if you're fighting for more than
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: ten minutes and you can't see eye to eye, then
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: it's best to just pause. Um. I think men have
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: a harder time with that, um in general, because we
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: we try to be problem solvers and conflict resolution. But
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: I think sometimes it's okay to just put a pause
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: in the fight because I think at that point you're
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: not really dealing with the actual matter, but you start
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: bringing in other aspects into the fight, and that's when
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: those ten and its fights turned into three hour fights.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: But and usually those three our fights, you just need
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: to take a pause either and then you come back
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: and then you you know, relax, and then you kind
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: of address the actual problem so that you know, try that,
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: see if it helps. Awesome. Well, hey, we're gonna let
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: actually take a little break here. First, they can go
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: get glass of water. We promised her this moment at
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: the beginning of the podcast net a little moment before
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: he send you off here. How is Jeff? Oh my god, Jeff.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: Jeff is great. I love Jeff. I miss him. Um,
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: he's really he's the best. I'm truly obsessed with him,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: and uh, I really enjoy taking care of him like
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: I bayed them and feel like I really I didn't
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: think I'd love him that much, but I do. He's
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: so cute, Like he's the best. He's an Australian copper
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: dog's part of like the doodle family, but it's a
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: very specific breed. Apparently I don't even know this, but
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: they're bred to be therapy dogs. But maybe that he
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: just he likes to cut off. We're just cuddled buddies.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: How big is he gonna get? He's great. I think
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: like thirty pounds. His dad's thirty pounds and his mom's
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: around the same. So I don't know a nice kind
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: of medium, says house Dog. It might have been our
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: you explained to Nick, our history with the dog so far,
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: with how these conversations have gone, So I really want
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: a dog. And beIN still hasn't gotten over his childhood
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: dog passing away. And so when never being up a dog,
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: Bin says, but one day it's gonna die. And it's
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: a pretty negative outlook. It's not exactly how I say it. Well,
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: I say, I don't appreciate the realism. Yeah, he has
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: a sweeter way. I appreciate the realism. I'm I'm a
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: bit of a skeptic myself, so I appreciate that. And
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: I will say that I've already started to mourn the
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: loss of Jeff, because like I've already thought about, like
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: I don't know, like I've had obviously a lot of
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: friends and family who have had dogs, and I've always
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: empathized with them when they lost their their dog, but
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: I never related to how some like how tragic um
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: it was for some of them. And now I can
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: relate just because I'm already like worried about um if
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: that day ever comes, which obviously, um, you know, in
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: reality hopefully you know, like I hope for a while.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: But it makes me sad. Yeah, it's you know, I
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: was an only child, and so my dog growing up
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: was like my my closest sibling. It was like this,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: she was my girl. And so it's just like I'm
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: still not over it, and so it's but people always
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: tell me, I'm sure the comments are flowing in right now.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Uh you know, it's worth it while you while they're here,
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: And I get that, and so at some point we will.
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: I mean, just just the only person who's ever loved
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: me unconditionally, and he likes he likes everything about me,
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: and there's so much not to like, and I really
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: I really like that he turned looks the other way
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: when it comes to my flaws and just wants to cuddle.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: So that's what that's what I like about Jeff. Well, Nick,
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: have a great time. Tell Natalie hello, thank you for
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: joining us, Thank you for celebrating. I wish you would
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: have I wish you guys would have came. Yeah, yeah,
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: it was a we were telling the Dean and Caitlin.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: It was a very uh wild evening last night with
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: a lot of fluctuation. But um, we're gonna still going
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: to date to celebrate and we wish you could be
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: a napp with all of you. Well, I can't wait
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: to see you again. But yes, I can't see you guys.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: So uh. Next we're gonna bring on Tanya and a
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: little secret human hopefully that Tanya's bringing with her. But
• 39:04
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• 39:34
  Speaker 1: with us. Tanya, you get a really special moment Hello
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: and welcome. I hope NAPA is a blast for you.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: We're gonna have Jessica open up her gift bag, uh
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: that all of you put together along with my Heart Radio.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: So you get to watch your open up the gift bag,
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: which I think will be very special for I love
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: watching jess open to get back. Hi, guys, Hi can
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: miss you? I know I'm so bummed you guys aren't here.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: Let's see so you've got It's howel for you. Very cute.
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: We have baloss I use those best weekend They're very fun.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: It's a scrubbing in towel. I just heard it's like
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: the circus Circus Circle one. Yes, I'll be in on
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: my bachelor party. What are you going on that? Um?
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: Next month August augustly to a lake in Nashville. Um,
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: my matron of honor has like a huge lake house.
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: So all of my best friends are gonna just pole
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: in and while the big sleepover to me so fun fun.
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: Do you know what the like itinerary is going to be?
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: I have no idea. I actually found out yesterday. Everyone's
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: a packing list except for me, So I'm trying to
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: get that so I know what to bring. Oh, jut
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: the Bachelotte party almost famous T shirt? Wow together? Where that?
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: All the time? I wanted to put that in there? Sneaky?
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: Those are fun? Um okay, love that. Thank you Dean
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: and Jared um army, I get it, I get it.
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: There you that's incredible. Who's that from? Where's that? Who's
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: that made by? This is nice? It is nice? That's nice?
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: That is it? Well? Get back? Yeah? Well, uh, Tanya,
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: we do appreciate you celebrating with us tonight, and uh
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: we we love you dearly. You're an incredible human. Now
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: we before we get you going to ask us questions,
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: I do want to ask you, how is your relation
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: chip going? And are you feeling happy? Um? Feeling very happy?
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: Actually I was just when we were flying out here,
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: I was talking about like how the last time that
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: all of us were to get well, not that wasn't
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: the last time we were all together, but like the
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: last time that we were all together like a really
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: fun environment was that Ashley and Jared's wedding, And like
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: how we kind of have this it's almost like we're
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: this like weird dysfunctional family dynamic where I'm like, I
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: haven't seen you guys in so long, but like every
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: time we get together, it's just like fun and we
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: just laugh and we'd drank and we just have the
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: best time. And so I was like, we were flying
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: over here, and I was like, I'm bummed that you
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: don't get to experience that with everybody. Um, because I've
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: been talking about you guys for so long. You know,
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: it's like we're the pandemic kind of like obviously isolated
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: all of us, but like we haven't been able to
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: have that that experience. But aside from that, so I
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: missed you guys. But my relationship is really really great
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: and he's wonderful. He's here. Do wanna say hi? Nice
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: to didn't you. I know, we're really found that we
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: couldn't get to hang out this weekend. We were so
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: forward to it for so long. But the way, look,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: how cute as shoes are. Can you lift your feet up,
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: let's see them. That's impressive. Those are some tight wha
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: They're like they're they're there. I think they're nude. They're new,
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: so cute. So both of you are here because I
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: love talking. How how did you two meet? How did
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: this whole thing get started? We met on a dating app.
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: We met on Hinge. I love that, like and you guys,
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: you know more than anyone how hard Like I was
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: like dating, I was open to it. I was out there.
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: I wasn't really like on the apps, but I was
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: on the apps that I wasn't like actually on the apps.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: And then my girlfriend you you actually know her, she
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: works on the morning show with me. Sierra saw him
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: my Hinge profile and she was like, he seems good, Like,
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: let's actually go out with him. So technically I actually
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: met her friend on him, started with her friend. It
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: wasn't even with her, and then it Yeah, the conversation
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: pretty much started with Sierra. When I messaged Jessica for
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: the first time, she didn't know how to respond to me,
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: so her brother was responding to me on her Instagram. Yes,
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: but it is what it is, because I think initially
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: you don't really know you have like you're just kind
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: of like, what is this? This is a total stranger danger.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: And then I went out with him kind of just
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: like I'm just trying to like, you know, get myself
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: back out there and met him at by thirty and
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: I was like, finding New York next day, so it'll
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: be quick whatever. She thought she was gonna be like
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: in and out in twenty minutes, half an hour, hal
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: to drink and leave. Yeah, go home, pack, be done.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: I'm not even kidding you. I sat down at this bar.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: It was like instant chemistry. We talked straight for like
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: five hours. I looked at it was like ten thirty.
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, I need still need
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: a pack and go to bed. Uh and like, I, actually,
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: what's so crazy is I was going to New York
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: the next day and I had a date in New
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: York with someone else. I kept thinking him the whole time.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: I just wanted to hang out with him, want to
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: be with him, and yeah, well. The the interesting side
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: of this is that I don't know if you knew this,
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: but Tanya, I honestly believe this still to this day,
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: is probably the most quoted person that I quote in
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: my life. I was able to interview Tanya for my book, uh,
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: you know, One on Plain Sight, and I did a
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: whole I was thinking about somebody at the time that
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: was single. They didn't want to be single, Uh, that
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: was looking for a relationship that was going to be
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: an incredible partner to somebody, um and just hadn't found
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: that right person. And I was like, Tanya fits all
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: of those for me, like all of this. So she
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: was nice enough to give us some time and allow
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: us to interview for it. And she has one thing
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: that she says that continues to come up in my
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: life because people ask me, hey, how did you meet jess?
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: If you if I'm single, like what do I do
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: about it? And Tanya said this simple thing says, just
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: don't stop dating, like liveing adventure, have good dates, have
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: bad dates, like put yourself out there until you find
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: that person that slows life down. And it's cool to
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: see you guys together. Now, no pressure that, but it's
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: just cool to see that, like that date that you know,
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: like when Tanya's first out there ends up with you
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: guys on this ship show with us. It's pretty cool. Yeah,
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: it's really crazy. It's like very that's very It's one
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: of those things where like, yeah, I didn't stop putting
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: myself out there, but you kind of just like sometimes
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: you just go through the motions and then it's like
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: you just kind of stopped me at my tracks, and
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: I was like, what the hell, this is an unfortunate
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: time to meet me. Well yeah, but also so like
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: upset that, like we're all gonn't get together out here.
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: It was like looking forward to it for so long.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: But well, yeah, before you know, and I'll be in
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: a better state. Hopefully not so great, so great. But
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: we have a couple of questions that we're asking like
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: all the couples, and I thought that because we have
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: like a pop culture expert here, we would ask you
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: guys this. Yeah, I'm like, maybe not Robbie, okay, everybody
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: that I mentioned. He's like, who is that? Okay, Well,
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: let's do two celebrity questions. One anybody would be able
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: to answer, and that is who's your celebrity hall pass?
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: This is for you guys and for Bed and Jess.
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: And we don't like call passes here, but like talked
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: about hall passes. Who can you make out with? Yeah?
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: I can answer. I'll break the ice here. Um and
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: she knows this. There's lead two in my life that
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: I've always had a thing for. One is Emma Watson.
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: Um just kind of looks like has that look? Oh
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: thank you prettier, and then um, Jennifer Aniston has just
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: always like, I don't know what it is. I'm just like, yeah,
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: so those two, those two really have always been in
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: my life. And I had a Jennifer Aniston I think
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: poster growing up, and so that just sticks in my head.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: And if he gets a shot with either of them,
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't be mad about it. That mean, Um, Harry Styles, Yeah,
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: he's my biggest crush. Yeah, Harry Styles and Zac Outland
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: kind of been Higgins, but yeah, Harry Styles. Yeah, I
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: don't know. I don't you know, I'm gonna say because
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: I always say that, I say, you resemble him, but
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: it's not about me, okay here, probably scared for sure
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, I mean I don't know. I don't
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: really have a suffer crush. I mean back in the day, no,
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: I probably. Yeah. Well so like back in the day,
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: growing up city Crawford is like my thing, okay, uh
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: yeah yeah, all of you uh and probably today, I
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: don't know. Uh, Margot Roby, Yeah, yeah, you get what
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: you're saying. Hey, before I let you guys go, because
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: I know you gotta be Hey, I think that's endearing
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: and I appreciate that. To Tanya, you kind of look
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: like her. So y'all are only sh then Tanga has
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: that look, so that makes sense. Yeah, you know, before
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: we let you guys go, I do want to know
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: has it been difficult at all? Tanya? You obviously have
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: a very large platform was scrapping in and your radio
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: show to be dating with people kind of watching it
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: from a microscope or watching it from a distance, because
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: people were very invested into your love life for a
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: long time. I mean, it was not only a segment
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: on what if not? It might be the most popular
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: morning show in the country probably or at least up there.
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: It was a segment so like, has it been hard
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: for you? Guys? Are weird or awkward? I'll let him
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: answer that, but but i'll let you answer it. Well,
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: there's two very different sides to this answer. No, you
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: can add well, okay, So for me, you guys know me,
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: I'm like an open book, like I will say I'll
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: do whatever, And so I think what I realized, especially
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: like with dating him, I've had a set boundaries in
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: that world. But I think for me, it's such a
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: beautiful relationship that I have with all of my listeners
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: like describe sisters and the morning show listeners like they're
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: so it's such a beautiful relationship. I don't really get negativity.
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: It's all like encouragement and love. And so for me,
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: it's like I just want to keep people hopeful because
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: I was dating for seven years and dating like loser
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: after a loser and like getting my heart ripped open,
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: and like I like people to keep hopeful, do you
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: know what I mean? And it's like I like to
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: share that story. And so for me, it's a little
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: bit different. For him, he's not used to it, and
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: so I think initially it was like very intimidating or
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: scary and ask your question though, But doesn't it also
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: create some pressure for you? The publicity even though everyone
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: is so positive, even though everyone is so supportive of you,
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: doesn't like because I'm obsessed with you, okay, So I'm
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: very private person and not public at all. Uh. And
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: so that was like a very big issue in our
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: relationship at the beginning. How does that work and what
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: does that look like? And how comfortable bou So, yeah,
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: I was very uncomfortable with for for a long time.
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: I'm still like not fully comfortable with it. But we've
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: talked about it a lot, and um and her time,
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: I've gotten a little bit more, a little bit more
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: comfortable her USA, her fans, her community, like the people
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: who watched the morning show that the podcast listeners listen
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: to the morning show, the podcast listeners, they're like the
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: most supportive community out there. So it's like actually like
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: a very positive Like we were swimming in Hawaii, were
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: like in the ocean right like in Hawaii on vacation,
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: and these two girls come swimming up to us and
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: they're like, Tanya, were scrubbers, we love the podcast. Oh
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: my gosh, it's Red Star. We love you. Like they
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: were so home and like so sweet and like just
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know, like and that's the interact. And so
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: it's like it's nice because that's what I'm used to,
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: Like you know, I mean, like that's the interaction that
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: I'm used to. So I think for some people, I
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: think it's kind of like you see all the like
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: negativity on the internet and you get like like breaked
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: out by it, but it's like really the opposite. Yeah, well,
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: we appreciate the both of you. Thank you for coming on.
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: Have a anytime in Napa celebrate from a distance for us.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: We told everybody's pleasing this pictures from dinner. Definitely a
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: bottle of line tonight, love you, love you bye. So
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: as you a trooper here now? Yeah, I'm not being
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: like totally unprofessional about eating macarny and she's during this.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: It's just if I don't eat every two hours, I
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: get really sick. Well, hey, we get it, and doing
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: you kid? Uh So, before we bring on our final
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: guest of the evening, which is somebody very special and
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: we don't want to do it yet, we are going
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: to mention two more sponsors and then I know and
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: I would love if we could. I mean, we booked
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: this thing out with guests, which can be good and bad.
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: They're all going over. I'd love to give Jessica just
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: an opportunity to talk about her excitement for the wedding
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: and some of the details that she's com from. It
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: would be I think it would be a great uh
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: just time for her. So let's talk about our last
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  Speaker 1: keep your clothes nice. And I think they have specific
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: ones for yoga pants to keep the stretch of color.
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: So all right, So Wells is now here, but we're
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: gonna still give Jessica her moment. Wells, if you don't mind,
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: I would love for us to talk a little bit
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: about our wedding details. You share whatever you want about yours,
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: then in a second, Wells, thanks for coming on, um,
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: but jess gonna take it away. Um. Well, our wedding
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: is in November, pandemic permitting we'll have all of our
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: friends and family there, if not also get married on
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: that day. Um. But right now, the wedding itself is
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: gonna be basically just a big party. Um. The ceremony
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: is under a tip, which is like my only thing
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: was I wanted some part of the wedding under a tip.
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: I don't know why. And twinkle lights. There's twinkle lights everywhere,
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: like it looks like a fairy garden at their reception
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: hopefully that's the dream. Um. But yeah, it's gonna be.
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: The ceremony will be really sweet and kind of just
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: I don't know, that'll be more um reverend I guess.
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: And then they're Exception is just gonna be the best
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: band ever, NonStop dancing, partying. Great theme because I was
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: asking Ben the theme and he wasn't like, yeah, it's
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: not really like a theme. It's more just like I
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: don't know, I don't want to say like carnival. It's
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: not a carnival at all, but it is like very fun,
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: like it's very light. How it did. Yeah, keeping it
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: casual will be the best thing for us. We've been
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: to a lot of weddings and we've kind of pick
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: and chosen what represents us best and for us, it
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: was like, hey, we want this to be a fun
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: atmosphere for all involved, so anybody that comes can leave
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: going him really glad it came to this. We are
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: One unique thing that we haven't talked about yet that
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: I think would be cool to share is we're having
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: um three different pastors stand with us at the wedding
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: because I have my childhood pastor, she has hers, and
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: then we have a pastor uh that kind of have
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: been around us as we've dated and grew grown our relationship,
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: and so we thought it was important to have them
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: all involved, which I think is really cool. And I'm
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: really excited for that um and our our wedding hashtag
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: because that is something we promised to share. And then
• 56:49
  Speaker 1: we're gonna get to wells is Benny and the Jets
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: be in the Jets? Yes? We love Benny in the Jets.
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: We also love get Higgy with it, so we will
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: be mad with either of them. Yeah, so we're gonna
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: choose between those two. Uh, if you have a vote,
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: please uh right in right now to the comments about
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: what you vote for. All right, Hey, thank you for
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: giving us that moment. It was important to do that.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: Wells Adams, the star of the Bachelor franchise right now,
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: one of the kings of the world, amazing and good looking,
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: incredibly talented, very very good golfer. In fact, in my
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: bachelor party, Wells and I bet on our round and
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: he kind of smoked me. I think it was a
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: three stroke lead going into eighteen. Um, Wells, in fact, no,
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: you know here, there's a two stroke league going into
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: the eighteen. Nobody really cares about that much on this podcast.
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: I'd love for you to tell the audience how the
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: last tool ended. And then uh yeah, well, um, I
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: I was overserved that day. Um cart girl. The cart
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: girl gave me too many fireball um shots, So I
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: blame I blame her, um and I I think I
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: I suck. I think I suck like a thirty foot
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: put for Birdie to win. And then I proceeded to
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: take my shirt off and run around the green yelling
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: uh like in your face in that effect. So what
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: he's missing out on, and I know this isn't that exciting.
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: What he's missing out on is he was one stroke
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: on me going into the eighteen. I was wrong. I
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: made a Birdie uh from like so Wells hits his
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: thirty footer for Birdie and at that point it clinches
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: the match. I have like a tin foot that I
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: still have for Birdie. I make my and as he
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: runs around with the shirt off, it's my bachelor party,
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: don't forget. I'm like yes, like incredible, round, awesome. Nobody
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: high fires me. Wells is taking the attention away for me.
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: It's absolutely insane, not fun at all. But hey, the
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: bachelor party was great. Wells, Um, what's going on with
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: your wedding? Uh? In your life? You have so much
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: happening right now, just a we want to catch up
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: with you. First of all, I'm so sorry I did that,
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: but I had a great time. I just want you
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: to know that. And I fully expect during my bachelor
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: party for you to beat me on the golf course
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: and run around and uh do all that stuff. Take
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: your shirt off, let everyone see what you got working.
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: Um In terms of my h in terms of my wedding,
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know. We were supposed to have it. I
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: can now tell kind of everyone what was really supposed
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: to happen. We were supposed to be married on um
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: on and like Sarah was like super pumped about this. State.
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: Here's the thing that I didn't realize until I got engaged,
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: Like dates really really matter, um. And so she was
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: like super pumped about that and like and like Jupiter
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: was in the right spot her fury and things were
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: astro retro glading. I don't know what was happening. Um.
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: And then that got pushed fortunately, and then we were
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: supposed to get married tomorrow. Actually, oh my gosh, and yeah,
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: it's weird looking at the counter. Tomorrow is supposed to
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: be the rescheduled date, and the venue was like, we're
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: only going to allow like a handful of people because
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: of COVID restrictions, and we are like, we have more
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: friends than that, and so we had to push it again.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: And so it's looking like it's either going to be
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: a Vega situation, um, or it's going to be we're
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: going to just do it up next year. And I'm
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: thinking next year is probably what we're gonna do. I'm
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: sorry that sucks. UM. As the resident bartender, what member
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: of Bachelor Nation do you think is going to be
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: the most drunk at Ben and Jess's wedding? A good question, me,
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: that's a decent answer, and Sarah. Sarah'll be right there
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: doing the chicken dance with me. I apologize in advance.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: Uh friends and family guys, No, my family will be
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: right there with you. All. I can promise you that
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: they'll be. Here's uh, here's something I want to want
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: to ask you. Well, because one of the questions I
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: was sent in is what your celebrity hall passes? And
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: well I think you were Sarah's and I think no,
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: And I want to answer this question. It's a good question. Okay,
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: what is it? Well, so it's funny, so right now then,
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: just announced today so I can say, so, Sarah's in
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: Um this isn't my whole past, but this is a
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: funny story. Um. So, Sarah's in Toronto filming a movie
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: with Dylan Sprouse, who um is uh in a relationship
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: with Barbara Palvin, who's a very attractive like Victoria's secret model,
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: And so she was telling me that she was like
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: having she was going to have like romantic Sea Means
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: with Dylan, and the director wanted um her and him
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: to get together and like basically like practice chemistry, like
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: a chemistry read together to make sure that like it
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: was gonna look it on screen. Or whatever, and so
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: she's telling me all of this and so that I
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: was like, so, I think that what needs to happen
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: is that I, Barbara and I need to talk and
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: we have good chemistry. How it works, and I think
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: how it should work. That's amazing. You know. My my
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: one story of Dylan and he said, what's her first name, Barbara,
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: is I was watching an interview with him last year
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: and she was prepping for the Victoria's Secret Show and
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: they're like, we've been trying to get really healthy, both
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: of them. They're both getting prepped for the show, and
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: they're like, all we've been eating is like salads and
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: cauliflower and Luckley and I remember her going so the
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: whole house just smells like nasty farts, and I remember
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: being like, WHOA, Like this will never get on my head,
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: Like it was like one of the first times that
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: I thought, well, this really attractive person is just walking
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: around the house, the two of them, both of them
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: very attractive, just letting it loose. Um, that's just my
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: only story from them. Okay, Wells, what relationship do you
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: have have? Advice do you have for Jess and I
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 1: that you've learned in your relationship with Sarah. Um, I
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: don't know. Uh. I think it's important to like continually
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 1: be creating, like fun and exciting like dates. I think
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 1: that's the one thing that I And also during the pandemic,
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: it was hard to like get out, um, but like
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 1: I wanted to always like um curate like fun little
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: weird dates that like we're uh memory savers like men
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: read keepers and stuff. UM. So I think that's always
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: It's it's so easy like fall into that like routine
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: and everything's the same and it starts to get a
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: little boring. Um. And so that's one and the other
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 1: one that Sarah and I do. And here look actually,
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: uh you can see these are a couple of them
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: every time we because we aren't around each other a
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: lot because she work flies away for work and sometimes
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: I do as well. And we are really good about
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: we hide notes for one another like very obscure places,
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: and um, I think that's fun because you know it
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: it's sad to leave, but it's also like fun exciting
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: to like find the card and read what they wrote.
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: But we're starting to like really morph into the same person.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: And I had found a card we say, uh, like
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 1: I love you to Pluto and back a lot to
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: each other. So I found a card that says I
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 1: love you to the moon and back, and I was like,
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 1: this is perfect, Oh my god, and so I gave
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 1: it to her and she found hers before I found
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: mine for this most recent trip, and she's gonna be like,
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: you're never gonna believe my card. You're gonna be You're
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: gonna roll your eyes. And so I found the card
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: in the sock draw and it wasn't the same card,
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: but it said I love you to the moving back,
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: and I was, this is insane. And then we wrote
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: the exact same thing, like almost to a t, because
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: we're like going on vacation after this. So it was like,
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: I know, like, uh, I'm gonna hug and kiss the
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 1: dogs for you and they're gonna miss you, but don't worry.
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna take good care of him. And hers was
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: like make sure you get the dogs all the love
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 1: and so much, and then mine was like, but don't
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 1: worry when you come back, gonna we're gonna go on
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: a vacation together. It'll be so amazing. It's be so romantic.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: And then it was like, I can't wait to come
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 1: back because then we're going to this vacation. I was like, Ship,
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: we're the same person. Now, Well I'll tell you this. Uh,
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 1: and and Jessicin I both agree. You know, when people
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 1: ask about our time on this my time on the show, UM,
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 1: we always and most will do, but we always talk
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 1: about some of the people that came from the show
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 1: that we've met that have have enhanced our lives. You're
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: one of those. Actually is one of those, Jared and
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 1: all the people that have came on the night one
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: of those. But you're in a crimble, dude. I get
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 1: to see you very soon, I think. Um, and I'm
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: very excited about that, very excited about that. But we
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 1: just appreciate you. Okay before we go. Everybody's gonna just
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 1: absolutely destroy us if we don't ask you for a
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 1: one sentence, uh snippet of what we can expect from
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: Bachelor in Paradise. Well, I think I teased it. I
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 1: don't know if my tea has done. No. I haven't
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: been on on your Guys podcast since I got back. Um,
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: so every year in Paradise, the same kind of things happened. Um.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: Some people are like dating before the show and like
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 1: that's an issue, and we get there and people aren't
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 1: there for the right reasons and that's an issue. Or
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: some people are like kind of using people just to
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 1: get roses because they're waiting for someone else to come in,
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 1: and that's a problem. Um. And all that to be said,
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: like yes, that's all that stuff happens, but something happens
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 1: this seas him that has that has never happened before. UM,
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: And I think that our bagination is going to be
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: like completely shocked. UM. And when it happened, I was.
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 1: I was blown away by it and it was something
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 1: I had to deal with. UM. Being the master of
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: ceremonies now that that was tough. And so I think
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 1: that everyone is going to be And I know that
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 1: like we fall into the same, like you know, bachelor
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: cliches of what it's going to be the most dramatic
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: And I won't say it's gonna be the most dramatic,
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 1: but something happens that literally has just never happened before,
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 1: and people are just gonna be like jaws in the
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: floor shocked. Wow. That's a great teaser. It's a great teaser.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: You're the man. Well, well thanks for joining us. Appreciate
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: you see you very soon. Thanks buddy, Yeah, buddy, I
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 1: love you guys. That issue so much. Um. All right,
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: first off, I have we're gonna close out here. Thank
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: you to all those who watched. Thank you to those
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: who supported me an open I did. I am so
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 1: excited to marry you. Guys are so cute. She's just
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 1: the best. She's the best partner in the world. It's
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 1: so fun to celebrate. It is so exciting. Um, Ashley,
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 1: we're thinking for you because I know you sat through this.
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 1: You have a lot going on in your life, you know.
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 1: But I'm so pumped to marry this girl. And when
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 1: anybody asked me, it just feels very peaceful, very joy filled. Um.
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: She's my best friend. She's super incredible to me. Nobody
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: gets to see behind the scenes. Um, but she's she's
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 1: the best partner and she makes me a better man. Um, Ashley. UM,
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: we have a couple of questions. I know we have
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 1: about a minute left. If you want to, like, maybe
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: ask two of them, um that have been sent in.
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 1: That would be an awesome way to end this, Okay, Um,
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: she's so sweet. UM. Oh yeah, you guys gonna go
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 1: away for a honey man. Yes we are, and yeah,
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't think we need to keep
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: it a secret, right, Yeah, we're gonna go to St. Bart's. Um.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 1: We wanted to go someplace reasonably close to the US
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 1: because we imagine ourselves being very tired and we're gonna
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 1: do a big trip to Israel in March of next year,
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: and so we're just we're just gonna go to St.
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: Bart's and be there for a week to an incredible
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 1: resort that will announce, um pretty soon. But we're super
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: excited for that. Yeah, so excited. That's awesome. Yes, and
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 1: you're gonna go right away. We were taking a day
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: rest because with the am that's light out and I
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: was like, I am not getting up to six like
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 1: four am after writing. So no, a day in between
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 1: is perfect. Um. And then what what is your faith
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: like going to look like as a married couple. Is
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: it going to be any different our faith life? It's
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 1: something that trask Um, you don't ask that. I think
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: it's gonna be stronger. Um. I think that will come
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 1: together and will be better as a team. I feel
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 1: like that's the goal of marriage, is to make a
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: larger impact together. So yeah, and that's something that I
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 1: think we both need and it's not never been a
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 1: secret that Jesus is at the center of our relationship,
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 1: but we always and when we pray it a a night
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: together with dinner, it's our prayer because there's a lot
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 1: of complexity. I know right now within the church, our
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 1: only prayers that we love people well and that we
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 1: represent God well. And together, I think we can hold
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: ourselves accountable to that, support each other in that. And
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: if that's at the end of our time in life,
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: and if that's what we're known for, is that we
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: loved others well, Uh, then I think it's a couple.
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 1: It's gonna be worth it. Hey. Actually, there is one
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 1: last question that Danielle sent in here that we can
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 1: close with. Yeah. I I appreciate that question. It's incredibly
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: Um it's something we talk about a lot, and I'm
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 1: really excited to have a teammate and all of it
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: and start creating some good stories around that. Um. Okay.
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 1: Last question from Danielle is what's been your favorite part
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: of being engaged and what are you looking most forward
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: to about being married? Um. I love calling them my fiance.
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 1: I just think it's so fun. It's like the shortest
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: I love my ring. That's been a really fun part
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: of being engaged. Um, And honestly, for engagement, I think
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 1: it's there's so many excuses to see all the people
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: that you love. They're like showers like this, like being
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 1: able to even though we're not with you, but to
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: be able to see your face like this wouldn't happen
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: if we're engaged. So um, his bachelor party, having all
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  Speaker 1: this friends in one place, my bachelor having all my friends,
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  Speaker 1: just all of the celebration. I think it's such a
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  Speaker 1: special time. Our pastor today at premiale Accunseling was like,
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  Speaker 1: the only time you have all the people around you
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  Speaker 1: ever that you love is your wedding, and so it's
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  Speaker 1: so stressful when it's over. You're like, I'm already sad
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  Speaker 1: for you. O ye. But yeah. That and then being married,
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  Speaker 1: I think just being able to come home every day
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  Speaker 1: to my best friend and being able to just rest
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  Speaker 1: with one another. And I don't know, I just enjoy
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  Speaker 1: enjoy life together, grow together. Yeah. Well, I think I
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  Speaker 1: find like and it just might be my oddness about me,
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  Speaker 1: Like I'm really excited for marriage because I just I'm
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  Speaker 1: excited to get to know jest better and it's odd.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you felt this way or if
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  Speaker 1: other engaged couples feel this way. But the more I've
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  Speaker 1: been around one human who I've tried and my best
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  Speaker 1: to let in, the more I've learned about myself. And
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  Speaker 1: so I'm kind of just excited to continue to learn
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  Speaker 1: about me and also learn about her um and uh
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  Speaker 1: and and just do this life together. So well, UM,
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  Speaker 1: thank you again. I know what you said it before.
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  Speaker 1: What a cool way to do this. I wish we
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  Speaker 1: could all be together. We are going to get together. Um.
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  Speaker 1: This was an odd deal. I can't tell you enough
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  Speaker 1: to all who was watching how hectic last night was
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  Speaker 1: for us and how confused it was. But this worked
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  Speaker 1: out awesome and I hope everybody and napos having a
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  Speaker 1: great time at all the places that supported the trip.
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  Speaker 1: UM you'll see probably a ton of Instagram pictures posted.
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  Speaker 1: Ashley even had to take a break from this podcast
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  Speaker 1: to to go get some food and to go relieve
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  Speaker 1: the stomach pains that she was in. Uh and she
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  Speaker 1: jumped back on here with a smile on her face,
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  Speaker 1: which is just the pro that she is. So hey. UM,
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  Speaker 1: that's it though. Thanks for celebrating Jess and I and uh,
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  Speaker 1: Ashley and Jared wherever he's at in the world. Congratulations
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  Speaker 1: once again. Well it's gonna be a fun year. The
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  Speaker 1: engagement to you, guys. Enjoy the time that you have left.
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  Speaker 1: And we have plenty of wedding advice to give you
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  Speaker 1: at some point too, because a lot about that day.
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  Speaker 1: We need her to suck it up the best as
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  Speaker 1: to your ability. Perfect All right, bad guys, see all
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